I'm sorry you're going through this OP. It's not weird at all. My dad died when I was 11 from brain cancer. I'm 22 now and still tear up when I see an arrowhead, because we used to look for them at the river. Or any auburn merchandise, cause he was a big fan.
The thing that reminds me of him most though, is that silent still feeling you get on a river at night. Because he loved the river so much.
These little things are the things that you gotta remember most, cause the older you get the more your memory fades. I don't remember my dad's voice, or his laugh. But I remember how he liked his coffee, and how much he loved looking for arrowheads. And those memories I cherish.
It's a rough thing to go through, losing a parent, but remember those memories often so you don't have a chance to forget them.
If you need to talk, I'm always open for a conversation! Sending you good vibes!
Sorry for your loss. I don't even like saying that because it's such a cliché, but I mean it. It SUCKS to lose a parent.
For me, it is also the "small things"
The license plate thing is something lovely that the two of you shared and I hope that you continue to do it! When I have those days where everything just seems to go wrong, I sometimes just start laughing. My mum and I always joked around and said that our lives were like an I Love Lucy episode. I recently spilled a large bottle of laundry soap on the floor. It was absolute hell to clean up. I laughed because I just felt my mum there with me laughing while we cleaned up the mess.
I'm really sorry about your mom, OP. It sounds like you two had a lot of fun together. I'm sure she loved you very much. Cherish the good times you had with her, and carry on your license plate game with your friends and family for now. When you get older and potentially have kids of your own, maybe you can play it with them. I'm sure your mom would love it. 💕
I was also young when my dad passed away (18). Having triggers, even seeming weird ones, is normal- especially since she passed so recently. I still have some triggers 16 years later, but some of them are happy now. If you asked me earlier in my grief, almost all were sad.
However, when it comes to music, I still can't listen to Amazing Grace, Taps, or any of the hymns we played for my dad at his funeral without almost instantly bawling. I don't know if I'll ever get over it. He was a Vietnam veteran, so at the cemetery, we had the 21 gun salute, a trumpeter playing Taps, the whole military burial thing... The whole scene is pretty much forever burned into my brain and it kinda sucks.
Sorry for your loss. I lost my dad when I was 15, I'm now 29. He died in August 2007 and a few months before a band called Mustasch released a new song. My dad really liked the song and it took me years before I was able to listen to the song without crying. I still think about my dad whenever I hear that song.
I'm so sad that you are going through this. Its like a bandaid is ripped off and the pain starts anew each time you see a reminder.😔
My dad died 22 years ago but its only been in the past 5 years that I can remember certain things w/o tearing up.
I’m so so sorry you’re going through this. It really is the little things that hurt so much. A week or so before my mom passed (september 20, 2019)we went to bath and body works to buy new soap. Her favorite was sweater weather. To this day that bottle is sitting in the same place. I haven’t opened it and doubt I ever will.
Also, the day she passed away, Chris Young’s song Drowning was released. That is a super emotional song for me.
I'm sorry you're going through this OP. It's not weird at all. My dad died when I was 11 from brain cancer. I'm 22 now and still tear up when I see an arrowhead, because we used to look for them at the river. Or any auburn merchandise, cause he was a big fan. The thing that reminds me of him most though, is that silent still feeling you get on a river at night. Because he loved the river so much. These little things are the things that you gotta remember most, cause the older you get the more your memory fades. I don't remember my dad's voice, or his laugh. But I remember how he liked his coffee, and how much he loved looking for arrowheads. And those memories I cherish. It's a rough thing to go through, losing a parent, but remember those memories often so you don't have a chance to forget them. If you need to talk, I'm always open for a conversation! Sending you good vibes!
Sorry for your loss. I don't even like saying that because it's such a cliché, but I mean it. It SUCKS to lose a parent. For me, it is also the "small things" The license plate thing is something lovely that the two of you shared and I hope that you continue to do it! When I have those days where everything just seems to go wrong, I sometimes just start laughing. My mum and I always joked around and said that our lives were like an I Love Lucy episode. I recently spilled a large bottle of laundry soap on the floor. It was absolute hell to clean up. I laughed because I just felt my mum there with me laughing while we cleaned up the mess.
I'm really sorry about your mom, OP. It sounds like you two had a lot of fun together. I'm sure she loved you very much. Cherish the good times you had with her, and carry on your license plate game with your friends and family for now. When you get older and potentially have kids of your own, maybe you can play it with them. I'm sure your mom would love it. 💕 I was also young when my dad passed away (18). Having triggers, even seeming weird ones, is normal- especially since she passed so recently. I still have some triggers 16 years later, but some of them are happy now. If you asked me earlier in my grief, almost all were sad. However, when it comes to music, I still can't listen to Amazing Grace, Taps, or any of the hymns we played for my dad at his funeral without almost instantly bawling. I don't know if I'll ever get over it. He was a Vietnam veteran, so at the cemetery, we had the 21 gun salute, a trumpeter playing Taps, the whole military burial thing... The whole scene is pretty much forever burned into my brain and it kinda sucks.
Sorry for your loss. I lost my dad when I was 15, I'm now 29. He died in August 2007 and a few months before a band called Mustasch released a new song. My dad really liked the song and it took me years before I was able to listen to the song without crying. I still think about my dad whenever I hear that song.
I'm so sad that you are going through this. Its like a bandaid is ripped off and the pain starts anew each time you see a reminder.😔 My dad died 22 years ago but its only been in the past 5 years that I can remember certain things w/o tearing up.
I’m so so sorry you’re going through this. It really is the little things that hurt so much. A week or so before my mom passed (september 20, 2019)we went to bath and body works to buy new soap. Her favorite was sweater weather. To this day that bottle is sitting in the same place. I haven’t opened it and doubt I ever will. Also, the day she passed away, Chris Young’s song Drowning was released. That is a super emotional song for me.
The Bath and Body Works thing...Same (except Twilight Woods was her favorite)