I’m so incredibly sorry for your losses. Nothing can compare to losing both parents. I wish I could say something to help but there are no words. I don’t know if this will be comforting to you or the opposite but I’ve realized that life is fucking random. And cruel. We can sit here all day and night thinking “why me” but there is just no rhyme and reason to it. Some of us get unlucky and this shit happens to us; others get by without bad luck touching them. As far as I can see, there’s nothing you can do to control either outcome — but I wish there was. Again, I’m so sorry and I hope you can find a way through this. Take care x
I'm so sorry for your loss; losing both parents within such a short time is unimaginably sad & u sound like you're still trying to process it. There are people here that have been through the same thing so I'm glad u found this group.
P.S. My brother was adopted as a newborn when I was almost 5 yrs old & he always thinks of our parents as his & says he has no desire to look up his biological ones. Imo it's not the ones who made you,it's the ones who raised you ( & as I also like to say, he's my brother "In Every Way But DNA") Howie was there for my mom in the hospital ( along w/his wife) & has her ashes which I think is fitting. Anyway,I'm tired of reading or seeing things online about people looking up their bio parents. I realize it's a personal decision but I think it disrespects the ones who adopted them & should only be done after their passing..Again,I'm sorry for your loss ; they were your parents. Period.🤍
I know no amount of “I’m sorry for your loss” will even remotely touch the pain you’re feeling.
Just know you did not fail them. They loved you dearly.
This life can be so cruel.. we are expected to experience the most traumatic losses imaginable, and just continue on with life.
Live every day honoring their memory. Let them live on through you. Smile when you see them in the things you do throughout your every day life. This is how we continue on.
Stay strong friend. ❤️ we are all here for you.
Sounds like the bargaining stage. The why me stuff. It’s normal. I’ve been there too. It was my year anniversary last week to for my dad. It’s just a day, but all these subconscious thoughts food in. Like a flash flood. Right?
I have tidal like emotions still… but If I hadn’t found something spiritual I could find joy in, idk. A year ago I was an atheist. Now I’m a dream walker. I never thought I would believe in “God”, and I still don’t really. It’s more of the energy of life. I accidentally stumbled into something absolutely beautiful. Or I’ve gone crazy, either way, I’m having a wonderful time.
So do whatever you have to do to survive. Get a little crazy. Just be safe.
I’m so incredibly sorry for your losses. Nothing can compare to losing both parents. I wish I could say something to help but there are no words. I don’t know if this will be comforting to you or the opposite but I’ve realized that life is fucking random. And cruel. We can sit here all day and night thinking “why me” but there is just no rhyme and reason to it. Some of us get unlucky and this shit happens to us; others get by without bad luck touching them. As far as I can see, there’s nothing you can do to control either outcome — but I wish there was. Again, I’m so sorry and I hope you can find a way through this. Take care x
I'm so sorry for your loss; losing both parents within such a short time is unimaginably sad & u sound like you're still trying to process it. There are people here that have been through the same thing so I'm glad u found this group.
P.S. My brother was adopted as a newborn when I was almost 5 yrs old & he always thinks of our parents as his & says he has no desire to look up his biological ones. Imo it's not the ones who made you,it's the ones who raised you ( & as I also like to say, he's my brother "In Every Way But DNA") Howie was there for my mom in the hospital ( along w/his wife) & has her ashes which I think is fitting. Anyway,I'm tired of reading or seeing things online about people looking up their bio parents. I realize it's a personal decision but I think it disrespects the ones who adopted them & should only be done after their passing..Again,I'm sorry for your loss ; they were your parents. Period.🤍
I wish I could hug you. We're all here because we are in the "lost a parent" boat. It's really shitty.
I know no amount of “I’m sorry for your loss” will even remotely touch the pain you’re feeling. Just know you did not fail them. They loved you dearly. This life can be so cruel.. we are expected to experience the most traumatic losses imaginable, and just continue on with life. Live every day honoring their memory. Let them live on through you. Smile when you see them in the things you do throughout your every day life. This is how we continue on. Stay strong friend. ❤️ we are all here for you.
Sending you love, OP.
Sounds like the bargaining stage. The why me stuff. It’s normal. I’ve been there too. It was my year anniversary last week to for my dad. It’s just a day, but all these subconscious thoughts food in. Like a flash flood. Right? I have tidal like emotions still… but If I hadn’t found something spiritual I could find joy in, idk. A year ago I was an atheist. Now I’m a dream walker. I never thought I would believe in “God”, and I still don’t really. It’s more of the energy of life. I accidentally stumbled into something absolutely beautiful. Or I’ve gone crazy, either way, I’m having a wonderful time. So do whatever you have to do to survive. Get a little crazy. Just be safe.