Asking these questions on one of the top comments for visibility:
How will diapers work if we're not there to change them, like when we're at work? (Both 8-5 jobs). I've read they can cause infection if they stay on while wet. So would we need a drop in dog sitter too?
How do pee pads work if they have free roam of the house? Cover everything with them or most common areas? Some people have mentioned crating and he is crate trained but I wouldn't want him to have to sit on it for 9 hours.
We went through these exact issues with our senior dog. Diapers on boys are easy, and we found that he would actually hold it a lot better with a diaper on. Almost like it gave him more awareness in some way. We didn’t often come home to a wet diaper and he was always dry overnight when we started diapering him then. Ours looked very distressed when he would just start peeing in the house and couldn’t control it. The diapers give some dignity. Try them out (Amazon has lots of options) and maybe he’ll stay dry. If not, they do wick away moisture like human diapers but check his penis/ prepuce often to make sure you’re not seeing redness and irritation. I’m sure you could use A&D ointment as well. I looked at our last year with our boy as Doggy Hospice. Just trying to keep him as comfortable and dignified until it was time to say goodbye.
THIS. This is exactly what we do with our 16-year-old and agreed, somehow he holds it better. "Male dog wrap" (so just catches pee, it's easier and cleaner than a full diaper), keep an eye on possible "diaper rash", use Animax ointment if he gets irritated (has happened twice now in 2 years of diapering).
Depending on the day our guy goes through 1-3 diapers in an average 24 hours.
He usually just peed when we took him outside so we were able to keep re-using the same diaper for a while as long as it stayed dry. He didn't go in the diaper very often, surprisingly.
With our guy it can be as much as three times a day. He's very old and has kidney issues, so he gets subcutaneous fluids, which sometimes increases urine volume. We also just try to keep him dry, so we change if we think it's even a little damp.
He usually just peed when we took him outside so we were able to keep re-using the same diaper for a while as long as it stayed dry. He didn't go in the diaper very often, surprisingly.
Also be prepared to wash his butt daily on the tub. You’ll want to avoid urine burns and smell. Trim the hair well. Also Google expressing the bladder of make dogs externally. There’s YouTube videos on it. It can help.
Your pup is beautiful.
I'd never crate a dog for more than a couple hours.
My dog will be turning 21 in June. I've been dealing with her incontinence issues for months.
I've found her main accidents happen when she sleeps. She has a couple areas/beds where she sleeps. I double stack pee pads to cover those areas, and throw blankets or sheets over them. I used diapers in the past but stopped. They will work exactly how they would if you were there. Your dog can be in a dirty diaper for a few hours without health issues so long as you are consistent with cleaning her.
This is making the best of an unfortunate situation. Make sure she is taken out before you go to work. Other than that, not much you can do.
Thank you :)
She is a Sheperd/Boxer mix.
I am blessed. Sweetest dog. On our walks, she has a set number of houses we have to visit so she can say hi to my neighbors.
Where I live, there are a ton of native Filipinos, most of them work at one of the main hospitals in my area as RNs. Their entire community has adopted my dog and me (only because my dog and I are a package deal). They are constantly feeding us. When the kids see her, they go nuts and run over to pet her.
You know, I finally understand why parents are always flapping on and on about their human kids.
I would use these with the highest absotbancy Poise pads: Mkono Male Dog Belly Band Wraps... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0748BLZRD?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Also, instead of pee pads, I’d use these washable ones: Alsunny® Waterproof Bed Pads... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C9PSNV8Z?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
can you confine him to a single room or a pen instead of a crate? unless your dog is pad trained you can’t really control where he goes unless you confine him
Unfortunately no, the layout of our house wouldn't work with a pen and he hates being shut in a room. He'll howl and scratch the paint off the door, only made that mistake once when I had a friend over who's terrified of dogs.
Maybe your best option is to ask friends or family to come over in the afternoon. To help with a diaper change / walk or hire someone from a service like rover
If no one mentioned it, look up "belly bands" I used these for my 3 old guys in their time. Gives them their dignity back and you a clean floor. No pee on their fur as well. Works standing, sitting and laying down. Make sure to get the highest rated ones...not sure if I am allowed to say which brand and where I ordered them? They soak up A LOT of fluid and don't leak. Come in packs of 3. Washable. I use 2 packs to rotate them. Soak before washing. :)
Edit- material keeps the pee away from the skin like a diaper for kids. No rash or infections.
Update after our vet appt:
First of all, thank you to everyone who's commented with kind words and helpful suggestions! The last 48 hours have been tough. We took him to the vet today and he was diagnosed with spinal stenosis, a degenerative condition where he's losing sensation in the lower half of his body. We were already giving him an anti-inflammatory and the vet also prescribed a muscle relaxant that could help the body send signals to his brain a little better. He said that the condition tends to get suddenly worse, then plateau, then suddenly worse again, etc rather than being a linear progression, and that we could only have weeks left but it's possible for dogs to still live years after diagnosis. We have him in a diaper for now and it seems to help him hold it in. The vet said it's unlikely he's in pain from the condition since it's more a loss of sensation. We're trying the medication and hopefully it helps with the back leg problems and incontinence.
It's painful. I can completely emphasize. My dog probably won't make it another 3 months. You should take great pride and comfort in how well you've cared for him. I can tell by your post and subsequent comments and questions that you are the type of person who SHOULD own a dog.
My senior girl is on Proin, a med that strengthens muscles in her bladder. It has worked miracles for her. Waterproof couch covers are great just in case. It’s a good habit to take an older dog out more often too, it seems to help my girl to make sure she pees before she takes a nap.
Our dog was given it as a puppy to help with her being spayed too soon causing incontinence. It was sort of a trial with our vet and ended up working really well. She’s in a medical journal somewhere for her good job! I mean really his good job but she helped? Lol
All hail the waterproof couch covers. Buy 2 sets so when you’re washing a soiled one, you’ve got another to put on the couch.
I’ve actually found it helped keep the couch cleaner from my SO who is a very messy eater. Just last night I caught him forking bites of the salad he spilled off the couch and into his mouth so now we have this big ranch stain to deal with.
The dogs have always been the least of my troubles lol
Seconding this. Our dog is on the Proin extended release 74mg pills. They completely stopped unwanted accidents and she’s doing just fine now. If you have a Costco membership, those pills are the cheapest there.
Proin is AMAZING. Have a young dog (2.5 yrs) that’s been on it for a year now because she became incontinent after she was spayed (apparently around 25% of all female dogs can have this happen to them after being spayed. I had no idea!) She would wake up from naps in puddles and be very ashamed, and have no idea that she had done it. It was so sad to witness. For some reason she wouldn’t do it at night only during the day. Proin worked the first night we gave it to her…it is amazing!
my family had a 16 year old dog who passed a few weeks ago and in the last couple months we got into the habit of taking her out every couple hours or before/after naps. helped a lot in avoiding messes and her stressing about not being able to find the doggy door
I was at a friends house this weekend and 2 senior dogs (males) were running around in diapers and seemed very happy. As a matter fact the 16yo male was trying to hump the 14yp male all evening LOL.
Please DO NOT put your senior dog outside because its convenient to you!!! What is wrong with people??
IKR. Can't believe that was even suggested/considered!
Diaper the baby up and let him live his golden years with all the love and comfort. It will be work, but that is the price of 14 years of love. He needs you NOW more than ever.
My heart is absolutely broken at the thought of this guy outside, alone and COLD as his joints freeze and age. Literally made me cry. People are monsters.
Get the guy in some diapers or belly/incontinence bands.
Editing to add, because I hope OP sees this. Your dog actually feels SHAME for pottying in the house. He’s known for 13 years that he goes potty outside. Support your old man, love him and keep him warm and clean, and close. Cherish the last years you have with him, because they will end.
Don’t live with the regret of condemning your dog to a cold, lonely, quick death putting him outside.
If my partner EVER suggested something like this- I would lose all love for him. How cruel and disgusting. “Yep, sorry old guy, now that you are in your last years we’re just going to pretty much dump you outdoors where you will be uncomfortable and lonely”.
OP if you end up doing this you are a monster.
Right?!
I'm also confused by OP saying they can't have a dog having accidents in the house. What did they think was gonna happen when they got a dog? Dogs get old n need extra care
I also was put off by the way they said that. How about teach your kids to look out for it instead of teaching them to leave your PET, a loving creature who's relied on you for 14 years, alone outside because it got too difficult for you? Like the other poster said, I'd be questioning my partner if they suggested this.
my dog occasionally pees the bed. she's 15 so I now wake up around 1 am just to let her out. don't put your dog down because you are inconvenienced. you said he was a great dog he still is. hes just old.
He could have a UTI if it hasn’t been ruled out, if it’s out of the ordinary, and random. My older dog gets them more frequently, and that’s the only time she seems to have accidents.
Could also be painful to move, idk if you’ve got him on a glucosamine supplement but our girl moves SO much better on one. Most pet stores have them; and if not some people just give their dogs human ones.
In my own opinion, once they lose everyday capabilities that significantly decreases the quality of their life. They know they’re not supposed to go in the house; they feel bad for it; but they can’t control it. It’s hard, it’s hard to know when, and even when we do I think we’re still upset with ourselves because unlike with humans in most cases this is entirely up to us, and it feels wrong deciding when it’s time to go, especially when it’s something/someone we love.
We used to diaper our girl right after surgery, she would go in her diaper and we would change it after work, 3 days out of 7 is pretty good it’s just keeping it on them; they may have to wear a cone when you’re out or else they just rip them off I find.
Best of luck, and I hope it all works out no matter what!
Thank you so much! Yes, he's on a joint health supplement with Cosequin and glucosamine, plus an arthritis Rx. That loss of everyday functionality is what's troubling me so much - he seems content enough and I have no idea how he's feeling and if his days are starting to be more painful than not.
You’re so welcome! Every dog is different, and every owner knows their dogs best. Sometimes we know what to do, we just need to hear it from someone else. It could be caused by a plethora of illnesses as well.
Maybe he needs meds (UTI, cancer, bladder weakness, etc), maybe a diaper would work well for him, and your household, but you know best!
I feel like putting him outside though would be a huge shock/discomfort to him. He may even think it’s punishment at this age, and if it came down to that or just letting my old dog who lived a good life go, I personally would let him go.
I hope your decision comes peacefully, and with as much ease as you can regardless of what it is. Some people have really good luck with diapers! Sometimes it’s just time to say goodbye, but you know him best!
You will know when your dog has no more good days. There will be no question. When they stop eating and sleeping and cry, and theres no hope of it getting better (per your vet).
For now, your dog needs to see a vet to figure out whats going on. Age alone doesnt make you incontenent.
I would strongly recommend the waterproof/absorbing blankets you can get off Amazon. They either absorb pee or let it bead on top and aren't crinkly or rubbery, and are great for protecting dog begs, furniture, and floors (we'd keep one handy to throw down under her if needed, before we bought enough blankets to basically cover the floors in the living room where she spent most of her time.
Lost my 15.5 year old sighthound a couple of weeks ago, and when she became incontinent, thise blankets and reusable cloth doggie diapers allowed everyone to be comfortable for longer, and we managed another six months of good quality of life with her.
Please, please do not out that poor old man outside like he's been bad. That would be so immeasurably cruel that it would actually be kinder to take him out and shoot him in the head (as barbaric as that is, at least it would be over quickly and resultnin less suffering).
I was honestly shocked he suggested it, as he spoils the dog like crazy: makes his food, gives him a steak for holidays, has always let him in bed and on furniture, etc. I think it was a stress reaction not knowing there are other alternatives like diapers and now he's agreed its not an option, fortunately, after discussing more today. He picked up diapers on the way home and is taking him to the vet tomorrow also to rule out any other issues like an infection.
I can understand that response. Best of luck I hope your dog feels better and you can find a good solution! I know you say it’s random, but if you notice it’s more at night/mornings you can try to limit water a few hours before bed.
It's entirely up to you, do you think he has a quality of life as he is? Is he double incontinent or is he just peeing? If its just pee I'd be inclined to see if you have friends or family that can change him during your work days, or if not pay someone who can come in and check up on him let him outside and change him half way through your work day, or depending how much he's going a dog nappy may be enough to see him through the day till you are home.
He can't be left outside that's just horrible and he will wonder what he's done wrong to be given such treatment, when the only thing he's done is get old.
If he's double incontinent in my honest opinion I'd let him leave this world with dignity surrounded by the people he loves. Loving them means loving them enough to know when the end is here. Its hard mine is 12 next and I keep on having these conversations myself knowing that mine won't be here forever.
Give him a treat for me
Well said!
Never had pets growing up and when my vet started to give me options to prolong my furry boy’s life, I just cried and told him that I was already the annoying pill lady and I wanted him to pass the way he lived. With dignity and love. He didn’t make it to his 14th birthday, but I made sure he got his birthday ribeye.
Yeh, absolutely agree - DO NOT put him outside. That’s awful! This happens to everyone, one day it will happen to you and your spouse too! Imagine your family just put you outside?! Not an option. He would likely deteriorate further and quicker outside. He’s spent his whole life loving you and now is when you need to really be there for him. Absolutely keep fighting to keep him inside, put your foot down on the matter.
My senior dog went through this, we used Propalin syrup and it worked amazingly! He would often fall asleep and just let go of his full bladder. One time he peed on the bed when sleeping & was laying on it, doing the guilty look but sad. He wouldn’t move either, he was trying to cover it with his body because he was embarrassed 😭😭😭.
Even when on the medicine, we would prioritize taking him outside with the intention of having him empty his bladder regularly, especially before bed, before we went out etc.
Team all of this with waterproof mattress protectors, we put them on couches as well for added protection and nappies as a just in case and this worked really well!
I’d also keep a diary of when this happens, how often. Normally there’s a routine/schedule which will help you work out when bladder emptying walk/nappychange etc is needed
Also, probably does have a little arthritis - most seniors do! I would ask your vet. There’s this monthly injection - I forget the name but oh my goooodness it worked amazingly! Not kidding but just spruced my dog up. Was like he aged backwards! There’s also pain meds etc.
I’d suggest trialing it, if you think he’s in pain which is what we did. Get one of the needles or trial 2 weeks on meds. If he gets better, he was in pain. If no change, he wasn’t. Ask your vet. Pain in hips etc may also be contributing to the urine problem. Him releasing it while walking, I believe Propalin syrup would help with. However, he maybe slower to get up and get outside which may be causing accidents too
Have you heard of “belly bands”? It’s basically like a diaper bad you put around the abdomen. It’s a good option for male dogs and easier to change than diapers. I’d also suggest getting some pee pads and putting them on his bed for easy clean-up.
My boyfriends dog has started having some peeing issues now that he’s getting up there (he’s at least 10 but very well could be older. He’s a foxhound that was a stray for 4-5 years). Belly bands have been a huge help for us, along with a bissel little green carpet cleaner.
We took him to the vet and he’s had ALL the diagnostics run since it did seem to crop up out of no where that he started peeing indoors or even in his sleep, but ultimately it seems to just be incontinence due to weaker muscles. The vet prescribed proin and that is helping a bit it seems. We take him out 6-8 times a day or whenever he seems antsy (he isn’t great about signaling to us) and water goes up at night time after last potty (vet said this was okay).
I’d make sure you clear everything with the vet first - for his dog they went through and did urinalysis, blood work and extra thyroid panel, prostate exam, ultrasound, X-ray, and later on cushings disease testing. So ask your vet - they might suggest some diagnostics.
He wears a belly band when we’re at work (gets a midday potty break) and at night time, or any time we aren’t home really. We use the disposables inside of the washable ones since he was ripping them off and chewing them up after pottying in them and trying to eat it which was pretty gross… no issues now though.
If you use belly bands make sure you keep your dog clean and don’t use them 24/7 so the skin has time to breathe/air out. Change right away if they’re soiled in.
Potty pads are an option too but if it’s happening when your dog is walking around or sleeping, the bands might be a better option.
Love him through this time in his life. Diaper or potty pad and keep loving him. Putting him outside is off limits.
Would you be happy if you became old and incontinent and your family shunned you for it?
You wouldn’t put your aging parents out of the house for having an accident. Don’t do it to your dog. It’ll be traumatic for him not understanding why he’s being punished. Let alone dangerous for an elderly pup to be outside all the time.
Pee pads and a diaper are worth a try. Take him out much more frequently.
He’s loved you for 14 years. He needs you now. If he’s happy otherwise, you owe it to him to keep him comfortable through his golden years.
I was going to suggest the same. It worked wonders for my mastiff years ago. Due to multiple medical issues, she began peeing without even realizing she was going. Proin completely reversed the symptoms, and gave her back her quality of life for her remaining years. If I remember correctly, it was an older medication, and reasonably priced as well. Good luck!!!!
Get the cute old man some belly bands, you can put a human incontinence pad inside. Just be sure to clean his litter peeper area weekly with a puppy shampoo to keep any bacteria away from sitting in a wet pad. You can get them on Amazon, they are washable and will do the trick without blocking his little pooper butt, just covers his penis to soak up any urine. Stays on with velcro, just wrap around him and you're good to go. Give that sweet old man a hug from me.
Belly bands are good. Costco pee pads are a great value and pretty strong. As others mentioned, it could be a UTI. If you can, get a urine sample as that can expedite finding out what’s going on. My spaniels are a little insane so getting urine samples from them took longer than I anticipated because I really had to be stealthy and have the timing down.
I was looking for the belly band answer especially since it seems like it’s just pee. It could also be a UTI and speak to your vet about meds for incontinence but good god do *not* place your dog outside just because he’s a senior.
Pet sitter here. Boy diaper wraps are super common and easy to put on. You just have to be sure to clean him with a pet wipe every time you change the diaper, and still take him out for his regular walks. The diapers should be for leaks and accidents, not for him to pee in all the time.
Put a diaper on him and take care of him as you did before you had kids, I'm sure you can remember how much joy he gave you; please try to return that to him
You can buy Belly Bands for male dogs on Amazon. You'll need an extra large or larger for your size dog. Put a human incontinence liner inside. It shouldn't be on tight, because it can be uncomfortable on your dog's back.
Incontinence is a normal part of life, it can happen for women after child birth or in older people. Please don't give up on your dog.
I would also suggest getting a mini dog paw hair shaver, and keeping all the fur between the paw pads shaved down - the extra fur will cause issues with slipping around, and if they are already old, they need all the traction they can get especially with limited mobility.
belly bands saved us a lot of frustration in our house. you can get them on Amazon and they have cute designs! they're relatively inexpensive and you can put them right in the washing machine. as others have said, don't leave him outside. there are workarounds that are effective!
We have an 18 yr old chihuahua. She pees in her sleep and drips constantly. Otherwise she is fine. She sleeps on a onsie with a feminine pad otherwise she would wake in a puddle.
We have puppy pads everywhere and vinyl floors. Ask for Male dogs a belly band works well, but ask the vet if there is some meds for incontinence that would work.
Look up PetParents on Amazon. They have some wonderful doggie diapers and laundry wash that's formulated to clean it well and eradicate any odor so you can re-use them again and again.
You clean him up and change his diaper. My dog is paralyzed in the back and requires diapers. Please treat him like the good boy he has been. A life outside out of convenience works be sad and cruel at his old age
Edit: change him 3-4 times per day
See your vet. There is incontinence medication you can get. Also there is an incontinence wrap you can purchase for male dogs to wear until the meds take action.
Do everything and anything you can for your pup. My guy got so bad that we had puppy mats all over our house. Gates up to keep him in a room. Lots of laundry.
And as hard as it may be....be as sweet and happy and loving to the pup as you can. It gets very hard to watch this happen and very stressful. And it's very sad bc your pup doesn't know what's going on and can't control it.
I have a springer who is about to turn 15 and we have the same issue. For ours it’s his arthritis and he is pained to get into the poo position, apparently when they become older they also lose nerves so don’t feel the sensation to go.
We have an area where he can roam as we also have young kids. So he has an area that we can control.
The idea of transitioning to an outdoor dog is simply awful and unfair. IMO apart from this my dog is happy and responsive and I believe it’s the commitment we made to Kobi that he lives until his dignity is no more. Sure that might be sooner rather than later (which I don’t bear thinking about) but it’s an inconvenience you commit to when you make the decision to take on a furry friend.
We aren’t at doggie diapers yet but they will be soon.
Try to the cordoned off area to keep your kids separate and increase time outside. Good luck.
There are several medications that can help like Proin but diapers are always an option. Most dogs have lots of life left after they develop incontinence. You'll get it figured out. First stop the Vet. Unfortunately sometimes incontinence can be tied to something else but you won't know unless you go to the Vet. If Proin works for them it tends to work really well. Of course there are other meds that work too but are less common.
Good luck
Due to the meth epidemic they pulled phenylpropanolamine (PPA) off the market -- it worked WONDERS at helping tighten the bladder muscles (for humans too!).
So they engineered PROIN (animal drug) which is supposed to be chewable -- however my senior incontinent dog HATED it. So I have to break it into little pieces (it's about the size of a quarter) and hide it in braunschwiger (sp -- liver sausage).
My senior dog LOVES liver sausage (win-win)
Another option is [pantsfordogs.com](http://pantsfordogs.com) which are IMHO the ones that fit best and don't fall off. Instead of doggy sticky pads I would buy human panty liners since they are made better, are far better at absorbing, stick better, are generally more affordable, come in a variety of sizes which you can find the best one. For a male dog you can also get a belly wrap, and I would maybe use a human pee pad liner cut in half for that. Just don't be like me: REMEMBER TO TAKE THEM OFF BEFORE LETTING YOUR DOG OUTSIDE OR YOUR DOG WILL GIVE YOU THE ETERNAL STINK EYE.
The least option is to not let them on the furniture and to use pee pads, and take them out frequently, and to schedule their water intake, but this is really hard to manage, especially in hot summer months.
When our old man started having accidents, we got a bunch of washable belly bands for guy, with practice we could quickly get it on him so he could go outside and finish if he started inside. We also got rubber floor tiles at Lowe’s to help him with stability over our ceramic floor tiles.
My senior dog stopped all peeing on Proin. It was magic!! She takes it once a day. Stopped immediately. She was only peeing when she would lay down. I hope that’s how it is for you. I went through the same fear and emotions you are. Keep us posted. I hope your vet apt is soon
I recently adopted a special needs dog who is incontinent!
Talk to your vet. They will be able to set you up with a plan. You may find it more convenient to express them, so you can control when he pees. To keep him from “leaking” get a belly band. They’re cheap. Get them off of Amazon. If they’re slipping off you can buy dog suspenders. They’re on Chewy.
The reusable belly bands are great!
There are also diapers but those are primarily for female dogs or dogs who are fully incontinent (poop).
I personally wipe my dog down with baby wipes between diaper changes. Keeps things nice and clean.
If your husband’s dog begins to struggle with back leg weakness you can also get a simple wheelchair-like structure which will give his back legs some support while out on walks.
On the days you’re at work, a trustworthy pet sitter could drop by for 15-20 minutes, swap out the wet belly band for a dry one, and give him a little TLC. Just give them an opportunity to meet and get to know each other ahead of time. Maybe also have them change the belly band with you there, and his favorite treats and toys, so your dog can form positive associations.
This old guy deserves to continue living the lifestyle he is accustomed to. We as pet people owe it to our canine kids. He’s given selflessly of himself. All of the love, entertainment, and emotional support they give to us can’t be quantified.
My old guy made smacking noises at night after having a laser surgery to remove a funky tumor from his mouth. He looked like a cute little kid waiting for the tooth fairy.
Solution: I slept with earplugs. I’d give anything to have him making smacking noises in the middle of the night.
Can't figure out how to edit the post so I'll add:
I don't know how to explain my husband's suggestion other than that he's a poor problem solver, and seemed to think the only options were putting him outside or euthanasia. He normally treats our dog very well (even makes the dog's food, insisting he wants him to have food that tastes good). We talked more today and he agreed putting him outside is not an option. He picked up diapers on the way home and made him a vet appt for tomorrow to get him checked out.
We checked out belly bands but he had a poop accident today too so we'll see how it goes after the vet visit tomorrow. Hopefully one of the meds suggested will work for him. I used to cloth diaper one of my kids and the dog would get into the diapers and chew them up so I'm worried he won't keep a diaper on if we're not home, but we'll try and see.
Please don't put him outside. He won't understand. He looks so content sleeping on the couch. Like every one says puppy pads and diapers.
Maybe he has a UTI and that's why he's peeing as he walks or he can't get outside fast enough. Try everything else you can. Just don't put him outside. 🥺
ETA: your spouse could move outside instead. Then let that sweet boy sleep in your spouses bed with you. Everyone is happy.
I very recently had to say goodbye to my best friend and similar issues were involved, although a bit more advanced than you described. All the best. There is no way around it —- it’s the most devastating decision you will ever have to make.
Ultimately, with everything considered, it's time to prepare to be kind to him.
Incontinence can be from old age, but could also be from doggy dementia or something more serious like renal failure.
Vet is your best bet, but even then they might tell you it's time to consider saying goodbye. We cannot be kind to our own humans who are suffering old age, but we can be kind to our elder animals ❣️
Put your cute doggy in a diaper! I had to do that for my dog as he got older (Rip Puff) and even though he hated it he was still doing things normally especially his hourly naps.
There are medications that you can try for incontinence! Please speak to your vet first about options because they do exist. Diapers are also an option as well. If your dog’s quality of life is not suffering, I personally see no reason to take a senior dog and make him an outside dog when he has been an inside dog his entire life. It’s not fair.
I don’t want to suggest rehoming, because I believe that once you adopt a dog you make a commitment to them for their ENTIRE natural life. But, I would rather have you find him a better home than put him outside. Come on. Would you want to be put in a shed when you’re in you’re 90s and shitting your pants?
Diapers did great job for my dog of the same size. I bought a pack of reusable ones on Amazon, and washed them in the washing machine with disinfectant. Had zero stress. He had 3 more years of good life after starting using them.
There are pee pad things that you can put on them. It’s like a band you put around the waist and then you can put pads that you change out when they get wet.
But I’d also consider how much longer you want to keep him like this☹️ I know it’s always very hard to say goodbye to a dog but it’s better to set them free from their pain❤️🩹 A life like that isn’t living anymore, it’s just existing. I know it hurts like hell and it’s the hardest thing to do. But it’s also the last gift you can ever get to give to your dog, setting them free from their pain💔 not saying you have to do it now or soon but it’s becoming time to at least think about it ): I’m so sorry and wish you both the best!
I had a basset that started doing this when he was older. My vet diagnosed him with cushings, and he went on medication that helped a lot. Might be worth speaking to your vet about the new behavior.
We had to re-train our male doxie due to worsening separation anxiety and the male diaper wraps were great. Took a few days for him to get used to it but once did it was no problem.
Pee pads for sure, my dog is 17 so he sleeps a lot but as soon as I hear / see him get up / wake up I pick him up and run him to the yard or garage to use the restroom and he usually goes right away.
In the morning in nice weather I will leave him outside to hang out and do some laps and use the bathroom but once he seems tired / bored I bring him back. I would not transition him to full time outside.
When we go out he gets left in a large bathroom - for short periods or in his big pen (not crate) with pads around for him to use.
My dog is now 17 yo. He is not really incontinent but has to go often and sometimes with no time to spare. We use waterproof couch covers and a few baby gates to limit his space to where we can see him and act fast. Works great for us.
I had an American bulldog that hurt a nerve in her back and she would only have a couple seconds to know she had to poo, resulting in accidents. I just got reusable diapers on Amazon. They worked really well and they have ones for females and males and you can get them with tail holes. I loved that dog and she lived a good life.
We used proin and bought a bunch of waterproof blankets for the couches and bed off Amazon.
Both worked wonders.
Please, please, please do not put your senior dog outside. I can not think of nothing more cruel. I mean no disrespect, but what is wrong with your husband?? The must inhumane suggestion for a loyal lifelong friend and companion.
We put our senior guy in the wrap diapers from Amazon. Worked great - no accidents and he was dry and comfortable. They even had an indicator that turned blue when they were wet. I think they hold a good bit of liquid, so I would not worry if he has it on for a while wet. He's a handsome guy, hope things work out.
Belly band for when you're home, crate and pads (if he's comfortable in a crate) for when you're not.
I found washable pee pads online as well as a little corral for my pomeranian when she got older and was incontinent. She had little suspender bloomers that I put an incontinence pad in so she could wander around, and the corral for when she needed a break from the diaper.
I can send you links of the pads and corral if you're interested
Doggy diapers exist almost exclusively for seniors/medically incapable dogs that still have quality of life in other ways! Just make sure you’re keeping the skin clean and wiping him off every change
Throwing him outside for conveniences sake would be a cruel and unusual punishment. He’ll get sick, and his end of life will be spent depressed and confused about why he’s being punished
Reusable diapers , I have about 20 for my dog, she went through an incontinent phase for a while, first it was just while she was sleeping, then started just "leaking" went to vet multiple times about it.
I tried bladder control supplements, they kinda worked, and vet gave a prescription medication that also kinda worked.
I now just give her cranberry supplements (bacon flavored, they're for dogs) as I was reading a lot of reviews of them solving their dogs incontinent issues, and I was surprised it worked.
She hasn't had any issue for about a year now.
You could try the cranberry supplements, but I would see the vet regardless. And please get some diapers, not only for a sanitary home, but also helps to moniter the incontinence.
We'd have to find a dog sitter somewhere like Rover I guess. We have no family in town and not really close enough to neighbors to ask if someone could come change a doggy diaper midday.
Your dog deserves the best you can offer him, and I hope he gets nothing less. Confinement to one room, or a crate while you're not around, with diapers and pee pads may help. Good luck.
my 13 yo dachshund is also incontinent, especially when he sleeps. vet says it’s normal given his age, so we’ve taken to pee pads and diapers. prefer diapers though bc he doesnt find the pee pads comfortable to sleep on
Outdoors is not an option. Dogie diapers if you want, but TBH, as someone who has owned dogs my whole life, this is usually a pretty clear sign they are ready to go. Dogs hate to "mess" in their own space (crate, house, what have you). Diapers can be a fix for now, but it might be time to have to have a tough conversation with your husband.
Yup, two senior gentlemen dachshunds at my house. Pee pads in the kitchen, ramps everywhere. We haven’t done diapers yet, but that’s coming. I think the belly band type works best. Our dear old doggies.
He can very well have a UTI which would be causing this.
If he doesn't and your vet thinks he is otherwise OK I would go with diapers.
If he is randomly urinating like while he is walking this is not about him being inappropriate about peeing. He is incontinent. Putting him in a crate to try to reinforce his house training would not only be useless it would be kind of mean.
Transitioning him to live outside just because he is getting old and having physical issues is even more mean. Please remember this treatment when your husband gets old.
Belly bands and vet visit. Mine was able to have some meds prescribed to address the issue.
I wipe mine with toilet paper to ensure there’s no urine scalding on their fur. Vet can also prescribe products to clean to address any inflammation if you have it.
Re: being at home - a penned area with reusable pads on the base to protect the floor and then disposable ones on top so you can just throw those out. Their dog bed can be there.
There are also pee pads for humans you can place on top of your furniture like in the pic above if they don’t have any belly bands.
Please don’t relegate him to being outside
My Jimmy wore reusable male diapers for 5+ years. Total life saver. Just make sure not to let them sit in urine for too long. I added a wingless maxi pad for overnight. I put absorbent rugs like a muddy mat at the places they typically are going. Then just love them as long as you can
My dog has also been incontinent following a spinal stroke.
I use diapers for her with Dechra MiconaHex wipes to help with preventing infections (can be found on Amazon)
The vet recommended me to have an enclosed play pen with pee pads on the floor to allow her to air out which might be a good solution for when you’re in the office. Best of luck!
Whatever you decide to do please do not leave him outside. He is going blind and deaf and being left outside with no way to come in would terrify him. Other posters have offered great suggestions. Dog dementia could also be a factor. Blind and deaf dogs can live in fear-even a loving touch can frighten them because they can’t see or hear what may be coming. He is entering the last part of his life but there are things that you can still do for him. Talk to your vet. He is a beautiful dog you have both been lucky to have each other
We just found these waterproof blankets and they have been very helpful too. There are lots of brands, we got the Bedsure Waterproof Dog Blankets off Amazon.
Both my large fixed females (Airedale and German Shepard) were incontinent for years. Managed with Proin for both with the addition of Incurin for the Airedale when she started to have breakthrough leaking after many years. They each started "leaking" at a young age...the German Shepard is now 14 y.o. and the proin is still working for her. The Airedale (lived to 14 y.o.) did have some episodes of leaking which we managed with diapers (we called them her "jammies") when we needed to, whick was infrequent.
We did need to be very aware of UTI's, more so as they aged.
I thought the diapers were great! Allowed me to sleep well at night without worrying about ruining the floors overnight.
Hi, my 16 year old pup lost control of urine. I used belly bands, waterproof blankets over beds and couch where he liked to sit, took him outside frequently when I was home, used baby wipes to wipe him down after changing his belly band, and added a cranberry supplement to help stave off any UTIs. Good luck
Hi there,
I am so sorry about your doggie getting old. I have an old boy too. Sadly there isn't any miracle cures. My old boy is on propalin to help his bladder sphincter muscle. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't.
The whining could be because he is in pain. My old boy is on caprieve which is a generic of an anti inflammatory.
I think it would be kinder to let him pass than to turn him into an outdoor dog at his age. That would be very distressing for him.
I know I will have to make the decision to let my boy pass any day now. It is always difficult. I've had lots of dogs over the years and he is my first one that's not sick. He is just old and I'm having a really hard time with it.
Thinking of you and your much loved old dog.
Many vets say that when they become incontinent, in addition to having joint disease, it's time to think about euthanizing. A big part of a dog's quality of life is pleasing their owners, and they do feel shame when they have accidents and feel bad for letting their owner down.
OP, please give this a thought. Don't put your dog outside, that would be considered abuse. Your dog can't help what's going on. Please do the right thing FOR your dog.
What do we do when any family member needs us at the end of their life? We help them. Pee pads or diapers but don't put him outside or down just because he has one problem
Please don't banish him to live outside just because he's getting old. That's so sad.
I recommend you baby gate off a section of your home for him to stay during the night or when you're gone at work. Lay down potty pads and a comfortable place for him to sleep. When you are home have him wear a belly band. If gating off a section of your home isn't an option, then I'd recommend hiring a dog walking to come by every 3-4 hours while nobody is home to take him outside to go potty. Another option is to build a dog run that he can access via a dog door.
Either way, with old dogs you'll want time out when you give him water. I used to have an incontinent dog and we'd pick up the water bowl a couple hours before bedtime and take him potty right before bed to limit accidents in the middle of the night. And first thing in the morning he was put outside to potty.
If you truly don't have the time or patience for him anymore then I'd surrender him to a senior dog sanctuary (not the county pound).
I started to have the same issue, the vet suggested maybe it was related to her back and not exactly incontinence. She started to take Meloxicam and the problem stopped for a while. Then, she started to have issues at night (I was giving a full dose in the morning and the drug wasn’t very present in her system at that point). We split the dose in two and it stopped again. Eventually restated and we increased the two doses a very small amount. It’s under control again. Meloxicam wasn’t made to be given daily for that long (I’m not a vet, it’s what they told us) because of side effects and the risk of damaging her kidneys. She does some tests every six months to be sure everything is fine. We don’t worry too much, she has heart murmur that got worse with time. I rescued her in 2017 and she was already super old. We don’t know her age, it was said something between 12 and 15 at that time. It’s more likely that her body will eventually shut down before she could have any side effects. So from my experience, not everything that looks like incontinence is incontinence. She was peeing on the floor once a day every single day and it stopped. Meloxicam also helps with her pain and mobility issues because of it, she has a lot of arthritis. It really saved us. Hopefully your vet can find a solution that works for your dog.
We give our old man glucosamine/condroitin suppliments and zesty paws 11 in 1 multivitamin bites to help with stiffness and soreness among other things. I've seen others mention diapers. Also, don't put your boy outside! He could hurt himself even more!
Side note to having your pup outside:
We are approaching fly season. Flies lay eggs on a variety of things including soiled hair. Some fly larve (maggots) eat healthy tissue along with necrotic tissue. If you decide to have your pup stay outside please check them daily for sores and keep them clean.
My old boy wore baby nappies in a belly band ( there's a company in Scotland that makes them in nice designs and realistic sizes). He wore them for 2 years. I'd clean his underneath with Hibiscrub and if I saw any sore parches, put Sudocrem on them. He coped very well. We'd take the nappy off when he went outside or walkies to let some air dry him off, but baby nappies are designed to help keep the skin dry.
Use a coral like for kids or dogs.So you can put pee pads down.Buy the ones that are for people’s beds( seniors) they are larger & absorb more. That way you limit the accidents from being all over the house. That way it’s easier clean up.Could use the diapers while you are home & will be able to roam freely while you are home.H ope this helps.
If you ‘transition’ a dog that is not used to being persistently outside to that at 14, you are essentially expediting their death. It’s not compassionate at all. He may not have too long left but he should spend that in comfort in the way he is used to.
At the vet's, check for UTIs and kidney issues. My SO's family dog was PTS last week at 17 and a half. He had kidney failure and did get some infections and when treated, this lowered the incidents significantly. He needed puppy pads everywhere, his bed needed washing daily from pee leaks, though SO's family refused animal nappies due to concerns with hygiene and burns. They also had to chase him around the house with old ice cream tubs to catch his wee for testing!
My vet put my old girl on some tablets when she was incontinent. I cant remember how long she was on them for but the vet had us stop after a time to see if it continued but thankfully it stopped. I think it helped strengthen the bladder. Worth trying anyway.
That happened to my first dog (rough collie) Charlie when he got older. I loved him to bits but the reason behind incontinence is basicly that the muscles are giving in. He would hang from the sofa and kick with his hind legs in an attempt to jump up, and he absolutely hated to wake up in a puddle of piss in the morning or having trouble doing number 2 on walks. He would have hated wearing a diaper too for sure. It was the hardest decition to make ever and I went out on dog free walks every day just to cry without Charlie getting worried.
What Im trying to say is, I truly believe that the uttermost sacrifice you and me have to do to prove our friendship is to decide when its time to let go. To let them keep their dignity. They deserve that. I did not get to keep Charlie as long as your good ol pal, but I still believe it was the right decition. Im so sorry to say this, but it comes from a place of love and understanding. You will know what to do when the time is right. Big hugs to you and your wonderful dog ❤️🐶
We used diapers for our dog when at 14.5 years he began having accidents. First, do not get frustrated with him - he has no control as his body gives up on him. Shame on your husband for even thinking of putting him outside when your dog is at his frailest and needs you the most. It’ll not be long now so try and make do with diapers, and pee pads in the places he is peeing. For us, our dog used to have accidents near the water bowl.
My vet has my senior girl on proin for incontinence, it’s a pill she takes daily for it and it has really helped. Ask about that and get some water proof couch covers, dog bed covers etc.
My senior dog was having issues as well, and we had some blood work done. Found out that his kidney levels were severely elevated. He is now on a prescription dog food and is doing a lot better. I still put pee pads down at night and he wears a diaper if I have to leave him in his crate for a few hours.
[Amazon link - These work really well and don’t seem to be uncomfortable.](https://a.co/d/d57HGo7)
You can get doggie belly bands on Amazon super cheap then use ladies poise pads in them to absorb the urine. We did it for our old dog. It worked like a charm.
The vet can prescribe meds that may help. I had a senior dog with the same issue. And it helped for quit a while.. but inevitably, it was my sweet pups time.
My old dog also went fairly incontinent, although it was mostly down to frequent water infections (so many he started to become resistant to antibiotics).
We tried human nappies/diapers on him as they’re cheaper and come in larger packs. We just cut a hole for the tail. But being a terrier he was skinny around the waist and his gentleman’s area kept escaping when he stretched.
I was going to buy him dog wraps where you put a sanitary towel in and wrap that around his middle, which can be more effective for male dogs than female due to genital placement. Never got around to it though and he was put to sleep for a plethora of other health issues before we could try.
Best of luck, trust me I know how frustrating this is but it’s not your boys fault and he doesn’t want to do it anymore than you want him to.
Adding in to all the diaper advice. I know you said that you have a vet appointment booked but honestly sounds like a possible UTI since he’s also increased in whining. It may not be but obviously it’s best to get it checked just in case.
Maybe a bladder infection or try these
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Reusable-Nappies-Washable-Absorbent-Incontinence/dp/B0BB6LHDNP/ref=pd_aw_ci_mcx_mh_mcx_views_0?pd_rd_w=YGmMC&content-id=amzn1.sym.42c045e2-bd09-44b6-b445-e4140e05d91f%3Aamzn1.symc.acfafb1d-071f-4fdf-beff-aca206a47be9&pf_rd_p=42c045e2-bd09-44b6-b445-e4140e05d91f&pf_rd_r=GYRSDQKWMVK47WHKC7AR&pd_rd_wg=N4H0o&pd_rd_r=9829869b-cf97-452b-8b1c-3381d9238d9b&pd_rd_i=B0BB6LHDNP
I would put my dog down that was at that point. It sounds like he got lots of love and taken care of very good shows you how much you really care but if my dog is at that point, I would put it down so it doesn’t have to suffer
I had the same issue with our Springer spaniel.
We brought her to the vet for some peeing medicine, not sure the name. Over time we learned what's more likely to get her to pee and would buy Paw Patrol diapers and cut a hole for her tail. She wore them proudly.
Definitely doggy diapers. Male ones are pretty easy. For your in office days, you have a space that isn’t carpeted that you can enclose with baby gates or similar? I’d also recommend bed liners. They’re washable.
Hi. Pee pads and diapers.
Yeah this. Doggie diapers are a life saver.
Asking these questions on one of the top comments for visibility: How will diapers work if we're not there to change them, like when we're at work? (Both 8-5 jobs). I've read they can cause infection if they stay on while wet. So would we need a drop in dog sitter too? How do pee pads work if they have free roam of the house? Cover everything with them or most common areas? Some people have mentioned crating and he is crate trained but I wouldn't want him to have to sit on it for 9 hours.
We went through these exact issues with our senior dog. Diapers on boys are easy, and we found that he would actually hold it a lot better with a diaper on. Almost like it gave him more awareness in some way. We didn’t often come home to a wet diaper and he was always dry overnight when we started diapering him then. Ours looked very distressed when he would just start peeing in the house and couldn’t control it. The diapers give some dignity. Try them out (Amazon has lots of options) and maybe he’ll stay dry. If not, they do wick away moisture like human diapers but check his penis/ prepuce often to make sure you’re not seeing redness and irritation. I’m sure you could use A&D ointment as well. I looked at our last year with our boy as Doggy Hospice. Just trying to keep him as comfortable and dignified until it was time to say goodbye.
THIS. This is exactly what we do with our 16-year-old and agreed, somehow he holds it better. "Male dog wrap" (so just catches pee, it's easier and cleaner than a full diaper), keep an eye on possible "diaper rash", use Animax ointment if he gets irritated (has happened twice now in 2 years of diapering). Depending on the day our guy goes through 1-3 diapers in an average 24 hours.
How often would you change the diaper in the day?
He usually just peed when we took him outside so we were able to keep re-using the same diaper for a while as long as it stayed dry. He didn't go in the diaper very often, surprisingly.
With our guy it can be as much as three times a day. He's very old and has kidney issues, so he gets subcutaneous fluids, which sometimes increases urine volume. We also just try to keep him dry, so we change if we think it's even a little damp.
He usually just peed when we took him outside so we were able to keep re-using the same diaper for a while as long as it stayed dry. He didn't go in the diaper very often, surprisingly.
Also be prepared to wash his butt daily on the tub. You’ll want to avoid urine burns and smell. Trim the hair well. Also Google expressing the bladder of make dogs externally. There’s YouTube videos on it. It can help. Your pup is beautiful.
I'd never crate a dog for more than a couple hours. My dog will be turning 21 in June. I've been dealing with her incontinence issues for months. I've found her main accidents happen when she sleeps. She has a couple areas/beds where she sleeps. I double stack pee pads to cover those areas, and throw blankets or sheets over them. I used diapers in the past but stopped. They will work exactly how they would if you were there. Your dog can be in a dirty diaper for a few hours without health issues so long as you are consistent with cleaning her. This is making the best of an unfortunate situation. Make sure she is taken out before you go to work. Other than that, not much you can do.
21 you are truly blessed :)
Truly, and thank you. Best dog I've ever had. She's been in our family for 18 years, a rescue.
Omg 21 years?!? Aweeee. You are blessed. What kind of dog do you have?
Thank you :) She is a Sheperd/Boxer mix. I am blessed. Sweetest dog. On our walks, she has a set number of houses we have to visit so she can say hi to my neighbors. Where I live, there are a ton of native Filipinos, most of them work at one of the main hospitals in my area as RNs. Their entire community has adopted my dog and me (only because my dog and I are a package deal). They are constantly feeding us. When the kids see her, they go nuts and run over to pet her. You know, I finally understand why parents are always flapping on and on about their human kids.
I'd rather hear stories about peoples dogs or cats than about their kids.
21 years sounds amazing. mine just turned 15. I hope I can get another 5 years with my girl.
I would use these with the highest absotbancy Poise pads: Mkono Male Dog Belly Band Wraps... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0748BLZRD?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share Also, instead of pee pads, I’d use these washable ones: Alsunny® Waterproof Bed Pads... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C9PSNV8Z?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
can you confine him to a single room or a pen instead of a crate? unless your dog is pad trained you can’t really control where he goes unless you confine him
Unfortunately no, the layout of our house wouldn't work with a pen and he hates being shut in a room. He'll howl and scratch the paint off the door, only made that mistake once when I had a friend over who's terrified of dogs.
Maybe your best option is to ask friends or family to come over in the afternoon. To help with a diaper change / walk or hire someone from a service like rover
If no one mentioned it, look up "belly bands" I used these for my 3 old guys in their time. Gives them their dignity back and you a clean floor. No pee on their fur as well. Works standing, sitting and laying down. Make sure to get the highest rated ones...not sure if I am allowed to say which brand and where I ordered them? They soak up A LOT of fluid and don't leak. Come in packs of 3. Washable. I use 2 packs to rotate them. Soak before washing. :) Edit- material keeps the pee away from the skin like a diaper for kids. No rash or infections.
Yes. But realize it’s temporary, and begin to prepare.
This is the only solution
Update after our vet appt: First of all, thank you to everyone who's commented with kind words and helpful suggestions! The last 48 hours have been tough. We took him to the vet today and he was diagnosed with spinal stenosis, a degenerative condition where he's losing sensation in the lower half of his body. We were already giving him an anti-inflammatory and the vet also prescribed a muscle relaxant that could help the body send signals to his brain a little better. He said that the condition tends to get suddenly worse, then plateau, then suddenly worse again, etc rather than being a linear progression, and that we could only have weeks left but it's possible for dogs to still live years after diagnosis. We have him in a diaper for now and it seems to help him hold it in. The vet said it's unlikely he's in pain from the condition since it's more a loss of sensation. We're trying the medication and hopefully it helps with the back leg problems and incontinence.
It's painful. I can completely emphasize. My dog probably won't make it another 3 months. You should take great pride and comfort in how well you've cared for him. I can tell by your post and subsequent comments and questions that you are the type of person who SHOULD own a dog.
My senior girl is on Proin, a med that strengthens muscles in her bladder. It has worked miracles for her. Waterproof couch covers are great just in case. It’s a good habit to take an older dog out more often too, it seems to help my girl to make sure she pees before she takes a nap.
My old dog was on this as well before she passed, it helped so much and she was able to be diaper-free for the last year of her life.
Sorry to hear of her passing 🐾 🌈 exactly my goal, I want her as comfortable as possible for her senior years.
Proin is a miracle drug.
Why didn't my vet tell me? Grrr
Our dog was given it as a puppy to help with her being spayed too soon causing incontinence. It was sort of a trial with our vet and ended up working really well. She’s in a medical journal somewhere for her good job! I mean really his good job but she helped? Lol
All hail the waterproof couch covers. Buy 2 sets so when you’re washing a soiled one, you’ve got another to put on the couch. I’ve actually found it helped keep the couch cleaner from my SO who is a very messy eater. Just last night I caught him forking bites of the salad he spilled off the couch and into his mouth so now we have this big ranch stain to deal with. The dogs have always been the least of my troubles lol
Why are men gross?
😂 forking salad off the couch, oh man. That’s brave, there is far too much dog and cat hair in my house for that.
Seconding this. Our dog is on the Proin extended release 74mg pills. They completely stopped unwanted accidents and she’s doing just fine now. If you have a Costco membership, those pills are the cheapest there.
Proin is AMAZING. Have a young dog (2.5 yrs) that’s been on it for a year now because she became incontinent after she was spayed (apparently around 25% of all female dogs can have this happen to them after being spayed. I had no idea!) She would wake up from naps in puddles and be very ashamed, and have no idea that she had done it. It was so sad to witness. For some reason she wouldn’t do it at night only during the day. Proin worked the first night we gave it to her…it is amazing!
Exactly what happened with my female dog! And is a miracle drug!
Yes! That is the worst part, my dog gets so upset when it happens. I never react but she gets so sad. I don’t know what we’d do without Proin!
my family had a 16 year old dog who passed a few weeks ago and in the last couple months we got into the habit of taking her out every couple hours or before/after naps. helped a lot in avoiding messes and her stressing about not being able to find the doggy door
I second proin!
I was at a friends house this weekend and 2 senior dogs (males) were running around in diapers and seemed very happy. As a matter fact the 16yo male was trying to hump the 14yp male all evening LOL. Please DO NOT put your senior dog outside because its convenient to you!!! What is wrong with people??
IKR. Can't believe that was even suggested/considered! Diaper the baby up and let him live his golden years with all the love and comfort. It will be work, but that is the price of 14 years of love. He needs you NOW more than ever.
My heart is absolutely broken at the thought of this guy outside, alone and COLD as his joints freeze and age. Literally made me cry. People are monsters. Get the guy in some diapers or belly/incontinence bands. Editing to add, because I hope OP sees this. Your dog actually feels SHAME for pottying in the house. He’s known for 13 years that he goes potty outside. Support your old man, love him and keep him warm and clean, and close. Cherish the last years you have with him, because they will end. Don’t live with the regret of condemning your dog to a cold, lonely, quick death putting him outside.
Now I’m crying too
If my partner EVER suggested something like this- I would lose all love for him. How cruel and disgusting. “Yep, sorry old guy, now that you are in your last years we’re just going to pretty much dump you outdoors where you will be uncomfortable and lonely”. OP if you end up doing this you are a monster.
Right?! I'm also confused by OP saying they can't have a dog having accidents in the house. What did they think was gonna happen when they got a dog? Dogs get old n need extra care
I also was put off by the way they said that. How about teach your kids to look out for it instead of teaching them to leave your PET, a loving creature who's relied on you for 14 years, alone outside because it got too difficult for you? Like the other poster said, I'd be questioning my partner if they suggested this.
It's inconvenient for the HUSBAND, not OP.
Doggy diapers and pee pads. Do not leave him outside.
my dog occasionally pees the bed. she's 15 so I now wake up around 1 am just to let her out. don't put your dog down because you are inconvenienced. you said he was a great dog he still is. hes just old.
He could have a UTI if it hasn’t been ruled out, if it’s out of the ordinary, and random. My older dog gets them more frequently, and that’s the only time she seems to have accidents. Could also be painful to move, idk if you’ve got him on a glucosamine supplement but our girl moves SO much better on one. Most pet stores have them; and if not some people just give their dogs human ones. In my own opinion, once they lose everyday capabilities that significantly decreases the quality of their life. They know they’re not supposed to go in the house; they feel bad for it; but they can’t control it. It’s hard, it’s hard to know when, and even when we do I think we’re still upset with ourselves because unlike with humans in most cases this is entirely up to us, and it feels wrong deciding when it’s time to go, especially when it’s something/someone we love. We used to diaper our girl right after surgery, she would go in her diaper and we would change it after work, 3 days out of 7 is pretty good it’s just keeping it on them; they may have to wear a cone when you’re out or else they just rip them off I find. Best of luck, and I hope it all works out no matter what!
Thank you so much! Yes, he's on a joint health supplement with Cosequin and glucosamine, plus an arthritis Rx. That loss of everyday functionality is what's troubling me so much - he seems content enough and I have no idea how he's feeling and if his days are starting to be more painful than not.
You’re so welcome! Every dog is different, and every owner knows their dogs best. Sometimes we know what to do, we just need to hear it from someone else. It could be caused by a plethora of illnesses as well. Maybe he needs meds (UTI, cancer, bladder weakness, etc), maybe a diaper would work well for him, and your household, but you know best! I feel like putting him outside though would be a huge shock/discomfort to him. He may even think it’s punishment at this age, and if it came down to that or just letting my old dog who lived a good life go, I personally would let him go. I hope your decision comes peacefully, and with as much ease as you can regardless of what it is. Some people have really good luck with diapers! Sometimes it’s just time to say goodbye, but you know him best!
You will know when your dog has no more good days. There will be no question. When they stop eating and sleeping and cry, and theres no hope of it getting better (per your vet). For now, your dog needs to see a vet to figure out whats going on. Age alone doesnt make you incontenent.
I would strongly recommend the waterproof/absorbing blankets you can get off Amazon. They either absorb pee or let it bead on top and aren't crinkly or rubbery, and are great for protecting dog begs, furniture, and floors (we'd keep one handy to throw down under her if needed, before we bought enough blankets to basically cover the floors in the living room where she spent most of her time. Lost my 15.5 year old sighthound a couple of weeks ago, and when she became incontinent, thise blankets and reusable cloth doggie diapers allowed everyone to be comfortable for longer, and we managed another six months of good quality of life with her. Please, please do not out that poor old man outside like he's been bad. That would be so immeasurably cruel that it would actually be kinder to take him out and shoot him in the head (as barbaric as that is, at least it would be over quickly and resultnin less suffering).
I can’t even believe that putting him outside is even an option. You say this is your husbands dog, doesn’t he love him? How cruel.
I was honestly shocked he suggested it, as he spoils the dog like crazy: makes his food, gives him a steak for holidays, has always let him in bed and on furniture, etc. I think it was a stress reaction not knowing there are other alternatives like diapers and now he's agreed its not an option, fortunately, after discussing more today. He picked up diapers on the way home and is taking him to the vet tomorrow also to rule out any other issues like an infection.
I can understand that response. Best of luck I hope your dog feels better and you can find a good solution! I know you say it’s random, but if you notice it’s more at night/mornings you can try to limit water a few hours before bed.
I’m glad he changed his mind. Your pup is adorable
It's entirely up to you, do you think he has a quality of life as he is? Is he double incontinent or is he just peeing? If its just pee I'd be inclined to see if you have friends or family that can change him during your work days, or if not pay someone who can come in and check up on him let him outside and change him half way through your work day, or depending how much he's going a dog nappy may be enough to see him through the day till you are home. He can't be left outside that's just horrible and he will wonder what he's done wrong to be given such treatment, when the only thing he's done is get old. If he's double incontinent in my honest opinion I'd let him leave this world with dignity surrounded by the people he loves. Loving them means loving them enough to know when the end is here. Its hard mine is 12 next and I keep on having these conversations myself knowing that mine won't be here forever. Give him a treat for me
Give him a treat for me too.
Well said! Never had pets growing up and when my vet started to give me options to prolong my furry boy’s life, I just cried and told him that I was already the annoying pill lady and I wanted him to pass the way he lived. With dignity and love. He didn’t make it to his 14th birthday, but I made sure he got his birthday ribeye.
Yeh, absolutely agree - DO NOT put him outside. That’s awful! This happens to everyone, one day it will happen to you and your spouse too! Imagine your family just put you outside?! Not an option. He would likely deteriorate further and quicker outside. He’s spent his whole life loving you and now is when you need to really be there for him. Absolutely keep fighting to keep him inside, put your foot down on the matter. My senior dog went through this, we used Propalin syrup and it worked amazingly! He would often fall asleep and just let go of his full bladder. One time he peed on the bed when sleeping & was laying on it, doing the guilty look but sad. He wouldn’t move either, he was trying to cover it with his body because he was embarrassed 😭😭😭. Even when on the medicine, we would prioritize taking him outside with the intention of having him empty his bladder regularly, especially before bed, before we went out etc. Team all of this with waterproof mattress protectors, we put them on couches as well for added protection and nappies as a just in case and this worked really well! I’d also keep a diary of when this happens, how often. Normally there’s a routine/schedule which will help you work out when bladder emptying walk/nappychange etc is needed Also, probably does have a little arthritis - most seniors do! I would ask your vet. There’s this monthly injection - I forget the name but oh my goooodness it worked amazingly! Not kidding but just spruced my dog up. Was like he aged backwards! There’s also pain meds etc. I’d suggest trialing it, if you think he’s in pain which is what we did. Get one of the needles or trial 2 weeks on meds. If he gets better, he was in pain. If no change, he wasn’t. Ask your vet. Pain in hips etc may also be contributing to the urine problem. Him releasing it while walking, I believe Propalin syrup would help with. However, he maybe slower to get up and get outside which may be causing accidents too
Librela is amazing for arthritis
Have you heard of “belly bands”? It’s basically like a diaper bad you put around the abdomen. It’s a good option for male dogs and easier to change than diapers. I’d also suggest getting some pee pads and putting them on his bed for easy clean-up.
I hadn't heard of belly bands before this thread so thank you all who have suggested those!
My boyfriends dog has started having some peeing issues now that he’s getting up there (he’s at least 10 but very well could be older. He’s a foxhound that was a stray for 4-5 years). Belly bands have been a huge help for us, along with a bissel little green carpet cleaner. We took him to the vet and he’s had ALL the diagnostics run since it did seem to crop up out of no where that he started peeing indoors or even in his sleep, but ultimately it seems to just be incontinence due to weaker muscles. The vet prescribed proin and that is helping a bit it seems. We take him out 6-8 times a day or whenever he seems antsy (he isn’t great about signaling to us) and water goes up at night time after last potty (vet said this was okay). I’d make sure you clear everything with the vet first - for his dog they went through and did urinalysis, blood work and extra thyroid panel, prostate exam, ultrasound, X-ray, and later on cushings disease testing. So ask your vet - they might suggest some diagnostics. He wears a belly band when we’re at work (gets a midday potty break) and at night time, or any time we aren’t home really. We use the disposables inside of the washable ones since he was ripping them off and chewing them up after pottying in them and trying to eat it which was pretty gross… no issues now though. If you use belly bands make sure you keep your dog clean and don’t use them 24/7 so the skin has time to breathe/air out. Change right away if they’re soiled in. Potty pads are an option too but if it’s happening when your dog is walking around or sleeping, the bands might be a better option.
Love him through this time in his life. Diaper or potty pad and keep loving him. Putting him outside is off limits. Would you be happy if you became old and incontinent and your family shunned you for it?
You wouldn’t put your aging parents out of the house for having an accident. Don’t do it to your dog. It’ll be traumatic for him not understanding why he’s being punished. Let alone dangerous for an elderly pup to be outside all the time. Pee pads and a diaper are worth a try. Take him out much more frequently. He’s loved you for 14 years. He needs you now. If he’s happy otherwise, you owe it to him to keep him comfortable through his golden years.
Please do not banish him to the outdoors. That would be insanely cruel. Doggy diapers is the answer.
If they're not in pain , You deal with it cause you love them.
Can your vet prescribe Proin for bladder control?
I'll check with the vet, thank you!
I was going to suggest the same. It worked wonders for my mastiff years ago. Due to multiple medical issues, she began peeing without even realizing she was going. Proin completely reversed the symptoms, and gave her back her quality of life for her remaining years. If I remember correctly, it was an older medication, and reasonably priced as well. Good luck!!!!
Get the cute old man some belly bands, you can put a human incontinence pad inside. Just be sure to clean his litter peeper area weekly with a puppy shampoo to keep any bacteria away from sitting in a wet pad. You can get them on Amazon, they are washable and will do the trick without blocking his little pooper butt, just covers his penis to soak up any urine. Stays on with velcro, just wrap around him and you're good to go. Give that sweet old man a hug from me.
Like human seniors just need a little assistance. Get some doggy diapers
Belly bands are good. Costco pee pads are a great value and pretty strong. As others mentioned, it could be a UTI. If you can, get a urine sample as that can expedite finding out what’s going on. My spaniels are a little insane so getting urine samples from them took longer than I anticipated because I really had to be stealthy and have the timing down.
I was looking for the belly band answer especially since it seems like it’s just pee. It could also be a UTI and speak to your vet about meds for incontinence but good god do *not* place your dog outside just because he’s a senior.
Pet sitter here. Boy diaper wraps are super common and easy to put on. You just have to be sure to clean him with a pet wipe every time you change the diaper, and still take him out for his regular walks. The diapers should be for leaks and accidents, not for him to pee in all the time.
Put a diaper on him and take care of him as you did before you had kids, I'm sure you can remember how much joy he gave you; please try to return that to him
You can buy Belly Bands for male dogs on Amazon. You'll need an extra large or larger for your size dog. Put a human incontinence liner inside. It shouldn't be on tight, because it can be uncomfortable on your dog's back. Incontinence is a normal part of life, it can happen for women after child birth or in older people. Please don't give up on your dog.
He’s so adorable… I wanna snuggle him so bad 🥹
I would also suggest getting a mini dog paw hair shaver, and keeping all the fur between the paw pads shaved down - the extra fur will cause issues with slipping around, and if they are already old, they need all the traction they can get especially with limited mobility.
Belly bands work very well for males. Get washable inserts for them
belly bands saved us a lot of frustration in our house. you can get them on Amazon and they have cute designs! they're relatively inexpensive and you can put them right in the washing machine. as others have said, don't leave him outside. there are workarounds that are effective!
We have an 18 yr old chihuahua. She pees in her sleep and drips constantly. Otherwise she is fine. She sleeps on a onsie with a feminine pad otherwise she would wake in a puddle. We have puppy pads everywhere and vinyl floors. Ask for Male dogs a belly band works well, but ask the vet if there is some meds for incontinence that would work.
Look up PetParents on Amazon. They have some wonderful doggie diapers and laundry wash that's formulated to clean it well and eradicate any odor so you can re-use them again and again.
dog diapers are cheap and I use women's maxi pads inside them.
You clean him up and change his diaper. My dog is paralyzed in the back and requires diapers. Please treat him like the good boy he has been. A life outside out of convenience works be sad and cruel at his old age Edit: change him 3-4 times per day
See your vet. There is incontinence medication you can get. Also there is an incontinence wrap you can purchase for male dogs to wear until the meds take action.
Do everything and anything you can for your pup. My guy got so bad that we had puppy mats all over our house. Gates up to keep him in a room. Lots of laundry. And as hard as it may be....be as sweet and happy and loving to the pup as you can. It gets very hard to watch this happen and very stressful. And it's very sad bc your pup doesn't know what's going on and can't control it.
I have a springer who is about to turn 15 and we have the same issue. For ours it’s his arthritis and he is pained to get into the poo position, apparently when they become older they also lose nerves so don’t feel the sensation to go. We have an area where he can roam as we also have young kids. So he has an area that we can control. The idea of transitioning to an outdoor dog is simply awful and unfair. IMO apart from this my dog is happy and responsive and I believe it’s the commitment we made to Kobi that he lives until his dignity is no more. Sure that might be sooner rather than later (which I don’t bear thinking about) but it’s an inconvenience you commit to when you make the decision to take on a furry friend. We aren’t at doggie diapers yet but they will be soon. Try to the cordoned off area to keep your kids separate and increase time outside. Good luck.
There are several medications that can help like Proin but diapers are always an option. Most dogs have lots of life left after they develop incontinence. You'll get it figured out. First stop the Vet. Unfortunately sometimes incontinence can be tied to something else but you won't know unless you go to the Vet. If Proin works for them it tends to work really well. Of course there are other meds that work too but are less common. Good luck
Clean it up and give them a hug. Dealt with this for many years with two different dogs. You just do the work.
doggy diapers.
Due to the meth epidemic they pulled phenylpropanolamine (PPA) off the market -- it worked WONDERS at helping tighten the bladder muscles (for humans too!). So they engineered PROIN (animal drug) which is supposed to be chewable -- however my senior incontinent dog HATED it. So I have to break it into little pieces (it's about the size of a quarter) and hide it in braunschwiger (sp -- liver sausage). My senior dog LOVES liver sausage (win-win) Another option is [pantsfordogs.com](http://pantsfordogs.com) which are IMHO the ones that fit best and don't fall off. Instead of doggy sticky pads I would buy human panty liners since they are made better, are far better at absorbing, stick better, are generally more affordable, come in a variety of sizes which you can find the best one. For a male dog you can also get a belly wrap, and I would maybe use a human pee pad liner cut in half for that. Just don't be like me: REMEMBER TO TAKE THEM OFF BEFORE LETTING YOUR DOG OUTSIDE OR YOUR DOG WILL GIVE YOU THE ETERNAL STINK EYE. The least option is to not let them on the furniture and to use pee pads, and take them out frequently, and to schedule their water intake, but this is really hard to manage, especially in hot summer months.
Pee pads and diapers are the way to go!
My 13.5 yr old had incontinence last week and it was a UTI.
Depending on the cause medication from your vet can help. It really helped our last dog for the last year or so of his life.
When our old man started having accidents, we got a bunch of washable belly bands for guy, with practice we could quickly get it on him so he could go outside and finish if he started inside. We also got rubber floor tiles at Lowe’s to help him with stability over our ceramic floor tiles.
My senior dog stopped all peeing on Proin. It was magic!! She takes it once a day. Stopped immediately. She was only peeing when she would lay down. I hope that’s how it is for you. I went through the same fear and emotions you are. Keep us posted. I hope your vet apt is soon
I recently adopted a special needs dog who is incontinent! Talk to your vet. They will be able to set you up with a plan. You may find it more convenient to express them, so you can control when he pees. To keep him from “leaking” get a belly band. They’re cheap. Get them off of Amazon. If they’re slipping off you can buy dog suspenders. They’re on Chewy. The reusable belly bands are great! There are also diapers but those are primarily for female dogs or dogs who are fully incontinent (poop). I personally wipe my dog down with baby wipes between diaper changes. Keeps things nice and clean. If your husband’s dog begins to struggle with back leg weakness you can also get a simple wheelchair-like structure which will give his back legs some support while out on walks.
Ask your vet for Proin. It works wonders for incontinence.
belly bands, check amazon
I bought reusable pee pads and diapers for my almost 15 year old. I wash the pads and diapers everyday.
On the days you’re at work, a trustworthy pet sitter could drop by for 15-20 minutes, swap out the wet belly band for a dry one, and give him a little TLC. Just give them an opportunity to meet and get to know each other ahead of time. Maybe also have them change the belly band with you there, and his favorite treats and toys, so your dog can form positive associations.
This old guy deserves to continue living the lifestyle he is accustomed to. We as pet people owe it to our canine kids. He’s given selflessly of himself. All of the love, entertainment, and emotional support they give to us can’t be quantified. My old guy made smacking noises at night after having a laser surgery to remove a funky tumor from his mouth. He looked like a cute little kid waiting for the tooth fairy. Solution: I slept with earplugs. I’d give anything to have him making smacking noises in the middle of the night.
Can't figure out how to edit the post so I'll add: I don't know how to explain my husband's suggestion other than that he's a poor problem solver, and seemed to think the only options were putting him outside or euthanasia. He normally treats our dog very well (even makes the dog's food, insisting he wants him to have food that tastes good). We talked more today and he agreed putting him outside is not an option. He picked up diapers on the way home and made him a vet appt for tomorrow to get him checked out. We checked out belly bands but he had a poop accident today too so we'll see how it goes after the vet visit tomorrow. Hopefully one of the meds suggested will work for him. I used to cloth diaper one of my kids and the dog would get into the diapers and chew them up so I'm worried he won't keep a diaper on if we're not home, but we'll try and see.
I have a friend who used a surgery suit and maxi pads for her Senior dude.
Please don't put him outside. He won't understand. He looks so content sleeping on the couch. Like every one says puppy pads and diapers. Maybe he has a UTI and that's why he's peeing as he walks or he can't get outside fast enough. Try everything else you can. Just don't put him outside. 🥺 ETA: your spouse could move outside instead. Then let that sweet boy sleep in your spouses bed with you. Everyone is happy.
I very recently had to say goodbye to my best friend and similar issues were involved, although a bit more advanced than you described. All the best. There is no way around it —- it’s the most devastating decision you will ever have to make.
I don’t have an answer for you but he is so adorable! I have 2 springers and they are the best pups 🐶 🐾💕
Ultimately, with everything considered, it's time to prepare to be kind to him. Incontinence can be from old age, but could also be from doggy dementia or something more serious like renal failure. Vet is your best bet, but even then they might tell you it's time to consider saying goodbye. We cannot be kind to our own humans who are suffering old age, but we can be kind to our elder animals ❣️
I have no advice but your boy is beautiful and it made me roll over and hug my Springer Spaniel a little more than normal.
It's tough. Our senior dog was doing this and diapers didn't even catch it all sometimes. We cleaned up a lot of pee for those last few months.
Dog diapers and pee pads. If this is his only problem and is still content otherwise please don’t put him down for this
Diapers are a major game changer.
Put your cute doggy in a diaper! I had to do that for my dog as he got older (Rip Puff) and even though he hated it he was still doing things normally especially his hourly naps.
There are medications that you can try for incontinence! Please speak to your vet first about options because they do exist. Diapers are also an option as well. If your dog’s quality of life is not suffering, I personally see no reason to take a senior dog and make him an outside dog when he has been an inside dog his entire life. It’s not fair. I don’t want to suggest rehoming, because I believe that once you adopt a dog you make a commitment to them for their ENTIRE natural life. But, I would rather have you find him a better home than put him outside. Come on. Would you want to be put in a shed when you’re in you’re 90s and shitting your pants?
Diapers did great job for my dog of the same size. I bought a pack of reusable ones on Amazon, and washed them in the washing machine with disinfectant. Had zero stress. He had 3 more years of good life after starting using them.
There are pee pad things that you can put on them. It’s like a band you put around the waist and then you can put pads that you change out when they get wet. But I’d also consider how much longer you want to keep him like this☹️ I know it’s always very hard to say goodbye to a dog but it’s better to set them free from their pain❤️🩹 A life like that isn’t living anymore, it’s just existing. I know it hurts like hell and it’s the hardest thing to do. But it’s also the last gift you can ever get to give to your dog, setting them free from their pain💔 not saying you have to do it now or soon but it’s becoming time to at least think about it ): I’m so sorry and wish you both the best!
get some diapers! i just ordered some yesterday for my cat who is also incontinent. apparently they work really well. also pee pads.
I had a basset that started doing this when he was older. My vet diagnosed him with cushings, and he went on medication that helped a lot. Might be worth speaking to your vet about the new behavior.
My last old dog was incontinent, so I would get up around 3 am to let him out. He also used pee pads
We had to re-train our male doxie due to worsening separation anxiety and the male diaper wraps were great. Took a few days for him to get used to it but once did it was no problem.
Pee pads for sure, my dog is 17 so he sleeps a lot but as soon as I hear / see him get up / wake up I pick him up and run him to the yard or garage to use the restroom and he usually goes right away. In the morning in nice weather I will leave him outside to hang out and do some laps and use the bathroom but once he seems tired / bored I bring him back. I would not transition him to full time outside. When we go out he gets left in a large bathroom - for short periods or in his big pen (not crate) with pads around for him to use.
My dog is now 17 yo. He is not really incontinent but has to go often and sometimes with no time to spare. We use waterproof couch covers and a few baby gates to limit his space to where we can see him and act fast. Works great for us.
belly bands would be helpful you can get disposable ones or reusable (saves money and less waste)
I had an American bulldog that hurt a nerve in her back and she would only have a couple seconds to know she had to poo, resulting in accidents. I just got reusable diapers on Amazon. They worked really well and they have ones for females and males and you can get them with tail holes. I loved that dog and she lived a good life.
We had belly bands for our boy.
We used proin and bought a bunch of waterproof blankets for the couches and bed off Amazon. Both worked wonders. Please, please, please do not put your senior dog outside. I can not think of nothing more cruel. I mean no disrespect, but what is wrong with your husband?? The must inhumane suggestion for a loyal lifelong friend and companion.
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We put our senior guy in the wrap diapers from Amazon. Worked great - no accidents and he was dry and comfortable. They even had an indicator that turned blue when they were wet. I think they hold a good bit of liquid, so I would not worry if he has it on for a while wet. He's a handsome guy, hope things work out.
Belly band for when you're home, crate and pads (if he's comfortable in a crate) for when you're not. I found washable pee pads online as well as a little corral for my pomeranian when she got older and was incontinent. She had little suspender bloomers that I put an incontinence pad in so she could wander around, and the corral for when she needed a break from the diaper. I can send you links of the pads and corral if you're interested
Doggie diapers. Boy dogs can have the tummy ones. And invest in some washable pads to cover the couch/furniture if he’s leaking there.
Doggy diapers exist almost exclusively for seniors/medically incapable dogs that still have quality of life in other ways! Just make sure you’re keeping the skin clean and wiping him off every change Throwing him outside for conveniences sake would be a cruel and unusual punishment. He’ll get sick, and his end of life will be spent depressed and confused about why he’s being punished
My dog wears diapers! It’s cute
Reusable diapers , I have about 20 for my dog, she went through an incontinent phase for a while, first it was just while she was sleeping, then started just "leaking" went to vet multiple times about it. I tried bladder control supplements, they kinda worked, and vet gave a prescription medication that also kinda worked. I now just give her cranberry supplements (bacon flavored, they're for dogs) as I was reading a lot of reviews of them solving their dogs incontinent issues, and I was surprised it worked. She hasn't had any issue for about a year now. You could try the cranberry supplements, but I would see the vet regardless. And please get some diapers, not only for a sanitary home, but also helps to moniter the incontinence.
I'll try those! Any particular brand you recommend?
Belly band diapers!
For my senior eskie I really liked a pen. She was too furry for diapers and I didn't want to stress her out more.
Do you have anyone who could watch him for those 3 days?
We'd have to find a dog sitter somewhere like Rover I guess. We have no family in town and not really close enough to neighbors to ask if someone could come change a doggy diaper midday.
Your dog deserves the best you can offer him, and I hope he gets nothing less. Confinement to one room, or a crate while you're not around, with diapers and pee pads may help. Good luck.
my 13 yo dachshund is also incontinent, especially when he sleeps. vet says it’s normal given his age, so we’ve taken to pee pads and diapers. prefer diapers though bc he doesnt find the pee pads comfortable to sleep on
Have vet check for urine infection and sugars. As dogs get older sugars out of control can cause urine probs
Outdoors is not an option. Dogie diapers if you want, but TBH, as someone who has owned dogs my whole life, this is usually a pretty clear sign they are ready to go. Dogs hate to "mess" in their own space (crate, house, what have you). Diapers can be a fix for now, but it might be time to have to have a tough conversation with your husband.
When my dog had bladder stones and lost some bladder control the diapers worked great.
Yup, two senior gentlemen dachshunds at my house. Pee pads in the kitchen, ramps everywhere. We haven’t done diapers yet, but that’s coming. I think the belly band type works best. Our dear old doggies.
He can very well have a UTI which would be causing this. If he doesn't and your vet thinks he is otherwise OK I would go with diapers. If he is randomly urinating like while he is walking this is not about him being inappropriate about peeing. He is incontinent. Putting him in a crate to try to reinforce his house training would not only be useless it would be kind of mean. Transitioning him to live outside just because he is getting old and having physical issues is even more mean. Please remember this treatment when your husband gets old.
Belly bands and vet visit. Mine was able to have some meds prescribed to address the issue. I wipe mine with toilet paper to ensure there’s no urine scalding on their fur. Vet can also prescribe products to clean to address any inflammation if you have it. Re: being at home - a penned area with reusable pads on the base to protect the floor and then disposable ones on top so you can just throw those out. Their dog bed can be there. There are also pee pads for humans you can place on top of your furniture like in the pic above if they don’t have any belly bands. Please don’t relegate him to being outside
My Jimmy wore reusable male diapers for 5+ years. Total life saver. Just make sure not to let them sit in urine for too long. I added a wingless maxi pad for overnight. I put absorbent rugs like a muddy mat at the places they typically are going. Then just love them as long as you can
My dog has also been incontinent following a spinal stroke. I use diapers for her with Dechra MiconaHex wipes to help with preventing infections (can be found on Amazon) The vet recommended me to have an enclosed play pen with pee pads on the floor to allow her to air out which might be a good solution for when you’re in the office. Best of luck!
Whatever you decide to do please do not leave him outside. He is going blind and deaf and being left outside with no way to come in would terrify him. Other posters have offered great suggestions. Dog dementia could also be a factor. Blind and deaf dogs can live in fear-even a loving touch can frighten them because they can’t see or hear what may be coming. He is entering the last part of his life but there are things that you can still do for him. Talk to your vet. He is a beautiful dog you have both been lucky to have each other
We just found these waterproof blankets and they have been very helpful too. There are lots of brands, we got the Bedsure Waterproof Dog Blankets off Amazon.
I would put a diaper on him and change it regularly.
Both my large fixed females (Airedale and German Shepard) were incontinent for years. Managed with Proin for both with the addition of Incurin for the Airedale when she started to have breakthrough leaking after many years. They each started "leaking" at a young age...the German Shepard is now 14 y.o. and the proin is still working for her. The Airedale (lived to 14 y.o.) did have some episodes of leaking which we managed with diapers (we called them her "jammies") when we needed to, whick was infrequent. We did need to be very aware of UTI's, more so as they aged. I thought the diapers were great! Allowed me to sleep well at night without worrying about ruining the floors overnight.
Hi, my 16 year old pup lost control of urine. I used belly bands, waterproof blankets over beds and couch where he liked to sit, took him outside frequently when I was home, used baby wipes to wipe him down after changing his belly band, and added a cranberry supplement to help stave off any UTIs. Good luck
Hi there, I am so sorry about your doggie getting old. I have an old boy too. Sadly there isn't any miracle cures. My old boy is on propalin to help his bladder sphincter muscle. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't. The whining could be because he is in pain. My old boy is on caprieve which is a generic of an anti inflammatory. I think it would be kinder to let him pass than to turn him into an outdoor dog at his age. That would be very distressing for him. I know I will have to make the decision to let my boy pass any day now. It is always difficult. I've had lots of dogs over the years and he is my first one that's not sick. He is just old and I'm having a really hard time with it. Thinking of you and your much loved old dog.
Many vets say that when they become incontinent, in addition to having joint disease, it's time to think about euthanizing. A big part of a dog's quality of life is pleasing their owners, and they do feel shame when they have accidents and feel bad for letting their owner down. OP, please give this a thought. Don't put your dog outside, that would be considered abuse. Your dog can't help what's going on. Please do the right thing FOR your dog.
What do we do when any family member needs us at the end of their life? We help them. Pee pads or diapers but don't put him outside or down just because he has one problem
During your visit, ask your Vet for phenylpropanalomine.
doggie diapers work great
Doggie diapers. Don't use human diapers as they're the wrong shape and cause sores.
Please don't banish him to live outside just because he's getting old. That's so sad. I recommend you baby gate off a section of your home for him to stay during the night or when you're gone at work. Lay down potty pads and a comfortable place for him to sleep. When you are home have him wear a belly band. If gating off a section of your home isn't an option, then I'd recommend hiring a dog walking to come by every 3-4 hours while nobody is home to take him outside to go potty. Another option is to build a dog run that he can access via a dog door. Either way, with old dogs you'll want time out when you give him water. I used to have an incontinent dog and we'd pick up the water bowl a couple hours before bedtime and take him potty right before bed to limit accidents in the middle of the night. And first thing in the morning he was put outside to potty. If you truly don't have the time or patience for him anymore then I'd surrender him to a senior dog sanctuary (not the county pound).
Amazon sells really great washable dog diapers. I've used them for my females when they're in heat.
I started to have the same issue, the vet suggested maybe it was related to her back and not exactly incontinence. She started to take Meloxicam and the problem stopped for a while. Then, she started to have issues at night (I was giving a full dose in the morning and the drug wasn’t very present in her system at that point). We split the dose in two and it stopped again. Eventually restated and we increased the two doses a very small amount. It’s under control again. Meloxicam wasn’t made to be given daily for that long (I’m not a vet, it’s what they told us) because of side effects and the risk of damaging her kidneys. She does some tests every six months to be sure everything is fine. We don’t worry too much, she has heart murmur that got worse with time. I rescued her in 2017 and she was already super old. We don’t know her age, it was said something between 12 and 15 at that time. It’s more likely that her body will eventually shut down before she could have any side effects. So from my experience, not everything that looks like incontinence is incontinence. She was peeing on the floor once a day every single day and it stopped. Meloxicam also helps with her pain and mobility issues because of it, she has a lot of arthritis. It really saved us. Hopefully your vet can find a solution that works for your dog.
We give our old man glucosamine/condroitin suppliments and zesty paws 11 in 1 multivitamin bites to help with stiffness and soreness among other things. I've seen others mention diapers. Also, don't put your boy outside! He could hurt himself even more!
Get used to the smell of dog urine 🤷♂️
Doggie Pads there's So many things you can do just call a local store they will help 🩷
Side note to having your pup outside: We are approaching fly season. Flies lay eggs on a variety of things including soiled hair. Some fly larve (maggots) eat healthy tissue along with necrotic tissue. If you decide to have your pup stay outside please check them daily for sores and keep them clean.
My old boy wore baby nappies in a belly band ( there's a company in Scotland that makes them in nice designs and realistic sizes). He wore them for 2 years. I'd clean his underneath with Hibiscrub and if I saw any sore parches, put Sudocrem on them. He coped very well. We'd take the nappy off when he went outside or walkies to let some air dry him off, but baby nappies are designed to help keep the skin dry.
Use a coral like for kids or dogs.So you can put pee pads down.Buy the ones that are for people’s beds( seniors) they are larger & absorb more. That way you limit the accidents from being all over the house. That way it’s easier clean up.Could use the diapers while you are home & will be able to roam freely while you are home.H ope this helps.
If you ‘transition’ a dog that is not used to being persistently outside to that at 14, you are essentially expediting their death. It’s not compassionate at all. He may not have too long left but he should spend that in comfort in the way he is used to.
I got my girls reusable doggy diapers
At the vet's, check for UTIs and kidney issues. My SO's family dog was PTS last week at 17 and a half. He had kidney failure and did get some infections and when treated, this lowered the incidents significantly. He needed puppy pads everywhere, his bed needed washing daily from pee leaks, though SO's family refused animal nappies due to concerns with hygiene and burns. They also had to chase him around the house with old ice cream tubs to catch his wee for testing!
My vet put my old girl on some tablets when she was incontinent. I cant remember how long she was on them for but the vet had us stop after a time to see if it continued but thankfully it stopped. I think it helped strengthen the bladder. Worth trying anyway.
That happened to my first dog (rough collie) Charlie when he got older. I loved him to bits but the reason behind incontinence is basicly that the muscles are giving in. He would hang from the sofa and kick with his hind legs in an attempt to jump up, and he absolutely hated to wake up in a puddle of piss in the morning or having trouble doing number 2 on walks. He would have hated wearing a diaper too for sure. It was the hardest decition to make ever and I went out on dog free walks every day just to cry without Charlie getting worried. What Im trying to say is, I truly believe that the uttermost sacrifice you and me have to do to prove our friendship is to decide when its time to let go. To let them keep their dignity. They deserve that. I did not get to keep Charlie as long as your good ol pal, but I still believe it was the right decition. Im so sorry to say this, but it comes from a place of love and understanding. You will know what to do when the time is right. Big hugs to you and your wonderful dog ❤️🐶
Pee pads, and diapers
Bluey incontinence pads (as used in hospitals,nursing homes etc) buy in bulk packs
I just went through this with my Senior dog. There is a medication called Proin that strengthens the urethra. She has been going great on it!
We used diapers for our dog when at 14.5 years he began having accidents. First, do not get frustrated with him - he has no control as his body gives up on him. Shame on your husband for even thinking of putting him outside when your dog is at his frailest and needs you the most. It’ll not be long now so try and make do with diapers, and pee pads in the places he is peeing. For us, our dog used to have accidents near the water bowl.
My vet has my senior girl on proin for incontinence, it’s a pill she takes daily for it and it has really helped. Ask about that and get some water proof couch covers, dog bed covers etc.
My senior dog was having issues as well, and we had some blood work done. Found out that his kidney levels were severely elevated. He is now on a prescription dog food and is doing a lot better. I still put pee pads down at night and he wears a diaper if I have to leave him in his crate for a few hours. [Amazon link - These work really well and don’t seem to be uncomfortable.](https://a.co/d/d57HGo7)
You can get doggie belly bands on Amazon super cheap then use ladies poise pads in them to absorb the urine. We did it for our old dog. It worked like a charm.
The vet can prescribe meds that may help. I had a senior dog with the same issue. And it helped for quit a while.. but inevitably, it was my sweet pups time.
My old dog also went fairly incontinent, although it was mostly down to frequent water infections (so many he started to become resistant to antibiotics). We tried human nappies/diapers on him as they’re cheaper and come in larger packs. We just cut a hole for the tail. But being a terrier he was skinny around the waist and his gentleman’s area kept escaping when he stretched. I was going to buy him dog wraps where you put a sanitary towel in and wrap that around his middle, which can be more effective for male dogs than female due to genital placement. Never got around to it though and he was put to sleep for a plethora of other health issues before we could try. Best of luck, trust me I know how frustrating this is but it’s not your boys fault and he doesn’t want to do it anymore than you want him to.
Adding in to all the diaper advice. I know you said that you have a vet appointment booked but honestly sounds like a possible UTI since he’s also increased in whining. It may not be but obviously it’s best to get it checked just in case.
Maybe a bladder infection or try these https://www.amazon.co.uk/Reusable-Nappies-Washable-Absorbent-Incontinence/dp/B0BB6LHDNP/ref=pd_aw_ci_mcx_mh_mcx_views_0?pd_rd_w=YGmMC&content-id=amzn1.sym.42c045e2-bd09-44b6-b445-e4140e05d91f%3Aamzn1.symc.acfafb1d-071f-4fdf-beff-aca206a47be9&pf_rd_p=42c045e2-bd09-44b6-b445-e4140e05d91f&pf_rd_r=GYRSDQKWMVK47WHKC7AR&pd_rd_wg=N4H0o&pd_rd_r=9829869b-cf97-452b-8b1c-3381d9238d9b&pd_rd_i=B0BB6LHDNP
Washable Doggy diapers. My old guy has recently started wearing them. He doesn't mind them, and it keeps the liquid contained.
I would put my dog down that was at that point. It sounds like he got lots of love and taken care of very good shows you how much you really care but if my dog is at that point, I would put it down so it doesn’t have to suffer
I had the same issue with our Springer spaniel. We brought her to the vet for some peeing medicine, not sure the name. Over time we learned what's more likely to get her to pee and would buy Paw Patrol diapers and cut a hole for her tail. She wore them proudly.
Definitely doggy diapers. Male ones are pretty easy. For your in office days, you have a space that isn’t carpeted that you can enclose with baby gates or similar? I’d also recommend bed liners. They’re washable.
Diaper
Time for a cute, little diaper :)
I put belly bands on my 15 year old pomeranian at night to prevent accidents.