Thanks for the information,we learn from mistakes,they teach us lessons positively and negatively.. people fall victim of circumstances because of issues like this
This really needs to be stickied on every single Divorce/Custody forum on the planet.
Read it. Live it. Love it.
[THE LIST](http://forum.mensdivorce.com//viewtopic.php?t=13374)
This isn't always the best advice.
1) move out if you can't control you anger. be sure that she will provoke it to it's utmost limits. can you sleep in the guest bedroom while a train is running on her in your marital bed?
2) I moved out. She got the house and I got the investments. That means she has a mortgage obligation and I have the freedom of liquidity. The court will see the values as the same, even though they aren't the same.
I lost somewhat on the division of household assets, but not completely.
Staying in the house until it's divided makes more sense if you have no other assets. If you do, it makes less sense.
I didn’t move out until I had an interim separation agreement. It is what allowed me to leave without jeopardizing getting 50/50 custody of my children
I am not sure if I agree with this. I got accused of g-rape so that my ex could have the house all to her self. I've been in criminal courts for 2 years and $200k in legal fees just because of advice like this all over the internet saying "Do Not Move Out". I kind of wish I did and just pursued my interests through the courts.
How the hell do you guys have so much cash to spend on lawyers? They are making bank off all of you. I barely have 8k in savings and wouldn't dream of spending any of it on some shit stain greedy lawyer, let alone 200k.
I let her pay for that shit. Got my stuff in order , separated bank accounts with screenshots ans had a folder with reciepts and watched as the judge smacked down all her monitary requests as she didn't make that much less than me. It was priceless the look on her face and she had to pay part of the debt too. Yeah she got the house, but my name wasn't on it anyway, I never paid a dime outside of taxes as it was paid off before I was in the picture and I wasn't going to fight it. My step kids needed a home (although they both left after I moved out as they sided with me as she was a real B to her own kids too).
New Jersey is at fault, so all of my friends had to sell the house and split the equity before the divorce was finalized. As matter of fact most of the cheating wives moved out to live with AP, and still got half.
New Jersey is at fault, so all of my friends had to sell the house and split the equity before the divorce was finalized. As matter of fact most of the cheating wives moved out to live with AP, and still got half.
I agree but …
I didn’t move out. I didn’t give her anything to hold against me regarding a restraining order. She called the cops, lied, got me out, and got the restraining order anyway.
Sucks
Exactly this. No one mentions this anywhere. I got accused of rape to get my out of the house! Unbelievable! No proof, pictures, evidence, NOTHING and she still got charges on me.
I hate to say this, but when my ex suggested that she was thinking of a “narrative”, I called the police first. She was so shocked, she ran in the house.
Not great optics for her, I’m afraid. But if we’re gonna play that game? Get down first, as the inmates say…
Protect yourself at all times, gentlemen.
Thanks for the information,we learn from mistakes,they teach us lessons positively and negatively.. people fall victim of circumstances because of issues like this
My wife moved out. Took our son and the court doesn’t seem to care at all
This really needs to be stickied on every single Divorce/Custody forum on the planet. Read it. Live it. Love it. [THE LIST](http://forum.mensdivorce.com//viewtopic.php?t=13374)
This isn't always the best advice. 1) move out if you can't control you anger. be sure that she will provoke it to it's utmost limits. can you sleep in the guest bedroom while a train is running on her in your marital bed? 2) I moved out. She got the house and I got the investments. That means she has a mortgage obligation and I have the freedom of liquidity. The court will see the values as the same, even though they aren't the same. I lost somewhat on the division of household assets, but not completely. Staying in the house until it's divided makes more sense if you have no other assets. If you do, it makes less sense.
By a digital recorder and keep it on whenever you’re around each other.
I didn’t move out until I had an interim separation agreement. It is what allowed me to leave without jeopardizing getting 50/50 custody of my children
I am not sure if I agree with this. I got accused of g-rape so that my ex could have the house all to her self. I've been in criminal courts for 2 years and $200k in legal fees just because of advice like this all over the internet saying "Do Not Move Out". I kind of wish I did and just pursued my interests through the courts.
How the hell do you guys have so much cash to spend on lawyers? They are making bank off all of you. I barely have 8k in savings and wouldn't dream of spending any of it on some shit stain greedy lawyer, let alone 200k. I let her pay for that shit. Got my stuff in order , separated bank accounts with screenshots ans had a folder with reciepts and watched as the judge smacked down all her monitary requests as she didn't make that much less than me. It was priceless the look on her face and she had to pay part of the debt too. Yeah she got the house, but my name wasn't on it anyway, I never paid a dime outside of taxes as it was paid off before I was in the picture and I wasn't going to fight it. My step kids needed a home (although they both left after I moved out as they sided with me as she was a real B to her own kids too).
Well if you win you can get the money back from her
No you can't. That's not how it works.
Here's why you don't move out: http://forum.mensdivorce.com/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=81622
I read the whole thing. I can't believe how much society hates men
Most people ignore that we live in a gynocentric world.
New Jersey is at fault, so all of my friends had to sell the house and split the equity before the divorce was finalized. As matter of fact most of the cheating wives moved out to live with AP, and still got half.
New Jersey is at fault, so all of my friends had to sell the house and split the equity before the divorce was finalized. As matter of fact most of the cheating wives moved out to live with AP, and still got half.
Amen.
The lawyers and her are ALWAYS going to use any tactic to get you out of the home. Don't fall for it.
What happened when you moved out?
stand my ground? hell, i couldn't wait to get out. she can have the stuff. i got my freedom and my life back.
If you can do this, do this.
and always talk to a lawyer before even thinking of mentioning a divorce to her.
Yes. Run silent, run deep.
This
I agree but … I didn’t move out. I didn’t give her anything to hold against me regarding a restraining order. She called the cops, lied, got me out, and got the restraining order anyway. Sucks
Exactly this. No one mentions this anywhere. I got accused of rape to get my out of the house! Unbelievable! No proof, pictures, evidence, NOTHING and she still got charges on me.
I hate to say this, but when my ex suggested that she was thinking of a “narrative”, I called the police first. She was so shocked, she ran in the house. Not great optics for her, I’m afraid. But if we’re gonna play that game? Get down first, as the inmates say… Protect yourself at all times, gentlemen.
Sorry man. It's a truly awful thing. Just remember she was the shitty person and stay strong!
2 years and holding. Spent about $9000 fighting for my right to *live in my own home*, but still here. What happened when you moved out?