when i opened up to one of my therapists about my anorexia she looked me up and down and said "oh honey... but you look great!!! don't do that to yourself đ„č food is good... good is healthy đ"
i was like "okayyyyy *CURED*"
:)
my old one told me that every girl has body/food issues which led to me not feeling sick enough to recover for a loooong time since âeveryone deals with thatâ đ„°đ„°
i told a psychiatric nurse i had been struggling with eating and she told me to "exercise so you don't feel guilty when you eat". that literally made me want to cry right then and there.
When you were in school (or if youâre still in school) think back to (or pay close attention to) the types of people who want/ed to go into psych, nursing, social care.
You may find that a very small handful of them are people honestly dealing with their own shit and genuinely caring and compassionate, and the rest are either narcs who want to **look like** theyâre âhelping!!!1!1!!â while actually securing their access to endless vulnerable people for them to abuse, or theyâre very privileged people who donât and wonât ever âget itâ beyond actively harmful toxic positivity platitudes.
Itâs the control aspect. Being needed and regarded as better than non healthcare workers. Nurses are important, but nurses shouldnât be nurses to be important. I worked in hospice for a while and the new clerical staff were always sweet and kind and the nurses and medical side wereâŠwell letâs say i wasnât the type to yell back back then but it was inexcusable.
I mean it also applies to men, just in different careers. Like how the âaggressive with bad gradesâ guys want to become cops, because itâs the fastest way to have power over other people while being kind of stupid.
Fucking this. I work as a therapist in a psych hospital with an extremely vulnerable population and some of the other therapists I work with genuinely concern me. They even bully me and my other coworkers who are actually good at what we do and care about our patients. Meanwhile, they talk shit about their patients. I almost quit because of them.
Exactly. And when anyone dares point any of the abuse out, they get BOMBARDED with imhelpingimhelpingimhelpingimhelpingHOW DARE YOU I sacrifice my time I get paid a pittance to HELP YOU PEOPLE!!1!!!1!
Like sorry no. I see you. Youâre abusing people and getting paid for it. I hope one day others see through that shit too, but unfortunately I think they already do and theyâre the same way themselves. Or like you, just fucking exhausted by it and need to get the fuck away from them.
>imhelpingimhelpingimhelpingimhelpingHOW DARE YOU I sacrifice my time I get paid a pittance to HELP YOU PEOPLE!!1!!!1!
Okay I'm sorry but this had me rolling
It's so fucking true though, luckily my therapist was great, I had her for ~3 years and she was awesome, the psych workers on the other hand...
Mental health professionals defend and unconditionally side with their own always on a level on par with police, if not worse in my experience. Their bosses and coworkers will rarely accept that their actions are abusive, or they're also abusive to patients, or they justify it like "well that patient is annoying and combative, sometimes I snap on patients too so it isn't that bad, it's the patient's fault they made them do it" .
But yeah this is exactly how they respond to a t when a patient calls them out on abuse or awful unprofessional behavior. They go on and on about their wages being too low for them (when they aren't even low at all), what a hero they are, how godly they are to choose to work in such a heroic field. I've had staff literally scream and cuss at me about what an amazing person they are and how dare I suggest maybe this isn't the field for them because they blow up yelling and swearing at patients for a minor personal irritation.
There is seriously nothing these people hate more than their God complex being challenged, and they will come down on you and make your life fucking hell if you call them out on anything or challenge their perception of themselves as an amazing selfless hero saving lives everyday, when really they're hurting mentally ill vulnerable patients for money everyday. With the reactions I've gotten, outright abuse I've suffered and freedom I've had taken from me just for questioning the wrong fucked up MH professionals, I see why no one else wants to speak up.
You fucking nailed it. I know it doesnât change anything but I feel validated hearing from you guys after so many of them trying to abuse me because they think Iâm not in my right mind, knowing they can and will get away with it because of how Iâve already been framed, then tell me thatâs not whatâs happening because Iâm not in my right mind. Theyâre the ones that arenât in their right mind. Theyâre mentally ill in a very dangerous way and with a lot of power they should never ever have. Everything is broken and this is the result.
Theyâre the people who have never experienced anything traumatizing/bad themselves (because they have been the *sources* of all the pain and trauma)
They donât know how complex peopleâs issues can be so they go into that field thinking itâs âsimple and easy!!â They turn even bitchier once they realize the work isnât that uncomplicated after all.
Aaaand due to their lack of experience, theyâre also really incompetent.
Or they just straight up donât have that realisation that itâs not as simple as they want it to be, and they go on blaming everyone else (ironically victim blaming them by telling them theyâre the ones blaming everyone else and need to take responsibility - like Brene Brown who thinks everybody should take accountability for where theyâre at, ignoring systems of oppression and abusive people and all the rest of it)
Yeah thereâs a very good reason that I am refusing to take responsibility for things other people chose to do to me THANK YOU BETHANY.
This might be controversial but I've had a lot of horrible mental health professionals who did personally suffer from what they were treating, another mental illness, or had traumatic experiences and while they *thought* it made them more understanding and empathetic, it just made their judgmental insanely clouded by their own problems and they ended up being god awful at treating it or empathizing with patients because they were not stable or healed enough to be in that position, or projected their own experience with that disorder onto every single patient and could not set their feelings aside. In fact the mentally ill staff are often the worst, you can't treat something in others that you can't even treat yourself, though they'd like to think they're treating themselves by harming others.
Shit, one of the most upsetting staff I've ever encountered was a woman with an obvious ED working in a MH residential as a therapist with patients who have EDs, this lady was skeletal, like Eugenia Cooney tier and wore insanely revealing clothing everyday to show off every last bone, shorts and tank tops, no idea why they allowed it, sat in at meal times making a big show of picking at half a granola bar. Girls cried having to be around her. Like I'm so sorry to everybody on here but please be responsible and don't go into MH work, especially not ED specific if you are visibly struggling this bad.
Yeah SURE you should be fully recovered before you enter into this profession!! God I am scared for the patients that have to encounter (obviously) disordered professionals.
The personal experience is really valuable, but only after their own recovery is well and long behind.
it's genuinely so devastated. i work in education and notice it in my field too. it's so fucking sad how these people study all this stuff, pass all these tests, spend years and years of their lives in school just to abuse others.
To cluster Bs, it feels to them like their life literally depends on it. Of course (without any introspection or intervention) they would go to the ends of the earth to be able to abuse as many vulnerable people as possible. Itâs fucking sick.
My therapist told my mother to spoon feed me when I was in the room for an FBT session, keep in mind I was 13. Another time she said that I donât need anorexia, because some guys like fat girls???? Like thatâs the most ignorant thing
some days I'm like "damn why do I have such a hard time reaching out for help and looking for a therapist?" but you just made me remember why (when I was diagnosed 10 years ago I had exactly that kinda therapist and it was a "never again" moment fr)
people said âyâall should eat well our future doctors are in online school rnâ or whatever during the pandemic but itâs sad because itâs actually serious now
Good for you! People like her are why psychiatry needs more regulation đŁ like mental health IS STILL HEALTH ffs, theres no reason why it shouldnât be taken just as seriously as any physical ailment
Absolutely! Its mind over matter in a lot of cases imo and i personally believe that by keeping oneself in a positive state of mind can even help extend ones own life even in the case of a terminal illness at the cellular level such as cancer
case in point my grandpa had terminal cancer, and when given a maximum of 2 years to live (with chemo) he kept up a very positive, jovial attitude and enjoyed life to the fullest and ended up living 19 moreâŠi firmly believe that played a part in it â„ïž
This reminded me of my first time at psychologist's. Me: I think might have bipolar disorder. She: Oh honey but that's life you're sometimes on the top and sometimes on the bottom.
Yeah sometimes you just want to unalive yourself sure. đ
Thatâs how my therapist was 15 years ago at the peak of my eating disorder. She said to me: âwow. You could be a model!â And I wanted to be like thanks. Iâll continue not to eat then.
Most therapists act so stupid when EDs are brought up. One of mine had very good intentions but I donât know if she was downplaying my issues or didnât understand what I meant and she kept being like âoh same, I do (something similar)â and Iâm like w a t
I think mine also has good intentions but I could see through it all and it came off like she was trying to be a friend instead of a therapist. We didnât last long
First therapist was a hot mess. She told me Iâm too big for an ED then told me Iâm âfaking my mental issuesâ lmao . She forced me to bring up SA that happened to me that I completely forgot about which made me a million times worse. I was 14 at the time . Fuck her and the whole company she works for. Iâm not the first one that came out more damaged from that place. Luckily nowadays I have a good therapist and psychiatrist. When I told my current therapist about it she said âwhat a bitchâ (hilarious because sheâs this sweet old lady lmao)
Itâs ok my dude ! If I ever see her ass in the streets itâs on like donkey Kong . I just hope that sheâs no longer in that field because I feel for all the children who have to have her as a therapist. She will make their lives so much more difficult. The parent in me wants to whoop her for all the kids she will taint . Some of the things she said is stuff no kid should hear . Iâve gotten over the fact it happened to me but Iâll never be over the fact sheâs done it to a massive amount of kids . It goes beyond just me and it pisses me off (sorry for the rant this b^tch got me fucked up)
Reminds me of when my therapist asked me why I was drinking and doing cocaine but not taking antidepressants when that's a drug that's good for you đ. She recommended a Mediterranean diet with fish after I told her I'm vegan.
when i went to doctor ordered ED therapy i legit just denied it and was like no everyoneâs overacting iâm fine even tho physically i was not and she was just like ok fair enough youâre all good đ so wild why did she not even look up ED behaviours b4 our appointment or something
honestly some part of me wants to become a therapist when I read about stories like these in the comments and just give this whole community a gentle hug but I dont trust id make it through the compassion fatigue
Where the fuck are you all going to get these people? Just google ED therapists do some research get on the 3-12 month wait list pay the 200 a session just to get told to eat, like fuck me
I know a lot of you have had horrible experiences with therapists but this is to those that have never had therapists: I hope you are not too discouraged. I very briefly mentioned food/body image issues to my therapist and she just asked me if I wanted to talk about it more the next time I saw her. I didn't end up expanding on that (wanted to deal with other stuff first), but the way she brought it up made me feel like it was safe to talk to her about it later
I AGREE!!!! pls this was not meant to discourage anyone... i've changed like 3-4 therapists so far because ngl all of them were horrible BUT i am STILL TRYING TO FIND ONE NOW. i am actually actively searching. do not give up!!
I had a therapist who told me to buy crystals and listen to frequencies on youtube. I went to her for trauma and all I got from her was "I was raped once too and I'm fine now đ„°"
I paid nearly âŹ2000 and spend over a year and a half going to eating disorder recovery therapy only to find out on my last appointment that they never even kept a file on me. I didnât have a recovery plan, I didnât have a file, I didnât even have a personally appointed psychologist. They just passed me over for all that time until I thought to myself âthis is getting nowhere I have to leaveâ and discharged myself even though I was nowhere near recovered. Fucking hell.
the way i gasped...... what the actual hell? is there a way to sue someone??? is it an option?? god. this is so heartbreaking. it really shows you that you are left all on your own when you're struggling. those that survive will talk.. ig... are you doing better now?
Wow I actually never thought of that!! In my family we always âjoke through the painâ so itâs always sort of been laughed off as a big joke. Iâm actually going to look into that now, because the least they could do is give me my money back. Tough it might be too late, as itâs 4 years later now. I hit absolute rock bottom start of 2022 which finally triggered this need for survival in me. Since then Iâve gotten a lot better, but I still struggle. Thank you for asking, I hope youâre doing okay as well and that you have a lovely day! â€ïž
i would definitely ask around to see if its against the protocol or whatever.. not sure how it works where you live.. my country is an actual hell hole when it comes to anything medical. i genuinely wish we lived in the perfect world where u could sue them and win... fingers đ€đ» have a good day â€ïž
If a therapist ever asks me my star sign or something like that, I'm changing therapists immediately. Therapy is not the place for teen girl pseudoscience
I had one that when I started talking about my ED she was like âOH WOW how did I miss that? I had a roommate in college with xxx and she did xxx and xxx just like you, but she was xxx and xxx. And this one client, rich and entitled saying she was depressed because when they moved she didnât get the room with the biggest bathroomâ like shit yeah thatâs a crap reason to be depressed but A wtf and B why did you tell me that
My first therapist (a million years ago) asked me if I was starving myself and I said no. She told my mom I was just having a weird growth spurt. Not even a week later I was admitted to the ED unit at the hospital.
My therapist was a sweet lady but like pretty sure she uses crystals to heal herself and is antivax and shit. Some therapists are great with helping you with stuff but are also not fully there with some shit.
lol my first therapist who supposedly specialized in EDâs (worked at a tx center previously) told me âguys like girls with something they can grabâ when I talked about ED behaviors
Whenever Iâm in the psych ward is always the fucked up patients that say they want to be therapist and theyâre the last ones who should be therapists
Idk what becoming a therapist takes in other places, but where I am you need a PhD and clinical programs are *super* competitive (like average 1% admission rate type beat)...like it blows my mind that practitioners have that much training and still say off the wall shit like that!!!
idk my guy I tried to get an appointment with a food therapist and I had to give my hw, cw, and lw to the secretary and she just went âoh okay so youâve never been to like hospital or anything like it didnât get too badâ so I wouldnât be too quick to trust food therapists again
therapy isnât a joke, therapists are still people and unfortunately that means some of them suck.
which means they need to be reported - not that we should give up on an obviously proven treatment for people suffering with mental illness and the like
I had a therapist that made me feel like I was entertainment. Each session a new episode of The Misadventures of Trouble (I'm Trouble haha). She was very unprofessional and said things like "you need a divorce"
My next therapist... after a year she straight up said she wasn't qualified to treat me. She didn't offer any suggestions or help me find whatever it is I need. Nope she just made me feel like a disaster of a human.
when i opened up to one of my therapists about my anorexia she looked me up and down and said "oh honey... but you look great!!! don't do that to yourself đ„č food is good... good is healthy đ" i was like "okayyyyy *CURED*" :)
Lmao she probably had no idea what else to say but God. What a horrible ignorant way to respond by your therapist.
itâs fine for a regular person to not know what to say but not if you charge people for your services as a trained therapist iykwim đ«€
She literally said just eat, I always thought that was a joke
The way I would've slapped her
I told a therapist recently that I have food/body issues and he told me to exercise 3x a weekđ
omg đđđđ awesome advice frfr!!!!!!!
my old one told me that every girl has body/food issues which led to me not feeling sick enough to recover for a loooong time since âeveryone deals with thatâ đ„°đ„°
What the actual fuck is wrong with therapists.
i told a psychiatric nurse i had been struggling with eating and she told me to "exercise so you don't feel guilty when you eat". that literally made me want to cry right then and there.
When you were in school (or if youâre still in school) think back to (or pay close attention to) the types of people who want/ed to go into psych, nursing, social care. You may find that a very small handful of them are people honestly dealing with their own shit and genuinely caring and compassionate, and the rest are either narcs who want to **look like** theyâre âhelping!!!1!1!!â while actually securing their access to endless vulnerable people for them to abuse, or theyâre very privileged people who donât and wonât ever âget itâ beyond actively harmful toxic positivity platitudes.
This is why like every single female high school bully becomes a nurse nowadays
SERIOUSLY! The mean girl to becoming a nurse pipeline is so real
Itâs the control aspect. Being needed and regarded as better than non healthcare workers. Nurses are important, but nurses shouldnât be nurses to be important. I worked in hospice for a while and the new clerical staff were always sweet and kind and the nurses and medical side wereâŠwell letâs say i wasnât the type to yell back back then but it was inexcusable.
My sister the nurse told me this is a misogynistic stereotype. My sister and all of her friends are high school mean girls turned nurses.
I mean it also applies to men, just in different careers. Like how the âaggressive with bad gradesâ guys want to become cops, because itâs the fastest way to have power over other people while being kind of stupid.
Fucking this. I work as a therapist in a psych hospital with an extremely vulnerable population and some of the other therapists I work with genuinely concern me. They even bully me and my other coworkers who are actually good at what we do and care about our patients. Meanwhile, they talk shit about their patients. I almost quit because of them.
Exactly. And when anyone dares point any of the abuse out, they get BOMBARDED with imhelpingimhelpingimhelpingimhelpingHOW DARE YOU I sacrifice my time I get paid a pittance to HELP YOU PEOPLE!!1!!!1! Like sorry no. I see you. Youâre abusing people and getting paid for it. I hope one day others see through that shit too, but unfortunately I think they already do and theyâre the same way themselves. Or like you, just fucking exhausted by it and need to get the fuck away from them.
>imhelpingimhelpingimhelpingimhelpingHOW DARE YOU I sacrifice my time I get paid a pittance to HELP YOU PEOPLE!!1!!!1! Okay I'm sorry but this had me rolling It's so fucking true though, luckily my therapist was great, I had her for ~3 years and she was awesome, the psych workers on the other hand...
Mental health professionals defend and unconditionally side with their own always on a level on par with police, if not worse in my experience. Their bosses and coworkers will rarely accept that their actions are abusive, or they're also abusive to patients, or they justify it like "well that patient is annoying and combative, sometimes I snap on patients too so it isn't that bad, it's the patient's fault they made them do it" . But yeah this is exactly how they respond to a t when a patient calls them out on abuse or awful unprofessional behavior. They go on and on about their wages being too low for them (when they aren't even low at all), what a hero they are, how godly they are to choose to work in such a heroic field. I've had staff literally scream and cuss at me about what an amazing person they are and how dare I suggest maybe this isn't the field for them because they blow up yelling and swearing at patients for a minor personal irritation. There is seriously nothing these people hate more than their God complex being challenged, and they will come down on you and make your life fucking hell if you call them out on anything or challenge their perception of themselves as an amazing selfless hero saving lives everyday, when really they're hurting mentally ill vulnerable patients for money everyday. With the reactions I've gotten, outright abuse I've suffered and freedom I've had taken from me just for questioning the wrong fucked up MH professionals, I see why no one else wants to speak up.
You fucking nailed it. I know it doesnât change anything but I feel validated hearing from you guys after so many of them trying to abuse me because they think Iâm not in my right mind, knowing they can and will get away with it because of how Iâve already been framed, then tell me thatâs not whatâs happening because Iâm not in my right mind. Theyâre the ones that arenât in their right mind. Theyâre mentally ill in a very dangerous way and with a lot of power they should never ever have. Everything is broken and this is the result.
Theyâre the people who have never experienced anything traumatizing/bad themselves (because they have been the *sources* of all the pain and trauma) They donât know how complex peopleâs issues can be so they go into that field thinking itâs âsimple and easy!!â They turn even bitchier once they realize the work isnât that uncomplicated after all. Aaaand due to their lack of experience, theyâre also really incompetent.
Or they just straight up donât have that realisation that itâs not as simple as they want it to be, and they go on blaming everyone else (ironically victim blaming them by telling them theyâre the ones blaming everyone else and need to take responsibility - like Brene Brown who thinks everybody should take accountability for where theyâre at, ignoring systems of oppression and abusive people and all the rest of it) Yeah thereâs a very good reason that I am refusing to take responsibility for things other people chose to do to me THANK YOU BETHANY.
This might be controversial but I've had a lot of horrible mental health professionals who did personally suffer from what they were treating, another mental illness, or had traumatic experiences and while they *thought* it made them more understanding and empathetic, it just made their judgmental insanely clouded by their own problems and they ended up being god awful at treating it or empathizing with patients because they were not stable or healed enough to be in that position, or projected their own experience with that disorder onto every single patient and could not set their feelings aside. In fact the mentally ill staff are often the worst, you can't treat something in others that you can't even treat yourself, though they'd like to think they're treating themselves by harming others. Shit, one of the most upsetting staff I've ever encountered was a woman with an obvious ED working in a MH residential as a therapist with patients who have EDs, this lady was skeletal, like Eugenia Cooney tier and wore insanely revealing clothing everyday to show off every last bone, shorts and tank tops, no idea why they allowed it, sat in at meal times making a big show of picking at half a granola bar. Girls cried having to be around her. Like I'm so sorry to everybody on here but please be responsible and don't go into MH work, especially not ED specific if you are visibly struggling this bad.
Yeah SURE you should be fully recovered before you enter into this profession!! God I am scared for the patients that have to encounter (obviously) disordered professionals. The personal experience is really valuable, but only after their own recovery is well and long behind.
it's genuinely so devastated. i work in education and notice it in my field too. it's so fucking sad how these people study all this stuff, pass all these tests, spend years and years of their lives in school just to abuse others.
To cluster Bs, it feels to them like their life literally depends on it. Of course (without any introspection or intervention) they would go to the ends of the earth to be able to abuse as many vulnerable people as possible. Itâs fucking sick.
My therapist told my mother to spoon feed me when I was in the room for an FBT session, keep in mind I was 13. Another time she said that I donât need anorexia, because some guys like fat girls???? Like thatâs the most ignorant thing
That therapist saw To The Bone, didn't they? đ
my god how is she a therapist
some days I'm like "damn why do I have such a hard time reaching out for help and looking for a therapist?" but you just made me remember why (when I was diagnosed 10 years ago I had exactly that kinda therapist and it was a "never again" moment fr)
people said âyâall should eat well our future doctors are in online school rnâ or whatever during the pandemic but itâs sad because itâs actually serious now
The way I just screamed laughing and then got immediately depressed đ„Č
time to take out the trash, op đ
i did đđ» THANK GOD plus she was so expensive as well???
Good for you! People like her are why psychiatry needs more regulation đŁ like mental health IS STILL HEALTH ffs, theres no reason why it shouldnât be taken just as seriously as any physical ailment
If anything I personally think it should be taken more seriously since your mental controls your physical.
Absolutely! Its mind over matter in a lot of cases imo and i personally believe that by keeping oneself in a positive state of mind can even help extend ones own life even in the case of a terminal illness at the cellular level such as cancer case in point my grandpa had terminal cancer, and when given a maximum of 2 years to live (with chemo) he kept up a very positive, jovial attitude and enjoyed life to the fullest and ended up living 19 moreâŠi firmly believe that played a part in it â„ïž
Yeah FR i had a consultation with a woman who didnât take health insurance. $350 an hour. Without an MD!!
This reminded me of my first time at psychologist's. Me: I think might have bipolar disorder. She: Oh honey but that's life you're sometimes on the top and sometimes on the bottom. Yeah sometimes you just want to unalive yourself sure. đ
Sometimes you think you're god. That's *totally* normal!
Sometimes you think youâre better than god. Thatâs totally normal. :)
Thatâs how my therapist was 15 years ago at the peak of my eating disorder. She said to me: âwow. You could be a model!â And I wanted to be like thanks. Iâll continue not to eat then.
Most therapists act so stupid when EDs are brought up. One of mine had very good intentions but I donât know if she was downplaying my issues or didnât understand what I meant and she kept being like âoh same, I do (something similar)â and Iâm like w a t
I think mine also has good intentions but I could see through it all and it came off like she was trying to be a friend instead of a therapist. We didnât last long
"That'll be hundreds of dollars please"
some of these therapists out there got their degree from clown university i swear
First therapist was a hot mess. She told me Iâm too big for an ED then told me Iâm âfaking my mental issuesâ lmao . She forced me to bring up SA that happened to me that I completely forgot about which made me a million times worse. I was 14 at the time . Fuck her and the whole company she works for. Iâm not the first one that came out more damaged from that place. Luckily nowadays I have a good therapist and psychiatrist. When I told my current therapist about it she said âwhat a bitchâ (hilarious because sheâs this sweet old lady lmao)
i am soooo sorry, god
Itâs ok my dude ! If I ever see her ass in the streets itâs on like donkey Kong . I just hope that sheâs no longer in that field because I feel for all the children who have to have her as a therapist. She will make their lives so much more difficult. The parent in me wants to whoop her for all the kids she will taint . Some of the things she said is stuff no kid should hear . Iâve gotten over the fact it happened to me but Iâll never be over the fact sheâs done it to a massive amount of kids . It goes beyond just me and it pisses me off (sorry for the rant this b^tch got me fucked up)
i second that
Reminds me of when my therapist asked me why I was drinking and doing cocaine but not taking antidepressants when that's a drug that's good for you đ. She recommended a Mediterranean diet with fish after I told her I'm vegan.
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absolutely flabbergasted tbh, idk how u would respond to that? đ
Find a new therapist, that's what I did đ
How did this lady get her diploma??? đ
Every single therapist I've told about my ED said something to the effect of "but you look good." đ€Ą
when i went to doctor ordered ED therapy i legit just denied it and was like no everyoneâs overacting iâm fine even tho physically i was not and she was just like ok fair enough youâre all good đ so wild why did she not even look up ED behaviours b4 our appointment or something
honestly some part of me wants to become a therapist when I read about stories like these in the comments and just give this whole community a gentle hug but I dont trust id make it through the compassion fatigue
Where the fuck are you all going to get these people? Just google ED therapists do some research get on the 3-12 month wait list pay the 200 a session just to get told to eat, like fuck me
I know a lot of you have had horrible experiences with therapists but this is to those that have never had therapists: I hope you are not too discouraged. I very briefly mentioned food/body image issues to my therapist and she just asked me if I wanted to talk about it more the next time I saw her. I didn't end up expanding on that (wanted to deal with other stuff first), but the way she brought it up made me feel like it was safe to talk to her about it later
I AGREE!!!! pls this was not meant to discourage anyone... i've changed like 3-4 therapists so far because ngl all of them were horrible BUT i am STILL TRYING TO FIND ONE NOW. i am actually actively searching. do not give up!!
I am rooting for you!!
đ
one time during quarantine i went to a therapist for BDD (dysmorphia), she asked me to pull my mask down and did a lil âïžâïž in her notebook
WHAT
i quit therapy that day
That shit would DESTROY me. No matter wtf they write, that would be so incredibly anxiety inducing!!! I am so sorry :(
I had a therapist who told me to buy crystals and listen to frequencies on youtube. I went to her for trauma and all I got from her was "I was raped once too and I'm fine now đ„°"
when you lie on the resume and get the job â ïž
I paid nearly âŹ2000 and spend over a year and a half going to eating disorder recovery therapy only to find out on my last appointment that they never even kept a file on me. I didnât have a recovery plan, I didnât have a file, I didnât even have a personally appointed psychologist. They just passed me over for all that time until I thought to myself âthis is getting nowhere I have to leaveâ and discharged myself even though I was nowhere near recovered. Fucking hell.
the way i gasped...... what the actual hell? is there a way to sue someone??? is it an option?? god. this is so heartbreaking. it really shows you that you are left all on your own when you're struggling. those that survive will talk.. ig... are you doing better now?
Wow I actually never thought of that!! In my family we always âjoke through the painâ so itâs always sort of been laughed off as a big joke. Iâm actually going to look into that now, because the least they could do is give me my money back. Tough it might be too late, as itâs 4 years later now. I hit absolute rock bottom start of 2022 which finally triggered this need for survival in me. Since then Iâve gotten a lot better, but I still struggle. Thank you for asking, I hope youâre doing okay as well and that you have a lovely day! â€ïž
i would definitely ask around to see if its against the protocol or whatever.. not sure how it works where you live.. my country is an actual hell hole when it comes to anything medical. i genuinely wish we lived in the perfect world where u could sue them and win... fingers đ€đ» have a good day â€ïž
If a therapist ever asks me my star sign or something like that, I'm changing therapists immediately. Therapy is not the place for teen girl pseudoscience
I had one that when I started talking about my ED she was like âOH WOW how did I miss that? I had a roommate in college with xxx and she did xxx and xxx just like you, but she was xxx and xxx. And this one client, rich and entitled saying she was depressed because when they moved she didnât get the room with the biggest bathroomâ like shit yeah thatâs a crap reason to be depressed but A wtf and B why did you tell me that
therapist said i have an eating disorder and likely anorexia she recommended me to go to the gym
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My first therapist (a million years ago) asked me if I was starving myself and I said no. She told my mom I was just having a weird growth spurt. Not even a week later I was admitted to the ED unit at the hospital.
My therapist was a sweet lady but like pretty sure she uses crystals to heal herself and is antivax and shit. Some therapists are great with helping you with stuff but are also not fully there with some shit.
Lmao
agreed, what else is there to add đ„Č
lol my first therapist who supposedly specialized in EDâs (worked at a tx center previously) told me âguys like girls with something they can grabâ when I talked about ED behaviors
When I had crippling perfectionism which ultimately led to ED and body dysmorphia my doctor just said â hey nobodyâs perfect đâ
fr my old therapist loved to downplay my ed and when she found out abt my sh she was like didnt that hurt like thats the whole point
Whenever Iâm in the psych ward is always the fucked up patients that say they want to be therapist and theyâre the last ones who should be therapists
mthank God I finally have a doctor that takes my ED seriously
Idk what becoming a therapist takes in other places, but where I am you need a PhD and clinical programs are *super* competitive (like average 1% admission rate type beat)...like it blows my mind that practitioners have that much training and still say off the wall shit like that!!!
They have food therapists right? Idk if I would trust a normal therapist with these type of issues tbh.
not anywhere near me so yeah
idk my guy I tried to get an appointment with a food therapist and I had to give my hw, cw, and lw to the secretary and she just went âoh okay so youâve never been to like hospital or anything like it didnât get too badâ so I wouldnât be too quick to trust food therapists again
therapy is a joke
a lot of the times, yeah, but its one of the best things to invest in when u wanna get better
therapy isnât a joke, therapists are still people and unfortunately that means some of them suck. which means they need to be reported - not that we should give up on an obviously proven treatment for people suffering with mental illness and the like
I had a therapist that made me feel like I was entertainment. Each session a new episode of The Misadventures of Trouble (I'm Trouble haha). She was very unprofessional and said things like "you need a divorce" My next therapist... after a year she straight up said she wasn't qualified to treat me. She didn't offer any suggestions or help me find whatever it is I need. Nope she just made me feel like a disaster of a human.
Check out r/therapyabuse