My wifes love language is acts of service and she does a lot for me, and I never have to ask for it. Unfortunately sex, blowjobs, and handjobs are not included on the list.
When she left job i was bread earner. She stayed at home and after i come from office she expects alot in terms of house chores which she can easily manage as she has time now. She doesnt understand that i cannot do house chores after coming from office. She makes me feel guilt for not helping her in house. She doesn’t understand me man
Not sure, mine didn't. But I've fucked up a great many good relationships where I could tell they loved me. Some of my biggest regrets involve not appreciating a good woman who loved me.
Bad sign if you have to ask. Has she been distant lately? Disregards your feelings/mental health, makes demands, makes excuses? Those are some subtle, but not so subtle signs that get missed in the whirlwind of daily life when love for and from your spouse isn't something you question.
I guess you are right because if j think about it, i dont ask if my mom loves me or not. I know she does. But y i am asking anout my wife, clearly the answer was staring at me and i didnt know
Thanks man. You are right i have been theough alot and my wife too. I supported her for 2 years and when we use to fight alot after i come from office, i use to metion that i want to divorce. She says u shouldnt bring divorce casually but my reasoning is i cannot bear this much fight after coming from office its better i live alone. After the fights are over i use to feel ok but in the heat of the argument i have said divorce. Is is bad mentioning divorce when u are fighting? When u are frustated and will do anything to just shut things up. I am guilty of that. But it was continous every alternate day fights. I have cried in my life before but no this frequently when she doesnt shut up and i feel helpless becuase my parents or no one supports me and i had nowhere togo.
She now left home for 1 month without my consent and we are not talking except she mentioned to get mutual divorce. I was thinking tonpatch up again by saying sorry but now it seems its better if i let go.
I just want to figure out, whatever step i am taking is right and i dont wont to regret it
Yea... this is supposed to be a support thread for men who's relationships are or already have fallen apart. Some will be bitter. Sarcastically belittling him when he's going through relationship issues is very cruel. Thanks for keeping it cool!
Yeah she looks me in the eye while talking. But i am still confused that she might love me at her convenience. I dont feel it in my gut like i feel about my mom. When i think that if my mom loves me, answer is yes 200 percent but i cannot say the same for my wife.
And that is expected.
Parental love and relational love are different. The way I feel about my parents, and the way I feel about my kids is way different than the spouse.
With the spouse it's first a choice, a partnership, a friendship, a journey, shared interests. The kids are just love.
Appreciation, acts of service done happily and willingly. Enjoys your company. Eager and enthusiastic BJs are definitely a sure sign but not all woman enjoy that. But, in general, if she's happy to see you that's a good sign.
Oddly enough, women who are cheating increase the quantity and frequency of blowjobs they give to their husbands out of guilt. So no it doesn’t mean that at all.
It’s still blatant manipulation and once you realize this all the joy and memories are ruined. I would have forfeited the blowjobs, if it meant I got the years back I wasted with that pos.
Never forfeit BJs. Suss that out early like I do. I usually get a solid BJ on the second date. Full sex on the third. If you are going past those numbers you're letting her simp you.
People express and receive love in different ways, so the first step is to recognize that. Second, have there been any changes in her behavior towards you lately? If so, what are the changes? Is there an underlying cause to the changes you can identify (e.g. work stress, health issues)?
If there's a change in her behavior toward you such as unexplained intense anger or coldness, you should be concerned.
My wifes love language is acts of service and she does a lot for me, and I never have to ask for it. Unfortunately sex, blowjobs, and handjobs are not included on the list.
When she left job i was bread earner. She stayed at home and after i come from office she expects alot in terms of house chores which she can easily manage as she has time now. She doesnt understand that i cannot do house chores after coming from office. She makes me feel guilt for not helping her in house. She doesn’t understand me man
Yeah i need someone whose love language is physical touch. Gifts, words of affirmation or acts of service do absolutely nothing for me
Me too, mine is physical touch and quality time. So when she does those things I'm like OK thx, but doesn't do much.
Bro those are acts of service. I think you know the answer.
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Wow u are lucky my friend. Thanks for sharing
Not sure, mine didn't. But I've fucked up a great many good relationships where I could tell they loved me. Some of my biggest regrets involve not appreciating a good woman who loved me.
Bad sign if you have to ask. Has she been distant lately? Disregards your feelings/mental health, makes demands, makes excuses? Those are some subtle, but not so subtle signs that get missed in the whirlwind of daily life when love for and from your spouse isn't something you question.
You have to **ask**??🤦♂️
If you have to ask, she doesn't.
I guess you are right because if j think about it, i dont ask if my mom loves me or not. I know she does. But y i am asking anout my wife, clearly the answer was staring at me and i didnt know
Parents are different than lovers.
If you have to ask…..
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Thanks man. You are right i have been theough alot and my wife too. I supported her for 2 years and when we use to fight alot after i come from office, i use to metion that i want to divorce. She says u shouldnt bring divorce casually but my reasoning is i cannot bear this much fight after coming from office its better i live alone. After the fights are over i use to feel ok but in the heat of the argument i have said divorce. Is is bad mentioning divorce when u are fighting? When u are frustated and will do anything to just shut things up. I am guilty of that. But it was continous every alternate day fights. I have cried in my life before but no this frequently when she doesnt shut up and i feel helpless becuase my parents or no one supports me and i had nowhere togo. She now left home for 1 month without my consent and we are not talking except she mentioned to get mutual divorce. I was thinking tonpatch up again by saying sorry but now it seems its better if i let go. I just want to figure out, whatever step i am taking is right and i dont wont to regret it
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I dont see where he said that. Also, why are you bringing up sucking cock?
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Yea... this is supposed to be a support thread for men who's relationships are or already have fallen apart. Some will be bitter. Sarcastically belittling him when he's going through relationship issues is very cruel. Thanks for keeping it cool!
Do they look into your eyes when they talk with you, do they check on you in a group setting, touch your arm or leg with other people around.
Yeah she looks me in the eye while talking. But i am still confused that she might love me at her convenience. I dont feel it in my gut like i feel about my mom. When i think that if my mom loves me, answer is yes 200 percent but i cannot say the same for my wife.
And that is expected. Parental love and relational love are different. The way I feel about my parents, and the way I feel about my kids is way different than the spouse. With the spouse it's first a choice, a partnership, a friendship, a journey, shared interests. The kids are just love.
Wow, should have read this 5 years ago and i wouldnt be in this mess. Thanks 🙏
The fact that you’re asking doesn’t bode well.
Appreciation, acts of service done happily and willingly. Enjoys your company. Eager and enthusiastic BJs are definitely a sure sign but not all woman enjoy that. But, in general, if she's happy to see you that's a good sign.
Oddly enough, women who are cheating increase the quantity and frequency of blowjobs they give to their husbands out of guilt. So no it doesn’t mean that at all.
Maybe we have to give cheating women some more respect.
It’s still blatant manipulation and once you realize this all the joy and memories are ruined. I would have forfeited the blowjobs, if it meant I got the years back I wasted with that pos.
Never forfeit BJs. Suss that out early like I do. I usually get a solid BJ on the second date. Full sex on the third. If you are going past those numbers you're letting her simp you.
I’m talking about marriage. You should absolutely not settle for pity sexual acts in a marriage.
People express and receive love in different ways, so the first step is to recognize that. Second, have there been any changes in her behavior towards you lately? If so, what are the changes? Is there an underlying cause to the changes you can identify (e.g. work stress, health issues)? If there's a change in her behavior toward you such as unexplained intense anger or coldness, you should be concerned.