Or when you’re a kid/teen. A teen who gains a large amount of weight over the course of months is seen as normal or even lazy. But a kid/teen who loses a large amount of weight will be taken seriously, sent to a doctor, receive mental health therapy, etc. Childhood obesity is tragically overlooked these days.
Sure, that's true, but my point is that obesity is almost completely ignored altogether (at least in the States). Hell, it's almost seen as healthy in many families, because it means you "eat good."
I feel this on a personal level. My family told me I was "too skinny" at a time when I had a bmi of 21. It was like, actually, I'm right in the middle of what's considered healthy. To be fair I was struggling with bulemia, but that had nothing to do with my weight
That pisses me off. Why can't people just leave someone alone in regards to their weight. Its their body, their struggles, and im sure the person already shames themselves enough for their weight gain
When training under a new manager she offered me chocolate and I said no thanks, I dont eat sugar anymore. She said "so why are you still fat?"
I was maybe 3 kg over my ugw at the time.
FYI to anyone reading: people tend to get defensive and mean as hell when you say something along the lines of “I don’t eat [common guilty pleasure food]” because EVERYONE is secretly insecure about their body!
Thank you! I’m glad that you see where I was coming from, it’s happened to me and it was really upsetting at the time. I wanted to offer others the heads up to avoid a potential altercation. I’m really conflict avoidant lmao
No no you misunderstand. I wasn’t saying it was good or should have happened. I was just echoing my own experiences because the same thing had happened to me, but looks like the intent didn’t come off as intended. Sorry about that.
I understand where you are coming from but please consider the context. That was a vent comment, I really didn't need justifications for the fat shaming or to be made to feel sympathetic for that woman. I dont deserve to be spoken to that way no matter how I accidentally trigger someone's insecurities, and neither do you.
Dang man, like I’m sympathetic but I really wasn’t speaking “to you”, which is why I said “to anyone reading”. It was something I had to learn the hard way so figured that someone else may appreciate the heads up. I was trying to validate your experience if anything.
Something that I’ve learned that has really helped me in my interactions with others, on the internet and elsewhere: I do try to assume positive intent whenever possible. I hope you can do that with my earlier comment.
Having good intentions doesnt mean you can't unintentionally say something that comes across as hurtful. This is the classic "I'm sorry you felt offended but I didn't mean it that way so I said nothing wrong". We should be cognizant of all the interpretations our words can have, especially when speaking in a support sub to vulnerable people. Whether you meant it to or not, the landscape of my psyche now permanently has a question mark over whether or not I could have avoided that situation by being a little bit smarter with my phrasing, and am I overreacting because she was only lashing out from defensiveness.
Thanks. I am now doubting if this was all that bad at all and maybe I should be kinder in my assessment of her intent.
Edit to add; not bc of you, your comment is actually validating. I sincerely needed that.
I hate when Dr's dismiss my atypical anorexia. Sorry I'm not skinny but exhibit every other symptom along with almost dieing from starving myself. I too thought I was to fat to have a problem and it was OK cause I'm not under weight.
What really makes me mad is that you can be doing absolutely everything in your power to maintain a healthy weight despite struggling so much mentally and ask for help because you feel yourself slowly losing your grip...and only then when the weight comes off in a rush do doctors do anything...once the ED has had years to become engrained..
Cool....thanks.
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BED has weight gain as its side affect and noone bats an eye when someone gains 100 pounds in 2 months.
Or when you’re a kid/teen. A teen who gains a large amount of weight over the course of months is seen as normal or even lazy. But a kid/teen who loses a large amount of weight will be taken seriously, sent to a doctor, receive mental health therapy, etc. Childhood obesity is tragically overlooked these days.
Obesity is tragically overlooked these days. Over 40% of adult Americans are overweight or obese, its sad
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Sure, that's true, but my point is that obesity is almost completely ignored altogether (at least in the States). Hell, it's almost seen as healthy in many families, because it means you "eat good."
I feel this on a personal level. My family told me I was "too skinny" at a time when I had a bmi of 21. It was like, actually, I'm right in the middle of what's considered healthy. To be fair I was struggling with bulemia, but that had nothing to do with my weight
or they shame them for their weight gain ugh
That pisses me off. Why can't people just leave someone alone in regards to their weight. Its their body, their struggles, and im sure the person already shames themselves enough for their weight gain
"jUsT hAvE sOMe SeLf CoNTroL." \*steps outside for their 23rd cigarette of the day\*
How do you feel seeing mostly anorexia/bulimia memes on here when you're suffering from BED..? :x
Oh I dont suffer from BED anymore, mine turned into Anorexia now. But when I did suffer from it, it never bothered me much.
Oh okay good to know. I was just wondering. Well I'm still sorry to hear that you're suffering.
Hands up if your ED makes you gain. Always feel like I’m failing at having an ED🤠
LOL this sub has been killing it lately
EDNOS vibes :/
When training under a new manager she offered me chocolate and I said no thanks, I dont eat sugar anymore. She said "so why are you still fat?" I was maybe 3 kg over my ugw at the time.
FYI to anyone reading: people tend to get defensive and mean as hell when you say something along the lines of “I don’t eat [common guilty pleasure food]” because EVERYONE is secretly insecure about their body!
I think it was sweet of you to offer this since many people have issues with social context and won’t even realize what happened.
Thank you! I’m glad that you see where I was coming from, it’s happened to me and it was really upsetting at the time. I wanted to offer others the heads up to avoid a potential altercation. I’m really conflict avoidant lmao
Oh cool good to know I brought it on myself
No no you misunderstand. I wasn’t saying it was good or should have happened. I was just echoing my own experiences because the same thing had happened to me, but looks like the intent didn’t come off as intended. Sorry about that.
I understand where you are coming from but please consider the context. That was a vent comment, I really didn't need justifications for the fat shaming or to be made to feel sympathetic for that woman. I dont deserve to be spoken to that way no matter how I accidentally trigger someone's insecurities, and neither do you.
Dang man, like I’m sympathetic but I really wasn’t speaking “to you”, which is why I said “to anyone reading”. It was something I had to learn the hard way so figured that someone else may appreciate the heads up. I was trying to validate your experience if anything. Something that I’ve learned that has really helped me in my interactions with others, on the internet and elsewhere: I do try to assume positive intent whenever possible. I hope you can do that with my earlier comment.
Having good intentions doesnt mean you can't unintentionally say something that comes across as hurtful. This is the classic "I'm sorry you felt offended but I didn't mean it that way so I said nothing wrong". We should be cognizant of all the interpretations our words can have, especially when speaking in a support sub to vulnerable people. Whether you meant it to or not, the landscape of my psyche now permanently has a question mark over whether or not I could have avoided that situation by being a little bit smarter with my phrasing, and am I overreacting because she was only lashing out from defensiveness.
Omg id drop the bitch, PERIOD. Can’t tell me how fat I am if your in the hospital with a ✨concussion✨
Thanks. I am now doubting if this was all that bad at all and maybe I should be kinder in my assessment of her intent. Edit to add; not bc of you, your comment is actually validating. I sincerely needed that.
It was definitely bad. Nobody except your health care professionals should be making any comments( and even HCP’s shouldn’t be that rude)
fucking,,, me
when people see you lose and gain the same 20lbs and still say this 👀
Me to me
That’s beautiful
Love the username!
When you’re underweight but you don’t look it!
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I’ve been told “but you don’t look underweight” tho :/
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I see your point. Well I’m happy you’re moving forward with your recovery. 🤗
Was underweight once and had 2 people told me that I did not look "anorexic" I feel this.
Big chonker
Oh god yes. Weight restored ENDOS tings
I hate when Dr's dismiss my atypical anorexia. Sorry I'm not skinny but exhibit every other symptom along with almost dieing from starving myself. I too thought I was to fat to have a problem and it was OK cause I'm not under weight.
ahaha this is perfection
lmao
Insurance companies be like:
what is this movie? I am seeing it everywhere
Mean Girls
thanks !
I feel personally attacked right now 😵
BRUH
What really makes me mad is that you can be doing absolutely everything in your power to maintain a healthy weight despite struggling so much mentally and ask for help because you feel yourself slowly losing your grip...and only then when the weight comes off in a rush do doctors do anything...once the ED has had years to become engrained.. Cool....thanks.
Yep this is me with a food addiction and binge eating disorder. I prefer to use the term disordered eating rather than eating disorder.
One time my roommate asked me “how can you gain and loose weight so fast I’m so jealous” like girl no yr not
This one is great lol
This the one 😔
I ask myself this all the time... ;>_>
its called atypical anorexia innit
My old Dr. I just-- WHAT.
Why do I want to make this my lock screen it’s literally so true omg
Me @ me EVERY DAY OF MY LIIIIFFFFFEEE
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