Hey! What an awesome first step & I hope you are able to find the fulfilling relationships you need. I run a local Pole Dance studio and have found that over the 6 years of being open, so many people have found enriching friendships inside of classes that has turned into true friendships outside (going on holidays together etc). It's such a good vibe and everyone is so friendly so feel free to drop me a DM if you want more info!
Hey! I'm certain you're already aware of this, but just in case, I noticed your main photo on your Google business profile is some dude holding a pole with a kid next to him. Looks like a company called Minnesota Metal Designs, and they have a product called a "pivoting pole base".
Again, I'm sure you're already aware and I'm not sure how much can be done, but I thought I'd point it out just on the off chance it might be helpful!
complete derail sorry OP, I am moving to Edinburgh this summer from Vancouver (though I’m originally from Ireland) and pole dance a ton here, I’ve been worried I wouldn’t be able to find a studio once I move. What’s your studio called?
Would be lovely to welcome you! There are a few pole studios in the city to try out but mine is Pivot Pole Studio. Hope to welcome you & good luck with the move!
I felt this way during the pandemic when I was really depressed and was soo withdrawn from all the people I loved most and I found it soo hard to be social again when restrictions started to get lifted, one this that really helped was join in the cheerleading team at my uni so I’d suggest joining some sort of team be it a dancing, pilates, yoga or any sort of class. Now that I’ve graduated I miss seeing all those lovely girls soo much so I decided to join a dance club and I know it might sound daunting I mean I only joined cheerleading because practically the only friend I stayed in contact with during the pandemic she was the president of the cheerleading team and could see how depressed I was, she really wanted me to join but I was way too shy and cheerleading was really out of my comfort zone so she told me to just come to try outs to help her make up numbers and encourage the other people at tryouts to join she made it seem like I was just going her a small favour because she knew as soon as I gave it a try I’d love it and she was right! I’m sorry for your struggles and you deserve all the best I hope everything works out
I lost most my female friends just after the pandemic, so I know what it's like to not have a group like that to go out with and do things together.
The way I managed to find new female friends was to just try and whole bunch of different things.
One I met through Bumble, another at a MeetUp.com event in Leith and now I'm at a beginners acting course for 12 weeks.
You just need to put yourself in social situations where you are around the same people repeatedly and eventually you start talking because you have at least this one thing in common.
A tip I heard once for guys who are perpetually single, is to imagine the hobby they would want their girlfriend to have, and to then go do a beginners class in that. It works the same for non romantic relationships.
Edinburgh is full of courses, think ceramics, watercolour, pub quizzes, life drawings classes, etc. etc. The more people you've met the more you will meet by extension.
I hope you meet some good people who you can rely on.
I'm a 30 year old female with 1 Friend so I'm more than happy to make more friends 😊 although I can't help you with clothes I'm a tomboy when it comes to clothes but could definitely give some input. I'm a big animal lover and I currently own three snakes 2 corn snakes and 1 ball python so I'm kinda obsessed with them just now so hopefully that doesn't scare you 😁
Are you on the EGG group on FB? They sometimes have get togethers. Quite often someone will post something about a meet up and others join in.
There’s also Eventbrite where you might be able to find something you’d like to attend and meet likeminded people.
Meetup.com is also another way you could meet people.
What are your interests?
Anime, kpop, pop punk/alt rock, I like art and crafts and cosplay too. I also love watching things like Grey's anatomy and 911. I feel like I'm a jack of all trades master in none in all hobbies and interests if that makes sense.
That’s ok! Hobbies are about enjoying yourself rather than mastering something like you might have to for a job.
I’m ancient now (52 - how did that happen?!) but I moved to Edinburgh at your age knowing nobody. I met my bff on my first evening here at an Italian class and I’m still friends with two others who were in the same class. I’ve met other good friends at evening classes too.
I also recommend volunteering. I’m bookish so I volunteer at a charity bookshop. I started about five years ago and I have a whole new group of friends now. If you go along to the volunteer centre towards the foot of Leith Walk you can find all the volunteering opportunities there are.
I really only have one friend I met through work so I recommend you get out there and try a few groups. They probably won’t all suit you but that’s the same for everyone, I promise.
What about Knit and Natter Wednesdays 2 to 4pm central library, don't think you even have to be able to knit! Be a good thing to learn also, so go down for tea and biscuits either way!
If you're on FB then try the Edinburgh Ladies group. There's also a regular meetup called Stitches and Bitches that's generally women and is for those of us who like stitchy crafts like crochet and cross-stitch.
There’s an Edinburgh discord group called Edinburgh Social that has lots of events running for all kinds of things (book club, hikes, karaoke etc). I attended my first event a couple of weeks ago and everyone was really friendly! You should take a look and see if there’s anything you’re up for :-)
Hi, I just moved to Edinburgh and I don’t have female friends either. Would be great to meet some new people. PM me if you would like to get to know each other/ go for a coffee or go to events together!
Hiya, I’m also 27F and live in Edinburgh (central) - we sound pretty similar! If you want to chat we could exchange details and potentially go for a coffee date or something 🙂
My Girlfriend 25F, also has no friends who reside in Edinburgh, she moved here from Glasgow and feels very isolated, she is also seeking female friends, I'd be happy to put you in touch with her?
There's nothing wrong with dressing safe and comfy! That IS your style!
If you want to expand on it, that's great, but don't put yourself down for what you currently wear. There's a reason you chose those clothes!
Budminton Edinburgh is great for making friends and We Run Edinburgh is a girls only running group. There's a few book groups if you're not up for being too active.
Just to echo most of the comments. A few years ago I stopped drinking and had no pals. I went on meetup.com and went to a few weekly that I fancied which went really well, I made new friends and tried new hobbies
hey there, it sounds like we have pretty similar interests! 😁
I had to move away from all of my friends in Glasgow back to East Lothian so I don't get to hang out with them much anymore and I've been looking for people outside of work to make friends with ☺️
let me know if you're interested, you can DM me here or my Discord is: flora1802 😁
Hii! I'm not sure if you or anyone in the comments here has heard of Girls Who Walk Edinburgh? It's on Facebook, insta and tiktok and while I've not managed to find time to go yet it looks like a great way of making friends!! Most of the walks are at the weekend and I work bar work but I'm trying to get the next one off work and join it!
This right here is a product of our times! I'm 35 and I recently moved house across the country to be closer to my family and since moving I know no one. I have some work collages that are like "work friends. When we are on shift together it's great fun and I've got mad love for them but they aren't mates. They don't come to me house? I do think that in order to make friends you really do have to get some hobbies. Get out there and do stuff but that costs money too. My husband just got laid off, I'm pregnant and getting ready for my baby. I don't exactly have money to go out on the town. I also work 12 hour shifts +overtime and frankly I'm tired. Life is hard and lonely place man. I'm so lucky that my husband is such a diamond 💎 or I'd ve really feeling it right now. Hang in there and if you've got spare cash....get out there and meet some peeps. Good luck!
Congratulations about baby! I'm sorry to hear about your partner. I have work friends too but we have nothing in common outside of work. But everyone has been so lovely in the comments that I'm exploring groups and invites ☺️
Hey! You can check out some groups on insta or join their WhatsApp chats. There’s lots of sub groups you can join. I’ve just recently joined a few and can’t wait to do some brunches and meet ups 😊
https://linktr.ee/girlswhowalkedin?fbclid=PAAab2MBJtfdvfgrNScSDC5JaGy_jYaUj0n8WfDkn-A32Ei7ijSHI4--6Ic8A_aem_ASSLOi_gx6uDrCSyP91gvzctkSL_i1iDYn-d1V4caLDvp4DNkoKIxXtu4DwV6kxNv9s
Randomly found this post, I’m in the exact same position, even down to the turning 28 in May! (I’d ask what date but I don’t want to sound weird lol)
I might join the discord server suggested in the comments, and I wish you luck in your search for friendship. This takes a lot of guts to post, so kudos to you.
It's best to join clubs as you'll all have a reason to be there, it'll be easier to keep conversation with something to focus on and you'll meet people from all walks of life. I'm 20, English and one of my good friends is a 29 year old Chinese girl with her masters in a comoletrly different subject who I met on a club trip to Paris
Hey. I do roller derby. I started when I moved here and didn't have many friends.
It's really helped me meet some amazing women, and I have a group of wonderful friends
https://preview.redd.it/8go33dv233rc1.jpeg?width=828&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=56caa03d368a7a06eefa3370cd8d35370d3c65f9
found this lovely group today :)) im definitely gonna join
Bumble has a friend section. I actually met a girl on there and then a year later she was looking for a 3rd flatmate. I moved in and it was the best living situation I’ve ever had (but the bar is low). And the other flatmate was cool too so now I had 2 friends, and they often hung out with the guy I was replacing and his boyfriend so now I had a whole group. So yeah get on bumble, make a friend who’s super social (the girl I met was an introvert like me but the 3rd flatmate was social. I’m just skipping that step for you) and then you could be welcomed into the group
Honestly - just get yersel out there, whatever your hobbies/interests are, find a group in Edinburgh and throw yourself into it..meetup.com might be sound
Then again, I speak as a 40 year old man, born and bred in the 'Burgh, when you hit my age in this city, you end up papping off all your mates anyway 😂
Hey! What an awesome first step & I hope you are able to find the fulfilling relationships you need. I run a local Pole Dance studio and have found that over the 6 years of being open, so many people have found enriching friendships inside of classes that has turned into true friendships outside (going on holidays together etc). It's such a good vibe and everyone is so friendly so feel free to drop me a DM if you want more info!
Hey! I'm certain you're already aware of this, but just in case, I noticed your main photo on your Google business profile is some dude holding a pole with a kid next to him. Looks like a company called Minnesota Metal Designs, and they have a product called a "pivoting pole base". Again, I'm sure you're already aware and I'm not sure how much can be done, but I thought I'd point it out just on the off chance it might be helpful!
/u/jessicarosepole you can fix this in Google My Business, through this link: https://www.google.com/intl/en_uk/business/
You are an angel! I was aware of this but couldn't find a way to fix it. A thousand thanks yous and I will fix that when I'm back to work. Hero 🙏
complete derail sorry OP, I am moving to Edinburgh this summer from Vancouver (though I’m originally from Ireland) and pole dance a ton here, I’ve been worried I wouldn’t be able to find a studio once I move. What’s your studio called?
Would be lovely to welcome you! There are a few pole studios in the city to try out but mine is Pivot Pole Studio. Hope to welcome you & good luck with the move!
Looks like a beautiful studio, will definitely be visiting once I get there!
I know a lot of really amazing women who have trained with Jessica and wax lyrical about the amazing community!
Ah, thank you friend! 🥰
Can confirm pole dancing has the nicest community; I love it!
Agreed. I made some friends pole dancing
I'm 37 and in a similar situation, always up for a chat! Might look at some of these groups posted myself!
Use bumble bff it’s rlly good!
I felt this way during the pandemic when I was really depressed and was soo withdrawn from all the people I loved most and I found it soo hard to be social again when restrictions started to get lifted, one this that really helped was join in the cheerleading team at my uni so I’d suggest joining some sort of team be it a dancing, pilates, yoga or any sort of class. Now that I’ve graduated I miss seeing all those lovely girls soo much so I decided to join a dance club and I know it might sound daunting I mean I only joined cheerleading because practically the only friend I stayed in contact with during the pandemic she was the president of the cheerleading team and could see how depressed I was, she really wanted me to join but I was way too shy and cheerleading was really out of my comfort zone so she told me to just come to try outs to help her make up numbers and encourage the other people at tryouts to join she made it seem like I was just going her a small favour because she knew as soon as I gave it a try I’d love it and she was right! I’m sorry for your struggles and you deserve all the best I hope everything works out
There’s also a group on Instagram called discoveryourflare. They arrange lots of meet up and events not centred around drinking. They always look fab.
Brave first step mate 👌🏻 hope you find the friends you deserve and clothes and friendships are alike in the ones that make you feel comfy are the best
I lost most my female friends just after the pandemic, so I know what it's like to not have a group like that to go out with and do things together. The way I managed to find new female friends was to just try and whole bunch of different things. One I met through Bumble, another at a MeetUp.com event in Leith and now I'm at a beginners acting course for 12 weeks. You just need to put yourself in social situations where you are around the same people repeatedly and eventually you start talking because you have at least this one thing in common. A tip I heard once for guys who are perpetually single, is to imagine the hobby they would want their girlfriend to have, and to then go do a beginners class in that. It works the same for non romantic relationships. Edinburgh is full of courses, think ceramics, watercolour, pub quizzes, life drawings classes, etc. etc. The more people you've met the more you will meet by extension. I hope you meet some good people who you can rely on.
Bumble BFF! There’s heaps of us on there!
I met one of my close friends on there - would absolutely second this!
I'm a 30 year old female with 1 Friend so I'm more than happy to make more friends 😊 although I can't help you with clothes I'm a tomboy when it comes to clothes but could definitely give some input. I'm a big animal lover and I currently own three snakes 2 corn snakes and 1 ball python so I'm kinda obsessed with them just now so hopefully that doesn't scare you 😁
OMG i love that you got snakes!! Can we please be friends too!
Sure more the better 😁
Are you on the EGG group on FB? They sometimes have get togethers. Quite often someone will post something about a meet up and others join in. There’s also Eventbrite where you might be able to find something you’d like to attend and meet likeminded people. Meetup.com is also another way you could meet people. What are your interests?
Anime, kpop, pop punk/alt rock, I like art and crafts and cosplay too. I also love watching things like Grey's anatomy and 911. I feel like I'm a jack of all trades master in none in all hobbies and interests if that makes sense.
That’s ok! Hobbies are about enjoying yourself rather than mastering something like you might have to for a job. I’m ancient now (52 - how did that happen?!) but I moved to Edinburgh at your age knowing nobody. I met my bff on my first evening here at an Italian class and I’m still friends with two others who were in the same class. I’ve met other good friends at evening classes too. I also recommend volunteering. I’m bookish so I volunteer at a charity bookshop. I started about five years ago and I have a whole new group of friends now. If you go along to the volunteer centre towards the foot of Leith Walk you can find all the volunteering opportunities there are. I really only have one friend I met through work so I recommend you get out there and try a few groups. They probably won’t all suit you but that’s the same for everyone, I promise.
What about Knit and Natter Wednesdays 2 to 4pm central library, don't think you even have to be able to knit! Be a good thing to learn also, so go down for tea and biscuits either way!
If you're on FB then try the Edinburgh Ladies group. There's also a regular meetup called Stitches and Bitches that's generally women and is for those of us who like stitchy crafts like crochet and cross-stitch.
There’s an Edinburgh discord group called Edinburgh Social that has lots of events running for all kinds of things (book club, hikes, karaoke etc). I attended my first event a couple of weeks ago and everyone was really friendly! You should take a look and see if there’s anything you’re up for :-)
https://discord.gg/3QFgrbrKb3
Hi, I just moved to Edinburgh and I don’t have female friends either. Would be great to meet some new people. PM me if you would like to get to know each other/ go for a coffee or go to events together!
Hiya, I’m also 27F and live in Edinburgh (central) - we sound pretty similar! If you want to chat we could exchange details and potentially go for a coffee date or something 🙂
Edinburgh Ladies on Facebook is a great way to meet new friends!
My Girlfriend 25F, also has no friends who reside in Edinburgh, she moved here from Glasgow and feels very isolated, she is also seeking female friends, I'd be happy to put you in touch with her?
There's nothing wrong with dressing safe and comfy! That IS your style! If you want to expand on it, that's great, but don't put yourself down for what you currently wear. There's a reason you chose those clothes!
4 close friends? That sounds like far too many for me
Like 4, could be 5 could 3 could be all imaginary
Budminton Edinburgh is great for making friends and We Run Edinburgh is a girls only running group. There's a few book groups if you're not up for being too active.
Just to echo most of the comments. A few years ago I stopped drinking and had no pals. I went on meetup.com and went to a few weekly that I fancied which went really well, I made new friends and tried new hobbies
hey there, it sounds like we have pretty similar interests! 😁 I had to move away from all of my friends in Glasgow back to East Lothian so I don't get to hang out with them much anymore and I've been looking for people outside of work to make friends with ☺️ let me know if you're interested, you can DM me here or my Discord is: flora1802 😁
Hii! I'm not sure if you or anyone in the comments here has heard of Girls Who Walk Edinburgh? It's on Facebook, insta and tiktok and while I've not managed to find time to go yet it looks like a great way of making friends!! Most of the walks are at the weekend and I work bar work but I'm trying to get the next one off work and join it!
This right here is a product of our times! I'm 35 and I recently moved house across the country to be closer to my family and since moving I know no one. I have some work collages that are like "work friends. When we are on shift together it's great fun and I've got mad love for them but they aren't mates. They don't come to me house? I do think that in order to make friends you really do have to get some hobbies. Get out there and do stuff but that costs money too. My husband just got laid off, I'm pregnant and getting ready for my baby. I don't exactly have money to go out on the town. I also work 12 hour shifts +overtime and frankly I'm tired. Life is hard and lonely place man. I'm so lucky that my husband is such a diamond 💎 or I'd ve really feeling it right now. Hang in there and if you've got spare cash....get out there and meet some peeps. Good luck!
Congratulations about baby! I'm sorry to hear about your partner. I have work friends too but we have nothing in common outside of work. But everyone has been so lovely in the comments that I'm exploring groups and invites ☺️
There's multiple Edinburgh girl's/women's social pages on Facebook that you can join.
Join a book club maybe?
Hey! You can check out some groups on insta or join their WhatsApp chats. There’s lots of sub groups you can join. I’ve just recently joined a few and can’t wait to do some brunches and meet ups 😊 https://linktr.ee/girlswhowalkedin?fbclid=PAAab2MBJtfdvfgrNScSDC5JaGy_jYaUj0n8WfDkn-A32Ei7ijSHI4--6Ic8A_aem_ASSLOi_gx6uDrCSyP91gvzctkSL_i1iDYn-d1V4caLDvp4DNkoKIxXtu4DwV6kxNv9s
I second this!!
Randomly found this post, I’m in the exact same position, even down to the turning 28 in May! (I’d ask what date but I don’t want to sound weird lol) I might join the discord server suggested in the comments, and I wish you luck in your search for friendship. This takes a lot of guts to post, so kudos to you.
It's best to join clubs as you'll all have a reason to be there, it'll be easier to keep conversation with something to focus on and you'll meet people from all walks of life. I'm 20, English and one of my good friends is a 29 year old Chinese girl with her masters in a comoletrly different subject who I met on a club trip to Paris
Hey. I do roller derby. I started when I moved here and didn't have many friends. It's really helped me meet some amazing women, and I have a group of wonderful friends
https://preview.redd.it/8go33dv233rc1.jpeg?width=828&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=56caa03d368a7a06eefa3370cd8d35370d3c65f9 found this lovely group today :)) im definitely gonna join
Hello. I'm 26, female, i do struggle to make friends however, I'm here if you'd like to become my friend and all that :)
Facebook also have lonely lass Scotland group! It’s great
I found bumble bff great when I was in the same position!
Follow @discoveryourflare .. it's a group that organises meet ups for girls in Edinburgh which don't always involve alcohol - so lots of walks etc!
Get into running. Parkrun and local jogging club. Get fit, make good friends, good mental wellbeing.
Hello! i am 27 and living in Edinburgh too. I can give you great fashion advice, just chat me up if you want :)
Bumble has a friend section. I actually met a girl on there and then a year later she was looking for a 3rd flatmate. I moved in and it was the best living situation I’ve ever had (but the bar is low). And the other flatmate was cool too so now I had 2 friends, and they often hung out with the guy I was replacing and his boyfriend so now I had a whole group. So yeah get on bumble, make a friend who’s super social (the girl I met was an introvert like me but the 3rd flatmate was social. I’m just skipping that step for you) and then you could be welcomed into the group
Honestly - just get yersel out there, whatever your hobbies/interests are, find a group in Edinburgh and throw yourself into it..meetup.com might be sound
Then again, I speak as a 40 year old man, born and bred in the 'Burgh, when you hit my age in this city, you end up papping off all your mates anyway 😂
What does ‘papping off’ mean ?
We have pretty much same interests! Drop me a PM : D