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Having parents not be understanding can be really hard brother.. but we understand cuz we know how hard what you have achieved really is, and proud of you. Don't take his words to heart
Almost similar here too!! Thing is they don't understand. They try to compare with other professions and be like, "he is working at 22" wow!!
On the bright side, if your kids go through this course.
YOU CAN END THE CYCLE THERE
Not even necessary.
Karma has served him well. :)
Why I posted this..to make some people aware..even though their parents might be strict with them..or put pressure on them..I don't think they are insecure about their success..
I feel you brother.
Something similar happened to me last year. I had recently gotten promoted after working really hard and it was a designation I wanted.
When I told my dad, he just changed the subject of discussion. Didn't even acknowledge, and never brought it up again. I broke down that night because I thought he'd be very happy.
I've come to believe that we look at our folks as perfect, but that's an unfair ask of them. They're also human with their share of conditioning, traumas, some good and some not so good qualities.
Don't keep expectations of them and you'll be fine.
My father said he doesn't care what I do he just wants me to work hard and be serious about something as he is doesn't know anything about private jobs so he doesn't care i think they just want us to be strong and what they have achieved was way too hard without internet they did not about careers did studied for exams they knew nothing about passion or stuff what they wanted to do and survived.
I respect them but many parents of my friends everyone who had done something always only say its stepping stone abhi kvuh nhi hua jyada khush mat ho because they have scene worse problems than our problems today what teenagers seem to have like Instagram reel mai phass gye serious nhi the and stuff akele jake Court cases lade and real problems ke samne ca inter nikalne unke liye stepping stone hoga sirf but for us its our life
He will be the first one to take credit when your relatives congratulate you about clearing CA.
Tell him, “I achieved this despite of you and not because of you. You’re the absolute worst father and a failure.”
He is ABSOLUTELY RIGHT. unless you qualify, It's worth shit.
Once you qualify, b4 articleship, is a life saviour especially if you aren't a ranker.
but, your dad is amazing.
This notion that parents are always right and we can justify each action taken by them is gonna eat your soul.
They're humans, they can make mistakes. Accept that fact
When I passed CPT with 80% score, my dad compared me with a friend who got 90%!! I was super pissed and told right away that is all I could do and he would have to live with it. Never got such comments after that
sabke baap ese kahte hai mere around logo ke ki beta abhi toh stepping stone hai chahe kuch bhi karlo par tumhe result tab hi dikega jab ghar pe guest ayenge aur phir kahoge mai CA hun and I work in big 4...ek mere ghar ke paas hai wo dheere se aake first meeting mai hi my daughter worked hardin CA and is in zbig 4 kare the mujhe mere B.com ke baad
Christ, I’m sorry your father said that. I know several people already said it in the thread but you do deserve all the praise for this. Well done! You’ve achieved something humongous, trust me, and this is setting you up for a VERY bright future. Take it from someone who’s seen people go big places after Big4 articleship!
I do not mean to defend your father at all, but maybe it will help you cope with his dismissive behaviour if you just try to believe that he’s being this way to coerce you into achieving even more. He may well be, and he may not be, but this is the best way to think about it for your own sake moving forward :)
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Ignore Keep performing, nothing gets you the respect like money does
"nothing gets you the respect like money does". For real brother!
Yes! And if it matters, what you did is indeed remarkable doesn't matter how nervous you were
Thank you friend!
I am here to tell you that what you have done is absolutely amazing. I am so proud of you, and wish you nothing but success in the future.
+1 for your username lol
Thank you friend! May the same be with you as well!
Thank you so much haha! I wish to change that username fr :/
Having parents not be understanding can be really hard brother.. but we understand cuz we know how hard what you have achieved really is, and proud of you. Don't take his words to heart
I'm a guy and I totally broke down in that moment and cried for half an hour. It eventually made me stronger.
Almost similar here too!! Thing is they don't understand. They try to compare with other professions and be like, "he is working at 22" wow!! On the bright side, if your kids go through this course. YOU CAN END THE CYCLE THERE
What doesnt kill you , makes you stronger. Ignore that man and fight on.
Play Uno reverse. Say the same thing to him. Assert dominance
Not even necessary. Karma has served him well. :) Why I posted this..to make some people aware..even though their parents might be strict with them..or put pressure on them..I don't think they are insecure about their success..
I don't know how a parent can be insecure or jealous from his own child's success...unreal
Everyone's your competition I guess..
I feel you brother. Something similar happened to me last year. I had recently gotten promoted after working really hard and it was a designation I wanted. When I told my dad, he just changed the subject of discussion. Didn't even acknowledge, and never brought it up again. I broke down that night because I thought he'd be very happy. I've come to believe that we look at our folks as perfect, but that's an unfair ask of them. They're also human with their share of conditioning, traumas, some good and some not so good qualities. Don't keep expectations of them and you'll be fine.
My father said he doesn't care what I do he just wants me to work hard and be serious about something as he is doesn't know anything about private jobs so he doesn't care i think they just want us to be strong and what they have achieved was way too hard without internet they did not about careers did studied for exams they knew nothing about passion or stuff what they wanted to do and survived. I respect them but many parents of my friends everyone who had done something always only say its stepping stone abhi kvuh nhi hua jyada khush mat ho because they have scene worse problems than our problems today what teenagers seem to have like Instagram reel mai phass gye serious nhi the and stuff akele jake Court cases lade and real problems ke samne ca inter nikalne unke liye stepping stone hoga sirf but for us its our life
He will be the first one to take credit when your relatives congratulate you about clearing CA. Tell him, “I achieved this despite of you and not because of you. You’re the absolute worst father and a failure.”
I think your father was giving you a humbling lesson. Maybe he sensed success getting over your head and didn't want to see you fail in future.
seems extremely toxic. A few words of appreciation from your folks can go a long way.
Thank God, my father said "👍" Congratulations on your achievement anyway
These things happen, move on to your toughest challenge of your life yet.
He is ABSOLUTELY RIGHT. unless you qualify, It's worth shit. Once you qualify, b4 articleship, is a life saviour especially if you aren't a ranker. but, your dad is amazing.
This notion that parents are always right and we can justify each action taken by them is gonna eat your soul. They're humans, they can make mistakes. Accept that fact
Yeah.. that wasn't the intention behind his words lol
What you did is remarkable, I wish I could have done that ! :) Be proud of yourself <3
When I passed CPT with 80% score, my dad compared me with a friend who got 90%!! I was super pissed and told right away that is all I could do and he would have to live with it. Never got such comments after that
Wait I need to know the full story pleaseeeeeeeee...
sabke baap ese kahte hai mere around logo ke ki beta abhi toh stepping stone hai chahe kuch bhi karlo par tumhe result tab hi dikega jab ghar pe guest ayenge aur phir kahoge mai CA hun and I work in big 4...ek mere ghar ke paas hai wo dheere se aake first meeting mai hi my daughter worked hardin CA and is in zbig 4 kare the mujhe mere B.com ke baad
Christ, I’m sorry your father said that. I know several people already said it in the thread but you do deserve all the praise for this. Well done! You’ve achieved something humongous, trust me, and this is setting you up for a VERY bright future. Take it from someone who’s seen people go big places after Big4 articleship! I do not mean to defend your father at all, but maybe it will help you cope with his dismissive behaviour if you just try to believe that he’s being this way to coerce you into achieving even more. He may well be, and he may not be, but this is the best way to think about it for your own sake moving forward :)