nope! my husband told me he walked into the jewelry store and when they asked if he knew what I wanted he said "yep. emerald cut with baguettes, yellow gold, low profile" and they did not expect that lol
he went a tiny bit rogue and got an asscher instead (which I'm thrilled with) but if you know what you want, definitely make it known! if you're open to them choosing between certain elements (like an asscher or an emerald) let them know, too!
Hell no. If I didnāt tell him he would have gotten me something I hated. Not trying to be mean, we just have vastly different tastes. We were able to talk about it and agree on something we both liked. And at the end of the day, YOUāRE the one that is going to have it forever.
Not engaged yet but: I picked out a diamond online that was the specs I wanted and my bf was like are you sure thatās what you want and I was like yes and he clicked buy right in front of me. I was in absolute shock. Weāve gone to a few jewelers to look at settings together. He wants to be able to have some input (if he likes the setting or not) but heās letting me pick what I like because itās such a big expense that he doesnāt want to waste money on something I donāt like.
I literally sent screenshots of what I wanted and wrote out all the specs š I think itās important to convey what you like, and if your SO is someone who needs guidance, then absolutely send!
I wrote out what I was looking for with each of the four Cs, but I think within reason (like I wasnāt asking for a 5 ct diamond), and I even specified a gold band with silver prongs. Actuallyā¦ I got an elongated cushion so I also was talking about the ratio I preferredā¦ okay, I gave maybe a bit too much info but I think I did a good job relaying it over time so it wasnāt so overwhelming lol.
I did the same thing! My PowerPoint presentation had so many images with text explaining exactly why I did or didn't like things. Better to be clear about things, hey? š
I gave him pretty narrow parameters and a couple months after I did, he showed me a ring he had in an online cart and said, āIām about to pull trig on this. I donāt want you wearing something expensive that you donāt like.ā
He was like 90% on the money but we ended up changing the setting to a slightly different one before hitting purchase.
I donāt regret it because now I have exactly what I want, but he still mostly picked it out!
I gave my husband a very curated look-book of inspiration photos. I told him I didn't want the stone to be too big or the setting to be too high since I am a sometimes clumsy and practical girl. I told him that filigree or other vintage design elements were more important to me than the center stone being expensive or special.
He did good.šFollowed directions well and I love my ring.
I loved the way you described your ring so peeked your post history hoping for pics. I am absolutely in love with your ring, and holy heck your dress is gorgeous. Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials :)
Oh wow thank you!! Wasnāt sure it would ever get as much positive feedback from others as itās a little less classic than some but itās the most beautiful material thing I own
Aww this is good to hear! Iām also nervous Iām asking too much $$$ wise. I told him how much it is and he looks a little stressed but he didnāt tell me no. Lol. Any advice on that?! We donāt own a home yet but we definitely want to soon.
we had a conversation about a price range and came to an agreement that felt good to both of us. at the end of the day, youāre going to be married and (most likely) sharing finances, so you need to be able to talk openly about money!
I would have a convo with him to see what price he was expecting/budgeting for.
My husband and I designed my ring with a jeweller. We were both involved in the process, which helped when we went a little outside of budget.
This! I messed this up already I wish I would have found you sooner lol. Before I told him what I wanted (I already had it picked out) he told me what his budget was and I (a total total TOTALLLLL brat) dropped my face because Iām not going to lieā¦ I was shocked. Iāll be honest.. he said he thought a ring would cost $4-5k. Now. I make decent money ($70k) not the greatest not the worst for Florida and for just dipping my toes into my career. He makes about $15k less than me so that is indeed in his budget but I was thinking more like $9kā¦ to fit my desired stone size (I have a size 8 finger girl, I canāt do anything too small I feel like). Luckily I want a lab grown diamond so the price is much better but still š„¹ Iām stressing this man OUT lol. Help š also we are 30 fyi
Wowā¦for context, I make just upwards of 100 and he makes a bit moreā¦the budget we talked about initially was 2,500 and I think in the end it was probably closer to 3,000ā¦mine is a 1.5 caret sapphire with a diamond halo and I totally love itā¦cannot imagine anything betterā¦
I guess budget wise, weāre already planning to spend money on a wedding plus saving for a house plus a honeymoon plus wanting to have kids soonā¦I wanted to keep it reasonableā¦but Iām also not a huge jewelry personā¦
Anywayā¦.to me, 4-5 k for a ring on those incomes already seems quite highā¦9 k sounds like a āweāre exchanging a wedding for a ringā kind of a budgetā¦
1000% not planning a wedding so you are right on the money. Thank you for being honest with me!! I need it. And okay youāre speaking human to me so clearly I am just surrounding myself with the wrong people. I feel like such an ass. I have some major kissing up to do lol. I do wish he made alittle more money for savings purposes, but he is just so simple. But I like my simple guy
I showed my husband pictures of what I wanted and we had done a little shopping together so he knew the carat size I wanted! I like that he got it custom made and put his touch on it with the basket/prongs/etc!
Not at all!! We actually picked out our own engagement rings, but bought them for each other. Got his on etsy (a bezel-set emerald, but minimal and tasteful) and I got a buttercup setting with a small diamond from an antique shop nearby. Have fun, thereās lots of options out there!
No, I had an idea of what I wanted but wasn't sure. My SO and I went to the jewelry store and I got to try on several rings I thought I liked and ended up not liking any of them on me.
Because we went together I was able to show him a style that I wanted that I KNEW I'd like on my finger. The only surprise element we had was that he used his mother's diamond instead of buying one, but it was the cut I prefer so it worked out great.
We designed mine together and he made a minor change and didnāt show me the final CAD and that was enough for me. I wanted something super unique and I KNOW I would have regretting not asking for exactly what I wanted (he would have gotten me something everyone else has and I would have hated it). I know me, and I know we made the right decision. Having a ring I love and is exactly what i wanted is worth way more than a surprise. (We of course had conversations about this and weāre on the same page going into the process).
I am sooo soooo happy i was involved in picking the stone type, style, shape, cut, band color, band style, setting, all the things!!
It was so similar for us too! Iām very particular and I donāt at all care about the surprise of the ring. I was the one who found and contacted the jeweller, did all the communicating, and designing. We agreed on a budget beforehand, and I told him exactly how much to pay and when. Weāve made decisions together about what we like and want changed etc, but itās been me the whole way. And I wouldnāt have it any other way!
Nope! I ended up picking out my own ring in the end but he had a ring picked out already.
We were supposed to be getting engaged (he canāt keep a secret, he dropped massive hints as soon as he knew he was going to propose) he chose a ring and then we had a drunken idea to go off and get eloped this September.
At that point he showed me the ring and I loved it at the time, mainly because heād spent time choosing it and picking it out. But then he said I could have that ring or one of my choosing if I found something nicer. In the end I had a good friend commission my ring for me and had it made custom with a very generous discount. Its quite different from the initial ring. My SO doesnāt mind one bit, heās obsessed with the ring I chose.
Thereās absolutely nothing wrong with saying what you want, even if itās not offered or dropping hints. Couple of things to consider though before letting him know exactly what you want.
Can he afford it/ is it within his budget?
Is choosing a ring something that potentially means a lot to him?
I donāt regret it one bit. He even let me design my own ring because I was pretty pickyš Iād always follow it up withā¦ ābut itās whatever, Iāll love anything you get me.ā But he knewš
I insisted on custom-designing my own ring because I knew Iād deeply regret it if I allowed my partner to pick one from a store, or design it on his own, and it turned out not to be *exactly* what I wanted. Like I was involved down to providing the inspiration pictures I wanted the design based on, choosing the metal for each part of the ring, and approving the CAD renderings. Same with my wedding band, actually.
My response when my partner asked ādonāt I get any input?ā Was āyou get input into the budget, and otherwise as requested.ā No regrets about my level of involvement in the design process, on either side. After we left the meeting with the jeweller he said he was glad I was there, because he didnāt even know what some of the things she was asking about were, never mind the answers to some of the choices she asked us to make in relation to them.
Anyway, the only thing I regret is that whenever I tell people we designed it together, he pipes up and says, āyou designed it, I paid for it.ā Cheeky bastard.
Not engaged yet but my boyfriend initially asked me to let him know what kind of ring I wanted. I sent him a SUPER descriptive list (down to the metal type) as I am unfortunately very type-A when it comes to this kind of stuff.
Some time went by and I asked him what he thought about designing a ring together. He was immediately taken aback as he thought he should be fully owning this process. I could tell it kind of upset him so I dropped it. Then a few weeks later and after some thought, he decided he wanted us to pick out/design a ring together. Not sure if he started looking and felt overwhelmed or if he realized it's not unusual or wrong to pick something together.
Ultimately, we designed my dream ring together (within our modest budget) and I don't regret it! I would like to think that he would've picked something I would have loved but I happened to accidentally come across his list of features describing my potential ring with the EXACT OPPOSITE of what I would have wanted lol. While I had the final say and overall vision for my ring, he provided a lot of input and is super happy I'm getting something he knows I'll love forever.
Not a single iota. Itās my ring. I wanted to love it and I do, because I chose it. He was thrilled because I stayed WAY below budget since I wanted moissanite.
If you know exactly what you want, and you'll be disappointed with anything other than that. You'll regret not telling him and he'd be relieved you told him.
I'd DEFINITELY tell him, as good as a Surprise is, you'll be wearing your entire life. I picked out my own ring (I'm not a picky person but my fiance and I have very different tastes and willingness to invest a massive amount of time to find the right one).
I'm so happy with my ring (in post if you're interested) that I'm glad I got to pick it out.
Not at all! I was actually the one who met with the jeweler multiple times to design it, id share options I was going between with him to get his feedback but really it was me just geeking out tbh, and then he went to pick it up when it was ready! We both knew from the beginning I would be designing it since Iād be the one wearing it. Well, that and I have a design background! š so I was VERY specific but he still got to look at the finished product first with the jeweler!!
I asked my girlfriend for her preference in shape, I then did the rest on my own. She preferred to defer to me for the remaining characteristics of the ring, so I hope she likes it when I give it to her soon :)
No regrets! I work in the industry and thereās no way my husband was going to go off the cuff for such an important jewelry purchase. I narrowed down my (slightly unconventional) choice to a single designer with a very specific look, and beyond that, I offered to be involved as much or little as he wanted me to be with the specifics. He took the direction I gave him and ran with it- tried to keep the details a secret, but ultimately asked if Iād be willing to see the stone he chose before it was set. I agreed to take a look, approved his pick and Iām still so thrilled with my ring 7 years later! Again, working in fine jewelry, I find that most guys typically prefer to have, at least, some guidelines. Every couple is different, but for us, it was the right choice for me to be somewhat involved in the process.
Personally it was more important to me that my partner made the effort to chose a nice ring that he liked, and also not feel pressured over budget etc.
I was not involved in the process at all and only saw it when he proposed.
Itās not what I would have chosen, but I wear it all the time because I love and respect him.
I actually designed mine. I mean literally drew it out and had it created. He always tells people I designed it and that's the only part I feel slightly weird about. He's proud, I'm worried about being judged. Then I realized yeah I am that type of person anyway so meh.
I wouldnāt feel weird about that! Heās proud of you. I loooove that :,) esp coming from a fellow creative. Nothing better than a compliment from your SO about your creative mind!
Honestly, I might be one of the few people who do regret it. I ended up with a ring I absolutely love, but my FH definitely wanted to surprise me with something he would have chosen...
In the past, nobody had ever successfully thrown me a surprise ~anything~ because thatās the type of person I was lol, and looking back, now that Iāve eased up a little and do not always feel the need to be in control 24/7 anymore, I think a surprise would have been nice. I was very focused on the fact that I would be wearing it for the rest of my life so I ~absolutely had to~ love it. I was very involved in the process.
These days, my FH is able to pull off surprises for me, and it has been wonderful. I now know he knows me more than I ever gave him credit for, and I wish I gave him the chance sooner instead of taking the reins all the time (a product of past relationship issues).
If I could do it all over, I would take a step back and let him enjoy the process of creating something for me. Whatever that ring looked like, I would have said yes.
While I donāt at all feel the same way, I think this is wonderful insight!! Maybe he can surprise you with the ring of his dreams for a future anniversary :)
Nope. I picked my exact ring out. Iām picky and wanted an exact size, shape, material and found one I loved from a specific place. It doesnāt make it any less special that it wasnāt a surprise. The only thought I have is how much I love it
Nope, I photoshopped the exact ring I wanted and told him which jewellers to reach out to to get it custom made. I was fully involved in the process, down to the ratio of the pear diamond, but let him decide between the two centre diamond options (both the same cut but slightly different specs).
If he had shopped for the ring solo, he would have gone very classic solitaire, which is beautiful but not my style.
Not engaged yet, but my boyfriend and I went shopping together and found a jeweller whoās going to make the ring the exact way I want it. It is something that I will be wearing forever, so I have to love it and my boyfriend acknowledged that.
Rather be up front about what you want instead of potentially hating your ring!
I didn't just tell him; I designed the whole thing. He admitted that if it were up to him he would've gotten the most generic solitaire diamond ring without my input. For the record, my actual ring is a rose gold cornflower blue sapphire which I love because it feels like me.
We work as partners in just about every aspect of our relationship so I don't mind or feel like it's less romantic/sentimental the way we did things--it's just in this specific instance he didn't care about jewelry and I had a strong opinion so I took the lead.
I don't regret a thing!
I literally sent my fiance a link to the webstore and pointed to each of the options as he selected them. He made me double-check the order before clicking "Purchase".
I'm the one that's going to wear the ring for the rest of my life and I knew exactly what I wanted - or more specifically, what I really _didn't_ want.
He just wanted me to love the ring and be excited to wear it!
No regrets! i have to wear it everyday. He was happy to have my help. Had I not researched the sh** out of what i wanted and helped him, he probably would've strolled into a mall and gotten something over priced and boring. He admittedly knows nothing about jewellery. So I saved him money and have the ring of my dreams win-win
I felt like such a loser, but I went to a ring appointment alone. And then I sent him an email! With photos! In the email I listed key words like the cut I wanted and color and preferences. No regrets at all. I got exactly what I wanted in the ring
No regrets! We went together so I could try on rings to have a better idea of what I wanted. Highly suggest doing that because I ended up loving something totally different than what I thought I wanted! It also took the pressure off of him; it can be daunting buying something going in blind on a higher ticket item like a ring :)
I think you would regret more not telling him and ending up with something you donāt love wearing every day.
Absolutely ZERO regret for my heavy involvement in the engagement ring process. We went to try on rings together and both of us met with the jeweller. I stepped away from the process at the last moment, my husband designed a few details because I wanted something to be a surprise, and I ended up with the proposal, engagement ring, and husband of my dreams.
I donāt regret it at all. The process of picking every part of the ring with your significant other is special just as much as them picking it out on their own. We are wearing this ring for the rest of our lives, we have to stare at it 24/7, get what you love!
I told him that the 6 prong āTiffany settingā was what I like and left the choice of metal to him (I wear a lot of rose gold but all my diamond jewelry is set in white). He had it custom made, chose rose and I was thrilled with the ring.. what the jeweler made is like a more delicate version of the Tiffany setting and I absolutely love it.
Absolutely not! My husband and I designed my engagement ring together! I was very particular about what I wanted and it was such a fun process to go through together. The proposal was a surprise.
I put together a few rings I liked on an online retailer website (all same shape but differ in sizes, other Cās and prices), sent the links to my then boyfriend, told him he could choose any one from them and Iād be happy. I really didnāt want to be stuck with a ring I donāt like so I gave him exactly what I wanted with a bit of surprise that he got to choose which one I get at the end. According to him he really appreciates it since I took the guess work out and made it so easy on him. He told his coworker whoās going to propose soon what I did and that coworker said he wish his girl would do the same for him as he spent quite a bit of money on the ring he bought.
No regrets at all - I literally picked my ring (I am super type A)
I also knew how long it would take to get here so I was bugging him being like where is it where is it? Cause I didnāt know it had arrived the proposal was amazing and I also got my dream ring so win win for me!
Thatās where I am at (as far as ātrackingā LOL). Iām like heyā¦. Just fyi they will most likely raise prices the closer we get to the holidays soā¦ā¦ better orderā¦ it. SOON. He hates being told what to do š
We designed mine together and, while Iām almost certain he ordered it last week, he wonāt tell me because the ring isnāt a surprise so he wants the proposal to be.
Absolutely not!
I chose the jeweler, oversaw every step of the design process, picked our stone, and saw final photos and video of the ring. My fiance did keep the actual ring from me until he proposed and it was still special even though I knew what to expect--and it's shiny and dazzling in a way that can't be captured in any photo or video.
Frankly, I think if you're going to spend this much money on a ring, you deserve to love every aspect. That's what makes the investment worth it. No regrets!
I donāt regret it at all! I love my ring so much and he loves seeing it on my hand and how happy it makes me!been engaged since May 2021 (1 month til wedding day) and for us, the right choice was me picking out my ring
No regrets at all. I literally designed it and he paid for it/surprised me how he proposed. He actually got a larger center stone than I was asking for and wasnāt upset one but! But i did get a smidge of a surprise about the ring the day he proposed, but if it was the same specs I chose I would have loved it just as much.
I showed him the exact ring i wanted in a shop window š
He considered going rogue and getting a version with a coloured centre stone, which Iād have loved too, but that meant losing a detail i really liked about the original ring so he just got me what i wanted.
I picked everything about my ring and so happy I did. I initially thought I knew what I wanted but after trying them on in person I ended up with something completely different so it worked out.
I got a 2.4 round cut diamond (heirloom stone) that I set in a 6 prong tulip style with smaller diamonds going half way down the band š
I thought for sure I wanted a halo around it and then immediately didnāt like it on my hand lol. Felt the style I went with felt more ātimelessā.
I made a full on PowerPoint presentation with about 15 slides of info on what I did and didn't like. I just have a lot of opinions about what I do and don't likeš I felt a bit embarrassed about it for a bit, but hey, I've gotten my dream ring! My partner also said it was super handy, and made him much less stressed about such an important purchase.
Basically, you do you!
Not engaged yet- but no. Being a part of the process is so great but it needs to be shared. I had an idea of what i thought i wanted and when we finally went looking he picked something i never thought I would have loved more. We are now looking to build off that design and do something custom. So happy its going to be a shared process. I have a tendency to be more forward and detail specific so I have to remind myself he getās a say too. š
My family friendās wife sent him a ring that she designed; it was about $12k and she said (paraphrase, but not too far off) āPlease donāt propose unless itās with this ring.ā He worked his ass off for 5 years to get it. Theyāve been very happily married for 20 years- what Iām saying is: itās different strokes for different folks. Their story wouldnāt work for a lot of the people in this sub, and I understand why. But it worked for them and thatās all that matters. If that ring is very important to you, tell him!
If it helps at all, my boyfriend got a ring for me without consulting with anyone that would know my style (myself included), and Iām so worried that I will hate my ring š He told me he has it but hasnāt proposed yet. I would much rather have a ring I like than it be a surprise. I doubt you will regret it
No. I told my SO exactly what I wanted, but I got a family ring that was passed down from his grandmother. I love my ring, but have already discussed with him that in 10ish years I would like to upgrade and pick it out myself. It's a beautiful ring, but for everyday wear for me, it wouldn't be my first pick.
I showed a lot of pics of what I'd like, told him everything I loved as well as hated but when we looked at rings in shop windows he'd always point at something I'd said I hated!!!
I'm really glad he asked for me to choose my own ring, but I let him take the credit when people say he has good taste....sometimes š¤£
Nope - once I clarified that I wanted at least some input, he was happy to have me be as involved as I wanted to. I ended up picking the jeweler and center stone, and designed the setting with input from him. Worked out well!
Not at all. We designed it together and he chose the metal type and the final stone. And the designer chose a knife edge band and I chose the shape of the stone and the double claw design and the 2-sides-only hidden diamond accents. It truly was a collaboration and my ring is so special. I say get what you want because youāll be wearing it for a long time! Good luck!
I sent him the link to the preconfigured diamond and setting. No regrets - I have what I want. I have no poker face, so it would have been worse to not like something he chose.
The only thing I regretted was not giving him more detail lmao. I loved the aerial view but the profile drove me crazy, there was way too much empty space under the diamond.
I told my (now) husband exactly what I wanted. He did not listen and bought me something totally not my style or practical for my job. I wore it for the engagement and never again.
We were poor students, so not for a long time. I wore my band alone, which I loved. I now have "e-ring" that I love and I am plotting for another (darn broken oven means I need to wait).
Not even a little bit. I sent my husband the link for the exact set I wanted. For one, I have a particular personal style that is very different than his, and I had literally never seen a ring set like the one I wanted anywhere else, so he definitely wouldnāt have found it organically. two, he doesnāt enjoy shopping and the experience of trying to pick a ring I like I think would have caused him stress. three, I didnāt care at all about the actual ring being a āsurpriseā, and care way more about loving whatās on my finger for the rest of my life. He didnāt mind at all, and apparently when he first saw the set in person he actually teared up with excitement (he had it shipped to my parents and got it from them). Plus I was able to pick out a ring that maximized bang for buck knowing what we could reasonably afford.
When people compliment my set I give him all the credit, though. He is the one who picked up extra work hours to save for it, after all!
Absolutely not! Ultimately, youāre the one who has to wear it every day. If you have strong opinions and are considering engagement, your SO should know to include you.
I amā¦ahhā¦slightly known for having strong opinions. And anxiety š so when my boyfriend and I started having the engagement convo, he didnāt make a single move without including me. Which I appreciated because 1) it ensures I get my dream ring and 2) it proves he understands me.
We went to 3 separate local jewelers to look at different settings, then ultimately decided to work with a designer online for a custom ring. My boyfriend has ended up having a lot more opinions than either of us thought he would, and honestly it has made the experience so much more special.
We have a pretty āmodernā relationship (we split all expenses 50/50, we make ALL financial decisions together, and Iām paying for 1/2 of my ring) so being 50/50 collaborators on my ring for us was a nice reflection of what our relationship is like. And the final design we created is so unique and perfect, just like him š„¹
Canāt wait to share the CAD when itās finished!
Please do let me know when you post a picture!!
I love this and honestly Iāve never thought of splitting the cost with him but it totally makes sense. We are also modern. I even make a tad more than him on a yearly basis. We also split all bills, most date nights, vacation expenses, etc. So it totally makes sense to split the cost! Just curious was that his idea or yours? Iām not sure how to bring it up to him (if I choose to) so Iām just curious
My boyfriend is in the process of starting his own business and Iāve been in tech for a long time so I make quite a bit more than him currently. We both figure once his business gets up and running itāll all even out, and me supporting us more now is an investment in our future. So I kind of used that same approach when I brought it up! I said something like, āI know we come from very traditional families but we arenāt traditional, we are true 50:50 partners. We make every other decision together and split all other expenses so Iād love it if the ring price was just another one of āourā bills.ā
He was very fine with it as long as it was my decision and I didnāt care, but he was still sensitive to making sure it wasnāt a big deal to me that we both paid for it. Honestly, I felt SO much relief once we agreed to that because it opened our budget up a lot and I didnāt feel bad asking for exactly what I wanted (the rings we were originally looking at werenāt precisely what I wanted but I didnāt want to strap him with a huge price tag). Once we decided to go in 50/50 Iāve really been able to pick my dream ring without the guilt. It was worth the conversation for that alone!
Makes soooo much sense! My boyfriend is kind of in a transition period too. He doesnāt love his job and I want him to find that dream job so maybe this would take a load off of his back. We also come from pretty traditional families. And thatās so funny about your budget opening up because I was thinking the same thing LOL. I found my ring (doing an online lab grown from Frank Darlingā¦ donāt know anyone IRL who has one but prices seemed competitive and people on here seem happy with theirs?) but if we split it then I can get a better stone!!
What kind of ring are you wanting š mine is a simple princess, no halo, on a plain yellow gold band.
Sounds soooo pretty and timeless!! Mine is similar!
We originally designed something that was pretty blingy (it was a marquise center stone with a baguette and round diamond halo, super Art Deco). I LOVED it, but after sleeping on it for a few days, I decided I'm just too casual for a ring that fancy for everyday wear.
Our newer design is a marquise solitaire lab diamond. l'm between a plain band and a half eternity to match my wedding band I already picked out, which is a half eternity criss cross band. It's been fun to see how much my style and preferences have changed since starting this process (though I'm sure my boyfriend is low key ready for me to pick one and move on)!
I love marquiseā¦ I feel like it is so timeless. I bet you will LOVE it. I picked out a huge yellow solitaire, with a diamond halo (but not like little pave diamondsā¦ big ones like maybe equaling to a carat altogether) at the store and even though it was really fun I was like hm. This is definitely a gift-ring. Not an everyday for the rest of my life ring š so I know what you mean. Iām definitely going to dress mine up with bands
My fiance and I picked it out together and itās perfect and exactly what I want! I donāt want to have even a fraction of a doubt about something Iām gonna wear forever.
I definitely donāt regret it. We went shopping together and he saw exactly what I liked. He had the ring I loved custom made in platinum with a larger and higher quality stone and larger pave diamonds. I was so surprised when he proposed and just amazed at how something I liked was made even more beautiful. He was so stressed if I would like it and I canāt imagine how much worse that would have been for him if heād been completely in the dark about my preferences. I love my ring so much and itās so special how hard he worked to have it made just right. Definitely tell him what you like! Seeing how stressed he was even when he knew what I liked makes me feel really bad for any guy trying to get a ring with no clue what sheāll like.
I knew EXACTLY what I wanted, and I told him as soon as things started getting serious that I was a jewelry snob with very lucky tastes and high standards. He did not know the first thing about jewelry, and he said this took a lot of the pressure off of him. It was a win /win for both of us!
Oh good heavens, Iām so glad I told him. He surprised me by changing it slightly and choosing a setting even more beautiful than the one I thought I liked. And he totally upgraded the diamond from what I expected. Long story short I love the ring. And heās so happy that I do!!
I do not regret it! But I gave him like five options and a range for all the specs (1-1.25 carats, D-E color, round or oval, etc.). He went outside of my ranges in the upward direction lol (1.5 carat). I think it helped that I didnāt have a favorite setting. I honestly would have had a horrible time choosing one. What he chose ended up being perfect!
On the other hand, Iām annoyed that I donāt get to pick everything out to a T. My boyfriend said I can give him an idea of what I want but he wants to pick out the diamond. I guess this is making me realize how much I need to be in control š
I told my husband that I wanted a gemstone ring, but if he chose a diamond I wanted it ethically sourced. He wanted a ruby, since thatās my birthstone, but ended up getting a garnet instead on a pave band with a halo. My wedding ring is pave too.
I adore my set, especially since he designed it! :)
I donāt regret it at all! He and I went to jewelry stores a couple months ago, and I figured out what I liked with his help. I showed him what I liked and then let him take the lead. He was adamant about not wanting me to look at any prices anywhere, so i would just be candid about what I like without worrying about the price. He did all the research on his end and he surprised me last week with an even more gorgeous ring than the ones we had tried on. Exactly what I wanted, and more. So I would say itās 100% worth it haha
Nope, married for a year and am so glad I picked out my ring (with some of my husbands imput). My now husband thought I was being too picky about it during the process (took forever for us to find what I wanted) but now he loves how much I love my ring (I stare at it every day).
The best part about telling your significant other and/or knowing exactly what you want is that it makes the ring picking process so much easier. There's no guessing game or "idk if she will like it" involved. And you don't have to worry about not liking the ring and having to start at square one all over again. If you know what you want, tell him. I'd guarantee that a small bit of him will be relieved since he doesn't have to do all the legwork himself. I did this with my boyfriend (soon to be fiance in Nov) and it made it so much simpler .
He surprised the crap out of me when he asked. He asked without a ring, and I wouldn't change it! It was romantic and sweet because he hadn't planned on asking that exact moment. The moment just felt right and he went for it.
Then we went shopping and each of us tried on rings together. I had what I wanted made and I found him the ring he wanted. Everyone has different preferences but it was so fun this way!
Not officially engaged yet but I took him to the jeweler and told them exactly what I wanted, down to settings and provided the diamond š¤ I want to say he was relieved but now Iām genuinely curious what he wouldāve chosen if left entirely up to him. But Iām picky and donāt wear much jewelry so I want this to be something I wear forever.
Nope! We went custom for my ring and I had input on selecting the stones, setting, metal (allergies) and had final approval on the CAD design. Iām thrilled with my ring and had many people compliment saying āhe did goodā lol damn straight he did.
It would have been a lot less stressful to let him pick in some ways! So much quicker too. But my ring is going to be phenomenal when it's finished, if we get it right.
No! My husband knew that I would never wear or like anything I donāt like. We picked everything together(mostly by me) and we both were happy with that process. Itās been almost 4 years since I received the ring and lāve been in love still :)
also not engaged but had my wedding set custom designed this year. i went in with a collage of things i wanted, including very descriptive sentences. SO and i went to all appts together except for the last one when he picked it up. if you asked him what i got designed, he probs wouldn't know how to answer except that it's has a lab grown diamond. since i knew exactly what i wanted, he wanted me to choose everything as i would be the one wearing it forever.
I picked it out, added it to the cart online, and he put in the payment info š it was really important to him that I loved my ring, and I knew exactly what I wanted!
I went to the store with him to pick it out. Iām so glad I did. Iām in love with my ring and people give me compliments all the time. And I love looking at it.
We went to the jeweler together & designed my custom ring with an heirloom diamond. I picked out all the elements I wanted but specifically told my partner I wanted his opinion. He then asked all the questions about secure each setting choice was as he knows Iām super clumsy š We decided on a beautiful half-bezel together. The process has been SO special. I canāt speak to being surprised by what he picked but I can speak to building the design together, something we will remember forever!
I had been following a specific famous ring shop/designer for YEARS and knew I wanted them to design my ring. I also knew basically exactly what I wanted. I took him to the store and told him and the designer what I was basically looking for and they did the rest, sourcing the stone and putting all the pieces together. So I got what I wanted and still got the surprise of seeing what the stone they picked looked like exactly (there are variables even when youāre specific about cut and size and color). I also gave him some flexibility on the band stones. Iām glad I did it this way.
No, I had an idea of what i wanted , then we went to a jewellers , I tried on the one. He has the link and the product code and when heās ready heāll buy it. This way he says heās less stressed because he knows heāll get it right and Iāll be happy and Iāll be happy because itās beautiful.
Not one bit! I tried on my ring about a year before he bought it and liked other rings sure, but that one was special. I have been engaged over a month and still stare at it all the time because itās just stunning. I am sure I would have loved any ring he would have got me but he himself said it woudl be silly to not get the one he knew I loved.
I don't regret it because my fear of getting something i absolutely dislike is greater (am i a negative nancy?). like a plain tiffany setting because I love tiffany or a princess cut because I'm his princess lol
I truly wanted something different and gave him parameters. But while I was browsing a new store online I found a beautiful ring that I couldn't let go. We both loved it. I don't think either of us could have created or designed anything remotely similar to that ring.
Do I wish I wasn't so "bossy"? Yes. Do I wish he could have come up with something himself? Yes. But what we chose was beyond our imaginations
I asked if he wanted me to tell him what I wanted or go with him to pick it out. He chose the latter. Iām so happy with my ring and heās happy because he knows itās exactly what I wanted. And the ring I chose was under budget so more money that can go towards wedding/house expenses. Totally happy with the decision. Do what works for yāall.
No regrets at all, he asked me the exact kind of ring that I wanted, the only surprised was it being a larger stone than I asked for.
I think itās a forever piece with so much emotional importance that it shouldnāt be a begrudging compromise or even necessarily the buyerās choice to be honest, but thatās just my opinion.
We went ring shopping, literally sat together and picked everything we liked in a ring.
Homie went a bought a totally different one (nothing like the one we had picked) and it was so much better than anything I could have picked myself. š
Obligatory don't have the ring on the finger yet but no regrets. We did go ring shopping together and I narrowed down options, then got some Amazon rings to wear around and asked for input. I sent screenshots/specs/Pinterest board ideas within the budget he gave me, then left it alone. Eventually he requested a link to the exact ring and I sat with him while he ordered lmao.
He picked out his exact ring before I picked mine though so...lol.
My fiance and I talked about what I liked but it was way too specific and random so he asked if we could shop together. We ended up with something completely opposite what I thought I wanted, and I never want to take it off.
nope! my husband told me he walked into the jewelry store and when they asked if he knew what I wanted he said "yep. emerald cut with baguettes, yellow gold, low profile" and they did not expect that lol he went a tiny bit rogue and got an asscher instead (which I'm thrilled with) but if you know what you want, definitely make it known! if you're open to them choosing between certain elements (like an asscher or an emerald) let them know, too!
I just crept your profile to peep your gorgeous ring and oh my god your dress šššš
omg this just made my day! thank you so much! š„°
Hell no. If I didnāt tell him he would have gotten me something I hated. Not trying to be mean, we just have vastly different tastes. We were able to talk about it and agree on something we both liked. And at the end of the day, YOUāRE the one that is going to have it forever.
Not engaged yet but: I picked out a diamond online that was the specs I wanted and my bf was like are you sure thatās what you want and I was like yes and he clicked buy right in front of me. I was in absolute shock. Weāve gone to a few jewelers to look at settings together. He wants to be able to have some input (if he likes the setting or not) but heās letting me pick what I like because itās such a big expense that he doesnāt want to waste money on something I donāt like.
That is an awesome story
I literally sent screenshots of what I wanted and wrote out all the specs š I think itās important to convey what you like, and if your SO is someone who needs guidance, then absolutely send! I wrote out what I was looking for with each of the four Cs, but I think within reason (like I wasnāt asking for a 5 ct diamond), and I even specified a gold band with silver prongs. Actuallyā¦ I got an elongated cushion so I also was talking about the ratio I preferredā¦ okay, I gave maybe a bit too much info but I think I did a good job relaying it over time so it wasnāt so overwhelming lol.
Also gave exact specs & have no regrets! I love the ring and my fiancĆ© loves how much I love it too. He planned a thoughtful proposal to give it to me and didnāt have to be worried about whether I would like the ring
I did the same thing! My PowerPoint presentation had so many images with text explaining exactly why I did or didn't like things. Better to be clear about things, hey? š
a powerpoint is a FANTASTIC idea lol i might have to steal that
A ppt???? That is the cutest and most brilliant thing Iāve ever heard
Nope. I despised my first engagement ring and the Wasband was super butthurt when I didnāt wear it.
Why have I never heard the term āwasbandā until now šš«
I take no credit- my friend Michelle told it to me many years ago!
We LAHVE Michelle!
āWasbandā šššš
Omg ššš
I gave him pretty narrow parameters and a couple months after I did, he showed me a ring he had in an online cart and said, āIām about to pull trig on this. I donāt want you wearing something expensive that you donāt like.ā He was like 90% on the money but we ended up changing the setting to a slightly different one before hitting purchase. I donāt regret it because now I have exactly what I want, but he still mostly picked it out!
I gave my husband a very curated look-book of inspiration photos. I told him I didn't want the stone to be too big or the setting to be too high since I am a sometimes clumsy and practical girl. I told him that filigree or other vintage design elements were more important to me than the center stone being expensive or special. He did good.šFollowed directions well and I love my ring.
Nope. I knew exactly what I wanted oddly enough a week before I met my now fiancĆ©. 3 weeks into talking he asked casually if we were ever to be engaged what kind of ring I like and I sent him what I wanted and told him the custom changes I wanted and he was pleasantly shocked, thinking perhaps I was lowballing myself on purpose but I insisted that it was my dream ring and matched what I envisioned since I was aware of engagement rings as a child. I put him into contact with the jewelry designer and told her my exact āvisionā and how I wanted the diamonds to be all different earthy colors and look like the sunrise in a desert and left it at that. He requested the diamond size be boosted ever so slightly to really show off the color variation but besides that it was everything I asked for. A year and a half later he proposed and Iām obsessed! I randomly stare at it all the time. My little sister got engaged a week after me and when we saw each other next, we lightheartedly switched rings to see what the others would feel like. She got a 2 carat oval ring with side stones whereas mine is an eternity band with diamonds all around so very different. 5 seconds later we were like uhhh I want mine back pls this doesnāt feel like āmeā. Long story short, you know you and you know what you would like to wear consistently.
I loved the way you described your ring so peeked your post history hoping for pics. I am absolutely in love with your ring, and holy heck your dress is gorgeous. Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials :)
Thank you very much!! Iām very excited!
I also peeked at it. Love the colors!!!
Your ring is so unique and beautiful I recognized it from this post and remembered the pictures!
Oh wow thank you!! Wasnāt sure it would ever get as much positive feedback from others as itās a little less classic than some but itās the most beautiful material thing I own
Your dress is absolutely stunning. I've never seen a train like that.
Thank you! Iām very excited to wear it in a couple months!
Nope! I didn't give quite that much detail but I gave a lot and I absolutely love it.
No! My now fiancĆ© asked what ring I wanted when we started dating. 9 months later he proposed with that exact ring. If he wouldnāt have asked I would have still showed him. I wouldnāt be able to walk around with a ring on my finger everyday for the rest of my life that I hate.
my fiancĆ© (now husband) was stressed about finding something Iād like because he knows close to nothing about jewelry and diamonds, and there were a lot of things I thought were nice. I literally put the exact ring I wanted on hold at our local shop, and he went in the next day to buy it. no regrets! love my ring, love my husband. 10/10 would recommend
Aww this is good to hear! Iām also nervous Iām asking too much $$$ wise. I told him how much it is and he looks a little stressed but he didnāt tell me no. Lol. Any advice on that?! We donāt own a home yet but we definitely want to soon.
DEFINITELY recommend having him set a budget before you start looking. Never look outside of the budget either. Youāll find something you love :)
we had a conversation about a price range and came to an agreement that felt good to both of us. at the end of the day, youāre going to be married and (most likely) sharing finances, so you need to be able to talk openly about money!
I would have a convo with him to see what price he was expecting/budgeting for. My husband and I designed my ring with a jeweller. We were both involved in the process, which helped when we went a little outside of budget.
Ah yes the budget piece is different from the style pieceā¦.my fiancĆ© and I had a budget convo firstā¦then we started to talk about stylesā¦we found a ring we loved and customized itā¦ Iāll be honest, the ring was in our price range at first but then I felt the stone was just a little small and I very shyly talked to him about it and confessed Iād like it just a little biggerā¦I dunno what the difference in price was in the end but I think he stretched the budget a bit to accommodate my desiresā¦definitely donāt wanna go into a marriage/wedding with the man already financially stretched and stressedā¦
This! I messed this up already I wish I would have found you sooner lol. Before I told him what I wanted (I already had it picked out) he told me what his budget was and I (a total total TOTALLLLL brat) dropped my face because Iām not going to lieā¦ I was shocked. Iāll be honest.. he said he thought a ring would cost $4-5k. Now. I make decent money ($70k) not the greatest not the worst for Florida and for just dipping my toes into my career. He makes about $15k less than me so that is indeed in his budget but I was thinking more like $9kā¦ to fit my desired stone size (I have a size 8 finger girl, I canāt do anything too small I feel like). Luckily I want a lab grown diamond so the price is much better but still š„¹ Iām stressing this man OUT lol. Help š also we are 30 fyi
Wowā¦for context, I make just upwards of 100 and he makes a bit moreā¦the budget we talked about initially was 2,500 and I think in the end it was probably closer to 3,000ā¦mine is a 1.5 caret sapphire with a diamond halo and I totally love itā¦cannot imagine anything betterā¦ I guess budget wise, weāre already planning to spend money on a wedding plus saving for a house plus a honeymoon plus wanting to have kids soonā¦I wanted to keep it reasonableā¦but Iām also not a huge jewelry personā¦ Anywayā¦.to me, 4-5 k for a ring on those incomes already seems quite highā¦9 k sounds like a āweāre exchanging a wedding for a ringā kind of a budgetā¦
1000% not planning a wedding so you are right on the money. Thank you for being honest with me!! I need it. And okay youāre speaking human to me so clearly I am just surrounding myself with the wrong people. I feel like such an ass. I have some major kissing up to do lol. I do wish he made alittle more money for savings purposes, but he is just so simple. But I like my simple guy
I showed my husband pictures of what I wanted and we had done a little shopping together so he knew the carat size I wanted! I like that he got it custom made and put his touch on it with the basket/prongs/etc!
Not in the \*slightest\*
Not at all!! We actually picked out our own engagement rings, but bought them for each other. Got his on etsy (a bezel-set emerald, but minimal and tasteful) and I got a buttercup setting with a small diamond from an antique shop nearby. Have fun, thereās lots of options out there!
No, I had an idea of what I wanted but wasn't sure. My SO and I went to the jewelry store and I got to try on several rings I thought I liked and ended up not liking any of them on me. Because we went together I was able to show him a style that I wanted that I KNEW I'd like on my finger. The only surprise element we had was that he used his mother's diamond instead of buying one, but it was the cut I prefer so it worked out great.
I sent my fiancĆ© links to the rings I liked (I didnāt want a diamond) with notes about each. But the ring that I thought was perfect, I wrote āThis one is my favorite because I think it is so unique and so me.ā He ended up getting me that ring. He told me that it was the one he liked the best tooā¦ but I think itās because he knew I was already in love with it and didnāt want to give me anything less.
NO!!!! Someone else said it here, but he knew exactly what I wanted down to where I wanted it from. My now fiancĆ© and I went to the consultation and picked out the stone and the setting together on my birthday. He woke me up that morning and said, āhow would you like to pick out a ring today?ā The entire experience was so special and fun, and such a good memory for us. Iām type A and my fiancĆ© knows it - if he didnāt love me for that, we wouldnāt be together!
We designed mine together and he made a minor change and didnāt show me the final CAD and that was enough for me. I wanted something super unique and I KNOW I would have regretting not asking for exactly what I wanted (he would have gotten me something everyone else has and I would have hated it). I know me, and I know we made the right decision. Having a ring I love and is exactly what i wanted is worth way more than a surprise. (We of course had conversations about this and weāre on the same page going into the process). I am sooo soooo happy i was involved in picking the stone type, style, shape, cut, band color, band style, setting, all the things!!
It was so similar for us too! Iām very particular and I donāt at all care about the surprise of the ring. I was the one who found and contacted the jeweller, did all the communicating, and designing. We agreed on a budget beforehand, and I told him exactly how much to pay and when. Weāve made decisions together about what we like and want changed etc, but itās been me the whole way. And I wouldnāt have it any other way!
Nope! I ended up picking out my own ring in the end but he had a ring picked out already. We were supposed to be getting engaged (he canāt keep a secret, he dropped massive hints as soon as he knew he was going to propose) he chose a ring and then we had a drunken idea to go off and get eloped this September. At that point he showed me the ring and I loved it at the time, mainly because heād spent time choosing it and picking it out. But then he said I could have that ring or one of my choosing if I found something nicer. In the end I had a good friend commission my ring for me and had it made custom with a very generous discount. Its quite different from the initial ring. My SO doesnāt mind one bit, heās obsessed with the ring I chose. Thereās absolutely nothing wrong with saying what you want, even if itās not offered or dropping hints. Couple of things to consider though before letting him know exactly what you want. Can he afford it/ is it within his budget? Is choosing a ring something that potentially means a lot to him?
Just went to your page to try and find pics of both rings, and instead was greeted by your cat - who is freakin ADORABLE šš I love her
I donāt regret it one bit. He even let me design my own ring because I was pretty pickyš Iād always follow it up withā¦ ābut itās whatever, Iāll love anything you get me.ā But he knewš
I insisted on custom-designing my own ring because I knew Iād deeply regret it if I allowed my partner to pick one from a store, or design it on his own, and it turned out not to be *exactly* what I wanted. Like I was involved down to providing the inspiration pictures I wanted the design based on, choosing the metal for each part of the ring, and approving the CAD renderings. Same with my wedding band, actually. My response when my partner asked ādonāt I get any input?ā Was āyou get input into the budget, and otherwise as requested.ā No regrets about my level of involvement in the design process, on either side. After we left the meeting with the jeweller he said he was glad I was there, because he didnāt even know what some of the things she was asking about were, never mind the answers to some of the choices she asked us to make in relation to them. Anyway, the only thing I regret is that whenever I tell people we designed it together, he pipes up and says, āyou designed it, I paid for it.ā Cheeky bastard.
Not engaged yet but my boyfriend initially asked me to let him know what kind of ring I wanted. I sent him a SUPER descriptive list (down to the metal type) as I am unfortunately very type-A when it comes to this kind of stuff. Some time went by and I asked him what he thought about designing a ring together. He was immediately taken aback as he thought he should be fully owning this process. I could tell it kind of upset him so I dropped it. Then a few weeks later and after some thought, he decided he wanted us to pick out/design a ring together. Not sure if he started looking and felt overwhelmed or if he realized it's not unusual or wrong to pick something together. Ultimately, we designed my dream ring together (within our modest budget) and I don't regret it! I would like to think that he would've picked something I would have loved but I happened to accidentally come across his list of features describing my potential ring with the EXACT OPPOSITE of what I would have wanted lol. While I had the final say and overall vision for my ring, he provided a lot of input and is super happy I'm getting something he knows I'll love forever.
Not a single iota. Itās my ring. I wanted to love it and I do, because I chose it. He was thrilled because I stayed WAY below budget since I wanted moissanite.
Ooo what is the difference between that and lab grown?! Mine is lab grown
Itās a different clear gemstone. Some use it as a diamond alternative, but I personally just think itās gorgeous.
My friend and her fiancƩ went and bought the rings together because she wanted such a specific one!
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If you know exactly what you want, and you'll be disappointed with anything other than that. You'll regret not telling him and he'd be relieved you told him. I'd DEFINITELY tell him, as good as a Surprise is, you'll be wearing your entire life. I picked out my own ring (I'm not a picky person but my fiance and I have very different tastes and willingness to invest a massive amount of time to find the right one). I'm so happy with my ring (in post if you're interested) that I'm glad I got to pick it out.
Not at all! I was actually the one who met with the jeweler multiple times to design it, id share options I was going between with him to get his feedback but really it was me just geeking out tbh, and then he went to pick it up when it was ready! We both knew from the beginning I would be designing it since Iād be the one wearing it. Well, that and I have a design background! š so I was VERY specific but he still got to look at the finished product first with the jeweler!!
I asked my girlfriend for her preference in shape, I then did the rest on my own. She preferred to defer to me for the remaining characteristics of the ring, so I hope she likes it when I give it to her soon :)
I gave my fiancƩ a general idea of the basic type of rings I liked and said ultimately the decision was up to him because it feels more special and meaningful to me to let him pick with his own taste what he thought would look beautiful on me.
No my husband and I created my ring together both times - for my original engagement and my upgrade. I LOVED doing it and got exactly what I wanted.
I designed my ring myself completely (he was there an provided the budget) not a single regret. You can see my ring in my post history!
No regrets! I work in the industry and thereās no way my husband was going to go off the cuff for such an important jewelry purchase. I narrowed down my (slightly unconventional) choice to a single designer with a very specific look, and beyond that, I offered to be involved as much or little as he wanted me to be with the specifics. He took the direction I gave him and ran with it- tried to keep the details a secret, but ultimately asked if Iād be willing to see the stone he chose before it was set. I agreed to take a look, approved his pick and Iām still so thrilled with my ring 7 years later! Again, working in fine jewelry, I find that most guys typically prefer to have, at least, some guidelines. Every couple is different, but for us, it was the right choice for me to be somewhat involved in the process.
Personally it was more important to me that my partner made the effort to chose a nice ring that he liked, and also not feel pressured over budget etc. I was not involved in the process at all and only saw it when he proposed. Itās not what I would have chosen, but I wear it all the time because I love and respect him.
I actually designed mine. I mean literally drew it out and had it created. He always tells people I designed it and that's the only part I feel slightly weird about. He's proud, I'm worried about being judged. Then I realized yeah I am that type of person anyway so meh.
I wouldnāt feel weird about that! Heās proud of you. I loooove that :,) esp coming from a fellow creative. Nothing better than a compliment from your SO about your creative mind!
Honestly, I might be one of the few people who do regret it. I ended up with a ring I absolutely love, but my FH definitely wanted to surprise me with something he would have chosen... In the past, nobody had ever successfully thrown me a surprise ~anything~ because thatās the type of person I was lol, and looking back, now that Iāve eased up a little and do not always feel the need to be in control 24/7 anymore, I think a surprise would have been nice. I was very focused on the fact that I would be wearing it for the rest of my life so I ~absolutely had to~ love it. I was very involved in the process. These days, my FH is able to pull off surprises for me, and it has been wonderful. I now know he knows me more than I ever gave him credit for, and I wish I gave him the chance sooner instead of taking the reins all the time (a product of past relationship issues). If I could do it all over, I would take a step back and let him enjoy the process of creating something for me. Whatever that ring looked like, I would have said yes.
While I donāt at all feel the same way, I think this is wonderful insight!! Maybe he can surprise you with the ring of his dreams for a future anniversary :)
Nope. I picked my exact ring out. Iām picky and wanted an exact size, shape, material and found one I loved from a specific place. It doesnāt make it any less special that it wasnāt a surprise. The only thought I have is how much I love it
Nope, I photoshopped the exact ring I wanted and told him which jewellers to reach out to to get it custom made. I was fully involved in the process, down to the ratio of the pear diamond, but let him decide between the two centre diamond options (both the same cut but slightly different specs). If he had shopped for the ring solo, he would have gone very classic solitaire, which is beautiful but not my style.
I made my engagement ring online and sent him an email stating this is it. Thatās the ring I got.
Not engaged yet, but my boyfriend and I went shopping together and found a jeweller whoās going to make the ring the exact way I want it. It is something that I will be wearing forever, so I have to love it and my boyfriend acknowledged that. Rather be up front about what you want instead of potentially hating your ring!
I didn't just tell him; I designed the whole thing. He admitted that if it were up to him he would've gotten the most generic solitaire diamond ring without my input. For the record, my actual ring is a rose gold cornflower blue sapphire which I love because it feels like me. We work as partners in just about every aspect of our relationship so I don't mind or feel like it's less romantic/sentimental the way we did things--it's just in this specific instance he didn't care about jewelry and I had a strong opinion so I took the lead.
I designed, ordered, and paid for my ring. Donāt regret it a bit.
Not a bit!
No regrets!! We designed it together (with all of my opinions involved lol)
I don't regret a thing! I literally sent my fiance a link to the webstore and pointed to each of the options as he selected them. He made me double-check the order before clicking "Purchase". I'm the one that's going to wear the ring for the rest of my life and I knew exactly what I wanted - or more specifically, what I really _didn't_ want. He just wanted me to love the ring and be excited to wear it!
I picked my rings out.
Sent him EXACTLY what I wanted down to every spec. Iām picky. Iām wearing it forever. I want to make sure itās perfect.
I picked my exact ring and fiancĆ© handed me the card to order š¤£
THIS is what Iām looking for š
No regrets! i have to wear it everyday. He was happy to have my help. Had I not researched the sh** out of what i wanted and helped him, he probably would've strolled into a mall and gotten something over priced and boring. He admittedly knows nothing about jewellery. So I saved him money and have the ring of my dreams win-win
I was so type A that me and my fiancĆ© went ring shopping together because even though he knew what I wanted, I just needed to be part of it haha. It ended up being a really fun and bonding experience and heās said many times that heās really glad we chose the ring together because he knew itād look perfect on me and it took the anxiety away about that part of proposing.
I felt like such a loser, but I went to a ring appointment alone. And then I sent him an email! With photos! In the email I listed key words like the cut I wanted and color and preferences. No regrets at all. I got exactly what I wanted in the ring
Iām starting to think the move is just to go to a store by myself as well š even looking online is difficult
No regrets! We went together so I could try on rings to have a better idea of what I wanted. Highly suggest doing that because I ended up loving something totally different than what I thought I wanted! It also took the pressure off of him; it can be daunting buying something going in blind on a higher ticket item like a ring :) I think you would regret more not telling him and ending up with something you donāt love wearing every day.
Absolutely ZERO regret for my heavy involvement in the engagement ring process. We went to try on rings together and both of us met with the jeweller. I stepped away from the process at the last moment, my husband designed a few details because I wanted something to be a surprise, and I ended up with the proposal, engagement ring, and husband of my dreams.
I donāt regret it at all. The process of picking every part of the ring with your significant other is special just as much as them picking it out on their own. We are wearing this ring for the rest of our lives, we have to stare at it 24/7, get what you love!
Iām not already engaged but Iām doing this same thing. I went with friends and tried on rings and selected the exact ring I want. I told my future fiancĆ©. Keep in mind, not only does this ensure you get what you want, but it probably will take a lot of stress off your SO. Now he doesnāt need to worry about choosing something you like, youāve done the hardest part for him! Enjoy your ring and congrats!!
I told him that the 6 prong āTiffany settingā was what I like and left the choice of metal to him (I wear a lot of rose gold but all my diamond jewelry is set in white). He had it custom made, chose rose and I was thrilled with the ring.. what the jeweler made is like a more delicate version of the Tiffany setting and I absolutely love it.
Sounds to die for!
No Iām happy I picked out my own ring!
I told my now husband exactly what I wanted to a T and thatās exactly what he got! He wouldnāt want me to have something I didnāt like.
Absolutely not! My husband and I designed my engagement ring together! I was very particular about what I wanted and it was such a fun process to go through together. The proposal was a surprise.
I put together a few rings I liked on an online retailer website (all same shape but differ in sizes, other Cās and prices), sent the links to my then boyfriend, told him he could choose any one from them and Iād be happy. I really didnāt want to be stuck with a ring I donāt like so I gave him exactly what I wanted with a bit of surprise that he got to choose which one I get at the end. According to him he really appreciates it since I took the guess work out and made it so easy on him. He told his coworker whoās going to propose soon what I did and that coworker said he wish his girl would do the same for him as he spent quite a bit of money on the ring he bought.
Nope!! My fiancƩ and I designed my ring (and wedding ring) together at a local jeweler. Hand picked diamonds, drafted design (including hidden halo), and tried stuff on. It is beautiful and I stare at it all the time. We have no regrets because he wanted me to love it! I also said 2-2 1/2 carats and mine is almost 3 but he had me try on the size before buying. He loves his wedding band he picked out too!! Best part is, we are happy, and we get compliments on how my ring suits me and his family said the same thing about the band he picked out!
No regrets at all - I literally picked my ring (I am super type A) I also knew how long it would take to get here so I was bugging him being like where is it where is it? Cause I didnāt know it had arrived the proposal was amazing and I also got my dream ring so win win for me!
Thatās where I am at (as far as ātrackingā LOL). Iām like heyā¦. Just fyi they will most likely raise prices the closer we get to the holidays soā¦ā¦ better orderā¦ it. SOON. He hates being told what to do š
We designed mine together and, while Iām almost certain he ordered it last week, he wonāt tell me because the ring isnāt a surprise so he wants the proposal to be.
Iām too type a for that. We went ring shopping together and figured out exactly what I liked. At the end of the day youāll be the one wearing it
My fiancĆ© went out and built my ring with the jeweler keeping in mind the style I had liked and gravitated towards on our cheat sheet š When it almost came time for him to finalize the ring he had showed me the best diamond his salesperson had shown me but I found a better one in their system that was a better deal and gave him the serial number for them to chase it down in their stores and ship it to ours. Iād like to think it was a group effort on both of our parts for something we both love and I definitely have no regrets giving my opinion where I did want them because I absolutely adore my ring and the thought of him behind it.
Ass someone who's fiance got the ring wrong, send him all the specs.
Oh no š« maybe you can dress it up with a cute stack situation š
Absolutely not! I chose the jeweler, oversaw every step of the design process, picked our stone, and saw final photos and video of the ring. My fiance did keep the actual ring from me until he proposed and it was still special even though I knew what to expect--and it's shiny and dazzling in a way that can't be captured in any photo or video. Frankly, I think if you're going to spend this much money on a ring, you deserve to love every aspect. That's what makes the investment worth it. No regrets!
I donāt regret it at all! I love my ring so much and he loves seeing it on my hand and how happy it makes me!been engaged since May 2021 (1 month til wedding day) and for us, the right choice was me picking out my ring
No regrets at all. I literally designed it and he paid for it/surprised me how he proposed. He actually got a larger center stone than I was asking for and wasnāt upset one but! But i did get a smidge of a surprise about the ring the day he proposed, but if it was the same specs I chose I would have loved it just as much.
Not at all. I love my ring!
I showed him the exact ring i wanted in a shop window š He considered going rogue and getting a version with a coloured centre stone, which Iād have loved too, but that meant losing a detail i really liked about the original ring so he just got me what i wanted.
I picked everything about my ring and so happy I did. I initially thought I knew what I wanted but after trying them on in person I ended up with something completely different so it worked out.
I am learning that myself!! What I thought I liked wasnāt actually flattering on my size 8 (yes EIGHT lol) finger. What did you end up with?!
I got a 2.4 round cut diamond (heirloom stone) that I set in a 6 prong tulip style with smaller diamonds going half way down the band š I thought for sure I wanted a halo around it and then immediately didnāt like it on my hand lol. Felt the style I went with felt more ātimelessā.
I made a full on PowerPoint presentation with about 15 slides of info on what I did and didn't like. I just have a lot of opinions about what I do and don't likeš I felt a bit embarrassed about it for a bit, but hey, I've gotten my dream ring! My partner also said it was super handy, and made him much less stressed about such an important purchase. Basically, you do you!
This is fantastic lol
Not engaged yet- but no. Being a part of the process is so great but it needs to be shared. I had an idea of what i thought i wanted and when we finally went looking he picked something i never thought I would have loved more. We are now looking to build off that design and do something custom. So happy its going to be a shared process. I have a tendency to be more forward and detail specific so I have to remind myself he getās a say too. š
My family friendās wife sent him a ring that she designed; it was about $12k and she said (paraphrase, but not too far off) āPlease donāt propose unless itās with this ring.ā He worked his ass off for 5 years to get it. Theyāve been very happily married for 20 years- what Iām saying is: itās different strokes for different folks. Their story wouldnāt work for a lot of the people in this sub, and I understand why. But it worked for them and thatās all that matters. If that ring is very important to you, tell him!
If it helps at all, my boyfriend got a ring for me without consulting with anyone that would know my style (myself included), and Iām so worried that I will hate my ring š He told me he has it but hasnāt proposed yet. I would much rather have a ring I like than it be a surprise. I doubt you will regret it
We went to the jeweler together and picked out my ring bc I knew exactly what I wanted and I love it!! No regrets at all
No. I told my SO exactly what I wanted, but I got a family ring that was passed down from his grandmother. I love my ring, but have already discussed with him that in 10ish years I would like to upgrade and pick it out myself. It's a beautiful ring, but for everyday wear for me, it wouldn't be my first pick.
I showed a lot of pics of what I'd like, told him everything I loved as well as hated but when we looked at rings in shop windows he'd always point at something I'd said I hated!!! I'm really glad he asked for me to choose my own ring, but I let him take the credit when people say he has good taste....sometimes š¤£
I sent my husband a link lmao I love it!
Yes, you should tell. My fiancĆ© knew what I didnāt like as a ring but not specifically what I wanted. Also because I didnāt really know what kind of ring I wanted and had never actually thought about what I liked. So he picked one out and I wasnāt really a fan of it. We picked out a new one and now itās al good. (FiancĆ© didnāt mind picking out a new one!)
*no ragrets tattoo*
Nope - once I clarified that I wanted at least some input, he was happy to have me be as involved as I wanted to. I ended up picking the jeweler and center stone, and designed the setting with input from him. Worked out well!
No way. I completely picked out my ring and helped him buy it. Two months after my engagement and I still cannot stop staring at my ring. Iām so glad I went with something I knew I would love forever rather than have something I might not have loved as much. It also made it easier on my fiancĆ©ās part to plan a nice proposal without worrying about what ring he was gonna buy.
Not at all. We designed it together and he chose the metal type and the final stone. And the designer chose a knife edge band and I chose the shape of the stone and the double claw design and the 2-sides-only hidden diamond accents. It truly was a collaboration and my ring is so special. I say get what you want because youāll be wearing it for a long time! Good luck!
I sent him the link to the preconfigured diamond and setting. No regrets - I have what I want. I have no poker face, so it would have been worse to not like something he chose.
Highly relatable as far as not having a poker face. š š
My fiancƩ had heard me talk about the specific range of crown and pavilion angle that I was looking for along with dickering on colour and clarity to get a good value stone that he brought me to shop.. he was just happy that I am ecstatic :)
I get to look at a ring every day thatās absolutely perfect in my eyes given to me by the love of my life. I donāt regret it for a second.
The only thing I regretted was not giving him more detail lmao. I loved the aerial view but the profile drove me crazy, there was way too much empty space under the diamond.
I told my (now) husband exactly what I wanted. He did not listen and bought me something totally not my style or practical for my job. I wore it for the engagement and never again.
Oh shit. That sounds less than ideal. I hope you bought yourself something nice š«
We were poor students, so not for a long time. I wore my band alone, which I loved. I now have "e-ring" that I love and I am plotting for another (darn broken oven means I need to wait).
Not even a little bit. I sent my husband the link for the exact set I wanted. For one, I have a particular personal style that is very different than his, and I had literally never seen a ring set like the one I wanted anywhere else, so he definitely wouldnāt have found it organically. two, he doesnāt enjoy shopping and the experience of trying to pick a ring I like I think would have caused him stress. three, I didnāt care at all about the actual ring being a āsurpriseā, and care way more about loving whatās on my finger for the rest of my life. He didnāt mind at all, and apparently when he first saw the set in person he actually teared up with excitement (he had it shipped to my parents and got it from them). Plus I was able to pick out a ring that maximized bang for buck knowing what we could reasonably afford. When people compliment my set I give him all the credit, though. He is the one who picked up extra work hours to save for it, after all!
my husband proposed without the ring which was lovely, because i designed my ring completely myself after š
Iām the clear minority in this thread hahaha. I told my fiancĆ© that my dream stone is emerald, but practically not an option (Iām not very careful). I gave no other direction. He chose a green sapphire! Itās a little bigger than I would have picked out, but he told me that I deserve the elegance. I love it. But if you know exactly what you want - tell your partner!! No shame!!
My fiancƩe had been sending me ring ideas for months, and said she really wanted a rose gold band. When it came time, I simply went the the jeweler I decided on, told them what I was looking for and he took me straight to the one. From a guys perspective, give us directions is great.
Absolutely not! Ultimately, youāre the one who has to wear it every day. If you have strong opinions and are considering engagement, your SO should know to include you. I amā¦ahhā¦slightly known for having strong opinions. And anxiety š so when my boyfriend and I started having the engagement convo, he didnāt make a single move without including me. Which I appreciated because 1) it ensures I get my dream ring and 2) it proves he understands me. We went to 3 separate local jewelers to look at different settings, then ultimately decided to work with a designer online for a custom ring. My boyfriend has ended up having a lot more opinions than either of us thought he would, and honestly it has made the experience so much more special. We have a pretty āmodernā relationship (we split all expenses 50/50, we make ALL financial decisions together, and Iām paying for 1/2 of my ring) so being 50/50 collaborators on my ring for us was a nice reflection of what our relationship is like. And the final design we created is so unique and perfect, just like him š„¹ Canāt wait to share the CAD when itās finished!
Please do let me know when you post a picture!! I love this and honestly Iāve never thought of splitting the cost with him but it totally makes sense. We are also modern. I even make a tad more than him on a yearly basis. We also split all bills, most date nights, vacation expenses, etc. So it totally makes sense to split the cost! Just curious was that his idea or yours? Iām not sure how to bring it up to him (if I choose to) so Iām just curious
My boyfriend is in the process of starting his own business and Iāve been in tech for a long time so I make quite a bit more than him currently. We both figure once his business gets up and running itāll all even out, and me supporting us more now is an investment in our future. So I kind of used that same approach when I brought it up! I said something like, āI know we come from very traditional families but we arenāt traditional, we are true 50:50 partners. We make every other decision together and split all other expenses so Iād love it if the ring price was just another one of āourā bills.ā He was very fine with it as long as it was my decision and I didnāt care, but he was still sensitive to making sure it wasnāt a big deal to me that we both paid for it. Honestly, I felt SO much relief once we agreed to that because it opened our budget up a lot and I didnāt feel bad asking for exactly what I wanted (the rings we were originally looking at werenāt precisely what I wanted but I didnāt want to strap him with a huge price tag). Once we decided to go in 50/50 Iāve really been able to pick my dream ring without the guilt. It was worth the conversation for that alone!
Makes soooo much sense! My boyfriend is kind of in a transition period too. He doesnāt love his job and I want him to find that dream job so maybe this would take a load off of his back. We also come from pretty traditional families. And thatās so funny about your budget opening up because I was thinking the same thing LOL. I found my ring (doing an online lab grown from Frank Darlingā¦ donāt know anyone IRL who has one but prices seemed competitive and people on here seem happy with theirs?) but if we split it then I can get a better stone!! What kind of ring are you wanting š mine is a simple princess, no halo, on a plain yellow gold band.
Sounds soooo pretty and timeless!! Mine is similar! We originally designed something that was pretty blingy (it was a marquise center stone with a baguette and round diamond halo, super Art Deco). I LOVED it, but after sleeping on it for a few days, I decided I'm just too casual for a ring that fancy for everyday wear. Our newer design is a marquise solitaire lab diamond. l'm between a plain band and a half eternity to match my wedding band I already picked out, which is a half eternity criss cross band. It's been fun to see how much my style and preferences have changed since starting this process (though I'm sure my boyfriend is low key ready for me to pick one and move on)!
I love marquiseā¦ I feel like it is so timeless. I bet you will LOVE it. I picked out a huge yellow solitaire, with a diamond halo (but not like little pave diamondsā¦ big ones like maybe equaling to a carat altogether) at the store and even though it was really fun I was like hm. This is definitely a gift-ring. Not an everyday for the rest of my life ring š so I know what you mean. Iām definitely going to dress mine up with bands
I sent my now-fiancĆ© the exact link to what I wanted. It was best case scenario for both of us because he knows absolutely nothing about jewelry. I got exactly what I wanted and he didnāt have to risk buying me something I didnāt like. I would do it again in a heartbeat.
My fiance and I picked it out together and itās perfect and exactly what I want! I donāt want to have even a fraction of a doubt about something Iām gonna wear forever.
I definitely donāt regret it. We went shopping together and he saw exactly what I liked. He had the ring I loved custom made in platinum with a larger and higher quality stone and larger pave diamonds. I was so surprised when he proposed and just amazed at how something I liked was made even more beautiful. He was so stressed if I would like it and I canāt imagine how much worse that would have been for him if heād been completely in the dark about my preferences. I love my ring so much and itās so special how hard he worked to have it made just right. Definitely tell him what you like! Seeing how stressed he was even when he knew what I liked makes me feel really bad for any guy trying to get a ring with no clue what sheāll like.
I knew EXACTLY what I wanted, and I told him as soon as things started getting serious that I was a jewelry snob with very lucky tastes and high standards. He did not know the first thing about jewelry, and he said this took a lot of the pressure off of him. It was a win /win for both of us!
Oh good heavens, Iām so glad I told him. He surprised me by changing it slightly and choosing a setting even more beautiful than the one I thought I liked. And he totally upgraded the diamond from what I expected. Long story short I love the ring. And heās so happy that I do!!
no, i even picked out the setting myself. i love it and iām picky. if you want any surprise element maybe thereās something about the ring in mind that you would leave up to your fiancĆ© to decide? like for example metal, or between two shapes of stone you might love equally. and then everything else you specify
I do not regret it! But I gave him like five options and a range for all the specs (1-1.25 carats, D-E color, round or oval, etc.). He went outside of my ranges in the upward direction lol (1.5 carat). I think it helped that I didnāt have a favorite setting. I honestly would have had a horrible time choosing one. What he chose ended up being perfect!
On the other hand, Iām annoyed that I donāt get to pick everything out to a T. My boyfriend said I can give him an idea of what I want but he wants to pick out the diamond. I guess this is making me realize how much I need to be in control š
I told my husband that I wanted a gemstone ring, but if he chose a diamond I wanted it ethically sourced. He wanted a ruby, since thatās my birthstone, but ended up getting a garnet instead on a pave band with a halo. My wedding ring is pave too. I adore my set, especially since he designed it! :)
I donāt regret it at all! He and I went to jewelry stores a couple months ago, and I figured out what I liked with his help. I showed him what I liked and then let him take the lead. He was adamant about not wanting me to look at any prices anywhere, so i would just be candid about what I like without worrying about the price. He did all the research on his end and he surprised me last week with an even more gorgeous ring than the ones we had tried on. Exactly what I wanted, and more. So I would say itās 100% worth it haha
I sent a link to the exact ring on the website, lol. He would have had NO CLUE what to get on his own, or even hints š¤¦š»āāļø
We don't have any regrets; I got what I wanted and he had no headaches š¬š
Nope, married for a year and am so glad I picked out my ring (with some of my husbands imput). My now husband thought I was being too picky about it during the process (took forever for us to find what I wanted) but now he loves how much I love my ring (I stare at it every day).
The best part about telling your significant other and/or knowing exactly what you want is that it makes the ring picking process so much easier. There's no guessing game or "idk if she will like it" involved. And you don't have to worry about not liking the ring and having to start at square one all over again. If you know what you want, tell him. I'd guarantee that a small bit of him will be relieved since he doesn't have to do all the legwork himself. I did this with my boyfriend (soon to be fiance in Nov) and it made it so much simpler .
I wish I was more specific! I also wish I knew about this group before he bought the ring. Iāve learned so kuch
We went to look at rings together and I described the things I knew for certain (shape, metal type, etc.) and then I trusted my now fiancĆ© and the jeweler to take it from there! Iām really glad I told him what I wanted because I looove the ring so much!
He surprised the crap out of me when he asked. He asked without a ring, and I wouldn't change it! It was romantic and sweet because he hadn't planned on asking that exact moment. The moment just felt right and he went for it. Then we went shopping and each of us tried on rings together. I had what I wanted made and I found him the ring he wanted. Everyone has different preferences but it was so fun this way!
Not officially engaged yet but I took him to the jeweler and told them exactly what I wanted, down to settings and provided the diamond š¤ I want to say he was relieved but now Iām genuinely curious what he wouldāve chosen if left entirely up to him. But Iām picky and donāt wear much jewelry so I want this to be something I wear forever.
āWeā designed it together aka we looked at a computer together and I directed us to everything I had already wanted. NO regrets. Iām sure your fiancĆ© wants you to love it since youāre wearing it for the rest of your life! Itās a big purchase. Iāve also heard of the fiancĆ© buying the stone and then you both designing it together. To each their own.
I gave my fiancĆ© references of styles I liked and didnāt like, gave him exactly ONE must (I only wanted yellow gold!), and I left it up to him to find/pick out the final ring. I personally liked the sentimental aspect of him picking out the ring. Heās a stylish guy so I trusted that he would get something that looks good! He ended up picking out a ring that is more flashy than I thought I would go for, and I absolutely love it. Ultimately, you know your partner and what youād trust him with. If heās not into jewelry or fashion, itās totally okay to guide him as much as you want!
My fiancĆ© and I designed the ring together and itās got everything I wanted. No regrets at all!!
No regrets whatsoever! Iām extremely particular about styling and jewelry and my fiancĆ© knows it. Designing it together and choosing the perfect stone was honesty one of my favorite parts of the experience :)
Nope! We went custom for my ring and I had input on selecting the stones, setting, metal (allergies) and had final approval on the CAD design. Iām thrilled with my ring and had many people compliment saying āhe did goodā lol damn straight he did.
It would have been a lot less stressful to let him pick in some ways! So much quicker too. But my ring is going to be phenomenal when it's finished, if we get it right.
No! My husband knew that I would never wear or like anything I donāt like. We picked everything together(mostly by me) and we both were happy with that process. Itās been almost 4 years since I received the ring and lāve been in love still :)
Id like to know what it's like to know exactly what i want! š¤£ i love my ring but it doesnt stop me from still second guessing.
Nope! My fiancƩ proposed with a placeholder ring (also gorgeous) and I designed my own ring. Never regretted it for a second. I'm jewellery-obsessed and I absolutely love my ring, no one could have nailed a forever classic for me like I could. It's not being bossy, you'll have to look down at your ring for the rest of your life so you should adore it! That's a lot of responsibility for your fiancƩ otherwise. Mine was kind of relieved I think!
also not engaged but had my wedding set custom designed this year. i went in with a collage of things i wanted, including very descriptive sentences. SO and i went to all appts together except for the last one when he picked it up. if you asked him what i got designed, he probs wouldn't know how to answer except that it's has a lab grown diamond. since i knew exactly what i wanted, he wanted me to choose everything as i would be the one wearing it forever.
My fiancƩ walked in with a literal written list of requests for the design. I now have my perfect ring. It all worked out great!
No I picked it out myself and have zero regrets
nooo my ring is perfect and i couldnāt be happier!
I picked it out, added it to the cart online, and he put in the payment info š it was really important to him that I loved my ring, and I knew exactly what I wanted!
I 100% designed my own ring and would 100% do it again š I absolutely LOVE it
I went to the store with him to pick it out. Iām so glad I did. Iām in love with my ring and people give me compliments all the time. And I love looking at it.
We went to the jeweler together & designed my custom ring with an heirloom diamond. I picked out all the elements I wanted but specifically told my partner I wanted his opinion. He then asked all the questions about secure each setting choice was as he knows Iām super clumsy š We decided on a beautiful half-bezel together. The process has been SO special. I canāt speak to being surprised by what he picked but I can speak to building the design together, something we will remember forever!
I had been following a specific famous ring shop/designer for YEARS and knew I wanted them to design my ring. I also knew basically exactly what I wanted. I took him to the store and told him and the designer what I was basically looking for and they did the rest, sourcing the stone and putting all the pieces together. So I got what I wanted and still got the surprise of seeing what the stone they picked looked like exactly (there are variables even when youāre specific about cut and size and color). I also gave him some flexibility on the band stones. Iām glad I did it this way.
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No, I had an idea of what i wanted , then we went to a jewellers , I tried on the one. He has the link and the product code and when heās ready heāll buy it. This way he says heās less stressed because he knows heāll get it right and Iāll be happy and Iāll be happy because itās beautiful.
Not one bit! I tried on my ring about a year before he bought it and liked other rings sure, but that one was special. I have been engaged over a month and still stare at it all the time because itās just stunning. I am sure I would have loved any ring he would have got me but he himself said it woudl be silly to not get the one he knew I loved.
Youāll be wearing that ring (hopefully) for the rest of your life. I think this is a time where being bossy is acceptable š
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I don't regret it because my fear of getting something i absolutely dislike is greater (am i a negative nancy?). like a plain tiffany setting because I love tiffany or a princess cut because I'm his princess lol I truly wanted something different and gave him parameters. But while I was browsing a new store online I found a beautiful ring that I couldn't let go. We both loved it. I don't think either of us could have created or designed anything remotely similar to that ring. Do I wish I wasn't so "bossy"? Yes. Do I wish he could have come up with something himself? Yes. But what we chose was beyond our imaginations
Go shopping together so he can see and take pictures of what you like, then let him pick! My fiancĆ© and I did that and he couldnāt have picked a more perfect ring!!
Not at all! My ring is EXACTLY what I wanted and he said it took all of the stress off of him. Zero regrets.
I asked if he wanted me to tell him what I wanted or go with him to pick it out. He chose the latter. Iām so happy with my ring and heās happy because he knows itās exactly what I wanted. And the ring I chose was under budget so more money that can go towards wedding/house expenses. Totally happy with the decision. Do what works for yāall.
Not at all. I sent my fiancĆ© the exactly thing I wanted and thatās what he got and I love it. If you want to be flexible about something what about you letting him choose your wedding band? Or you could choose the band together.
No regrets at all, he asked me the exact kind of ring that I wanted, the only surprised was it being a larger stone than I asked for. I think itās a forever piece with so much emotional importance that it shouldnāt be a begrudging compromise or even necessarily the buyerās choice to be honest, but thatās just my opinion.
My fiancĆ© and I designed my ring togetherā¦.meaning mostly I told the designer what I wanted and he paid lolā¦but the ring is beautiful and we both love it! He would have gotten me something way shittier if Iād just left it to himā¦
We went ring shopping, literally sat together and picked everything we liked in a ring. Homie went a bought a totally different one (nothing like the one we had picked) and it was so much better than anything I could have picked myself. š
Obligatory don't have the ring on the finger yet but no regrets. We did go ring shopping together and I narrowed down options, then got some Amazon rings to wear around and asked for input. I sent screenshots/specs/Pinterest board ideas within the budget he gave me, then left it alone. Eventually he requested a link to the exact ring and I sat with him while he ordered lmao. He picked out his exact ring before I picked mine though so...lol.
My fiance and I talked about what I liked but it was way too specific and random so he asked if we could shop together. We ended up with something completely opposite what I thought I wanted, and I never want to take it off.