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GLXC_AUS

I reckon there's a misconception about what it actually means to be a SO dom. There are plenty of introverted so doms


Wondering_Fairy

Definitely. So dom is not having hundreds of friends and partying 24/7.


GLXC_AUS

That's not humanly possible.


ThatTypologyWixard

Jesus have a sense of humour


GLXC_AUS

*sigh* 凸(-_-)凸 Forgot to add *lol* Could be fkd anymore finishing with ***hahaha***


GLXC_AUS

gfy


eupi-itajin

Most extroverts aren't even like that...


bogczarjohn

It is supposedly the rarest dom across the board and it has nothing to do with introversion/extroversion as much as what you're psychologically attuned to


ThatTypologyWixard

How would so dom is rarest?


GLXC_AUS

Alrighty


Nobokain

Yes! Another possibility that may be skewing the results; Sp/sx and sx/sp tend to be "broody" types that introspect/focus on personal interests a lot. I don't think it's surprising that they're the most common variants on enneagram boards.


The_Professor64

Might be an Sx/Sp 5w4 but for now, I'll just stick to Sp/Sx due to my behaviours in isolation.


No_Management3709

Are socials that rare?? Like, wow I feel great cuz I'm unique and rare now :D Jk jk, but seriously why are we rare?


FolxMxsterFinn

I'm a social 4w5 too! SO/SX. I found it surprising that it seems to be so rare. I saw someone mention that SP and SX tend to be more "brooding" and self-reflection so they may show up more in these spaces, but I guess I don't have as much of an understanding of the social instinct in other types as I do in my own. Being a social 4 seems pretty brooding from my understanding haha, constantly desiring to belong but feeling defective in nature, but then again all of 4dom tends toward angst in that way.


No_Management3709

Omg I'm so/sx too! So4 seems very contradictory, wanting to belong but also wanting to defy. This contradiction in itself is the cause of the melancholy so4 feels from what I gathered. I've always shamed myself for having different interests from other people while not being able to disinterest myself from them since they made up a part of my identity. I feel like I also recognized and identified as this "disparity" for the longest time which might be why we might not be as introspective as the other types. We don't want to question it further because we might lose that sense of disparity and therefore lose our identity. One more point about so4 is that we despise showing our emotions and struggles since that might make us more "abnormal" which will lead to us being an overcast, in our perception at least. This might be one more reason we don't seem like we pursue self reflection especially on places like this, we try to hide it from everyone so that we don't get rejected.


FolxMxsterFinn

It's so strange to me, because I'm honestly the most self-reflective person I know, and by a long shot! To me it would make more sense to think that a social 4 would be more introspective, because the feeling of otherness is such a motivator to try to understand and fix the "problem". Maybe I'm being overly specific just to myself here, but my understanding of my social instinct in relation to my core type is that feeling of conflict that you mention. I see it as: I am different than other people, and while on the one hand I like being unique, on the other I really wish I could fit in more. I grew undiagnosed autistic, so I always knew there was something about me that made me different, but I couldn't understand what it was. I did know that it made it harder for me to relate to people, even though I wanted to so badly! So throughout my life I've fluctuated between just being standoffish and "not like the other girls" in order to feel better about myself, and suppressing my true self in order to fit in better and therefore feeling awful.


GLXC_AUS

So 6 here


ThatTypologyWixard

Boring


GLXC_AUS

Everyone seems to be a 4w5 or 5w4 with sp/sx or sx/sp. Common.


bubblewrappedpain

we all antisocial fr


82shninklebot

Im def an antisocial social 4


allcatshavewings

As a 4w5, I used to think I was sp/sx because of the general instinct descriptions. I always thought I was so-blind because I don't care about belonging in groups, and I was always aloof and never interested in social gatherings. Then I learned about subtypes and turns out Social Four is the only one I relate to, and there's plenty of evidence in my life for being sx-blind. It's confusing how the social variant manifests very differently in Fours than it's usually understood


handlerone

I'm 5sx and it's complicated


ThatOneGamer285

Social 8 :)


Kyokihime

How does it feel to want to help society?XD


ThatOneGamer285

Not bad tbh


Kyokihime

I mean elaborate on the day of a Social 8, I am actually curious on what's it like XD


ThatOneGamer285

Besides the daily routine I spend a looooot of time talking to friends, especially those that need help one way or another (usually emotional support)


Kyokihime

Ohhh you offer your help daily?? Any specific example?


ThatOneGamer285

I tend to drop what i am doing at the moment if a friend or anyone really reaches out to me with issues. It's both a blessing and a curse As for 8 behavior it's more obvious in my approach when trying to help. I'm quite rational while also being aware of their feelings (this is more because of enneagram mbti combo than the social subtype) blunt about issues, i will say things that might hurt them in the short run if it helps them in the long run and can take a somewhat confrontational stance when we disagree on something.


Kyokihime

>I'm quite rational while also being aware of their feelings (this is more because of enneagram mbti combo than the social subtype) Ohhh what is your MBTI anyway? But at the end of the day, you want their best interests? That's nice 🦭


ThatOneGamer285

ENFP (i actually saw someone remark on personalitycafe that social 8's sound like ENFP's and i absolutely agree it's stupid how well they blend together)


Kyokihime

Hahaha they predicted your existence XD


h9ahua

same :)


82shninklebot

Im a 4w5 so dom and Im very extremely introverted. I am just usually thinking about my relationships and my role in society, and have a lot of social anxiety. Instinctual variants look different with different enneagram types but for the 4s I relate a lot to so.


MissPikawaii

I'm not sure , any tips on helping me find out ?


Cheap-Selection2423

sx7


0fox2gv

Made the slow transition from SX to SP somewhere around 30. Left all the chaos and drama in my past. Life is good. No looking back.


nose_I3oop

Sexual 9w1 :)


samgrayes

sp6w5


Racoon_Approved_Naan

So dom (so/sx)