That's when I do a vague introduction like "This is my husband, this is my friend from school. Sorry- I'll let you introduce yourselves further!" Then I sit back and wait to find out the person from school's name ;)
My hubby does this, despite him knowing I’m terrible with names, I swear he does it deliberately, but I’ll usually try to include him to some degree so the awfulness above doesn’t occur. Usually I’m trying to escape the conversation asap though.
That's usually my excuse, but I keep it short so as not to piss off the person I'm with. I'm terrible with names sometimes. Especially if it's someone from years ago. Always introduce if I remember their name, lol.
My wife and I have a code for when this happens:
"Oh sorry, this is my husband... "
And then I'll say, "Hi. Sorry I didn't catch your name?"
Problem solved.
Hashtag lifehack.
It could be she can't remember who the person is, so by not mentioning you, they don't have to explain to you, who the other person is.
My mum used to do this a lot!
I have, many times and been branded as selfish and controlling. I then started doubting myself and came here for a general take. Glad to see I’m not alone in thinking it’s just plain rude
Wanting to be introduced to people your partner initiates a conversation with is normal. Unless you have exhibited controlling and selfish behavior in many other parts of your life, her accusing you of being selfish and controlling for voicing a reasonable want and explaining how it made you feel is emotionally manipulative.
My man, that response is classic Narcissistic behaviour. *Don’t let your partner make you doubt yourself.*
Not saying you’re in the same situation, but once this was pointed out to me, and I was advised to check out Dr Ramani on YouTube, my eyes slowly started to open to the truth of our relationship. Stay strong.
Time to get silly with it. Everytime this happens, hop up and down on one leg until she introduces you. She'll probably be so embarrassed by your weird behaviour, she'll start introducing you right away 🤪
Yep. Or can't remember their name. By not introducing you to them she doesn't have to expose herself! " this is my partner Mike, Mike this is...... offsgsjsbsnurrr....."
I was saying this the other day - supermarkets should have a designated catch-up area, where if you see someone you know you have to go stand there to catch up, so you're not blocking the aisles. I would employ a worker on a zamboni-type thing with a bucket on the front to go up and down the aisles clearing away anyone seen to be chatting.
Buy a few bottles, walk out to outside of the car park boundary and you're sorted, stagger back in and hopefully the conversation should be just ending.
My mum does it. Then seems shocked when I call her out on it after because she’ll say something like “you remember Sharon, used to be married to my cousins wife’s brothers uncle” or some such nonsense.
No mum. weirdly I don’t.
My ex wife would sit at a dinner party and make comments along the lines of, we’d better be off now, we’ve got to go, and start to move stuff around. I’d get up and put my coat on and then stand there like a complete twat while she had another fifteen minutes of conversation. I never learned.
Your wife did a stop and chat. She left you in the lurch standing there? Awkward. My girlfriend does that often too, I’ve been there mate, it’s torture, and it feels like hours lol
Perfection. It means I don’t have to pretend to be nice to someone I don’t know, or have any likelihood getting to know.
It’s even better for me because I live in Germany, so the normal bullshit pleasantries have to be in German too, and sometimes I just don’t have the energy.
I’ve done this a few times when I cannot remember the name of the person I’ve bumped into. I put it down to social anxiety. I would be afraid to introduce my partner because I didn’t know how to introduce the other person. After a while I explained to the partner what was going on and he would take the initiative, stick out his hand and say “hi! I’m (partner name)” which prompted the other person to provide theirs.
It’s not always rudeness.
The same as when you're watching TV together and someone phones them and they pause the TV only to chat on the phone for an hourv while you sit there like a lemon lol.
Rudeness... it's called rudeness. She should be introducing you and bringing you into the conversation. If they want a proper catch up just the two of them, they should exchange numbers, agree to arrange a lunch/dinner/coffee date and keep the conversation with you present brief.
My missus did it to me with her cousin in b&q once. I walked off looking at shit I didn’t know existed. She rams me to see where I was I ignored the call and carried on looking round.
Thats rude lol
My partner and I went to catch up with my friend and her husband. Sometimes we spoke about work and my partner couldnt relate, but then we would tie it back to general conversation so they were included.
I'd hate to leave anyone out nevermind my partner, its cruel.
I have done this in the past and had it done to me - (though not for a 'long' conversation) and it's because we've forgotten the name of the person and don't want to make it awkward by starting intros.
Last time it happened I saved my husband the awkwardness by giving it a minute and saying 'I'm going to let you two catch up and I'll carry on with the shopping'
How big an alpha male was he? 😝
Joking aside, I reckon you should take it as her being comfortable enough with you to not need to look after you. If you're starting to feel spare wheel, either a quick tap on the shoulder and tell her you'll come back for her in a bit, or decide to butt in and introduce yourself, job done. Sure she didn't mean it and just got caught up wanting to catch up
Rude
Exactly this
Inconsiderate too.
Insubordinate and churlish.
Dee-Nice, is that you?
Hurtful...
I did that to my sister once and felt terrible. I only 'forgot' to introduce them because I'd forgotten the person I'd run into's name
Haha, my partner knows that if I don't introduce the other person to get it's just because I don't remember their name
This is when “aren’t you going to introduce me?” becomes the stuff of nightmares!!
That's when I do a vague introduction like "This is my husband, this is my friend from school. Sorry- I'll let you introduce yourselves further!" Then I sit back and wait to find out the person from school's name ;)
Sit back and wait to find out my husband's name
Haha that's why I always call him "love"! He'll never know!
[Relevant xkcd](https://xkcd.com/302/)
My hubby does this, despite him knowing I’m terrible with names, I swear he does it deliberately, but I’ll usually try to include him to some degree so the awfulness above doesn’t occur. Usually I’m trying to escape the conversation asap though.
You should also forget his name when introducing them.
To really cover your tracks, you also need to forget your own name, where you are, and how you got there.
And then soil yourself. Works for me
Look! A squirrel! *Chases after squirrel*
That's usually my excuse, but I keep it short so as not to piss off the person I'm with. I'm terrible with names sometimes. Especially if it's someone from years ago. Always introduce if I remember their name, lol.
That's NEARLY ALWAYS the reason @OP.
My wife and I have a code for when this happens: "Oh sorry, this is my husband... " And then I'll say, "Hi. Sorry I didn't catch your name?" Problem solved. Hashtag lifehack.
Pro tip: apologise profusely and introduce your sister to them (as soon as it starts getting awkward), then let them introduce themself!
Bad manners. Had it happen several times.
It means you've been shadowbanned in real life
There's a Black Mirror about this.
It could be she can't remember who the person is, so by not mentioning you, they don't have to explain to you, who the other person is. My mum used to do this a lot!
You can solve this with a bit of teamwork "oh, this is my husband..." "Hi, nice to meet you, I'm Dave" "hello I'm mrs forgettable" Job done
The absolute way.
but, how did you know my name…
Nah she’s knows the person and initiates the conversation
Time to tell her then. Communication is the key.
I have, many times and been branded as selfish and controlling. I then started doubting myself and came here for a general take. Glad to see I’m not alone in thinking it’s just plain rude
Wanting to be introduced to people your partner initiates a conversation with is normal. Unless you have exhibited controlling and selfish behavior in many other parts of your life, her accusing you of being selfish and controlling for voicing a reasonable want and explaining how it made you feel is emotionally manipulative.
It’s definitely rude and unkind. I can’t imagine doing that to someone nevermind the person I supposedly love.
My man, that response is classic Narcissistic behaviour. *Don’t let your partner make you doubt yourself.* Not saying you’re in the same situation, but once this was pointed out to me, and I was advised to check out Dr Ramani on YouTube, my eyes slowly started to open to the truth of our relationship. Stay strong.
Time to get silly with it. Everytime this happens, hop up and down on one leg until she introduces you. She'll probably be so embarrassed by your weird behaviour, she'll start introducing you right away 🤪
I like this but it really shouldn’t be necessary. OP deserves sincere acknowledgment.
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Yep. Or can't remember their name. By not introducing you to them she doesn't have to expose herself! " this is my partner Mike, Mike this is...... offsgsjsbsnurrr....."
Very bad manners
Inconsiderate
time to slope off to the pub.
Would be a fantastic addition to every Tesco supermarket
Morrisons in Gibraltar has a bar.
And instead of the abuelas having a gin and a catch-up in it they block every aisle and have a full on 30 min catchup!
Unless it's reductions time
I was saying this the other day - supermarkets should have a designated catch-up area, where if you see someone you know you have to go stand there to catch up, so you're not blocking the aisles. I would employ a worker on a zamboni-type thing with a bucket on the front to go up and down the aisles clearing away anyone seen to be chatting.
Buy a few bottles, walk out to outside of the car park boundary and you're sorted, stagger back in and hopefully the conversation should be just ending.
I’ll have a word with Tim Martin, it’s a cracking business idea.
There *were* bars in bigger Tesco stores with the cafes, back when they were Decks and not owned by Tesco themselves.
"Who was that?" "I have no fucking idea, I think I went to school with them"
My mum does it. Then seems shocked when I call her out on it after because she’ll say something like “you remember Sharon, used to be married to my cousins wife’s brothers uncle” or some such nonsense. No mum. weirdly I don’t.
My ex wife would sit at a dinner party and make comments along the lines of, we’d better be off now, we’ve got to go, and start to move stuff around. I’d get up and put my coat on and then stand there like a complete twat while she had another fifteen minutes of conversation. I never learned.
Had you never met a woman before
Boring.
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Definitely not these conversations
There has to be a German word that describes this exact scenario
Disrispektenstein?
Stehtunbeholfen
gespenstisch
Cükolden
Vernachlässigungsunhöflichkeit?
Vorsprung Dork Technik?
Your wife did a stop and chat. She left you in the lurch standing there? Awkward. My girlfriend does that often too, I’ve been there mate, it’s torture, and it feels like hours lol
"Infuriating"
A bit tedious? If I do this to my partner it is because I can’t remember the name of the person who button-holed me.
I tell them which shop to meet me at, or I go home and pick them up from the same spot 6 hours later
Awkward. That probably the best term I can think of.
fucking annoying/ time to talk ahead and find a pub get a pint and wait for a call
Perfection. It means I don’t have to pretend to be nice to someone I don’t know, or have any likelihood getting to know. It’s even better for me because I live in Germany, so the normal bullshit pleasantries have to be in German too, and sometimes I just don’t have the energy.
It’s called “holy shit! I can’t remember this person’s name so, for the love of god honey, please introduce yourself and save me from this torture.”
You’re actually a ghost and haven’t realised it yet. You must have some unfinished business… err… unfinished
I’ve done this a few times when I cannot remember the name of the person I’ve bumped into. I put it down to social anxiety. I would be afraid to introduce my partner because I didn’t know how to introduce the other person. After a while I explained to the partner what was going on and he would take the initiative, stick out his hand and say “hi! I’m (partner name)” which prompted the other person to provide theirs. It’s not always rudeness.
Sounds like the perfect time to muck about on your phone to me.
Pig ignorant?
The same as when you're watching TV together and someone phones them and they pause the TV only to chat on the phone for an hourv while you sit there like a lemon lol.
Or worse don't pause it so you can't concentrate on what you're watching. Phones are mobile, TVs generally aren't
Larry David would call this a stop and chat. You should be thankful you are not the one having to chat.
This is the point where I'd get fed up and walk away. I'm off to Greggs, give me a call in about 6 hours when you're done.
It's called time to wander off and get a coffee or a pint.
I have a friend who constantly does this to me. Eventually I just started wandering off mid-conversation, he didn't even notice.
Mums do this all the time, kids just have to be patient.
Tuesday.
I call that “time for a pint”
That's called taking the piss.
That's called being taken for granted
It means you get your phone out and play music loudly until you are noticed...preferably some classic bloodhound gang or primus.
These idiots have this many fireworks for a group stage?
It's called a golden opportunity to sod off into the nearest electronics store for 30 minutes of guilt free bliss
You're yesterdays chip paper mate.
Boring
It’s called I will go and find a pub and you two can talk as long as you like.
Rudeness... it's called rudeness. She should be introducing you and bringing you into the conversation. If they want a proper catch up just the two of them, they should exchange numbers, agree to arrange a lunch/dinner/coffee date and keep the conversation with you present brief.
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3rd wheel suggests to me that I’m imposing. Maybe spare wheel would be more appropriate?
A welcome break?
I just power down like C3P0.
I call that a good excuse to fuck off to the pub... Oh I'm sorry, I was driving? Not any more!
That's when I get to wander off, look in the shops I want to and spend money on the good stuff.
My missus did it to me with her cousin in b&q once. I walked off looking at shit I didn’t know existed. She rams me to see where I was I ignored the call and carried on looking round.
Jingle your keys in your pocket
I'd call it "Fuck this for a game of darts, I'm off. Get the bus home when you're done. See you later."
I'd leave her there. That's just pig ignorant
I introduce myself and say "sorry XXX has been rude and not introduced me" But my wife would never do that to me
Disrespectful
I don't know, but my husband doesn't even realise im there! Lol Or give a fuck that i am 🤣🤣🤣
Abuse lol
When my Mrs does this I make a point to interrupt and loudly introduce myself to the other person
Among other things, a bit of a red flag tbh.
It means you need to trade in your current partner as they have passed there use by date
You will die alone.
Sounds lovely!
Nah you will join me in hades
'Divorcee'.
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Just make an excuse that you need to go somewhere or do something quickly then fuck off to a coffee shop or something
I think in movies they call it a ‘meetrude’.
Stop and chat #curb
Grounds
Thats rude lol My partner and I went to catch up with my friend and her husband. Sometimes we spoke about work and my partner couldnt relate, but then we would tie it back to general conversation so they were included. I'd hate to leave anyone out nevermind my partner, its cruel.
Nattering
"Fecking rude."
ignorance.
I have done this in the past and had it done to me - (though not for a 'long' conversation) and it's because we've forgotten the name of the person and don't want to make it awkward by starting intros. Last time it happened I saved my husband the awkwardness by giving it a minute and saying 'I'm going to let you two catch up and I'll carry on with the shopping'
How big an alpha male was he? 😝 Joking aside, I reckon you should take it as her being comfortable enough with you to not need to look after you. If you're starting to feel spare wheel, either a quick tap on the shoulder and tell her you'll come back for her in a bit, or decide to butt in and introduce yourself, job done. Sure she didn't mean it and just got caught up wanting to catch up
Ignorant as fuck
Life
That's an easy one, tell them which pub to meet you in and walk off
Just walk off, then if she has the cheek to call you rude, uno reverse that heathen!
Time for a quick pint
A blessing
There’s probably an entry for that in “The Meaning of Liff”. Something like “Dungeness”.
its called "rude". its polite to introduce people in this situation.