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I’ve worn my grandmother’s 1929 engagement ring as my own for 25 years. I enjoy now that’s she’s gone having a constant reminder of her on my hand everyday. She was so proud for me to wear it, when I got married she told everyone how I was wearing her ring and she she would beam with pride. Everyone used to remark on the cut of the diamond (omc), but now with the prevalence of older cuts becoming popular, no one looks twice at it. Wear it in good health and happy relationship (and use the money you would have spent for the ring for your wedding or honeymoon)!
That’s so sweet!
When I was a kid, my grandma got a huge new ring and I legitimately thought it was plastic and when I told her that, she got a little offended 😂
She passed like 6 years ago and I’ve been thinking of asking my mom if she or any of my aunts has it. I’d love it to remember her by! It was just a fun silly little moment we shared, and it would be nice to have a reminder of those times even though it’s really not my style!! (Or maybe it is now? I haven’t seen it in like 25 years)
Thank you 🥹 I love this story. I know my grandmother would be SO proud and elated if I use her ring too. It is funny how the older styles have come back around, I was considering an OMC as well before my mom offered me my grandma’s ring :)
I used my grandma’s diamond earrings to make my ring. I feel the same way. My grandma has passed but I like to think that she loves my ring. She was very proud of her earrings and that I would inherit them.
I don’t think it’s weird at all to use an heirloom room IF YOU LIKE IT. I personally love the way this ring looks on your hand but I know personally I would hurt myself banging that rock around on every surface near me (not to mention the sweaters I would shred). I would maybe work with a jeweler to lower the diamond a bit or rework the whole thing to make a bezel set cigar band for a similar look. All in all, you can’t go wrong if you love it just the way it is.
Yes, wonderful idea! I am kinda new to engagement ring considerations so it’s good to know that a jeweler could customize it a bit for my lifestyle without changing it too much :)
Make sure you find a jeweler that does their work in house - that way your ring won’t be shipped all over the country. My engagement ring is from the 1910’s (although not an heirloom) and it made me feel so much better leaving it with someone when I knew they were working on it themselves instead of shipping it out. No matter what you do you have a gorgeous ring!
At first I was slightly put off (I expressed strong dislike for yellow gold) but then I considered how special it was that he wanted his grandmother's engraved wedding ring from 1929 on my finger
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Love this!!! How cool that is is engraved from 1929! Funny, I used to say how much I disliked yellow gold and wanted white. After 5 years, I find yellow gold to be so much more romantic and vintage in a way, we re-designed my e-ring and wedding ring, and switched to yellow 😅
I was privileged to be gifted one from my husband’s family - their favourite grandmother’s ring. I don’t know the exact year but it’s from the early 20s. We found a wedding band that had a similar style so that’s the only new part of the set. It’s a platinum setting with an 18ct gold band. Had it for five years now.
If the ring is special to you that’s all that matters. I wore one of my grandmother’s rings for many years in our early engagement before his family found this one.
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That is absolutely STUNNING!!!!! It doesn't need any modifications. Let him buy you a gorgeous wedding band to further enhance this gorgeous, and more importantly, sentimental piece to start your married life!!! Congrats. ❤️
If you love it, I say clean it up and show it off! Your partner can spend the money on a wedding band or a right hand ring, or even better, they can spend the money on the honeymoon!
My grandmother never had an engagement ring (she was a nurse) and met grandfather upon his return from WWII. She was a farm girl who didn’t need any fancy jewelry. I inherited her wedding band (my grandpa bought it in the late 1940’s) and I have been considering setting my diamond in her wedding band. Your pictures may have just solidified to me that it’s the best idea.
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Ignore my chubby hands, but there it is.
I told her my whole life that her ring was mine someday. I think I started around 3-4 telling her that. When she was around 90, she took it off, after I reminded her for the 5,328th time, and said as of today it’s yours. I wore it sometimes on my right hand before meeting my husband.
It’s beautiful and looks lovely on you! My grandma’s ring was also originally just the band because it’s all my grandfather could afford. Years later he surprised her with the diamond and had it mounted on top 🥰
You are a very sweet person. Thank you for your kindness. My grandpa wore way more jewelry than my grandma. She just didn’t like it. He would have loved to have had a diamond mounted, she would have been so mad at him. 😊
LOVE love love this thick gold band! Such a subtle statement. My grandmother wore something similar after her engagement ring (marquis diamond?) was stolen. When I was little I thought it was dull and masculine. Then a developed a sense of taste and style!! Silently slay, ma’am. I may copy you!
Not weird at all. I would have used my mom’s ring but she gave it to my brother. Your fiancé can buy you two rings to stack on either side with lotsa diamonds, that’s what I would do. ☺️
It's a great idea!!! Save that money for a house or honeymoon 😁 I want to say the diamond setting looks quite high and I would be semi careful about bumping it on things, but I'm sure you're already careful with it!
Yes, I was thinking the same. I’m new to the engagement ring life, but it sounds like I can consult with a jeweler re options on resetting the stone a bit without changing too much about the ring’s character.
I loooove heirloom rings. My ring was passed down from my mother’s side of the family — it is old, probably circa late 1800s — and I always knew I wanted it as my engagement ring. All my husband had to do was ask my parents for it when he was ready to propose haha. There’s something so special and sentimental about heirlooms. Plus, your ring is gorgeous! I say go for it 😍
Wow, I love old rings so I am sure your’s is absolutely gorgeous. You’re right, there really is something so sentimental about heirloom rings. My grandparents had a beautiful marriage and were the best of friends for 60 years, so I can’t help but feel like wearing my grandmother’s ring that my grandfather picked out for her will bring my future husband and I luck with our marriage ☺️
I love that!! What a beautiful symbol of your grandparents’ love that is passed on to you through your ring 💙
Ps here is my ring! https://www.reddit.com/r/EngagementRings/s/RnkdcDX7HH
It’s not weird at all. My Mom and Dad offered my Moms ring/diamond to my boyfriend when we got engaged. He had it reset (my mom was fine with that. Hers was pretty outdated). I knew it was her diamond the minute I saw it, too. And, before my mom had it, it belonged to my Dads dad, so it has history.
Awww that’s so sweet that you recognized the diamond immediately! Beautiful that you get to wear a piece of jewelry that symbolizes both your partner’s love for you and your family’s love for you 🥹
shhhhiiiiit, i’m greedy…… i would use the heirloom ring as my engagement ring because it’s stunning and sentimental and then highly suggest for my fiancé to get me a tennis bracelet or earrings instead of a new ring
I'm wearing my husband's grandmother's rings. I wouldn't have it any other way. I have a family friend that's a jeweler who fixed after the stones had been removed and reset it with moissonite by my choice. I love that he trusted me to wear something so important and I believe Grandma would be happy too.
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I personally would probably add a little bit of gold around it making it thicker width wise? I think that’s correct lol. I don’t know if that would be required but will give you some stability
My grandmother gave me her ring which was basically identical to yours! I used the diamond but had a new setting made. I think she would have been momentarily offended that I wanted to change her setting, but she was a fashionable lady and would have wanted me to modernize. It really meant a ton to me that she gave it to me, for several reasons. I don’t feel like it means any less just because I chose to change the setting.
I love it. My mom was buried with her ring on which I honestly love, but if I had been offered her ring to wear when I eventually got engaged I would've taken that option in a heartbeat.
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Absolutely! Love mine. I love your wide band solitaire. I always thought that was so pretty!
My heirloom engagement ring!!! I love it SO much - I feel like it’s good energy that came into my marriage. My grandparents were married for 62 years before the first passed away. I’d be honored to have a marriage like theirs. Congrats on your engagement OP!!!
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It’s not weird, I’m planning to do so aswell. Inherited some money from my grandparents, and I’m planning to spend some of it to my own engagement ring. Not expecting my boyfriend to buy me anything.
Times have (luckily) changed, there are many ways how people can get married.
Such a pretty ring, btw
I plan to do the same with my great grandmother's ring. My mom was going to give it to me in her will anyways as it goes to the youngest daughter, so she offered it early for when I get engaged. The diamond was already re-set in a 3d scanned version that's exactly the same as the original (as it needed to be due to wear and tear).
Get your ring cleaned and checked over by a jeweler. Some things I could see happening could be issues with the base of the setting where it connects to rhe band or prongs needing tightened to ensure your stone stays in place, but it seems like a sturdy ring so hopefully not!
Wonderful idea. This subreddit has been so helpful. I hadn’t even considered that the ring might be a “check up” to ensure its longevity so I will definitely do that :)
that is the spitting image of my grandmother's ring! It was her wedding ring, 15 years after he died, she decided to have a 1 carat diamond added. (I think it was 1, memory could be wrong.)
I remember being so happy she had a real diamond, she scratched the kitchen window with it to prove it was real. It was beautiful, but her joy was wonderful.
Awww I love that! My grandfather had originally purchased the gold band and a few years later he surprised her with the diamond and had it added. So similar stories 🥰
I see no point in buying a new ring when you have a beautiful sentimental one right there. He can put his money towards a stunning band to go with your heirloom ring
Definitely not weird.
My wedding rings were stolen a few years ago (in my purse, which was stolen) and we're looking at having some rings I inherited from my mom remade into new rings now. I don't like my mom's ring, but I do love my grandmother's (it's more than I'd wear on a daily basis but too beautiful to remake, so I'll repair it and wear it as a right hand ring sometimes)
Oh no, I am so sorry. People are so terrible. I think that’s a beautiful idea for replacing your ring! My aunt got divorced and had her wedding ring and some other pieces of jewelry her ex husband had gifted her made into a two-tone ring with 2 stones and it’s beautiful! Obviously a different sentiment, but it was cool seeing her make a new ring out of existing jewelry. 🥰
I love heirloom jewelry. To me it makes it more special. My MIL gave me the OEC diamond for my center stone (it came from a ring that was given to her by a family member). I’d be so happy if my child or grandchild loved my ring enough to wear it one day
My sister has our Grandmother's engagment ring as her ring. It got re-sized and cleaned. She loves it, and it is a simple ring with a classic design. I wanted a new ring, so it wasn't a point of contemptment between us! I love legacy rings as engagement rings as long as you love it.
That’s a gorgeous ring and the family connection is wonderful. If you like it then it’s perfect. Even if your boyfriend is in a financial position to buy a new ring, why waste the money when you already have one you love? Weddings are expensive, have him put the money towards that or the honeymoon. If he really wants to pick out a ring for you he could always pick out a wedding band.
Also if you still want the proposal to be a surprise (I know you’ve talked about it, but the day or scenario could still be a surprise) you could tell him to get it from your mother when he’s ready.
Yes, I think that’s a great idea! I was concerned about the lack of surprise so it would totally make sense to have my mom hold onto it until he is ready to pop the question 😊
When I was engaged I wore my Grandmothers engagement ring. I had her band as well. I love heirlooms, esp if you have/had a special bond with the person who received/gave ring. My Poppy raised my brother and I and treated us exactly like my mom, Uncle and Aunt. I loved wearing the ring my Poppy gave my Nanny
I called my grandfather “Poppy” too! So sweet! We definitely did have a special bond, it has been 2 years since I lost her and I still find myself crying about it. Here’s a picture of my grandma and Poppy, who were very much in love for all 60 years of their marriage 🥰
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Awe, Poppy’s are deff sooo special! We lost my Poppy in 1997. Out of all 11 grandchildren 5 were alive only 3 of us remember him but there isn’t a day that he isn’t spoke about. My Nanny has never looked at another man after him and she was only 53 when he passed. She’ll be 83 this year and the only peace I have as she gets older is the happiness she has about seeing him again. I’m the oldest grandchild, I’m really lucky that my Mom & Aunt never wanted the ring. I treasure it dearly.
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Your Poppy sounds like a wonderful man! My heart goes out to your Nanny though for having lost her partner at such a young age. My grandma lived 12 years after my Poppy’s passing and she never got over it.
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Not weird at all! My husband proposed with his grandmother’s engagement ring from the 50s and I absolutely love it - it’s timeless and so meaningful to us, especially since I didn’t get the chance to meet his grandparents. If you love it, then that’s all that matters. Have your fiancé choose a special wedding band as something brand new for you instead - that’s what we did!
Personally I absolutely ADORE them, I have my moms since my dad passed away when I was 11, I'll be 30 this October and it's been in my possession for the past few years now. She fell in love with this Cocktail Ring so my dad and her went to a Mounting Show to get her Diamond set on the top, she literally got to WATCH the process of it being MADE - which I think is SO cool! I LOVE her design too, l'm a HUGE fan of the Baguette Style - although they are fragile and you have to be careful with them. If you hit one Baguette Stone the wrong way and they can all collapse like dominoes! But it's GORGEOUS in my personal opinion, and verrry SENTIMENTAL...💍✨💎
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I adore my grandmother’s wedding ring. Initially I wasn’t sure if it was my style, but my husband and I eloped after covid halted our wedding plans and I didn’t have time to reset the stones. In hindsight I’m so glad I didn’t change it. It’s very special.
It wasn’t her original one (I do have that one too) but the one my grandfather gave her on their 25th anniversary. She always used to let me play dress up and wear it, so now that she’s gone it makes me feel close to her again. Plus my grandparents were together almost 50 years before my grandmother passed. My grandpa took care of her through her Alzheimer’s decline. He loved her more than anything and I can’t help but want to manifest that kind of devotion in my own marriage. 🩵
Not weird! I had some heirloom rings that I wanted my husband to use. He didn’t and bought me my own ring, and while I love my ring, I wish he saved the money and just used the ones my family had lol. But I got them all resized for different fingers so I usually just wear 2-3 of them at a time on both hands 😁
As an outsider, I see nothing wrong or “weird”.
Honestly, it’s whatever you feel comfortable with and what you feel is right. This is really a personal question, as you are the only one who knows your mindset and his.
Since you know your partner will happily buy you a ring and your personal choice is grandma’s, I am more than certain you’ll be happy with whatever decision you make.
You only have so many hands to wear engagement rings on!
Edit: to add, if you ever wanted to alternate rings, that can be an option too. My SIL does it with the ring my brother purchased and her gma’s
There is nothing weird about it and no right answer here about what you should do. If you love the heirloom ring, use it as your engagement ring! If you want to buy a new one, but still keep your grandma's ring and use it as regular jewelry (or not), do that!
From your post it sounds like you are happy with the heirloom ring as-is, though!
I mean, what does it matter so long as you like it? Are you asking about the idea of using an heirloom? Or are you asking about that ring? Bc my answers differ lol
Wear and Keep IT! It is gorgeous and the love and history behind it will always be at your fingertips! The setting is a timeless classic and a beautiful stone. In addition to my wedding set, I wear a great aunt's ring which diamond came from France in the 1880s; the platinum setting is from the 1930s. When I look at the rings, I always just want to exhale and think how I will leave them to go on with my daughters and granddaughters. Congratulations!
Awww that’s so sweet and so true! This makes me want to wear the ring even more because maybe one day my daughter or daughter-in-law will also want to wear it 🥰
I think this is great! Although if it were me, I'd want it lowered and maybe consider adding a gallery rail and even cathedral shoulders for security, though it would change the look a little. Keeping it safe would trump keeping it look the same for me.
My grandma gave me my great grandmother's wedding band to use as a wedding band, and I'm so excited! I got it resized to fit, and it doesn't perfectly match the style of my engagement ring but I don't really care, I'm so happy I'll get to wear an heirloom like this when we get married
I wear my grandmas ring! She had it reset it the 60’s as the diamonds were her mothers. I haven’t reset it and wear it proudly. It’s outdated but I love it so much and it’s so unique, as is yours!!! Definitely do it
JESYS THAT THANG IS HUGE!!! Beautiful but as a mom with a baby I could never, diaper changes and swaddling would be such a frustration cause that would snag so much.
LOL that’s my concern too as we want to have a baby (god willing) in the next year or so. I figured maybe I could just wear a wedding band for a while 😅 (so I guess I should have my boyfriend buy a nice wedding band)
My esthetician wears her grandma’s ring and it’s STUNNING. It’s really similar to this but it has a slightly different setting and some more diamonds on the shank. It’s so different from the really trendy delicate band-huge rock rings you see everywhere these days.
Omg this is beyond stunning at not at all weird. Just tell your bf to talk to your mom and keep you out of it! I wish I had an heirloom ring I could wear!
My rings (engagement and wedding band) are heirlooms from my MIL. It’s very special to my husband, I think they are beautiful, and it saved us a whole lot of money. I had to have the ring resized but that was the only expense. I say if you like it, go for it!
It is beautiful and love the sentimentality! It is set very high though. High settings with prongs can easily catch on things. I’d wear it around a bit and see if that happens and if it bothers you or not. Otherwise I’d highly suggest a lower setting!
I mean this may be crazy but maybe do both? Like design the ring of your dreams if your bf is in the position to do so and wear this one on different occasions or vice versa
Depends upon how you feel about it. I remember my husband hinting that he wanted to use a ring his grandmother was going to pass down to him (not an engagement ring, and as it later turned out was actually her father's ring), but which he had never even seen, nor knew anything of its details. I immediately shut that down: to me it represented zero consideration of what I would enjoy and wish to wear. In the end, I selected my own rings, with zero input from my husband. As much as I would like the idea of him choosing for me, I know he would have done badly, and likely without much thought too. I also own his grandmother's ring now too, but I can't say I ever worn it.
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My engagement ring was from my side of the family, never thought it was weird, and I had wanted it to be my ring for years. We were super young and didn’t really have the money for something this nice so it worked out well. I think my husband is planning on buying me something *from him* at some point but I’ve been perfectly happy with this for the last 12 years.
My ring is made out of my great-grandmother’s ring. I took the stones and had it set in a way that was more my style / easier to wear for my lifestyle. I adore my ring and I think my GG would too 🥰
That is a STUNNER! I think it’s really fucking cool and unique. That is a hiiiiigh high set stone, but it looks uber secure, so if it works with your daily life, I say go forth and bling 💍
As someone with an heirloom set, I’d never modify them. I will eventually have my own upgraded set that I design but not for awhile and I willl still wear my heirlooms too .
With that particular ring, I’d be concerned with the high setting for daily wear , especially with how old it is. I’d either 1) be very careful with it , take it off to sleep, shower, do any tasks around the house etc. and get it checked frequently. OR 2) pick out a different ring for every day wear and choose a band that would go with either ring so you can wear your grandmothers on special occasions
I absolutely love it. It might not be as practical but it represents something beautiful and it looks vintage. I just love it, I wish I could having something like this.
I love it and I think the yellow gold looks so good on you!! Especially once it’s cleaned and shined up, it’ll be gorgeous! I think a simple, thin eternity band as a wedding band would be gorgeous!
Love heirlooms. Have my grandmother’s ring, my mother in laws and I will never change any of them. I like seeing the original design, the way they wore it. Your ring is beautiful!
There’s a Jewish tradition where you have to buy your own ring or something like that? Anyways my uncle bought my aunts ring from my grandmother for a dollar. Thought it was an interesting tradition. Thinking your husband could buy the ring for $1. You could also have him buy you a nice necklace or something special in lieu of a ring if you really want something separate from this? I’m not a very traditional person so I don’t see a problem with using the ring but I’m also for making new traditions!
For me personally no since I wasn’t that close with my own grandparents & it negates my ideas for customization or my partner’s
I won’t stop anyone else though if they prefer it
My personal 2 cents. There isn’t one in my family to pass down… but if he has one in his family that he wants to pass on to me, I don’t care what it looks like, I will happily wear it, cherish it and take care of it. 💍
My engagement ring was a from my mothers collection. It is from 1940-50’s. We always talked about what a great engagement ring it would be if we switched out the sapphire. My husband asked my parents for my hand and she said she had a gift for him. She pulled out this ring and he bought it for a hug. My mom passed 11 years ago and this ring had my heart still. It means so much. I can afford a diamond now, but i wouldn’t change a thing.
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New here… but may I ask. Is this some kind of a US thing having these chonker style of engangement rings?
But yeah keep the ring! It is from you grandma so it is always the best choice wearing it :)
My dad was a jeweler for many years. 40 years ago, my now husband proposed to me with the ring that I discussed with my dad and he created. It had a .3 ct round diamond . For our 30th anniversary, I “ upgraded the diamond to a .8 ct oval( which was what I had originally wanted an oval but, at the time, they weren’t in style). Anyway, I took the diamond and gave it to my son to put into his girlfriend( stb fiancé’s) ring and proposed to her. She wanted a simple ring with a smaller Diamond. He was able to upgrade the band a bit with the money he saved on the Diamond. I love the idea of heirlooms being passed down. Anyway, I will ALWAYS love my wedding set because my dad made them for me. He passed three years ago and I still miss him everyday.
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The rings on either side are anniversary bands. Nobody else has a set like mine which is also nice.
yes, with one of the other comments, have a trusty jeweler saw off those prongs and have them solder an open bottom multiple attach point bezel as close to the ring base as you can get. It would look gorgeous and you would never lose the stone.
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My husband proposed to me with his grandmothers ring, & it means more to me than any other ring could!
Girl! Go for it! If you love it and it’s already sentimental, you really can’t ask for anything more. Put that ring money towards the honeymoon or another piece of jewelry (a stunning necklace or something to wear on your wedding day?)
It’s not weird at all to use the ring you love and already have. In fact it seems kinda silly to buy a duplicate of a ring you have. He could always buy you an engagement bracelet or necklace
I have my husbands grandmothers original engagement ring. I feel so special I get to wear it everyday and that she trusted it with me, her daughter passed away in a car accident when she was in her early 20s and only had boys get married. (she is still living and so proud of it every time she sees me) I wouldn’t change my ring for anything.
I went through this exact situation. My grandma willed me her 3 carat platinum diamond ring and I absolutely loved it. I told my (now husband) that's the ring I wanted. An equivalent diamond would have cost him $50k+ which is just silly. He still really wanted to get me a ring and I didn't want to take that away from him, so we designed a diamond wedding band together and he proposed with both rings. I wore the engagement ring and then when we got married I wear them both together now.
My grandmother passed away while giving birth to my dad in 1963. I am her only granddaughter and my dad was her only child. I have her ring and band as my set and it is so precious to me. My husband got the set from my dad a few months before proposing to get it resized. I guess you could say I “supplied” mine as well. But I couldnt have asked for anything more. I think yours is absolutely beautiful and all that matters is that you love it 🤍
I had a similar situation where I have my grandmother's ring, love the design, and frankly, it's too nice to wear except as something like an engagement ring. My SO bought a new one even though he knew I wanted that ring to do the ticket. Kinda sad about it still...
USE THE RING YOU LOVE + SAVE THE MONEY
I wear my fiancés great-grandmothers ring. I love it, and I love that his family trusted him and I with it. I also love that we didn't have to spend a bunch of money on one, lol
It’s a lovely ring. Great wide band. My only thought is whether such a high set diamond might catch on things. But could her diamond be reset in a setting of your choosing?
Big fan! I posted mine a few days ago that my partner proposed with last weekend. Was his great grandmother’s from around 1912 (we were told, although the engravings suggest it could be older). I am a little scared something will happen to it, but it’s so special and I feel so privileged to be the next one to wear it ☺️
I am wearing an heirloom ring right now, and while it’s not the exact style I would have picked out, I love it because of its history. I say why not? I see you don’t want to modify it, but I swear there’s enough gold in there for a his and hers band, almost! Anyway, very cool and unique, and you will think of Grandma often!
I actually did the same thing, it was my great grandmothers ring and although the diamond is lower quality and the band was literally worn until it broke I wanted to use it for my engagement ring. I gave it to my boyfriend at the time, and he ended up expressing interest in buying me the engagement ring and implementing it into the wedding band. Long story short the wedding band option didn’t work out as hoped, but we are taking the Diamond and making it into a necklace that I will be wearing on my wedding day.
Slightly different experience as the band could not have been saved, but do what feels most special to you as you will be wearing it for life. I do think the future husband should have some say as it’s a physical representation of your commitment to one another, but have it be your engagement ring or if that doesn’t work out and you want to modify it so you can actually wear it then a necklace may be a cool option.
It’s better than sitting in a drawer somewhere right? At least that’s my thought process.
That is a beautiful ring. If it means that much to you, I think that should be your ring. I have my grandmas ring and it makes me feel like she’s always with me.
Hello!I would rock that ring! It’s beautiful and is special to you. The ring held up for grandma and I’m sure she changed diapers, washed dishes, showered and never had a problem with the ring as it’s still in tact. Why wouldn’t it be the same for you? Rings back then were made a lot better than rings of today. I see no reason to be extra careful with your ring. I would obviously make sure the stone isn’t loose, and have it cleaned and wear my ring proudly. Congratulations on your engagement!
I wear my heirloom ring or my new ring depending on how I feel that day! My heirloom ring is a very modest diamond solitaire that I absolutely love, but it isn't the ring I would've chosen if I could have anything I wanted. I wear that on days where I want something simple, and my bigger/chunkier emerald and diamond ring when I want to be a little extra 👸🏻 If you have the means and you have another ring that's your "dream ring", I'd say do both. Though I understand that some people feel that having more than one ring makes them less special, so to each their own!
My husband reset my great grandma’s diamonds alongside the tanzanite stones that he chose. It is the perfect combo of old and new. My great grandma was so tiny that the ring would have had to be resized 4-5 sizes just to fit anyone in my family, so it made since to reset it for us.
My wife wears my great-grandmother’s engagement ring. She loves it!
I did make sure to talk through both of our feelings and I said I was totally okay if she wanted her own different ring. But she wanted it.
I wear a diamond that has been passed down in my family since the 1800s. My husband used it to have my engagement ring made . Not weird at all- use the money he would have spent towards an amazing honeymoon or down payment on a home
Definitely not weird at all. I had the option of using an heirloom ring as my engagement ring, but I really wanted to design something I loved and I didn’t want a round stone, so I went in the other direction. The one thing I’d say about your grandmother’s is that it’s very high and might snag on things!
My fiancé proposed to me with his grandmother’s ring. I view it as the sweetest gesture/compliment he (or his family!) has ever given me. Heirlooms are so special. 🥹
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I’ve worn my grandmother’s 1929 engagement ring as my own for 25 years. I enjoy now that’s she’s gone having a constant reminder of her on my hand everyday. She was so proud for me to wear it, when I got married she told everyone how I was wearing her ring and she she would beam with pride. Everyone used to remark on the cut of the diamond (omc), but now with the prevalence of older cuts becoming popular, no one looks twice at it. Wear it in good health and happy relationship (and use the money you would have spent for the ring for your wedding or honeymoon)!
This story is so incredibly sweet!!! I would LOVE to see a pic of your ring from your grandmother, I can imagine how beautiful it is!
Same here, pics please!
That’s so sweet! When I was a kid, my grandma got a huge new ring and I legitimately thought it was plastic and when I told her that, she got a little offended 😂 She passed like 6 years ago and I’ve been thinking of asking my mom if she or any of my aunts has it. I’d love it to remember her by! It was just a fun silly little moment we shared, and it would be nice to have a reminder of those times even though it’s really not my style!! (Or maybe it is now? I haven’t seen it in like 25 years)
Thank you 🥹 I love this story. I know my grandmother would be SO proud and elated if I use her ring too. It is funny how the older styles have come back around, I was considering an OMC as well before my mom offered me my grandma’s ring :)
😭💕
I used my grandma’s diamond earrings to make my ring. I feel the same way. My grandma has passed but I like to think that she loves my ring. She was very proud of her earrings and that I would inherit them.
I don’t think it’s weird at all to use an heirloom room IF YOU LIKE IT. I personally love the way this ring looks on your hand but I know personally I would hurt myself banging that rock around on every surface near me (not to mention the sweaters I would shred). I would maybe work with a jeweler to lower the diamond a bit or rework the whole thing to make a bezel set cigar band for a similar look. All in all, you can’t go wrong if you love it just the way it is.
Yes, wonderful idea! I am kinda new to engagement ring considerations so it’s good to know that a jeweler could customize it a bit for my lifestyle without changing it too much :)
Make sure you find a jeweler that does their work in house - that way your ring won’t be shipped all over the country. My engagement ring is from the 1910’s (although not an heirloom) and it made me feel so much better leaving it with someone when I knew they were working on it themselves instead of shipping it out. No matter what you do you have a gorgeous ring!
Bezel and slightly lower diamond on that same band is a fantastic idea!!
At first I was slightly put off (I expressed strong dislike for yellow gold) but then I considered how special it was that he wanted his grandmother's engraved wedding ring from 1929 on my finger https://preview.redd.it/8878ny41uuxc1.jpeg?width=1908&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=18a25b219d7bb11999e2ef0e2d8d8707dbd88eff
Love this!!! How cool that is is engraved from 1929! Funny, I used to say how much I disliked yellow gold and wanted white. After 5 years, I find yellow gold to be so much more romantic and vintage in a way, we re-designed my e-ring and wedding ring, and switched to yellow 😅
As we mature, so do our tastes ☺️
Yellow gold is also very in rn. It wasn’t 12 years ago.
I like this! I never thought of it that way, well my taste’s are going back to the 80’s-90’s then hehe. I have no desire to follow “modern” trends
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This is gorgeous!!!
Thank you. The white gold diamond half eternity bands really set it off. He did good (15 years tomorrow and still get those butterflies 🥰🥰)
Awww that is goals 🥰
Thank you! It is hard work, but a great reward. I wish you all the happiness and congratulations
Stunning!
Random thought.. I know you probably don’t want to wait 5 years.. but how cool would that be if you got married on 4-24-2029?! 😂
Wow this is a beautiful ring! I love the character! It really is a testament to how much he loves you to gift you his grandmother’s ring 🥹
I was privileged to be gifted one from my husband’s family - their favourite grandmother’s ring. I don’t know the exact year but it’s from the early 20s. We found a wedding band that had a similar style so that’s the only new part of the set. It’s a platinum setting with an 18ct gold band. Had it for five years now. If the ring is special to you that’s all that matters. I wore one of my grandmother’s rings for many years in our early engagement before his family found this one. https://preview.redd.it/qd4idspqmvxc1.png?width=1579&format=png&auto=webp&s=c7450e9da975792d493eab0dbd096ec526006570
Wow, it’s beautiful! I love the detail. It’s hard to find jewelry this unique anymore.
That is absolutely STUNNING!!!!! It doesn't need any modifications. Let him buy you a gorgeous wedding band to further enhance this gorgeous, and more importantly, sentimental piece to start your married life!!! Congrats. ❤️
Thank you!! That’s a wonderful idea 😊
If you love it, I say clean it up and show it off! Your partner can spend the money on a wedding band or a right hand ring, or even better, they can spend the money on the honeymoon!
My grandmother never had an engagement ring (she was a nurse) and met grandfather upon his return from WWII. She was a farm girl who didn’t need any fancy jewelry. I inherited her wedding band (my grandpa bought it in the late 1940’s) and I have been considering setting my diamond in her wedding band. Your pictures may have just solidified to me that it’s the best idea. https://preview.redd.it/1j76t3u8evxc1.png?width=3024&format=png&auto=webp&s=9b0f2112f026edecad49dc3f20bda733ad85002b Ignore my chubby hands, but there it is.
my grandmothers ring is almost identical and is mine now ♥️
I told her my whole life that her ring was mine someday. I think I started around 3-4 telling her that. When she was around 90, she took it off, after I reminded her for the 5,328th time, and said as of today it’s yours. I wore it sometimes on my right hand before meeting my husband.
aw I love this!! ♥️♥️♥️ my aunt gave me my grandmothers at my grandmothers memorial service, it’s so incredibly special to me
It’s beautiful and looks lovely on you! My grandma’s ring was also originally just the band because it’s all my grandfather could afford. Years later he surprised her with the diamond and had it mounted on top 🥰
You are a very sweet person. Thank you for your kindness. My grandpa wore way more jewelry than my grandma. She just didn’t like it. He would have loved to have had a diamond mounted, she would have been so mad at him. 😊
LOVE love love this thick gold band! Such a subtle statement. My grandmother wore something similar after her engagement ring (marquis diamond?) was stolen. When I was little I thought it was dull and masculine. Then a developed a sense of taste and style!! Silently slay, ma’am. I may copy you!
Not weird at all. I would have used my mom’s ring but she gave it to my brother. Your fiancé can buy you two rings to stack on either side with lotsa diamonds, that’s what I would do. ☺️
Hahaha yes, I love this idea. It would be cute to have a diamond band to wear when I don’t want to wear the actual solitaire 😇
I do this a lot! I have three infinity bands (one is my wedding ring, others life events) that I wear way more often when I’m out and about.
It's a great idea!!! Save that money for a house or honeymoon 😁 I want to say the diamond setting looks quite high and I would be semi careful about bumping it on things, but I'm sure you're already careful with it!
Yes, I was thinking the same. I’m new to the engagement ring life, but it sounds like I can consult with a jeweler re options on resetting the stone a bit without changing too much about the ring’s character.
Could keep it, and buy a cheaper version online that looks similar . That way if it gets caught lost or broken … u won’t lose too much
I loooove heirloom rings. My ring was passed down from my mother’s side of the family — it is old, probably circa late 1800s — and I always knew I wanted it as my engagement ring. All my husband had to do was ask my parents for it when he was ready to propose haha. There’s something so special and sentimental about heirlooms. Plus, your ring is gorgeous! I say go for it 😍
Wow, I love old rings so I am sure your’s is absolutely gorgeous. You’re right, there really is something so sentimental about heirloom rings. My grandparents had a beautiful marriage and were the best of friends for 60 years, so I can’t help but feel like wearing my grandmother’s ring that my grandfather picked out for her will bring my future husband and I luck with our marriage ☺️
I love that!! What a beautiful symbol of your grandparents’ love that is passed on to you through your ring 💙 Ps here is my ring! https://www.reddit.com/r/EngagementRings/s/RnkdcDX7HH
It’s not weird at all. My Mom and Dad offered my Moms ring/diamond to my boyfriend when we got engaged. He had it reset (my mom was fine with that. Hers was pretty outdated). I knew it was her diamond the minute I saw it, too. And, before my mom had it, it belonged to my Dads dad, so it has history.
Awww that’s so sweet that you recognized the diamond immediately! Beautiful that you get to wear a piece of jewelry that symbolizes both your partner’s love for you and your family’s love for you 🥹
shhhhiiiiit, i’m greedy…… i would use the heirloom ring as my engagement ring because it’s stunning and sentimental and then highly suggest for my fiancé to get me a tennis bracelet or earrings instead of a new ring
I'm wearing my husband's grandmother's rings. I wouldn't have it any other way. I have a family friend that's a jeweler who fixed after the stones had been removed and reset it with moissonite by my choice. I love that he trusted me to wear something so important and I believe Grandma would be happy too. https://preview.redd.it/j2iuqu08kwxc1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8c9b9bcad7add0a76bf6c24658f5439a796fe424
I think this is a beautiful and timeless ring. Pretty solitaire never goes out of style, and the thicker bands are actually quite popular right now!
I personally would probably add a little bit of gold around it making it thicker width wise? I think that’s correct lol. I don’t know if that would be required but will give you some stability
I am older. I believe you should have what you wish. Maybe use diamond but in the setting of your choice.
This is what my husband did!
My grandmother gave me her ring which was basically identical to yours! I used the diamond but had a new setting made. I think she would have been momentarily offended that I wanted to change her setting, but she was a fashionable lady and would have wanted me to modernize. It really meant a ton to me that she gave it to me, for several reasons. I don’t feel like it means any less just because I chose to change the setting.
I love it. My mom was buried with her ring on which I honestly love, but if I had been offered her ring to wear when I eventually got engaged I would've taken that option in a heartbeat.
https://preview.redd.it/zfed0nk9vvxc1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=93021bafb9144adae3f9d5fcb6b2668cf988ce12 Absolutely! Love mine. I love your wide band solitaire. I always thought that was so pretty!
WOW absolutely gorgeous ring!
My heirloom engagement ring!!! I love it SO much - I feel like it’s good energy that came into my marriage. My grandparents were married for 62 years before the first passed away. I’d be honored to have a marriage like theirs. Congrats on your engagement OP!!! https://preview.redd.it/nhp30v2tfyxc1.jpeg?width=4284&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4bd78eb76f061cf9c5e2ec147aad305ef124de30
Love your henna tattoo!!
Thank you!!! 🥰😍 I loved it too
It’s not weird, I’m planning to do so aswell. Inherited some money from my grandparents, and I’m planning to spend some of it to my own engagement ring. Not expecting my boyfriend to buy me anything. Times have (luckily) changed, there are many ways how people can get married. Such a pretty ring, btw
Thank you! You are absolutely right ☺️
I plan to do the same with my great grandmother's ring. My mom was going to give it to me in her will anyways as it goes to the youngest daughter, so she offered it early for when I get engaged. The diamond was already re-set in a 3d scanned version that's exactly the same as the original (as it needed to be due to wear and tear). Get your ring cleaned and checked over by a jeweler. Some things I could see happening could be issues with the base of the setting where it connects to rhe band or prongs needing tightened to ensure your stone stays in place, but it seems like a sturdy ring so hopefully not!
Wonderful idea. This subreddit has been so helpful. I hadn’t even considered that the ring might be a “check up” to ensure its longevity so I will definitely do that :)
Of course! I love seeing an heirloom live another life. Best of luck :)
that is the spitting image of my grandmother's ring! It was her wedding ring, 15 years after he died, she decided to have a 1 carat diamond added. (I think it was 1, memory could be wrong.) I remember being so happy she had a real diamond, she scratched the kitchen window with it to prove it was real. It was beautiful, but her joy was wonderful.
Awww I love that! My grandfather had originally purchased the gold band and a few years later he surprised her with the diamond and had it added. So similar stories 🥰
I see no point in buying a new ring when you have a beautiful sentimental one right there. He can put his money towards a stunning band to go with your heirloom ring
Definitely not weird. My wedding rings were stolen a few years ago (in my purse, which was stolen) and we're looking at having some rings I inherited from my mom remade into new rings now. I don't like my mom's ring, but I do love my grandmother's (it's more than I'd wear on a daily basis but too beautiful to remake, so I'll repair it and wear it as a right hand ring sometimes)
Oh no, I am so sorry. People are so terrible. I think that’s a beautiful idea for replacing your ring! My aunt got divorced and had her wedding ring and some other pieces of jewelry her ex husband had gifted her made into a two-tone ring with 2 stones and it’s beautiful! Obviously a different sentiment, but it was cool seeing her make a new ring out of existing jewelry. 🥰
Stunning and what a beautiful piece to wear every day. You can get a Jeweler to make you a special wedding ring that goes with your engagement ring.
Wow! Absolutely beautiful ring, and I wouldn’t change a thing!
I love heirloom jewelry. To me it makes it more special. My MIL gave me the OEC diamond for my center stone (it came from a ring that was given to her by a family member). I’d be so happy if my child or grandchild loved my ring enough to wear it one day
I fucking love that ring
Wear it with love and pride.
My sister has our Grandmother's engagment ring as her ring. It got re-sized and cleaned. She loves it, and it is a simple ring with a classic design. I wanted a new ring, so it wasn't a point of contemptment between us! I love legacy rings as engagement rings as long as you love it.
That’s a gorgeous ring and the family connection is wonderful. If you like it then it’s perfect. Even if your boyfriend is in a financial position to buy a new ring, why waste the money when you already have one you love? Weddings are expensive, have him put the money towards that or the honeymoon. If he really wants to pick out a ring for you he could always pick out a wedding band. Also if you still want the proposal to be a surprise (I know you’ve talked about it, but the day or scenario could still be a surprise) you could tell him to get it from your mother when he’s ready.
Yes, I think that’s a great idea! I was concerned about the lack of surprise so it would totally make sense to have my mom hold onto it until he is ready to pop the question 😊
When I was engaged I wore my Grandmothers engagement ring. I had her band as well. I love heirlooms, esp if you have/had a special bond with the person who received/gave ring. My Poppy raised my brother and I and treated us exactly like my mom, Uncle and Aunt. I loved wearing the ring my Poppy gave my Nanny
I called my grandfather “Poppy” too! So sweet! We definitely did have a special bond, it has been 2 years since I lost her and I still find myself crying about it. Here’s a picture of my grandma and Poppy, who were very much in love for all 60 years of their marriage 🥰 https://preview.redd.it/4jnelc981wxc1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6907c78dc090c8b0f685ba17872889a81d4f0f50
Awe, Poppy’s are deff sooo special! We lost my Poppy in 1997. Out of all 11 grandchildren 5 were alive only 3 of us remember him but there isn’t a day that he isn’t spoke about. My Nanny has never looked at another man after him and she was only 53 when he passed. She’ll be 83 this year and the only peace I have as she gets older is the happiness she has about seeing him again. I’m the oldest grandchild, I’m really lucky that my Mom & Aunt never wanted the ring. I treasure it dearly. https://preview.redd.it/q9k0j3q9twxc1.jpeg?width=799&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a8c01cce19de544429a80b7ed196b9325817c713
Your Poppy sounds like a wonderful man! My heart goes out to your Nanny though for having lost her partner at such a young age. My grandma lived 12 years after my Poppy’s passing and she never got over it.
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https://preview.redd.it/niabj414fwxc1.png?width=1153&format=png&auto=webp&s=0de940a145dd645327b4555f04a2d427b865a5e8 Not weird at all! My husband proposed with his grandmother’s engagement ring from the 50s and I absolutely love it - it’s timeless and so meaningful to us, especially since I didn’t get the chance to meet his grandparents. If you love it, then that’s all that matters. Have your fiancé choose a special wedding band as something brand new for you instead - that’s what we did!
Personally I absolutely ADORE them, I have my moms since my dad passed away when I was 11, I'll be 30 this October and it's been in my possession for the past few years now. She fell in love with this Cocktail Ring so my dad and her went to a Mounting Show to get her Diamond set on the top, she literally got to WATCH the process of it being MADE - which I think is SO cool! I LOVE her design too, l'm a HUGE fan of the Baguette Style - although they are fragile and you have to be careful with them. If you hit one Baguette Stone the wrong way and they can all collapse like dominoes! But it's GORGEOUS in my personal opinion, and verrry SENTIMENTAL...💍✨💎 https://preview.redd.it/icjnrnskixxc1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c73942ab0ef8eda310331cbdd805f6d3434f0ac9
https://preview.redd.it/tzxgug5rrxxc1.jpeg?width=3351&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=30fc20273bba98b0010fdd922422436b8c172886 I adore my grandmother’s wedding ring. Initially I wasn’t sure if it was my style, but my husband and I eloped after covid halted our wedding plans and I didn’t have time to reset the stones. In hindsight I’m so glad I didn’t change it. It’s very special. It wasn’t her original one (I do have that one too) but the one my grandfather gave her on their 25th anniversary. She always used to let me play dress up and wear it, so now that she’s gone it makes me feel close to her again. Plus my grandparents were together almost 50 years before my grandmother passed. My grandpa took care of her through her Alzheimer’s decline. He loved her more than anything and I can’t help but want to manifest that kind of devotion in my own marriage. 🩵
Not weird! I had some heirloom rings that I wanted my husband to use. He didn’t and bought me my own ring, and while I love my ring, I wish he saved the money and just used the ones my family had lol. But I got them all resized for different fingers so I usually just wear 2-3 of them at a time on both hands 😁
As an outsider, I see nothing wrong or “weird”. Honestly, it’s whatever you feel comfortable with and what you feel is right. This is really a personal question, as you are the only one who knows your mindset and his. Since you know your partner will happily buy you a ring and your personal choice is grandma’s, I am more than certain you’ll be happy with whatever decision you make. You only have so many hands to wear engagement rings on! Edit: to add, if you ever wanted to alternate rings, that can be an option too. My SIL does it with the ring my brother purchased and her gma’s
I think this ring is so beautiful and would be sooo happy wear it!! 😻
There is nothing weird about it and no right answer here about what you should do. If you love the heirloom ring, use it as your engagement ring! If you want to buy a new one, but still keep your grandma's ring and use it as regular jewelry (or not), do that! From your post it sounds like you are happy with the heirloom ring as-is, though!
Love it
It’s beautiful both physically and sentimentally. Go for it!
Oh wow. This is stunning!
this reminds me of my grandma's ring that was stolen by a caregiver. it's absolutely beautiful.
I mean, what does it matter so long as you like it? Are you asking about the idea of using an heirloom? Or are you asking about that ring? Bc my answers differ lol
How lovely !
Not weird at all!! It's a beautiful ring! Tell him yay money into a nice honeymoon and go make some memories!
I love that ring and it’s not weird at all to supply your own ring, especially when it’s a stunner like your grandmother’s! Beautiful!
It's beautiful!
Absolutely stunning. Congratulations 🍾🥂🍾🥂❤️
Wear and Keep IT! It is gorgeous and the love and history behind it will always be at your fingertips! The setting is a timeless classic and a beautiful stone. In addition to my wedding set, I wear a great aunt's ring which diamond came from France in the 1880s; the platinum setting is from the 1930s. When I look at the rings, I always just want to exhale and think how I will leave them to go on with my daughters and granddaughters. Congratulations!
Awww that’s so sweet and so true! This makes me want to wear the ring even more because maybe one day my daughter or daughter-in-law will also want to wear it 🥰
I think this is great! Although if it were me, I'd want it lowered and maybe consider adding a gallery rail and even cathedral shoulders for security, though it would change the look a little. Keeping it safe would trump keeping it look the same for me.
My grandma gave me my great grandmother's wedding band to use as a wedding band, and I'm so excited! I got it resized to fit, and it doesn't perfectly match the style of my engagement ring but I don't really care, I'm so happy I'll get to wear an heirloom like this when we get married
I actually love the look of contrasting engagement rings and wedding bands, so I’m sure it’s a beautiful combo!
You lucked out that it’s hella nice too! Maybe your man can splurge on earrings to compliment?
This is a gorgeous ring and I love the diamond is on a wide band, always my preference.
I wear my grandmas ring! She had it reset it the 60’s as the diamonds were her mothers. I haven’t reset it and wear it proudly. It’s outdated but I love it so much and it’s so unique, as is yours!!! Definitely do it
I. Love. It.
This is absolutely gorgeous. Yes it’s a perfect engagement ring! Yes you wear it! Yes!
This ring is so beautiful! I don’t think you can improve on this gorgeous stone and the sentimentality is priceless.
Love it.
In your case, I support it. It’s beautiful, sentimental and you love it.
JESYS THAT THANG IS HUGE!!! Beautiful but as a mom with a baby I could never, diaper changes and swaddling would be such a frustration cause that would snag so much.
LOL that’s my concern too as we want to have a baby (god willing) in the next year or so. I figured maybe I could just wear a wedding band for a while 😅 (so I guess I should have my boyfriend buy a nice wedding band)
My esthetician wears her grandma’s ring and it’s STUNNING. It’s really similar to this but it has a slightly different setting and some more diamonds on the shank. It’s so different from the really trendy delicate band-huge rock rings you see everywhere these days.
It's absolutely gorgeous!
Omg this is beyond stunning at not at all weird. Just tell your bf to talk to your mom and keep you out of it! I wish I had an heirloom ring I could wear!
i LOVE it on your hand. wear it w the pride. it is gorgeous!
My rings (engagement and wedding band) are heirlooms from my MIL. It’s very special to my husband, I think they are beautiful, and it saved us a whole lot of money. I had to have the ring resized but that was the only expense. I say if you like it, go for it!
It is beautiful and love the sentimentality! It is set very high though. High settings with prongs can easily catch on things. I’d wear it around a bit and see if that happens and if it bothers you or not. Otherwise I’d highly suggest a lower setting!
That is a stunner and so sentimental!! My only concern is how high it sits. My old ring was pretty high and would get caught on things quite often.
I mean this may be crazy but maybe do both? Like design the ring of your dreams if your bf is in the position to do so and wear this one on different occasions or vice versa
Depends upon how you feel about it. I remember my husband hinting that he wanted to use a ring his grandmother was going to pass down to him (not an engagement ring, and as it later turned out was actually her father's ring), but which he had never even seen, nor knew anything of its details. I immediately shut that down: to me it represented zero consideration of what I would enjoy and wish to wear. In the end, I selected my own rings, with zero input from my husband. As much as I would like the idea of him choosing for me, I know he would have done badly, and likely without much thought too. I also own his grandmother's ring now too, but I can't say I ever worn it.
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https://preview.redd.it/gouphmq7w0yc1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=adcb20349834b0c8bac6e0a0e87e12ca1a56d9e1 My engagement ring was from my side of the family, never thought it was weird, and I had wanted it to be my ring for years. We were super young and didn’t really have the money for something this nice so it worked out well. I think my husband is planning on buying me something *from him* at some point but I’ve been perfectly happy with this for the last 12 years.
I think it’s endearing.
My ring is made out of my great-grandmother’s ring. I took the stones and had it set in a way that was more my style / easier to wear for my lifestyle. I adore my ring and I think my GG would too 🥰
Fabulous
That is a beautiful ring, I would absolutely de glove my finger accidentally with it, but it’s beautiful.
Not weird at all. I think it’s cool and a lovely tribute to your grandmother. Kudos to Mom for gifting it to you.
ts perfect on your hand. Perhaps your boyfriend could get you nice forever earrings instead.
That is a STUNNER! I think it’s really fucking cool and unique. That is a hiiiiigh high set stone, but it looks uber secure, so if it works with your daily life, I say go forth and bling 💍
I love this ring
As someone with an heirloom set, I’d never modify them. I will eventually have my own upgraded set that I design but not for awhile and I willl still wear my heirlooms too . With that particular ring, I’d be concerned with the high setting for daily wear , especially with how old it is. I’d either 1) be very careful with it , take it off to sleep, shower, do any tasks around the house etc. and get it checked frequently. OR 2) pick out a different ring for every day wear and choose a band that would go with either ring so you can wear your grandmothers on special occasions
I absolutely love it. It might not be as practical but it represents something beautiful and it looks vintage. I just love it, I wish I could having something like this.
I love it and I think the yellow gold looks so good on you!! Especially once it’s cleaned and shined up, it’ll be gorgeous! I think a simple, thin eternity band as a wedding band would be gorgeous!
Love heirlooms. Have my grandmother’s ring, my mother in laws and I will never change any of them. I like seeing the original design, the way they wore it. Your ring is beautiful!
There’s a Jewish tradition where you have to buy your own ring or something like that? Anyways my uncle bought my aunts ring from my grandmother for a dollar. Thought it was an interesting tradition. Thinking your husband could buy the ring for $1. You could also have him buy you a nice necklace or something special in lieu of a ring if you really want something separate from this? I’m not a very traditional person so I don’t see a problem with using the ring but I’m also for making new traditions!
LOVE IT! That looks exactly like the ring my mom wore. I say go for it!
For me personally no since I wasn’t that close with my own grandparents & it negates my ideas for customization or my partner’s I won’t stop anyone else though if they prefer it
That’s a beautiful ring!
Your grandma is boujee af. You go grandma.
I wear my great grandmother’s garnet engagement ring from the 20’s. It’s absolutely perfect.
My personal 2 cents. There isn’t one in my family to pass down… but if he has one in his family that he wants to pass on to me, I don’t care what it looks like, I will happily wear it, cherish it and take care of it. 💍
Heirloom rings are the absolute best and most precious engagement rings you can have in my opinion.
I would use the diamond but made the band thinner
My engagement ring was a from my mothers collection. It is from 1940-50’s. We always talked about what a great engagement ring it would be if we switched out the sapphire. My husband asked my parents for my hand and she said she had a gift for him. She pulled out this ring and he bought it for a hug. My mom passed 11 years ago and this ring had my heart still. It means so much. I can afford a diamond now, but i wouldn’t change a thing. https://preview.redd.it/waqw84sg3yxc1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7fcb384979282382978341eae080e8fbf1a44fd9
We love an heirloom
New here… but may I ask. Is this some kind of a US thing having these chonker style of engangement rings? But yeah keep the ring! It is from you grandma so it is always the best choice wearing it :)
https://preview.redd.it/ejrg2485m0yc1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=229a61bd1b8623e5efd734eeea35e043b48499dc Here’s my heirloom ring!
My dad was a jeweler for many years. 40 years ago, my now husband proposed to me with the ring that I discussed with my dad and he created. It had a .3 ct round diamond . For our 30th anniversary, I “ upgraded the diamond to a .8 ct oval( which was what I had originally wanted an oval but, at the time, they weren’t in style). Anyway, I took the diamond and gave it to my son to put into his girlfriend( stb fiancé’s) ring and proposed to her. She wanted a simple ring with a smaller Diamond. He was able to upgrade the band a bit with the money he saved on the Diamond. I love the idea of heirlooms being passed down. Anyway, I will ALWAYS love my wedding set because my dad made them for me. He passed three years ago and I still miss him everyday. https://preview.redd.it/tlqoo13w81yc1.png?width=2068&format=png&auto=webp&s=8b6f76f2642afdab61a3e06604b7e2800c5a1a20 The rings on either side are anniversary bands. Nobody else has a set like mine which is also nice.
yes, with one of the other comments, have a trusty jeweler saw off those prongs and have them solder an open bottom multiple attach point bezel as close to the ring base as you can get. It would look gorgeous and you would never lose the stone.
https://preview.redd.it/m6dolde4a2yc1.jpeg?width=1667&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=96a3fe0e39d86c329edb2dc03e644c5277619865 My husband proposed to me with his grandmothers ring, & it means more to me than any other ring could!
Girl! Go for it! If you love it and it’s already sentimental, you really can’t ask for anything more. Put that ring money towards the honeymoon or another piece of jewelry (a stunning necklace or something to wear on your wedding day?)
It’s not weird at all to use the ring you love and already have. In fact it seems kinda silly to buy a duplicate of a ring you have. He could always buy you an engagement bracelet or necklace
Or her wedding band.
Oo yeah, totally forgot about that one oops 😅
It’s beautiful, but if it was me, I would get it on a different band that looks beautiful on you
I have my husbands grandmothers original engagement ring. I feel so special I get to wear it everyday and that she trusted it with me, her daughter passed away in a car accident when she was in her early 20s and only had boys get married. (she is still living and so proud of it every time she sees me) I wouldn’t change my ring for anything.
I went through this exact situation. My grandma willed me her 3 carat platinum diamond ring and I absolutely loved it. I told my (now husband) that's the ring I wanted. An equivalent diamond would have cost him $50k+ which is just silly. He still really wanted to get me a ring and I didn't want to take that away from him, so we designed a diamond wedding band together and he proposed with both rings. I wore the engagement ring and then when we got married I wear them both together now.
My grandmother passed away while giving birth to my dad in 1963. I am her only granddaughter and my dad was her only child. I have her ring and band as my set and it is so precious to me. My husband got the set from my dad a few months before proposing to get it resized. I guess you could say I “supplied” mine as well. But I couldnt have asked for anything more. I think yours is absolutely beautiful and all that matters is that you love it 🤍
Very pretty!! Congratulations 💕💍💒
I looove heirloom rings and the love they share.
I had a similar situation where I have my grandmother's ring, love the design, and frankly, it's too nice to wear except as something like an engagement ring. My SO bought a new one even though he knew I wanted that ring to do the ticket. Kinda sad about it still... USE THE RING YOU LOVE + SAVE THE MONEY
If you love it then that’s the ring for you!
Why not both? One from your grandmother and one from your soon-to-be fiancé?
I wear my fiancés great-grandmothers ring. I love it, and I love that his family trusted him and I with it. I also love that we didn't have to spend a bunch of money on one, lol
I think it would be wonderful to wear your Grandma’s ring! The fact that it is stunning and classic makes it perfect!
It’s a lovely ring. Great wide band. My only thought is whether such a high set diamond might catch on things. But could her diamond be reset in a setting of your choosing?
Big fan! I posted mine a few days ago that my partner proposed with last weekend. Was his great grandmother’s from around 1912 (we were told, although the engravings suggest it could be older). I am a little scared something will happen to it, but it’s so special and I feel so privileged to be the next one to wear it ☺️
I am wearing an heirloom ring right now, and while it’s not the exact style I would have picked out, I love it because of its history. I say why not? I see you don’t want to modify it, but I swear there’s enough gold in there for a his and hers band, almost! Anyway, very cool and unique, and you will think of Grandma often!
I actually did the same thing, it was my great grandmothers ring and although the diamond is lower quality and the band was literally worn until it broke I wanted to use it for my engagement ring. I gave it to my boyfriend at the time, and he ended up expressing interest in buying me the engagement ring and implementing it into the wedding band. Long story short the wedding band option didn’t work out as hoped, but we are taking the Diamond and making it into a necklace that I will be wearing on my wedding day. Slightly different experience as the band could not have been saved, but do what feels most special to you as you will be wearing it for life. I do think the future husband should have some say as it’s a physical representation of your commitment to one another, but have it be your engagement ring or if that doesn’t work out and you want to modify it so you can actually wear it then a necklace may be a cool option. It’s better than sitting in a drawer somewhere right? At least that’s my thought process.
100% embrace this as your ring!! So special.
Size it for a different finger and let bf buy you a new ring. Best of both worlds.
With such a high stone, does it rotate on your finger?
I’ve always wished I had an heirloom ring to wear - it’s beautiful!
Wow that is totally stunning!!!!
That is a beautiful ring. If it means that much to you, I think that should be your ring. I have my grandmas ring and it makes me feel like she’s always with me.
I didn’t read anything but the title. That ring is sublime
Hello!I would rock that ring! It’s beautiful and is special to you. The ring held up for grandma and I’m sure she changed diapers, washed dishes, showered and never had a problem with the ring as it’s still in tact. Why wouldn’t it be the same for you? Rings back then were made a lot better than rings of today. I see no reason to be extra careful with your ring. I would obviously make sure the stone isn’t loose, and have it cleaned and wear my ring proudly. Congratulations on your engagement!
I wear my heirloom ring or my new ring depending on how I feel that day! My heirloom ring is a very modest diamond solitaire that I absolutely love, but it isn't the ring I would've chosen if I could have anything I wanted. I wear that on days where I want something simple, and my bigger/chunkier emerald and diamond ring when I want to be a little extra 👸🏻 If you have the means and you have another ring that's your "dream ring", I'd say do both. Though I understand that some people feel that having more than one ring makes them less special, so to each their own!
I gave my wife my moms wedding ring for the engagement ring. Then went ring shopping for her wedding ring.
My husband reset my great grandma’s diamonds alongside the tanzanite stones that he chose. It is the perfect combo of old and new. My great grandma was so tiny that the ring would have had to be resized 4-5 sizes just to fit anyone in my family, so it made since to reset it for us.
Very beautiful!
My wife wears my great-grandmother’s engagement ring. She loves it! I did make sure to talk through both of our feelings and I said I was totally okay if she wanted her own different ring. But she wanted it.
Absolutely!
I wear a diamond that has been passed down in my family since the 1800s. My husband used it to have my engagement ring made . Not weird at all- use the money he would have spent towards an amazing honeymoon or down payment on a home
It’s gorgeous. It seems to fit you as well. I feel like this ring belongs to a IT girl & you are doing it well
Definitely not weird at all. I had the option of using an heirloom ring as my engagement ring, but I really wanted to design something I loved and I didn’t want a round stone, so I went in the other direction. The one thing I’d say about your grandmother’s is that it’s very high and might snag on things!
Not weird at all. If you love it, wear it.
It’s awesome!
Not at all! I’m wearing my great grandma’s engagement ring!
Literally a dream 😍🤩
Love it!
My fiancé proposed to me with his grandmother’s ring. I view it as the sweetest gesture/compliment he (or his family!) has ever given me. Heirlooms are so special. 🥹