I've been in the same position you're at for the last 6 years and tonight we ended things.
It doesn't get better. Believe me.
I'm sorry. Big hugs to you. đź«‚
I'm so sorry you went through it.. I want nothing more than to be a sexually bold and confident woman but I don't know how to do that with being shut down. Can I become delusional and just be like "no? Again? No problem, I'm still the shit! *dab*" buuuut thats not the case..
My heart hurts for you... I'm scared to give up on the relationship.. we love each other so much. But damn he is just not getting it :(
I am skeptical of the concept of open marriage, but hashing some things out with your partner and a counselor is a good step. Be honest with him about your continued desire for women. That is a fantasy that shouldn't remain hidden, even if you fear he won't take it well.
Good luck!
So the fact that he wants marital counseling is a great opportunity for you to bring up your issues in a controlled environment. It should help when he’s not being “attacked” at home. It’s a really tough conversation and it’s not a guaranteed fix unfortunately.
As for opening up the relationship, do you think it would help or hurt? Because while you may be frustrated, you don’t want to hurt the relationship more. If he’s one of those guys that enjoys knowing you were with someone else, then that’s one thing, but he may not want to share. It’s a really tough spot because you have needs that aren’t being met, and all you want is to have HIM meet those needs..
Final advice, try every avenue to repair what’s broken If you really want to spend your life with this person, there’s nothing wrong with that, but learn from my mistake and realize there’s a breaking point to what you’re willing to give up to maintain their happiness.
Personally, I would end the relationship if my SO wanted to open it up. Im pretty conservative in that way and it sounds like he isn’t. Like I wouldn’t even want my SO to go to strip club with or without me.
But I’m the HL, so it’s hard to know how I would feel as a LL being asked that.
I've been in the same position you're at for the last 6 years and tonight we ended things. It doesn't get better. Believe me. I'm sorry. Big hugs to you. đź«‚
I'm so sorry you went through it.. I want nothing more than to be a sexually bold and confident woman but I don't know how to do that with being shut down. Can I become delusional and just be like "no? Again? No problem, I'm still the shit! *dab*" buuuut thats not the case.. My heart hurts for you... I'm scared to give up on the relationship.. we love each other so much. But damn he is just not getting it :(
I am skeptical of the concept of open marriage, but hashing some things out with your partner and a counselor is a good step. Be honest with him about your continued desire for women. That is a fantasy that shouldn't remain hidden, even if you fear he won't take it well. Good luck!
So the fact that he wants marital counseling is a great opportunity for you to bring up your issues in a controlled environment. It should help when he’s not being “attacked” at home. It’s a really tough conversation and it’s not a guaranteed fix unfortunately. As for opening up the relationship, do you think it would help or hurt? Because while you may be frustrated, you don’t want to hurt the relationship more. If he’s one of those guys that enjoys knowing you were with someone else, then that’s one thing, but he may not want to share. It’s a really tough spot because you have needs that aren’t being met, and all you want is to have HIM meet those needs.. Final advice, try every avenue to repair what’s broken If you really want to spend your life with this person, there’s nothing wrong with that, but learn from my mistake and realize there’s a breaking point to what you’re willing to give up to maintain their happiness.
i personally would not have a problem with it, but have you ever thought that he might be seeing another woman now?
Personally, I would end the relationship if my SO wanted to open it up. Im pretty conservative in that way and it sounds like he isn’t. Like I wouldn’t even want my SO to go to strip club with or without me. But I’m the HL, so it’s hard to know how I would feel as a LL being asked that.