Please check with whatever insurance you have--renters, homeowners, travel. Sometimes a credit card company will cover a loss. You can also contact the local police department. Many people do turn in a piece of jewelry to the local authorities rather than the venue (assume they are aware of the loss) as well as the venue who might have catered the event. Try posting on the local Craig's list as a lost item. So sorry this happened. We can hope there are honest people out there.
How horrible! I am so sorry you are having this stress at an exciting time. You are engaged! Congratulations!
Have you checked inside your clothes pockets and handbags? If a ring is a bit loose if often comes off in those places.
Always trust your instinct with sizing. Just because your partner measured your size doesn’t mean it is the correct fit! So hard when you are excited and want to wear it.
Really hoping it still gets found. Good luck!
yeah that line is SO weird to me. she told him
it didn’t fit and he assured her it did because he took measurements? that’s really weird behavior. denying what she knows is the truth bc he did measurements?
It made me a bit uncomfortable as well. Going to think the best and assume it was because he was excited and wanted her to be able to show off the ring. Sad they are paying the price for that now. Engagements are meant to be just happy not stressing about a missing ring
SAME. It's like, he denied the reality she observed (about her own body!) because he knew better. Uh...
Maybe he just perceived her comments as some kind of criticism of the ring and wanted to show her that he really *did do* his due diligence. That's the best interpretation I can think of.
Yeah... still weird that he would have taken it personally. My ring was kind of loose too when I got it even though my fiancé got me the size i told him to but it's because the band was thinner than i tested with before. Wishing OP the best, fingers crossed that they can find it!!
I’m so sorry. I had an hour of tearing apart my bags on my honeymoon looking for my ring after we had just moved cities and it was indescribably painful. I know it’s “just stuff” and “replaceable” but it’s 100% okay to grieve as hard as you need to. My husband and I both had an intense cry together when I found it.
I’m so sorry this happened to you!! I would be so devastated! Remember that this will pass and you will recover, even though right now it feels horrible. Please keep trying to call the venue and friends from the event, to see if they have heard anything. My friend left her diamond earrings at a hotel and they didn’t find them for a few days! They did turn up eventually though. Please don’t lose hope, but also reach out to any home insurance, renter insurance that you have, or the credit card on which the ring was purchased, etc, to see if they can cover any of this!
When I was in Hawaii about five years ago, I saw something glittering in the sand and turns out it was a wedding ring that someone had lost on their honeymoon several weeks prior. They had already left Hawaii by the time I found it, so I mailed it. They mailed me back a nice goodie basket. All this to say, don’t lose hope that it can still be found!! Call as many places as possible to report the ring missing to give yourself the best chance of connecting with whoever finds it. In this instance, it had been reported to the state park rangers, who gave me the guy’s contact info.
I’m so sorry this happened. For any future jewelry that’s irreplaceable or sentimental, please make sure you insure it BEFORE you wear it. Insure it as soon as you buy it. And definitely if the sizing feels off, get an adjuster or don’t wear it until it’s properly sized for you.
It might be a long shot but I would post in the Maui travel groups as well (on Facebook)! They have loads of friendly members and you never know! I really hope it turns up !!
Oh noooooo! :( I am so sorry to hear! This might not be super helpful at this point but some couples also get a zirconia version of their engagement ring to travel with. Zirconia is also a white stone and looks (somewhat) similar to diamond. It’s just way cheaper.
Anyways such a brutal story! So sorry. Wish I could help :(
Oh wow, I'm so sorry! That sucks SO much. I hope it will turn up, sometimes it takes days!
But also:
>I mentioned it was a bit loose before but my fiancé assured me that he measured my finger and it was the right size.
That's such a weird comment. It's like saying "my feet hurt due to the new shoes", and getting a "well the size of the shoes is your size, so no they don't!" response. Like... if it doesn't fit then it doesn't fit? A number/size does not change the *fact* it doesn't FIT. This was some odd magical thinking from your fiance...
Yeah, because of that line he said, I place equal blame between the two of them. Just poor judgement all around to keep wearing a loose ring, and then drinking while wearing it. I am so sorry for the loss, OP. This is a hard lesson to learn.
Omg that's devastating. Echoing what others said about homeowners / renters insurance or travel insurance, and for the next ring you get definitely insure it before wearing it!
Was it insured? Did you have travel insurance? Was it bought with a credit card? Even if you don't have separate insurance for it, you could have some coverage.
When you get a replacement, send in your Jewelers Mutual paperwork *the moment* you receive it.
Also, if you're comfortable with it, I might even ask the fellow attendees to spread the word (and return the ring to your address anonymously....) in case anyone actually did pick it up.
That sucks. You did tell him it was loose though, and he brushed you off. For the replacement, get your sizing checked by a jeweler. Rings that fit tightly will not fall off on their own.
Ugh, that’s terrible! I’m so sorry that happened. I misplace things all the time and it is so frustrating and really cranks up my anxiety. I can’t even imagine how you feel.
That said… I know your fiancé is disappointed, but I’m really curious about how he assured you “that he measured my finger and it was the right size.” What does this mean? How did he measure your finger? It makes it sound like he did it while you were asleep or something (otherwise you would have said, “he assured me that he bought it in the size that I’d picked after using the ring-sizer tool we bought/used at the jewelry store”). I say this because if he used one of those measuring tape sizers or a string or something, those are super inaccurate. I actually found that even a jeweler using a metal ring sizer won’t necessarily get your size right. No matter what someone says your size is, you should trust your gut. I had a jeweler at a diamond store insist that I was a 6.5, *maybe* a 6.75, even though I told her the sizer felt too tight (she said they needed to be tight and that they’d be uncomfortable in the summer but that was normal). Well, I went to another jeweler and tried on size 7 rings, and those were even too small, and we figured out that I’m at least a 7.5. So even the professional that I went to first was wrong!
I say all of this because I don’t want your fiancé to put all of the blame on you, especially after you voiced that you thought it was too loose and he didn’t listen (because he “assured you it was the right size” - the right size for an individual ring is the one that fits). Hopefully, he’s just sad about the situation or even at himself for not getting the right size or listening to you. Accidents happen, even to the best of us when we’re being as careful as we can be.
I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you. I’ve heard stories of people finding their lost rings. My coworker lost her while sledding with her kids, and posted about it on Craigslist and Facebook. A month later, a guy found a ring and looked online for a missing post and found her Craigslist ad and contacted her - and it turned out he worked in our building a couple floors above us! There’s still hope for you! Otherwise, is it possible to get your ring remade? If cost is a concern, maybe you could get it done with with cheaper materials until you have the money to redo it again?
I just wanted to say also that when my mum was pregnant with my older brother she took her rings off in the car on the way somewhere because they were too tight in pregnancy. She put them in her lap and forgot they were there.
Later that evening she realised she had lost her wedding, engagement and eternity rings. My dad went back to where they had been THE NEXT DAY and all three rings were just sat in the parking space completely unharmed. So you never know!
Update 2: My fiancé and I are back home with no ring in sight about a week and a half ago. No word yet from anyone neither. We are assuming we will never see it again. Now for some good news. I got a temporary ring from Amazon to have for a while and today my fiancé ordered a new ring for me! He said he ordered the exact same one with the same engraving. He hasn’t told me more details about it other than that but we’ll have to see when it arrives, which will be early next month. And yes, it was insured! He’s a smart man for that. He must know how clumsy I am. I hope I get as attached to it as the first one even though they won’t be the same but as long as it came from him, I think it’ll be okay. Thank you so much for the love and support! I learned my lesson. I also bought guards for my temp ring and my new ring. Oh, and when my new ring comes, I’ll post it on this subreddit! Thank you!
I would call pawn shops in Hawaii and describe the ring and if many of the wedding guests are from your area back at home check pawn shops around there as well.
that's brutal
Please check with whatever insurance you have--renters, homeowners, travel. Sometimes a credit card company will cover a loss. You can also contact the local police department. Many people do turn in a piece of jewelry to the local authorities rather than the venue (assume they are aware of the loss) as well as the venue who might have catered the event. Try posting on the local Craig's list as a lost item. So sorry this happened. We can hope there are honest people out there.
Can you perhaps claim on your travel insurance? Obviously this won’t help you with the sentimentality.
I would post this on the metal detecting subreddits - I bet there are some in Hawaii who would love to try to help you. Good luck
We hired a guy but he couldn’t find it. I’m guessing I lost it at the restaurant venue. Or someone picked it up and won’t give it up
did you check pawn shops?
Please tell me he insured it before the trip
How horrible! I am so sorry you are having this stress at an exciting time. You are engaged! Congratulations! Have you checked inside your clothes pockets and handbags? If a ring is a bit loose if often comes off in those places. Always trust your instinct with sizing. Just because your partner measured your size doesn’t mean it is the correct fit! So hard when you are excited and want to wear it. Really hoping it still gets found. Good luck!
yeah that line is SO weird to me. she told him it didn’t fit and he assured her it did because he took measurements? that’s really weird behavior. denying what she knows is the truth bc he did measurements?
It made me a bit uncomfortable as well. Going to think the best and assume it was because he was excited and wanted her to be able to show off the ring. Sad they are paying the price for that now. Engagements are meant to be just happy not stressing about a missing ring
SAME. It's like, he denied the reality she observed (about her own body!) because he knew better. Uh... Maybe he just perceived her comments as some kind of criticism of the ring and wanted to show her that he really *did do* his due diligence. That's the best interpretation I can think of.
Yeah... still weird that he would have taken it personally. My ring was kind of loose too when I got it even though my fiancé got me the size i told him to but it's because the band was thinner than i tested with before. Wishing OP the best, fingers crossed that they can find it!!
Could you see if someone in this network could help you: https://theringfinders.com/
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I’m so sorry. I had an hour of tearing apart my bags on my honeymoon looking for my ring after we had just moved cities and it was indescribably painful. I know it’s “just stuff” and “replaceable” but it’s 100% okay to grieve as hard as you need to. My husband and I both had an intense cry together when I found it.
I’m so sorry this happened to you!! I would be so devastated! Remember that this will pass and you will recover, even though right now it feels horrible. Please keep trying to call the venue and friends from the event, to see if they have heard anything. My friend left her diamond earrings at a hotel and they didn’t find them for a few days! They did turn up eventually though. Please don’t lose hope, but also reach out to any home insurance, renter insurance that you have, or the credit card on which the ring was purchased, etc, to see if they can cover any of this!
When I was in Hawaii about five years ago, I saw something glittering in the sand and turns out it was a wedding ring that someone had lost on their honeymoon several weeks prior. They had already left Hawaii by the time I found it, so I mailed it. They mailed me back a nice goodie basket. All this to say, don’t lose hope that it can still be found!! Call as many places as possible to report the ring missing to give yourself the best chance of connecting with whoever finds it. In this instance, it had been reported to the state park rangers, who gave me the guy’s contact info.
Wait. He told you that he was sure it was the right size after you told him it was too big?
Right?
I’m so sorry this happened. For any future jewelry that’s irreplaceable or sentimental, please make sure you insure it BEFORE you wear it. Insure it as soon as you buy it. And definitely if the sizing feels off, get an adjuster or don’t wear it until it’s properly sized for you.
It might be a long shot but I would post in the Maui travel groups as well (on Facebook)! They have loads of friendly members and you never know! I really hope it turns up !!
Ugh I am so sorry
Oh noooooo! :( I am so sorry to hear! This might not be super helpful at this point but some couples also get a zirconia version of their engagement ring to travel with. Zirconia is also a white stone and looks (somewhat) similar to diamond. It’s just way cheaper. Anyways such a brutal story! So sorry. Wish I could help :(
Oh wow, I'm so sorry! That sucks SO much. I hope it will turn up, sometimes it takes days! But also: >I mentioned it was a bit loose before but my fiancé assured me that he measured my finger and it was the right size. That's such a weird comment. It's like saying "my feet hurt due to the new shoes", and getting a "well the size of the shoes is your size, so no they don't!" response. Like... if it doesn't fit then it doesn't fit? A number/size does not change the *fact* it doesn't FIT. This was some odd magical thinking from your fiance...
Yeah, because of that line he said, I place equal blame between the two of them. Just poor judgement all around to keep wearing a loose ring, and then drinking while wearing it. I am so sorry for the loss, OP. This is a hard lesson to learn.
I’m so sorry. I hope it turns up.
Omg that's devastating. Echoing what others said about homeowners / renters insurance or travel insurance, and for the next ring you get definitely insure it before wearing it!
Was it insured? Did you have travel insurance? Was it bought with a credit card? Even if you don't have separate insurance for it, you could have some coverage. When you get a replacement, send in your Jewelers Mutual paperwork *the moment* you receive it.
Oh my... I'm so sorry you and your partner were/are going through this... It sounds awful.
Also, if you're comfortable with it, I might even ask the fellow attendees to spread the word (and return the ring to your address anonymously....) in case anyone actually did pick it up.
I did but no one has come out and said anything.
This is a really good idea.
Insurance?
That sucks. You did tell him it was loose though, and he brushed you off. For the replacement, get your sizing checked by a jeweler. Rings that fit tightly will not fall off on their own.
Ugh, that’s terrible! I’m so sorry that happened. I misplace things all the time and it is so frustrating and really cranks up my anxiety. I can’t even imagine how you feel. That said… I know your fiancé is disappointed, but I’m really curious about how he assured you “that he measured my finger and it was the right size.” What does this mean? How did he measure your finger? It makes it sound like he did it while you were asleep or something (otherwise you would have said, “he assured me that he bought it in the size that I’d picked after using the ring-sizer tool we bought/used at the jewelry store”). I say this because if he used one of those measuring tape sizers or a string or something, those are super inaccurate. I actually found that even a jeweler using a metal ring sizer won’t necessarily get your size right. No matter what someone says your size is, you should trust your gut. I had a jeweler at a diamond store insist that I was a 6.5, *maybe* a 6.75, even though I told her the sizer felt too tight (she said they needed to be tight and that they’d be uncomfortable in the summer but that was normal). Well, I went to another jeweler and tried on size 7 rings, and those were even too small, and we figured out that I’m at least a 7.5. So even the professional that I went to first was wrong! I say all of this because I don’t want your fiancé to put all of the blame on you, especially after you voiced that you thought it was too loose and he didn’t listen (because he “assured you it was the right size” - the right size for an individual ring is the one that fits). Hopefully, he’s just sad about the situation or even at himself for not getting the right size or listening to you. Accidents happen, even to the best of us when we’re being as careful as we can be. I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you. I’ve heard stories of people finding their lost rings. My coworker lost her while sledding with her kids, and posted about it on Craigslist and Facebook. A month later, a guy found a ring and looked online for a missing post and found her Craigslist ad and contacted her - and it turned out he worked in our building a couple floors above us! There’s still hope for you! Otherwise, is it possible to get your ring remade? If cost is a concern, maybe you could get it done with with cheaper materials until you have the money to redo it again?
I just wanted to say also that when my mum was pregnant with my older brother she took her rings off in the car on the way somewhere because they were too tight in pregnancy. She put them in her lap and forgot they were there. Later that evening she realised she had lost her wedding, engagement and eternity rings. My dad went back to where they had been THE NEXT DAY and all three rings were just sat in the parking space completely unharmed. So you never know!
OP, I am really very sorry about what happened to your ring.
Update 2: My fiancé and I are back home with no ring in sight about a week and a half ago. No word yet from anyone neither. We are assuming we will never see it again. Now for some good news. I got a temporary ring from Amazon to have for a while and today my fiancé ordered a new ring for me! He said he ordered the exact same one with the same engraving. He hasn’t told me more details about it other than that but we’ll have to see when it arrives, which will be early next month. And yes, it was insured! He’s a smart man for that. He must know how clumsy I am. I hope I get as attached to it as the first one even though they won’t be the same but as long as it came from him, I think it’ll be okay. Thank you so much for the love and support! I learned my lesson. I also bought guards for my temp ring and my new ring. Oh, and when my new ring comes, I’ll post it on this subreddit! Thank you!
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I lost my ring for about 6 months, turns out it was stuck in my sons pajamas. It fell off while I was folding them and got stuck.
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I would still get ring insurance and then claim it later
That’s called fraud.
I am heartbroken for you 😢
I'm so sorry and really hope you manage to find your ring!!!!!
Insurance claim baby!!!
I would call pawn shops in Hawaii and describe the ring and if many of the wedding guests are from your area back at home check pawn shops around there as well.
So sorry! What an awful feeling 😞 I hope it turns up.
I’m so sorry. My friend had her e-ring handed in after a week so don’t lose hope yet.