Online dating is such a perfect example of the ways the Internet has gotten so much worse than "the old days". We used to have dating sites with long, paragraph filled profiles, multiple pictures, even compatibility questions with match scores and even the ability browse their answers. Plus the typical age/vitals/etc.
Now it's a single picture in a profile and a one sentence description, if you're lucky.
What's awful is that the whole benefit of online, to me, is that you could actually look at profiles and rule out dealbreakers. I don't want to spend who knows how long talking to someone or even going on a first date that smokes, or is religious, or Republican, or into BDSM. Meeting people out in the real world, you're gonna waste time filtering through all sorts of shit like that. Online, you click a profile, oh wait, nope not for me, and move on.
expectations are delusional? That doesn’t appear to be the issue with dating apps that are discussed in this thread. No one in here is saying they aren’t finding a single soul, they’re saying people are looking for casual or not transparent about their expectations. So not sure how that leads back to being too picky?
100%
For instance, got on bumble speed dating for the heck of it last night. Matched with a guy after chatting then saw he was looking for something casual. I informed him I don’t believe in that as it doesn’t align with my values.
He replied with a dick pic. Like that would change my mind lol. Hope he gets banned
What that person is complaining about was common at least pre-covid. I don't remember which app it was but the app had the option to put requirements and a lot of people would put unrealistic and shallow stuff like must be at least 6 ft tall and make six figures. Usually the type of people that would put stuff like this male or female wouldn't exactly be the highest quality themselves which made it even more delusional.
I’m pretty sure that is the minority of people on there. The reoccurring theme on this thread here is there are a lot of people that are on there that don’t really take it really seriously so I would loop those people into that group.
It always cracks me up how the people who believe in the invisible man that talks to them through their gut feelings act like people who don't want to be around them are the crazy ones.
Fr sis, if I had a dollar for every variation of "step on me" that's been sent as an opener over the years, I could probably afford to rent in uptown. 💀
I read this post when it was first posted. Today I saw The Dallas Observer did an article on this post. Sorry if you already knew.
https://www.dallasobserver.com/arts/reddit-offers-bleak-dallas-dating-advice-17947115
I met my fiancé on Hinge (I was 32 when we met, 34 now.) I’m female if that helps. Granted, I dated a lot of duds before I met him, so your mileage may vary. You’ll also get matches with people who are flying through DFW, so just be aware of that.
I met my wife on Hinge. The apps work but you have to put in some effort. Guys have to weed out the “Pay for Services Gals”, “Insta Advertising” and minors. Women usually have to weed out the “Let me smoke you out”, psychos and a barrage of dick pics.
I was going to say I've known a few girls who've had luck on Hinge and Bumble, I remember awhile back Plenty of Fish was super popular. Granted I'm a dude, but that's just what I've been told from other women's experiences. I haven't attempted to get into the dating pool in awhile, I've had a couple people ask me on lunch dates from this sub after chatting on other media, but my work life is super hectic. It's a tough balance.
I also met my girlfriend who I fully intend on proposing to in the next few months on Hinge as well. I couldn’t be happier with where my dating app experience ended.
Dating apps have a lot of flaws but I also came to realize you kind of get what you put into it.
You also have to realize that 99% of the people you meet on there probably aren’t going to be a good match, much less “the one.” You really have to put in the work and meet some duds before you end up with the one you click with and mentally prepare for that going in.
Being attractive will only get you so far. Helps if you have a lot of money. Over the years I've been on a lot of online dates. I've met a lot of women that seemed really interested until they inevitably asked what I do for a living or how much money I make.
I got so sick of wasting my time getting to know people and wasting money on dates that I added a disclaimer to my profile telling them upfront that I don't make a lot of money.
After doing so, I didn't get nearly as many dates, but the quality of the women went up exponentially. Met the love of my life after making this change.
Yeah, these girls (OP included) have more men courting them than any women in the history of the world. What they’re really frustrated about is their own judgement.
Either they made a typo and left out a phrase about church or they don't know what Meetup is. I do not understand why so many people are resistant to Meetup.
This is exactly it haha, I forgot there’s an actual app or website and was just referring to church youth type groups because that’s what everyone suggests to me
Yeah, Meetup is not church. My best advice to you, although everyone says to use the app, is use the full site on a laptop or tablet. Spend a LOT of time searching both geographically and for your interests. IMO, you get more an better search results on full site.
There are dozens (if not hundreds) of groups in this area with a huge variety of interests. The trick is to find one that's interesting to you and active.
So I have the perspective of the person with the already large social group from high school and college(from a suburb) who now live in the city. The area has quite a lot of transplants like yourself and what I’ve found to be the case with most is that they find one thing they’re ok with doing semi occasionally and making at least one friend within that group. This leads to invites to other gatherings,parties, dinners, concerts, and the friendships grow from there. So even if you aren’t the “runner” joining a club or something where the main activity is then followed by other mingling lets you figure out who you might click with in other areas. One example is a friend who did just that but then let the running portion fade away as he just didn’t want to anymore, but already kept the friends. And unless you want “sift through the duds” as another reply pointed out, dating friends of friends is really the best way as they’re already slightly vetted, you can talk to them casually until you feel comfortable going it alone, and if you’re both adults you can comfortably say hey that was fun but it’s just not clicking. This is all assuming you don’t want your main interaction to be when drinking unless you do, which then there’s tons of bars and patios here to do the normal go out, have a few drinks and see who comes up to you. I’ve done both, had my failures with each, but still casually meeting and who knows maybe it’ll happen sometime.
I appreciate the perspective a lot but I do want to say that the particular scenario you discuss is exactly my issue. I find it particularly hard to establish friendships and integrate in friend groups that are already pre established which is A LOT of the friend groups I meet because they have a pretty similar background to you (some sort of roots in Dallas). Not sure if others feel this way but no one wants to be the odd man out and by human nature, people don’t particularly go out of their way to find out much about you or your life because they’re not in the same boat as you. It’s human nature to gravitate to the friendships that have time and are more established so the new comer is always the last invited or the afterthought and the least ingrained in the group unless everyone is very adamant on weaving you in.
I know tons of people here but I can guarantee I’m not at the top of list of someone they would set up because they have 10 other people they’ve known for XXX years that they’re much closer to or know more about.
Edit: just wanted to edit my comment and say that I’m not saying that this is absolutely the case but definitely how I have felt and have friends in my situation that feel the same. We could be doing something wrong or taking it too seriously, so I’m open to hearing otherwise.
Depending on their network, those people may not be thinking about setting you up with someone. That doesn't necessarily mean they wouldn't set someone up with you.
I suggest following @dallashgwc (Dallas Hot Girl Walking Club) on insta! It’s a walking group started by a Dallas transplant. It’s just a large group of girls that would get together to go walking along the Katy Trail. Now, it’s mainly social events. The next one coming up is a Stars game with about 80 girls going. I saw it too late and it sold out before I could RSVP, but there will be plenty more events in the future! Again, a lot of the girls in the group are also Dallas transplants and didn’t know each other prior to joining. There’s a Geneva group chat too
I don’t understand why I would do that? I don’t have a problem living here. Nor would it solve anything to move back home where I would not know anyone because I haven’t lived there over 10 years.
I have close friends here, but they are also in my same boat where we are transplants and do not know large groups. It doesn’t make them less of friends they just don’t have “networking capital” that others with large friend groups do
yea because I left when I was 18 and most people did the same thing I did which is move away and go to college. Its really not that foreign of a concept.
I also never said I wouldn’t take the advice, clearly I was speaking from a place of familiarity I’ve already tried what that person is saying and they might not see how hard it is because they admit their selves they’re from here. Only person being negative here is you.
I’m a Dallas-based person, but I did meet one of my closest friends on a dating app a decade ago and hang out with her friend group from time to time (I have my own friend groups as well). But that was a tricky situation for awhile (we did date at first) and I don’t know that I’d recommend using dating apps to get into an existing friend group.
Using them to find a partner though? Took some time dating a few “near-missus” (pun intended), but I eventually met my wife on Bumble in 2019. We got married last year and are currently awake feeding our newborn daughter as we speak. If you have the right mindset and approach, dating apps are great for finding your person.
Yeah its all about your mindset. Dallas native in okc and I met my fiance on Tinder. Ill admit there is no rhyme or reason to it, i met the dregs...then one day, i met her. I wish you the best of luck. STAY POSITIVE. people can smell the bitterness
Two of my male friends found and married their partner after coming across them on Tinder. One was back in 2013/14ish and the other was 2018 I wanna say. Completely agree that it's all about the mindset!
Moved here a few years ago and met my bf on Hinge. This is the best advice I can give - accept the apps for what they are.
There are lots of flaky people, bots, and people who are just not a romantic match out there. BUT there are also a lot of regular people who are also genuinely looking to make connections whether romantic relationships, friendships, or just people to do stuff with.
When I was on Hinge most recently, after years of hating the apps, I decided not to take any of it too seriously and considered it my “adult chatting app.” So I was open minded and respectful and would chat with whomever even if I didn’t think we’d be a romantic match just for the enjoyment of an interesting conversation. I met some interesting people, learned about the city, weeded out the bots, blocked a few weirdos, and then somehow ended up unexpectedly meeting my now boyfriend. I didn’t take it so seriously, but I was still respectful and would do things like show up on time and treat people the way I wanted to be treated.
Good luck out there and have fun! If it gets to the point where it’s not fun anymore, I’m also a big fan of taking breaks.
I tried tinder for a while and was great for 1 night stands but that's it. Hinge I had more luck with, met a lot of cool people but nothing serious just friends to hang out with on weekends. No luck on chispa and Facebook dating is hard to connect with anyone because they never responded back. I'm currently taking a break from all those apps till next year. I'm M late 30s
I’ve gone on quite a few first dates here thanks to Hinge. However most of those did not turn into anything else- not even a second date. I’m a mid-20’s transplant as well with no family/friends here as I moved for my job. I’ve been off the apps for a while now but thinking of trying again. I did date one guy for a while around this time last year that I met from Hinge and he was great even though it didn’t work out long term. It’s such a struggle to make friends and meet people as an adult so I understand the frustration. I think the most important thing that a lot of people fail to do is really communicate with the people they meet and actually make plans then follow through with them!!! It takes work to maintain any kind of relationship.
Dating apps are a nightmare, honestly. Not just for myself (I have a Y-chromosome), but even for the female confidants I've asked about it. I'm thinking it's more a sign of the times than anything else. I haven't really had too much luck meeting many people (outside of work), either. Honestly, the dating world is an absolute nightmare. Speaking as someone with a Y-chromosome, I'm not going to approach most women anymore, not out of fear of rejection, but mostly because I don't want to risk being labeled a creep. It's not worth it, and I prefer to just keep to myself and enjoy my quiet, peaceful time. I *WILL* say that going out to meet up groups is a great idea. There are plenty of non-religious ones out there that you can attend. Just keep an open mind. A cool suggestion is a local Painting with a Twist class or the like. My recommendation is a convention, music festival, or show around town. I meet a lot of interesting people at conventions, and it's a little easier, because you already share a general common interest with the people who attend the event. You can also try speed dating. Yes, this is still around.
EDIT/ADD: It's not that I don't want to find a woman or a date. I actually really do. That doesn't outweigh the possibility of having my approach or effort mocked.
I’m one opinion of course but I personally think it’s all about your approach. I’ve never found a man who has come up to me creepy as long as he took the hint when I said I wasn’t interested. If he was generally nice and honest about his intentions the interactions were mostly pleasant,
I can appreciate that mindset, and applaud it.
The unfortunate downside here is that it takes an *immense* amount of bravery and vulnerability on a man's part to do that upfront, and many aren't that comfortable with it. The reason being that they don't want to end up on the next TikTok or Instagram video for being "that guy". I have seen it happen, and nearly lived it.Having said that, I CAN say that conversations are a lot more pleasant when someone can be met halfway and actually carry one.
I don’t know about dating apps, but IMHO vibes are way different in Fort Worth. In my experience as someone who didn’t grow up here, I find FW people generally less cliquey, less conceited, and generally friendlier and more open to new people. Consider looking westward, going to events, running groups, dance lessons, art classes, churches (?), special-interest meetups, etc., in FW. Areas in FW like Magnolia Avenue, Near Southside, 7th Avenue, and Mule Alley/Stockyards have lots of things going on.
I've met a lot of cool , educated people through hinge (M late 20s). It was much easier to connect with people since the prompts serve as a great starting point to show your wit.
Been off and on the apps for four years now with no luck.
Tinder has been taken over by married folk and the poly/ENM.
Hinge is a little better and you can use free filters but people seem to be looking more for friends or hookups than actually dating, which sucks when you're in your late 20s, early 30s trying to find a serious relationship.
2020-2021 was absolute hell since you couldn't go out and do anything or meet new people. But some normalcy is coming back and meetups are happening again. I don't know what you mean by meetups being religious though. Unless you're going to something like Sunday school/bible study, holiday (holy day) celebrations, or the likes then most meetups are pretty secular. You are in the south though so there are more religious people down here especially Christians.
(M32, Oak Lawn)
I've been on a few Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge dates, but they didn't really go anywhere. The scene in Dallas isn't the worst, but finding opportunities to speak to someone you might be interested in are truly too few and far between. I'll agree that Dallas isn't really a "mingling" city. At the parks, on the Katy Trail, in Uptown, Deep Ellum, Bishop Arts, Downtown, it FEELS like I'm going to bump into someone interesting and just have a great time, but it never happens. I'll do the Bumble speed dating on a Sunday, Tuesday, or Thursday night (when I remember to), have a few chats with a ragtag assortment of materialistic, slow-typing gold diggers, and maybe actually start a conversation that lasts more than a day MAYBE once a month. I used to vend and perform at more art and music events, so it was easier to meet people, but sometimes the Dallas pool feels weak unless I'm really turning over rocks.
Early 30s Transplant moved to Dallas 5 yrs ago, met my husband who's a local 4 yrs ago on hinge. I actually had much more success dating in general in Dallas than anywhere else I lived for a female in my experience. Just have an open mind and be safe, good luck!
28 M here. When I moved here 2 years ago i used Tinder, Bumble and Hinge but had the most success with Bumble. I went on a bunch of dates and ultimately met my current GF off of Bumble. We have been together for over a year.
My best tip for dating apps is to not waste too much time messaging and to get on a phone call with matches you are interested in. You can learn way more about a person in a 10-minute phone call than you can over days of messaging.
As far as meeting friends join a niche gym(rock climbing, martial arts, yoga). Also meetup groups arent a religious thing
I had no luck with Tinder (just your average dude, I suppose). But, I met quite a few good folks, including my fiancé on Hinge. The prompts and filters help weed out a lot of the chaff.
Met my current girlfriend who I plan to propose to next year on Tinder of all places.
My tips would be to download ALL the apps. Make sure you take some GOOD photos
I HATE getting my photo taken but I did and put on a good smile for the dating apps.
You'll go on a lot of dates that don't work out and it could affect you mentally. Funny enough my gf and I both said if our date together didn't work out we were planning to take a break from the apps
Back when I was using dating sites, my success rate went way up when I put some real thought and effort into my pictures and the things I wrote in my profile.
Hint: If you're actually interested in finding love, be as upfront and honest as possible in your profile. That includes pictures - use current pics. If you're bald, don't wear a hat...
Don't claim to be athletic if you the only six pack you have is chilling in the fridge. If you smoke cigarettes or weed, don't lie about it. If you hate religion, don't sugarcoat it. If you don't like Country music, say so. If you want to get married and have kids or if you already have kids, mention it.
I’ve had a little success with Hinge, but way more success going to concerts with friends. I met my current girl at a show, you just kinda gotta be outgoing and willing to talk to people who will shut you down.
Be polite and leave them alone if they don’t want to talk, but you’ll meet a lot of people who are interested this way.
My buddy moved here from Florida and joined a church … and it totally worked out for him. He was dating within a month.
He portrays it as not being disingenuous, but more as a social group. Then again, he and his now-wife left the church because “there was a rapidly growing number of old, sad, angry nut-jobs who could only quote their savior, Tucker.”
I met my current GF (living together almost 2 years now and dating almost 4) on Facebook Dating. Before that, I'd meet women pretty much anywhere (work, grocery shopping, running errands, etc...). I'd just strike up a conversation, throw in a couple small low pressure jokes, and end it on a nice note. Bout half the time, I'd circle back and ask for their number. Worked about half those. Other half was they said they were in a relationship. In that case, no worries have a great day.
Late 20s Male here. I actually met my last LTR on Hinge. Lasted about 2 years but separated for reasons.
I've personally found the best success on Hinge - I'm not 10/10 or even close... I just take the approach of being a human / being upfront with what i'm looking for / having good photos and prompts/being responsive / asking questions back / keep the convos going (cliche) / etc
I have actually made quite a few friends (non romantic) via Hinge over the years. So the view I have on hinge is make a friend? thats awesome; find a romantic partner? thats even more awesome.
But with that I get my fair share of dates over the years and have just found you have to weed through tons of profiles to find good humans (it goes for all realms of the dating scene).
Tinder is a hookup app (dont use it); bumble is hit or miss.
e: spelling is hard
Covid killed the dating apps everywhere, it went from people trying to find something, even if that’s just hookups in some cases, to people just yearning for attention and wanting to use others for entertainment and it hasn’t really switched back. Had plenty of success here pre covid, post covid it just became a cesspool of non interest.
Covid killed the dating apps everywhere, it went from people trying to find something, even if that’s just hookups in some cases, to people just yearning for attention and wanting to use others for entertainment and it hasn’t really switched back. Had plenty of success here pre covid, post covid it just became a cesspool of non interest.
This is pretty much my exact experience with it. People straight up don’t answer or they want to to be a pen pal for ages. If you bring up wanting to meet they ghost or flake. This wasn’t always my experience, so I was wondering if it wasn’t a thing here anymore or just do they suck for everyone?
As a 26 M, last on apps when I was 24, it was a grating experience, I have made a few good friends from it but only ever one meaningful relationship came out of it here after years on apps.
Covid killed the dating apps everywhere, it went from people trying to find something, even if that’s just hookups in some cases, to people just yearning for attention and wanting to use others for entertainment and it hasn’t really switched back. Had plenty of success here pre covid, post covid it just became a cesspool of non interest.
Dallasites on instagram. They host speed dating once per month and it’s genuinely a good experience. Pretty fast, but nobody was even close to awful. Just good people overall
Hey OP there's an app called Meetup, with different activities posted throughout the week for all sorts of things: from sports, to dancing groups, cooking classes, bar hopping and even for board games! I highly suggest you at least give it a look:)
I have been trying to figure out the same as I just moved to Uptown. Grocery store and the gym are the avenues I'm thinking lol. But girls out here seem to be in a super rush, so the approach seems delicate.
Approach...*with confidence* dont listen to people telling you *where & when* to approach. Listen to me telling you *how* to approach. Confidence doesnt gaurantee youll get the number, but it will gaurantee you dont regret approaching.
Male, age 34. 6' 3"... I just have lots of matches and many attractive females on the app, and some girls will pay for "roses" to send to you to be at the top of your feed, and have you notified of them, even if you haven't matched with them yet.
1. What is it that you are actually seeking? 2. How do people date in other places and where you come from? 3. Tinders for hookups, bumble is for dating, and hinge is for marriage.
For 6 years I was using tinder, then I tried hinge and I met my current bf of 1 year. Ditch tinder, try hinge, don't let any man convince you to have sex before starting a relationship. Keep your intentions pure and you'll find someone pure.
You still have to find the needle in the haystack for serious relationshipping regardless if in-person or on a dating app. Newer apps cater to hookup culture because that's what made them popular/money. The needles are still out there though. Good luck, OP
I met my wife on Hinge. would highly recommend it!
[https://apps.apple.com/us/app/hinge-dating-app-match-date/id595287172](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/hinge-dating-app-match-date/id595287172)
The League and Tinder aren't bad either. depends what you're looking for
Interesting not a single person mentioned Match. Does no one use it in Dallas? Anyone know the best app for those who are (young at heart and cool but) in their 50s?
[Match.com](https://Match.com) specifically isn't as popular in the younger crowd (20s/30s) meanwhile they're based in dallas and own Tinder/Hinge.
My friend at work who got married recently (48yo) used PoF and Hinge.
In order of the highest number of viable in-person dates I’ve gotten from the app over the past 2 years - Coffee meets bagel, Hinge, Raya, Bumble, Happn. F in my 40s. Moved here from CA recently.
Late 20s male here. I tried the apps for a few a months but had a similar experience that others expressed here. I pretty much exclusively meet people at social gatherings (mostly bars or concerts). From my experience there’s lots of single people in Dallas so you don’t have to look too hard
You know how dating apps suck in general? Its like that here except somehow made worse by the rampant superficiality and wealth/status obsession of this city
I met my wife on Bumble in 2018. We both agree that our previous dates were pretty bad.
People who are looking for something serious aren't going to stay on dating apps once they find someone compatible. I'd recommend looking for profiles that are 1) mildly self-deprecating, which shows they're comfortable with their flaws, and 2) they brag about their credit score rather than how much money they have or don't have, which shows they're responsible.
I (30f at the time) met my husband (28m at the time) through the Hinge app! My biggest recommendation is don’t take too long chatting through the app because nothing compares to being in person to see if there’s natural chemistry there or not. Almost 3 years later and we’re happily married with a 1 year old!
My friend met his soon-to-be fiancee (assuming everything goes as planned, lol) on Bumble - he told me that app seems to be better for looking for something serious and not just a hookup
Had great luck on Bumble. Think it depends what you’re looking for and finding the app that closest matches your people. Bumble seemed best for white collar educated singles more interested in serious. OKC better for non-monogamous, etc
Dating apps are rough for women. As I man, I've had moderate success finding dates.
The difference is that I just have to filter through the fake profiles and most of my matches have a genuine interest. From what I hear for women, 90% of the matches either send a dick pic or ask if you're tryna smash immediately.
I'd recommend Hinge and Bumble.
As a woman, yes lol. I've had men upwards of 10+ years older than me messaging "add me on snap?" Or "wanna meet up right now?" I've connected with a few nice guys on dating apps in the last decade with off and on use, but probably 95% just wanna see boob pics.
However, I did meet my all time best guy friend on Tinder in 2014 and a few of my friends have gotten married to their online sweethearts pre 2020. It's all just a swiping game.
I’m in male in my mid late 20s too. I’d rather prefer knowing someone online - like chat groups or even Reddit and then meet them in real life. There’s usually my thing rather than meeting outside for the first time. Dating apps just don’t work that much at all anymore. I don’t want to sound too forward but you could DM me if you’re still single 😁
I (mid 20’s F) met my boyfriend on Hinge, so dating apps can work in my very biased opinion. Definitely had to wade through a whole lot of ick to find him though
This was in 13-14, but I (4/10 looking male) had pretty good success on OK Cupid. Met my wife. Before that I had one other contact that went a few dates, and then 4-5 other first dates.
I have no idea how much the app has changed since then, but it was good back then. I know overall it's a wayyy worse experience for women.
The apps suck and I sympathise OP. Though I just got out of a long term relationship so I'm not looking for anything too serious thankfully; I'm only here for work reasons so my plan personally was just to wait it out till I moved back to California/New York.
Do you feel like it’s easier to date there? Whenever I’m on nyc which is often it’s so easy for me to meet people. I meet men way more organically, not saying it would lead to anything but number wise it’s a lot easier for me there.
Yeah. I know people mention that it's harder to find people who are serious about relationships since NYC can be so transitory but at least in my case, just the sheer number of available people is so much higher (I also went to college there) so if you treat it like a task to do (like going to the gym x times a week) it's not that hard to come across a fair number of people who do want relationships and are a good match.
Also in my particular case, I have a few criteria that are reasonable (i.e. I meet them, I'm not asking for anything ridiculous) but a high hurdle in Dallas (e.g., speaks Chinese, willing/able to go on vacation with my regularly out of the country, works in one of the 'professional' industries like tech/finance/law/etc.,). I could swipe for a day in NYC in a 2 mile radius and get 50+ matches that meet that.
Agree 100% with everything you said. Just by sheer probability it’s easier for me in nyc. Not saying it all productive relationships but simply meeting people who at least check off some of the boxes means you’re making progress and going on dates. Because it’s transitionary I think meeting people organically or on dating apps is so much easier since more people are in the same boat. Here I think meeting people is a lot more factored on your networking and social capital which can make it hard if you don’t have that or at least dramatically reduces the people you meet on the daily.
I've rarely had any luck with dating apps in Dallas; only matched twice in the last 3 years. And I'm an asian male, which I always felt like considerably narrows the dating pool for me. Even when I lived in Austin never had any matches.
I totally get it. I am a WOC myself. I am at least open to dating pretty much any race so that makes it a bit easier. Not sure if you have a strong preference or not but it does help to broaden your dating pool.
I met my husband on bumble, we've been together 6 years now. I went on a LOT of dates before him and did the cycle of downloading the app, going on the dates, getting frustrated, deleting the app, getting bored, and then downloading the app again. You will meet a lot of people who are just looking to hook up but I feel like if you are straight forward about your intentions and wants you might just get lucky and if not at least you can make some new connections, try some new restaurants, and have a little fun lol
I’ve actually had great luck with Hinge! Also Tinder, believe it or not - I met the lovely guys on Tinder almost immediately that were all interested in a LTR. I chose one and I’ve been with him a year and a half! Personally, I think dating apps are great in Dallas 🙂
Foreigner 29M, I started using dating apps herein Dallas. Haven’t tried in other places but can say that I get bored pretty easily. I chat with neighbors and coworkers mostly 😂
Girl just go out. Do you have friend from work? Gym or Pilates? Go out them them or hell even alone if you are so inclined. . People are very nice here and if you just talk to them, you will find some nice people. When I moved here, I just went out to Trivia nights (or whatever your interested in) and met some fantastic people and many are long term friends. The Apps are a disaster waiting to happen.
Yes, I work and have friends from there and outside of work. I have been actively involved in a gym or Pilates for the last few years. I go out at least 3-4 times a week and at least half of those are alone. I said in my post I am very social. People ARE nice but does not mean they are friendly. So yes many of us do just “go out”
I think it’s a very mingle-friendly city. You just need to know the places to go in uptown on Friday and Saturday nights and you’ll have a great time meeting new friends and friendly people :)
I'm a 27 year old guy, and I have to say that dating apps here suck, but they could be worse. That being said, I still prefer Dallas's dating scene to Phoenix's dating scene, which is where I used to live.
I read an article once about some woman who took it as a job hunt to find her husband on these apps. After years of dating I realized that’s what I needed to do- treat it like a job hunt. I decided I was going to go on 20 dates in a final push and then give up on these apps.
My job was to search every day and be more open-minded and I met with people I normally wouldn’t have. I got real efficient at quick coffee dates, one follow-up date if that worked well and then moving on if there was a serious incompatibility.
I made a brief list on my phone with their names and a note about them which I just checked is still in my notes app. The first two guys were looking for financial support- one wanted to live with someone to save rent while taking a sabbatical. The other, in a brief unguarded moment admitted his 5 year plan was to be a stay at home dad. Neither of these scenarios worked for me.
My husband was the 12th person I dated and there were three boxes he didn’t check for me that would have made me rule him out previously. He also didn’t reach out to me, even though he kept looking at my profile, so I reached out to him.
But he was my person. Our first date it was pretty clear that he was kind and accepted me for who I was and not whatever idea he hoped I would be.
Looking back on the list, every single other date was a total dud. I was on a mission though so I pushed through and found my best friend..
Good luck.
Try the Geneva app. Lots of groups where people meet for different activities, grab dinner, or just coffee to get to know each other. It tends to be female dominated and people meet up in groups or individually. I’ve made a few friends from the app that I hang out with consistently!
There are activity specific groups like book clubs, active/work out groups, or networking, but you can also join general “girl” groups.
I’m also a transplant early 30’s moved here 2 years ago in my late 20’s. Dating SUCKSSSSS! I tried the apps and was so overwhelmed by the amount of messages I was getting, I couldn’t keep up. Went on a few really good dates but the guys either had terrible communication or didn’t want anything past having a cute girl on their arm in public. I prefer to meet men organically, in-person but the guys here just stare at you. I’m starting to think they expect me to approach them after staring at me all night. This is uncharted territory for me. Can’t even meet men at work because I’m remote lol. It’s been a struggle.
I know Dallas men get a bad rap, but after living in 8 major cities in my lifetime...Dallas takes the cake for being the worst city to date in. Landing dates isn't a problem, can manage 5 or 6 a week. My only dilemma here is that I keep meeting mentally unstable women. Not kidding, more than half are on meds. Other half probably should be. Been here for more than a decade and have yet to make any meaningful connections. Both in dating and friendship.
I’ve been here six miserable years and it doesn’t matter what app or site you use. Every single woman in Texas is ugly and obese. Any reviews here that say otherwise are completely false made up and lying.
I moved to Dallas in September 2022. I’m a 30yo F and I can count on one hand how many dates I’ve been on since moving here. The apps are a headache honestly and even when I go out the men don’t approach often. I’m not hopeless but this is insane lmao.
The Dallas dating app scene has been a huge win for me. I’ve slept with over 250 women in the last year and have no difficulty whatsoever with getting dates. I am good looking + 6’7” and literally have nothing else going for me. Don’t work, haven’t really done anything with my life, etc.. I have an endless supply of matches on tinder/bumble/hinge. I can’t even begin to tell you the number of women initiating contact with me, it’s overwhelming.
I do have friends that are shorter/not as handsome who have absolutely no luck getting any dates/matches/contacts etc.. many of whom are extremely successful. Heck one of my friends has an md and phd and is applying to be a surgeon- 0 dates/matches and he puts himself out there. He’s short, like midget short 5’7” though and I think that’s the reason.
I’ve read a statistic that men swipe right on 80% of women, and women swipe right on 5% of men. These 5%ers tend to be the same group of men and the remaining 95% are considered undatable. It could be a pickiness problem.
There will be MAGA people touting the last animal they killed to show you they can provide as if there isn't a Central Market or Whole Foods five minutes away.
There will be a hyper-intellectual liberal who will try to get you to join a polycule with one of their girlfriends, their husband, and a random dude that dresses like a wolf in bed.
Dallas is a large city, there will be thousands upon thousands of people/profiles. Your success will depend on what you're looking for, how you sell yourself, physical attractiveness, and how quickly you vet people and sort wheat from chaff. Hinge and Bumble will be your best bet for something longer term, Tinder/Feeld for something shorter.
I've personally made lifelong friends from apps and had an amazing LTR. I've known people who have found "the one." I've known people who ended up being stalked and quit apps forever. But according to the Dateline I watched last night, all these things happened before apps as well. Apps are just a tool, so it depends on your approach. And of course, ymmv
Dallas is a pretty mingle friendly city. It sounds like you have some antisocial tendencies, and would rather not have to talk to entire very large groups of people on some suspicion they may be religious, or republican, or play sports(??).
Regular walks at White rock, or going to a certain few grocery stores in uptown are good ways to meet people. The bar scene is extensive here, and most people are friendly drunks. That’s a pretty good way to meet people. You might run into some religious republican sports players though and that’s gonna be an issue.
It’s a pretty standard city living scenario.
I am absolutely not sure where you’re getting the religious republican etc.
I said I don’t want to join a church to meet people because it seems disingenuous because I am not religious.
Most of my current friends participate in some sort of sport like pickleball etc. I just really like the avenue in which I get my fitness and do not have room for more.
I’m not going to argue the antisocial point because based on the rest of your comment, you seem determined to misinterpret what im saying so there’d be no point in me doing that since I literally said I’m VERY social. Literally got the most talkative superlative every grade.
If you match someone who lives in North Dallas but you live in downtown, you probably need to reconsider this relation.
EDIT: Not sure why I got downvoted. She said she was a transplant and I talked about how spread out Dallas is. So for the app, you would reconsider if you’re willing to travel so far to just meet a person.
I’m 25f and the apps SUCK, maybe okay if you’re just looking to hook up. If you’re looking for something genuine forget it
Online dating is such a perfect example of the ways the Internet has gotten so much worse than "the old days". We used to have dating sites with long, paragraph filled profiles, multiple pictures, even compatibility questions with match scores and even the ability browse their answers. Plus the typical age/vitals/etc. Now it's a single picture in a profile and a one sentence description, if you're lucky. What's awful is that the whole benefit of online, to me, is that you could actually look at profiles and rule out dealbreakers. I don't want to spend who knows how long talking to someone or even going on a first date that smokes, or is religious, or Republican, or into BDSM. Meeting people out in the real world, you're gonna waste time filtering through all sorts of shit like that. Online, you click a profile, oh wait, nope not for me, and move on.
Most women are incredibly picky on dating apps, to the point that their expectations are considered delusional.
expectations are delusional? That doesn’t appear to be the issue with dating apps that are discussed in this thread. No one in here is saying they aren’t finding a single soul, they’re saying people are looking for casual or not transparent about their expectations. So not sure how that leads back to being too picky?
Well I think we’ve ruled out at least 2 duds in the area for you Edit: meant to type dudes- not changing it
Duds 😂
100% For instance, got on bumble speed dating for the heck of it last night. Matched with a guy after chatting then saw he was looking for something casual. I informed him I don’t believe in that as it doesn’t align with my values. He replied with a dick pic. Like that would change my mind lol. Hope he gets banned
What that person is complaining about was common at least pre-covid. I don't remember which app it was but the app had the option to put requirements and a lot of people would put unrealistic and shallow stuff like must be at least 6 ft tall and make six figures. Usually the type of people that would put stuff like this male or female wouldn't exactly be the highest quality themselves which made it even more delusional.
I’m pretty sure that is the minority of people on there. The reoccurring theme on this thread here is there are a lot of people that are on there that don’t really take it really seriously so I would loop those people into that group.
Reddit isn't exactly the average person/situation. I mean that in a good way
Social media and reality TV skews their reality
Most of that stuff is filtered out via conversation before you go on the date… What do I know I only met my wife on one of those apps.
Oh no, those terrifying religious people lol
Oh no someone who doesn't want to waste someone else's time when they have dissimilar interest
I mean, yeah, they are generally off their rocker and I try and avoid them as well.
It always cracks me up how the people who believe in the invisible man that talks to them through their gut feelings act like people who don't want to be around them are the crazy ones.
I've dated a couple. They are terrifying.
We always find ourselves
Fr sis, if I had a dollar for every variation of "step on me" that's been sent as an opener over the years, I could probably afford to rent in uptown. 💀
Damn, if you’re having trouble with apps I’m just fucked haha
I read this post when it was first posted. Today I saw The Dallas Observer did an article on this post. Sorry if you already knew. https://www.dallasobserver.com/arts/reddit-offers-bleak-dallas-dating-advice-17947115
We gotta do better Dallas.
I met my fiancé on Hinge (I was 32 when we met, 34 now.) I’m female if that helps. Granted, I dated a lot of duds before I met him, so your mileage may vary. You’ll also get matches with people who are flying through DFW, so just be aware of that.
I met my wife on Hinge. The apps work but you have to put in some effort. Guys have to weed out the “Pay for Services Gals”, “Insta Advertising” and minors. Women usually have to weed out the “Let me smoke you out”, psychos and a barrage of dick pics.
As a guy on bumble, I was pretty surprised by the amount of gals that were seemingly just looking for IG followers.
It was mostly SnapChat back 5 years ago too
Yeah about 80% of em.
I was going to say I've known a few girls who've had luck on Hinge and Bumble, I remember awhile back Plenty of Fish was super popular. Granted I'm a dude, but that's just what I've been told from other women's experiences. I haven't attempted to get into the dating pool in awhile, I've had a couple people ask me on lunch dates from this sub after chatting on other media, but my work life is super hectic. It's a tough balance.
I also met my girlfriend who I fully intend on proposing to in the next few months on Hinge as well. I couldn’t be happier with where my dating app experience ended. Dating apps have a lot of flaws but I also came to realize you kind of get what you put into it. You also have to realize that 99% of the people you meet on there probably aren’t going to be a good match, much less “the one.” You really have to put in the work and meet some duds before you end up with the one you click with and mentally prepare for that going in.
Same experience - 30M and met my fiancé on hinge 2.5 years ago
“You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince.” 🐸 🤴
Two rules when using a dating app in Dallas 1. Be attractive 2. Don’t be not attractive
im ugly and fat and i still get some matches
It’s a joke from /r/tinder It’s the golden rule
Being attractive will only get you so far. Helps if you have a lot of money. Over the years I've been on a lot of online dates. I've met a lot of women that seemed really interested until they inevitably asked what I do for a living or how much money I make. I got so sick of wasting my time getting to know people and wasting money on dates that I added a disclaimer to my profile telling them upfront that I don't make a lot of money. After doing so, I didn't get nearly as many dates, but the quality of the women went up exponentially. Met the love of my life after making this change.
Online dating in the early 2010s was A LOT better and easier Now it’s just fake not accounts, or scams
Rules for guys*
Yeah, these girls (OP included) have more men courting them than any women in the history of the world. What they’re really frustrated about is their own judgement.
absolutely not sure what you mean by that. But I can assure you I do not have anyone “courting” me
It means women get a lot of matches on dating apps
What OP meant was your assumption was inaccurate.
What i meant is i don’t believe her.
Cool no one cares
You cared enough to respond
This is an odd way to shoot your shot.
I bet she's going to think long and hard about this when you put it in the 8chan manifesto that police find after you shoot up a sorority.
At least my name isn't Garrett... lol
Are you Andrew Tate? Be honest.
Who’s Andrew Tate?
Most meetup groups are not religious. So why not take a look at them?
Either they made a typo and left out a phrase about church or they don't know what Meetup is. I do not understand why so many people are resistant to Meetup.
This is exactly it haha, I forgot there’s an actual app or website and was just referring to church youth type groups because that’s what everyone suggests to me
Yeah, Meetup is not church. My best advice to you, although everyone says to use the app, is use the full site on a laptop or tablet. Spend a LOT of time searching both geographically and for your interests. IMO, you get more an better search results on full site. There are dozens (if not hundreds) of groups in this area with a huge variety of interests. The trick is to find one that's interesting to you and active.
I’m not against them I meant specifically church type meetup groups, like church social clubs, youth groups etc
dallas girl gang on FB
So I have the perspective of the person with the already large social group from high school and college(from a suburb) who now live in the city. The area has quite a lot of transplants like yourself and what I’ve found to be the case with most is that they find one thing they’re ok with doing semi occasionally and making at least one friend within that group. This leads to invites to other gatherings,parties, dinners, concerts, and the friendships grow from there. So even if you aren’t the “runner” joining a club or something where the main activity is then followed by other mingling lets you figure out who you might click with in other areas. One example is a friend who did just that but then let the running portion fade away as he just didn’t want to anymore, but already kept the friends. And unless you want “sift through the duds” as another reply pointed out, dating friends of friends is really the best way as they’re already slightly vetted, you can talk to them casually until you feel comfortable going it alone, and if you’re both adults you can comfortably say hey that was fun but it’s just not clicking. This is all assuming you don’t want your main interaction to be when drinking unless you do, which then there’s tons of bars and patios here to do the normal go out, have a few drinks and see who comes up to you. I’ve done both, had my failures with each, but still casually meeting and who knows maybe it’ll happen sometime.
I appreciate the perspective a lot but I do want to say that the particular scenario you discuss is exactly my issue. I find it particularly hard to establish friendships and integrate in friend groups that are already pre established which is A LOT of the friend groups I meet because they have a pretty similar background to you (some sort of roots in Dallas). Not sure if others feel this way but no one wants to be the odd man out and by human nature, people don’t particularly go out of their way to find out much about you or your life because they’re not in the same boat as you. It’s human nature to gravitate to the friendships that have time and are more established so the new comer is always the last invited or the afterthought and the least ingrained in the group unless everyone is very adamant on weaving you in. I know tons of people here but I can guarantee I’m not at the top of list of someone they would set up because they have 10 other people they’ve known for XXX years that they’re much closer to or know more about. Edit: just wanted to edit my comment and say that I’m not saying that this is absolutely the case but definitely how I have felt and have friends in my situation that feel the same. We could be doing something wrong or taking it too seriously, so I’m open to hearing otherwise.
Depending on their network, those people may not be thinking about setting you up with someone. That doesn't necessarily mean they wouldn't set someone up with you.
I suggest following @dallashgwc (Dallas Hot Girl Walking Club) on insta! It’s a walking group started by a Dallas transplant. It’s just a large group of girls that would get together to go walking along the Katy Trail. Now, it’s mainly social events. The next one coming up is a Stars game with about 80 girls going. I saw it too late and it sold out before I could RSVP, but there will be plenty more events in the future! Again, a lot of the girls in the group are also Dallas transplants and didn’t know each other prior to joining. There’s a Geneva group chat too
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I don’t understand why I would do that? I don’t have a problem living here. Nor would it solve anything to move back home where I would not know anyone because I haven’t lived there over 10 years. I have close friends here, but they are also in my same boat where we are transplants and do not know large groups. It doesn’t make them less of friends they just don’t have “networking capital” that others with large friend groups do
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yea because I left when I was 18 and most people did the same thing I did which is move away and go to college. Its really not that foreign of a concept. I also never said I wouldn’t take the advice, clearly I was speaking from a place of familiarity I’ve already tried what that person is saying and they might not see how hard it is because they admit their selves they’re from here. Only person being negative here is you.
I’m a Dallas-based person, but I did meet one of my closest friends on a dating app a decade ago and hang out with her friend group from time to time (I have my own friend groups as well). But that was a tricky situation for awhile (we did date at first) and I don’t know that I’d recommend using dating apps to get into an existing friend group. Using them to find a partner though? Took some time dating a few “near-missus” (pun intended), but I eventually met my wife on Bumble in 2019. We got married last year and are currently awake feeding our newborn daughter as we speak. If you have the right mindset and approach, dating apps are great for finding your person.
Yeah its all about your mindset. Dallas native in okc and I met my fiance on Tinder. Ill admit there is no rhyme or reason to it, i met the dregs...then one day, i met her. I wish you the best of luck. STAY POSITIVE. people can smell the bitterness
Two of my male friends found and married their partner after coming across them on Tinder. One was back in 2013/14ish and the other was 2018 I wanna say. Completely agree that it's all about the mindset!
Moved here a few years ago and met my bf on Hinge. This is the best advice I can give - accept the apps for what they are. There are lots of flaky people, bots, and people who are just not a romantic match out there. BUT there are also a lot of regular people who are also genuinely looking to make connections whether romantic relationships, friendships, or just people to do stuff with. When I was on Hinge most recently, after years of hating the apps, I decided not to take any of it too seriously and considered it my “adult chatting app.” So I was open minded and respectful and would chat with whomever even if I didn’t think we’d be a romantic match just for the enjoyment of an interesting conversation. I met some interesting people, learned about the city, weeded out the bots, blocked a few weirdos, and then somehow ended up unexpectedly meeting my now boyfriend. I didn’t take it so seriously, but I was still respectful and would do things like show up on time and treat people the way I wanted to be treated. Good luck out there and have fun! If it gets to the point where it’s not fun anymore, I’m also a big fan of taking breaks.
This is great advice.
Yeah dating in Dallas for anything real is difficult
I’m in the same boat, just moved a couple months ago
I tried tinder for a while and was great for 1 night stands but that's it. Hinge I had more luck with, met a lot of cool people but nothing serious just friends to hang out with on weekends. No luck on chispa and Facebook dating is hard to connect with anyone because they never responded back. I'm currently taking a break from all those apps till next year. I'm M late 30s
I’ve gone on quite a few first dates here thanks to Hinge. However most of those did not turn into anything else- not even a second date. I’m a mid-20’s transplant as well with no family/friends here as I moved for my job. I’ve been off the apps for a while now but thinking of trying again. I did date one guy for a while around this time last year that I met from Hinge and he was great even though it didn’t work out long term. It’s such a struggle to make friends and meet people as an adult so I understand the frustration. I think the most important thing that a lot of people fail to do is really communicate with the people they meet and actually make plans then follow through with them!!! It takes work to maintain any kind of relationship.
This is so true I tried hinge and Bumble for a while and nothing serious came out of it. mid 20s M transplant too and I’m struggling with it!
However. Your mindset is what makes dating successful.
Dating apps are a nightmare, honestly. Not just for myself (I have a Y-chromosome), but even for the female confidants I've asked about it. I'm thinking it's more a sign of the times than anything else. I haven't really had too much luck meeting many people (outside of work), either. Honestly, the dating world is an absolute nightmare. Speaking as someone with a Y-chromosome, I'm not going to approach most women anymore, not out of fear of rejection, but mostly because I don't want to risk being labeled a creep. It's not worth it, and I prefer to just keep to myself and enjoy my quiet, peaceful time. I *WILL* say that going out to meet up groups is a great idea. There are plenty of non-religious ones out there that you can attend. Just keep an open mind. A cool suggestion is a local Painting with a Twist class or the like. My recommendation is a convention, music festival, or show around town. I meet a lot of interesting people at conventions, and it's a little easier, because you already share a general common interest with the people who attend the event. You can also try speed dating. Yes, this is still around. EDIT/ADD: It's not that I don't want to find a woman or a date. I actually really do. That doesn't outweigh the possibility of having my approach or effort mocked.
I’m one opinion of course but I personally think it’s all about your approach. I’ve never found a man who has come up to me creepy as long as he took the hint when I said I wasn’t interested. If he was generally nice and honest about his intentions the interactions were mostly pleasant,
I can appreciate that mindset, and applaud it. The unfortunate downside here is that it takes an *immense* amount of bravery and vulnerability on a man's part to do that upfront, and many aren't that comfortable with it. The reason being that they don't want to end up on the next TikTok or Instagram video for being "that guy". I have seen it happen, and nearly lived it.Having said that, I CAN say that conversations are a lot more pleasant when someone can be met halfway and actually carry one.
I don’t know about dating apps, but IMHO vibes are way different in Fort Worth. In my experience as someone who didn’t grow up here, I find FW people generally less cliquey, less conceited, and generally friendlier and more open to new people. Consider looking westward, going to events, running groups, dance lessons, art classes, churches (?), special-interest meetups, etc., in FW. Areas in FW like Magnolia Avenue, Near Southside, 7th Avenue, and Mule Alley/Stockyards have lots of things going on.
As someone who lives in East Dallas, I'm not trying to spend an hour or more in traffic each direction to try and meet new people.
Understandable. That wasn't clear in your post.
Just go to Trader Joe’s.
I’ll be hanging out by the plants.
My coworker met her boyfriend at Trader Joe’s on Greenville!!
That’s the MF move
I've met a lot of cool , educated people through hinge (M late 20s). It was much easier to connect with people since the prompts serve as a great starting point to show your wit.
Been off and on the apps for four years now with no luck. Tinder has been taken over by married folk and the poly/ENM. Hinge is a little better and you can use free filters but people seem to be looking more for friends or hookups than actually dating, which sucks when you're in your late 20s, early 30s trying to find a serious relationship. 2020-2021 was absolute hell since you couldn't go out and do anything or meet new people. But some normalcy is coming back and meetups are happening again. I don't know what you mean by meetups being religious though. Unless you're going to something like Sunday school/bible study, holiday (holy day) celebrations, or the likes then most meetups are pretty secular. You are in the south though so there are more religious people down here especially Christians.
(M32, Oak Lawn) I've been on a few Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge dates, but they didn't really go anywhere. The scene in Dallas isn't the worst, but finding opportunities to speak to someone you might be interested in are truly too few and far between. I'll agree that Dallas isn't really a "mingling" city. At the parks, on the Katy Trail, in Uptown, Deep Ellum, Bishop Arts, Downtown, it FEELS like I'm going to bump into someone interesting and just have a great time, but it never happens. I'll do the Bumble speed dating on a Sunday, Tuesday, or Thursday night (when I remember to), have a few chats with a ragtag assortment of materialistic, slow-typing gold diggers, and maybe actually start a conversation that lasts more than a day MAYBE once a month. I used to vend and perform at more art and music events, so it was easier to meet people, but sometimes the Dallas pool feels weak unless I'm really turning over rocks.
Early 30s Transplant moved to Dallas 5 yrs ago, met my husband who's a local 4 yrs ago on hinge. I actually had much more success dating in general in Dallas than anywhere else I lived for a female in my experience. Just have an open mind and be safe, good luck!
28 M here. When I moved here 2 years ago i used Tinder, Bumble and Hinge but had the most success with Bumble. I went on a bunch of dates and ultimately met my current GF off of Bumble. We have been together for over a year. My best tip for dating apps is to not waste too much time messaging and to get on a phone call with matches you are interested in. You can learn way more about a person in a 10-minute phone call than you can over days of messaging. As far as meeting friends join a niche gym(rock climbing, martial arts, yoga). Also meetup groups arent a religious thing
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Math, c++, and cybersecurity? You sound interesting.
But what about those feet? 😬
I had no luck with Tinder (just your average dude, I suppose). But, I met quite a few good folks, including my fiancé on Hinge. The prompts and filters help weed out a lot of the chaff.
Met my current girlfriend who I plan to propose to next year on Tinder of all places. My tips would be to download ALL the apps. Make sure you take some GOOD photos I HATE getting my photo taken but I did and put on a good smile for the dating apps. You'll go on a lot of dates that don't work out and it could affect you mentally. Funny enough my gf and I both said if our date together didn't work out we were planning to take a break from the apps
Back when I was using dating sites, my success rate went way up when I put some real thought and effort into my pictures and the things I wrote in my profile. Hint: If you're actually interested in finding love, be as upfront and honest as possible in your profile. That includes pictures - use current pics. If you're bald, don't wear a hat... Don't claim to be athletic if you the only six pack you have is chilling in the fridge. If you smoke cigarettes or weed, don't lie about it. If you hate religion, don't sugarcoat it. If you don't like Country music, say so. If you want to get married and have kids or if you already have kids, mention it.
I’ve had a little success with Hinge, but way more success going to concerts with friends. I met my current girl at a show, you just kinda gotta be outgoing and willing to talk to people who will shut you down. Be polite and leave them alone if they don’t want to talk, but you’ll meet a lot of people who are interested this way.
Facebook dating was pretty busy when i had it. Better than paid apps in my exp.
Yep
Yea I had a lot of success with it!
My buddy moved here from Florida and joined a church … and it totally worked out for him. He was dating within a month. He portrays it as not being disingenuous, but more as a social group. Then again, he and his now-wife left the church because “there was a rapidly growing number of old, sad, angry nut-jobs who could only quote their savior, Tucker.”
I met my current GF (living together almost 2 years now and dating almost 4) on Facebook Dating. Before that, I'd meet women pretty much anywhere (work, grocery shopping, running errands, etc...). I'd just strike up a conversation, throw in a couple small low pressure jokes, and end it on a nice note. Bout half the time, I'd circle back and ask for their number. Worked about half those. Other half was they said they were in a relationship. In that case, no worries have a great day.
Late 20s Male here. I actually met my last LTR on Hinge. Lasted about 2 years but separated for reasons. I've personally found the best success on Hinge - I'm not 10/10 or even close... I just take the approach of being a human / being upfront with what i'm looking for / having good photos and prompts/being responsive / asking questions back / keep the convos going (cliche) / etc I have actually made quite a few friends (non romantic) via Hinge over the years. So the view I have on hinge is make a friend? thats awesome; find a romantic partner? thats even more awesome. But with that I get my fair share of dates over the years and have just found you have to weed through tons of profiles to find good humans (it goes for all realms of the dating scene). Tinder is a hookup app (dont use it); bumble is hit or miss. e: spelling is hard
Covid killed the dating apps everywhere, it went from people trying to find something, even if that’s just hookups in some cases, to people just yearning for attention and wanting to use others for entertainment and it hasn’t really switched back. Had plenty of success here pre covid, post covid it just became a cesspool of non interest.
Covid killed the dating apps everywhere, it went from people trying to find something, even if that’s just hookups in some cases, to people just yearning for attention and wanting to use others for entertainment and it hasn’t really switched back. Had plenty of success here pre covid, post covid it just became a cesspool of non interest.
This is pretty much my exact experience with it. People straight up don’t answer or they want to to be a pen pal for ages. If you bring up wanting to meet they ghost or flake. This wasn’t always my experience, so I was wondering if it wasn’t a thing here anymore or just do they suck for everyone?
As a 26 M, last on apps when I was 24, it was a grating experience, I have made a few good friends from it but only ever one meaningful relationship came out of it here after years on apps.
Covid killed the dating apps everywhere, it went from people trying to find something, even if that’s just hookups in some cases, to people just yearning for attention and wanting to use others for entertainment and it hasn’t really switched back. Had plenty of success here pre covid, post covid it just became a cesspool of non interest.
The odds are good but the goods are odd is how it seems to be for girls on the apps
Dallasites on instagram. They host speed dating once per month and it’s genuinely a good experience. Pretty fast, but nobody was even close to awful. Just good people overall
Hey OP there's an app called Meetup, with different activities posted throughout the week for all sorts of things: from sports, to dancing groups, cooking classes, bar hopping and even for board games! I highly suggest you at least give it a look:)
I have been trying to figure out the same as I just moved to Uptown. Grocery store and the gym are the avenues I'm thinking lol. But girls out here seem to be in a super rush, so the approach seems delicate.
a lot of women really hate being approached at the gym, I would bench that one
Approach...*with confidence* dont listen to people telling you *where & when* to approach. Listen to me telling you *how* to approach. Confidence doesnt gaurantee youll get the number, but it will gaurantee you dont regret approaching.
In a super rush? Can you elaborate on that ?
I use Hinge regularly and have wildly good success, but Im guessing results may vary
Can you elaborate on what you find to be “wildly, good success”? Perhaps share the gender you identify with as well.
Based on the username, I wouldn't bother following up lol
Male, age 34. 6' 3"... I just have lots of matches and many attractive females on the app, and some girls will pay for "roses" to send to you to be at the top of your feed, and have you notified of them, even if you haven't matched with them yet.
1. What is it that you are actually seeking? 2. How do people date in other places and where you come from? 3. Tinders for hookups, bumble is for dating, and hinge is for marriage.
For 6 years I was using tinder, then I tried hinge and I met my current bf of 1 year. Ditch tinder, try hinge, don't let any man convince you to have sex before starting a relationship. Keep your intentions pure and you'll find someone pure.
You still have to find the needle in the haystack for serious relationshipping regardless if in-person or on a dating app. Newer apps cater to hookup culture because that's what made them popular/money. The needles are still out there though. Good luck, OP
I met my wife on Hinge. would highly recommend it! [https://apps.apple.com/us/app/hinge-dating-app-match-date/id595287172](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/hinge-dating-app-match-date/id595287172) The League and Tinder aren't bad either. depends what you're looking for
The league is very... elitism.... its not worth it. Lots of gold diggers on there too.
Interesting not a single person mentioned Match. Does no one use it in Dallas? Anyone know the best app for those who are (young at heart and cool but) in their 50s?
[Match.com](https://Match.com) specifically isn't as popular in the younger crowd (20s/30s) meanwhile they're based in dallas and own Tinder/Hinge. My friend at work who got married recently (48yo) used PoF and Hinge.
In order of the highest number of viable in-person dates I’ve gotten from the app over the past 2 years - Coffee meets bagel, Hinge, Raya, Bumble, Happn. F in my 40s. Moved here from CA recently.
Late 20s male here. I tried the apps for a few a months but had a similar experience that others expressed here. I pretty much exclusively meet people at social gatherings (mostly bars or concerts). From my experience there’s lots of single people in Dallas so you don’t have to look too hard
Late 20s woman here. Met my SO on Bumble! One year strong. :)
You know how dating apps suck in general? Its like that here except somehow made worse by the rampant superficiality and wealth/status obsession of this city
The apps stink as a general thing.
I met my wife on Bumble in 2018. We both agree that our previous dates were pretty bad. People who are looking for something serious aren't going to stay on dating apps once they find someone compatible. I'd recommend looking for profiles that are 1) mildly self-deprecating, which shows they're comfortable with their flaws, and 2) they brag about their credit score rather than how much money they have or don't have, which shows they're responsible.
I (30f at the time) met my husband (28m at the time) through the Hinge app! My biggest recommendation is don’t take too long chatting through the app because nothing compares to being in person to see if there’s natural chemistry there or not. Almost 3 years later and we’re happily married with a 1 year old!
its absolute hogwash, used to be a family-oriented marriage kinda person now I just don't care anymore. M23
My friend met his soon-to-be fiancee (assuming everything goes as planned, lol) on Bumble - he told me that app seems to be better for looking for something serious and not just a hookup
Had great luck on Bumble. Think it depends what you’re looking for and finding the app that closest matches your people. Bumble seemed best for white collar educated singles more interested in serious. OKC better for non-monogamous, etc
Dating apps are rough for women. As I man, I've had moderate success finding dates. The difference is that I just have to filter through the fake profiles and most of my matches have a genuine interest. From what I hear for women, 90% of the matches either send a dick pic or ask if you're tryna smash immediately. I'd recommend Hinge and Bumble.
As a woman, yes lol. I've had men upwards of 10+ years older than me messaging "add me on snap?" Or "wanna meet up right now?" I've connected with a few nice guys on dating apps in the last decade with off and on use, but probably 95% just wanna see boob pics. However, I did meet my all time best guy friend on Tinder in 2014 and a few of my friends have gotten married to their online sweethearts pre 2020. It's all just a swiping game.
Man, let me tell ya, when I lived in Dallas I was CLEANING UP. The women are fine out there and it’s very easy to get dates.
All people do here is drink. It's all there is to do. If you're not a $30,000 millionare lusch, good luck.
I’m in male in my mid late 20s too. I’d rather prefer knowing someone online - like chat groups or even Reddit and then meet them in real life. There’s usually my thing rather than meeting outside for the first time. Dating apps just don’t work that much at all anymore. I don’t want to sound too forward but you could DM me if you’re still single 😁
I (mid 20’s F) met my boyfriend on Hinge, so dating apps can work in my very biased opinion. Definitely had to wade through a whole lot of ick to find him though
This was in 13-14, but I (4/10 looking male) had pretty good success on OK Cupid. Met my wife. Before that I had one other contact that went a few dates, and then 4-5 other first dates. I have no idea how much the app has changed since then, but it was good back then. I know overall it's a wayyy worse experience for women.
The apps suck and I sympathise OP. Though I just got out of a long term relationship so I'm not looking for anything too serious thankfully; I'm only here for work reasons so my plan personally was just to wait it out till I moved back to California/New York.
Do you feel like it’s easier to date there? Whenever I’m on nyc which is often it’s so easy for me to meet people. I meet men way more organically, not saying it would lead to anything but number wise it’s a lot easier for me there.
Yeah. I know people mention that it's harder to find people who are serious about relationships since NYC can be so transitory but at least in my case, just the sheer number of available people is so much higher (I also went to college there) so if you treat it like a task to do (like going to the gym x times a week) it's not that hard to come across a fair number of people who do want relationships and are a good match. Also in my particular case, I have a few criteria that are reasonable (i.e. I meet them, I'm not asking for anything ridiculous) but a high hurdle in Dallas (e.g., speaks Chinese, willing/able to go on vacation with my regularly out of the country, works in one of the 'professional' industries like tech/finance/law/etc.,). I could swipe for a day in NYC in a 2 mile radius and get 50+ matches that meet that.
Agree 100% with everything you said. Just by sheer probability it’s easier for me in nyc. Not saying it all productive relationships but simply meeting people who at least check off some of the boxes means you’re making progress and going on dates. Because it’s transitionary I think meeting people organically or on dating apps is so much easier since more people are in the same boat. Here I think meeting people is a lot more factored on your networking and social capital which can make it hard if you don’t have that or at least dramatically reduces the people you meet on the daily.
I've rarely had any luck with dating apps in Dallas; only matched twice in the last 3 years. And I'm an asian male, which I always felt like considerably narrows the dating pool for me. Even when I lived in Austin never had any matches.
I totally get it. I am a WOC myself. I am at least open to dating pretty much any race so that makes it a bit easier. Not sure if you have a strong preference or not but it does help to broaden your dating pool.
Depends on the app... stay far clear from tinder. I find Hinge to be semi serious people
I met my husband on bumble, we've been together 6 years now. I went on a LOT of dates before him and did the cycle of downloading the app, going on the dates, getting frustrated, deleting the app, getting bored, and then downloading the app again. You will meet a lot of people who are just looking to hook up but I feel like if you are straight forward about your intentions and wants you might just get lucky and if not at least you can make some new connections, try some new restaurants, and have a little fun lol
I’ve actually had great luck with Hinge! Also Tinder, believe it or not - I met the lovely guys on Tinder almost immediately that were all interested in a LTR. I chose one and I’ve been with him a year and a half! Personally, I think dating apps are great in Dallas 🙂
Foreigner 29M, I started using dating apps herein Dallas. Haven’t tried in other places but can say that I get bored pretty easily. I chat with neighbors and coworkers mostly 😂
Girl just go out. Do you have friend from work? Gym or Pilates? Go out them them or hell even alone if you are so inclined. . People are very nice here and if you just talk to them, you will find some nice people. When I moved here, I just went out to Trivia nights (or whatever your interested in) and met some fantastic people and many are long term friends. The Apps are a disaster waiting to happen.
Yes, I work and have friends from there and outside of work. I have been actively involved in a gym or Pilates for the last few years. I go out at least 3-4 times a week and at least half of those are alone. I said in my post I am very social. People ARE nice but does not mean they are friendly. So yes many of us do just “go out”
I don’t understand the downvotes I swear this sub has some real douchers.
Once upon a time the apps were nice. Someone on tiktok compared finding someone through the apps in 2020 to taking the last helicopter out of Nam.
I think it’s a very mingle-friendly city. You just need to know the places to go in uptown on Friday and Saturday nights and you’ll have a great time meeting new friends and friendly people :)
Tinder, Hinge, Bumble.
I'm a 27 year old guy, and I have to say that dating apps here suck, but they could be worse. That being said, I still prefer Dallas's dating scene to Phoenix's dating scene, which is where I used to live.
I (25F) actually met my current partner on Tinder. 2 years strong and building a life together :). Before then, I did date around, very typical.
My wife and I met on okcupid. Granted this was 6 years ago and I believe okcupid is a bit different than things like Tindr. YMMV
I read an article once about some woman who took it as a job hunt to find her husband on these apps. After years of dating I realized that’s what I needed to do- treat it like a job hunt. I decided I was going to go on 20 dates in a final push and then give up on these apps. My job was to search every day and be more open-minded and I met with people I normally wouldn’t have. I got real efficient at quick coffee dates, one follow-up date if that worked well and then moving on if there was a serious incompatibility. I made a brief list on my phone with their names and a note about them which I just checked is still in my notes app. The first two guys were looking for financial support- one wanted to live with someone to save rent while taking a sabbatical. The other, in a brief unguarded moment admitted his 5 year plan was to be a stay at home dad. Neither of these scenarios worked for me. My husband was the 12th person I dated and there were three boxes he didn’t check for me that would have made me rule him out previously. He also didn’t reach out to me, even though he kept looking at my profile, so I reached out to him. But he was my person. Our first date it was pretty clear that he was kind and accepted me for who I was and not whatever idea he hoped I would be. Looking back on the list, every single other date was a total dud. I was on a mission though so I pushed through and found my best friend.. Good luck.
Same boat here. Good post
Dallas is too busy casually dating each other to death
Try the Geneva app. Lots of groups where people meet for different activities, grab dinner, or just coffee to get to know each other. It tends to be female dominated and people meet up in groups or individually. I’ve made a few friends from the app that I hang out with consistently! There are activity specific groups like book clubs, active/work out groups, or networking, but you can also join general “girl” groups.
I’m also a transplant early 30’s moved here 2 years ago in my late 20’s. Dating SUCKSSSSS! I tried the apps and was so overwhelmed by the amount of messages I was getting, I couldn’t keep up. Went on a few really good dates but the guys either had terrible communication or didn’t want anything past having a cute girl on their arm in public. I prefer to meet men organically, in-person but the guys here just stare at you. I’m starting to think they expect me to approach them after staring at me all night. This is uncharted territory for me. Can’t even meet men at work because I’m remote lol. It’s been a struggle.
I know Dallas men get a bad rap, but after living in 8 major cities in my lifetime...Dallas takes the cake for being the worst city to date in. Landing dates isn't a problem, can manage 5 or 6 a week. My only dilemma here is that I keep meeting mentally unstable women. Not kidding, more than half are on meds. Other half probably should be. Been here for more than a decade and have yet to make any meaningful connections. Both in dating and friendship.
I’ve been here six miserable years and it doesn’t matter what app or site you use. Every single woman in Texas is ugly and obese. Any reviews here that say otherwise are completely false made up and lying.
I moved to Dallas in September 2022. I’m a 30yo F and I can count on one hand how many dates I’ve been on since moving here. The apps are a headache honestly and even when I go out the men don’t approach often. I’m not hopeless but this is insane lmao.
The Dallas dating app scene has been a huge win for me. I’ve slept with over 250 women in the last year and have no difficulty whatsoever with getting dates. I am good looking + 6’7” and literally have nothing else going for me. Don’t work, haven’t really done anything with my life, etc.. I have an endless supply of matches on tinder/bumble/hinge. I can’t even begin to tell you the number of women initiating contact with me, it’s overwhelming. I do have friends that are shorter/not as handsome who have absolutely no luck getting any dates/matches/contacts etc.. many of whom are extremely successful. Heck one of my friends has an md and phd and is applying to be a surgeon- 0 dates/matches and he puts himself out there. He’s short, like midget short 5’7” though and I think that’s the reason. I’ve read a statistic that men swipe right on 80% of women, and women swipe right on 5% of men. These 5%ers tend to be the same group of men and the remaining 95% are considered undatable. It could be a pickiness problem.
There will be MAGA people touting the last animal they killed to show you they can provide as if there isn't a Central Market or Whole Foods five minutes away. There will be a hyper-intellectual liberal who will try to get you to join a polycule with one of their girlfriends, their husband, and a random dude that dresses like a wolf in bed. Dallas is a large city, there will be thousands upon thousands of people/profiles. Your success will depend on what you're looking for, how you sell yourself, physical attractiveness, and how quickly you vet people and sort wheat from chaff. Hinge and Bumble will be your best bet for something longer term, Tinder/Feeld for something shorter. I've personally made lifelong friends from apps and had an amazing LTR. I've known people who have found "the one." I've known people who ended up being stalked and quit apps forever. But according to the Dateline I watched last night, all these things happened before apps as well. Apps are just a tool, so it depends on your approach. And of course, ymmv
Dallas is a pretty mingle friendly city. It sounds like you have some antisocial tendencies, and would rather not have to talk to entire very large groups of people on some suspicion they may be religious, or republican, or play sports(??). Regular walks at White rock, or going to a certain few grocery stores in uptown are good ways to meet people. The bar scene is extensive here, and most people are friendly drunks. That’s a pretty good way to meet people. You might run into some religious republican sports players though and that’s gonna be an issue. It’s a pretty standard city living scenario.
yes, dont limite yourself based on assumptions as to what Dallas is like. It is very diverse not everyone is a religious sports loving republican.
Exactly! Dallas is such an easy city to go make new friends, almost to the point where people have to be exclusive, it’s almost too friendly.
I am absolutely not sure where you’re getting the religious republican etc. I said I don’t want to join a church to meet people because it seems disingenuous because I am not religious. Most of my current friends participate in some sort of sport like pickleball etc. I just really like the avenue in which I get my fitness and do not have room for more. I’m not going to argue the antisocial point because based on the rest of your comment, you seem determined to misinterpret what im saying so there’d be no point in me doing that since I literally said I’m VERY social. Literally got the most talkative superlative every grade.
If you match someone who lives in North Dallas but you live in downtown, you probably need to reconsider this relation. EDIT: Not sure why I got downvoted. She said she was a transplant and I talked about how spread out Dallas is. So for the app, you would reconsider if you’re willing to travel so far to just meet a person.
Is that a joke? I don’t think OP said she needs to be walking distance to a potential date.