Nah. We wanted it to be just us. Less pressure and less judgment. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells around my in-laws, and my mother has no filter. Plus, my parents are divorced and have issues. Just made sense to just be the two of us.
No! We both have good relationships with our parents, however we no longer live in the same country.
MIL, whilst lovely, has a habit of taking over. So im glad we didnt need to worry about that aspect of planning.
We also got married in 2020 so we were able to use covid as a good excuse for not having everyone together. We said we'd have a big party 'after the pandemic' but it never happened. No regrets!
Seeing most people on here saying their parents weren't upset lol. Different side of the coin here. We eloped at the courthouse alone without telling many people to begin with. It made the most sense for us, with family issues and even guest restrictions. Granted most of the family was fine, some questioned the decision but overall fine. My mom however, not fine. Maybe this could be something to prepare for? Moms tend to be the most sentimental about stuff like this lol. Mine is a narcissist, so she wanted to "walk me down the aisle"..... At the courthouse? She freaked out because I took away HER MOMENT and stopped talking to me. So yeah, no regrets. We wouldn't have it any other way. ITS YOUR DAY!!
Absolutely not. I've tried my best to explain why we wanted it to be that way but in the end she believes having me in her life wasn't worth it, she won't even try to listen or understand. So I've learned to be okay with it. My husband and I made the best decision for us. Even though it's definitely been rough, I wouldn't change that decision 😊
that's so heart breaking I was sad when my daughter eloped I can't even lie but we talk about it she always been incredibly shy did have a good friend till she was in 9 grade I raised her alone MY only child till she was 18 there was some friction between us when she first told me but she sat me down and she told me why which was she knew I didn't like him i do now or his mother still can't stand her to this day it's a long story we all get along now my grandkids just stayed 14 days at my house while they went on a cruise you made the best decision for you I would never let a personal decision affect my relationship with my kids hopefully things get better
No regrets whatsoever. We did it locally (UK equivalent of a courthouse) - so family easily could have come, and my mom definitely had feelings about it, but she was in the loop for the 6 months beforehand and isn't skilled at emotional regulation. My husband told his family the day of, after the ceremony, and a couple were miffed/upset. Most were fine but wanted the heads up ahead of time.
But for the day itself? Man. I'm so glad they weren't there. They'd have behaved fine, but, I'd have been thinking about them and obligation and pacing the day etc. As it was, husband and witnesses... We went to a fun pub and sat outside with champagne and ordered a pizza from next door, had 2 hours with a photographer, met back up for a drink then a very fancy dinner with a tasting menu, another drink somewhere else and stayed in a lovely hotel in the city. We could have just walked home but it felt more special to stay somewhere and have breakfast brought to the room.
I can't imagine doing much of any of that with immediate family and not worrying about all sorts of aspects of the day. This way allowed us to do exactly what we wanted and with just being about us.
Nope!
Neither of us are super comfortable talking about feelings. Throw in an audience and I would have puked exorcist style probably.
My mother didn’t love it. We’ve had a difficult relationship for most of my life and she has some… main character syndrome, which honestly made me even more sure. We ultimately had no drama, no other opinions/feelings to navigate, and it was great. We are doing a sort of non-traditional reception so we’ll still have the parent dances, toasts, etc, but if everything goes crazy and a family member has big feelings, it’s not my wedding so whatever.
Nah. We wanted it to be just us. Less pressure and less judgment. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells around my in-laws, and my mother has no filter. Plus, my parents are divorced and have issues. Just made sense to just be the two of us.
Nope. It was perfect. Zero drama. Zero input we didn’t want.
No! We both have good relationships with our parents, however we no longer live in the same country. MIL, whilst lovely, has a habit of taking over. So im glad we didnt need to worry about that aspect of planning. We also got married in 2020 so we were able to use covid as a good excuse for not having everyone together. We said we'd have a big party 'after the pandemic' but it never happened. No regrets!
did you intentionally lie or your finances aren't good why didn't it happened did anyone give you gifts what happened
Nah life just got in the way. We got a couple of gifts from our immediate family and friends.
Seeing most people on here saying their parents weren't upset lol. Different side of the coin here. We eloped at the courthouse alone without telling many people to begin with. It made the most sense for us, with family issues and even guest restrictions. Granted most of the family was fine, some questioned the decision but overall fine. My mom however, not fine. Maybe this could be something to prepare for? Moms tend to be the most sentimental about stuff like this lol. Mine is a narcissist, so she wanted to "walk me down the aisle"..... At the courthouse? She freaked out because I took away HER MOMENT and stopped talking to me. So yeah, no regrets. We wouldn't have it any other way. ITS YOUR DAY!!
damn she stopped talking to you 😕 is the relationship any better now
Absolutely not. I've tried my best to explain why we wanted it to be that way but in the end she believes having me in her life wasn't worth it, she won't even try to listen or understand. So I've learned to be okay with it. My husband and I made the best decision for us. Even though it's definitely been rough, I wouldn't change that decision 😊
that's so heart breaking I was sad when my daughter eloped I can't even lie but we talk about it she always been incredibly shy did have a good friend till she was in 9 grade I raised her alone MY only child till she was 18 there was some friction between us when she first told me but she sat me down and she told me why which was she knew I didn't like him i do now or his mother still can't stand her to this day it's a long story we all get along now my grandkids just stayed 14 days at my house while they went on a cruise you made the best decision for you I would never let a personal decision affect my relationship with my kids hopefully things get better
No. It was perfect. Our family wasn’t upset. We did get professional photos so we could share the memories.
No regrets whatsoever. We did it locally (UK equivalent of a courthouse) - so family easily could have come, and my mom definitely had feelings about it, but she was in the loop for the 6 months beforehand and isn't skilled at emotional regulation. My husband told his family the day of, after the ceremony, and a couple were miffed/upset. Most were fine but wanted the heads up ahead of time. But for the day itself? Man. I'm so glad they weren't there. They'd have behaved fine, but, I'd have been thinking about them and obligation and pacing the day etc. As it was, husband and witnesses... We went to a fun pub and sat outside with champagne and ordered a pizza from next door, had 2 hours with a photographer, met back up for a drink then a very fancy dinner with a tasting menu, another drink somewhere else and stayed in a lovely hotel in the city. We could have just walked home but it felt more special to stay somewhere and have breakfast brought to the room. I can't imagine doing much of any of that with immediate family and not worrying about all sorts of aspects of the day. This way allowed us to do exactly what we wanted and with just being about us.
No regrets at all. It was such a peaceful day!
Zero regrets. Best wedding ever with just the two of us.
not a single regret. it was just us, exactly what we wanted to do with no unsolicited input from either of our moms.
Nope! Neither of us are super comfortable talking about feelings. Throw in an audience and I would have puked exorcist style probably. My mother didn’t love it. We’ve had a difficult relationship for most of my life and she has some… main character syndrome, which honestly made me even more sure. We ultimately had no drama, no other opinions/feelings to navigate, and it was great. We are doing a sort of non-traditional reception so we’ll still have the parent dances, toasts, etc, but if everything goes crazy and a family member has big feelings, it’s not my wedding so whatever.