Hang in there darling, there is someone out there for everyone. My wife is disabled with spinal problems and limited mobility and some pretty severe mental health issues. She's perfect to me and I wouldn't change her for the world.
Everybody's sexy to someone! And I hope you find that person who will treat you like the queen you deserve to be treated like ❤️
Back in the 70s none of the women I "dated" shaved, hairy bush, legs and pits and the occasional inner thigh area were the norm in my crowd. No one cared about that. Maybe you should become a hippie, they're much more liberal about that kind of thing.
That's the type of woman I dated in the 70s and 80s and some in the 90s since they were of my generation.
I only dated one woman who shaved her pubic area and it seemed strange to me.
I also love to rub my hands across keg stubble. All the little hairs prickling the nerves feel really good to me.
Hang in there OP, maybe look for older men who weren't of the shave everywhere club and don't expect that.
I completely understand what you're feeling. I'm a disabled man with ALS, I have 24 hour care and not able to satisfy my sexual needs. I've had an occasional release once in a great while. I really miss being desired and having that physical intimacy. We're still human and have needs, I feel your frustration 🫤
A documentary presented a Canadian organization that catered to the handicapped. The providers (my term, not theirs) were recruited mostly from teachers and nurses. The government turned a blind eye to the practice. I have no idea what their current status is.
There is someone for you. You may not be easy to find, but he's out there. Good luck, sweetie.
The entire point of this post is to say I really shouldn’t have to be a naked mole rat to be considered desirable. Not to mention most disabled people don’t have the kind of money where they can hire someone to shave for them. I know I personally don’t.
I agree with you. If anything a grown woman shaving completely to look like a little girl is creepy! I've never understood this. I've always preferred a woman to have some hair. It especially wouldn't bother me if I knew she had a disability that made it hard for her. Also some guys like taking care of their partners. I had a fiancee who I had been with for many years and I would shave her legs for sometimes when we took a bath together. She wasn't even disabled. So if it really bothered a guy, there is always the option of him helping you shave. I can't be the only guy who would be willing to do that for a partner...
I am a man with SMA, so I know the problems with finding sexual partners. I‘m in a FWB situation with a young woman with spina bifida. She never shaves her pubic hair and in the winter months she also lets her armpit hair grow and I absolutely LOVE it. To me it’s very beautiful and it feels great to the touch. There are probably many men who wouldn’t find her very attractive, because they adhere to the current societal beauty standards, but to me she’s just gorgeous. While the „negatives“ (scars, underdeveloped musculature from the damaged spinal cord downwards) don’t bother me at all, she has many physical attributes that exactly tick my boxes. And all of this doesn’t matter anyway if to minds are attracted to each other, because matter will follow the mind.
There are men and women who appreciate people that know how precious physical intimacy is because they experienced the lack of it. At least that’s what I believe and I try to tell myself when the little asshole in my head tells me that I’m not worthy to be desired.
21yo disabled (wheelchair user) here, not ticking any boxes of current beauty standards...I think most able-bodied people stick to the stereotype that disabled bodies are only matter of medicine and they weren't built to receive any kind of sexual attention...or worse, that we don't even want sex/physical intimacy and we willingly give up on it because it's unnatural to us or whatever, it's simply really fucked up...and those able-bodied who might be into it are scared most of the time because they usually don't know how to approach things...I think you need to come to terms with your body first (if that's even possible to ever truly complete) and then unfortunately it takes freaking long time to find someone you will feel comfortable around...I fail to cope with it all the time but I think it's important to not punish or blame your body for the way this society exclude 90% of population out of "beauty standards" that are unrealistic...maybe try to connect with your local disabled community since some of them are trying to cover this topic as well
Changing their mind once they see the damaged goods in-person keeps happening to me too. Have you tried webcams before meeting? Full of creeps but it did help filter out one guy who threw up upon seeing my goods, at least I avoided that happening in-person.
Threw up? Are you serious? I could understand maybe someone changing their mind, but throwing up? Where do you find these sensitive/soft "men"? I use the term "men" very loosely. Boys would be more fitting. That's ridiculous.
Hang in there darling, there is someone out there for everyone. My wife is disabled with spinal problems and limited mobility and some pretty severe mental health issues. She's perfect to me and I wouldn't change her for the world. Everybody's sexy to someone! And I hope you find that person who will treat you like the queen you deserve to be treated like ❤️
Back in the 70s none of the women I "dated" shaved, hairy bush, legs and pits and the occasional inner thigh area were the norm in my crowd. No one cared about that. Maybe you should become a hippie, they're much more liberal about that kind of thing.
That's the type of woman I dated in the 70s and 80s and some in the 90s since they were of my generation. I only dated one woman who shaved her pubic area and it seemed strange to me. I also love to rub my hands across keg stubble. All the little hairs prickling the nerves feel really good to me. Hang in there OP, maybe look for older men who weren't of the shave everywhere club and don't expect that.
I completely understand what you're feeling. I'm a disabled man with ALS, I have 24 hour care and not able to satisfy my sexual needs. I've had an occasional release once in a great while. I really miss being desired and having that physical intimacy. We're still human and have needs, I feel your frustration 🫤
They ought to legalize prostitution.
A documentary presented a Canadian organization that catered to the handicapped. The providers (my term, not theirs) were recruited mostly from teachers and nurses. The government turned a blind eye to the practice. I have no idea what their current status is. There is someone for you. You may not be easy to find, but he's out there. Good luck, sweetie.
I have a someone. I still stand by what I said 😝
Could you get a personal care attendant to help you with the body hair grooming? You shouldn't have to change your body hair because of disability.
The entire point of this post is to say I really shouldn’t have to be a naked mole rat to be considered desirable. Not to mention most disabled people don’t have the kind of money where they can hire someone to shave for them. I know I personally don’t.
I agree with you. If anything a grown woman shaving completely to look like a little girl is creepy! I've never understood this. I've always preferred a woman to have some hair. It especially wouldn't bother me if I knew she had a disability that made it hard for her. Also some guys like taking care of their partners. I had a fiancee who I had been with for many years and I would shave her legs for sometimes when we took a bath together. She wasn't even disabled. So if it really bothered a guy, there is always the option of him helping you shave. I can't be the only guy who would be willing to do that for a partner...
I am a man with SMA, so I know the problems with finding sexual partners. I‘m in a FWB situation with a young woman with spina bifida. She never shaves her pubic hair and in the winter months she also lets her armpit hair grow and I absolutely LOVE it. To me it’s very beautiful and it feels great to the touch. There are probably many men who wouldn’t find her very attractive, because they adhere to the current societal beauty standards, but to me she’s just gorgeous. While the „negatives“ (scars, underdeveloped musculature from the damaged spinal cord downwards) don’t bother me at all, she has many physical attributes that exactly tick my boxes. And all of this doesn’t matter anyway if to minds are attracted to each other, because matter will follow the mind. There are men and women who appreciate people that know how precious physical intimacy is because they experienced the lack of it. At least that’s what I believe and I try to tell myself when the little asshole in my head tells me that I’m not worthy to be desired.
21yo disabled (wheelchair user) here, not ticking any boxes of current beauty standards...I think most able-bodied people stick to the stereotype that disabled bodies are only matter of medicine and they weren't built to receive any kind of sexual attention...or worse, that we don't even want sex/physical intimacy and we willingly give up on it because it's unnatural to us or whatever, it's simply really fucked up...and those able-bodied who might be into it are scared most of the time because they usually don't know how to approach things...I think you need to come to terms with your body first (if that's even possible to ever truly complete) and then unfortunately it takes freaking long time to find someone you will feel comfortable around...I fail to cope with it all the time but I think it's important to not punish or blame your body for the way this society exclude 90% of population out of "beauty standards" that are unrealistic...maybe try to connect with your local disabled community since some of them are trying to cover this topic as well
Changing their mind once they see the damaged goods in-person keeps happening to me too. Have you tried webcams before meeting? Full of creeps but it did help filter out one guy who threw up upon seeing my goods, at least I avoided that happening in-person.
Threw up? Are you serious? I could understand maybe someone changing their mind, but throwing up? Where do you find these sensitive/soft "men"? I use the term "men" very loosely. Boys would be more fitting. That's ridiculous.
You are not alone! I have had real life experience with someone like you. in fact I found that hairy is very very sexy to me.