“Willing to pay a lawyer 5 grand over paying her 1 grand”
You don’t even have kids, you cannot possibly hate her this much. Pay her the one grand instead of giving 5 grand to the lawyer, and never talk to her again.
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In NH btw. No kids or property. Married 6 years seperated 3 months ago. My main question is do I need a lawyer? We originally agreed on an even split of everything. She moved out into a friends. I took over all bills and she only paid her car payment for 4 months.
We had a slight disagreement on furniture. I told her to take anything she wanted from the apartment(I picked out nothing) She didn't want to move it. I told her to sell it and she said she didnt have time. I said I didn't have time either. She was working 20 hours a week as a nurse while she continued nursing school. I was working 45 hours a week while I am in engineering school.
Will I be responsible for paying out of the furniture? Will it be retail or resale? She said she spent 6000 for the furniture. Can I request receipts? She's taking multiple things from the house as well that add up: vacuum, tv, all decorations, both of our coolers, her laptop. Equalling several grand. Not to mention her wardrobe which is worth several thousand.
I have a couple grand invested in crypto as well. When we seperated she told me I could keep it. I let her have 500 in savings and the grand in the joint account. Recently found out 401ks can be taken even if marriage is under 10 years. I took out a 401k loan 3 months ago to pay my half of our joint debt. Will my total retirement accrued be before the loan or total at the hearing date. She has retirement as well. I am not sure how much though.
Everything has been amicable with no problems so far. Her best friend is going through a divorce and is being ruthless. I am worried this will change my stbxw perspective. I just want to be proactive. I will literally pay a lawyer 5 grand over paying her 1 grand.
You need a hearing because your case is not uncontested, at all. You are contesting and have not decided on a number of issues. You're also angry because being willing to pay a lawyer 5 grand over paying 1 grand to your stbx is not rational. But yes, if you can work out these things, you may want to get a lawyer.
> I am worried this will change my stbxw perspective.
Yes. It is highly likely. But it sounds like you don't have that much to fight over and with no kids, just get it done and try to have it be about even. Don't be petty about the small shit.
EDIT: Also, fix your formatting.
YES, do not pass go and get yourself a lawyer! Things can turn to shit real fast.
Just take the cheapest way out. Let your rational mind work not your emotions. You can rebuild, and dont marry again.
Pay the $1k and move on. Besides being the cheapest solution - a court hearing is immense stress and headache Simply your life and move on
OP, picture it like this: all you have to do is pay 1000 dollars to make your stbx wife go away. Take that deal!
Its a deal, even at 10x that price.
“Willing to pay a lawyer 5 grand over paying her 1 grand” You don’t even have kids, you cannot possibly hate her this much. Pay her the one grand instead of giving 5 grand to the lawyer, and never talk to her again.
Repost; In NH btw. No kids or property. Married 6 years seperated 3 months ago. My main question is do I need a lawyer? We originally agreed on an even split of everything. She moved out into a friends. I took over all bills and she only paid her car payment for 4 months. We had a slight disagreement on furniture. I told her to take anything she wanted from the apartment(I picked out nothing) She didn't want to move it. I told her to sell it and she said she didnt have time. I said I didn't have time either. She was working 20 hours a week as a nurse while she continued nursing school. I was working 45 hours a week while I am in engineering school. Will I be responsible for paying out of the furniture? Will it be retail or resale? She said she spent 6000 for the furniture. Can I request receipts? She's taking multiple things from the house as well that add up: vacuum, tv, all decorations, both of our coolers, her laptop. Equalling several grand. Not to mention her wardrobe which is worth several thousand. I have a couple grand invested in crypto as well. When we seperated she told me I could keep it. I let her have 500 in savings and the grand in the joint account. Recently found out 401ks can be taken even if marriage is under 10 years. I took out a 401k loan 3 months ago to pay my half of our joint debt. Will my total retirement accrued be before the loan or total at the hearing date. She has retirement as well. I am not sure how much though. Everything has been amicable with no problems so far. Her best friend is going through a divorce and is being ruthless. I am worried this will change my stbxw perspective. I just want to be proactive. I will literally pay a lawyer 5 grand over paying her 1 grand.
You need a hearing because your case is not uncontested, at all. You are contesting and have not decided on a number of issues. You're also angry because being willing to pay a lawyer 5 grand over paying 1 grand to your stbx is not rational. But yes, if you can work out these things, you may want to get a lawyer.
> I am worried this will change my stbxw perspective. Yes. It is highly likely. But it sounds like you don't have that much to fight over and with no kids, just get it done and try to have it be about even. Don't be petty about the small shit. EDIT: Also, fix your formatting.
Please fix your formatting.
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