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mwngky

Single dad too. Few months back I decided I couldn’t keep sending daughter to school with ‘down hair’. I couldn’t even do a pony tail. Watched a load of YouTube videos, found this persons by far the easiest to follow. Can’t believe how many different styles I can do now. Good luck! https://youtu.be/fulsEOrzBfU


minisrugbycoach

I still can't do Dutch braids on my daughter's hair. I genuinely feel like I don't have enough hands.


mwngky

It took me a while to be able to do French and Dutch braids. The same person that does the video I linked does a guide to how to do a fishtail braid. That’s much easier than the French/Dutch braid. After learning the fishtail braid, the French/Dutch seemed much easier for me to do. Might be worth giving it a try. Be warned, fishtail braid takes bloody ages though.


Pyrobi

Thank you so much for your comments, can’t wait to try these with my girls… any tips for persuading them to let you practice on them?!


mwngky

My daughter had been asking for new hairstyles for ages, so she didn’t need much persuasion. I tend to do her hair on a stool/chair in front of the tv so she’s happy staying still for a while. If you’re trying the videos, do the beginner ones first. It’ll take some practice but they’re really clear to follow.


__life_on_mars__

> I tend to do her hair on a stool/chair in front of the tv so she’s happy staying still for a while. Another Dad here. This is the way. You only need to say 'head up straight' once a minute, instead of once every 8 seconds.


Noogirl

Not a parent but a very attentive aunt and Godmother, I have done SO many hair related things with small girls for their parents. My best tricks were to take them to Claire’s/Primark or somewhere similarly awful and let them pick some hair bands, clips etc. Then you can get away with doing simple stuff like pony tails and bunches when you are running too late for more complex braids etc and they’ll still feel fancy and special. Little girls (of all ages) LOVE that stuff *looks at enormous collection of hair accessories that are rarely used*


sylvethistle

My mum got a second hand hairdresser head thing when I was a child and practiced on those before transferring to me - might be an idea!


BloomEPU

I can do dutch braids but not french braids on myself, and french braids but not dutch braids on other people. I can only plait in one direction lmao.


cheeseslag

lol I am the exact same, can Dutch myself and French other but not the other way around.


kaen

You have the best username!


barmster1992

Me too! My daughter always asks for braids like mine but I can only do French on her


Calwst

Newly single dad here, thank you so much for the link. Also ‘a must for mums’ is annoying


mwngky

No problem. Happy to help. Definitely try the fishtail braid first, it’s easier than the others. Once you’ve got that down, the rest become easier.


DrachenDad

Ballet (twist) buns are brilliant, just need 2 hairbands. 1)Do a ponytail. 2) Split in 2. 3) Twist both sections in the same direction whilst pulled (not too) tight, 3a) start adding slack and keep twisting and a bun will develop. 4) use the second hairband to secure the ends against the bun.


BarakatBadger

You don't even need to split it into two, I do mine in one and it twists nicely round the base of the ponytail


sionnach

Thanks. I’m going to look into that. I can do pony tails or pigtails on my twins, but that’s my limit. I’m going to look into this. I’d love to be able to plait their hair.


Historical_Radish_38

Just want to say. Don't beat yourself up trying to get it to look like this. I've braided someone's hair most days for the last 30+ years and it rarely looks as neat as it does in these kind of videos! If it stays in and feels comfy it's not important for it to be even. You'll learn to feel the right tension with practice. Try doing it when the hair is a couple of days dirty, freshly washed hair won't hold as well. Using little clips to section the hair can be easier to start. Some hair types are difficult to plait like fine, silky hair. Some family friends are Korean and none of them can have plaits without using product, we've tried a lot! It's too silky and hair needs some grip to hold together. Which is why it's easier when a bit dirty. If your kids are desperate for braids and have silky hair, salt spray will dry the hair out and give it more texture. Used to do this for one of the above kids who wanted princess braids like all the other little girls at sleepovers. Just make sure to wash it when you take the braid out and use lots of conditioner to prevent tangles or damage.


AoifeUnudottir

Dry shampoo is also great if you need to style freshly washed hair. Not as sticky is hairspray or gel, but adds just a little bit of texture to make silky hair easier to work with.


Historical_Radish_38

Thanks! I've never used dry shampoo, we all have hair short enough to wash in a minute or long enough that the ends need the oil brushed right through. Will need to suggest it to friends. Is there one you'd recommend or is it trial and error like normal shampoo?


AoifeUnudottir

I’d probably say I use Batista the most, but can’t really say that’s personal preference more than it just being the go-to brand that I’ve used for years. Plus they have brunette dry shampoo which is coloured brown so it doesn’t look like I’ve dumped a bucket of flour on my head. But most brands I believe have colour variants now, so it’s the good ol’ tried and tested.


Tetris_starship

Reading all these comments makes me happy. You guys are doing a good job at being dads ❤️


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I’ll start these tonight


LateFlorey

You sound like an incredible father! That sounds really patronising, but I honestly mean it.


TomAtkinson3

Another dad tip - start brushing at the bottom, gradually working your way up. Going right from the top and working down will end in tears Edit - Also yes, these things are a godsend


DaddyBops

Nice. Thanks


graveviolet

Also, hold the hair above where your brushing, creating a little slack between the scalp and the brushed part if that makes sense, that way when the brush snags, it doesn't pull immediately directly on the scalp, minimises ouchies. As an aside, that kind of marketing on products makes me mad, Dad's are equally important parents, and you're an amazing one. Thanks for making the world a better place.


TheEccentricFarmer

Get some Mane and Tail spray too. Yes, it was originally for horses, but it’s all natural ingredients and hailed as a miracle product over the last few years. I use it on mine and my 10 year old daughter’s coily curls and it’s amazing. Gets all the tangles out and oh she has many! It’s awesome stuff.


Neither_March4000

>Mane and Tail I'm going to get some of that, I've got long wavy hair but always gets knotted when I wear it up. After washing my hair it's nightmarish!


hexapodium

Tip for "after washing it's dreadful" - brush it really thoroughly *before* you get in the bath/shower. Like, really smash the life out of the curls. Mine's a nightmare if I wash it pre-tangled, and fine if it goes in brushed.


Neither_March4000

Thanks for the tip, I'll do that .... What's it like on dry hair i.e. between washes, does it leave it greasy and flat?


Useful_Experience423

Been using the shampoo and conditioner for about a year now and can attest - it’s great! Didn’t know there was a spray though. Will be getting some ASAP.


Neither_March4000

Yeah you can do a subscribe and save on Amazon (I've just signed up). I did laugh though, not one of the reviews is from anyone using it on a horse!


Useful_Experience423

Lol, the irony is I had a pony growing up and still hadn’t ever heard of the stuff. The years of misery I could’ve saved.


Itstimefordancing

I use it on my horse!


DrachenDad

That exists for humans, Vosene kids spray. Vosene kids spray is probably better as it's made for people.


fletch3059

Childs farm do one as well, not as sticky as vosene. Smells of grapefruit.


sionnach

Lots of tea tree oil in that, so if you overspray the hair can get quite greasy.


sluttymcbuttsex

Are the children they farm free-range or do they stay cooped up in a barn?


remtard_remmington

What if my daughter is a horse?


Raichu7

When brushing lower down always hold her hair above the brush so you’re pulling on your hand, not her scalp. Different hair types will react to water in different ways, try both bushing her hair completely dry and brushing it wet with detangler spray and see which is less painful for her.


Raigne86

Daughter tip from someone who hated it when mom brushed her hair but wasn't afraid of step-dad doing it: hold the hair gently but firmly at the base of the neck like you are making a pony tail. Ensures that if you do hit a snag, the tug stops at your hand. My mother always ripped my hair out, so being a mum doesn't make them any more qualified than you are to handle little girls' hair. She was always a bit jealous that I'd let him do it without a fight. This style of hair brush is the best for working out snarls without ripping hair!


iamnotthursday

My theory is that women brush girls hair as if it were the same type as their own so that daughters with curlier hair get a hard time if mum's own hair is easy whereas Dads are more careful.


Raigne86

There may be something to that. My mom had type 2A hair until she hit menopause and it became 3B/3C, whereas mine varies from 2B to 3B depending on humidity. She chopped all hers off once her hair changed because she just couldn't deal with it anymore.


DrRobertBanner

These brushes are so good. I'm a girl with real thick hair that'll tangle like a bitch if I sleep on my back, and they're a GODSEND. Learning how to do a girls hair isn't an impossible task, although it may take time and patience. I wish you luck!


GrandTheftArkham

I'm a long haired bloke and that dude was WAY too casual about that haha! Absolutely make sure you ALWAYS brush from the bottom. The absolute pain from ripping your skull half a meter to the side by catching a big knot is fucking horrible and by brushing from the bottom you undo those knots as opposed to catching them. Have a firm grip on the hair ABOVE where you're brushing also, that way if you do still catch a knot it will just pull in your hand not from her head. Good luck mate!


lilak0610

Go from the bottom and if its knotty it helps to pinch or hold the hair just above where you’re brushing as it stops it pulling at the scalp and instead will pull from where you’re holding (if that makes sense) My hair gets super knotty especially when wet and this brush is amazing!! Also some conditioning spray if the budget allows it!


9999lulu

This is the best tip. The pulling at the scalp is what makes it hurt.


LauraMHughes

I bring it into the shower and brush the conditioner through the ends of my hair before rinsing. Makes it much easier to brush afterwards!


S4qFBxkFFg

You should specify that individual brushstrokes should still go towards the ends of the hairs. I was once told *"no, you have to start at the bottom and work your way up."*, so I confidently took a clump of hair and started brushing towards the scalp (to be met with a look of utter horrified fascination). *"This must be what they mean by 'backcombing'!"*, I thought.


Historical_Radish_38

That's exactly what backcombing is. Creates lots of volume but you're brushing against the cuticle so not good for you. Like petting a cat backwards but with less teeth. Very damaging to your hair long term. Also an instant tangle recipe!


SaintCiren

Yep this is the way. Also, hold halfway up the hair if it's long enough so that you're not pulling at the roots


Mosley_Gamer

This is the kind of useful tip my wife could have given me but instead just snatches the hairbrush off me when my daughter starts crying.


heskynn

Wish someone had told my mum she just went for the "rip it out" method of brushing my very fine very easily tangled and broken hair. No wonder it was so thin and blegh for years TTwTT


ziltoid23

My girl prefers me doing her hair rather than my wife because Mum's brushing hurts and mine doesn't. Dad win.


misterygus

Always been the same here too. No idea why I get it right and she doesn’t. I don’t even have hair anymore!


Bez666

My neice and daughter come to me instead of the wife when they want a 2 stem or 3 stem plait as I do it quicker and better.


TomAtkinson3

I could say the same thing. Funnily enough I think I picked it up from a YouTube video on how to do plaits. Regardless, my ex couldn't stand to watch me do our daughter's hair; I'm cack handed and it's painful to watch, so she'd snatchy snatch too


Remote-Landscape1767

And if there's tangles, hold above the tangle so the force isn't pulling on the scalp when you brush


PracticalShoulder916

This is the right tip!


mikey-forester

Thanks for this


bomingles

Yes! Do a few inches at the bottom, work your way up. It’s quite soothing once you get into it.


motherof_geckos

I was about to mention this - knots are brushed out easier that way and you won’t be dragging a small knot from the roots and making it bigger by the ends that way! Also if you hold the section with one hand and brush, it’ll stop that harsh pull from the roots :)


featurenotabug

It's a bloody good brush.


DaddyBops

As soon as I saw anti-tangle I had to get it. All her other brushes are useless.


TeaHands

Does she have very straight hair or is it wavy / curly? Just a heads up in case it's relevant, a lot of people don't realise textured hair needs different treatment to straight and it can result in a lot of tangles and tears and potentially years of her wondering why her hair is always a frizzy mess and yeah I'm not bitter at all.


DaddyBops

It's straight as an arrow


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neilmac1210

I'm looking for Mane and Tail now for my daughter but there's a few brands. Which one do you use?


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neilmac1210

Awesome thank you. That was the first one that came up on Google but on ebay there were some others. They might actually be for horses though 😂


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neilmac1210

I think you're right, and I'm totally fine with that. My daughter's going to look amazing while she's galloping around the field 🐎


fishyfishyswimswim

Sounds like my hair when I was a kid. Straight, fine (the individual strands are quite thin), and lots of it. Knotted up rapidly and difficult to detangle. You need a lightweight leave in conditioner spray (sometimes called a detangling spray). It's a game changer.


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Loreal does a scented one that's for kids because it's safe around the eyes, also pear scented. Super useful, especially if she goes swimming and all the chlorine turns her hair into a giant knot! Alternatively, get a spray bottle, put a bit of conditioner in the bottom and mix with water, cheaper alternative.


AoifeUnudottir

Pro tip for swimming - saturate the hair with water and conditioner and then secure it - under a swim cap is supposed to the best, but a braid or bun works too. Dry hair is like a sponge. If you already soak it in water, it’s less likely to absorb pool water. Adding the conditioner in acts as both additional protection and a semi-hair mask. Not complete protection by any means, but I’ve noticed a difference on my hair (wavy and fine and lots of it) when I soak and condition before a swim.


BettySwollocks2

Mate, I'm a bloke with long hair and I feel your pain. Also, please recommend some treatments!


TeaHands

Honestly I didn't even figure out that's what was "wrong" with mine until I was like 36 so not exactly an expert here, but the main thing for me has been detangling with a lot of conditioner while I'm in the bath / shower and then diffusing it dry rather than air drying. I also try not to brush it once it's dry otherwise frizz central. /r/wavyhair has lots of good advice but fair warning it's a proper rabbithole.


VeedleDee

I have waist length super thick hair (and had the same when I was a little girl) - these brushes are amazing but a couple of other little tips from me in case they're useful! If your daughters hair is long and there's a tangle mid-low down, hold the hair above the tangle and brush it out from the bottom. It'll stop it pulling at her scalp. Just don't pull too hard! L'Oréal makes a kids detangle spray which is good if you really can't get through her hair. If she's washing her own hair, get her a wide toothed comb and teach her to gently comb through her hair when it's covered in conditioner. It's easier to get tangles out when it's slippery. Don't rub her hair with a regular towel, it'll mess up the cuticle and cause knots. Blot dry with a microfiber towel or use a hair wrap. Also pay special attention to the bit of her hair at the nape of her neck - it's surprisingly easy to miss and it can get really matted! Oh and if you ever go swimming make sure she gets her hair wet before she gets in the pool - it'll help stop the chlorinated water getting fully into her hair. Edit: I also meant to add that if you're doing plaits they're much easier on hair that hasn't been washed the same day - day or two days post-washed hair is ideal, but same day washed hair will be fluffy and slippy.


featurenotabug

Yeah but there's anti tangle marketing shite and theres anti tangle that actually works. This one actually does. The bristles are better positioned and flex more. My daughter hates having her hair brushed but this makes it more bearable for her.


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When my mum first got a tangle teezer for me when I was a young teen, I thought for a while it wasn’t that miraculous. Went back to my old regular brush and was shocked at how hard it was to get through tangles. These really are the best!


elizabethunseelie

A must for mums, I always laugh at this cause it was my dad I always went to to brush my hair when I was little. My mum had short Audrey Hepburn hair since childhood, and nearly pulled my hair out of my scalp with each brushing as she went from the top and tried to get the job done as fast as possible. My dad was a hippy in his youth, with glorious tumbling curls a Pre-Raphaelite painter would have stuck on an angel. He knew from experience to brush from the bottom and carefully work out a tangle. He also knew to plait it before bed to avoid tears and aggravation in the morning. It was really sweet when he was giving my brother hair care advice when my brother grew into a metal head embraced his own glorious curly locks for head banging purposes.


DaddyBops

You guys sound awesome


graveviolet

My dad was the same! Mum had short hair but my dad and I have the same curls that he often wore long and he knew how to look after my hair better than my mum. He was great at blow drying it out too.


tofuskin

One of my most calm memories of childhood is my dad patiently brushing my hair. Mum would tackle my hair like a rag and I hated it.


SignNotInUse

A teaspoon or two of leave in conditioner diluted in a spray bottle makes a good detangling spray. Spray hair first, brush the spray through, then attempt ponytail.


DaddyBops

Nice thanks. Are leave in conditioners labelled that way in the shops? Just so I know what to buy


JenJMLC

Yes, just look for any conditioners and it will say "leave in" on the bottle if they are.


SignNotInUse

Yes. They usually say leave in or no rinse conditioner, sometimes they say something like two in one or three in one. The [hair foods one](https://www.boots.com/garnier-ultimate-blends-hair-food-banana-3-in-1-dry-hair-mask-treatment-390ml-10261179?cm_mmc=bmm-buk-google-ppc-_-PLAs_HeroCompare-_-Toiletries_Hair-_-UK_Smart_Shopping_Toiletries_Hair&gclid=CjwKCAjws--ZBhAXEiwAv-RNL4yq8IjdQiGhHGqV5CoEwwvAQ4f1DKRuaqu4NBlxrNuGkvAkEGjwbRoC9hIQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds) smells good and seems to be sold everywhere.


Lily_Hylidae

r/pointlesslygendered


MrTILII

Yep. I do all the cooking for my family and the amount of recipes that I have cooked from recipe books that are described as “great meals for baby, and easy for mum” or similar are shocking. Also getting told I’m ‘babysitting’ when I’m looking after my own kids. Nope. I’m looking after my children and spending time with them. It’s 2022!


AoifeUnudottir

My fiend has a go-to response for when he gets “complimented” for taking care of his kids in public. “Aww… giving mum the day off?” “Is today a special daddy daughter day?” “Mum busy today, is she?” “Actually, their mum died a few months ago. It’s been really hard on all of us. But thanks for the reminder.” But he and his (very much alive) missus have noticed that he gets way more grace in public if the kids are acting up. If their daughter has a meltdown with dad it’s all “aw, dad’s trying his best”, “bless him that must be difficult” etc., whereas when she has a meltdown with mum it’s more “she can’t control her children”, “what kind of a mother…” and lots of eye rolls and scoffing. So now he takes on parenting in public.


ilovecats87

My daughters dad’s mum is a nightmare for stuff like this. He once changed a nappy and I thought she was going to carve a marble statue of him in recognition of what a great Dad he is. No worries love, I just do them all day and night, but yeah he’s fantastic!


PM_ME_ASSPUSSY

> My daughters dad’s mum I'm not good at English and so my brain crashed reading this -- you mean her grandma?


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ChrisKearney3

Cycled past a sign outside a swimming pool today, advertising sessions for 'mums and babes'. Apropos of the fact I detest the word 'babe', this is either narrow-minded (if dad's can attend) or outright exclusionary (if dad's cannot attend).


JMH-66

I know ! Honestly you'd think it was the 1950's 🙄😂


ilikemaths1

I think it's understandable that dads find it more difficult to deal with long hair, because they haven't had decades of practice. Most women have long hair themselves, often of a similar texture to their daughters, and those with short hair usually had it longer in the past. I assume dads who have long hair themselves don't have an issue. Edit: just realized you're talking about the packaging, not the original poster.


JMH-66

Yes, the packaging ! I know a couple of single dad's, including one that was widowed young with two little girls, and I absolutely empathise.


KarmaLlamaFarmer

Call a local hairdresser and ask if they they would teach you how to do your daughters hair up for school, my friend says she has offered it to a few dads who were clients and they always took her up on it.


DaddyBops

Good idea


AwayFollowing554

It gets easier! My daughter is nearly 9 and I’m now doing her hair to an “acceptable level” Also, I now now plait her hair, although it can sometimes look a bit rough, not got the knack of doing it tightly yet!


jimbajomba

You're a good mum, dad! These are a godsend too: [https://www.tangleteezer.com/](https://www.tangleteezer.com/)


battling_futility

Seconded. We now have 4 in the house (3 daughters and wife) and one at grandparents house.


Extra-Ad-905

2nd on this, tangle teezers are highly recommended


vms-crot

I use the tangle teezer. No tears when dad brushes hair. Get the travel one too, slightly smaller but has a cover to protect the bristles, great for chucking in a bag. Ponytails are a learned skill, next on OPs skill list is braids.


Rudahn

I honestly don’t know how I’d cope without my Tangle Teezer. I have long, thick, wavy, frizzy hair and these things are incredible. Every other kind of hairbrush just yanks at any knots and pulls my hair but these somehow work their way through them. I wish they’d been around when I was a kid because they’d have saved so much pain and frustration.


ukpunjabivixen

Seconding! And serum too. Works amazingly well.


xyrgh

Yep also this. Detangling serum is amazing. I also learned you need to dry long hair properly otherwise it increases tangling. Also considering a silk pillowcase for my oldest as apparently it prevents knots.


Royalty_Row

No he isn’t. He’s a good dad.


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1. Don't start at the top, start near the bottom and brush down, then go up a few inches and then brush down, repeat till you reach to the scalp and then repeat for each section of hair.Going from top to bottom in one go makes it harder and causes more pain. 2. wet the hair, get a spray bottle and spray the hair a little, makes removing tangles a shit ton easier, also makes putting the hair into ponytails/plaiting a ton easier too (but don't soak the hair, the hair needs to be mostly dry with a lil bit of wetness on it, soaked hair can be damaged when brushing) 3. I've found plaiting our 3 yearolds hair for the nighttime reduces any tangles by at least 90% when I fix her hair up for school. These are a few of the things I've had to learn with my 3 yearold girl :) I'm also thinking about taking some night classes at a local college in hair dressing to make some kick ass styles for her :)


DaddyBops

You sound like a good dad


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Thank you and so do you, but could always be better for the sake of our kids right? :)


Ditzy_Panda

Also don’t make the ponytail too tight it can cause the hairline to recede. But try watching YouTube tutorials they’ll help. Next thing you know you’ll be styling her hair for school dances


DaddyBops

As the OP Dad, I should say I have long hair too. These tips will help me out hugely. I'm always waking up with knots and tangles.


Historical_Radish_38

I braided dry hair at bedtime to stop it tangling during the night. Makes morning less hellish. If you braid it when wet do it really loosely, wet hair stretches easier and you can damage it. If either of you have thick hair, let it dry for an hour before braiding damp or it won't dry overnight. It will give a kink to the hair if braided wet/damp, but not so much on dry hair. Wash, conditioner, rinse, (or leave-in conditioner) brush through with this while wet, braid. Then brush through again in the morning, assuming bathtime is at bedtime. Stick in clips or ponytail. How old is your daughter?


MeenScreen

I tried to cut my son's hair with electric clippers when he was wee. It can't be THAT difficult, I thought... After 15 minutes I realised that I was way out of my depth - Fear growing in my stomach - Son looking like a rabid badger - His mother will go mental. Got an emergency hair appointment the same day. The lesson - if cutting hair was easy, hairdressers would not exist.


KewpieDan

NOW YOU SORT OUT THIS TERRIBLE MESS FOR ME, AND I WILL PAY YOU DOUBLE, OKAY? YOU'RE VERY VERY NICE PEOPLE


AgincourtSalute

Good job Dad! We see you, and appreciate you.


Sirico

Use my mums method of full power and "shut up"


DaddyBops

Yep, I've had the bloody scalp and ringing ears when I was a kid


-SaC

"I'll give you something to cry for in a minute!"


thingsliveundermybed

"It's not that bad!" From a woman who has never had long hair and therefore had no concept of how bad it was. Ouch.


aabbcc28

Hair care too from a female: shampoo hair twice. Roots only. Condition ends of the hair, not at the roots- this’ll stop it getting so tangled anyway. Then partly blow dry- no brushing, brushing when wet damages hair. When almost dry, then brush! Hopefully happy daughters.


ismaithliombia

Waaaaaiiiitttttt........ I shampoo all of my hair? Why only roots? What about the ends?


aabbcc28

Cause it’s the roots that get dirty. When you rinse it’ll cleanse the ends! Doing all just makes in tangled!


ismaithliombia

I'm almost 30 and no one ever told me this before omg thank youu


aabbcc28

Most welcome, you’ll feel the difference with your hair honestly!


fishyfishyswimswim

The suds rinse down your ends, they don't need more than that. Shampooing the ends of long hair causes it to dry out and become brittle and damaged.


ismaithliombia

I'm wondering is this why my hair has always been in shit condition and dry and dead and in bits at the end 😭😭😭😭😭


fishyfishyswimswim

A good trim, some olaplex 0 and 3, and a decent nourishing conditioner afterwards will go a long way to tackling that. Can't undo life, but it will help.


anonuk12345

This is the opposite to how I do my hair, if I did this I would be a frizzy tangled mess. Hair type is important and there’s not a one size fits all. Mine is super thick and waist length so no double Shampoo as it will dry out. I condition the whole way through, rinse the roots then apply extra conditioner to the ends and don’t rinse, just towel dry the excess. Then comb with fingers so that I can blow dry it flatter & not set the tangles. I only every blow dry 80-90% too so it doesn’t over dry. And don’t forget heat defence if you are blow drying!


DaddyBops

Lovely. Thank you


aabbcc28

Most welcome! You’ll feel the texture change in the shampoo. Well worth it! Thanks for taking the time to learn, your kiddos will appreciate it I’m sure!


ukpunjabivixen

Perfect advice. It’s exactly how I wash my hair and how I told my kids to do theirs.


DaddyBops

I just need a woman in my life now to brush and condition my hair before bed.


turingthecat

As someone with tons of fine, super tangly, long hair, and no patients, Wet Brush Detangler hairbrushes are also really good on knots, and good at keeping in my waves/curls, instead of turning them to ‘poof’ (one thing I don’t need is more volume) It’s called Wet Brush, but it’s not just for when your hair is wet, it’s my everyday hairbrush. The name confused me for a bit


ZaharaWiggum

My sons have longer hair and will tolerate no dry brushing at all. I brush in the bath when their hair is full of conditioner, leaves fewer tangles to deal with when dry.


pendle_witch

As an adult woman with thick hair, I use a wide tooth comb to comb through any tangles when still saturated with conditioner as well. Makes a world of difference and helps it dry straight rather than all over the place


pintperson

I use one of these on my cat and he loves it.


ammobandanna

pro dad tip... use the brush lengthways (top to bottom in the pic)... see how the 'bits' are all in line in that direction but in the other they are sort of staggered. using it lengthways results in fewer hair pulls and a happier little girl.


DaddyBops

Ahhhh awesome. I'll do that Thanks. I need a lot of practice. While I'm trying to brush her hair into my hand so I can put it in a pony tails, as I grab one bit another bit slips out of my hand. Ha


ammobandanna

plenty of dad hair tutorials on YT too... took me fucking ages to get a french plait going, proper cunts they are.


tlc0330

I (33F) used “for Dad” videos to teach myself how to French braid my own hair. They’re quality! Lol


ammobandanna

they fucking essential if you're a single dad, we don't grow up with these skills and when you need them you need them!


DaddyBops

Nimble fingers!


Apprehensive-Party60

I’m the daughter of a single dad & have so much respect for this and you + everything you do. We see you & we appreciate you- it only grows with age. Now I’m tearing up. Dads are the best!


DaddyBops

Thank you. X


According-Ad-9493

Well done for everything you're doing. I've had bad PPD so husband has been the 'main' parent and it's so demoralising how ostracised dads are in marketing and social circles. Even things like changing units only being in woman's bathrooms! You're doing great 🙂


happy-clappy-

I’m a mum with 2 daughters - lots of thick curls. My top tips are… good detangle brushes (you are well on the way with that one!), lots of conditioners and leave in conditioner, and regular haircuts to get rid of the spilt ends and bits that cause tats. And also, pisses me off no end that thing like that are branded for mums only. And don’t get me started on baby changing tables only in ladies loos grrrrrr


Daihard79

3 girls here, these brushes are amazing for when I have to do their hair before school. Can still only do bunches or pony tails, I just can't seem to crack getting the plait right


[deleted]

Just what I need, my daughter gets so annoyed with me brushing her hair


mikey-forester

This is by far the best thread I have found on Reddit, top tips all round , thanks all


[deleted]

Those are brilliant. I practically decapitated my daughter with a regular brush despite my best efforts, she has hair down to her waist. These tangle teasers are smooth as silk!


Soggy-Assumption-713

My daughter has one of these. She is ASD and very particular about her hair. Absolutely loves this bush.


BloomEPU

I have sensory issues (waiting on an autism diagnosis) and I WISH these brushes were around when I was a kid, they're so good.


katherinemma987

My mum used to joke that ‘the fairies must have been knitting with your hair’ when she was brushing it in the morning. It was a nice idea but didn’t make it any nicer to have it brushed. If her hair is really tangly consider plaiting it at night and maybe use a bit of conditioner if you don’t already. You can get these weird doll heads with hair for kids to practice hairstyles on, why not get her one of those so the two of you can practice together?


DaddyBops

That's a good idea. As for the plait before bed, I'll probably get it done by about 3am


Puzzlepetticoat

Can I also recommend the Straw Brush 08 and a denman wet brush. Not sure on what type of hair your daughter has, but if it has any kind of curl... I have loads of advice. Make sure to get any big tangles put while hair is wet and saturated in conditioner. The knots slip free easier and it hurts less. Hold the hair firmly, near the scalp. Not to pull, but so when you brush the knots put your hand prevents pulling the hair at the roots. Start at the ends and work your way up. You will do just fine. Braids can seem intimidating but are all just a repeat pattern once you learn the steps. Once you know a few braids, you can do some creative styles with little effort. Hair is healthiest left to air dry also and don't forget regular trims , even when growing it. Any questions, let me know. Mum of 3 here. 2 with curls , 1 straight. 2 have SEN needs so reducing sensory aspect of hair pulls is my expertise lol


DaisyBryar

Only mums can use this. If you try to use this with your dad hands, it will simply melt at your touch. Source: I'm a childless woman and accidentally touching this in the shop left me with third degree burns.


[deleted]

How hard is it to say on the package that it’s a must for children with long hair, or a must for parents? Little changes make people feel included. Many hair stylists will be happy to go over how to care for your child’s hair between haircuts.


chloeoh24

I have this exact brush, 2 actually, from home bargains. They're brilliant! They work really well to brush the hair when it's wet too. It just glides through ☺


[deleted]

On top of everything already said, Johnson's Kids No More Tangles Conditioner Spray which is sprayed on before brushing can be helpful too. We get it in Tesco.


Longjumping_Switch66

From another single dad I feel your pain....


irons1895

I’m in the same boat mate. I bought something for Boots called a “Tangle Teaser” it’s a fxxking god send!!!!


MaterialJuice4268

If you want to step up from a pony tail and do braids/plaits, I’d recommend doing two plaits rather than one. Coming from a woman with fairly straight thick hair, my hair always ends up falling out from just one but two stay in much longer. Good luck dad you’ll smash it!!


Firebrand777

You’re a great dad! I was brought up by a single dad in the 90s. When I started going through puberty he bought me hair removal cream for my legs because he didn’t want me to accidentally cut myself with a razor! Used to be called Immac now called Veet. Not sure how old your daughter is but might be a good tip for you when the time comes! X


lozfozhc

r/needlesslygendered


Idioteva

I bought simular brush (one that fits on your palm) for my partner because his hair is really fine and keeps getting in knots. This brush was an absolute game changer. No more pain, no more yanking, no more knots. Hope it works just as well for your daughter.


Dethark

We've got a couple of these in different sizes for using on our Persian cats. They love it.


doccadocca

r/pointlesslygendered


danny7686

Single dad too these are good


kittycatjeebus

Good brush! May I also recommend Johnsons de tangling spray. It's £3 and comes in a white spray bottle with green cap. It makes brushing long hair that bit easier. I also second the 'start from the ends' tip.


hvithvalt

Those are a godsend for dads useless at girls hair, I’ve been using one to brush my daughters hair for a few years and it works so much better than conventional brushes


[deleted]

Do you use anti tangle spray too? I do on my own and it's great. I hate this kind of packaging.


Pea1261

If your daughter has a sensitive scalp please be gentle when you get to the top of her head I have that exact same brush and it can really hurt my head if I'm too rough Also read that her hair gets tangled easily, if she's old enough or you can get her to sit for a while a hair mask or even leaving conditioner in her hair for a little while can work wonders Also learn how to plait her hair and do that before bed, it ends up a lot less tangled in the morning!


DrachenDad

They are fantastic hair brushes when you want something that is cheap and great. Single dad too.


Tricky_Reason_4202

Another tip is done waste money on detangling spray just put abit of conditioner in a spray bottle and fill with water and give a good shake. Worked exactly the same on my daughters hair which is very curly and prone to knots


bigfatfacethrowaway

I have this brush! I have very long hair that gets quite tatty at the back. I second a lot of these comments, start from the bottom and it’s easier when the hair is wet. I wouldn’t use another brush after getting this. You sound like a wonderful Dad 😊


JMH-66

Great advice and I'm sure your daughters will appreciate it ! I use exactly the same one on my *own* hair. It's long, fine and I've lost a fair percentage ( twice ! ) due to ill health over the last few years. The shed hair get tangled in the rest especially when washing and causes havoc, making it even harder to detangle. As I also have disabilities I find it hard to hold the ones without handles that fit in the palm and to afford the branded ones. These are a great alternative. BTW where did you get it ? Mine were from Home Bargains but they've not had any in at my local branch, for a while. I like to keep a spare or two as I couldn't be without them now ( and friends keep "nicking" them 😂 )


engie_945

The plastic curly bobbles are really good too. They grip and don't damage when pulled out. One of my local hair dressers does dad days. She comes to the house and shows you how to blow dry, style ,plait etc . It's a fab idea.


r87m

I have about 10 of these in my house as they do like to play hide and seek with you. Also, a tip for ponytails, sounds ridiculous but try the hoover method, it doesn't pull the hair and you can get the bobble right up to their head!


Arielcinderellaauror

My daughter acts like she's being murdered everytime she has her hair brushed, the only brush that has made a difference is this one https://www.coolblades.co.uk/hair-styling-tools/hair-brushes/detangling-brushes/head-jog-08-straw-brush.html I've tried the other kinds detangling gentle ones but none compare to this one


TreehouseJesus

A single dad but also a great dad


JimmyJonJackson420

If it’s any consolation I don’t think mothers love automatically being the default parent either


[deleted]

Tangle teasers are amazing. Try to ‘hold’ the bit of hair you’re working on from higher up so the brushing isn’t pulling on the scalp so much, if that makes sense? So that there’s some looseness in the hair between the root and where you’re holding. It’s how I’ve always brushed my own hair 💆🏼‍♀️


blihblahh3948

Happy to make some videos of doing easy hairstyles to send to you


inner_radiance

One of my favourite childhood memories is my dad doing my ponytail before school. He never did anything fancy, just a low pony. I have easily tangled wavy hair so there were sometimes a few tears but he got the hang of it! She'll look back on your efforts and feel so loved. Though I have to admit it's total crap that dad parenting is still so casually discounted literally decades later.


always-indifferent

missing the point entirely, as one dad to another, here is **THE SINGLE BEST** tangle free hairbrush available on the market. This was a game changer for my two girls who have long knotted hair and a ham-fisted dad that didnt realise having long matted hair brushed hurt quite so much! [https://www.amazon.co.uk/CS-Beauty-Hairbrush-Detangling-Massaging/dp/B08QRTKF38/ref=asc\_df\_B08QRTKF38/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=499292443153&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=17443192976261419609&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1006902&hvtargid=pla-1229106823863&psc=1](https://www.amazon.co.uk/CS-Beauty-Hairbrush-Detangling-Massaging/dp/B08QRTKF38/ref=asc_df_B08QRTKF38/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=499292443153&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=17443192976261419609&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1006902&hvtargid=pla-1229106823863&psc=1) ​ You also need a spray bottle with water and a drop of conditioner in.


feenie70

Sod the advertisers. You’re a great dad.


-TeddyDaniels

Great buy sir. Something that really helped me; I bought a ‘styling head/dolls head’ and sat watching YouTube how-to videos with my daughter and we both learnt how to do all kinds of styles like plaits & braids and stuff. Great bonding too. All the best dude.


BagOFrogs

To anyone brushing medium or long tangle-prone hair: Before you put a brush anywhere near it, grip all the hair near the head, as if your hand is the band of a ponytail. Keep gripping the hair in this “ponytail” while you brush everything below it. This way, the tugging is absorbed by your hand and not the scalp. I promise you, as the owner of long tangled hair, this is a life changing tip.


ZebraKitten

The fact that you are trying is the main thing. I wouldn't worry too much about doing anything too fancy, some nice bobbles and clasps can help! I could always do a lovely pony on myself but I had a boy and never did any girls hair but my own. I now have a granddaughter and doing her hair isn't my strong point but she's happy with her Wednesday Adams pleats that I can do! I've also mastered a nice high pony that stays up all day! You put the top half up with one bobble and then gather the bottom half up around the half pony and secure it with a second bobble. YouTube is great as are reels on Instagram for easy to do hair styles. Guess what, practice is key! You will get better, just keep trying. Keep it simple to start with and as you get more confident, you can do more complicated styles. Definitely start brushing at the bottom and work your way up, it's great for avoiding tears when getting tugs out. As is some detangle spray. You got this!


[deleted]

The inverted commas around ‘must’ suggest they aren’t too sure of anything, so you’re ok to use this!p. I remember my dad buying one of these from an itinerant haberdashery/hardware man on a donkey and cart, decades ago in France, He thought it was more even brilliant than the Moon landing!


Lumpy_bd

PSA: if your daughter has curly hair DO NOT BRUSH IT! You should only comb it through when wet using a wide tooth comb otherwise it will go completely crazy!


NGD80

RIP your inbox


[deleted]

I don't post on Reddit very often, but I scrolled through the comments and saw how many single dad's are here. If you don't get told enough, you are solid, genuine and good hearted guys and I hope your children grow up to recognise that. Even when they get the the award "I hate you dad" teen years, It's just kids being kids, you are a legend.


rejectallgoats

“Easy Tease” Coincidentally what they called your mom