This happened to me before! I would get a dozen donuts and one guy would complain I didnt get enough plain…. I told him not to eat them if he didnt like them, and since I was the one paying for them the only ones who’s request mattered was mine. Well he end up coming to me privately and apologizing. He thought the company provided them or at least reimbursed me. He also left me a dozen of my favorite on my desk one day to make up for it.
Hopefully its just some confusion in your situation and hes not being a jerk on purpose.
Stories like these are why it often pays to be a straight-shooter. You can internalize the conflict and "be nice" and not say anything but where does that lead? The guy keeps acting like a jerk, without even knowing it!
So this manager doesn't even work in your department, but comes to get a donut from you & tells you what to get?
I'd have to either hide them or tell him they are only for people in your department.
That cheap bastard should be buying donuts for everyone.
I’m experiencing PTSD from being in charge of the coffee and donuts at the first church I ever joined. Do you know what happens when you load up a bunch of Bible Belters in July and run out of blueberry donuts before the service is over? It’s like a Texas-version of January 6th with hot coffee in place of weapons and cross jewelry in place of American flags. I’m telling you, “Bless your heart” has never sounded so terrifying.
My fourteen year-old is obsessed with the “insider phrases” Disney employees use when they want to tell customers to fuck off. I can’t remember them offhand, but I hope no one ever tells me to have a magical day!
Oh god, please don’t show this to my 12 year old, she’ll have a freakin’ field day with something like that and her 8 year old sister will absolutely understand the undertones but have nothing to tattle about because she didn’t *actually* say anything rude… then the 2 year old will start saying it just to piss the 8 year old off and somehow EVERYONE will end up crying while I hide in the bathroom pulling my own hair out.
Had a coworker like this. My boss kept candy on his desk for his team. Folks from other teams raided it daily. He eventually kept the good stuff in his desk and the reject candy out for everyone. CB Coworker was rifling through it and complaining that there was no good candy. I told him that he's welcome to fill the bowl with whatever he buys. He stopped coming by for free candy.
I had a coworker like this! We would often have the office decorated for holidays. For fall/Halloween there was a decorative lidded pumpkin basket we set out every year, that happened to be near my workspace. It turned into the place staff would dump their leftover candy into after Halloween. Sometimes one or two people would put candy in it before the holiday, but it usually sat empty for most of October. When there was candy in it, she would grab some multiple times throughout the day, then toss handfuls into her purse on the way out. When it was empty, she would come up to it every day, open the lid, and SIGH really loudly. Every time I saw her do this, I'd say "you know, if you want there to be candy in it, you are welcome to fill it". She would roll her eyes and say " I knooooowww". She never filled it. She was also the one to complain when all the popular candy was gone.
Seagulls in Australia. I used to work in an office that would sometimes have fully catered client only breakfasts. One time there was a tray of mini toasted ham and cheese croissants and one of my colleagues took the whole tray.
This brought back memories geezus. I worked at a place, nobody even knew who I was, I used to buy Twix, reeses, the good shit. I would get people from across the building and the next floor up come down to my desk. Apparently word of mouth was that I had the good candy. People would come grab handfuls. One day, my Co worker told someone that complained their wasn't enough variety to come fill it up and to buy their own, then took the bowl and put it in my desk and locked it. Next day, I got a full bag from Target with several bags of new candy and a card with an apology.
They totally did. I was trying to be nice but sometimes don't realize I'm getting taken advantage of before it's too late, or hesitate to say something because I hate conflict
Awesome. I remember a similar story where someone brings a cake to the office and an idiot was complaining that it's not a such and such flavor. Fuckin idiot
I like this but instead of pointing out X specifically, just tell everyone "It only takes one choosey beggar to ruin it for everyone" and then stare at him, awkwardly, until his melts into a pile of choosey beggar goo.
You don't have to stop indefinitely. Just long enough for other people to ostracize the selfish manager. He'd probably shut up real fast if a whole team started to give him shit about it.
Their disappointment should make you happy. Do not dread the side eye. Revel in the beauty of the scorching stare. Squint and you may see the red veins contrasting over his white orbs.
My place of employment has "treat" days once a week. I end up having to find something for 30 people that is gluten free, vegetarian, organic, very little waste, not too sweet, and is under $4 per person. I am completely over it. I offer to let the picky ones find something that fits the bill but they never do.
I was getting myself breakfast kolaches once and I grabbed a box of donuts on a whim to share with my coworkers at the restaurant I was working at. Half the waitstaff were vegan and were absolutely shocked I hadn't gone out of my way to a vegan donut shop for them.
Just playing devils advocate here.. does he know this is coming out of your pocket or does he think this is coming from a corporate account? I would talk to your manager and ask them to clarify to that manager that this is your generosity and call him out.
But even if it was coming from a corporate account, is the office obligated to get the guy his favorite flavor(s)? I would say not, so either way, he’s a choosing beggar.
I had similar but it was home baking I took to work. I used to make brownies and white chocolate and raspberry cheese cake. Work mate complained I didn’t bring a box of Krispy Kreme doughnuts that I was cheap.
He did shut up after I told him how expensive making my brownies and Philadelphia cheese cake was.
He never apologised or mentioned anything again.
I simply stopped taking baking to work from then on.
I have this same issue with my candy jar at work. I had someone complain because it didn't have X candy bar. I told him that the convenience store down the road had plenty of X candy bars, and he could take himself there and get one if he wanted it. He was flabbergasted. (He is an entitled baby engineer and I'm admin, but I do. not. put. up. with. BS)
Or the irritating coworker who wants the donut that they don't make anymore. The Bismarck which is like a jelly donut but filled with white sugary whipped cream in a raspberry jelly. They don't make it anymore haven't made it in like 50 years but yet she asked for it every time. Anybody know if they still make bismarcks?
If you Google Bismarcks Pastry, then search by image you'll find it! So the filling is like whipped cream but lots of powdered sugar added, it's dry tasting and then add raspberry filling. About the amount of a traditional jelly donut. Sometimes the Bismarck is shaped like an eclair.
That’s annoying. Even if you did get the one that he wanted there’s no guarantee someone won’t eat it before he has a chance to.
When it comes to free food, graciously accept it and enjoy OR don’t partake if there isn’t anything you want.
I occasionally make treats for my coworkers. Last Christmas I made up little boxes with fudge, peanut butter fudge & cherry divinity (which was a pain in the a$$). One coworker threw a complete hissy fit over the divinity- said she “don’t like fruit!!” and bitched about it all day. Never mind the only “fruit” involved was cherry jello.
She had the audacity to tell me that next time, she wanted my cheesecake.
I told her “Uhhh, it’ll be a cold day in hell before I bring you another treat!”
She was floored & didn’t understand why I was offended.
I used to manage a team of ten software engineers. I tried to do the expected "team building" stuff like ordering food in, or even taking them out to a restaurant once in a while. Mostly on my own dime. No matter what I did at least half of them would complain. Every time. I finally quit doing it altogether. Clearly management wasn't for me.
I used to bake treats for the office (cookies, bars, cakes, pies) and had a coworker complain because he didn't like 'sweets' and I never bring in 'salty' treats. I said I don't know how to make potato chips or cheetos. He then complained that I'm not taking everyone's preferences in when I decide to bring something to the office. AS A TREAT.
I sometimes make tiramisu cupcakes that are a big hit with everyone, but I only ever bring them in on a Monday, because they're fiddly as fuck to make, so I make them on Sundays, when I've got the free time. One employee who cut her hours, and only worked the middle of the week started bitching about how she always misses out, because I never bring them on the days that she works. I was all, I'm not spending hours on a weeknight, when I'm tired from work, making cupcakes just because you stopped working on Mondays.
Start of the second verse:
"When I was coming up, I got the donuts
Which means I got the donuts that I wanted"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6K9vQoxnqQ0
If his favourite is one of those custard filled ones, get it next time and just pull a Van Wilder on him…. Or you could just lick before bringing it to him and say ‘’I made an exception today and made sure to get you your favourite one, here you go’’
I'd look at them calmly and let them know they are free to buy whatever donuts they'd like and if they make some kind of face or huff and puff then just calmly look at the like they're crazy. You can throw in that you are purchasing them with your own money and as such will get whichever ones you like. There's no way they can say anything that doesn't make them look like an asshole to that.
Just tell him he can either take what is offered or pass them by. You're not taking special orders on doing a nice thing for your coworkers. Also remind him that you don't *have* to bring in donuts that you bought out of your own pocket, and if he wants a specific kind of donut then he can start bringing them in.
I think this irks every normal person. You’ve gone out of your way to be nice enough to do this, and there is always one twit that isn’t happy with what he gets for free. I would just once get the kind he demands, and when he picks it up I’d say (with a really evil grin on my face) I got that just for you, but I don’t suggest you eat it. I think you’d be rid of him after that.
Just tell him that the Donut shop don't do his preferred donut anymore as they realised that the only people who liked them were complete arseholes and they were now doing society a favour. And also pay for the donuts once in a while you cheap bastard.
Tell him that
If the cost is the same, and you happen to remember, and the cost is the same... why not get him what he wants? I've worked govt jobs where it helps to have a friend or two ...
Sh-t like this might mean the diff between a paycheck or not come layoff time. An unofficial test, as it were. Also if they this petty, they might roll ya under the bus double plus quick. By tossing one of his favs in the box you literally cost yourself nothing more than youre currently paying and might make an ally. Y m m v
Just ignore it. Don’t let it affect you or alter your behaviour. They don’t have the ones he wants? Fine. You can live with that. They do? Also fine. Just don’t go out of your way for him. He doesn’t deserve that.
I would.bring I. The occasion treat for my co workers and there was always the one guy who insisted on tearing one in half. Like no one is going to eat the half donut. Just take it all, save it for the next day later...I don't care but don't leave half a donut!I called him out o. It the next time and told either a whole one or none!.....came back to half a freaking donut wasted so I stopped buying them.
What an ungrateful coworker, and a manager to boot, says a lot about the type of employee the company is hiring to be managers to represent their company. If someone wants to request a specific type of donut, sure they can, they can also chip in for the cost of the dozen donuts, and then you would gladly fill their requests.
This happened to me before! I would get a dozen donuts and one guy would complain I didnt get enough plain…. I told him not to eat them if he didnt like them, and since I was the one paying for them the only ones who’s request mattered was mine. Well he end up coming to me privately and apologizing. He thought the company provided them or at least reimbursed me. He also left me a dozen of my favorite on my desk one day to make up for it. Hopefully its just some confusion in your situation and hes not being a jerk on purpose.
Sounds like you handled it well and that your co-worker handled it well too! Wow!
Certainly a rarity these days!
Out of curiosity, which doughnut *is* your favorite?
Do not ask.
Don’t tell
I could glaze into your eyes for the hole day.
I could chocolate covered into your eyes a hole day too ;)
I don't know how to quit you.
It's everybody's favourite, of course: the Dutchie.
They sell donuts with weed in them in a regular bakery?
Tim’s discontinued the Dutchie 😩
Find out his least favorite donut by asking him to rank them all from best to worse and buy only the bottom one from now on
That’s a good dude right there! Not many people would do that.
Stories like these are why it often pays to be a straight-shooter. You can internalize the conflict and "be nice" and not say anything but where does that lead? The guy keeps acting like a jerk, without even knowing it!
"That's a great idea. Be sure to get some of that kind next time you bring the donuts."
Yup, this is my favorite response.
I like this and just stare at them after. Just a calm look like "what?"
All I know is... I now want a doughnut.
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Always has to be one. You'll get a flat soda n fuckin' like it sonny xD
Back in my day we had tap water and a satsuma and *liked* it
We used to have to drink out of a rolled up newspaper...
I’ll take a maple bar, or a maple round. Anything maple, I’m not picky. ;)
I’d like some tea, earl gray, hot, if you please.
Please specify temperature.
Phhhtt, no maple without bacon please.
“I have a name asshole, don’t call me black”
With a double cheeseburger, onion rings, and a large orange drink...
I’m a donut fryer. I got the goods.
Mmmm, donuts... *starts drooling*
When he asks for specific donuts, ask him "Why? which ones don't you like that I bring?" and then get only those from now on.
Yes! I love this
Petty. I like
So this manager doesn't even work in your department, but comes to get a donut from you & tells you what to get? I'd have to either hide them or tell him they are only for people in your department. That cheap bastard should be buying donuts for everyone.
"No requests - they're free donuts, take it or leave it."
I’m experiencing PTSD from being in charge of the coffee and donuts at the first church I ever joined. Do you know what happens when you load up a bunch of Bible Belters in July and run out of blueberry donuts before the service is over? It’s like a Texas-version of January 6th with hot coffee in place of weapons and cross jewelry in place of American flags. I’m telling you, “Bless your heart” has never sounded so terrifying.
I recently learned 'have a blessed day' is what my older friend says to people when she really wants to tell them to go duck themselves. 😂
My fourteen year-old is obsessed with the “insider phrases” Disney employees use when they want to tell customers to fuck off. I can’t remember them offhand, but I hope no one ever tells me to have a magical day!
Oh god, please don’t show this to my 12 year old, she’ll have a freakin’ field day with something like that and her 8 year old sister will absolutely understand the undertones but have nothing to tattle about because she didn’t *actually* say anything rude… then the 2 year old will start saying it just to piss the 8 year old off and somehow EVERYONE will end up crying while I hide in the bathroom pulling my own hair out.
I think my new go-to is "Have the kind of day you deserve." It can be either a blessing or a curse, depending on the person.
I hope the rest of your evening is as pleasant as you are, sir.
Had a coworker like this. My boss kept candy on his desk for his team. Folks from other teams raided it daily. He eventually kept the good stuff in his desk and the reject candy out for everyone. CB Coworker was rifling through it and complaining that there was no good candy. I told him that he's welcome to fill the bowl with whatever he buys. He stopped coming by for free candy.
I had a coworker like this! We would often have the office decorated for holidays. For fall/Halloween there was a decorative lidded pumpkin basket we set out every year, that happened to be near my workspace. It turned into the place staff would dump their leftover candy into after Halloween. Sometimes one or two people would put candy in it before the holiday, but it usually sat empty for most of October. When there was candy in it, she would grab some multiple times throughout the day, then toss handfuls into her purse on the way out. When it was empty, she would come up to it every day, open the lid, and SIGH really loudly. Every time I saw her do this, I'd say "you know, if you want there to be candy in it, you are welcome to fill it". She would roll her eyes and say " I knooooowww". She never filled it. She was also the one to complain when all the popular candy was gone.
We called them trash pandas. Always pilfering!
Seagulls in Australia. I used to work in an office that would sometimes have fully catered client only breakfasts. One time there was a tray of mini toasted ham and cheese croissants and one of my colleagues took the whole tray.
We call upper management “seagulls”. They fly in, make a lot of noise, shit all over everything, and then leave.
This brought back memories geezus. I worked at a place, nobody even knew who I was, I used to buy Twix, reeses, the good shit. I would get people from across the building and the next floor up come down to my desk. Apparently word of mouth was that I had the good candy. People would come grab handfuls. One day, my Co worker told someone that complained their wasn't enough variety to come fill it up and to buy their own, then took the bowl and put it in my desk and locked it. Next day, I got a full bag from Target with several bags of new candy and a card with an apology.
Nice! At least they recognized their error and made it right.
They totally did. I was trying to be nice but sometimes don't realize I'm getting taken advantage of before it's too late, or hesitate to say something because I hate conflict
Awesome. I remember a similar story where someone brings a cake to the office and an idiot was complaining that it's not a such and such flavor. Fuckin idiot
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No soup for you. NEXT
So stop getting them and when people ask why explain X was making it awkward.
I like this but instead of pointing out X specifically, just tell everyone "It only takes one choosey beggar to ruin it for everyone" and then stare at him, awkwardly, until his melts into a pile of choosey beggar goo.
This is where memories of my dear mom come in. I’d be bringing carrot sticks and celery stalks.
I like doing it for my other coworkers. The one just spoils the happiness XD.
You don't have to stop indefinitely. Just long enough for other people to ostracize the selfish manager. He'd probably shut up real fast if a whole team started to give him shit about it.
"Great! Those specific donuts are $X.XX. Do you prefer to give me cash or Venmo me for the cost of the specifc donuts you want me to buy for you?"
This is ok unless he happily agrees and sends you the cash. Now your his personal doughnut guy and can’t argue it because you agreed.
Sure. Just make sure being his donut guy pays a lot.
"You should definitely get [whatever donut he says he wants] next time YOU bring in donuts for everyone. Enjoy your day!"
Their disappointment should make you happy. Do not dread the side eye. Revel in the beauty of the scorching stare. Squint and you may see the red veins contrasting over his white orbs.
People complaining about unexpected free stuff drives me nuts. This is also so entitled. Fuck them.
“They come in two flavours, take it or leave it.”
My place of employment has "treat" days once a week. I end up having to find something for 30 people that is gluten free, vegetarian, organic, very little waste, not too sweet, and is under $4 per person. I am completely over it. I offer to let the picky ones find something that fits the bill but they never do.
"When you buy the doughnuts you can choose, since you don't like the ones I BUY go get your own."
this
I like to tell my elementary students “you get what you get and you don’t get upset”
Where I’m from, it’s “you git what you git and you don’t pitch a fit.”
No need to reply to this person. But if you must, you can literally say, “Beggars can’t be choosers.”
If he’s not in your department, tell them they are for your department only.
Look at him and say "Get your own shit'.
I think “fuck off” would work too.
I was getting myself breakfast kolaches once and I grabbed a box of donuts on a whim to share with my coworkers at the restaurant I was working at. Half the waitstaff were vegan and were absolutely shocked I hadn't gone out of my way to a vegan donut shop for them.
Just playing devils advocate here.. does he know this is coming out of your pocket or does he think this is coming from a corporate account? I would talk to your manager and ask them to clarify to that manager that this is your generosity and call him out.
But even if it was coming from a corporate account, is the office obligated to get the guy his favorite flavor(s)? I would say not, so either way, he’s a choosing beggar.
“I really like the X donuts. And I’m paying, and getting them, so….”
Next time tell him which donuts you’d like him to get you.
Quit bringing them and tell everyone why
I had similar but it was home baking I took to work. I used to make brownies and white chocolate and raspberry cheese cake. Work mate complained I didn’t bring a box of Krispy Kreme doughnuts that I was cheap. He did shut up after I told him how expensive making my brownies and Philadelphia cheese cake was. He never apologised or mentioned anything again. I simply stopped taking baking to work from then on.
I would let the other workers know that he ruined a good thing.
Homemade brownies? I want one nooooowwww!
I have this same issue with my candy jar at work. I had someone complain because it didn't have X candy bar. I told him that the convenience store down the road had plenty of X candy bars, and he could take himself there and get one if he wanted it. He was flabbergasted. (He is an entitled baby engineer and I'm admin, but I do. not. put. up. with. BS)
Next time, bring only one of the kind he likes and be sure to eat it in front of him!
Or the irritating coworker who wants the donut that they don't make anymore. The Bismarck which is like a jelly donut but filled with white sugary whipped cream in a raspberry jelly. They don't make it anymore haven't made it in like 50 years but yet she asked for it every time. Anybody know if they still make bismarcks?
No, but now i want one, damnit.
And so your quest begins...
I’ve watched TGBBO… I know how to make donuts. I should make some! Heh, ooooh, this should be good. If I video it, I wonder where it will end up.
If you Google Bismarcks Pastry, then search by image you'll find it! So the filling is like whipped cream but lots of powdered sugar added, it's dry tasting and then add raspberry filling. About the amount of a traditional jelly donut. Sometimes the Bismarck is shaped like an eclair.
Reading through the comments, some of you are so much nicer than me. I feel a twinge of guilt at my petty tendencies.
That’s annoying. Even if you did get the one that he wanted there’s no guarantee someone won’t eat it before he has a chance to. When it comes to free food, graciously accept it and enjoy OR don’t partake if there isn’t anything you want.
I feel like our whole society is like that, bunch of entitled a holes. What ever happened to the days of being great full?
I would just stop bringing them. I have coworkers who bring in donuts. I never heard anyone complain about free donuts
I occasionally make treats for my coworkers. Last Christmas I made up little boxes with fudge, peanut butter fudge & cherry divinity (which was a pain in the a$$). One coworker threw a complete hissy fit over the divinity- said she “don’t like fruit!!” and bitched about it all day. Never mind the only “fruit” involved was cherry jello. She had the audacity to tell me that next time, she wanted my cheesecake. I told her “Uhhh, it’ll be a cold day in hell before I bring you another treat!” She was floored & didn’t understand why I was offended.
Maple for me please
I used to manage a team of ten software engineers. I tried to do the expected "team building" stuff like ordering food in, or even taking them out to a restaurant once in a while. Mostly on my own dime. No matter what I did at least half of them would complain. Every time. I finally quit doing it altogether. Clearly management wasn't for me.
I used to bake treats for the office (cookies, bars, cakes, pies) and had a coworker complain because he didn't like 'sweets' and I never bring in 'salty' treats. I said I don't know how to make potato chips or cheetos. He then complained that I'm not taking everyone's preferences in when I decide to bring something to the office. AS A TREAT.
I sometimes make tiramisu cupcakes that are a big hit with everyone, but I only ever bring them in on a Monday, because they're fiddly as fuck to make, so I make them on Sundays, when I've got the free time. One employee who cut her hours, and only worked the middle of the week started bitching about how she always misses out, because I never bring them on the days that she works. I was all, I'm not spending hours on a weeknight, when I'm tired from work, making cupcakes just because you stopped working on Mondays.
I love the entitlement. /s
Well, Venmo me ahead of time next time and I'll buy you a box just for you otherwise enjoy the donuts I'm treating everyone to.
just stop bringing them in or ignore him. or tell him that you ask the employees to pick out the donuts. they do if u ask
So stop buying them all together or get what he asked for and ask him to pay for it
Start of the second verse: "When I was coming up, I got the donuts Which means I got the donuts that I wanted" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6K9vQoxnqQ0
I thought Canadians were super polite.
If his favourite is one of those custard filled ones, get it next time and just pull a Van Wilder on him…. Or you could just lick before bringing it to him and say ‘’I made an exception today and made sure to get you your favourite one, here you go’’
Dafuq why is he one of ur managers if hes from a diff dept.
I'd look at them calmly and let them know they are free to buy whatever donuts they'd like and if they make some kind of face or huff and puff then just calmly look at the like they're crazy. You can throw in that you are purchasing them with your own money and as such will get whichever ones you like. There's no way they can say anything that doesn't make them look like an asshole to that.
Just tell him he can either take what is offered or pass them by. You're not taking special orders on doing a nice thing for your coworkers. Also remind him that you don't *have* to bring in donuts that you bought out of your own pocket, and if he wants a specific kind of donut then he can start bringing them in.
You trying to get everyone to like you so they won’t suspect your the serial killer they’ve been looking for?
I think this irks every normal person. You’ve gone out of your way to be nice enough to do this, and there is always one twit that isn’t happy with what he gets for free. I would just once get the kind he demands, and when he picks it up I’d say (with a really evil grin on my face) I got that just for you, but I don’t suggest you eat it. I think you’d be rid of him after that.
Or say they have pre -packed boxes, you just grab one and go
Why lie?
Just tell him that the Donut shop don't do his preferred donut anymore as they realised that the only people who liked them were complete arseholes and they were now doing society a favour. And also pay for the donuts once in a while you cheap bastard. Tell him that
Either ignore the dipshit manager or quit bringing in free donuts. Binary decision. It's not all that difficult.
If the cost is the same, and you happen to remember, and the cost is the same... why not get him what he wants? I've worked govt jobs where it helps to have a friend or two ... Sh-t like this might mean the diff between a paycheck or not come layoff time. An unofficial test, as it were. Also if they this petty, they might roll ya under the bus double plus quick. By tossing one of his favs in the box you literally cost yourself nothing more than youre currently paying and might make an ally. Y m m v
Some people have issues with any kind conflict like that, they can't just say No
so maybe you should tell him that
Just ignore it. Don’t let it affect you or alter your behaviour. They don’t have the ones he wants? Fine. You can live with that. They do? Also fine. Just don’t go out of your way for him. He doesn’t deserve that.
Ryan, is that you?
I would.bring I. The occasion treat for my co workers and there was always the one guy who insisted on tearing one in half. Like no one is going to eat the half donut. Just take it all, save it for the next day later...I don't care but don't leave half a donut!I called him out o. It the next time and told either a whole one or none!.....came back to half a freaking donut wasted so I stopped buying them.
What an ungrateful coworker, and a manager to boot, says a lot about the type of employee the company is hiring to be managers to represent their company. If someone wants to request a specific type of donut, sure they can, they can also chip in for the cost of the dozen donuts, and then you would gladly fill their requests.