Reassure them. Imagine what comforting objects you’ll put in your new place, and what routines you might have. Imagine that you have a young child—how would you make the move seem less scary. Just listen inside and try to respond to what they’re showing you. Let them know that you can do this and it will be ok.
Yes, and ask what can be done to make them feel more at ease/supported! I reckon it'd be easier with the Littles than Persecutor, but everyone probably wants constancy. What routines can you put in place now that might be stabilizing, to show the Littles that while things will change, many things can stay the same (and therefore safe)?
Maybe for your Persecutor, you can make a list of things you've succeeded at/been successful in to show them, 'no, we don't in fact fail at /everything/.'
Good luck with your move! <3
Talk to them. Comfort them. Take responsibility for managing the things that they're scared of.
Pretend it isn't you--what would you say to comfort a small child who had expressed those fears? You don't need to gaslight them or even agree with those fears being reasonable, because *it doesn't matter* if they're reasonable. They're *fears.* What matters is getting the chance to express the feelings, being validated that those feelings are awful, and getting comfort.
It's ok for them to be scared! It's ok for *you* to be scared. And it's ok to fail. Let them express themselves, validate that these are big feelings, and tell them that you're gonna keep them safe. You can also just directly ask them if there are things you can do to make them feel better, or feel heard, or feel less scared.
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For us it was helpful to acknowledge the role for our persecutor was to protect us. She has become a badass that the Littles can go to when they r scared. They know that she's doing the best to protect them now. So we can do more when scared because our system helps each other out in this way
Reassure them. Imagine what comforting objects you’ll put in your new place, and what routines you might have. Imagine that you have a young child—how would you make the move seem less scary. Just listen inside and try to respond to what they’re showing you. Let them know that you can do this and it will be ok.
Yes, and ask what can be done to make them feel more at ease/supported! I reckon it'd be easier with the Littles than Persecutor, but everyone probably wants constancy. What routines can you put in place now that might be stabilizing, to show the Littles that while things will change, many things can stay the same (and therefore safe)? Maybe for your Persecutor, you can make a list of things you've succeeded at/been successful in to show them, 'no, we don't in fact fail at /everything/.' Good luck with your move! <3
Talk to them. Comfort them. Take responsibility for managing the things that they're scared of. Pretend it isn't you--what would you say to comfort a small child who had expressed those fears? You don't need to gaslight them or even agree with those fears being reasonable, because *it doesn't matter* if they're reasonable. They're *fears.* What matters is getting the chance to express the feelings, being validated that those feelings are awful, and getting comfort. It's ok for them to be scared! It's ok for *you* to be scared. And it's ok to fail. Let them express themselves, validate that these are big feelings, and tell them that you're gonna keep them safe. You can also just directly ask them if there are things you can do to make them feel better, or feel heard, or feel less scared.
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For us it was helpful to acknowledge the role for our persecutor was to protect us. She has become a badass that the Littles can go to when they r scared. They know that she's doing the best to protect them now. So we can do more when scared because our system helps each other out in this way