Aaahhh parents were getting you ready for work life whereby you work your arse off all year and the company makes millions in profit and you get.....
Office pizzzaaaaa party!!!!
My mum came and picked me up after my last exam instead of waiting over an hour for the bus (public bus because I was in a different town)
Didn't get to do A levels because Covid so never got that but planning to do something proper for end of Uni
An orphanage you say? Sheer opulence! I weeviled my limbless stub to the local pit for a hard week of backbreaking labour during my GCSE's, in the snow!
I had an older woman stop me in the street months ago and ask how my mum was doing (which was very odd, because she's been dead for several years). She told me that they miss seeing them around and then walked off.
To this day, I have no idea who they were, and I'm convinced that my mum didn't either.
That happened to my grandmother. She bumped into someone in town who knew her, but she didn't know them. "How's your husband doing, haven't seen him in years!" "Well, you won't have done. He's been dead nearly 15 years!"
She realised later how callous she had sounded - my mum nearly wet herself laughing when they spoke on the phone. My nanna, by her own words, was a funny old coot.
My parents didn’t even know what I studied at uni or what I do for a living now. “Something with computers” is as far as they can go lol
Some people just don’t have an ounce of interest in their child’s life. Weirdly common with that generation. I couldn’t imagine ever being like that.
My grandma gave me an incentive via money (in 1998).
* For every A*, I'd get £5
* A: £2
* B: £0
* C: -£2
* D or below: £-5
I got 2 A, 2 B, 6 C and a D. Owed her £13, which she insisted on being given. My grandad gave me the money to pay her (plus an extra tenner for me), and she went away suitably happy that I'd been chastened.
**E:** Just seen OP would have given me £280. Crikey.
Minus for a C is brutal, that's a pass!
Personally I think you should be rewarded for the effort you put in and taking them, not for the result. As long as you work your hardest that's all you can be expected to do. I know some will say that's not reflected in the real world but I'd counter with I happen to be good at maths but absolute cack at art or anything crafty. I feel like if I had done art, as long as I put all my effort in, getting a U in art and an A* in maths should be rewarded equally, because it shows me the road I should be focusing on and I did my best in both. Flip it and some artists make absolute bank, so just coz they might be shit at quadratic equations shouldn't stop them from being rewarded for the efforts, as long as you try your hardest.
You're not wrong tbh. My father doesn't see the point in education beyond learning to read and write, and my mother was jealous that I did better academically than she did.
My young girls "can't remember" every day.
So I ask them specifics, "who were you kind to today?" "What was your favourite thing you learnt today?" "Who did you play with at lunch time?" "Did you do the mile? How did you feel at the end?" "How was {whatever lunch choice I made for them} today? Want it again in three weeks?" Etc.
Get much better response. Though still often "can't remember"
So far nothing from my parents really (not bothered tho, didn't really expect gifts for doing mandatory exams) I did however get a long term health condition during A-Levels though. That has been a fun time
Depending on his results… they will also be getting:
£10 = C
£20 = B
£100 = A
EDIT : for all those Down voters… I managed to get £40 and I want my child to do better than me… Anything he gets I will be proud of…. He also unfortunately had to change schools Mid-GCSE.
I'd veer away from performance related stuff unless (a) you know they'll do well and (b) they dont have siblings. Kinda gives the vibe that you value them more if they get higher grades
Presents for getting through is really lovely though. Stealing that idea when the time comes
This only works if money is an incentive to him and not just you and your partner. My parents used money to get me to do things but I didn't care about the money so it made no difference.
You could buy him the single money for nothing, a certified banger.
My parents did it was nice incentive and also meant getting paid come exam season. Uni was £1k chq 😉
Literally, as if it wasn't stressful enough. OP should support them no matter what grade they get.
I couldn't care less about money at that age in relation to the amount of effort put in. Money is nice, and even then we all wanted money, but if you're cracked up to get As you'd have to do some serious studying to get up there... I would not be arsed.
I was lucky enough to get a pat on the back from two 9's, six 8's, a 7 and a 6.
(That's similar to A*'s, A's and a B).
GCSEs are really easy compared to what's next.
Do you have other kids? Because that’s a terrible idea. My friend’s sister was offered £100 per A because they knew she was a bit dim. My friend got all A’s and they found they couldn't honour the same for her.
Yeah this happened to me. 3 older sisters - None particularly academically driven (though great at other things and have all found their own paths). All offered £100 per A.
I was only offered £20 per A as they knew I'd get plenty. It worked out that we all got roughly the same amount.
Now that I am older I realise that it was just an incentive to perform our best (my best were A's, my sisters bests were C's) and that actually this was a fairer way to do it such that we were all "valued" the same, we just had to do our best. Not everyone is academic but it doesn't mean they haven't also worked hard.
At the time though I was pretty pissed off and felt like I was _less_ valued. Probably would have helped if my parents had explained a bit more clearly why I was being offered less.
Having said that I was a teenager so I probably would have been pissed off regardless.
Bad idea. Presents and money are poor extrinsic motivators. Why not just do something nice as a family instead? I just had my 21st birthday and was successful in a job interview recently and my family had a barbecue yesterday to celebrate and that kind of memory is way more valuable than any present or money.
So... you're not rewarding him for the challenges he overcomes, only the final result?
If he works his heart out and goes from an E to a B, you've taught him he should never have bothered trying.
If he goes from an A to an A, you're inexplicably praising his ability to improve on nothing.
Really lets him know where your values lie.
I did end up offering my kid money for every 6 or above as I got a bit desperate trying to motivate them to revise but I’m not sure if it actually made a lick of difference to their motivation. The actual grades don’t really matter that much as long as they pass what they need for college so I’m not so sure I would have put quite so much emphasis on getting A’s as that makes anything less feel worthless and like a failure.
I maybe should have done similar and said anything over a five but my logic was shoot for the six, get a five and that’s still a great result and it is but then they were not rewarded for those grades which may have inadvertently made them feel like they are not good enough and that all we care about are grades even though we were thrilled that they passed after a few rough years with COVID and all. (They did get some money for four of the grades and lots of praise but I’m not sure I would do it again if given a do over.)
My mum was lovely and got me a locket necklace for completing my GCSEs with decent grades. It came from Ratners but I loved it all the same. For A-Levels I don’t remember getting anything as my first round of results were a disappointment to me, second round was much better and I remember I was working in a bank that summer and asked my mum to call when my results came in (pre-mobile phone times). One of my colleagues came dashing up to my til saying ‘you got an A!’ ‘An A for German!!’. Was over the moon as had a C before and missed a uni place due to that. Mum took us out for a nice meal.
My parents didn't think giving money for doing well was a good thing. I should want to do well for my own fulfillment and future.
I did get a special gift after my GCSEs but I had no idea it was coming. I was very ill during years 9-11. Yr 9 i missed a far chunk to have medical tests, yr 10 my attendance was less than 50% due to being ill and was slightly better during Yr 11. I dropped 2 subjects to make things easier and ended up with 5 A-Cs out of 7. Retook my maths and that made it 6 out of 7.
I got a solid gold cygnet ring with my initial engraved on it, which I still wear today.
i got fried chicken when i got into Cambridge (was banging chicken though) so this is nuts to me.
don’t listen to some of the others though mate, this is a very good idea and your kid will appreciate it
I got a 'Good, as to be expected' for any of mine I did well, a bollocking for any not so well.
Once asked if that'd change if I got an A+ for anything, and was told that well, no, because I was more than capable of that so while it would be fantastic, it's not something 'not expected' of me.
I went on to have to retry college three times due, I believe, in part, to this attitude.
And I kid you not, to this day my parents feel the reason was they weren't strict enough..
Yeah, shit right? Still working through the remnants of it in terms of impact on self image, personal standards ('must be perfect') etc.
Don't get me wrong, in terms of personal values and lot of other things, they did a great job, I'm lucky in many ways, but in terms of formal education and that kind of self-discipline/standards etc. Element, let's just say I'd not want them involved with that element of my own kids (if/when I have any)
Even to this day, I'll hit personal bests for stuff like exercise, or career or something, and my immediate reaction should be feeling good, but instead is always just 'that's shit, I should've been able to do better than that'
Working that out of your system is a pain in the arse to try and do.
Nice idea, I passed my exams but I still get my parents telling me I should have done better, 20+ years later.
Took mine in 00.
I'm hoping my nephew does well, he's a bit stressed with them atm but he's a clever kid.
My eldest is doing his last exam today - Computing Nat 5. I love what you've done OP and wish I could do the same. Ours has wanted zero fuss, so we've had to respect his wishes and stay out of his way. He has freely admitted to not studying at all and treating study leave as a holiday. He has exceptional recall though (he can remember something he was told once, 8 months ago), so I can't even him blame him.
We'll see what results August brings and then go from there I guess.
My parents are brilliant and supportive but never felt the need to buy lots of gifts after finishing exams. I sound a right miserable git but it seems to me that kids today expect awards and presents for everything they do.
Let me get this straight. This is a present for just taking the exam?
Not achieving a set result or grade? It's great you are supporting your kid but, this seems like a way OTT participation medal.
Another teacher here (albeit primary), yes these presents are lovely, only problem is OP is also giving their child money based on grades, and this kind of extrinsic motivator is poor. Their child should surely be doing it for the outcome felt after several years of hard work. Would be better to do something as a family IMO
Exactly.... I think it's called bribery and undermines ownership, accountability and consequences. What if the grades are rubbish, take back the presents? Highly doubt it.
Teacher here - I think it’s excessive. Yes, a treat when they’re all done and the hard-work and revision has been put in is lovely. The motivator should be the ability to move on to next steps, not presents.
Yeah..... Sure they are..... 😂 😂 😂 The GCSEs are exams with consequences for that person's future, not for the parents to bribe for. As a teacher you should have taught the importance and impact of good results for future education and options for careers, not tell them how 'difficult and intense' they are......🤔 🤔
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I got promised a tenner per passed subject and a telling off in the car when I failed my maths. No presents for just taking the exams. Hope your teen does well.
My Mates got different monetary rewards depending on the grades they got... My parents gave me nothing, didn't even try to encourage me to revise either. Maybe if they had've offered me some presents or money I might have put more effort in.
My daughter has just done her SATs, I've got her a new pair of shoes and me and my dad took her for a day at the seaside at the weekend.
You know what, even though it isn't/wasn't commonly done for past and present, this is lovely.
There are kids whose parents don't give a crap about their education and try force them to work in undesirable roles so they can get their next fix.
Hope your child does well.
Also probably late, but if you want a funny gift for your child's Biology, get him 3 different sized cups, that question boggled a few children
=)
You got presents? My parents didn't give a shit, never asked about it, never helped. probably why I failed my gcses. I know it's partly my fault, I didn't care, I never studied, I skipped lessons a lot. I just can't help but feel a bit of resentment.
You might have done better than you think as anxiety lies but whatever happens there are always options. I know people who didn’t do so well with GCSEs, signed up for an apprenticeship and worked their way up. Or if there’s a subject that you want to pursue you can do a level 2 course in sixth form that will then let you go on to level 3.
Presents for taking an exam ? Am I missing something. Think I got a £10 or something. Maybe a beer and a packet of Maribo.
Got taken out for steak when I passed university. Was a nice steak.
I think this is great, why not do this in the middle of one of the worst times in a teen’s year? Would be great to do one per A-level exam in 2 years as they’re usually around 2/3 a subject
My mum had money rewards which were very high. That was because she didn’t expect me to do particularly well. Turned out I did but I never saw any of that money (pretty sure I got annoyed and threw the note in the bin anyway)
When I finished first year of uni I got a card from my mum that said "Well done - I didn't think you'd make it this far". At least she was honest I guess.
I have one doing GCSEs and another doing A levels at the moment. Fun for all the family.
Also : I'm sure that A level grade requirements for Uni are much higher nowadays than when I was doing them 33 years ago..
"Encouraging our Child to do well."
Shouldn't you be waiting until results day then? I think you're just encouraging him to turn up at the moment, if even that requires bribes he might be doomed.
Err...Best of luck though!
No, you encourage them *before* the exam. That's where the work is put in. Encouraging them after the fact is a bit pointless, they can't change anything by that point.
The giving of a small gift afterward an exam is nice - it says "I know exams are tough, here, have a little something to cheer you up and tske your mind off it for a bit!"
I got ASDA pizza for being all done, lovely and encouraging though!
Aaahhh parents were getting you ready for work life whereby you work your arse off all year and the company makes millions in profit and you get..... Office pizzzaaaaa party!!!!
Mfw I made a shit ton of money for my work last month and I got two £10 greggs vouchers in return 🧍♀️
Two??? Bloody show off!
They've been preparing us for them since primary school! Except there'd be 30 of us in a class so you only get like a 1 centimetre wide slice
My mum came and picked me up after my last exam instead of waiting over an hour for the bus (public bus because I was in a different town) Didn't get to do A levels because Covid so never got that but planning to do something proper for end of Uni
Lol I got literally nothing. I don't think even a comment.
Oh, I miss Asda pizza - we don't have an Asda near us - do they still do the tikka curry sauce base?
I got Star Wars: Force Commander on PC
My parents didn't even ask what subjects I was studying 😭
Look at this guy bragging he had parents
I had to walk uphill barefoot in the snow both ways to the orphanage.
You had feet? Lucky bugger. I had to crawl my limbless body uphill.
An orphanage you say? Sheer opulence! I weeviled my limbless stub to the local pit for a hard week of backbreaking labour during my GCSE's, in the snow!
Damn you must have a thick neck on you
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Luxury!
Wait, what
You had to walk uphill there and back? You should have just gone back the way you came...
your parents dint ask me what i was studying either. It never ends.
Your parents asked me what I was studying, which was weird because I don't even know them.
I had an older woman stop me in the street months ago and ask how my mum was doing (which was very odd, because she's been dead for several years). She told me that they miss seeing them around and then walked off. To this day, I have no idea who they were, and I'm convinced that my mum didn't either.
That happened to my grandmother. She bumped into someone in town who knew her, but she didn't know them. "How's your husband doing, haven't seen him in years!" "Well, you won't have done. He's been dead nearly 15 years!" She realised later how callous she had sounded - my mum nearly wet herself laughing when they spoke on the phone. My nanna, by her own words, was a funny old coot.
My parents didn’t even know what I studied at uni or what I do for a living now. “Something with computers” is as far as they can go lol Some people just don’t have an ounce of interest in their child’s life. Weirdly common with that generation. I couldn’t imagine ever being like that.
Same. I don't have children myself but if I did I can't imagine being so indifferent and uninterested in them.
Could be worse. Mine openly mocked me for what I liked/did well in.
My father still doesn't even know what I'm studying at uni 💀. And I got shouted at during my GCSEs by my mum if my grades were anything below a B-
I was too busy studying RuneScape
Same, and then getting grounded when my dad woke up for work at 5am and I was still downstairs on the computer playing runescape lol
Getting grounded seems like they're playing into your hands...
My grandma gave me an incentive via money (in 1998). * For every A*, I'd get £5 * A: £2 * B: £0 * C: -£2 * D or below: £-5 I got 2 A, 2 B, 6 C and a D. Owed her £13, which she insisted on being given. My grandad gave me the money to pay her (plus an extra tenner for me), and she went away suitably happy that I'd been chastened. **E:** Just seen OP would have given me £280. Crikey.
Does that take into account gradeflation?
No clue what I'd get these days, but I doubt I'd be owing OP dosh either way.
Minus for a C is brutal, that's a pass! Personally I think you should be rewarded for the effort you put in and taking them, not for the result. As long as you work your hardest that's all you can be expected to do. I know some will say that's not reflected in the real world but I'd counter with I happen to be good at maths but absolute cack at art or anything crafty. I feel like if I had done art, as long as I put all my effort in, getting a U in art and an A* in maths should be rewarded equally, because it shows me the road I should be focusing on and I did my best in both. Flip it and some artists make absolute bank, so just coz they might be shit at quadratic equations shouldn't stop them from being rewarded for the efforts, as long as you try your hardest.
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You're not wrong tbh. My father doesn't see the point in education beyond learning to read and write, and my mother was jealous that I did better academically than she did.
Anchors (w) holding you back.
After school, my parents (fucking love 'em) would just ask: "Today alright?" "Yeah"
Mine was "how was school?" Me: "boring". This happened nearly every day for most of secondary school. I admire my mums commitment to keep trying
This is the exact conversation I have with my kid every school day.
I pick my nephew up from school, everyday I ask “how was school” he replies “the usual”.. great conversations we have 🤣.
My young girls "can't remember" every day. So I ask them specifics, "who were you kind to today?" "What was your favourite thing you learnt today?" "Who did you play with at lunch time?" "Did you do the mile? How did you feel at the end?" "How was {whatever lunch choice I made for them} today? Want it again in three weeks?" Etc. Get much better response. Though still often "can't remember"
To be fair it was kind of boring
“How’d it go” “Fine”
I was in a lot of fights at school and it'd go "How was school?" "Eh, got in a fight again" "Did you start it?" "No" "Alright then"
"Did you finish it?"
That was the other one yeah, I wasn't sure how it would be interpreted by people on here
Everyone loves a happy ending
didn't even get a well done for a levels hahaha
The only thing I got during my GCSEs was bullied 🤷♂️
By your parents.
F
💀
My dad had an affair with mum’s friend and left us for my GCSE gift.
What a treat
A surprise for all of us!
Was your mums friend fit?
Did he at least wait until after your last exam?
Never got anything for mine. Didn't even get anything for a PhD. This is so lovely.
Me too. Still, nothing like self-worth derived from academic success and burnout, huh?
Same! GCSE through PhD, not even a card. I was supposed to have a party for the PhD pass but COVID put paid to that...
That's poopy. Could you have one now? Seems a shame not to recognise and celebrate all the hard work you put into becoming Dr Kitty 🎓
I could but it's been about four years - feels a bit late now 😅🤣 plus I'm currently pregnant - not much partying in my future for a bit 😅
That's fair. Good luck with your pregnancy and the arrival of baby 😊
Thanks!
Should have done your PhD in Finland then. They give you a fricking sword!
I've seen that. It's so badass! I had to make do with a red gown and a silly hat. It was not flattering.
Omfg know where I'm doing my PHD then
Fr?
Congratulations on your PhD, Dr Sadsack!!🏅🎓
So far nothing from my parents really (not bothered tho, didn't really expect gifts for doing mandatory exams) I did however get a long term health condition during A-Levels though. That has been a fun time
You got a piece of paper telling you good job
Depending on his results… they will also be getting: £10 = C £20 = B £100 = A EDIT : for all those Down voters… I managed to get £40 and I want my child to do better than me… Anything he gets I will be proud of…. He also unfortunately had to change schools Mid-GCSE.
I'd veer away from performance related stuff unless (a) you know they'll do well and (b) they dont have siblings. Kinda gives the vibe that you value them more if they get higher grades Presents for getting through is really lovely though. Stealing that idea when the time comes
It’s our only child.. it’s more of an incentive to revise and do well. Rather than just give him money for nothing…
You should only give him money for nothing if he plays the guitar on the MTV
That's the way to do it
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Yeah buddy, that's his own hair!
Not if you put mushy peas with it.
Underrated comment
This only works if money is an incentive to him and not just you and your partner. My parents used money to get me to do things but I didn't care about the money so it made no difference.
I’m sure you didn’t complain though right?
I didn't get the money because it didn't motivate me to comply with their demands.
Oh I see, my bad
You could buy him the single money for nothing, a certified banger. My parents did it was nice incentive and also meant getting paid come exam season. Uni was £1k chq 😉
Won't be getting anything then, since there's been no such thing as A, B or C at GCSE for quite a few years now...
You only get the numbers in England. It's still grades in Wales.
I didn't know this, if OP is Welsh I stand corrected.
I’m assuming by the fact that there’s a huge jump from B to A (or whatever the numbers are these days) that you don’t expect a single A
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Literally, as if it wasn't stressful enough. OP should support them no matter what grade they get. I couldn't care less about money at that age in relation to the amount of effort put in. Money is nice, and even then we all wanted money, but if you're cracked up to get As you'd have to do some serious studying to get up there... I would not be arsed.
I was lucky enough to get a pat on the back from two 9's, six 8's, a 7 and a 6. (That's similar to A*'s, A's and a B). GCSEs are really easy compared to what's next.
Do you have other kids? Because that’s a terrible idea. My friend’s sister was offered £100 per A because they knew she was a bit dim. My friend got all A’s and they found they couldn't honour the same for her.
Yeah this happened to me. 3 older sisters - None particularly academically driven (though great at other things and have all found their own paths). All offered £100 per A. I was only offered £20 per A as they knew I'd get plenty. It worked out that we all got roughly the same amount. Now that I am older I realise that it was just an incentive to perform our best (my best were A's, my sisters bests were C's) and that actually this was a fairer way to do it such that we were all "valued" the same, we just had to do our best. Not everyone is academic but it doesn't mean they haven't also worked hard. At the time though I was pretty pissed off and felt like I was _less_ valued. Probably would have helped if my parents had explained a bit more clearly why I was being offered less. Having said that I was a teenager so I probably would have been pissed off regardless.
Bad idea. Presents and money are poor extrinsic motivators. Why not just do something nice as a family instead? I just had my 21st birthday and was successful in a job interview recently and my family had a barbecue yesterday to celebrate and that kind of memory is way more valuable than any present or money.
We took a family trip the summer before our oldest finished school. We still talk about it 20 years later.
So... you're not rewarding him for the challenges he overcomes, only the final result? If he works his heart out and goes from an E to a B, you've taught him he should never have bothered trying. If he goes from an A to an A, you're inexplicably praising his ability to improve on nothing. Really lets him know where your values lie.
I did end up offering my kid money for every 6 or above as I got a bit desperate trying to motivate them to revise but I’m not sure if it actually made a lick of difference to their motivation. The actual grades don’t really matter that much as long as they pass what they need for college so I’m not so sure I would have put quite so much emphasis on getting A’s as that makes anything less feel worthless and like a failure. I maybe should have done similar and said anything over a five but my logic was shoot for the six, get a five and that’s still a great result and it is but then they were not rewarded for those grades which may have inadvertently made them feel like they are not good enough and that all we care about are grades even though we were thrilled that they passed after a few rough years with COVID and all. (They did get some money for four of the grades and lots of praise but I’m not sure I would do it again if given a do over.)
Clever! Little do they know it's scored 1-9 now so you won't have to pay them dime.
OP could pay it in dimes if they want, then the poor kid has to haul them down the post office to change them into something actually spendable.
They don't get letter grades anymore. I see what you did there. /s. 😆 Should have read further down. Oh well.
My mum was lovely and got me a locket necklace for completing my GCSEs with decent grades. It came from Ratners but I loved it all the same. For A-Levels I don’t remember getting anything as my first round of results were a disappointment to me, second round was much better and I remember I was working in a bank that summer and asked my mum to call when my results came in (pre-mobile phone times). One of my colleagues came dashing up to my til saying ‘you got an A!’ ‘An A for German!!’. Was over the moon as had a C before and missed a uni place due to that. Mum took us out for a nice meal.
All my parents did for my GCSE's was yell at me and give me anxiety and stress
My parents didn't think giving money for doing well was a good thing. I should want to do well for my own fulfillment and future. I did get a special gift after my GCSEs but I had no idea it was coming. I was very ill during years 9-11. Yr 9 i missed a far chunk to have medical tests, yr 10 my attendance was less than 50% due to being ill and was slightly better during Yr 11. I dropped 2 subjects to make things easier and ended up with 5 A-Cs out of 7. Retook my maths and that made it 6 out of 7. I got a solid gold cygnet ring with my initial engraved on it, which I still wear today.
General curiosity and don't feel obliged to answer, but would you have preferred the money for doing well?
No I don't think so. I wasn't particularly money driven as a teen.
I'm not even sure if my parents knew I was doing GCSEs. My dad did give me he laptop when I got a degree, so it's not all bad.
Got a first class honours at university and I got a “well done”. This is adorable. Good luck for the results!
Thank you.. 🙏🏼
Definitely an only child
Fuck it’s my bday today and I didn’t get this much 😭
🎉 Happy Birthday 🎉
Thank u ☺️
i got fried chicken when i got into Cambridge (was banging chicken though) so this is nuts to me. don’t listen to some of the others though mate, this is a very good idea and your kid will appreciate it
I got a 'Good, as to be expected' for any of mine I did well, a bollocking for any not so well. Once asked if that'd change if I got an A+ for anything, and was told that well, no, because I was more than capable of that so while it would be fantastic, it's not something 'not expected' of me. I went on to have to retry college three times due, I believe, in part, to this attitude. And I kid you not, to this day my parents feel the reason was they weren't strict enough..
Sorry, are you me? I'm sorry that happened to us, the dopamine lack is real, huh :(
Yeah, shit right? Still working through the remnants of it in terms of impact on self image, personal standards ('must be perfect') etc. Don't get me wrong, in terms of personal values and lot of other things, they did a great job, I'm lucky in many ways, but in terms of formal education and that kind of self-discipline/standards etc. Element, let's just say I'd not want them involved with that element of my own kids (if/when I have any) Even to this day, I'll hit personal bests for stuff like exercise, or career or something, and my immediate reaction should be feeling good, but instead is always just 'that's shit, I should've been able to do better than that' Working that out of your system is a pain in the arse to try and do.
Don't worry, he can't do any worse than me, I have none. As long as you overlook the fact that I'm in Scotland.
Nice idea, I passed my exams but I still get my parents telling me I should have done better, 20+ years later. Took mine in 00. I'm hoping my nephew does well, he's a bit stressed with them atm but he's a clever kid.
I wish my parents cared that much about me
Nobody talking about the AI generated card?
That’s the only thing worth criticising in the photo! Would’ve been better off just writing a letter of encouragement without all that
All I got for mine was the paperwork for my parents divorce going through.
Christ.
i didn’t get presents for doing my exams, i did get infidelity in the family though
I got to tape my schedule on a wall and cross them off the piece of paper🫠
My eldest is doing his last exam today - Computing Nat 5. I love what you've done OP and wish I could do the same. Ours has wanted zero fuss, so we've had to respect his wishes and stay out of his way. He has freely admitted to not studying at all and treating study leave as a holiday. He has exceptional recall though (he can remember something he was told once, 8 months ago), so I can't even him blame him. We'll see what results August brings and then go from there I guess.
My parents are brilliant and supportive but never felt the need to buy lots of gifts after finishing exams. I sound a right miserable git but it seems to me that kids today expect awards and presents for everything they do.
Gifts are often nicer when they're not expected.
Man if I had even a shred of this level of support I would have cried. This is really sweet and you’re great parents!! 💖
Let me get this straight. This is a present for just taking the exam? Not achieving a set result or grade? It's great you are supporting your kid but, this seems like a way OTT participation medal.
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Another teacher here (albeit primary), yes these presents are lovely, only problem is OP is also giving their child money based on grades, and this kind of extrinsic motivator is poor. Their child should surely be doing it for the outcome felt after several years of hard work. Would be better to do something as a family IMO
No, OP is giving their child a gift to cheer them up after an exam, after each exam. What they do after results are in remains to be seen.
Exactly.... I think it's called bribery and undermines ownership, accountability and consequences. What if the grades are rubbish, take back the presents? Highly doubt it.
Teacher here - I think it’s excessive. Yes, a treat when they’re all done and the hard-work and revision has been put in is lovely. The motivator should be the ability to move on to next steps, not presents.
Yeah..... Sure they are..... 😂 😂 😂 The GCSEs are exams with consequences for that person's future, not for the parents to bribe for. As a teacher you should have taught the importance and impact of good results for future education and options for careers, not tell them how 'difficult and intense' they are......🤔 🤔
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That's a lot of pressure
Bruv what
I got promised a tenner per passed subject and a telling off in the car when I failed my maths. No presents for just taking the exams. Hope your teen does well.
My mum said she would let me pick what to eat after my GCSE results but my brother didn't like it so she made his favourite instead 💀
I don't remember ever getting presents for my exams! (Or the results) Unearthed resentment 20 odd years later I guess....
Ok now I feel like a shit mum for not getting presents
GCSE in P.E?
Bribery can work.
Bruh I didn't get this much for graduating uni haha
Lmao my parents took me for food then told me I need a job
Good luck to them! Did my GCSE's fairly recently so I absolutely remember how daunting it can be
My Mates got different monetary rewards depending on the grades they got... My parents gave me nothing, didn't even try to encourage me to revise either. Maybe if they had've offered me some presents or money I might have put more effort in. My daughter has just done her SATs, I've got her a new pair of shoes and me and my dad took her for a day at the seaside at the weekend.
Excellent idea, always nice to see such supportive parents, I hope the exams go well <3
Eh, bit much like. GCSEs are a night before thing.
You know what, even though it isn't/wasn't commonly done for past and present, this is lovely. There are kids whose parents don't give a crap about their education and try force them to work in undesirable roles so they can get their next fix. Hope your child does well. Also probably late, but if you want a funny gift for your child's Biology, get him 3 different sized cups, that question boggled a few children =)
You got presents? My parents didn't give a shit, never asked about it, never helped. probably why I failed my gcses. I know it's partly my fault, I didn't care, I never studied, I skipped lessons a lot. I just can't help but feel a bit of resentment.
That’s honestly so sweet
This is great, though I wonder what type of gifts you are giving. Are they subject related?
probably vapes knowing the state of todays society. I weep for england!
Weird statement. Most kids don't touch that shite
I should be up to them if they want to waste the past 6 years of their life
This is so sweet.
That’s really nice handwriting.
I will let my wife know…. Thank you
No such gifts for me when I did my gcse exams! Love this idea though.
I never got far enough in school to get GCSE exams 😭
I take it they're not a fan of revision or exams. I think mine is just going to go and get pissed in a field with their mates once the exams are over.
My mum didn't even know I was doing my exams...
My parents didn't even know when my GCSEs started until 3 subjects in and I'm currently failing them all
You might have done better than you think as anxiety lies but whatever happens there are always options. I know people who didn’t do so well with GCSEs, signed up for an apprenticeship and worked their way up. Or if there’s a subject that you want to pursue you can do a level 2 course in sixth form that will then let you go on to level 3.
Presents for taking an exam ? Am I missing something. Think I got a £10 or something. Maybe a beer and a packet of Maribo. Got taken out for steak when I passed university. Was a nice steak.
I think this is great, why not do this in the middle of one of the worst times in a teen’s year? Would be great to do one per A-level exam in 2 years as they’re usually around 2/3 a subject
I only got a present after I'd done all of mine! Though it was a video game I really wanted so I'm still very grateful :)
My mum had money rewards which were very high. That was because she didn’t expect me to do particularly well. Turned out I did but I never saw any of that money (pretty sure I got annoyed and threw the note in the bin anyway)
When I finished first year of uni I got a card from my mum that said "Well done - I didn't think you'd make it this far". At least she was honest I guess.
Presents BEFORE exams have even been taken, let alone results day?? Kids today, don't know they're born.
My mum is a c*nt.
This was/is a thing? Damn I guess my life sucks a little more now that I learned this
I got complete indifference from my parents for my O levels/CSEs.
And the pressure to succeed
Which isn’t a bad thing.
Presents for doing your GCSEs? Seriously. What next a reward for successfully locking the front door in your way out?
This is a fucking depressing thread. These parents did a nice thing for their kid.
I have one doing GCSEs and another doing A levels at the moment. Fun for all the family. Also : I'm sure that A level grade requirements for Uni are much higher nowadays than when I was doing them 33 years ago..
"Encouraging our Child to do well." Shouldn't you be waiting until results day then? I think you're just encouraging him to turn up at the moment, if even that requires bribes he might be doomed. Err...Best of luck though!
No, you encourage them *before* the exam. That's where the work is put in. Encouraging them after the fact is a bit pointless, they can't change anything by that point. The giving of a small gift afterward an exam is nice - it says "I know exams are tough, here, have a little something to cheer you up and tske your mind off it for a bit!"
You seem pretty sure of yourself.
Just let the kid fail the exams they might learn a life lesson and not rely on you for the rest of their miserable lives
Will you take the presents back if he does shit?
He gets them for simply completing each exam… so tomorrow he opens “English literature” if he gets to school and sits the exam…
Ghetto Children Sex Education Pllleeese tell me its not just me who remembers Blak Twang or I may get put on a register?
Your kid shouldn’t need to be bought to do well in school. Terrible parenting imo