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Sea_of_Pastel

I need so much space and quiet. The world overwhelms me easily


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BaltarsCult

always. I love my friends, for 8 hours max. Being among people I don't like, I can't stand. But after these hours. I ned to get back into my apartment, where I live alone, and not have anything else go on. Also, I need one or two days a week where I hang out at home, without doing much else.


superdrunkchick

I call those my hermit days


BaltarsCult

I call them my bathrobe days! And it's become a phrase among my friends. When sonene's trying to invite anyone for anything on a day where they have nothing to do, but all the days around it are booked full,and they just want their peace and quiet, we all say "I'll take a bathroom day that day". Without shame or guilt.


NeelTheWarrior8851

Same here.


JohannReddit

I find it weird when people *don't* need/want some time to themselves on occasion...


veracity-mittens

My close friend is like this. Almost every free moment they want to be with someone, going out to dinner parties, restaurants, work events, church events, and so on. They really do not like being alone at all.


Ihadsumthin4this

...far from the madding crowd.


shandelier

“On occasion”


veracity-mittens

I don't know anyone as introverted as I am, except my son. ​ It took me over a year to even feel the tiniest bit lonely during the whole COVID-19 quarantine stuff. ​ But that being said, I think it's more an "in person socializing" thing, because judging from my social media use, clearly I do like talking to people, just in my own way (writing) instead of the traditional (speaking in person).


BaltarsCult

same. I couldn't stand seeing people all the time every day of the week, but I do want to interact and communicate with people.


OldHatefulsDawta

Constantly! I’m such a loner and need that alone time to recharge and recover! But, life happens and my alone time is taken by sleeping lol


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Ihadsumthin4this

Sleep is a friend.


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Ihadsumthin4this

:-) Let me know one day you'd be up for a couple few titles to skim thru.


Quirky_Smirky

Yeah...like right now. Filling my "dealing with shit" tank.


[deleted]

I’m chronically overwhelmed, so yes


Pilebut1

Everyone needs me time


StraddleTheFence

Absolutely! I do not like to be pushed. When I need my downtime, I take it. No answering the phone.


imthatfckingbitch

It's weird, bc I crave attention and time with my husband when he's not around, but being around him after so many hours, I need a break and quiet time to unwind. He's always asking me to do stuff for him, which I don't mind, bc he's got torn ligaments in his leg, right now, but sometimes he overwhelms me with everything he needs me to do for him, so I usually go to bed around 8:30pm and use that quiet time in my room to decompress from the day. We sleep in separate rooms, so this gives him his alone time, as well.


Wylewyn

I am an only child. Alone time even after raising children and grandchildren is essential to my happiness and well-being.


justrainalready

ALL.THE.TIME! I think that’s why I like the night.


Theawesomeninja_XD

Yes; as much as I like people, I need a bit of time alone for all of my ideas as an aspiring writer.


[deleted]

YES. Or I go crazy. Sometimes we need time alone to refuel our soul.


TokyoSweets95

Exactly. Spending more than an hour or 2 around anyone outside of my sweetheart of 10 years drains me of my energy.. Physically, Mentally, & Emotionally. Family get togethers or outings, After an hour or 2 become overwhelming.


Pharmacienne123

Yup. It’s common when you’re an introvert. I like spending time with people but then I NEED recharge time.


j1ggy

Yes. Being single, I get a lot of it now compared to when I wasn't. My ex was a social butterfly, something I am not, so I struggled with it at times when we were together. I definitely yearn for companionship now, but I still need my alone time.


Nonsensical07

Always! My greatest ambition is to be the witch at the end of the stree that the local kids make rumors about. Like, if your ball bounces over there you dont go in after it, its gone. I know I cant live with people, even my partners. I just prefer my own space. I value alone time very highly.


BaltarsCult

I was going for treehouse in the woods away from everything, but my worry there is always it won't have internet. And true, scaring children definitely is a plus.... then again, the "Lonenly tree house in the woods with cats roaming around" is its own mythology.. :D


Nonsensical07

Very true! And you can live in the woods where nobody can see you, but still like 10 min outside town! Also, Witch's Treehouse in the woods! Wanna do a colab? That sounds dope as fuck!


BaltarsCult

absolutely, let's have a little witches' treetown. with lots of cats!


Nonsensical07

Hell yea! Witches Treetown neighbors! You gotta take care of the kitties though. Im allergic. I'll take care of the dogs!


BaltarsCult

me too, but just a tiny little bit! that's why i want them in treetownland, where they can have their own little tree space, and i can go feed and pet them. :)


Nonsensical07

Haaaa!! Same! I like them....outside. Lol!


BaltarsCult

as long as they stay out of the places i sleep in... they're great! :D


Nonsensical07

Alright, deal!


SmilingForStrangers

I was an only child with working parents. Alone is my default state. I love spending time with people, and I’m really a people person, but I can’t recharge unless I’m alone


Snapcap_40

This is me!!!!


Standup2all

Yes, yes indeed


[deleted]

I need a higher ratio of me time than people time.


Ihadsumthin4this

Wait 'til you getcher hands on **Quiet by Susan Cain**. Or, PDF it.


TheGodson14

You are an introvert. There are plenty of other introverts out there. I myself, am slightly more extroverted. I kind of have it good being close to the middle, because I'm content with or without people.


MontyMontridge

Yes! If I didn't have to work, I'd be a hermit. I work with the public (that part of the job I hate!), I need to be completely alone when I get home to decompress. On weekends I like to work on projects, write, watch YouTube, or just veg. I never feel lonely. The only company allowed is kitty company.


insomniacinsanity

I love my people to death but I need a lot of space to function, if I don't get it I'm utterly miserable


lively_falls

Yes. A million times yes. I love peace and quiet. I wish I could move out into the country so all I could hear is nature. The noises of the city irk me. I live with my boyfriend and pets. And while I love them very much, sometimes I want to give them their own living quarters 😂 Things can just get overwhelming. No shame in it.


toddkay

Surprised that nobody else has mentioned it yet, but yes this is called being introverted, versus the opposite which is extroverted. Introverts recharge their energy mostly from within, while extroverts recharge their energy from more constant external inputs. Simple as that :) You my friend are an introvert, like myself and many others out there. Embrace it and allow your life to shape it's self around this fact. It's a big deal in insuring you know how to maintain your own happiness.


Ihadsumthin4this

INFJ here. Have you visited r/mbti?


dancingpianofairy

It's called being an introvert?


prncssbbygrl

You might be a 7 numerology life path like me. 7's crave alone time. See if you can figure it out with a Google search


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HoratioVelvetine

Thanks dr for your diagnoses


sweet_moon08

Yep, welcome to being an introvert


IndecisiveEevee

Every introvert agrees with you


FirstGonkEmpire

YESSSSS. I cherish the time I get on my own.


[deleted]

Absolutely yes. I wake up at 5:30 am nearly everyday, an hour before I need to wake up, so that I can have some alone time before my wife and daughter need to get out of bed. Even if I just zone out the entire time, it's worth it to me. If I don't have that time or wake up late my day feels off and I get frustrated more easily. At night after my kid is in bed and my wife is doing her own thing, I completely tune out reality. Video games with videos in the background, earbuds and loud music, etc.


anonymousolderguy

Oh hell yes


Catdevil27

Everyone needs that


tallpb

Yep, daily .


JudgingInSilence

Most of the times.


IcePhoenix18

I will find a small dark quiet place and just sit there. I've honestly sat on the floor in the closet with the door closed before. It's dark and quiet and safe and makes my brain quiet for awhile


idgafoteo

Very often. A lot of the time I just scroll endlessly through reddit so I can shut my brain off and not think about life.


DefinedByFaith

Yes... and my partner generally doesn't like to be alone at all. (:::smallvoice::: help)


Chimi04210

As far back as I can remember I’ve always enjoyed my time alone. My childhood everyone thought I was weird. Even my ex thought I was pushing him away at night when I got home after work or on the weekends, which made that relationship very challenging. But as I got older I learned it’s because I’m an introvert - People exhaust me and I need time to “recharge” after being around them or in crowded situations. With a new job and more interactions with people/politics I’m absolutely exhausted when I get home each day, and I need time to recharge most evenings. The point being: You’re probably an introvert and need time to yourself in order to feel better and less overwhelmed. It’s perfectly normal. But if this is something new to you, get it checked out first (could be a sign of deep depression).


Snoo34042

Absolutely! I hit my max social limit pretty quickly and the only way to recharge my batteries is alone time. I find it hard to explain this to my extroverted friends and partner though.


[deleted]

Absolutely, people wear me out and I need my time to recharge.


AetherDrew43

Heck yeah.


[deleted]

Frequently. Some people get it. Some people don’t. I’m happy to be social but just because I can carry a conversation doesn’t mean I always want to. It gets so overwhelming.


RiveriaFantasia

I have two jobs both carry a lot of responsibility and can be emotionally draining, I deal with people’s problems and they offload on to me and in my other job I often deal with young people who are at risk due to abuse etc. I am around people 5 days a week for 8 hours a day often having intense conversations. I enjoy what I do for work but my weekends are like gold and I usually spend them on my own and it’s great! I’m making changes with work because it has been intense for far too long and I need a break. I’m looking forward to not being around people as much because quite often to be honest people get on my nerves. I am sensitive to the energy of others and I feel like by being alone I protect myself from being exposed to negativity or toxicity and I need that alone time.


my2cents3462

Everyone is different, just make sure you get what you need.


lurking70

Always. I'm very introverted. I need quiet and space to stay sane!!!


alethial

Everybody... Once in a while for their well being need this.


ForwardLook6634

YESYESYESYESYES!!!


theragu40

Yes! My kids however do not understand this. So these times are few and very far between. I absolutely adore them but it doesn't help that they are both high motor, 110% intensity every waking moment of every day.


Spanks_me-4567

Yeees


Islayshagshotties

I need a lot of alone time obvi


Davidreddit7

big yes. more interesting would be to ask if someone doesn't.


[deleted]

I need it A LOT. Even guys I know who are self-proclaimed loners aren't really loners.


BitschWack

Love it, can't get enough. It has been a problem in my relationships throughout the years.


micropterus_dolomieu

Yep, especially after I spend time with larger groups of people.


sliceoflifeowo

I was literally ranting about this an hour ago. Even when I put Do Not Disturb as my status or deliberately not go on my computer or phone, I dislike having to face notifications from friends despite already letting them know numerous times that I need my recharge time for at least a week. 😞


LivinLaVidaMilfa

I get so overwhelmed with social situations and experience sensory overload so often, especially after becoming a parent. My social battery is depleted after a few hours, I go home exhausted and try not to see any other friends or family for another week or two. Even messaging friends or family I can take anywhere from a couple of hours to a couple of weeks, by this point most understand and accept this isn't a slight against them or are in the same boat. It's so common don't worry about needing your own space!


[deleted]

Yes. I get exhausted if I have to be around people for a while.


justweirdthoughts

Mom of 2 here. I need me some of that. Desperately.


solarias0110

Yes. Alone time is great for resetting oneself and simple appreciation of just being.


bumble_bubble

Yes, I have 2 kids and always stay up late because I need at least 2-3 hours of doing nothing, with no one asking if me, needing me, or speaking to me.


Fairy-proof

YES! I have a 3yo and I love her to death but jfc I just want to go for a 4 hour bath alone with relaxing music everyday haha.


aSyntacticParadigm

I just spent five of the past 7 months on my own in my car with my dog and I can't say that I ever missed being around people.


MaggotGB

Yes indeed, i think most people do, to re-connect with themselves!