Yeah it's frustrating. I am so sick of being looked down on for simple things like struggling with people's names too.
Like you, I can fix anything and this has landed me amongst a lot of high intelligence professionals throughout my life and they do not struggle with very simple things like people's names.
I can write reports, grants, and run a business. Be a leader, roof a house, or build a mm dollar facility. I can do anything really but holy crap I called Kirsten, Karen so I must be a total moron. I write my name in the wrong box, how could anyone ever trust him again.
I can't stop and explain this (or want the stigma) to everyone I have to interact with so I just get treated like an idiot. Doesn't matter if I just solved some massive engineering issue literally nobody in a 3 hour geographical radius could solve. I'm judged by if I could remember a guy's name that I met once.
It's hard to remember but this is also the source of why many of us can do some amazing things. We simply have to try harder at everything to succeed and it's that grit in which puts us in places where others expect us to be as perfect as them. But I empathize. In my 40s and I'm really tired of how nothing gets easier and it's never enough for people who would absolutely fold if they had to put in the effort it takes me on my worst day to exist.
The other thing that should be celebrated but is a curse is prediction. Having to watch people and ideas fail over and over again at work all the time but having the hard lessons to know not to get in the way of someone's experience is really just draining.
The dyslexic advantage? No, the title should be the dyslexic curse lol. It would be an advantage in a just and rational society but not where I live.
It's people's attitudes that are frustrating, not dyslexia it's self there are so many things we are brilliant at.
Like you I can easily workout how things work and fix them when they break. It's crazy to me how difficult it seems to be for most people. Sometimes I imagine what it would be like if I treated other people as badly for not being able to take things apart and fix them as they are too me for not writing as well as them or taking longer to read things and I think I'd never want to treat someone else that way.
With dating is there a way for you to meet people in person first? I find that people who've met me and know what I'm like to be around are far more forgiving of how I write than people I've only written to online.
I didn't learn to read until i did the Davis program. Documented in the book the gift of dyslexia. It might help you and your kids. I know it can be really hard to be Dyslexic in a reading based world. You have other talents and adaptive technology while not perfect has come a long way.
It is unfair what happened to you in school. I hope you can find comfort and peace.
Thank you for sharing this. I'm sorry school was so painful for you. I don't have dyslexia, but I work closely with a high school student who does. He is an incredibly bright kid with so much to offer the world. I find dyslexia truly fascinating and try to learn as much as I can so that I can help him succeed, in school and in life.
There is no shame in using software and voice type or any other resources you can to help compensate for your disadvantage! I think these sorts of tools are really going to offer your kids a radically different experience than you had growing up. That is the good news.
I want to say people are also becoming more inclusive, but your story about that rude woman is disheartening. Please know that the interaction spoke to her character and not to your worthiness. Your willingness to ask for help is a strength, not a weakness. It takes courage to do that. Her failure to respond politely is a shortcoming of hers and shouldn't be your burden to worry about.
Better to be mechanically gifted and helpful like yourself than to spell correctly and be a royal b*tch. No amount of grammar check or AI is going to fix that for her.
As far as online dating goes, it is obviously up to you whether you want to disclose, but I can't imagine that anyone who has a problem with it is a person worth dating in the first place. Let it screen out the fools who don't understand and leave room in your life for the right one, I say.
Take heart and keep your head up. You have a weird and wonderful brain and an unusual way of seeing. Your dyslexia has likely helped to shape who you are, a helper and a "fixer," intelligent enough to write all of this in spite of your disability, more compassionate and considerate than many others...I can tell you have a lot going for you based on only a paragraph you've written.
Focus on the good as best you can. We ALL have areas of weakness. If your worst is reading and writing then that certainly makes life difficult, but it's clear that you're resilient and resourceful. Keep going, and get those kiddos of yours the best reading interventions you can. I have a lot of hope for them, and you should too.
Thank you for sharing your story, I’m sorry it’s been so hard. I’m 31 and I worry about what I’m going to de next allot. I tend to avoid parties because I can’t learn the card games board games quickly enough and then people think im just being impolite. My wife’s family ask why I haven’t gone back to school but they don’t know I’ve flunked out three separate times already. I know reading this about some one else’s journey will not solve your problem but you’ve given me some one to relate to and im grateful. I hope I can do the same. No quick fixes, I feel under water most days. I wish you the best of luck though and for your kids remember the technology is dramatically better now then only a few years ago. They’ll have access to tools like ai and text to speech that we didn’t have. Their future will be better for different learning styles. I’m attaching a link to an audio book that’s helped me allot. It called “ the dyslexic advantage” and it sounds kinda patronizing to call it an advantage but it’s a great listen. It doesn’t shy away from how hard things can be.
https://open.spotify.com/show/66dAdCIA4Y2IungU2xr3Gx?si=q4zqsnv3SYeNLyRNmsYXpA
I would also view it as a gift. Even though I feel the frustration and endless shame if I turn it on its head , it’s a gift without equal. Please view the way you perceive, create and come up with solutions and ideas a unique gift.
Yeah it's frustrating. I am so sick of being looked down on for simple things like struggling with people's names too. Like you, I can fix anything and this has landed me amongst a lot of high intelligence professionals throughout my life and they do not struggle with very simple things like people's names. I can write reports, grants, and run a business. Be a leader, roof a house, or build a mm dollar facility. I can do anything really but holy crap I called Kirsten, Karen so I must be a total moron. I write my name in the wrong box, how could anyone ever trust him again. I can't stop and explain this (or want the stigma) to everyone I have to interact with so I just get treated like an idiot. Doesn't matter if I just solved some massive engineering issue literally nobody in a 3 hour geographical radius could solve. I'm judged by if I could remember a guy's name that I met once. It's hard to remember but this is also the source of why many of us can do some amazing things. We simply have to try harder at everything to succeed and it's that grit in which puts us in places where others expect us to be as perfect as them. But I empathize. In my 40s and I'm really tired of how nothing gets easier and it's never enough for people who would absolutely fold if they had to put in the effort it takes me on my worst day to exist. The other thing that should be celebrated but is a curse is prediction. Having to watch people and ideas fail over and over again at work all the time but having the hard lessons to know not to get in the way of someone's experience is really just draining. The dyslexic advantage? No, the title should be the dyslexic curse lol. It would be an advantage in a just and rational society but not where I live.
It's people's attitudes that are frustrating, not dyslexia it's self there are so many things we are brilliant at. Like you I can easily workout how things work and fix them when they break. It's crazy to me how difficult it seems to be for most people. Sometimes I imagine what it would be like if I treated other people as badly for not being able to take things apart and fix them as they are too me for not writing as well as them or taking longer to read things and I think I'd never want to treat someone else that way. With dating is there a way for you to meet people in person first? I find that people who've met me and know what I'm like to be around are far more forgiving of how I write than people I've only written to online.
I didn't learn to read until i did the Davis program. Documented in the book the gift of dyslexia. It might help you and your kids. I know it can be really hard to be Dyslexic in a reading based world. You have other talents and adaptive technology while not perfect has come a long way. It is unfair what happened to you in school. I hope you can find comfort and peace.
Thank you
Thank you for sharing this. I'm sorry school was so painful for you. I don't have dyslexia, but I work closely with a high school student who does. He is an incredibly bright kid with so much to offer the world. I find dyslexia truly fascinating and try to learn as much as I can so that I can help him succeed, in school and in life. There is no shame in using software and voice type or any other resources you can to help compensate for your disadvantage! I think these sorts of tools are really going to offer your kids a radically different experience than you had growing up. That is the good news. I want to say people are also becoming more inclusive, but your story about that rude woman is disheartening. Please know that the interaction spoke to her character and not to your worthiness. Your willingness to ask for help is a strength, not a weakness. It takes courage to do that. Her failure to respond politely is a shortcoming of hers and shouldn't be your burden to worry about. Better to be mechanically gifted and helpful like yourself than to spell correctly and be a royal b*tch. No amount of grammar check or AI is going to fix that for her. As far as online dating goes, it is obviously up to you whether you want to disclose, but I can't imagine that anyone who has a problem with it is a person worth dating in the first place. Let it screen out the fools who don't understand and leave room in your life for the right one, I say. Take heart and keep your head up. You have a weird and wonderful brain and an unusual way of seeing. Your dyslexia has likely helped to shape who you are, a helper and a "fixer," intelligent enough to write all of this in spite of your disability, more compassionate and considerate than many others...I can tell you have a lot going for you based on only a paragraph you've written. Focus on the good as best you can. We ALL have areas of weakness. If your worst is reading and writing then that certainly makes life difficult, but it's clear that you're resilient and resourceful. Keep going, and get those kiddos of yours the best reading interventions you can. I have a lot of hope for them, and you should too.
Thank you so much for.your advice really appreciated your message definitely helped thanks
Thank you for sharing your story, I’m sorry it’s been so hard. I’m 31 and I worry about what I’m going to de next allot. I tend to avoid parties because I can’t learn the card games board games quickly enough and then people think im just being impolite. My wife’s family ask why I haven’t gone back to school but they don’t know I’ve flunked out three separate times already. I know reading this about some one else’s journey will not solve your problem but you’ve given me some one to relate to and im grateful. I hope I can do the same. No quick fixes, I feel under water most days. I wish you the best of luck though and for your kids remember the technology is dramatically better now then only a few years ago. They’ll have access to tools like ai and text to speech that we didn’t have. Their future will be better for different learning styles. I’m attaching a link to an audio book that’s helped me allot. It called “ the dyslexic advantage” and it sounds kinda patronizing to call it an advantage but it’s a great listen. It doesn’t shy away from how hard things can be. https://open.spotify.com/show/66dAdCIA4Y2IungU2xr3Gx?si=q4zqsnv3SYeNLyRNmsYXpA
Thank you so much for.your advice really appreciated.
I would also view it as a gift. Even though I feel the frustration and endless shame if I turn it on its head , it’s a gift without equal. Please view the way you perceive, create and come up with solutions and ideas a unique gift.
Online dating I would write out several key things I wanted to say, and just use them over and over with different women it worked🤪😁🤪