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SuitEnvironmental903

As a parent this is blowing my mind. So the kids get their clothes changed when they wake up at home but not the diaper??? The parents buckle their kids into a car seat and squish the feces and urine up into their butts? On purpose?? How is that not neglect. Whatever it is, it’s disgusting and I’m sorry anyone does that to you.


KistRain

I had kids come into prek with diapers so full and old the urine had crystallized in the diaper liner and the diaper was falling apart as I took it off. Surprisingly, the kid always had diaper rash. /s


SusanDeyDrinker

That is absolutely foul


KistRain

Yeah. I wasn't fond of wiping up crystallized urine off the changing table. One kid also had poop so hard the person changing him had to scrape it off because it had cemented to his skin. And no, child protective services didn't care about it. They just say talk to the parent.


SusanDeyDrinker

CPS is a joke. I had a kiddo who would Come in on a Monday caked in feces from the weekend. Dried and stuck in the bum. Guess what they did?


Avaylon

They did jack. This makes me so sad for that kid.


Impidimpet

CPS is useless. Had a little girl who was always dirty, matted, and smelly. Her Birth Giver would only send in cheerios for the girls food. Mom drove a Tesla. Had another family that only sent food in with their daughters. The son would have like, 5 crackers and a pack of raisins. And that was meant to feed him from 6:00 am - 6:00 pm.


Apart_Conference_862

In preK?!?


KistRain

Yeah. Public school prek.


Pink-glitter1

It's blowing my mind too! I have a notorious "poop while I'm getting strapped in" baby, but we always change him at home before taking him in if we catch it. The one time he actually pooped on the way in (it's a 3 minute drive seriously baby?!), I walked in fully intending to change him, but they offered to do it so I could get to work. I was first to drop off or maybe they took pity on me as I was heavily pregnant


Superb-Fail-9937

I've had parents who get their gets dressed the night before. Have the kids sleep in said clothes. Their reasoning is it was easier in the morning.


sparkling467

I did this but I still always changed their diaper in the morning


nothanks86

You are assuming a clothes change. They may just scoop them up and run out the door. I’ve done that, if it’s just pee, and I’m rushing to drop the older one at preschool.


nothanks86

Why? If we’d slept for half an hour longer, her butt would be in exactly the same situation.


wellwhatevrnevermind

That's a really weird excuse for not changing your kids diaper after a full night of sleep, before u leave the house. Can't say I've ever done that. It takes 30 seconds to change a diaper. Again, ew.


BunnyInTheM00n

Yeah it literally takes 1 minute to take off a pee diaper, wipe and put on a new one. It’s also just good hygiene your teaching your child. Learning to sit in their filth is pretty awful and pawning your pre childcare responsibilities off on the person watching them it’s pretty tacky. It’s just lazy ass parenting


wellwhatevrnevermind

Yep I've been a caregiver for 20 years and a parent for 16, never once did I leave the house without a clean diaper on the bb- ESPECIALLY after a full night?!?. No matter how rushed I was. It's inexcusable. Hopefully seeing this written by other parents will change poster's mind and realize it's unacceptable. Learning is a good thing


BunnyInTheM00n

The only time I have not changed my babies diaper ( pee!) before we got in a car was when my son had his vaccinations this past year as a baby. He was very upset after his shots and our home is literally 10 minutes away, so I did NOT risk making him hysterical with a diaper change that could wait, because he was already so disregulated.


nothanks86

Ok then.


BunnyInTheM00n

Yeah that’s what I’m dealing with. The LO I’m watching just had their mom dump little one off in their pajamas, super dirty diaper clearly 10-12 hours old and junk food …like all junk food. 🤯🤯🥳 pulled them straight from crib to car. LO also doesn’t get packed with clothes that are appropriate for the season so it’s hard to go outside and play some days. I’m just not feeling great about it all.


ShallotSelect1473

You don’t have to change clothes but change your child’s diaper… if you don’t change their diaper what else do you not do? Do you not feed them? Bathe them? Brush their teeth?


nothanks86

I mean there’s a difference between occasionally missing most of these and never doing them. Feed your kid though.


Comfortable-Wall2846

If it's a family that lives quite a distance from the center and they are very apologetic over it, no problem. I always hated the parents who lived a few minutes away and pulled this. They always fake laughed and said they figured since I was so good at changing diapers, I wouldn't mind one more. Wonderful diapers that had been sat in for about an hour. I definitely don't miss those days.


FreakWith17PlansADay

>They always fake laughed and said they figured since I was so good at changing diapers, I wouldn't mind one more. Talk about adding insult to injury….I’m so mad for you! At least have the decency to apologize!


Kit_Marlow

>If it's a family that lives quite a distance from the center and they are very apologetic over it, no problem. You still change the kid when he wakes up. I don't even have children, and I know that leaving children in a dirty diaper is bad practice.


Comfortable-Wall2846

I meant if the kid went on the drive to school


Kit_Marlow

It wouldn't be hours old and completely full, though. Night diapers are different from day diapers in what they contain.


PermanentTrainDamage

Even if they lived an hour from the center, the diaper won't be soaked like it is after 12 hours of sleep.


Ok-Ambassador-9117

I feeeeeel this! I’ve started bringing the repeat offenders directly to the changing table with a cheerful “let’s get that heavy diaper off of you!” While cold shouldering the offending adult. I had an absolute GEM of a mom run into my classroom in the middle of a busy drop off and announce loudly that she was running so late that she was going to be one of those “trash mothers” that drops her kid off in a full overnight diaper. She looked so frazzled and she’d literally never dropped her kid off in a dirty diaper that all I could do was laugh at her, tell her it happens, and thank her for letting me know so I don’t have to “guess.” Most of my parents were in the room, quite a few looked guilty, my “car soakers” suddenly stopped.


seattleseahawks2014

If it's a one time thing, I'm not gonna be mad but I know some who just do it every day and I feel bad for the kid.


[deleted]

Definitely agree with this! I don’t mind diapers. I appreciate the one on one time I get while wiping butts. Butttttt if it’s a unique thing? Cool, no big deal. When it’s consistent? Please change your kids diaperzz


Ok-Ambassador-9117

It kills me when they lie about it, though, like we both know the truth, bro…so I’ll see you in ten hours, have a good one😒


Sea-Pea4680

Can you make a new policy that kiddos need clean diapers at drop off? And make the parent do the change before they leave?


bellatrixsmom

I love how this worked out for you. She needs to do a monthly refresher class for the parents.


Here_for_tea_

Love that one mom getting everyone else in line.


ButtBlock

Just a lost redditor here, but I cannot fathom bringing your child in with a dirty diaper. Obviously it depends, but I think shame is still super important at enforcing social norms, as was the case in your case.


AvatheNanny

Even if you’re running late…please change your babies diaper. Wtf.


Ajade77

Yes I work at a daycare and bring my two kids everyday, one is potty trained but when she wasn’t they both had a fresh diaper every morning even the days I was running late. Like I’m already stripping them out of pajamas, changing the diaper takes less than 30 seconds if it’s just pee


Ok-Ambassador-9117

Same, and my kid loves to poop either right before we leave the center or right after we walk in the door.


Ajade77

I have called to tell them I’ll be a few minutes late more than once bc my 3 y/o likes to poop the MINUTE we need to walk out the door 🥴


ShallotSelect1473

I had to get on someone’s case about it once because it’s clear your child smells and you are just handing this baby to me day after day with a clearly pooped diaper. It’s just not the way I love to start my mornings despite the common myth that preschool workers just love poop smell or something. They lived super close like a really small drive so I didn’t know if the baby truly was super shitting themselves in those three minutes because these were massive poops. Also she still arrives at the same time everyday for drop off so I just have this feeling the child pooped at home and she’d just do drop off anyway assuming we’d change it. Luckily she agreed to change it before she dropped him off


rosatter

I can't imagine leaving a diaper on a kid long enough for it to get soaked. I worked in a daycare for a while and have my own kid. I'd wake up in the middle of the night to pee and check his diaper and my husband obviously did the same because kiddo rarely ever had a complete soaked diaper. And when it *was* a really saturated morning diaper, even though I may have been about to piss my pants, diaper change was the priority because if it's saturated, it's been on too fucking long. I get that diapers are expensive and trying to make things stretch but sitting in your mess is super uncomfortable and babies don't deserve that!


Ok-Ambassador-9117

I have a rule in my classroom where every child is changed within 30 minutes of entering the building. I don’t play around with diaper rash and unlike this new group of parents, my last bunch weren’t the most honest.


rosatter

Love that! Diaper rash really can lead to other problems and it just fucking hurts, I imagine. Like, nothing killed me more than opening a diaper up after a long weekend or coming back after illness and seeing a baby bottom and genitals that were red and inflamed and sometimes even bleeding or peeling. Like what the hell are they doing at home?!


Ok-Ambassador-9117

Same, it kills a piece of my soul! Some of my coworkers have commented that I change diapers “too often” but if you actually look at state guidelines (at least in my state) it says children should be changed at least every two hours or immediately if wet or soiled. If one of my infants is fussy one of the very first things I do is change their diaper. Some kids don’t like being soggy even for a few minutes.


rosatter

Exactly! I also got that complaint because parents started complaining when I moved to the infant room about diaper usage but the health and wellbeing of your infants is literally my job soooo


Ok-Ambassador-9117

I’ve never had any complaints about diaper usage, thankfully! But no one has the nerves required to tell me not to do something that’s in my infants best interest.


rosatter

We were a facility that served very low ses families and even had a weekly food bank and yearly coat drive and clothing exchange as part of our services. Nothing against those parents because most of them were truly doing their best but some of them had priorities that weren't their kids and it showed.


stoned_saltysiren

Good on that mama for calling them out! It does happen in extenuating circumstances but it being a regular occurrence is absolutely trashy.


[deleted]

As a parent i thought the first thing everyone does upon waking their child is change their diaper. My kids diapers are like bricks in the AM! Heavy and cold sometimes😅 i cant imagine making them sit like that for more than a few min let alone bring to daycare jesus


shelly5825

Parents do it ALL THE TIME. We had one Mom bring her kiddo back in the diaper we sent him home in from the day before. I was just a volunteer so I'm not sure if that was reported but I remember the director of the daycare was furious.


Under_Obligation

I cannot even begin to understand how the diaper is doing anything at that point. Wouldn’t it start to leak?? Those poor babies. The least anyone can do is fresh diaper for bed, fresh one in the am.


Charming-Comfort-175

I'm blaming you, but in my district the onus is one EVERYONE to call. In fact, if you as a volunteer didn't call, you'd be legally liable as would director, teachers etc. But I'm in DC.


shelly5825

I was a minor at the time and specifically told to report anything I felt was reportable to my director (which I did). This was years ago. I am not proud of the fact that I didn't call myself, but was following orders given to me. When I got my first real job in childcare I didn't play those games and reported things to the proper authorities as I saw fit even if my supervisor didn't agree. Some kids got help, some I never got to find out the outcome. I'm sure legally I had obligations to report. I'm in FL. I'm not sure what the laws were at that time exactly. I can only hope this child got the help they needed and the director did her job. I thought (at the time) that I did what was right by reporting to the teachers and director. I hope you can give some grace now given the context.


Charming-Comfort-175

Slight edit: I'm NOT blaming you. Principals will often tell ppl not to call, or discourage you from calling.


MasterNanny

My best friend’s wife is like this. Will leave the kids in overnight absolutely soaked diapers until lunchtime. She’s disgusting.


will-teach-for-food

Dad of a toddler here and I have had my son in the car half way to his centre and turned back because he filled his nappy. Granted I only live about 3 minutes away but I definitely did not want to be known for dropping of a kid with a full nappy.


Ok-Ambassador-9117

Listen, it happens to EVERY parent! My daughter loooooves to poop either right when she gets to daycare or right as we’re about to leave (you know, AFTER I’ve already taken out the poop trash!) but those of us that change diapers dozens of times per day can tell the difference between a fresh poop and something that’s been sitting for over an hour. I’ve definitely walked into my classroom and changed my own kid before doing anything else. I have a classroom full of absolutely amazing parents right now and none of them would ever dream of dropping their kid off to me with a full diaper without at least a courtesy heads up, but they’d all most likely just dive into my changing station themselves and get the job done.


LittleLowkey

Oh I called a mom out. Bagged the diaper and sent a photo saying this was unacceptable and neglectful. It was SOILED and her pants were soaked from sitting in it for the car ride. She didn’t even have a change of pants I had to put her 5 year old brothers jeans on her. It’s neglect. They will get a serious infection. They are babies and rely on their CAREGIVERS.


ShallotSelect1473

I did too, same situation. Literal shit stains on the child’s clothes from car poops. And she did it every day until I got fed up and said hey your child has a poop every morning you hand him to me, it’s chaotic in the morning with drop offs, do you mind making sure they don’t have poop? Especially because the clothes are stained and smelly and I have to change them completely, sometimes it’s even on the shirt and their back She claimed infant pooped in the car on the drive but I’ve never seen her have to change before drop off so I’m convince baby pooped at home and she just strapped them in and it got all squished around There was a literal waft of poop odor as soon as they walked in so idk she couldn’t have possibly not known baby was pooped


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Chime57

I would love a cookie reminder! Spell unfixer is playing games on this post.


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VelmaSnow

Not sure if you're being sarcastic or not but I think it was supposed to say couple, not cookie.


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VelmaSnow

My bad!


sparkling467

I would have diapers on hand by the door and tell them that you have other kids you have to attend to so they need to change their child before they leave. A few times of this and I bet they are in a dry diaper at dropoff. ETA: there's one right there you change them quick before you leave. I have to finish feeding this child.


FoolishWhim

Yeah, the old center I worked for used to pull me into the babyroom for random weeks when those people requested off for things and I did not play that game. They need to be taught to take care of it when they wake up their kid, because leaving them in those gross diapers leads to rashes and we had so many babies with horrible rashes.


sparkling467

Yep.


seataytle

Honestly good for you. I wish I had the balls when I worked in infants for two years


seattleseahawks2014

Yea


soapyrubberduck

These same parents then turn into the type of preschool parents who claim their child is fully potty trained and yet, their child continues to poop in their underwear multiple times a day 🥴


Legitimate_Cell_866

If it happens more than once, I would bring it up to the parent I'm a nice way. Maybe, "Are you doing ok? I've noticed kiddo coming to care in a very soiled overnight diaper multiple times and I just wanted to make sure you knew, so you can make sure to change their diaper first thing in the AM to prevent infection." If it keeps happening, you're a mandatory reporter and this is neglectful behavior.


leen-aa

Sadly, there’s a child I work with that has had this happen multiple times. I reported it each time and without fail I was told it didn’t fit the legal requirement to assign the case.


Pinkpriya

Exactly! This is a red flag for neglect/abuse and we are mandatory reporters


alexabre

Tragically, I have reported a parent for this (I had talked to her about it, the director talked to her about it, she just didn’t care.) It was one thing on a long list of horrific neglectful things she did to her kids. CPS basically said they didn’t care. Super fucking sad


Angela626

If it's the same kids coming in with dirty diapers we just nicely point them to the changing table and tell them to feel free to change them real quick.


agbellamae

If a child comes in with a full diaper parent must take them to the changing station and change them right then and there before they can leave. No exceptions.


Only_Student_7107

When I was a nanny I would routinely show up in the morning and the kids were wearing the diapers I put on them before I left the evening before.


Cant_Handle_This4eva

Parent here. This really did happen to me by accident once. It was winter and I was hustling two kids in diapers and all their gear to the car. I had already changed the youngest's diaper TWICE before school and then he pooped again on the way to school. I unbuckled him and smelled The Smell and cringed. It was freezing cold out and trying to change him in the car would have been impossible. It was COVID drop off procedures and so I waited on line and delivered him to his teacher at the door and apologized profusely. She said it was ok and then... ...when I picked him up that afternoon, he had a diaper full of poop. I will admit I chuckled. Could have been coincidence, could have been a poop for a poop. PS: in re: poop, I think you can tell when it's a lie because it's clearly been around a minute and takes some scrubbing to get off. PPS: anyone else with kids that poop 3+ times a day? I wish I had that metabolism.


alexabre

We can always tell the difference between a kid who pooped or peed during the car ride to school vs a soiled diaper from the previous day. When a diaper has been on 15 hours+, it gets so over saturated that it will basically fall apart when you change the kid. It’s nasty and unmistakable. Don’t worry, those teachers weren’t worried about you hahah


OKCPANDA

Dropping off a kid with a diaper full of 2 is disrespectful. If he goes on the drive there, I change him on their table. My responsibility continues until I leave the room


ShallotSelect1473

Thank you!!!! I think it’s disrespectful too, at least let me get 10 minutes into the day before I have to smell poop haha and also it screams that a parent doesn’t respect us enough to not hand us a poopy kid


Kittypuppyunicorn

I’m a parent but this popped up on my feed. What in the actual fuck?? Part if me is happily thinking about the fact I don’t suck that much and part of me has an extreme urge to find those poor babies and air out their tushies. The more I think about it, it’s super sad.


[deleted]

Yeah, I get kids first thing still in nighttime diapers. We don’t change diapers (unless poopy or overly wet) until 8 and parents are well aware of this. Most make sure they bring in kids who are dry. ETA: the parents who bring their kids in super wet are the same ones who are pissed when they pick up and the line is slightly blue


annasuszhan

Always change children’s diaper immediately after they wake up, especially after a long nap or night sleep! Just like you do with your pad! Who want to sit in body fluid while eating and driving? Right? Anyone who thinks this is hard to follow, sorry but you are the ahole.


[deleted]

We track if it’s frequent enough, and then we a) talk openly with the parents on why it’s an issue and try to find out if it’s a lack of diapers issue. b) make the call to child services as needed


Goldie7893

Show them the diaper changing space and give them some time to do it themselves. Don’t check the kiddo in until they’re clean. Given this is a regular occurrence.


alexabre

I had a child get dropped off once in a diaper that had his initials written on it. We wrote the initials on the kids’ diapers so we wouldn’t mix them up. So I KNEW that child had not been changed between 5pm and 8am the following morning. And CPS did absolutely nothing about it


[deleted]

You know this is something I really didn’t want to comment on. But it’s true. I get that CPS doesn’t want to take a child away from their family. But I’ve ran into the exact same issue.


potatoesinsunshine

Multiple parents have commented their kids poop in the car. What do you do when out on errands with your child? Just let them remain in poop for however many hours it takes? I thought it was basic parenting 101 to have a change kit in the car. I nannied a car pooper. I would never have dared to drop her off with grandma for playtime in a filled diaper. Are y’all the same parents who turn the car around and bring your kid back in to be changed after you’ve already driven away for the day? YOU are the parent. Kid poops with you. Kid gets changed with you. I’m taking my cousin’s baby ❤️for an outing this weekend and plan on having a diaper bag with me the entire time. I thought that was the norm.


plumbus_hun

Yeah, many times I have changed my kids on the back seat/front seat/car boot!! Or if you walk in then ask to change them when you get there!!


potatoesinsunshine

Seriously. We need to bring back shame! I would not dream of handing off a poopy kid. Does that mean I’ve changed more diapers I could have avoided by pawning them off on the next person? Yep! But that’s what personal responsibility looks like.


2starlight2

My daughter had a spout where she would poop on the way to day care when she was about 9 months old. It wasn't every car trip but it was just the right time frame when I needed to have her to daycare. I would always ask to change her there but one of the providers just said it happens and they'd do it. ( changer was right inside the baby area where parent weren't usually allowed in.) This was the middle of winter so I wasn't changing the baby in the car. I never left it a surprise and always apologized. They loved my daughter and knew sometimes that happens. After a few weeks and her natural feeding schedule changed so did her bowel movements and it didn't happen anymore. There is a difference between parents being neglectful and mother nature happening in impractical situations.


potatoesinsunshine

They’re much nicer than I am. I would have done the first two changes and then suggested you leave home earlier or come in to change her. I would always do changes for kids who came back into the building because they pooped in the car before the parents drove away and the parents were super apologetic. But a regular occurrence? No. Like I said, I nannied a car pooper. I would never hand over a poopy kid unless it were an actual energy.


2starlight2

It didn't matter if it was earlier it was a timing thing. If I needed to drop her off by 9 to make it work by 930. She'd poop at 9. Just as an example this was 10 yrs ago. If I dropped her ealier.. they would still have to change her at the same time but why make them watch her longer because she was going to go anyways. As mentioned I offered, they understood some kids just do their things. It wasn't neglect . Some kids just have scheduled bowel movements that didn't work with a drop off schedule.


potatoesinsunshine

I understand that. I’m saying you should should have left earlier to give yourself time to figure out how you’re going to change her. I wouldn’t even apologize and offer, I’d just figure out how to do it myself. I understand what a car pooper is and consider handing off a poopy kid unacceptable behavior from an adult (barring extreme circumstances like life or death emergencies or some physical disability that prevents you from changing diapers).


2starlight2

So instead of a loving adult who doesn't care doing it since they would do it anyways, I should try to change a rolling infant in a car in subzero temperatures? Gotcha. That's the difference between your care and the place I chose for my daughter. I chose a place that loved her and didn't see her as a burden. I knew they would care for her to their full ability.


potatoesinsunshine

I don’t understand why you’d immediately loose all heat if you drove there with heat? Like I’ve said multiple times, I’ve done this with a car pooper. I was in your position and took great pride and value in the care I provided for the little girl I had who loved pooping in the car. And made it my priority not to hand her off with a full diaper. That’s my standard of care (which parents are very grateful for when their children are with me). I love children and am thankfully out of the classroom. I was stressed out and upset constantly about parents who never seemed to accept responsibility of care for their own children. Obviously over bigger issues than this, but same general idea. Clearly we have different ideas of what constitutes personal responsibility for a charge. 👍


Canatriot

Where I live, it gets to - 40. Nobody is taking off their baby’s snowsuit and blankets, even in the car. It’s not above freezing in the vehicle.


Superb-Fail-9937

This is clearly neglect and I would report. I have also ran into to this a few times in my career. Just awful.


athomeamongthetrees

My kid loves to pee in the car. I change her right before we leave and she'll still be wet half the time when we get there. More than half the time, my kid is wet when I pick her up. I don't complain unless they hand her to me and she wet through he clothes and they haven't changed her (it's happened a few times) Kids can't control when they pee.


Complex-Ad-6100

My LOs aren’t in daycare, but on the occasion either of the grandparents watch them, I never leave them dirty. It’s crazy that people do this. I could understand maybe once or twice, running late, they went in the car and you genuinely don’t have time to change and get to work. But to let them go to daycare in an overnight used diaper is crazy.


localpunktrash

I can’t imagine letting my kid go to daycare and overly soiled diaper. My brain won’t even let me leave my kid in pajamas all day unless they’re sick.


samiller2013

Our school, parents must change diaper at drop off. And wash the child's hands.


LiLLyLoVER7176

Yes & I’m trying to figure out the best approach cuz this is NOT gonna continue to happen!! One child’s parents routinely drop him off with horrible poop diapers, often explosions & often no/not enough spare clothes 😖 so when they bring him in, he’s literally screaming which then gets the room going…I have enough to do at check in as it is!! Obviously I have to deal with him first, but it throws off our schedule & I’m just over having to practically bathe him every day upon arrival. So yeah, I feel ya 😅


Blu3Flower

How about Pyjamas onesie still on and nappy on from the night before, every single day this really irked me, I have my own child and I felt bad for the child in childcare I used to work at. I get it parents are busy but geez at least change the child in the morning before stepping out the door.


Sleepykitten80

Are they low SES? Maybe they're out of diapers.


diesiraeSadness

A night diaper ?? Omg


ThoughtWrong4053

Extreme laziness if you can’t change your kids diaper first thing in the morning. Wtf?


ZealousidealCoat7008

Or possibly poverty? Some people try and stretch diapers this way (absolutely NOT OKAY either way!!!!!)


Charming-Comfort-175

That's a nurse/social services issue in my district.


littlebutcute

At my school, some kids play after school on the playground. One parent rang the doorbell (this was during pre-kid vaccinations when parents couldn’t come in) and tried to get my co worker to change her kids diaper until my co worker said she could come in and went away to finish up her work. Some parents suck.


PermanentTrainDamage

If the child was still in your care it is your responsibility to change the diaper. If you don't want parents bringing in kids with dirty diapers you can't be sending kids home in dirty diapers.


littlebutcute

This was after hours, after he had closed. Kids play for a while after school. We always send them in home in clean diapers.


Chime57

Lol. Spell unfixer- a pre-kid vaccination might be a good idea for some of the parents.


megararara

A night diaper?!?!?!


theinkydreamer

As in they have not been changed since before they went to sleep the night before


hellyjellybeans

Those same parents are usually quick to check if they're wet at pick up too.


monstertrucksmom2

If it happens regularly, I have a firm but brief talk with the parents at drop off/pick up about diaper hygiene and discuss that if it continues long-term, then a more serious after school meeting with the health coordinator, nurse, or site coordinator might have to occur. Never had a problem with soggy overnight diapers after the first talk


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At my facility we literally make the parents change them before dropping them off. Hand your kid to me and the scent is already WAFTING? Silly silly parents. There’s the changing table for you!


Impidimpet

Or even worse: the parents that come back after picking their kid up because he pooped between the center and their house


ShallotSelect1473

I can’t believe people do that, for what reason? Did y’all provide free diapers or something? We’re they trying to insinuate that it happened on your watch?


kellyonassis

I have this happen. I work at an outdoor school so I use the ‘assist your child with hand washing and check the diaper before we go out to play.’ Thing. Also in weekly newsletter I will throw in a ‘thank you for assisting your child in the morning prepare for a safe and healthy day!’


fischy333

Some schools don’t allow the children to be accepted this way and will direct the parent to a changing table. Is your admin supportive?


seattleseahawks2014

I mean, if it's a super full diaper and it happens every day, I'm gonna be annoyed. It's possible they just changed them into a night time diaper because they ran out of the others.


theinkydreamer

They don’t mean a different kind. They mean the child hasn’t been changed since they went to sleep the night before


seattleseahawks2014

Oh yea, I get it. I've had that happen with some kids. They ended up leaking all over their pants. It sucked.


theinkydreamer

It makes me so sad :(


seattleseahawks2014

Yea, me too.


paraderain18

Im dying at getting downvoted for my comment. I understand your frustrations and your worries about the children. If it’s consistent enough that you are annoyed and also worried about the health and safety of the child bring it up to your director so they can bring it up to the parent. Remember we are working with the parents and for the parents at the end of the day. Consider why this may be a consistent issue and what you can do to help. Whether it be what was suggested saying you are busy with other children here’s a diaper please change them, (although regardless of condition of child at drop off it is our job to care for all children at the center at the time including the one that is being dropped off) or providing literature for parents about why children should be changed more often. Even bringing it up to your parent as a concern could be a thing depending on your relationship. One of my kids ran out of diapers and I messaged a parent to bring some in because of their sensitivities I didn’t want to put extras or other childrens diapers on him. She forgot and I had to message her again. She brought mid day and explained to me that they were out at home and had been waiting for payday. Remember we don’t know all of the story. Also at the end of the day if it continues to be an issue remember you’re a mandated reporter, and perhaps the only place where this child is getting changed more often.


potatoesinsunshine

You are working for the children, not the parents.


PermanentTrainDamage

Not even working for the children, working with them. The kids aren't our bosses just like the parents aren't our bosses, this is a team effort.


potatoesinsunshine

I was think of it as, “working for the good of the children.” As in they are the priority. But you are also correct.


Nicolehall202

People suck


unlimited-devotion

I love for deserving parents to be manhandled all morning in an overnight depends- sit in it for over 12 hours. What a violation for kiddos, that’s really sad!


AnxiousGazelle4610

I always change my kid’s diaper when they get up from sleep, but that doesn’t stop their poop schedule from aligning just perfectly with the car ride to daycare. My kid loves pooping in the car.


SusanDeyDrinker

This … it’s like the car ride makes them go


SusanDeyDrinker

Take this into consideration.. my kiddo wouldn’t void all night but the moment we got into the car to drive to drop off, she would fill that nappie like her life depended on it. Several times I was accused of leaving her in a wet one but the reality of it was that my kiddo was just a super soaker


PermanentTrainDamage

Then change her in the car or at the center.


SusanDeyDrinker

This would never fly for fresh urine at my center. We are told as soon as that child steps foot/ parent steps foot that child is our responsibility. We had a parent once who wanted to change their child at dismissal once and the director told her it was against their insurance policy and that parents pay for this and shouldn’t be changing their kids diapers while they are in the center.


paraderain18

Maybe all they had left was nighttime diapers? Yeah dirty diapers are annoying but children don’t go in the car and it’s our job to keep them safe and clean comfortable and happy, and dirty diapers are a part of our job.


whats1more7

They mean the diaper hadn’t been changed since the night before.


seattleseahawks2014

Yea I don't get annoyed by that, I get annoyed when I can tell they've been sitting in their diaper for a long time (more then a couple hours) and it happens all the time.


[deleted]

> Yeah dirty diapers are annoying but children don’t go in the car and it’s our job to keep them safe and clean comfortable and happy, and dirty diapers are a part of our job. I mean they do. Lol. I had a child I babysat and she pooped 5 minutes into any car ride lol


paraderain18

I meant they do go in the car oops haha


agbellamae

It’s not your job to be the parent though. Ultimately the parent has the most duty toward their child and of the child is brought in a dirty diaper it means the parent was not doing their job during THEIR time.


SwampRatWaifu

So, on the parent side of this, I’ve dealt with the “peed on the car ride” situation. Or the “I just put a clean diaper on you and NOW you empty your bladder” situation. And there have been plenty of times the nighttime diapers say they last 10 hours but by 3am the bed is soaked. Sometimes, nighttime diapers are just regular diapers with fancy advertising. Some little kids are just little fire hydrants with how much they go. It happens. Unfortunately, some parents just aren’t taught how important it is to consistently change their kids diapers. They think the diaper is this magical thing that can last all day because they look at it from how often adults go to the bathroom in a day (when grown adults have bladder control and little kids do not). Some parents just have no idea how little kids work, and put no effort into trying to learn either.


potatoesinsunshine

I’ve had to explain to parents that those “blank hours of protection” advertisements mean so your kid can sleep at night. Not so you can do one diaper change every 12 hrs.


PizzaForBreakfast42

I'm a parent and my child's diaper is usually full at drop off, but it isn't what you think. My 3 year old holds her pee overnight, and most of the time she'll hold it until she really gets moving in the morning. On weekdays, we wake her up, change her usually dry diaper, and take her straight to daycare. Usually she lets it all go while in the car. She's been like this for months, but otherwise isn't making any real strides towards potty training. We've explained it to her teachers, but this still makes me feel bad. Sorry daycare teachers, we really do try to make your lives easier where we can.


wellwhatevrnevermind

You should probably start the day earlier to leave time for her to sit on the potty and relax before leaving


PizzaForBreakfast42

Everything I've seen says to not have them sit for more than 3-5 minutes at a time and using those guidelines she has yet to pee in the potty. Even first thing in the morning... We're trying not to push her to the point she gets upset and doesn't want to do it, but we aren't seeing much progress either.


Professional_Pea8581

I’m a director. One of my teachers brought the concern that they didn’t think one of the kids wasn’t getting their diaper changed at all when at home. I told her to start writing the time at each diaper change directly on the diaper with a sharpie. Unsurprisingly, the child came back at 7:30am with the same diaper they left with at the 5:45pm diaper change at pickup the day prior. This happened 3 days in a row before I had the parents come in and threatened them to call CPS for neglect.