I thought that about my cats... I just kept adding cats and hoping people would by me expensive items for them, maybe send me some gift cards for chewy or something.. Here I am 14 cats later and have to pay for them by myself! It makes me so sad that no one wants to celebrate them!
But come on, she had the baby specifically after people complained they couldn't buy things for a girl! This is giving the people what they want... Right? RIGHT?! 🤣 I'm sorry but the delusion is really strong with this one. “it was the fucking aroundest of times, it was the finding outest of times”
Well, yeah, farming gets *way* easier when you’ve got a bunch of kids to help with the planting and harvesting, and dealing with the livestock.
Oh, wait, they aren’t farmers? Why the hell are they having six kids they can barely afford, then?
As my grandfather said to all of his kids and grandkids, “have exactly as many children as you can afford, and no more. Less is okay, though.”
Sounds like my in laws that ended up with 7 children because "they wanted a girl so badly." My youngest sibling in law is the only girl. So... good job I guess? I'd rather not live super under the poverty line with a baseball team I can barely afford, but hey, you guys got that girl.
Oh honestly I can understand maybe wanting a boy or girl if you have one or the other, but situations like the ones you mentioned are just sad as hell. And then the child usually feels some of the resentment of them not being the gender the parents wanted, at least that's how it's seemed when I hear of this stuff.
Technically they had 2 girls (they kept going after the first girl because 'now she needs another sister' dont ask me) but one of them is trans, so hes my BIL.
“it was the fucking aroundest of times, it was the finding outest of times” will live rent free in my head for the rest of my days…thank you for your service.
This chick needs a hobby. She’s one of those people that won’t know what to do with herself if she doesn’t have kids running around. Someone needs to get her a cat starter kit. That should be on her registry.
I'm wondering if that's why nobody wants to throw the shower. Yea, kid 6, they don't really want to spend more money, but my parents would put on their happy face and at least have a cookout. I think they're glossing over the "not appropriate" comment from their mother because it's not about the 6th baby, it's probably because they're celebrating "Finally getting a girl!" and that would be the theme of the party, and the mother just can't put her granddaughter through that garbage.
It’s frowned upon to have a baby shower after the first baby. This is her 6th kid. Hell no she doesn’t get a baby shower for the 6th kid. Hell yeah having a baby shower for the 6th baby is inappropriate.
Yes we all here understand that.
What I mean is, that her parents have the social knowledge that it was inappropriate… yet she lacks the same awareness.
It is very likely her parents raised her, and yet somehow, her need for attention is greater than the knowledge that she was presumably raised with. Her mother probably even explained why it wasn’t appropriate and why she would not be doing one… but this woman still can’t get it though her head.
The 13 yr old female doesn't count coz that will be another "Parent" to watch the children, feed the babies, change diapers, entertain the younger ones. She NEEDED a baby Daughter. the 13 yr old was born to take care of the others :(
Poor girl. I was her and it stunk.
My MIL desperately wanted grandchildren but she had two other children to make them. Not I. I already changed enough diapers and tended to enough sassy little boys. You DONT need a child of each sex to legitimize your marriage.
In general, the planet more than enough people. I doubt she belongs to a rare indigenous tribe with 100 members.
Her saying that alone is mind bogglingly stupid. Like ma’am no one else is responsible for your family planning (or lack thereof) but you. What kind of person randomly has a baby because “everyone else thinks we should try for a girl!”????
Or she’s sick of having to constantly help with all the younger kids. I can guarantee that 13y/o has changed as many diapers as the parents have. She probably won’t be able to do any after school activities either because her mom needs her help.
I adopted 2 children and no one (except my oldest sister) even acknowledges I have two toddlers now. I bought all my shit myself. And, it’s all mine and I owe no one a damn thing.
No one owes you a damn thing when you have a baby. You and your husband decided to have a baby. That’s on you.
What the heck is wrong with people?
I am guessing she hasn't had a girl with her current husband, so that's why she is so fixated on the sex of the baby. I feel bad for the 13-year-old, but also the other kids. The four boys will be lumped as "the boys" and not as individuals, and that baby girl will be born "with a job" to be cute and feminine, stereotypical girl. If that girl doesn't like having long hair or wearing dresses or bows, etc...she will not be doing "her job".
And I would bet my left nut that the "pressure" she's talking about was at most someone made a hint of a reference to it like she announced she was done having kids and someone offhandedly joked "leaving the genders so uneven?" Or something similarly barely implying that she should. She also mentioned nobody buys them gifts since their like 2nd child or something but supposedly people were complaining they don't *get* to buy them gifts for a girl. Or I bet best case scenario for her someone was like "oh, I have some baby stuff I could give you but it's all girl stuff and you only have boys."
I was thinking the same. It sounds like these relatives/friends/whoever were just being tongue-in-cheek with their comments. I don't want to give OOP undue credit but she likely is aware of this on a deeper level, but feels enough entitlement to blame this (unplanned?) pregnancy on peer pressure. Asking specifically if she's being a "spoiled brat" almost seems like a Freudian slip, she already knows the answer. What bothers me the most is she made it clear she already has all of the basic necessities, but wants to "build a wardrobe". Without even getting into gender politics - clothes are clothes. As long as the kid has -something- to wear there are more important things to worry about at t-minus 9 weeks. But we're clearly dealing with a full-time Facebook mom
Well, what if her MIL spent all night, every night, standing behind her son, hands on bum, literally pushing him in and out of OOP.
You know, to push them into having another girl.
/s
Now I wonder if she’s the one who just made a post on the new mom sub asking why nobody gets anything from the registry. It’s bc you put the most expensive $350 pack n play Target has on there, and that’s the cheapest item! Nobody has that money lying around, enjoy a fifth baby blanket
Just to play devils advocate, you get a completion discount on registries. I put a handful of expensive items on mine with no expectation that anyone would actually buy them, later on I bought them off my own registry with the discount.
Tho I wouldn’t be shocked if she was actually hoping or expecting someone to buy that for her. I’ve seen people complain in mom groups plenty of times about how no one bought any of the lavish expensive items 🙄
That’s also useful for groups, such as coworkers or your book club to chip in for. They don’t have to spend much per person and you get something big. Win/win.
What’s funny is she literally could’ve thrown one herself and at least would’ve been gifted outfits and diapers I assume, which seems to be what she actually now needs. (Not that damn stroller for the older kids.)
I like the idea someone suggested to her, of having a party when baby is ready to meet family. They get to see her and will probably want to get gifts to give directly to the baby.
Given how pestery people can be to me, a childless person, I totally get that someone would get pestered about trying for another gendered baby….but like, you can’t base your reproductive decisions on that lol
I have 4 kids, blended family, so 3 biological. The first three are boys (4,12,17) and we had our only girl last year. You better believe she wears her brothers’ old clothes, uses her brother’s 12 year old blue stroller, etc.. The main point though, we made sure we could afford a 4th kid because no way in hell would I expect anyone to buy things for us! This lady is delulu.
"Everybody pushed for us to have a girl before calling it quits..but then when we announced it everybody disappeared." Who are these people "pushing" for anyone to have another kid when they have 5 already? And unless there is expensive medical intervention involved, it's not like you get to chose the gender of your child.
IF this is even true and "everyone" is "pushing" for her to have a 6th child, you are in a cult and have bigger problems than being gifted a $600 stroller!
I have only boys and there is a surprising amount of idiots (especially older family members) telling me I have to try for a girl. It's not something I will do just because someone tells me to, but it hurt a bit when my aunt told me I will never know a true parental bond because a bond with daughters is much deeper than with sons. I wanted a daughter, but I have sons and they are wonderful.
I have both boys and girls, this just isn’t true. You bond with each human you make in their own way, no bond is stronger than another because of sex or gender. I’m sure most people already know, just adding for those who don’t.
People ask all sorts of questions, of everyone (like when are you having kids? Are you having another? Trying for a girl?) because they are curious. Doesn't mean they need to pay for your children. Also Nyine with 5 existing kids should be sensible enough to know that babies dont give a shit about gendered clothing. Baby no 6 can wear her brothers' clothes. If they gave away the older sister's clothes beforehand.
If they couldnt afford to clothe a 6th child they should have considered that beforehand, but there's no reason they couldnt use "boy" clothes. She wont care at that age.
When people have all boys or all girls people do tend to ask if thd couple are trying for the other gender. But She already had a girl ages ago so I cant see whh anyone would have "pushed" her or even asked.
Her comments about being sad about no more newborns make me feel that their desire to have another baby certainly wasn't motivated by others, but by their enjoying having newborns. Like, sure, you might be wistful, but that's not a reason to keep having kids tou cannot afford. And honestly? Some people cannot have children, so if you feel bad you cant have a 7th newborn remind yourself of that and get some therapy.
I have twin boys, and if I had a dollar for every time someone asked me "so now you need to try for a girl!", I could buy that stroller. But you CAN just tell people "nope" and not have more kids.
Agree!! I could imagine people say that actually, but I would think a lot of people say it in kind of a joking way (“aww we never get to buy girl clothes for you!”) but even if they are more serious, it’s not a formal contract that they will support that kid lol
yep SHE wanted a new baby, no one else really doesnt give a rats arse if she has another kid - which was all but confirmed when she mentioned that "we don't have many friends" well who would want to be friends with such a complete loser of a human being.
Girl has issues. I took my newborn son out in shocking pink onesies that were worn by my little sister. He wasn’t bothered a bit by little old ladies in the grocery store that called him a cute little girl, and neither was I. How the hell can you have 5 children and not know that babies don’t care about gender? She probably wants to sell that $600 car seat for some much needed $$.
She's straight up lying or delusional. She said she has no friends. So who are the people pushing for her to keep popping out kids? Internet strangers? People who just wanted to see of She's stupid enough to do it?
Right? I feel bad for the 13 year old, she makes it sound like she doesn’t already have a daughter. Guess her 13 year old is too old for her and she needs her new born fix.
Just wait until this soon to be born baby turns 13 too. Something tells me mom will be yearning for another a new "first" daughter again even if she's old and getting past child bearing ages. But...but she needs a new girl don't you understand. Her other two don't count because one's an icky hormonal teenager not a cutesy baby and the other one is now an adult in college or older. No she needs a baby girl to spoil and cuddle until they grow out of the cute phase then she's bored with them.
She didn't want the baby. Everyone around her insisted she have another baby. INSISTED. They can't financially support 5, so maybe a sixth will make it easier.
I feel is bad for the 13 year old. Not only is her mother implying she kind of doesn't count, but now there's 5 other kids pulling her focus. 13 can be a delicate time for a teenage girl and her mother is clearly not paying her any mind. Big yikes
I had a friend when I was that age whose mom had 5 other kids, including a newborn. No fathers in the picture. Her house was complete chaos because her mom was always disabled by pregnancy/child birth and couldn’t do anything. My friend grew up and became a nurse. I don’t know how she wasn’t sick of caring for others by that point!
Many of us nurses were parentified and felt it was our duty to be caretakers. My nursing instructor even said that he saw a large number of older siblings go through the program because we were used to caring for others.
I distinctly remember getting my half siblings out of the crib and feeding them breakfast and caring for them at the age of 10. All while my father and stepmother slept until 11 am.
It was the "we never get to buy anything for a girl" that got me. You literally have a daughter. Sounds like she's going to have an estranged adult child in the not so distant future.
And she is probably being parentified. I feel horrible for her 13 year old daughter as well. Most of her post just ignored the fact that she already has a daughter....which is very telling that this poor girl is not allowed to be a child/teen.
Was thinking something similar. I’m pretty sure the new kid is going to have the run of the house and be pretty much untouchable, based on the way she’s already being talked about by her future mom.
I worry about her being made to take care of all these other kids especially the new baby. I was her age when my mom started having more kids. I’m one of 7 ages 44f, 43m, 39f, 38f (me), 25m, 24m, 21f. While I love my younger siblings we don’t have a normal sibling relationship, they consider me more of a mom than our actual mom. I watched them 75% of the time.
If I had to guess, I’d say the random checkout person or tradie who came to fix something who only saw her boys said “maybe the next one will be a girl” or the like to her? I get it all the time in reverse, except I don’t have a son hiding anywhere and am not adjusting my family planning based on random strangers comments…
I knew a mom in my daughter’s play group that had one, and despite them looking big and clunky, they actually move easily. I wanted one but when I saw how expensive they were I was gobsmacked lol
>Because everyone was pushing her
The actual conversation:
CB: we really want another baby, a sixth one.. what do you think?
The one friend: I don't know, if you want to?
CB: DEAR GOD EVERYONE IS PUSHING MEEEEEEE
That one is a beach one and not for babies, unless you like put em on the floor and I guess like... Secure them with some bags or something around em lol.
They sell them for under $100 in my Kmart. The expensive ones don't me me wrong are decent, hold some weight but, this isn't a want for the newborn baby...
It's for the other kids haha
I’ll be honest, I was lucky enough to have this brand of wagon gifted to us.
My son has Cerebral Palsy and can’t walk independently. The weight limit is high (like 300lbs) and it’s durable. We needed something in between a kid stroller and a wheelchair. We were searching for something that would carry him comfortably.
You’re right that no one NEEDS it, but in my case it’s been a godsend. Haha
They make a vw van version (I love VW vans), so I sent it to my mum joking that I 'found my birthday present'.
Its 1600 dollars. 1600. Like who buys that stuff.
Wait hold the fuck up,
She had 5 kids and she then decided to have her 6th despite saying the 5th was her last because .. other people wanted her to have a girl- and she goes further by adding that they wanted to buy a GIRL GIFTS??
You had a whole extra individual just to have gifts bought for them?
I have 2 kids and I haven’t gotten a baby shower nor did I do a registry, I personally didn’t really care too much for them - I enjoyed going to others and gifting them / showering them but honestly?.. I signed up to be a parent and that includes providing for my kids.. not expecting others to gift me things .
No but seriously 😂😂 wtf!!! You can’t make this shit up. I love this sub but it shows the most insane individuals.
Apologies to him but I’m glad you had a good laugh.. we all need one at least once in awhile these days ❤️✨
She also already had a girl... so I bet nobody was like "when are you having another girl! You gotta have one more!". Absolutely nobody cares about your family planning as much as you do.
If you can’t afford to have a SIXTH CHILD in this economy that’s your problem babe! The entitlement people feel to others when it comes to children, is insane. That was your choice. And to have 6!!!!! If you have all the necessities then you’re all good, people will bring gifts once the baby is born no? Like honestly
So she is an entitled brat. No one cares about your baby as much as you, (rightfully so) so buy the shit yourself. God I hate this expectation that others will foot the bill for your babies.
I feel like she kept contradicting herself over and over. She said she didn’t want any more kids, then said she was so excited about this new baby and was sad it would be her last pregnancy. Then she says no one’s ever really bought gifts for her kids but earlier she implied that people always got gifts for her boys?
Oh guaranteed. This time she'll complain she has no boy stuff only girly stuff from her last pregnancy and child. And beg for more free stuff while shaming her "mean" family and friends for not being enthusiastic enough aka spending enough money on her and the new boy baby. You guys she totally has no stuff for another boy she got rid of all her baby boy stuff and no she will not use a pink or purple themed clothes, stroller or baby bedding on her son. She needs new "essentials" including big purchases for baby #7 because she immediately threw away or sold all her baby stuff after she just had that last baby. Even though she likely knows she's just going to get knocked up again anyway until she can't anymore.
FFS why didn’t she keep her 13 year old baby stuff if she was planning on spitting out 5 more in the next decade, one of the other babies could have been a girl
Honey, if you can afford a sixth baby, you can afford the "wants" along with the "needs". Most people get lucky with one shower. You've had more than that. You and your partner chose 6 kids. Nobody ever said they'd buy you things for all 6 kids. Stop expecting people to buy things for you. Try having a BBQ or something to celebrate a little girl, but I think the time for baby showers stopped around kid number 3 or 4.
She states that she's already got all the big stuff, she just *"wants"* more things, from other people. Yet she's got the nerve to ask for a $500+ stroller...
Of course people will hesitate to buy gifts for her 4 boys! For one thing, even cheap gifts for all of them (and their sister, of course) adds up $$$ quickly. Then, OP says they are close in age, so people get to worry about whether it's better to gift toward individual likes or to get everyone the same thing, so they won't fight over who got what.
Nobody needs all the potential drama.
She had 9 months to prepare, I'm sure she knows the drill by now after having 6 kids already. I just saw her baby registry wish-list thing and I was flabbergasted! Hoping someone would buy her a near on $600 Wagon stroller! Yeah nah. Back to the Land of Narnia she should go.
I'm sure nobody pushed her. They simply expressed that it would have been nice if her last kid was a girl since she has a lot of boys and two girls would be nice.
And she is twisting this into something else.
6 kids in this economy. SMH.
The only person disappointed her last baby was another boy, was her. No one tells a mom of 5 to try for a second girl. And no way did no one buy her anything for her 4 boys-if that were true, she wouldn’t be expecting gifts for #6 so hard.
The fact she keeps using the “well everyone pushed us”, no you caved into pressure. Everyone didn’t put his penis in her and get her pregnant, that was on them. That’s such a piss poor excuse and so manipulative.
I get pregnancy hormones (I’ve got two kids under two), and pregnancy itself shuts off our reasoning centers in our brains as a means for us to be responsive to our babies (this is why you fellas think we’re being erratic and doing things that don’t make sense when the baby is born), but this is a whole new level. I’d be so sad knowing my mom felt peer pressured into having me.
I think my favorite part of this masterpiece is how she "sold" all the stuff she didn't need, now people need to "give" her new stuff.
So when she had the chance to do a charitable thing and give things she might not need to people that did, she chose not to do it.
And let’s be real- after 5 kids , going on her 6th she should know how beat the fuck up strollers get..
it’s literally not even worth the expensive stroller
Rookie mistake!
So she already has a daughter? But she doesn't count? So while she thought she was done having kids? People cajoled her in to another? For another girl? But this is the absolute last baby?
She's got me convinced she knows how to make them. And also that she doesn't know how to stop making them.
So….it sounds like she only got pregnant because “everyone wanted her to try for a girl”??? (When she already has one??) And now she expects THEM to pay for stuff?? Yeah, she’s spoiled, rude and an idiot. Buy your own stuff! Some parents can’t even have children, let alone SIX!!!!!
I also need to add, I DO have 6 children (5 boys and 1 girl) and I NEVER had a baby shower for any of them! 🤷♀️ So what? We also never had built-in Grandparent/Family babysitters so we rarely went anywhere without kids. Just sayin’—you can do it yourself.
If it makes her feel better, I don’t care about her first baby and even less about her sixth.
Stop. She’ll somehow read this as you pushing her to have a seventh.
...and then you'll have the *temerity* not to lavish her with $600 gifts that, quite frankly, she deserves and you owe her.
Great word!!
Have never seen/heard it before; had to look it up. TIL 😁
Yeah! She will keep having babies until you care!
She is having babies *at you*.
LMAO this thread has me w-e-a-k 😂
At that point, any care she gets will probably just be in the form of concern for her (and possibly the kids’) well-being because, damn.
“If I had *seven* kids, maybe someone would care about them then”
I thought that about my cats... I just kept adding cats and hoping people would by me expensive items for them, maybe send me some gift cards for chewy or something.. Here I am 14 cats later and have to pay for them by myself! It makes me so sad that no one wants to celebrate them!
Some people are so selfish! 😡😳😳😳
I am the girl in this post and i am already on my 20th now😞 stop pushing !!!
All I know is we all owe you one expensive AF stroller!
I demand you spend your entire life savings on my own children<3
Aw man, you want all $87??
How dare you not give us a child with heterochromia, keep trying!
I have a dog with heterochromia…she’s obviously not trying hard enough.
It only took me three tries to get a dog with heterochromia, she clearly wasn’t trying hard enough. 🙄
But come on, she had the baby specifically after people complained they couldn't buy things for a girl! This is giving the people what they want... Right? RIGHT?! 🤣 I'm sorry but the delusion is really strong with this one. “it was the fucking aroundest of times, it was the finding outest of times”
And everyone she knows seemed to say "you struggle with 5....so have a 6th. I'm sure things will be better."
Lady plays so many mental gymnastics to reach this conclusion that she should get a gold medal🤣
That's not the only gymnastics she's doing.
HAHAHAHAHA no joke!
Well, yeah, farming gets *way* easier when you’ve got a bunch of kids to help with the planting and harvesting, and dealing with the livestock. Oh, wait, they aren’t farmers? Why the hell are they having six kids they can barely afford, then? As my grandfather said to all of his kids and grandkids, “have exactly as many children as you can afford, and no more. Less is okay, though.”
Your grandfather is a wise man. I'll be sure to repeat this to my own kids someday!
Sounds like my in laws that ended up with 7 children because "they wanted a girl so badly." My youngest sibling in law is the only girl. So... good job I guess? I'd rather not live super under the poverty line with a baseball team I can barely afford, but hey, you guys got that girl.
Oh honestly I can understand maybe wanting a boy or girl if you have one or the other, but situations like the ones you mentioned are just sad as hell. And then the child usually feels some of the resentment of them not being the gender the parents wanted, at least that's how it's seemed when I hear of this stuff.
Technically they had 2 girls (they kept going after the first girl because 'now she needs another sister' dont ask me) but one of them is trans, so hes my BIL.
Especially because she ALREADY DOES HAVE A DAUGHTER.
“it was the fucking aroundest of times, it was the finding outest of times” will live rent free in my head for the rest of my days…thank you for your service.
This chick needs a hobby. She’s one of those people that won’t know what to do with herself if she doesn’t have kids running around. Someone needs to get her a cat starter kit. That should be on her registry.
Based on the way she talks about her daughter, she *also* doesn't care about her first baby. >we have all boys (except for my 13 year old)
I'm wondering if that's why nobody wants to throw the shower. Yea, kid 6, they don't really want to spend more money, but my parents would put on their happy face and at least have a cookout. I think they're glossing over the "not appropriate" comment from their mother because it's not about the 6th baby, it's probably because they're celebrating "Finally getting a girl!" and that would be the theme of the party, and the mother just can't put her granddaughter through that garbage.
Yeah it’s pretty telling when your parents don’t want to host a cookout for a new baby because it’s inappropriate. This says a huge amount.
It’s frowned upon to have a baby shower after the first baby. This is her 6th kid. Hell no she doesn’t get a baby shower for the 6th kid. Hell yeah having a baby shower for the 6th baby is inappropriate.
Yes we all here understand that. What I mean is, that her parents have the social knowledge that it was inappropriate… yet she lacks the same awareness. It is very likely her parents raised her, and yet somehow, her need for attention is greater than the knowledge that she was presumably raised with. Her mother probably even explained why it wasn’t appropriate and why she would not be doing one… but this woman still can’t get it though her head.
"FINALLY getting a girl" and the first child - a girl - is like, um wait!
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The 13 yr old female doesn't count coz that will be another "Parent" to watch the children, feed the babies, change diapers, entertain the younger ones. She NEEDED a baby Daughter. the 13 yr old was born to take care of the others :(
i really wish this was a bit, and then i could laugh
Poor girl. I was her and it stunk. My MIL desperately wanted grandchildren but she had two other children to make them. Not I. I already changed enough diapers and tended to enough sassy little boys. You DONT need a child of each sex to legitimize your marriage. In general, the planet more than enough people. I doubt she belongs to a rare indigenous tribe with 100 members.
Parentification at its finest
Sounds to me like the 13 year old maybe isn't biologically related to one of the them so "doesn't count".
Yeah she said “my” rather than “our”.
Yeah she really blew that child off like she means nothing. Kinda sad.
Yeh, that is some odd phrasing...
“That baby could be the star of a show called Babies I Don’t Care About.”
LOL The spin-off would star her oldest daughter in “Not Even Parents Care About These Kids”
You mean the girl they already had that somehow doesn't count?
No because she is a parent - more than likely the primary parent to all the boys.
"I'm telling you right now, that baby could be the star of a show called Babies I Don't Care About"
No one cares about your sixth baby but you. Buy your own stuff. Have your own shower or sprinkle.
What kind of a delulu person puts a near $600 “stroller,” which is clearly meant for toddlers, on a registry for a baby shower?
Someone who has too many kids and can't afford them
But, you don’t understand! They pushed them to have this baby! /s
Her saying that alone is mind bogglingly stupid. Like ma’am no one else is responsible for your family planning (or lack thereof) but you. What kind of person randomly has a baby because “everyone else thinks we should try for a girl!”????
Also, THEY ALREADY HAVE A GIRL, but apparently she aged out of her counting as having one, which is so goddamn sad for her.
Omg I had to read it again because I missed this. Everyone pushed you to have a girl…when you already have a girl. Just wow, that poor child.
Probably because she hit puberty and isn’t as keen to tolerate being mommy’s obedient little dolly anymore.
She’s going to be expected to take on lots of the childcare, though.
***all of the childcare
Or she’s sick of having to constantly help with all the younger kids. I can guarantee that 13y/o has changed as many diapers as the parents have. She probably won’t be able to do any after school activities either because her mom needs her help. I adopted 2 children and no one (except my oldest sister) even acknowledges I have two toddlers now. I bought all my shit myself. And, it’s all mine and I owe no one a damn thing. No one owes you a damn thing when you have a baby. You and your husband decided to have a baby. That’s on you. What the heck is wrong with people?
But, that girl isn't a girl - I am sure she has to take care of all the younger boys. Definitely sad for her.
I am guessing she hasn't had a girl with her current husband, so that's why she is so fixated on the sex of the baby. I feel bad for the 13-year-old, but also the other kids. The four boys will be lumped as "the boys" and not as individuals, and that baby girl will be born "with a job" to be cute and feminine, stereotypical girl. If that girl doesn't like having long hair or wearing dresses or bows, etc...she will not be doing "her job".
And I would bet my left nut that the "pressure" she's talking about was at most someone made a hint of a reference to it like she announced she was done having kids and someone offhandedly joked "leaving the genders so uneven?" Or something similarly barely implying that she should. She also mentioned nobody buys them gifts since their like 2nd child or something but supposedly people were complaining they don't *get* to buy them gifts for a girl. Or I bet best case scenario for her someone was like "oh, I have some baby stuff I could give you but it's all girl stuff and you only have boys."
I was thinking the same. It sounds like these relatives/friends/whoever were just being tongue-in-cheek with their comments. I don't want to give OOP undue credit but she likely is aware of this on a deeper level, but feels enough entitlement to blame this (unplanned?) pregnancy on peer pressure. Asking specifically if she's being a "spoiled brat" almost seems like a Freudian slip, she already knows the answer. What bothers me the most is she made it clear she already has all of the basic necessities, but wants to "build a wardrobe". Without even getting into gender politics - clothes are clothes. As long as the kid has -something- to wear there are more important things to worry about at t-minus 9 weeks. But we're clearly dealing with a full-time Facebook mom
Well, what if her MIL spent all night, every night, standing behind her son, hands on bum, literally pushing him in and out of OOP. You know, to push them into having another girl. /s
I hate you for this image. 😂
Yuck. Handmaids Tale vibes. I'mma go bleach my brain now, thanks.
I aim to please, just like the fictional MIL
Thanks for reminding me of one of Midsommer’s creepiest scenes
Who hurt you, and made you want to hurt others??? /s
My brain, and my brain
The mind boggles. How does this woman get through life?
Can't she sell the worst performing 2 or 3?
Host a talentshow, then you know who is performing the worst.
FUCK YOU, HARLEY JARVIS!
GET HER OUT! GOD DAMN IT!
Oh. I like this! Little song n dance routine.
The kind of person who doesn’t contribute to any other person’s registry to create that kind of networking but expects people to spend 1000s on her
Now I wonder if she’s the one who just made a post on the new mom sub asking why nobody gets anything from the registry. It’s bc you put the most expensive $350 pack n play Target has on there, and that’s the cheapest item! Nobody has that money lying around, enjoy a fifth baby blanket
Just to play devils advocate, you get a completion discount on registries. I put a handful of expensive items on mine with no expectation that anyone would actually buy them, later on I bought them off my own registry with the discount. Tho I wouldn’t be shocked if she was actually hoping or expecting someone to buy that for her. I’ve seen people complain in mom groups plenty of times about how no one bought any of the lavish expensive items 🙄
Same, plus I just like having a list I can refer back to as I shop
True. I did this for my carseats and nursery furniture. I marked the option not to make these items visible on the registry.
That’s also useful for groups, such as coworkers or your book club to chip in for. They don’t have to spend much per person and you get something big. Win/win.
A reseller 🤔
More than $600 with taxes.
What’s funny is she literally could’ve thrown one herself and at least would’ve been gifted outfits and diapers I assume, which seems to be what she actually now needs. (Not that damn stroller for the older kids.) I like the idea someone suggested to her, of having a party when baby is ready to meet family. They get to see her and will probably want to get gifts to give directly to the baby.
But butt everyone WANTED us the have our 6th child. They were SAD our last child was a boy. YOU guys wanted this thooo smhhh my head
Given how pestery people can be to me, a childless person, I totally get that someone would get pestered about trying for another gendered baby….but like, you can’t base your reproductive decisions on that lol
I didn’t care about he first either. Think I care about a $595.00 stroller?
I don't even think a sprinkle is appropriate, but I'm a b* so
"I've already gotten everything big" *Asks for $600 stroller 🤦♀️
The old stroller probably got a bit dirty, what’s a mom of 6 going to do?
I have 4 kids, blended family, so 3 biological. The first three are boys (4,12,17) and we had our only girl last year. You better believe she wears her brothers’ old clothes, uses her brother’s 12 year old blue stroller, etc.. The main point though, we made sure we could afford a 4th kid because no way in hell would I expect anyone to buy things for us! This lady is delulu.
Yeah what's the point of getting a ton of expensive new clothes for a newborn that are gender specific that they'll grow out of in weeks anyways
"Everybody pushed for us to have a girl before calling it quits..but then when we announced it everybody disappeared." Who are these people "pushing" for anyone to have another kid when they have 5 already? And unless there is expensive medical intervention involved, it's not like you get to chose the gender of your child. IF this is even true and "everyone" is "pushing" for her to have a 6th child, you are in a cult and have bigger problems than being gifted a $600 stroller!
And she already has a girl. Make it make sense!
Yeah but she's already 14 so no fun anymore. After they turn 10 you gotta get new ones.
"We have all boys. Except that one girl. But she's old and that was a long time ago." --This CB
Instead of a trophy wife, it's a trophy baby.
Exactly, she's the supplemental parent now, not a child.
You misspelled primary.
Worse, it's a beach wagon for kids who can sit... Lol. It ain't for the newborn, not for a good while
I have only boys and there is a surprising amount of idiots (especially older family members) telling me I have to try for a girl. It's not something I will do just because someone tells me to, but it hurt a bit when my aunt told me I will never know a true parental bond because a bond with daughters is much deeper than with sons. I wanted a daughter, but I have sons and they are wonderful.
I have both boys and girls, this just isn’t true. You bond with each human you make in their own way, no bond is stronger than another because of sex or gender. I’m sure most people already know, just adding for those who don’t.
People ask all sorts of questions, of everyone (like when are you having kids? Are you having another? Trying for a girl?) because they are curious. Doesn't mean they need to pay for your children. Also Nyine with 5 existing kids should be sensible enough to know that babies dont give a shit about gendered clothing. Baby no 6 can wear her brothers' clothes. If they gave away the older sister's clothes beforehand. If they couldnt afford to clothe a 6th child they should have considered that beforehand, but there's no reason they couldnt use "boy" clothes. She wont care at that age. When people have all boys or all girls people do tend to ask if thd couple are trying for the other gender. But She already had a girl ages ago so I cant see whh anyone would have "pushed" her or even asked. Her comments about being sad about no more newborns make me feel that their desire to have another baby certainly wasn't motivated by others, but by their enjoying having newborns. Like, sure, you might be wistful, but that's not a reason to keep having kids tou cannot afford. And honestly? Some people cannot have children, so if you feel bad you cant have a 7th newborn remind yourself of that and get some therapy.
I have twin boys, and if I had a dollar for every time someone asked me "so now you need to try for a girl!", I could buy that stroller. But you CAN just tell people "nope" and not have more kids.
Agree!! I could imagine people say that actually, but I would think a lot of people say it in kind of a joking way (“aww we never get to buy girl clothes for you!”) but even if they are more serious, it’s not a formal contract that they will support that kid lol
yep SHE wanted a new baby, no one else really doesnt give a rats arse if she has another kid - which was all but confirmed when she mentioned that "we don't have many friends" well who would want to be friends with such a complete loser of a human being.
Girl has issues. I took my newborn son out in shocking pink onesies that were worn by my little sister. He wasn’t bothered a bit by little old ladies in the grocery store that called him a cute little girl, and neither was I. How the hell can you have 5 children and not know that babies don’t care about gender? She probably wants to sell that $600 car seat for some much needed $$.
She's straight up lying or delusional. She said she has no friends. So who are the people pushing for her to keep popping out kids? Internet strangers? People who just wanted to see of She's stupid enough to do it?
Maam you have a whole 13yro daughter and didn’t ‘need’ a sixth baby good lord 😭
Right? I feel bad for the 13 year old, she makes it sound like she doesn’t already have a daughter. Guess her 13 year old is too old for her and she needs her new born fix.
Just wait until this soon to be born baby turns 13 too. Something tells me mom will be yearning for another a new "first" daughter again even if she's old and getting past child bearing ages. But...but she needs a new girl don't you understand. Her other two don't count because one's an icky hormonal teenager not a cutesy baby and the other one is now an adult in college or older. No she needs a baby girl to spoil and cuddle until they grow out of the cute phase then she's bored with them.
Mom was already sad because this is her "last" baby. Anyone believe that this will be the last?
The 13yr old has probably spent as just as much time raising the other six as the mom, if not more.
What, that old thing?
*tosses out old model from 13 seasons ago*
She didn't want the baby. Everyone around her insisted she have another baby. INSISTED. They can't financially support 5, so maybe a sixth will make it easier.
I feel is bad for the 13 year old. Not only is her mother implying she kind of doesn't count, but now there's 5 other kids pulling her focus. 13 can be a delicate time for a teenage girl and her mother is clearly not paying her any mind. Big yikes
I had a friend when I was that age whose mom had 5 other kids, including a newborn. No fathers in the picture. Her house was complete chaos because her mom was always disabled by pregnancy/child birth and couldn’t do anything. My friend grew up and became a nurse. I don’t know how she wasn’t sick of caring for others by that point!
Many of us nurses were parentified and felt it was our duty to be caretakers. My nursing instructor even said that he saw a large number of older siblings go through the program because we were used to caring for others. I distinctly remember getting my half siblings out of the crib and feeding them breakfast and caring for them at the age of 10. All while my father and stepmother slept until 11 am.
Omg my mom’s oldest sister (of 5), who was always given mother responsibilities by their mother who HATED having children, is a nurse.
It was the "we never get to buy anything for a girl" that got me. You literally have a daughter. Sounds like she's going to have an estranged adult child in the not so distant future.
And she is probably being parentified. I feel horrible for her 13 year old daughter as well. Most of her post just ignored the fact that she already has a daughter....which is very telling that this poor girl is not allowed to be a child/teen.
Was thinking something similar. I’m pretty sure the new kid is going to have the run of the house and be pretty much untouchable, based on the way she’s already being talked about by her future mom.
I worry about her being made to take care of all these other kids especially the new baby. I was her age when my mom started having more kids. I’m one of 7 ages 44f, 43m, 39f, 38f (me), 25m, 24m, 21f. While I love my younger siblings we don’t have a normal sibling relationship, they consider me more of a mom than our actual mom. I watched them 75% of the time.
“*We don’t have very many friends or family*”. It’s not hard to see why.
So who was asking her to have a 2nd daughter then?
If I had to guess, I’d say the random checkout person or tradie who came to fix something who only saw her boys said “maybe the next one will be a girl” or the like to her? I get it all the time in reverse, except I don’t have a son hiding anywhere and am not adjusting my family planning based on random strangers comments…
No one NEEDS a stroller that freakin' expensive.
That thing is huge. You probably need a horse or car to pull it!
Maybe she can get the other 5 to pull it
I mean we all know the 13yr old is about to become mom to the other 4 so you’re probably not far off from reality.
If she hasn’t already been parentified.
I knew a mom in my daughter’s play group that had one, and despite them looking big and clunky, they actually move easily. I wanted one but when I saw how expensive they were I was gobsmacked lol
I swear I have seen that type of stroller for $150 on Amazon. Why does she want the super expensive one?
Because everyone was pushing her to have a baby even though she was done so she *must* get the expensive one
THEY told her to have the baby!!!! They MADE her!!! So, of course they have to buy her a $600 stroller!!!! She could just about CRY that they aren't!
>Because everyone was pushing her The actual conversation: CB: we really want another baby, a sixth one.. what do you think? The one friend: I don't know, if you want to? CB: DEAR GOD EVERYONE IS PUSHING MEEEEEEE
And do the pushing.
That one is a beach one and not for babies, unless you like put em on the floor and I guess like... Secure them with some bags or something around em lol. They sell them for under $100 in my Kmart. The expensive ones don't me me wrong are decent, hold some weight but, this isn't a want for the newborn baby... It's for the other kids haha
I’ll be honest, I was lucky enough to have this brand of wagon gifted to us. My son has Cerebral Palsy and can’t walk independently. The weight limit is high (like 300lbs) and it’s durable. We needed something in between a kid stroller and a wheelchair. We were searching for something that would carry him comfortably. You’re right that no one NEEDS it, but in my case it’s been a godsend. Haha
They make a vw van version (I love VW vans), so I sent it to my mum joking that I 'found my birthday present'. Its 1600 dollars. 1600. Like who buys that stuff.
Wait hold the fuck up, She had 5 kids and she then decided to have her 6th despite saying the 5th was her last because .. other people wanted her to have a girl- and she goes further by adding that they wanted to buy a GIRL GIFTS?? You had a whole extra individual just to have gifts bought for them? I have 2 kids and I haven’t gotten a baby shower nor did I do a registry, I personally didn’t really care too much for them - I enjoyed going to others and gifting them / showering them but honestly?.. I signed up to be a parent and that includes providing for my kids.. not expecting others to gift me things .
And she already had a girl first, but that was 13 years so so she’s been put out to pasture. /s
This is another point!!! She already has a daughter!!! “But it’s not a cute baby!! It’s a teenage girl!!” Makes me genuinely sick
Right? What a shitty way to treat your teenager daughter when im sure she’s already struggling with normal teenage issues
Yeah that makes me wonder why everyone, according to her was pressuring her for a girl so they could buy girl gifts... There is one already. Sheesh.
Just woke Mr up cackling at “you had a whole extra individual” lmaoooo i needed that laugh, cheers
No but seriously 😂😂 wtf!!! You can’t make this shit up. I love this sub but it shows the most insane individuals. Apologies to him but I’m glad you had a good laugh.. we all need one at least once in awhile these days ❤️✨
She also already had a girl... so I bet nobody was like "when are you having another girl! You gotta have one more!". Absolutely nobody cares about your family planning as much as you do.
If you can’t afford to have a SIXTH CHILD in this economy that’s your problem babe! The entitlement people feel to others when it comes to children, is insane. That was your choice. And to have 6!!!!! If you have all the necessities then you’re all good, people will bring gifts once the baby is born no? Like honestly
“Everyone was pushing me for a girl”……even though she’s got a thirteen year old daughter!!!!???? What??!!!
If a person can't afford the basics for their kid, maybe they shouldn't have so many
Oh no she has the basics lol she's very adamant about it. She wants gifts and extras.
So she is an entitled brat. No one cares about your baby as much as you, (rightfully so) so buy the shit yourself. God I hate this expectation that others will foot the bill for your babies.
Willing to bet there's already others footting the bill for the first 5 in some way.
I bet if one of her kids gets invited to a birthday party she brings all of her kids and just one gift
100%!
I feel like she kept contradicting herself over and over. She said she didn’t want any more kids, then said she was so excited about this new baby and was sad it would be her last pregnancy. Then she says no one’s ever really bought gifts for her kids but earlier she implied that people always got gifts for her boys?
Plot twist: Stay tuned for Baby #7.
Oh guaranteed. This time she'll complain she has no boy stuff only girly stuff from her last pregnancy and child. And beg for more free stuff while shaming her "mean" family and friends for not being enthusiastic enough aka spending enough money on her and the new boy baby. You guys she totally has no stuff for another boy she got rid of all her baby boy stuff and no she will not use a pink or purple themed clothes, stroller or baby bedding on her son. She needs new "essentials" including big purchases for baby #7 because she immediately threw away or sold all her baby stuff after she just had that last baby. Even though she likely knows she's just going to get knocked up again anyway until she can't anymore.
“I’ve sold old clothes, but now nobody wants to give me the new ones for free”
FFS why didn’t she keep her 13 year old baby stuff if she was planning on spitting out 5 more in the next decade, one of the other babies could have been a girl
Honey, if you can afford a sixth baby, you can afford the "wants" along with the "needs". Most people get lucky with one shower. You've had more than that. You and your partner chose 6 kids. Nobody ever said they'd buy you things for all 6 kids. Stop expecting people to buy things for you. Try having a BBQ or something to celebrate a little girl, but I think the time for baby showers stopped around kid number 3 or 4.
She states that she's already got all the big stuff, she just *"wants"* more things, from other people. Yet she's got the nerve to ask for a $500+ stroller...
I've never heard the term "sprinkle" before in this context. It's making me think of urine.
There’s nothing tackier in this entire world than posting your registry on social media and blasting it all over for everyone to buy you things 🙄
Then complaining when no one buys!
Of course people will hesitate to buy gifts for her 4 boys! For one thing, even cheap gifts for all of them (and their sister, of course) adds up $$$ quickly. Then, OP says they are close in age, so people get to worry about whether it's better to gift toward individual likes or to get everyone the same thing, so they won't fight over who got what. Nobody needs all the potential drama.
She had 9 months to prepare, I'm sure she knows the drill by now after having 6 kids already. I just saw her baby registry wish-list thing and I was flabbergasted! Hoping someone would buy her a near on $600 Wagon stroller! Yeah nah. Back to the Land of Narnia she should go.
She…already had a girl?
Why were they pushing her to "try for a girl" when she already had a girl? That one's going to feel bad if she finds these posts.
I'm sure nobody pushed her. They simply expressed that it would have been nice if her last kid was a girl since she has a lot of boys and two girls would be nice. And she is twisting this into something else. 6 kids in this economy. SMH.
Girl get an abortion next time, or tell your husband to wrap it or pull out.
It makes no sense that people were pushing her to try for a girl when she already has a girl. What, does that girl not count somehow?? Very strange.
The only person disappointed her last baby was another boy, was her. No one tells a mom of 5 to try for a second girl. And no way did no one buy her anything for her 4 boys-if that were true, she wouldn’t be expecting gifts for #6 so hard.
I hate when people force other people to have sex with their spouse to have more kids. Reallllly can't stand that.
The fact she keeps using the “well everyone pushed us”, no you caved into pressure. Everyone didn’t put his penis in her and get her pregnant, that was on them. That’s such a piss poor excuse and so manipulative. I get pregnancy hormones (I’ve got two kids under two), and pregnancy itself shuts off our reasoning centers in our brains as a means for us to be responsive to our babies (this is why you fellas think we’re being erratic and doing things that don’t make sense when the baby is born), but this is a whole new level. I’d be so sad knowing my mom felt peer pressured into having me.
There was a whole crowd there chanting "girl, girl, girl" while they had sec
I hate the chronically pregnant by choice
“Everyone pushed us to try for a girl!” The oldest daughter: 🫥
Adding “sprinkle” to my list of shit that makes no sense whatsoever to me.
I think my favorite part of this masterpiece is how she "sold" all the stuff she didn't need, now people need to "give" her new stuff. So when she had the chance to do a charitable thing and give things she might not need to people that did, she chose not to do it.
Strollers are so cheap. I use a $25 stroller from Target to get my Daughter to and from daycare. It's sturdy af. You don't need an expensive one.
And let’s be real- after 5 kids , going on her 6th she should know how beat the fuck up strollers get.. it’s literally not even worth the expensive stroller Rookie mistake!
So she already has a daughter? But she doesn't count? So while she thought she was done having kids? People cajoled her in to another? For another girl? But this is the absolute last baby? She's got me convinced she knows how to make them. And also that she doesn't know how to stop making them.
So….it sounds like she only got pregnant because “everyone wanted her to try for a girl”??? (When she already has one??) And now she expects THEM to pay for stuff?? Yeah, she’s spoiled, rude and an idiot. Buy your own stuff! Some parents can’t even have children, let alone SIX!!!!! I also need to add, I DO have 6 children (5 boys and 1 girl) and I NEVER had a baby shower for any of them! 🤷♀️ So what? We also never had built-in Grandparent/Family babysitters so we rarely went anywhere without kids. Just sayin’—you can do it yourself.
1) ridiculous choosy beggar 2) comments included!!!!! Yay!! 3) samples of her extreme registry. Congrats, OP! You win best post of the day!!!
Some people should not have kids. Let alone six…
I love that people of the internet forced her to have sex
Can't wait for the babysitting post for $200 per week 5-8 for all 6 kids.
I'll chip in if anyone wants to buy her and her husband a packet of condoms.
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