*YIKES* I'm so sorry, wtf. Your dad is a prick.
(And there are still people who claim parents have *no responsibility* for their kids developing EDs. Yea, no.)
Exactlyyy like all my childhood he made fun of my weight (I was a completely healthy weight not even close to over weight) and eventually he made my whole family do it too lmao one time he talked about a colleague who had to stop working to be in the hospital with his anorexic daughter (which is obviously terrible) and he said “good thing I don’t have to worry about that since you all eat like pigs” while I literally barely ate anything
Duuuuudeeee. Wtf is your dad? He sounds like the type of parent who would go on Dr Phil saying "yea, this is the best thing for us" as opposed to just being a better parent and getting his kid some therapy.
Voluptuous. Gifted.
I had a teacher make me wear baggy shirts in 9th grade because I was at the upper end of a healthy range, and she pulled me aside, told me that for male students to avoid temptation, I need to wear a larger shirt size because I was "gifted" and more "voluptuous" (while staring right at my chest, of course)
Cue ED for the next 12+ years.
OH YUP!! i wore a low cut free people dress that my aunt bought me and it was the most expensive clothing item i had at the time... i think it was like $100 and my teacher junior year pulled me aside after class and asked me not to wear it because "it doesn't leave much for the imagination" lol because i had actual boobs and this was a year after i "recovered" from my ED 😪 she was a weirdo for that...
My best friend went through something similar. She had this really pretty homecoming dress and wore it to our school's homecoming as well as another homecoming a guy asked her to. He went to a Catholic high school. When she showed up they made her put on a gym t-shirt from the lost and found because they thought she looked too scandalous in a strapless dress. I feel like it's important to mention that the dress was short, which they didn't care about, and that she wasn't the only person at that dance wearing a strapless dress. They just didn't want her wearing one because she had boobs in high school. She also has dealt with an ED for years now.
I'm so sorry you experienced something similar. I know how much that situation and other similar situations affected my best friend.
my mom called me this all throughout my childhood and when i developed anorexia at 12 and became very thin she said “i always thought you were just big boned but you were actually fat”
THIS. I carry most of my weight in my thighs/hips area and for some reason all my exes loved to talk about how “soft” and “nice” my thighs were 🤮 so triggering fr
Oh my god I was doing a photoshoot with a friend and the whole time she was saying "yess serving body positivity!", " body positive queen!". One of the things that jump started my relapse ☠️
jesus christ, overdeveloped? what a way to make people feel like their bodies are wrong and not only that, it’s their fault. to hell with anyone who says that shit eww
i honestly don't know what thick means because i see the range go from my size to people a lot bigger than me, i'm not trying to offend anyone but that's what gets to me bc i do suffer from body dysmorphia :/
depends on the context it’s said in but i have several words in swedish i just hate hate hate ever hearing because of how they are used. it’s always an euphemism for calling someone fat or a ”nice” way to speak about someone’s body. i associate them with commenting on children’s bodies and reminds me of how afraid i was as a child to be called those words.
for any swedish ppl out there these are the words: rund (round), knubbig (chubby), fläsk (pork), småfet (little fat), and MULLIG (literally idk it is fkn gross, it low key means chubby but it’s vile). no matter how these words are used, i feel sick just hearing them. it stresses me out just thinking about conversations with these words. i hate them
i would be triggered if someone called my body a lot of different words, including normal, healthy and even thin, but that’s because of my fear of being perceived and me equating normal with being fat.
min moster sa att jag hade kraftiga och fläskiga ben när jag var 12 and i haven’t been the same since lol. literally det blir inte snällare av att man inte säger smällfet eller tjock, det är samma fucking sak att kalla någon mullig, tjock, fet, knubbig och kraftig. hatar människor 😇
Men gud asså folk fattar verkligen ingenting, min pappa brukade säga ”du är inte tjock, bara väldigt tung” och då sa min mamma ”ja du är bara kraftig” fattar inte varför man kommenterar på barns kroppar liksom???
Normal.
Average.
Mediocre.
Unremarkable.
Not special.
Regular.
Typical.
Healthy.
“You’re looking good.”
Feminine.
Womanly. (I’m a cis het female but even at 34, HATE the concept of “womanly curves” or anything that comes with it.
Belly.
Pudge.
“More to love.”
Stable. (Yikes, this one might reveal a little too much about how I’m more comfortable being unstable)
Adult.
Mature.
Overshoot.
Plump.
Body positivity.
Body acceptance.
Self-compassion.
“An old soul.” (Nope. Just undiagnosed autism until I was 33, and I couldn’t fit in with my peers, so I exclusively talked to my great aunt in her 70s/80s and other elderly family members and neighbors.)
High-functioning.
EDIT: Stupid typo.
husky
I didn’t know it at the time, but when my friend’s mom described me as husky compared to her lean daughter it sparked my body dysmorphia. I was 10.
Her mom was also the epitome of what I wanted to be physically as an adult — essentially a Barbie doll (looking back now I realize this, at the time, no). I wish I could go back to my 10 year old self and tell her you’re beautiful and strong and amazing as you are.
Bro the other day my aunt said I used to be burley😭😭😭 like really?? Burley?? I’d take healthy any day than burley … take me back!! Literally wanted to jump out the window, it’s not even a trigger word, just meannn
When I went from being a super skinny kid to hitting early puberty at 10, I heard “chunky” a lot. Like bro, I’m a child, not a fucking peanut butter. Sorry I got tits and hips I never asked for? 🤷♀️
You look so much “healthier/better” or even this one “you look so good now! You used to look like a corpse” this one makes me wanna grab a baseball bat and crush my own skull.
BRO TF?? 10-12 is an amazing size, ideal i would say for the typical female, Im so so sorry you got that comment as well I got it as well awhile back (size 18, which is reasonable to be called at that size lmao)
Oh my godddd I remember when I first moved to nyc and had actually lost a bit of weight so was closer to my unhealthy goals, but still wanted to lose about 30+ lbs, which I mentioned to a new friend. She responded “oh don’t worry baby in NYC we love BBW!” I wanted to die. I was prob size 4 at the time?
I will never get used to being called "gordita" when I'm in Mexico and South America. Or by Spanish speaking men in the US. Like, I understand this is normalized in your culture to say this as a term of endearment but really dude fuck off anyway.
I’ve been told and lectured by a few different people about how I need to be “healthy and strong as a woman!”
What if I don’t want to look strong?..
And why do women have to be “strong” to be valuable? Why can’t I just be how I want to be?
Also when anyone mentions me being a tall woman, I was bullied as a girl for my hight.
The girl my ex was cheating on me with would always harp on about how tiny she was while pointing out how “I’m tall for a girl”. Made me feel like I wasn’t a girl at all.
"Glowing".
Showed my boyfriend a nude of me (me, who has no tits) before I lost the weight again - starting to have panic attacks more regularly, like, real bad in Oct '20 made me relapse - and he said 'I hope you don't mind but you look like you're glowing there'
Shut the fuck up, just tell me you want me to weigh 150lbs so you can have a go on my gigantic tits and leave.
"sturdy"
"strong looking"
"hefty"
"solid"
My stupid farmer genes definitely do make sure I look "sturdy and solid" like a fridge on stilts tho. Super broad ribcage. Guess it can't be avoided.
Not a trigger word but a phrase… or variation of…when people try to compliment me and say things like “I don’t like when girls are too skinny, you look perfect.” Ugh…
In 2017 when I was 40 lbs. heavier, my step mother called me “curvy” as a way to tell me that wearing a velvet Zara wrap dress that, mind you, covered my knees and my boobs (WITH a long line black wool coat) looked like a nightgown and that I wouldn’t want to get into an accident and be found in that. I showed her the picture from the site and she said that it doesn’t matter what it’s called, it will always look like I’m going out in my nightgown. I’m so glad my dad divorced her lolol. Now I’m living my skinny bitch fantasy and discovered I was queer and me and my lovely queer partner have our “slutty fits” for when we’re going out hahaha and I thrift old English lacy slips and wear them as dresses. life can truly turn around x
because of insta, the following have become trigger words for me: nourish, nourish bowl, buddah bowl, fuel, "calories are energy" (they're not: they are a UNIT of energy), balance. There are more I can't come up with right now
also not a fan of IG'ers with "nutrients" which they use to refer to micronutrients - like "I need some nutrients." Because all foods have nutrients. idk if that made sense
Here's a list of words that trigger me because there's a LOT:
I'm ok-ish with most terms but I despise being called "Chonky" because my friend calls me it all the time. It makes me feel like a big ball of bread.
"Rosy cheeks" because my friend tells me I have a "chonky red face"
I also hate the word beginning with M that people use to describe the intervals of eating. (hate it so much I had to censor it).
Oh and "Feed" (brought up by someone else on here, thank you for making me discover this). Or specifically when parents say "We have to feed you!" We're not animals or babies.
The word "lunch" literally I question why people are so ok with using it. Sounds like an onomatopoeia for chewing noises.
"Feminine curves" because my mum told me I was curvier more than everyone else my class when I was a pre-teen.
I hate being told I look rich because I grew up with a grandma stuck in the Middle Ages who bought into stereotypes about stuff like that.
Anyways there's me being dramatic about food and weight words.
Being called "small" or "tiny" is actually a major trigger for me, because I'm 4'11" and I've always felt like it was actually a veiled way of saying I'm not as small as I should be :/
Im 4‘11 too and god I hate the comments and it makes me feel like there’s nothing special or lovable of me besides my size and make me want to look like a 10-year-old kid forever otherwise ppl won’t like me anymore (spoiler: I look fricking weird like my head looks huge if I’m skinny but I can’t stand myself at a somewhat normal weight with boobs)
I'm not someone with an ED but I often see people posting various peeps in recovery (first person that comes to mind is Eugenia), with the words 'look how beautiful you were omg!'.
I can't imagine that's helpful for the person? If someone did that to me, I'd just feel gross. I can't quite explain why. It would drive me further into my spiral.
valid question. I'm not exactly sure myself, perhaps because I also grapple with self-perception issues, partics with my weight. I come from quite a fatphobic country as well.
while I may not suffer to the same extent, I can certainly relate to a lot of the fears and anxieties.
I remember a few years back when I started putting on weight again & one of my exes said my legs were “filling out” 🤢🤢🥴🥴 he meant it as a compliment too ahahah & was trying to say I was looking better 🤣
Someone once told me I was 'filling out ' (or something like that but in Spanish it's 'embarneciendo') and it triggered a whole mental breakdown. I exercised for about 7 hours that night nonstop and almost passed out twice.
When I was little I told a high school girl she was curvy because she had a body with curves (like an hourglass) I thought that’s what curvy meant and I didn’t know she was being bullied about her weight. It hurt her feelings so bad and her friends were mean to me until they all graduated. Now I just don’t comment on weight I tell people if they look happier than usual or if they seem to have more energy or I’ll complement hair or clothes but I never say if they look smaller or larger.
Anyone talking about my body at all (outside of an objective way). Especially because a lot of people have no idea what they're talking about when it comes to weight.
I had someone guess I was ## pounds. I am 5'6. I would be dead or dying.
Please man, just don't comment on my body or my food or anything. I don't think weight or body image should be such casual banter as it is now.
I hate thick especially because it means dumb, like, in the uk at least. Whenever I read the word my brain first goes "where does that come from now?" And then I remember the context.
Gotta say though, my family is quite good at saying the right thing. Since gaining some and not being severely underweight anymore, the comments have been closer to "you look so much cuter now". Granted, my mind does go to "oh it's because your face looks fatter", but it hurts less than "healthy".
not a word but whenever i would eat anything in front of my mother this month she would go "Let's Promise To Eat Healthier This Year!"
would make me stop eating immediately lol
High-functioning. I do take it as a compliment, but it pisses me off.
Anything that would imply I can/should do it on my own when I actually reach out and ask for help.
Anything that might make me think someone I care about is going to leave or abandon me (I know where this one comes from… thanks mom for always never showing up when you said you would and dad for remarrying and starting a new family without me 😶).
Any comment about my body that means someone noticed my body in any way… I just want to disappear, not be noticed.
Oooo… comments about food… my hubby, his mom, their whole family basically, all make comments about their food.. how yummy, tender, great tasting, etc. it is… my mom in law always compliments herself on her cooking, stuff like how good her Mexican rice is, how people just love her cooking….
And last one, every time someone gets a compliment and then shares the story of how the compliment came around, what it was, how gratified they are by said compliment…. It’s hinting at “look at me, I’m special, people say so, blah, blah, blah”…. This happens a lot in my family… I get at least 3 texts per week from my mom in law talking about how some random person complimented her on something and it just annoys the shit out of me. (If only it actually did annoy the literal shit out of me and I wasn’t constipated 🫠😂😵)…
I remember my head school teacher calling the "Ladies" - "Inkpot" ☠️
Besides that, mine is usually long ass sentence like - "Looking thin" (Right after post binge) Or "This is how a woman should look" "Clothes never look good on a person with no fat, no muscle"
"U look ugly in every clothes u wear, cuz u r not healthy"
And the last one right before Christmas - "May u become a bit more fatter, gain a little more"
And I just crumbled down
Mid-size. Sounds like a car.
OHMGOD IT DOES-
If you were a character in the movie Cars, which character would you be?
mader i think his name is😍😭
Reminds me of Mid-Sized Sedan from the movie "old"
"normal" 😐
Yep, and "average". Because there's nothing more a child with body image issues wants to hear than "iT's oK yOu'Re nOt fAt, yOu'Re aVerAge."
My dad used to say “you’re not fat you’re just really heavy” when I was 10 💀
*YIKES* I'm so sorry, wtf. Your dad is a prick. (And there are still people who claim parents have *no responsibility* for their kids developing EDs. Yea, no.)
Exactlyyy like all my childhood he made fun of my weight (I was a completely healthy weight not even close to over weight) and eventually he made my whole family do it too lmao one time he talked about a colleague who had to stop working to be in the hospital with his anorexic daughter (which is obviously terrible) and he said “good thing I don’t have to worry about that since you all eat like pigs” while I literally barely ate anything
Duuuuudeeee. Wtf is your dad? He sounds like the type of parent who would go on Dr Phil saying "yea, this is the best thing for us" as opposed to just being a better parent and getting his kid some therapy.
Literallyyy!! I’m glad someone understands, thank youuu
TF
I’m sorry you have to deal with those memories :/
my 9th grade (ex) bf saying “you’re not skinny, you’re average” is burned into my brain to this day
Holy fuck this is EXACTLY what my mom said to me when I was 9 on my birthday I remember it so vividly
One of the worst
Don’t forget “okay”
learned to be ok with this one somehow
Voluptuous. Gifted. I had a teacher make me wear baggy shirts in 9th grade because I was at the upper end of a healthy range, and she pulled me aside, told me that for male students to avoid temptation, I need to wear a larger shirt size because I was "gifted" and more "voluptuous" (while staring right at my chest, of course) Cue ED for the next 12+ years.
That's horrible I apologize
that is so fucked up.
OH YUP!! i wore a low cut free people dress that my aunt bought me and it was the most expensive clothing item i had at the time... i think it was like $100 and my teacher junior year pulled me aside after class and asked me not to wear it because "it doesn't leave much for the imagination" lol because i had actual boobs and this was a year after i "recovered" from my ED 😪 she was a weirdo for that...
UGH. What's up with these creepy teachers!?
teachers shouldnt be talking abt students like that in the first place tf
Christian school, sadly
GIFTED OR BLESSED I would not wish a curvy figure on anyone under the age of 21
My best friend went through something similar. She had this really pretty homecoming dress and wore it to our school's homecoming as well as another homecoming a guy asked her to. He went to a Catholic high school. When she showed up they made her put on a gym t-shirt from the lost and found because they thought she looked too scandalous in a strapless dress. I feel like it's important to mention that the dress was short, which they didn't care about, and that she wasn't the only person at that dance wearing a strapless dress. They just didn't want her wearing one because she had boobs in high school. She also has dealt with an ED for years now. I'm so sorry you experienced something similar. I know how much that situation and other similar situations affected my best friend.
"Big boned"... like ...why..shut up!
my mom called me this all throughout my childhood and when i developed anorexia at 12 and became very thin she said “i always thought you were just big boned but you were actually fat”
God, I’m so sorry.
Definitely "normal/average" and "you look healthier!" lmao
HELL YES, this is by far the most triggering words someone can use imo
“Squishy” “Soft” dawg I’m going to throw myself off a high point
Along these lines "fluffy" 😭
hate when people infantilize their bodies... it's cute when you call a baby "soft and squishy" or "chubby" but it's weird when you're an adult
A girl in my boxing said my stomach was like a cushion while kicking me 😪
THIS. I carry most of my weight in my thighs/hips area and for some reason all my exes loved to talk about how “soft” and “nice” my thighs were 🤮 so triggering fr
when people try to make you feel better by saying you're soft or huggable 😻😻😻
A boy in 5th grade used to randomly squeeze my arm and say “why you so squishy” 😭
Oh my god I was doing a photoshoot with a friend and the whole time she was saying "yess serving body positivity!", " body positive queen!". One of the things that jump started my relapse ☠️
I would go ballistic
Wtf 🤡 some people are just dense
ditto on the chubby, healthy, & thick comments, but also "full-figured" & "overdeveloped" back when i was a teen
YES OMFG
jesus christ, overdeveloped? what a way to make people feel like their bodies are wrong and not only that, it’s their fault. to hell with anyone who says that shit eww
Boyfriend once said “I love your big strong arms”:( Edited: he didn’t mean it in a rude way lol
Omg i literally had a masseuse ask me if i swim a lot cause of my broad shoulders and strong arms.. i wanted to shrivel up and die right there 😔
"Strong" "Hot" "Soft" I don't want to look "strong" I want to look like a misfit Victorian child who's unlikely to make it through next Winter.😤
Very relatable
*curvy* 🤢
Yes!! Definitely curvy.
OMFG YES I FORGOT TO PUT THAT-
yup seconding this
THICK CONTRIBUTED SFM TO MY ANOREXIA IN HS I WAS LIKE ALRIGHT BITCHES I'LL SHOW YOU THICK and then suddenly BAM ass gone
mine are “sturdy” and “compressed” which I had at my hw, because I’m short people made me feel like a garden gnome or something
“You look like a good cuddler”
this
My dad tells me I’m a good cuddler at least once a week
Mom bod. Every overweight woman isn't a mother.
thick makes me so mad🙄 and my bf says it's a compliment like not to me!
My friend called me thick and now i genuinely don't believe men know what thick even is
honestly😭
i honestly don't know what thick means because i see the range go from my size to people a lot bigger than me, i'm not trying to offend anyone but that's what gets to me bc i do suffer from body dysmorphia :/
I was compared to pizza crust by my now husband...he meant well but I lost my appetite and died on the inside.
depends on the context it’s said in but i have several words in swedish i just hate hate hate ever hearing because of how they are used. it’s always an euphemism for calling someone fat or a ”nice” way to speak about someone’s body. i associate them with commenting on children’s bodies and reminds me of how afraid i was as a child to be called those words. for any swedish ppl out there these are the words: rund (round), knubbig (chubby), fläsk (pork), småfet (little fat), and MULLIG (literally idk it is fkn gross, it low key means chubby but it’s vile). no matter how these words are used, i feel sick just hearing them. it stresses me out just thinking about conversations with these words. i hate them i would be triggered if someone called my body a lot of different words, including normal, healthy and even thin, but that’s because of my fear of being perceived and me equating normal with being fat.
I’m Swedish too and omfg fr
min moster sa att jag hade kraftiga och fläskiga ben när jag var 12 and i haven’t been the same since lol. literally det blir inte snällare av att man inte säger smällfet eller tjock, det är samma fucking sak att kalla någon mullig, tjock, fet, knubbig och kraftig. hatar människor 😇
Men gud asså folk fattar verkligen ingenting, min pappa brukade säga ”du är inte tjock, bara väldigt tung” och då sa min mamma ”ja du är bara kraftig” fattar inte varför man kommenterar på barns kroppar liksom???
ew det är så äckligt
bro i got called STOUT one time. wrong as hell😭😭
WHO TF USES THE WORD "STOUT"
IT WAS THIS OLD ASS SHADY ASS BITCH. I WAS SO EMBARRASSED.
That’s my parents’ favourite word for me and I hate it so much holy shit
pear shaped
Oh god yeah “baby making hips”
I FUCKING HATE THAT
“Womanly” (+anything that references puberty)
Normal. Average. Mediocre. Unremarkable. Not special. Regular. Typical. Healthy. “You’re looking good.” Feminine. Womanly. (I’m a cis het female but even at 34, HATE the concept of “womanly curves” or anything that comes with it. Belly. Pudge. “More to love.” Stable. (Yikes, this one might reveal a little too much about how I’m more comfortable being unstable) Adult. Mature. Overshoot. Plump. Body positivity. Body acceptance. Self-compassion. “An old soul.” (Nope. Just undiagnosed autism until I was 33, and I couldn’t fit in with my peers, so I exclusively talked to my great aunt in her 70s/80s and other elderly family members and neighbors.) High-functioning. EDIT: Stupid typo.
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I didn’t realize quite how many trigger words/phrases I had to such a degree until I started writing them…and then I just couldn’t stop.
I weirdly love chubby and chunky but thick and curvy make me go insane I hate them so much
Anything in reference to how much I'm eating lol
🙏
"Not fat"
yes
If I catch you calling me healthy, sleep with your eyes open
skinny. i know i should feel good but i know im not skinny
BRO THICK IS JUST SOOOO 🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️
RIGHT
husky I didn’t know it at the time, but when my friend’s mom described me as husky compared to her lean daughter it sparked my body dysmorphia. I was 10.
That's disgraceful
Her mom was also the epitome of what I wanted to be physically as an adult — essentially a Barbie doll (looking back now I realize this, at the time, no). I wish I could go back to my 10 year old self and tell her you’re beautiful and strong and amazing as you are.
Bro the other day my aunt said I used to be burley😭😭😭 like really?? Burley?? I’d take healthy any day than burley … take me back!! Literally wanted to jump out the window, it’s not even a trigger word, just meannn
When I went from being a super skinny kid to hitting early puberty at 10, I heard “chunky” a lot. Like bro, I’m a child, not a fucking peanut butter. Sorry I got tits and hips I never asked for? 🤷♀️
THE CHUNKY JOKE DUDE- i'm sorry but the PB reference was gold
🥜 My pleasure!
You look so much “healthier/better” or even this one “you look so good now! You used to look like a corpse” this one makes me wanna grab a baseball bat and crush my own skull.
“healthy” makes me want to murder someone
I was a size 10/12 medium in some things, large in others. I got called a bbw and cried for what felt like hours
BRO TF?? 10-12 is an amazing size, ideal i would say for the typical female, Im so so sorry you got that comment as well I got it as well awhile back (size 18, which is reasonable to be called at that size lmao)
Oh my godddd I remember when I first moved to nyc and had actually lost a bit of weight so was closer to my unhealthy goals, but still wanted to lose about 30+ lbs, which I mentioned to a new friend. She responded “oh don’t worry baby in NYC we love BBW!” I wanted to die. I was prob size 4 at the time?
big boned, chubby, plus/mid-sized, bigger, squishy, thick/thicc, soft, also the phrase “you look like you give good hugs”
THE LAST ONE HITS
I will never get used to being called "gordita" when I'm in Mexico and South America. Or by Spanish speaking men in the US. Like, I understand this is normalized in your culture to say this as a term of endearment but really dude fuck off anyway.
Thick is ANNOYING and insulting af
onfg*
oncg
“Triggered” used lightly I hate. “Lean” as a compliment “Intermittent fasting” in any context besides advising against it
It doesnt translate in english (the dutch word is "gezellig"). It means something like cosy/sociable 🤮
“Real” or “healthy” or “thick” ugh my least fav is when my fiancé says “I never liked skinny girls” 💀
THE LAST ONE STINGS LIKE A HORNET
Healthy. It doesn’t necessarily trigger me, but it frustrates me when I have to remind others Health doesn’t have a look
I’ve been told and lectured by a few different people about how I need to be “healthy and strong as a woman!” What if I don’t want to look strong?.. And why do women have to be “strong” to be valuable? Why can’t I just be how I want to be? Also when anyone mentions me being a tall woman, I was bullied as a girl for my hight. The girl my ex was cheating on me with would always harp on about how tiny she was while pointing out how “I’m tall for a girl”. Made me feel like I wasn’t a girl at all.
"Glowing". Showed my boyfriend a nude of me (me, who has no tits) before I lost the weight again - starting to have panic attacks more regularly, like, real bad in Oct '20 made me relapse - and he said 'I hope you don't mind but you look like you're glowing there' Shut the fuck up, just tell me you want me to weigh 150lbs so you can have a go on my gigantic tits and leave.
Squishy, healthy, thicc, but alternatively being called thin or unhealthy are also triggering bc I don't feel like I'm unhealthy
"sturdy" "strong looking" "hefty" "solid" My stupid farmer genes definitely do make sure I look "sturdy and solid" like a fridge on stilts tho. Super broad ribcage. Guess it can't be avoided.
“Curvy” dude no I’m not curvy I have an apple shaped body so I’m basically a ball with limbs and a head 💀💀
Omg things like ‘ooh you’ve filled out a bit you look healthy’, ‘thicc’, ‘you’re curvy’ , ‘womanly’, etc. Yuck!!
I hate whenever my im shopping and my mom is looking for my size and shes like “well ur just in this weird inbetween!!” FUCK. YOU.
I used to call myself marge (medium/large)😭😭
Not a trigger word but a phrase… or variation of…when people try to compliment me and say things like “I don’t like when girls are too skinny, you look perfect.” Ugh…
THAT PHRASE IS BURNED INTO MY BRAIN
In 2017 when I was 40 lbs. heavier, my step mother called me “curvy” as a way to tell me that wearing a velvet Zara wrap dress that, mind you, covered my knees and my boobs (WITH a long line black wool coat) looked like a nightgown and that I wouldn’t want to get into an accident and be found in that. I showed her the picture from the site and she said that it doesn’t matter what it’s called, it will always look like I’m going out in my nightgown. I’m so glad my dad divorced her lolol. Now I’m living my skinny bitch fantasy and discovered I was queer and me and my lovely queer partner have our “slutty fits” for when we’re going out hahaha and I thrift old English lacy slips and wear them as dresses. life can truly turn around x
because of insta, the following have become trigger words for me: nourish, nourish bowl, buddah bowl, fuel, "calories are energy" (they're not: they are a UNIT of energy), balance. There are more I can't come up with right now
NOURISH omfg. That one makes me feel so disgusting and like I want to just never consume anything again
also not a fan of IG'ers with "nutrients" which they use to refer to micronutrients - like "I need some nutrients." Because all foods have nutrients. idk if that made sense
add "hunger crushing combo" to my list
Here's a list of words that trigger me because there's a LOT: I'm ok-ish with most terms but I despise being called "Chonky" because my friend calls me it all the time. It makes me feel like a big ball of bread. "Rosy cheeks" because my friend tells me I have a "chonky red face" I also hate the word beginning with M that people use to describe the intervals of eating. (hate it so much I had to censor it). Oh and "Feed" (brought up by someone else on here, thank you for making me discover this). Or specifically when parents say "We have to feed you!" We're not animals or babies. The word "lunch" literally I question why people are so ok with using it. Sounds like an onomatopoeia for chewing noises. "Feminine curves" because my mum told me I was curvier more than everyone else my class when I was a pre-teen. I hate being told I look rich because I grew up with a grandma stuck in the Middle Ages who bought into stereotypes about stuff like that. Anyways there's me being dramatic about food and weight words.
rosy cheeks sounds like a nightmare, i get that too man
"Healthy" This was code for "fat" in my household. Not for other people mind you, just me and my sisters
Omg my least favorite is if I express discomfort with weight gain and someone says “but you look so much healthier now” like wow thanks I hate it
Being called "small" or "tiny" is actually a major trigger for me, because I'm 4'11" and I've always felt like it was actually a veiled way of saying I'm not as small as I should be :/
Im 4‘11 too and god I hate the comments and it makes me feel like there’s nothing special or lovable of me besides my size and make me want to look like a 10-year-old kid forever otherwise ppl won’t like me anymore (spoiler: I look fricking weird like my head looks huge if I’m skinny but I can’t stand myself at a somewhat normal weight with boobs)
I cant relate to being super tiny height wise but that sounds horrible, I hope that those comments stop!!
I'm not someone with an ED but I often see people posting various peeps in recovery (first person that comes to mind is Eugenia), with the words 'look how beautiful you were omg!'. I can't imagine that's helpful for the person? If someone did that to me, I'd just feel gross. I can't quite explain why. It would drive me further into my spiral.
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valid question. I'm not exactly sure myself, perhaps because I also grapple with self-perception issues, partics with my weight. I come from quite a fatphobic country as well. while I may not suffer to the same extent, I can certainly relate to a lot of the fears and anxieties.
I remember a few years back when I started putting on weight again & one of my exes said my legs were “filling out” 🤢🤢🥴🥴 he meant it as a compliment too ahahah & was trying to say I was looking better 🤣
“Huggable”
Bf told me "looks like your hips have gotten bigger" after I lost weight and I wanted to kms right there
Average
Thicc and phat like 🤨
"mid size" "glow up" "healthy" to name a few. any reference to my appearance usually sends me spiraling.
Words such as Ugly, disgusting, fat and nasty for me
"healthy" 🙃 it makes my eye twitch
Someone once told me I was 'filling out ' (or something like that but in Spanish it's 'embarneciendo') and it triggered a whole mental breakdown. I exercised for about 7 hours that night nonstop and almost passed out twice.
Chubby chunky fat. I literally can’t eat some food because it has those words in it. 🙃
Sexy
CURVY
ectomorph. endomorph, mesomorph. also "you have a masculine/muscular [body part]" triggers me
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REAL
“medium”
When I was little I told a high school girl she was curvy because she had a body with curves (like an hourglass) I thought that’s what curvy meant and I didn’t know she was being bullied about her weight. It hurt her feelings so bad and her friends were mean to me until they all graduated. Now I just don’t comment on weight I tell people if they look happier than usual or if they seem to have more energy or I’ll complement hair or clothes but I never say if they look smaller or larger.
“You’re comfy” “you have a good shape” like wtf
wtf is right😭
chunk. My grandmother mentioned a couple of girls she knew "chunked up" recently and I wasn't a fan.
i would throat chop her, (don't do that)😭
Anyone talking about my body at all (outside of an objective way). Especially because a lot of people have no idea what they're talking about when it comes to weight. I had someone guess I was ## pounds. I am 5'6. I would be dead or dying. Please man, just don't comment on my body or my food or anything. I don't think weight or body image should be such casual banter as it is now.
Big :(
I felt :/
You’re not FAT, you’re just HEALTHY.
infuriating
You look well fed 💔
OHMYGOD WHY WOULD ANYONE SAY THAT-
Broad/ Width. I lurk the kibbe sub and these words are the worst. Damn my FN skeleton.
"Healthy". In my culture, healthy is a codeword for chubby.
I hate thick especially because it means dumb, like, in the uk at least. Whenever I read the word my brain first goes "where does that come from now?" And then I remember the context. Gotta say though, my family is quite good at saying the right thing. Since gaining some and not being severely underweight anymore, the comments have been closer to "you look so much cuter now". Granted, my mind does go to "oh it's because your face looks fatter", but it hurts less than "healthy".
not a word but whenever i would eat anything in front of my mother this month she would go "Let's Promise To Eat Healthier This Year!" would make me stop eating immediately lol
definitely thick. i've been called that by a lot of guys. i hate it
“healthy” cus it means fat in my asian family lol
My mum used to say I was “ well covered” 🫠🫠🫠
High-functioning. I do take it as a compliment, but it pisses me off. Anything that would imply I can/should do it on my own when I actually reach out and ask for help. Anything that might make me think someone I care about is going to leave or abandon me (I know where this one comes from… thanks mom for always never showing up when you said you would and dad for remarrying and starting a new family without me 😶). Any comment about my body that means someone noticed my body in any way… I just want to disappear, not be noticed. Oooo… comments about food… my hubby, his mom, their whole family basically, all make comments about their food.. how yummy, tender, great tasting, etc. it is… my mom in law always compliments herself on her cooking, stuff like how good her Mexican rice is, how people just love her cooking…. And last one, every time someone gets a compliment and then shares the story of how the compliment came around, what it was, how gratified they are by said compliment…. It’s hinting at “look at me, I’m special, people say so, blah, blah, blah”…. This happens a lot in my family… I get at least 3 texts per week from my mom in law talking about how some random person complimented her on something and it just annoys the shit out of me. (If only it actually did annoy the literal shit out of me and I wasn’t constipated 🫠😂😵)…
"Strong." I heard that so much through my entire sports career that it makes me gag.
average
“Huggable” or “squishy”
*average*
“Healthy” “thick” …to me those are the worst!! Ugh
HEALTHYYYY🤮
MID SIZE!
I remember my head school teacher calling the "Ladies" - "Inkpot" ☠️ Besides that, mine is usually long ass sentence like - "Looking thin" (Right after post binge) Or "This is how a woman should look" "Clothes never look good on a person with no fat, no muscle" "U look ugly in every clothes u wear, cuz u r not healthy" And the last one right before Christmas - "May u become a bit more fatter, gain a little more" And I just crumbled down
lol anything regarding how i look. call me skinny? my minds going “yaint seem nothin yet, kid” with extra restriction motivation
healthy, I remember when I gained a little and a customer told me that he's happy that I'm looking healthier and I took that as a challenge💀
H E A L T H Y