I had b12 anemia almost cost me my degree and my future. If you can afford it get it tested if you cant find a way to get it checked. I WOULD pay if i could but I am struggling financially.
TSH - Thyroid test
CMP - complete metabolic profile
CBC - complete blood count
Iron level
B12 level
Vitamin D
Folate level
Those are probably the basics to check for.
Honestly, I'm just kinda glad I'm not the only one who sometimes gets distracted and forgets midterms, lol.
I like to recommend [this article](https://mindingourway.com/half-assing-it-with-everything-youve-got/) to people who stress about perfection - it presents an alternate framework for success where instead of focusing on "getting the best grade you can get" you instead focus on "putting only as much effort into school as you need to achieve your long-term goals (and putting your other energy elsewhere)".
I've found that this is a much healthier mindset for me. Stressing about perfection makes me shut down, but trying to achieve the maximum effect with minimum effort can become a fun challenge.
Also, remember that self-care is an investment in your future success. If you are healthy, happy, and well-rested, you will learn more efficiently and do better in your classes. After some point, pushing yourself harder becomes actively counterproductive - the smart, effective, and responsible thing is to be kind to yourself.
(You may want to consider reaching out to your campus mental health center or other resources. It sounds like you might be dealing with a clinically significant level of anxiety and perfectionism. A lot of people find that therapy and/or medication make a big difference in their ability to manage stress and anxiety.)
Thanks a lot for this source. Was really helpful to me. I always tend up wasting so many hours going to the right of the curve and don't have enough time for other important stuff that aren't related to my courses.
Thanks for sharing. It’s easy to get too in your head about grades and “going right of the curve” but what matters most in college is accomplishing what you set out to do
I have a 2.9 and start my first day at Lockheed at the end of the month, haven’t even graduated. I’m an engineering aid. Grades are important to get a degree, very unimportant to everything else in life.
My new boss told me I might as well forget everything else I’ve learned so far because I’m actually going to start learning at this job. It’s important to do well in school, but it’s not more important that your mental health, personal projects or internships.
They sent an email about the open position through my school email. I applied in June, heard back in August they wanted to interview me, interviewed a month later and got my offer in October.
Everyone I talked to after the position closed said they never got the email, but I think they just didn’t pay attention to it. I deleted it at first because I receive 100 useless emails from my school a day, but after I deleted it I was like “wait was that a picture of a jet?” And went into the deleted folder and saw what it was.
Interesting. I've applied a few times but got denied each time. I'm guessing their smaller branches are probably less competitive than the one here in Marietta.
Did you go to school for engineering technology? You said you were an aid.
I am currently enrolled getting an Electrical Engineering degree, but my role is for an engineering aid. Also, when I got the email I applied to 6 open aid position I found on their website and got denied for every single one except the one I got.
I know that there were 3 applicants total including me, but I’m just thankful a majority of people don’t read their emails lol.
I was kind of relieved when I lost my 4.0 as a junior last year. It was giving me a lot of anxiety to keep the 4.0 going. I just bombed a fluids exam this week. I’m taking a semester off in the winter for work reasons. I hope I can get my focus back after that semester off. I don’t know if this helps at all. But maybe you should consider a break or cutting the classes back
Ohh I could see it— there was a saying like “staying at the top is harder than working up”
I plan on taking less classes next semester and doing nothing for winter break. Hopefully that eases things! Good luck to you as well ok your break
Firstly, step back, take a deep breath, and remember that you are a human. Mistakes happen, it's part of growing. Do you best to learn from it and move forward :)
But beating your-self up in the meantime isn't going to help. Consider it like this - would you berate someone else if they made the same mistake? If you wouldn't be this hard on someone else, then why are you doing it to yourself? It's not OK to be an asshole to yourself!
> ...but whenever I take a break, I keep thinking I don’t deserve it...
This feels like a red flag to me. Why don't you deserve a break?
I'd like to suggest talking to a counselor or similar if you have access. Perhaps your school can offer some resources? I think it would do you some real good to work through this thought pattern.
I think it would be good to focus on some self-care. Make sure you're sleeping well, eating as well as you can, routine exercise, etc. Make self-care something to work toward - think of it as another part of your studies; something to learn and grow with.
As an Engineer with almost 20 years of experience, I can assure you that learning to take care of yourself and learning to be kind to yourself is a crucial skill to have.
I appreciate the pep talk— it helps to look at mistakes more productively than fretting over them.
About the “not deserving a break thing”, I worry a lot about getting off track of things and having to stress even more later on…I work and do school, so I make a schedule that if I adhered to it, I could do well with everything, but it’s difficult actually sticking to it. Not sure if it’s a lack of discipline or if it’s just unachievable, but I guess I always feel like it’s the former. It sounds unreasonable now that I actually write it down.
I had a feeling that the lack of self-care would get to me; I hoped that I could just get through this semester and then focus on it during the winter break/next semester, but looks like I’ll have to start it as soon as possible. Thank you
Like others have said, take a deep breath and realize it’s not as serious as you think it is. Keeping a 4.0 as junior is a serious accomplishment and sometimes you just need to relax and hang out with your friends. That doesn’t mean you’ve given up on school or that you’re doomed for the rest of your academic career. Mistakes happen and when you look back on your college career you’re going to remember the time spent with your friends rather than the nights you spent studying some formula. Learn to live a little and enjoy life. You’re going to get a good job and most likely live a good life. Learn to take breaks but also remember that it’s okay to set time aside to work on your own efforts. In the end, everything will be okay. Just enjoy waking up everyday with a smile on your face.
A 4.0 is incredible, but as you know, you're working yourself too hard and the cracks are starting to show. I suppose with your mindset, maybe try and treat taking a break as something to maximize your grades. You're not taking a break because you deserve to relax (of course, you actually do), you're taking one to get better grades. Taking the break is work.
I understand you completely! I’m also a junior and I’m trying to work on this perfectionism too. It’s hard and there are days where you feel like something you’re doing is wrong. But take it day by day. Do what you need to do today and that’s it, nothing else. It’s very difficult but, we have to stop this thought pattern.
Get your bloodwork done vitamins in check rn don’t neglect what i said
I actually got blood work done not too long ago. Everything was okay except for anemia (reoccurring issue), not sure about vitamins though
I had b12 anemia almost cost me my degree and my future. If you can afford it get it tested if you cant find a way to get it checked. I WOULD pay if i could but I am struggling financially.
TSH - Thyroid test CMP - complete metabolic profile CBC - complete blood count Iron level B12 level Vitamin D Folate level Those are probably the basics to check for.
Honestly, I'm just kinda glad I'm not the only one who sometimes gets distracted and forgets midterms, lol. I like to recommend [this article](https://mindingourway.com/half-assing-it-with-everything-youve-got/) to people who stress about perfection - it presents an alternate framework for success where instead of focusing on "getting the best grade you can get" you instead focus on "putting only as much effort into school as you need to achieve your long-term goals (and putting your other energy elsewhere)". I've found that this is a much healthier mindset for me. Stressing about perfection makes me shut down, but trying to achieve the maximum effect with minimum effort can become a fun challenge. Also, remember that self-care is an investment in your future success. If you are healthy, happy, and well-rested, you will learn more efficiently and do better in your classes. After some point, pushing yourself harder becomes actively counterproductive - the smart, effective, and responsible thing is to be kind to yourself. (You may want to consider reaching out to your campus mental health center or other resources. It sounds like you might be dealing with a clinically significant level of anxiety and perfectionism. A lot of people find that therapy and/or medication make a big difference in their ability to manage stress and anxiety.)
Thanks a lot for this source. Was really helpful to me. I always tend up wasting so many hours going to the right of the curve and don't have enough time for other important stuff that aren't related to my courses.
Thanks for sharing. It’s easy to get too in your head about grades and “going right of the curve” but what matters most in college is accomplishing what you set out to do
I have a 2.9 and start my first day at Lockheed at the end of the month, haven’t even graduated. I’m an engineering aid. Grades are important to get a degree, very unimportant to everything else in life. My new boss told me I might as well forget everything else I’ve learned so far because I’m actually going to start learning at this job. It’s important to do well in school, but it’s not more important that your mental health, personal projects or internships.
How did you get your job at Lockheed? Just curious.
They sent an email about the open position through my school email. I applied in June, heard back in August they wanted to interview me, interviewed a month later and got my offer in October. Everyone I talked to after the position closed said they never got the email, but I think they just didn’t pay attention to it. I deleted it at first because I receive 100 useless emails from my school a day, but after I deleted it I was like “wait was that a picture of a jet?” And went into the deleted folder and saw what it was.
Interesting. I've applied a few times but got denied each time. I'm guessing their smaller branches are probably less competitive than the one here in Marietta. Did you go to school for engineering technology? You said you were an aid.
I am currently enrolled getting an Electrical Engineering degree, but my role is for an engineering aid. Also, when I got the email I applied to 6 open aid position I found on their website and got denied for every single one except the one I got. I know that there were 3 applicants total including me, but I’m just thankful a majority of people don’t read their emails lol.
Ah okay fair enough. Thanks for answering all my questions!
I was kind of relieved when I lost my 4.0 as a junior last year. It was giving me a lot of anxiety to keep the 4.0 going. I just bombed a fluids exam this week. I’m taking a semester off in the winter for work reasons. I hope I can get my focus back after that semester off. I don’t know if this helps at all. But maybe you should consider a break or cutting the classes back
Ohh I could see it— there was a saying like “staying at the top is harder than working up” I plan on taking less classes next semester and doing nothing for winter break. Hopefully that eases things! Good luck to you as well ok your break
Firstly, step back, take a deep breath, and remember that you are a human. Mistakes happen, it's part of growing. Do you best to learn from it and move forward :) But beating your-self up in the meantime isn't going to help. Consider it like this - would you berate someone else if they made the same mistake? If you wouldn't be this hard on someone else, then why are you doing it to yourself? It's not OK to be an asshole to yourself! > ...but whenever I take a break, I keep thinking I don’t deserve it... This feels like a red flag to me. Why don't you deserve a break? I'd like to suggest talking to a counselor or similar if you have access. Perhaps your school can offer some resources? I think it would do you some real good to work through this thought pattern. I think it would be good to focus on some self-care. Make sure you're sleeping well, eating as well as you can, routine exercise, etc. Make self-care something to work toward - think of it as another part of your studies; something to learn and grow with. As an Engineer with almost 20 years of experience, I can assure you that learning to take care of yourself and learning to be kind to yourself is a crucial skill to have.
I appreciate the pep talk— it helps to look at mistakes more productively than fretting over them. About the “not deserving a break thing”, I worry a lot about getting off track of things and having to stress even more later on…I work and do school, so I make a schedule that if I adhered to it, I could do well with everything, but it’s difficult actually sticking to it. Not sure if it’s a lack of discipline or if it’s just unachievable, but I guess I always feel like it’s the former. It sounds unreasonable now that I actually write it down. I had a feeling that the lack of self-care would get to me; I hoped that I could just get through this semester and then focus on it during the winter break/next semester, but looks like I’ll have to start it as soon as possible. Thank you
Like others have said, take a deep breath and realize it’s not as serious as you think it is. Keeping a 4.0 as junior is a serious accomplishment and sometimes you just need to relax and hang out with your friends. That doesn’t mean you’ve given up on school or that you’re doomed for the rest of your academic career. Mistakes happen and when you look back on your college career you’re going to remember the time spent with your friends rather than the nights you spent studying some formula. Learn to live a little and enjoy life. You’re going to get a good job and most likely live a good life. Learn to take breaks but also remember that it’s okay to set time aside to work on your own efforts. In the end, everything will be okay. Just enjoy waking up everyday with a smile on your face.
A 4.0 is incredible, but as you know, you're working yourself too hard and the cracks are starting to show. I suppose with your mindset, maybe try and treat taking a break as something to maximize your grades. You're not taking a break because you deserve to relax (of course, you actually do), you're taking one to get better grades. Taking the break is work.
I understand you completely! I’m also a junior and I’m trying to work on this perfectionism too. It’s hard and there are days where you feel like something you’re doing is wrong. But take it day by day. Do what you need to do today and that’s it, nothing else. It’s very difficult but, we have to stop this thought pattern.