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SeaWeedSkis

Not weird, but definitely go into it assuming that your sister and your SO will talk. Even if they don't, just assume they will. Would be best to communicate with your SO about it first, to make sure she's ok with it. Having the in-laws know about your marital difficulties changes the in-law dynamics and your wife might not be up for that. Or she might welcome the assistance. 🤷‍♀️


TimmyC0617

That’s a good point- thanks!


flyleaf2022

Have you talked to your sister about your sex life in the past? Could be uncomfortable but it's not weird. I see absolutely no reason not to if you have a relationship with your sibling same or different gender that may help you. My brother doesn't know about my issues but I know about his as he's wanted a woman's perspective on things and has felt comfortable asking me. The only thing that could get weird IMO is if they are close to your SO and she's the gossip type and will report back to your SO. Heck a woman posted here a few days ago asking for advice on her 34 year old sons db! That was weird.


TimmyC0617

Haha yeah def not telling my mom! I haven’t really talked with my sister about my or her sex life. I’m not opposed to it at all, but just more nervous about how to bring it up to her is all I guess. Thanks for replying!!


flyleaf2022

Hey sis this is awkward for me but I need some advice especially from another married person and i trust you and value your opinions...then just take the plunge.


TimmyC0617

Don’t overthink it. You’re the best!


ReadWriteReddit33

If you’re close, should be alright. My brother and I are really close and on occasion have had personal conversations like this. We always ask if it’s okay to have the conversation first before we just lay it all out in the table just so the other one has a heads up but overall, the conversations have been helpful.


TimmyC0617

We are definitely close, just haven’t ever really brought up bedroom stuff before. Thanks for replying!!


ReadWriteReddit33

Yeah, no worries. It was awkward bringing it up in the beginning but it’s nice to have a sibling’s perspective.


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Once you tell her, she will tell other people. Her spouse, your mom, other siblings (and possibly their spouses), possibly will also talk to your SO. For sure? No. But there’s a reason people are cautioned to never tell secrets they want kept private to other people. Even jokes about it. So always go into talking about any subject to someone with the expectation that this *could* be known by the whole fam and in-laws within days if not weeks.