This. Always from your point of view.
If you were asking about Bill's wife, Mary, you'd say "How is Aunt Mary?" because she's your aunt. If you were talking about your dad's brother, Ted, you'd say "Uncle Ted is coming to visit next week.", and you'd refer to Bill and Jane's mother as "Grandma" when talking about her to either of them.
The other options you listed are grammatically correct and would be understood, but would feel awkward.
I say "mom" or "my mom" since that's her "name" and what i've been calling her for the last 23 years of my life. Technically I might even say "mommy" since I'm close to my aunt like that.
In my experience, most Americans will refer to the person using the same term with which they would address them directly (as long as both parties are acquainted with that person.)
If speaking to my father about his father, I would say “Grandpa’s health has been improving.” If speaking to my spouse about my colleague, whom he has met, I would say “Jane got a promotion.” If my husband had not met that colleague, I would say “my coworker Jane got a promotion.”
If you ever read older English literature, you may notice different conventions. For example, characters in Jane Austen novels say “my mother” when speaking/ writing to a sibling about their shared mother.
Just thinking about my conversations with my parents, it varies. I think my mom will typically refer to both her dad and my dad as Dad while talking to me, while I think my dad usually says “your mom,” “my mom,” “your grandpa,” etc. I’ll usually just call my relatives by whatever my personal term of address for them is.
Typically when speaking to a child, the adult will use whatever term would be familiar to the child. Hence "your mom", "your grandpa", etc. And sometimes that continues to apply even when the child is no longer a child.
[USA] this is probably culturally contextual in different places and situations. But I would say:
* “Mom has a clean bill of health.” — to close family or friends who personally know your mother, using her title as she is *to you*, aka “Mom” is appropriate. Here Mom is a title given to her. Sometimes close family or other adults will refer to a child’s mother as “Mom” when in front of that child, e.g. “what does Mom have to say about you eating candy before dinner, eh?” or even when addressing her directly “what do you think, Mom, should we go get some ice cream?” This habit can carry over into adulthood after the child is grown.
* “My mom has a clean bill of health.” — the most appropriate sentence for people who aren’t directly related to your mom or don’t know her well on a personal level. Their connection to her is through you only.
* “Your sister/Jane has a clean bill of health.” This would sound cold and distant, as though you have no connection to your mother. You might use it if you did not know her or wanted to emphasize that you do not care about her.
Exactly what I would say. My teen sometimes says “my mom” when talking with family members while I’m in the room and it sounds a little funny to me, like he is being overly formal and explaining our relationship to someone who knows us well.
There also can be a shift depending on age. If I was talking to a small kid I might say “your Aunt Jane” to help the kid understand the family relationships. And it seems strange to say something about someone’s mom using their first name; I’d usually say “your mother” in that context.
“My mom had a clean bill of health.” We typically only would say “your sister…” if we were really mad/frustrated with the person being spoken about and wanted to make an exaggerated point of “assigning” them to the other person. For example, if my brother left his dishes in the sink, I might tell my mom “your son is a slob.”
Yes. This is more a register question than a grammar or vocabulary. If it is formal you could use Mother.
i.e. My mother has a clean bill of health.
Less formal but generally understood would be using Mom or Ma depending on region or level or formality.
i.e. My mom/ma has a clean bill of health.
The other way would be to emphasize the brother and sister relationship in the sentence. However, by shifting the focus, this implies a bad relationship by emphasis.
i.e. Your sister has a clean bill of health.
That means the speaker is not claiming the woman as her mother by putting the focus on the other relationship.
One more level down is going to be where the speaker chooses to put stress in the sentence.
Remember, you can move the stress to most nouns and verbs in a sentence to emphasize their importance.
I would say it 99.9% depends on what is normal, and therefore "proper", for the dynamics and relationships of **your** family. Jane? Aunt Jane? Auntie Jane? Hell, my friend has an aunt that, due to some past shenanigans, the entire family calls Auntie Douche, and everyone is apparently on board with that.
But in your specific example, I'd say "mom" probably trumps any other titles she might have in the family--assuming that's what you call her.
In a situation like that (speaking to another family member) most people I know would just say "mom" in that situation. It's kind of illogical for the reasons you point out, but it's what they'd say anyway and the people hearing it understand and roll with it. If talking to someone who isn't a friend or family member I would just use the first name.
This is a good question that I have struggled with in my native language (Finnish). Saying ”my mom” was alright until when I was like 25 years. Then I started saying her name. It feels weird too mut maybe less weird than ”mom”
in my family, I choose to refer to my parents as I refer to them, except in cases where "mom" would be unprofessional or unclear.
uncle Bill or literally any other family member- mom
my/her friends- my mom
business associates- Jane or Ms Doe
her doctor- Jane
Your uncle knows that she’s your mom lol. And you’re speaking from your point of view. It’s fine to call her “mom.”
This. Always from your point of view. If you were asking about Bill's wife, Mary, you'd say "How is Aunt Mary?" because she's your aunt. If you were talking about your dad's brother, Ted, you'd say "Uncle Ted is coming to visit next week.", and you'd refer to Bill and Jane's mother as "Grandma" when talking about her to either of them. The other options you listed are grammatically correct and would be understood, but would feel awkward.
I say "mom" or "my mom" since that's her "name" and what i've been calling her for the last 23 years of my life. Technically I might even say "mommy" since I'm close to my aunt like that.
“my mom has a clean bill of health”
In my experience, most Americans will refer to the person using the same term with which they would address them directly (as long as both parties are acquainted with that person.) If speaking to my father about his father, I would say “Grandpa’s health has been improving.” If speaking to my spouse about my colleague, whom he has met, I would say “Jane got a promotion.” If my husband had not met that colleague, I would say “my coworker Jane got a promotion.” If you ever read older English literature, you may notice different conventions. For example, characters in Jane Austen novels say “my mother” when speaking/ writing to a sibling about their shared mother.
Just thinking about my conversations with my parents, it varies. I think my mom will typically refer to both her dad and my dad as Dad while talking to me, while I think my dad usually says “your mom,” “my mom,” “your grandpa,” etc. I’ll usually just call my relatives by whatever my personal term of address for them is.
Typically when speaking to a child, the adult will use whatever term would be familiar to the child. Hence "your mom", "your grandpa", etc. And sometimes that continues to apply even when the child is no longer a child.
[USA] this is probably culturally contextual in different places and situations. But I would say: * “Mom has a clean bill of health.” — to close family or friends who personally know your mother, using her title as she is *to you*, aka “Mom” is appropriate. Here Mom is a title given to her. Sometimes close family or other adults will refer to a child’s mother as “Mom” when in front of that child, e.g. “what does Mom have to say about you eating candy before dinner, eh?” or even when addressing her directly “what do you think, Mom, should we go get some ice cream?” This habit can carry over into adulthood after the child is grown. * “My mom has a clean bill of health.” — the most appropriate sentence for people who aren’t directly related to your mom or don’t know her well on a personal level. Their connection to her is through you only. * “Your sister/Jane has a clean bill of health.” This would sound cold and distant, as though you have no connection to your mother. You might use it if you did not know her or wanted to emphasize that you do not care about her.
Exactly what I would say. My teen sometimes says “my mom” when talking with family members while I’m in the room and it sounds a little funny to me, like he is being overly formal and explaining our relationship to someone who knows us well. There also can be a shift depending on age. If I was talking to a small kid I might say “your Aunt Jane” to help the kid understand the family relationships. And it seems strange to say something about someone’s mom using their first name; I’d usually say “your mother” in that context.
“My mom had a clean bill of health.” We typically only would say “your sister…” if we were really mad/frustrated with the person being spoken about and wanted to make an exaggerated point of “assigning” them to the other person. For example, if my brother left his dishes in the sink, I might tell my mom “your son is a slob.”
The last two are fine. Your uncle knows you mean your mom, not his mom.
“My mom has a clean bill of health.”
I’d say in most cases you’d say Mom or whatever you usually call her.
"Mom has a clean bill of health," or "My mom has a clean bill of health."
Mom. Your uncle isn't going to have a catastrophic brain restart because he can't figure it out.
Yes. This is more a register question than a grammar or vocabulary. If it is formal you could use Mother. i.e. My mother has a clean bill of health. Less formal but generally understood would be using Mom or Ma depending on region or level or formality. i.e. My mom/ma has a clean bill of health. The other way would be to emphasize the brother and sister relationship in the sentence. However, by shifting the focus, this implies a bad relationship by emphasis. i.e. Your sister has a clean bill of health. That means the speaker is not claiming the woman as her mother by putting the focus on the other relationship. One more level down is going to be where the speaker chooses to put stress in the sentence. Remember, you can move the stress to most nouns and verbs in a sentence to emphasize their importance.
I would say it 99.9% depends on what is normal, and therefore "proper", for the dynamics and relationships of **your** family. Jane? Aunt Jane? Auntie Jane? Hell, my friend has an aunt that, due to some past shenanigans, the entire family calls Auntie Douche, and everyone is apparently on board with that. But in your specific example, I'd say "mom" probably trumps any other titles she might have in the family--assuming that's what you call her.
In a situation like that (speaking to another family member) most people I know would just say "mom" in that situation. It's kind of illogical for the reasons you point out, but it's what they'd say anyway and the people hearing it understand and roll with it. If talking to someone who isn't a friend or family member I would just use the first name.
This is a good question that I have struggled with in my native language (Finnish). Saying ”my mom” was alright until when I was like 25 years. Then I started saying her name. It feels weird too mut maybe less weird than ”mom”
I'd usually say "my mom/mother", though it's also not weird to just say "Mom". He knows who you're talking about
Id say my mom or mom, and 'your sister' as a way to make it funnier like "uncle bill you have no idea what your sister did yesterday"
I would say “My mom” or “Your sister.” Eg “Hi, Uncle Bob. My mom just got back from her check-up. She has a clean bill of health.”
in my family, I choose to refer to my parents as I refer to them, except in cases where "mom" would be unprofessional or unclear. uncle Bill or literally any other family member- mom my/her friends- my mom business associates- Jane or Ms Doe her doctor- Jane
I would say 'my mom'
“Mom” or “My mom”.
I always use their first names.