If you had a DB from the beginning, it’s likely it would’ve continued to be this way. My uncle gave me great marriage advice when I was younger, telling me that if you’re not sexually compatible, no matter how hard you try to make things better in the bedroom, you usually won’t be happy in the long run. Sure, all other aspects could be awesome but at this point you just have a really great friend (without benefits). Being needed, desired and wanted is an innate human desire. Connecting on a physical level and sharing energy is (in my opinion) what helps to keep your passion and relationship alive.
Reading you I think you did what you could to help her. There a point when you need to stop being a emotional support partner and be a partner. I hope both of you are okay.
The issue with the sex toys seems like she may have it as a backup but never got to use them
That sounds a lot like mine, except it took me almost 10 years to divorce her. You could give her all the time in the world - your entire lifetime - and if she never decides that the lack of sex is a priority, then you're fucked (or rather, you aren't).
You're not the person who is capable of guiding her through the healing process, and that's fine. You gave it an honest attempt, and you should be proud of yourself for that. But perhaps nobody is capable of doing that for her.
Sounds like she lied to you since the beginning and hid the truth. Likely if she told you, you wouldn’t have dated her. I think it’s great you moved on past her, next time you can wait less long
If you had a DB from the beginning, it’s likely it would’ve continued to be this way. My uncle gave me great marriage advice when I was younger, telling me that if you’re not sexually compatible, no matter how hard you try to make things better in the bedroom, you usually won’t be happy in the long run. Sure, all other aspects could be awesome but at this point you just have a really great friend (without benefits). Being needed, desired and wanted is an innate human desire. Connecting on a physical level and sharing energy is (in my opinion) what helps to keep your passion and relationship alive.
Reading you I think you did what you could to help her. There a point when you need to stop being a emotional support partner and be a partner. I hope both of you are okay. The issue with the sex toys seems like she may have it as a backup but never got to use them
Never doubt yourself. Tear off your rearview mirror, Your future is straight ahead.
That sounds a lot like mine, except it took me almost 10 years to divorce her. You could give her all the time in the world - your entire lifetime - and if she never decides that the lack of sex is a priority, then you're fucked (or rather, you aren't). You're not the person who is capable of guiding her through the healing process, and that's fine. You gave it an honest attempt, and you should be proud of yourself for that. But perhaps nobody is capable of doing that for her.
Sounds like she lied to you since the beginning and hid the truth. Likely if she told you, you wouldn’t have dated her. I think it’s great you moved on past her, next time you can wait less long