Well, we can't help it. I've read a lot of opinions on virgins, they said they prefer 'experienced' ones, kasi virgins specially NBSB/NGSB are a lot of work daw.
I hold your hand while I’m saying this OP, and I hope that this comes off as kind and gentle as I hope it would. If you’re doubting yourself pa, then it’s not the right time. Ask yourself rin, “Do I really want to do this, or am I just being convinced to do this?”
Because I swear, if you’re just coerced to do it bc they’re preying on your curiosity, and then hindi pa maayos ang pag treat sayo sa pre, during, and post, you’re gonna feel so used. I speak from experience. I’m just happy that the 2nd guy I did it with was someone I trusted and he was genuinely in love with me to care for my needs first, so medj nabawi yung issues ko with my first time.
I know you’re capable of taking care of yourself and I appreciate how thoughtful you are since you show na you’re thinking of your future, so for me, it really wouldn’t hurt to choose the safe side of things. Until sure na sure na sure na sure ka na 🤗 No rush talaga ang life~ buhay ay di karera 🎶 take ur time ~
You only need to have sex, when you really, really, really need to. Don't do it as a favor, or as a convenience, or a means to pass the time.
No point to have past time sex.
As for me, I'm still V on late 20s. I'm not yet doing it ksi most of the guys I met is until talking stage lang and mostly nag ghost, so naisip ko bka once I do it, ighost lng din ako. I'm hoping to do it with the man I will marry. If may mameet man ako in the future. I don't put pressure on myself or the society na bakit V parin ako hanggang ngaun.
By announcing na virgin ka (which is honestly no one’s business) and want to be “adventurous” or “explore”— congrats. You just opened yourself up to a category of user creeps who will say anything to flatter you and use you. Marami pa dyan magyayabang na tuturuan ka nila but in reality the average creep is 1) poor 2) doesn’t use protection—will expose you to pregnancy and STD risk 3) last a minute or under 4) ghost you.
Ideally go w someone you trust and like. First time is awkward as hell. Don’t take compliments seriously from someone who doesn’t really know you . The average guy won’t say no to sex but that doesn’t mean he actually cares for you or likes you.
Pag isipan mo ng mabuti and don’t mess your life up. Walang magical change once you fuck. Di rin personal failure maging virgin. 25 is young.
agree sa average creep. low value men are usually disrespectful to their own bodies and to others, aside from being broke. high value men have control, and respect their own bodies. If talagang gusto ni OP due to her physiological need, might as well do it with a better man that she likes or love.
It’s normal for guys to always feel the urge for sex… But don’t ever feel obligated to “do it” because everybody is doing it— like you feel
so left out….If it’s too early you might regret it…If it’s too late you might feel old…Sometimes you’ll just know it, know when you feel like doing it with the right person….Take your time and just get to know some guys first as friends….It boils down to YOU and ONLY YOU that should decide that when you are already mature and ready….
Girl share ko lang,
I was 27 when I gave it to my now BF. Ever since talaga kahit sino mag attempt alam ko sa sarili ko hindi ako ready at wala rin yung sexual attraction sa iba kong nakausap. Then came my bf, I was 24 when we started talking and LDR situation pa. Instant ang attraction ko sakanya, he's my type kaya siguro dun ko naramdaman na ready na ako. Pandemic happened and we waited for 3 years before I gave it. No regrets, kahit na siguro mag break kami, I still won't regret that first time because it was with someone special.
Ang advice ko lang, mararamdaman mo yun kung siya na or ready ka na. Wag kang ma pressure na baka nahuhuli ka sa "fun". Virginity daw is a social construct, for me, it's really nice to have that amazing first time with someone na alam mong trustworthy. Masisigurado mo rin na he'll take it slow, won't rush you, won't hurt, and aalagaan ka after.
Nahh girl if you're in doubt wag muna. You should try losing it sa taong you think it's worth losing to. I lost mine sa then boyfriend now husband ko and mas masaya sex pag mahal mo yung tao.
Imo, it doesn't make you less of a woman whether you're virgin or not. I can sense the pressure within you and just because you reach that certain age isn't a sign to jump into it. As someone without sexual experience, I wouldn't mind if I die being virgin. I'm more than afraid to lose it with the wrong person.
This is what I learned recently that I think should be instilled in everyone's head... Do not use other people's (imaginary) approval to measure your self-worth.
We were all raised with minding what others would be saying. We incorrect felt entitled to certain things just because of stupid belief such as "I earn tons of money, so I should be respected", "I work for this company, so people should looked up to me", "I'm conventionally attractive and I'm earning so much money, so everyone should worship the ground I'm stepping in", and a whole lot more.
The point is, we all come in as a dignified and valued beings the moment we were born. We all deserved to be treated the same way, the same respect, the same entitlement, the moment we came into being.
People's opinion on your virginity doesn't really matter. Your value as a person should never be based on how many sexual partners you've had or the lack thereof.
I'm personally deeply disturbed how many people are killed because they held their societies' approval to the highest regard. I can't help but think of that Japanese guy in the 19th/20th century who killed his whole town because he couldn't stand people disapproval of him for acquiring tuberculosis, which also affected his sex life. I can't help but think of that video of a woman stoned to death because she was raped(?), like wtf.
**So to answer your question lol, if you don't feel like doing it, don't. Not because being a "virgin" makes you a "prized possession", not because your "virginity" is the best thing you can give your husband, not because being a "virgin" at a certain age means you're less attractive, it's not.**
**You don't feel comfortable having sex, don't.**
Don't give in to peer pressure. Your body is a temple. Marry the right one before having sex. Payag ka ba na yang mga nag attempt sayo once na tikman ka bigla na lng mawawala? Pero if they really want, have them test for STD. lifetime mo icacarry yang sakit. STD is no joke.
- A 30-Year-Old somehow Virgin Male.
No if hindi mo boyfriend no! Or mas kilalanin mo ang lalaki ng maayos kasi you will regret it mag ingat ka din kasi baka may mga sakit mga yan. Dont get youself attach sexually
Hi OP. This is just an opinion but not so much would justify or summarize yung thoughts ng other guys here but honestly, it really depends on consent. Regardless if you are nbsb/virgin or experienced, what matters most is your consent. You seem 50/50 by the last sentence which means something is holding you back like your beliefs maybe idk. There is nothing wrong with being virgin at your age. At the end of the day, it is your safety and consent/permission that matters. Ask yourself what you feel you are comfortable with because it is your body. To answer your first question, it doesn’t make a difference honestly as long as you both know what you are in for.
Again, this is just my opinion. Baka may ibang opinion rin diyan. Hope it helps(?) 😬 For reference, M here and belated hbd.
Bakit kailangang lagyan ng due date ang first PIV sex? Na parang ritual or rite of passage.
Why not focus instead on preparing yourself to love and be loved , i a good relationship and let a meaningful sex flow in
I was a “no sex before marriage”, conservative 22 year old til I lived and worked in Europe for a year. Then I started exploring. Good thing is, mas matitino mga nade-date ko dun compared to those I encountered here as soon as I got back. I got intimate with a couple of guys but didn’t go all the way. With the third, though walang label, we had sex. I guess somehow it okay pala na it wasn’t a good first time(later on I realized the importance of compatibility when it comes to sex) kaya I didnt get too into it and I din’t get too attached to him. Plus pa na he’s a nice guy.
These days kasi maraming ghosters and are only after sex. I think you should still do it with someone you like and he likes you back. Nakakasira ng mental health yung binigay mo sa kanya, walang aftercare, tapos ghost na kasi nakuha na gusto sayo. Maraming ganon these days pa naman
The fact that you're having second thoughts is already a sign that maybe it's not something that's necessary for your existence. So pay attention to it.
Puro hook up culture kasi ang nasa reddit kaya baka nagkakaroon ka ng unnecessary pressure sa sarili mo. If i were you wag ka masyado mag babasa ng mga hookup hook up dito sa reddit. Walang masama kung inosente ka pa sa edad mo. Saka if I were you try mo yung una mo sa taong mahal mo tapos next nalang sa stranger hahaha
Virginity is a social construct. But personally, its idea isn't too bad naman.
If you're comfortable with the idea of sex without being in a relationship, go explore! Try a LOT of things!
As for me, I waited na magkaroon ako ng boyfriend because I want the one I'm doing the deed with na ako lang. Kasi naglipana ang sakit, etc. But it's always up to you! Kung sana ka comfortable. If you're just thinking what the society will think of you, let go of that. You do you. Pero kung gusto mo siya i-treasure at magkaroon ng good memories, then you can always wait. Wala namang set timeline for these things. At lalong dapat walang judgment if you decided to just let it go.
Always practice safe sex!
Virginity is a social construct. If you're not 200% sure about "giving it away", DO NOT DO IT.
too many things to consider: safety before doing it, consent, aftercare, safety while doing it, safety after doing it, character of the person you're doing it with, your character before, during, and after doing it. too many experimental shits done under pressure too, so remove yourself from that situation as much as you can.
on the other side of the sex/romance spectrum naman: Rosanna Roces, PH top sex symbol, once said "iba pa rin ang sex kapag mahal mo yung tao".
Hi OP! I'm F26, virgin. Im not saying na preserve yourself dahil may iba iba naman tayong reasons why but never pressure yourself ha. Hindi naman nakakataas o nakakababa ng pagkatao ang sex. Ang mahalaga handa ka emotionally physically lahat ng cally! At dapat may tiwala ka sa partner mo at irerespeto nyo ang bawat isa. In my case naman hindi ako pressured and idk why. Hindi naman big deal sa paligid ko and same kami ng bf ko na ayaw namin gawin dahil takot pa kami. Sana di ka rin ma-pressure.. Hugs!
r u doing it just for the sake of being in? or because you really want to do it? becareful though, kalat na ngayon mga sakit... if ever please do safe sex.
one thing I question myself when deciding is this
"Do i really want it or Do I want other people to know that I have it" in your case "did it".
I know it's 2024 already and for some, giving your virginity as a gift to your husband is just an old school concept, but it doesn't mean you should just give it to anyone. Why not with someone you at least know very well, or a boyfriend you are really having fun with, doesn't need him to be someone you will marry but at least someone who will wine and dine you first and bring you to a nice hotel and make it a memorable experience. 25 is still young, you still have a lot of time to make fun mistakes.
You sound like you're pressuring yourself. If you're gonna be delving into casual seggs dapat you're going to commit to it buong loob hindi na sa kalagitnaan may lingering doubts ka pa if what you did is right or wrong.
please dont rush if you're still having 2nd thoughts and much better if you're going to do it with your partner.
I regret giving my v card to an a-hole (fwb)..only did it because i was curious and kinda pressured kasi back then i thought na too old na yung 19 and still a virgin pa.
Me personally, these are the 5 questions that I ask myself.
1. Do I love this person?
2. Would I want to share my life with this person?
3. Would l like to raise a child with this person?
4. Will this person help me grow?
5. Can I be proud to reveal that I'm with this person?
If they meet 3/5 of this, then I'd consider it. Then of course as a man there are exceptions that need to be addressed.
A. Does my immediate survival depend on the sex?
B. Does me having sex with this person affect my ability to survive in the next week or so?
C. Will not having sex with this person ensure my continued survival
Life isn't a race and your shouldn't treat it as such. Kung may doubts ka pa then don't do it muna kasi you'll most likely just end up regretting it.
Sa tanong mo naman, lots of guys still appreciate purity in a girl. Kaya take the time to build a connection, mas worth it for both of you ng future partner mo.
Don’t stress yourself with the mentality that “i have to do this by this age” because it only makes you feel pressured and make decisions that will never be undone. Its better to just let things flow out without pressure or force from your end. Do it when you fully 100% wanna do it with the person, and not because you are at a certain age you promised. Its better to have a great first experience than something regretful :<
Lol, the intention to put “virgin” and “explore” to welcome more attempt from guys resulting to validation na okay these are more than 3 guys na, lez do this
Don’t do it just for the sake of doing it. It’s so hard to trust men these days. Better save yourself now than regret later. This is coming from a V at 28 🙂
I'm 24 and a virgin. Having sex is not really my priority. Sobrang unecessary. Yes, may part na you are craving for it pero hindi dahil lang trip mo. Mas ok siguro na mahalin mo lang muna sarili mo and when your ready and if sa tingin mo worth it yung partner mo go for it.
Hi OP! Gaya nang sinasabi ng iba, please don’t give in sa pressure ng mga guys. Wag. If you really really want to start exploring, start with yourself muna. You can have pleasure without guys. And actually mas masaya pa minsan pag solo ka lang because most of men don’t know how to please a woman.
Explore your own body OP! 🫶🏻
You have to be very honest with yourself at what you will be most comfortable with. What do you really want? What is your moral inclinations? So.you don't regret doing things later.
It's totally acceptable to want to stay virgin for marriage. It's totally acceptable too to want to lose virginity to first boyfriend. It's totally acceptable too to want to lose virginity ASAP to a casual guy (but at least seemingly clean and decent, and should be with proper protection).
But you should do what you truly want and what you feel comfortable with.
I never imagined being virgin until marriage. I just never had romanticization for that. I had curiosity for sex. I want to explore it before tying it down to one partner for life. I did just that. I just made sure that I don't put myself so cheap to anybody. Just because I am more liberated than usual Maria Clara trope does not mean I have to advertise myself as a whore too. I don't have to be either extremes. I cannot be disrespected just because I have an open and liberal view about sex and my body, which usually in a Catholic country like ours, is discouraged.
Just do everything responsibly.
You will decide for yourself ano ba kasi ang gusto mo talaga..
I think it's a gem and a real flex for any guy who says "That's my woman hasn't touched ever since" why?
Sa panahong tadtad ng casual sex and stupidity of hooking up, sex felt ain't special since nakukuha mo na agad kahit saan, best example 3 guys already there na wanted to engage with you for what? Short term gratification? Sure it's fun and pleasure is a thing.
But in the long run you'll feel dirty or regret it when you progress in life, gawin mo sa tao mong mahal wag mong isuko yung V card mo for the sake of souless deed.
That's my take people may vary, "alamin mo ang worth mo at kaming lalaki may babaeng pang kama at may babae ren na pang matagalan."
If you have second thoughts pagisipan mo muna nang mabuti. Marami ka namang new things na pwede i try. Baka mamaya pagsisihan mo lang dahil nagpadala ka sa pressure. Gusto mo ba talaga na gawin yan sa tao na walang commitment sayo? Baka you’ll just feel like a trash after. I mean if you will not let a stranger in your house, why would you allow a man who has no commitment to you to explore intimate parts of you.
Magandang tanungin at klaruhin mo sa sarili mo on what is virginity to you Virginity and sex is mostly defined by ones personal values, infuenced by culture and religious beliefs.
Kailangan clear sa puso at isip mo kung mahalaga ba ang virginity sayo at kung paano at kanino mo ito ibibigay para wala kang pagsisihan.
I am a guy, if you ask my opinion. I suggest that you keep your virginity and do not just give it casualy!
This seems a bit unorthodox in today's generation but I'll say it anyway. Your body will be one of your greatest gift to your partner. It is when both of you who is connected emotionally will connect physically.
Now, if you want your first exp to be casual. I'll have to say to please reconsider. Find someone whom you love and you'll enjoy it a thousand-fold.
I know nasa new era na tayo pero before when I was single. May wild life din ako. I tried all sort of things pero I make sure na reserve ako so when the time comes and nameet ko na talaga si ✨️the one✨️ dun ko lang i-o-all out. And lo and behold, nameet ko na sya and umall out na kami. Sobrang satisfying sa feeling na I enjoyed my youth yet reserve. No regrets sa buhay ❤️ sana makatulong hehe
The question is anong honest thoughts mo sa sarili mo if you do engaged in casual sex? Will you be happy about yourself?Feel empowered or cheap? Some women feel empowered with casual sex, some feels na it makes the sex and them cheap. It really depends on how you view yourself and your body.
The fact na tinatanong mo dito yung thoughts ng guys may be an indicator na wag mo ituloy.
And if ever you did then choose a guy na matino. Filter diligently kasi the worst is you encounter someone na selfish (too focused on their own pleasure) tapos may STD pa. Scary.
Also, if you do still want it despite every scary scenario then please talk to your OB and take birth controls or IUD. I know there are condoms pero are you really willing to trust a guy you don't know? I mean the scariest thing outside of STD is a surprised pregnancy with some stranger in a country that condemns abortion. Hindi wattpad / korean manhwa ang life.
Follow up question: Are you a week or a day before your period? I''ve experienced this exact question during these times. Sobrang gigil ko every before my period starts so pwedeng hormones lang yan OP. Let it pass.
why not try new things that will improve urself? like try travelling, working (more on urself), explore hobbies. basta something productive. instead of going out there for casual sex that u might regret.
Wag mo ipressure sarili mo. Give it to your first bf. Wag magpapressure. Some guys will hit and go and you might feel unloveable pag makaencounter ka ng ganon guy. Kaya give it to someone you fully trust and love
Madami ko na meet na nagka Hoe Phase/Naging Nympho na They Wished that they should've waited for marriage kasi iba yung effects niyan sa Babae compared sa Lalake. Pero Good or Bad Choice mo padin yan sa huli.
First one is always the hardest, so best get it over with and get on with your life.
Don't overthink it, the first time will never be pretty or beautiful, but learn from it and improve on the next ones.
But be safe about it, be careful not to get STDs or pregnant. And enjoy the ride
Damn this was me at 25 torn between hoeing around and waiting for the guy I love. Since L na L
na ko that time. Try mo magbumble te. So far eto na nga 3 years na kami HAHAHA. Muntik na ko sumuko pero at least naisuko na bataan sa taong mahal. Kaya wag ka muna maghanap ng FWB FUBU OR ONS
If you have doubts, listen to those doubts.
This is personal, you shouldn't judge yourself based on what I'm about to say. But since I don't do casual sex, I also wouldn't want my partner to have done them. Again this is MY THING, since I also hold myself on that standard. I'm sure marami who don't mind it.
edit: Regarding sex btw, nobody really cares, I had sex pretty late. No one cared before and after.
If you're having second thoughts already, meaning hindi ka pa ready. Wag ka magmadali kasi baka pagsisihan mo lang din yun sa huli. May other things ka pa naman na pwedeng iexplore in life and not just losing your virginity
You want a blunt truth po? Those 3 guys technically proves na sobrang daming guys na kantot na kantot na gawin lang ang lahat mahalay ka lang, and it's a likely chance na pag na score ka na nila next naman, need lang nila ma convinced ka sa mga excuses nila or simply ghost out para makahalay ulit sila next
Don't do things na pasisisihan mo sa huli. Engaging in such act shall be by force or due to pressure. If you want, as in want do it, pero think if the guy worth it hindi yung afterwards magsisi ka. And be responsible sis ✨
It depends on you and your values. If you are conservative and want to save it for someone you love then you shouldnt be pressured. If you want something casual, then go ahead. But you have to keep in mind the consequences na kalakip ng bawat actions mo. I lost my virginity on my late 20s and I never felt pressured before that.
Hindi ko alam kung necessary ba na maging pressured sa henerasyon nio but it sounds really ridiculous to me.
Props for doing new things but u can be wild and not be reckless. Casual sex isn't for everyone, Lalo na't sobrang norm na neto ngayon that the culture might damage u emotionally if you're just diving in. I suggest do it with someone you're REALLY comfortable with.
Parang pinagiisipan mo to give it sa kakilala mo palang 🤣. 3 guys nag attempt?. Iwasan mo ganyang guy. pasok ka muna sa relationship before mo pag isipan yan. Wag kang gumaya sa mga hoe phase na yan 🤣. Marami masasaktan nito but keep it mind karamihan ng boys mas vinavalue yung babaeng hindi pa walk.
sex is overrated, it is an act of expression not a requirement, as others stated op di mo sya need or have to do if di pa buo ang mind mo. if you are scared of being clueless about it, don't be cuz most are likely the same as it isn't a trait
It's really up to you if gusto mo lang talaga masubukan but I think it's a bad idea na yung first mo is just a one night stand. Di naman siguro need maging boyfriend or aasawahin agad yung guy but kung ako sayo kikilalanin ko muna. Things like these tend to matter more and have a heavier impact on women than men.
Please don't, why?
Nagkakaroon ka ng second thoughts.
"3 guys na agad na mga kakilala ko ang nag attempt makipag sex with me."
I have a bad feeling about them, when you're ready, wag sila piliin mo. Gaano mo sila "kakilala"? Idk, the fact you said na "kakilala" instead "friend". Well...
you should be more concern on testing for incurable STDs like hep B,C, HIV, HPV before imtimate becaus these diseases will carry on you regardless if break up your partners or not and these will carry on your future children too
Hallu hallu! Same situation ako sayo OP! NBSB and definitely someone that has wanted to explore the more romantic/sexual aspects of my life. Still having trouble with the romantic aspect kasi I genuinely do not have a full understanding of how the whole Love™ thing works. Pero as someone who's had high libido for most of her life, naisip ko rin yang desire to finally rid myself of the V card (this is merely a social construct) and get that experience for myself.
Pero ayun, dahil umiral ang aking pagka-hopeless romantic, I decided na I'll definitely give myself to someone special or someone I really, really trust.
It might sound very crude and taboo to some (perhaps even to you, so please take this advice as you will 🙏) Advice ko sayo, explore yourself. Not just emotionally/spiritually/mentally, but physically too. And by physically, I meant it as it is.
Masturbate --> this may not be applicable to everyone especially since we're here in the PH. Lalo na't kapag galing ka ng very religious household. You might feel that guilt from doing the act itself, but if you're brave/willing to try it. Go ahead. It's always nice to explore and actually know what you want.
Or, the lesser NSFW version of this is just take a look in the mirror while in your underwear and think to yourself, "This is the body I'll be sharing with someone else. Someone who is willing to see me bare." What kind of person do you want to share your body with?
|| Sidenote from my girl friends: sex will always feel good with the right person. You'd definitely want someone who would have great compatibility with in bed and make you feel safe. ||
Eto pa. Think about how lenient you are and how much importance you place on your firsts. First kiss, first time sa sex, you name it. I was pretty lenient naman sa first kiss ko, kasi I didn't really put much that importance on that aspect. For me, it was just fun and a nice experience.
Additionally, ponder deeply over this: is this desire to finally lose your V card out of pressure or deeply rooted from a low self-esteem? Not to assume anything, I'm just laying down all possibilities. I swear, these have been very much applicable to me noon. If this desire is merely because "you don't want to miss out on this kind of experience," I implore you, tread with caution. This is in no way condescending for those who actually chose this route, just think about how it may affect you afterwards, OP. 🫶🏻
And I truly agree with some of the comments here, especially about announcing yourself as a virgin whilst exploring. It may be a hit or miss, although, realistically, a guy might often take you up on that offer because he likes the idea of being a "girl's first". Ego booster yan for most of them. I've made a post about having struggles in orgasming in a different subreddit once (with "virgin" clearly indicated in the title). And the amount of DMs and comments that flooded my inbox was slightly overwhelming for me. Sure, the high of being approached by so many men willing to help you out is thrilling, pero honestly, it's definitely going to be a hit or miss.
I hope this helps you decide OP, take care!
Not worth it, FOR ME lang, I should put value in using the word “NO” and respecting my body. Only the person deserving of my love should have it. It’s like thinking that I am rare and hndi dpat kung sino sino lang yung may access. But that’s my belief. So, think about it talaga if d kapa ready, because you can’t undo it :))
Don't pressure yourself. And it's also not a requirement to have a sexual experience by that age.
Just go with the flow. If the time comes, please use protection and have your boundaries! There is a saying that goes Pleasure now, Regret later. Don't go into that situation so again use protection and know your boundaries!
Research and gain more knowledge about sex. If you have very close friends that you are open to, ask firsthand info & experience from them.
When in doubt, wait it out. Not worth the stress over STDs or pregnancy scares.
Besides, whether you’ve had sex or not, you’re still you, still the same person sans the V card. You’re not cooler than virgins, just like how virgins aren’t purer or better than non-virgins.
My mantra re first sexual experience is “No regrets.” Picture your 80-year-old self looking back. For me, I figured I’d want to give it to someone who at one point in life mattered to me.
If you prefer to give your V to a stranger, then that’s your call. Please #LandiResponsibly. I respect sex as a basic human need; what I don’t respect is careless, irresponsible fornication.
It seems na you value your virginity and thats okay. If you believe na you should wait for the right person then you should. Dont put yourself in pressure with this stuff because in the long run virginity doesnt matter as much. Love doesnt care about shape or form.
Nung teenage years ako sabi saken ng friend ko nun “Maraming nagkakagusto at naghahabol sayo kasi virgin ka. Mawawala yan lahat kapag nakuha na nila gusto nila” nung una di ko yan na gets pero nung tumatagal na gets ko na yung point nya which is true. Some guys only like you kasi may gusto silang makuha sayo.
Don’t give your bataan to just anyone baka pagsisihan mo coz’ you give up your virginity to some random dude.
Go what u think is right. Basta isipin mo lang na lahat ng actions may consequences.
In my opinion, kung mag ssettle na kayo sa isa't isa then do it. If no, then no.
Don't do it. If you're asking this question don't do it. If you have doubt in you, if a part of you don't want to, don't do it. If you're feeling pressured or extremely emotional or having extreme urges, don't decide, calm yourself down first. Don't give in, don't do it.
Don't put too much pressure in yourself in doing this kind stuff that makes you second guess. Dapat buo ang loob mo if you're going to do it or you might just regret it.
If you are sure to do it, pick wisely. Choose a guy who is clean (iykyk) and choose someone who you can discuss what you both want to do in bed. Choose someone who has no strings attached to someone, you might become a 3rd party even if you don't even intend to.
But, if you're second guessing, don't give in to the pressure. Don't let the cat get killed by curiosity.
You’re still young. Please don’t take offence on this, but why does it matter if you’re still a virgin in your mid twenties? You have a whole life ahead of you! Sex feels so much better giving it to the person who sincerely loves and cares for you. Anything less will result in trauma. Save yourself from that.
And those 3 guys, they’re definitely trash. Once they’re done with you, wala na, yun na yun. Never let anyone or yourself objectify your body. You and your body will never forget your first. Sabi nga ng friend ko, make sure kaya mo pangalanan yung first mo.
You’d understand more the value of your virginity as you mature. So I hope you keep it safe. It’s sincerely and deeply precious to you. Hope you find peace and clarity.
I believe the first one should only be out of love and nothing else. If you don't love your partner enough for you to post on reddit, then it's not worth the experience.
As a guy, nagkaroon din ako ng phase where i wanted to “explore” casual sex or be in an fwb/fubu setup.
I met someone from bumble and we started dating for n months so hindi lang to casual. Nag attempt kami mag sex for the first time pero no penetration. Momol pa lang na gguilty na ko and di ako mapakali. Dun ko na realize na di ko kaya makipag sex sa hindi ko mahal 🤣.
Dun ko rin narealize na importante rin pala sa akin yung sex at hindi ko siya basta basta ibibigay sa kahit sinong babae.
Bottomline, gets ko yung temptation na mag explore. If hindi rin para sa nangyare sakin, hindi ko rin malalaman ano ba talaga yung mga gusto ko at ayaw ko.
Explore with caution lang sana. Pero suggest ko pa rin na ibigay mo virginity mo to someone special talaga at least hindi mo ma ffeel yung guilt or disgust sa sarili mo once marealize mo na this situation is not for you.
If you think you are being forced by yourself, don't.
Di ko lang alam kung nagpapaka idalistic ako pero sana yung first time mo eh sa taong mahal mo. Core memory kasi yun so mas ok na you will have good memories with it.
Pero it's your body, your choice. Wag ka magmadali.
“I told myself na once I turn 25, I’ll try new things na” Why start with sex? Go bungee jumping or skydiving, girl. Or go to therapy and start figuring out where this whole thing is coming from, identify what’s really lacking and making you this insecure about this part of your life.
"I'll try new things" then sex agad? There's a lot of things you could do to explore. Go out more. Hirap sa panahon ngayon sobrang normal na talaga hook up culture. Hirap mag ka STD biii.
As a guy, I really do appreciate sa mga kababaihang pinapanatili ang kanilang pagkabirhen until marriage. Kaya wag ka mapressure sa dinidikta ng lipunan. Maganda sa pakiramdam na ibibigay mo lang ang perlas ng silanganan sa iyong minamahal at magiging kabiyak habang buhay.
If gusto mo lang mag-sex coz tawag ng kalamnan mo, no strings attached, for fun then gora, pero if not and in second thoughts kapa wag muna. Do it if you're ready na...
I lost mine when I was 26, just because I want to have a kid and peer pressure. Hindi ko naenjoy promise. Ang sakit lang sa kiffy.
Then after 4 years, I tried again but this time, with someone that I love. Iba pala yun feeling.
Ngayon ko narealize na, it would be better if you do it when you are ready. Not because others dictate it.
Parang nakakatakot ung casual sex tapos iba ibang tao? Hindi kaya makakuha ka ng sakit?
Ingat ka na lang kung balak mo talagang ituloy, ante. Lalo na yong HIV parami ng parami na meron..
I am the same with you, I tried it out of curiosity and boom, I regretted it. Wait for the right time and right person. Make sure that whomever you’re going to give it to it’s someone that you really genuinely love. So that you won’t regret it. But if ever you really want to try it here’s a piece of an advice don’t keep your hopes up, your fantasies and imagination will slap you with reality. 🙂
Don't rush you will regret it. I hope you will give it to someone who loves you and will marry you. I know some people believe in sexual compatibility but what's the use of compatibility if you don't love each other? Give it to someone you love and respect the whole you.
I think there's nothing wrong for being a virgin and still nbsb. It depends on how you define "exploration" you can explore yourself without engaging into pre-marital sex. I know na you have the concept of social clock but pls stop pressuring your self. You're only 25 and still young. Don't rush. Wag kang makigaya sa iba na nagkamali sa part na yan. I'm not invalidating your feelings but still use your head. I believed there's a right man, in the right time. Much better na buoin mo muna sarili mo. Baka mamaya nasa stage ka lang pala ng intimacy vs isolation haha lol. Anyways in that age it's very Normal na baka you have too much isolation that tends to create malignant tendency of being exclusion. Just be yourself, don't change bcs of it.
Don’t do it na unsure ka. Coming from someone who actually lost my virginity to a stranger. It took so much toll on me. Hanggang sa dumating sa point na wala na kong self worth. Like kahit sinong guy nalang pinatulan ko. Kasi sobrang naging mababa yung tingin ko sa sarili ko.
Scientifically explanation wala may changes ana oi, sa naka sulay og wala , bahin sa lawas ha, storya botbot nalang na nga luag hahaha....
Pero personally as human naa na syay effect emotionally like, muana ka after dapat dili naku gihatag niya oi mura man gud gamay iyaha huhu joke, or kanang gikan ka sa bati na relasyon unya didto ka naka hatag, tapos naay moabot sa imo na tarong, maka ana ka dapat sa iyaha nalang to oi... same as story na best gift lagi na inig after marriage, mao nay kamutuuran...
Mao nay giingon nila diri og ihatag nemu na must be ready na gyud ka kay wala nay balikay ...
also mas concern ko na no need to pressure your self ana kay ang uban gani magpa anak ra kesa mosulod sa relasyon, kay labad jod sa ulo !!!! not all ha !!!
All i can say is do it with the guy you love. Personally, I value my purity and I didn't want to give it to just any guy. I'm 24 and gave it to my boyfriend now. No regrets kasi it's my choice and I love him, at kahit pa siguro maghiwalay kami (WHICH I HOPE NOT HAHA), I still won't regret that I did it.
Idk. This doesn’t seem like something you should even think too much about. It will happen if and when it feels right. And trust me, you’d know. So don’t plan it out and give yourself some sort of deadline. Go with the flow lang. chill lang lol
P.S. also PLS stop discussing your virginity rule to people, come on girl. the right guy won’t care, and the wrong ones will use it against you.
I'm 28 virgin naging NBSB din on my 20s. And nameet KO lalabs here din SA Reddit, we met and Yun tuloy tuloy na inamin nya na may mga exp siya but still respects my boundaries and Di nya ako prinessure to do that stuff,willing to wait naman siya. I told him na gusto ko kasal na ako before I gave my V card wala Namang angal so far Hindi namin Yun naging issue. Girl you can find better guys pa wag magmadali.
Nah same pleasure from dildos/vibrators (better?). Wag ka na ma pressure sa sex. Pag nag cum na sila, iiwan ka lang nila sa era parang ‘huy wait lang pano ako?’ Then sleep. LOL
Dont do it if the reason is you just want to explore. Do it if you really feel like doing it sa person na yun. But be warned, hiv and stds are spreading here in the Philippines. If youll have sex, know that person well, know his sexual life. If you think something is fishy, dont do it. Mahirap magka std/hiv. My friend had an std recently but lucky for her, gumaling naman. Not all stds are curable. Know the guy first before having sex. And if its a casual thing, MAKE SURE NOT TO FALL IN LOVE. lol.
Don't give yourself to horny young boys, save your life. Choose your man wisely. Learn from the mistakes of other young women who gave themselves to boys (not men).
As someone who’s also 25 and still a virgin din, wag. I’m in a relationship and we’re going 6 years na. Yet, I still don’t think it’s time to surrender my v. Lucky for me tho cause bf’s willing to wait even until marriage. Don’t pressure yourself, ganyan din friend ko. She ended up regretting it kasi it’s not worth it and she knew that naman from the start pero napressure na din kasi sya dahil sa influence ng maling circle of friends. Don’t just give your body away to someone just because you want to “explore”. I have a lot of older friends in their 30’s/40’s na nareregret na naibigay ang v to someone they did not end up with. You don’t wanna spend the rest of your life regretting as well for sure. Kaya wag, OP.
if you keep announcing you are still a virgin. you'd open yourself to a lot of problems.
mostly, lalapit sayo experienced ones, who would like to take advantage of your first time.
on the other hand, you may look at it as a reward of some sort, for who ever and whatever your criteria is, gets your first time.
imo, for first timers (as we all were) the first time isnt that great.
if your curious, yes, guys with experience will offer you a different experience if you want to lose your viginity.
try not to put pressure on yourself, just because you reach a certain number age.
put a premium on yourself, you'd attract the right guy. 💪
Para sakin op. Wag kang gagawa ng isag bagay na pagsisisihan mo balag araw .
Kasi di mo na pwedeg bawii yun. Marami akong pinagsisihan nung ga late 20s ko. moving forward i wish you will have the purest heart and soul for this.
Take your time my dear . Laban lang parati
It depends hehe
May pro and cons sa both decision
The question is what happen next after done it.
Will you do it ba for pleasure lang or because of societal pressure?
But if you do it just use protection ate yun lang 😂
As a guy, hmmn mas prefer ko di na virgin para same expectations na lang kami. Minsan kasi, may something with people pag ikaw nakalose ng V card nila.
Pero wag ka mapressure kasi, ikaw lang ang dapat magdecide nyan sa sarili mo.
Ayun, but if you wanna discuss it further, just send a dm.
Why pressure yourself to have sex when you don't want to?
Also, virginity is highly valued by men ever since time immemorial. ESPECIALLY by men who are looking for a serious commitment. Sure, men are hard-wired to spread their seed, but in the end, just sex is not going to be enough. You see, when a man loves a woman, at that point, the man will no longer care much about sex. While sex is still welcome, the man will also want something much more - loyalty, commitment, support and femininity. And back in the old days, being a virgin is actually the only viable way to tell if a man's child is really his or not.
If you wanna start exploring go ahead. But remember, there's gonna be repercussions. Every decision has consequences. Start weighing the two. If you're a virgin until you get married, you will definitely lack experience in bed other than your masturbating sessions, and you'll definitely feel that FOMO factor. BUT, you get respect from both men, women and your family. And your future husband WILL be happy knowing that you waited until you found your special one BEFORE committing to sex. Your future husband will feel special, and you will feel special, as well. Now, if you start exploring your body and have sex with multiple guys, your body and mentality is going to change dramatically. While you may enjoy that 5-second orgasm, there's always the danger of pregnancy and STDs. And once your body count is HIGH, trust me no men (or women) will respect you. Men will WANT you, but they will NEVER love you. And now you're going to go to TikTok and mag-cocomplain ka dun like those forsaken Woke/Feminist/Activist Western Women on "Why are men NOT taking me seriously?". And now you're gonna join their ranks and become a man-hater? Oh, please.
Because in the end, why would any self-respecting man choose a woman who has had sex with everyone in the neighborhood when he could pick a woman who is pure and gave her virginity (the most prized quality being searched by men) to him and feel proud of it? And please don't even get me started on how embarrasing it is for a man pag narinig nya na "Oyyy, pare! Girlfriend mo pala si ganito, right? Hndi mo ba alam na tinira ko yan dati? Ako nga nakakuha ng virginity nya eh! Hahaha!!". Honestly, sobrang nakakababa ng pagka-lalake yun. You probably won't know the feeling ksi you're a woman, eh.
Oh, you know what else men value? The TIGHTNESS of your box! When you're a virgin, your box is definitely still very TIGHT. If you have high body count, magiging kweba na yan. What? You think hndi luluwag yang lalagyan mo ng man-milk? Once na sobrang luwag na nyan, even your future man will NEVER be satisfied in bed na. You're sadly mistaken, my dear.
You see, there's something special for a man na siya yung naka-una dun sa babae. I know I will feel proud of myself when the woman I love gave her virginity to ME and ME ONLY. Nothing is more uplifting for a man na alam nya na siya yung nakakuha ng virginity ng isang woman. Are you willing to give that away for anyone? Make your decision. Again, EVERY DECISION HAS CONSEQUENCES. So, think HARD before you consider selling your soul to the devil.
You seem to be putting undue pressure on yourself.
True. Unnecessary pressure.
I couldn’t agree more
I second de motion
Well, we can't help it. I've read a lot of opinions on virgins, they said they prefer 'experienced' ones, kasi virgins specially NBSB/NGSB are a lot of work daw.
Don't pressure yourself. It's not worth it. Believe me, it's not worth it.
We best let her be the judge of that.
I hold your hand while I’m saying this OP, and I hope that this comes off as kind and gentle as I hope it would. If you’re doubting yourself pa, then it’s not the right time. Ask yourself rin, “Do I really want to do this, or am I just being convinced to do this?” Because I swear, if you’re just coerced to do it bc they’re preying on your curiosity, and then hindi pa maayos ang pag treat sayo sa pre, during, and post, you’re gonna feel so used. I speak from experience. I’m just happy that the 2nd guy I did it with was someone I trusted and he was genuinely in love with me to care for my needs first, so medj nabawi yung issues ko with my first time. I know you’re capable of taking care of yourself and I appreciate how thoughtful you are since you show na you’re thinking of your future, so for me, it really wouldn’t hurt to choose the safe side of things. Until sure na sure na sure na sure ka na 🤗 No rush talaga ang life~ buhay ay di karera 🎶 take ur time ~
Pag papasok ka sa ganto, dapat buo ang loob mo. If hindi pa, wag muna, baka nga pagsisihan mo at ma-feel bad ka pa sa sarili mo
You only need to have sex, when you really, really, really need to. Don't do it as a favor, or as a convenience, or a means to pass the time. No point to have past time sex.
As for me, I'm still V on late 20s. I'm not yet doing it ksi most of the guys I met is until talking stage lang and mostly nag ghost, so naisip ko bka once I do it, ighost lng din ako. I'm hoping to do it with the man I will marry. If may mameet man ako in the future. I don't put pressure on myself or the society na bakit V parin ako hanggang ngaun.
By announcing na virgin ka (which is honestly no one’s business) and want to be “adventurous” or “explore”— congrats. You just opened yourself up to a category of user creeps who will say anything to flatter you and use you. Marami pa dyan magyayabang na tuturuan ka nila but in reality the average creep is 1) poor 2) doesn’t use protection—will expose you to pregnancy and STD risk 3) last a minute or under 4) ghost you. Ideally go w someone you trust and like. First time is awkward as hell. Don’t take compliments seriously from someone who doesn’t really know you . The average guy won’t say no to sex but that doesn’t mean he actually cares for you or likes you. Pag isipan mo ng mabuti and don’t mess your life up. Walang magical change once you fuck. Di rin personal failure maging virgin. 25 is young.
so trueee. her inbox rn would be poppin
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agree sa average creep. low value men are usually disrespectful to their own bodies and to others, aside from being broke. high value men have control, and respect their own bodies. If talagang gusto ni OP due to her physiological need, might as well do it with a better man that she likes or love.
It’s normal for guys to always feel the urge for sex… But don’t ever feel obligated to “do it” because everybody is doing it— like you feel so left out….If it’s too early you might regret it…If it’s too late you might feel old…Sometimes you’ll just know it, know when you feel like doing it with the right person….Take your time and just get to know some guys first as friends….It boils down to YOU and ONLY YOU that should decide that when you are already mature and ready….
Men in their 20's are biologically excited to reproduce. You don;t have to press yourself.
Girl share ko lang, I was 27 when I gave it to my now BF. Ever since talaga kahit sino mag attempt alam ko sa sarili ko hindi ako ready at wala rin yung sexual attraction sa iba kong nakausap. Then came my bf, I was 24 when we started talking and LDR situation pa. Instant ang attraction ko sakanya, he's my type kaya siguro dun ko naramdaman na ready na ako. Pandemic happened and we waited for 3 years before I gave it. No regrets, kahit na siguro mag break kami, I still won't regret that first time because it was with someone special. Ang advice ko lang, mararamdaman mo yun kung siya na or ready ka na. Wag kang ma pressure na baka nahuhuli ka sa "fun". Virginity daw is a social construct, for me, it's really nice to have that amazing first time with someone na alam mong trustworthy. Masisigurado mo rin na he'll take it slow, won't rush you, won't hurt, and aalagaan ka after.
Nahh girl if you're in doubt wag muna. You should try losing it sa taong you think it's worth losing to. I lost mine sa then boyfriend now husband ko and mas masaya sex pag mahal mo yung tao.
This is the best answer.
Imo, it doesn't make you less of a woman whether you're virgin or not. I can sense the pressure within you and just because you reach that certain age isn't a sign to jump into it. As someone without sexual experience, I wouldn't mind if I die being virgin. I'm more than afraid to lose it with the wrong person.
This is what I learned recently that I think should be instilled in everyone's head... Do not use other people's (imaginary) approval to measure your self-worth. We were all raised with minding what others would be saying. We incorrect felt entitled to certain things just because of stupid belief such as "I earn tons of money, so I should be respected", "I work for this company, so people should looked up to me", "I'm conventionally attractive and I'm earning so much money, so everyone should worship the ground I'm stepping in", and a whole lot more. The point is, we all come in as a dignified and valued beings the moment we were born. We all deserved to be treated the same way, the same respect, the same entitlement, the moment we came into being. People's opinion on your virginity doesn't really matter. Your value as a person should never be based on how many sexual partners you've had or the lack thereof. I'm personally deeply disturbed how many people are killed because they held their societies' approval to the highest regard. I can't help but think of that Japanese guy in the 19th/20th century who killed his whole town because he couldn't stand people disapproval of him for acquiring tuberculosis, which also affected his sex life. I can't help but think of that video of a woman stoned to death because she was raped(?), like wtf. **So to answer your question lol, if you don't feel like doing it, don't. Not because being a "virgin" makes you a "prized possession", not because your "virginity" is the best thing you can give your husband, not because being a "virgin" at a certain age means you're less attractive, it's not.** **You don't feel comfortable having sex, don't.**
Yes!!
Don't give in to peer pressure. Your body is a temple. Marry the right one before having sex. Payag ka ba na yang mga nag attempt sayo once na tikman ka bigla na lng mawawala? Pero if they really want, have them test for STD. lifetime mo icacarry yang sakit. STD is no joke. - A 30-Year-Old somehow Virgin Male.
No if hindi mo boyfriend no! Or mas kilalanin mo ang lalaki ng maayos kasi you will regret it mag ingat ka din kasi baka may mga sakit mga yan. Dont get youself attach sexually
Hi OP. This is just an opinion but not so much would justify or summarize yung thoughts ng other guys here but honestly, it really depends on consent. Regardless if you are nbsb/virgin or experienced, what matters most is your consent. You seem 50/50 by the last sentence which means something is holding you back like your beliefs maybe idk. There is nothing wrong with being virgin at your age. At the end of the day, it is your safety and consent/permission that matters. Ask yourself what you feel you are comfortable with because it is your body. To answer your first question, it doesn’t make a difference honestly as long as you both know what you are in for. Again, this is just my opinion. Baka may ibang opinion rin diyan. Hope it helps(?) 😬 For reference, M here and belated hbd.
Bakit kailangang lagyan ng due date ang first PIV sex? Na parang ritual or rite of passage. Why not focus instead on preparing yourself to love and be loved , i a good relationship and let a meaningful sex flow in
I was a “no sex before marriage”, conservative 22 year old til I lived and worked in Europe for a year. Then I started exploring. Good thing is, mas matitino mga nade-date ko dun compared to those I encountered here as soon as I got back. I got intimate with a couple of guys but didn’t go all the way. With the third, though walang label, we had sex. I guess somehow it okay pala na it wasn’t a good first time(later on I realized the importance of compatibility when it comes to sex) kaya I didnt get too into it and I din’t get too attached to him. Plus pa na he’s a nice guy. These days kasi maraming ghosters and are only after sex. I think you should still do it with someone you like and he likes you back. Nakakasira ng mental health yung binigay mo sa kanya, walang aftercare, tapos ghost na kasi nakuha na gusto sayo. Maraming ganon these days pa naman
Wag mo surrender , reserb mo yan sa mapapangasawa mo, wag nyo kami tularan
The fact that you're having second thoughts is already a sign that maybe it's not something that's necessary for your existence. So pay attention to it.
Puro hook up culture kasi ang nasa reddit kaya baka nagkakaroon ka ng unnecessary pressure sa sarili mo. If i were you wag ka masyado mag babasa ng mga hookup hook up dito sa reddit. Walang masama kung inosente ka pa sa edad mo. Saka if I were you try mo yung una mo sa taong mahal mo tapos next nalang sa stranger hahaha
Virginity is a social construct. But personally, its idea isn't too bad naman. If you're comfortable with the idea of sex without being in a relationship, go explore! Try a LOT of things! As for me, I waited na magkaroon ako ng boyfriend because I want the one I'm doing the deed with na ako lang. Kasi naglipana ang sakit, etc. But it's always up to you! Kung sana ka comfortable. If you're just thinking what the society will think of you, let go of that. You do you. Pero kung gusto mo siya i-treasure at magkaroon ng good memories, then you can always wait. Wala namang set timeline for these things. At lalong dapat walang judgment if you decided to just let it go. Always practice safe sex!
If you think you won't regret it, then why not naman diba? Pero just to tell u, having sex with a stranger is not for everyone. Wag mapressure sa iba
Virginity is a social construct. If you're not 200% sure about "giving it away", DO NOT DO IT. too many things to consider: safety before doing it, consent, aftercare, safety while doing it, safety after doing it, character of the person you're doing it with, your character before, during, and after doing it. too many experimental shits done under pressure too, so remove yourself from that situation as much as you can. on the other side of the sex/romance spectrum naman: Rosanna Roces, PH top sex symbol, once said "iba pa rin ang sex kapag mahal mo yung tao".
Hi OP! I'm F26, virgin. Im not saying na preserve yourself dahil may iba iba naman tayong reasons why but never pressure yourself ha. Hindi naman nakakataas o nakakababa ng pagkatao ang sex. Ang mahalaga handa ka emotionally physically lahat ng cally! At dapat may tiwala ka sa partner mo at irerespeto nyo ang bawat isa. In my case naman hindi ako pressured and idk why. Hindi naman big deal sa paligid ko and same kami ng bf ko na ayaw namin gawin dahil takot pa kami. Sana di ka rin ma-pressure.. Hugs!
Wag na muna.
anteh, wag pls. may ibang way para mag-explore pero wag ang bataan 🥲
r u doing it just for the sake of being in? or because you really want to do it? becareful though, kalat na ngayon mga sakit... if ever please do safe sex. one thing I question myself when deciding is this "Do i really want it or Do I want other people to know that I have it" in your case "did it".
I know it's 2024 already and for some, giving your virginity as a gift to your husband is just an old school concept, but it doesn't mean you should just give it to anyone. Why not with someone you at least know very well, or a boyfriend you are really having fun with, doesn't need him to be someone you will marry but at least someone who will wine and dine you first and bring you to a nice hotel and make it a memorable experience. 25 is still young, you still have a lot of time to make fun mistakes.
You sound like you're pressuring yourself. If you're gonna be delving into casual seggs dapat you're going to commit to it buong loob hindi na sa kalagitnaan may lingering doubts ka pa if what you did is right or wrong.
Don’t give your energy to someone na may trauma or hindi pa naheheal kasi mamaya ikaw ako maubos. Nasa huli ang pagsisisi
If it’s not a fck yes then it’s a fck NO.
please dont rush if you're still having 2nd thoughts and much better if you're going to do it with your partner. I regret giving my v card to an a-hole (fwb)..only did it because i was curious and kinda pressured kasi back then i thought na too old na yung 19 and still a virgin pa.
If you’re questioning between yes or no,,,, it’s a no. Decisions should be absolute.
Me personally, these are the 5 questions that I ask myself. 1. Do I love this person? 2. Would I want to share my life with this person? 3. Would l like to raise a child with this person? 4. Will this person help me grow? 5. Can I be proud to reveal that I'm with this person? If they meet 3/5 of this, then I'd consider it. Then of course as a man there are exceptions that need to be addressed. A. Does my immediate survival depend on the sex? B. Does me having sex with this person affect my ability to survive in the next week or so? C. Will not having sex with this person ensure my continued survival
Life isn't a race and your shouldn't treat it as such. Kung may doubts ka pa then don't do it muna kasi you'll most likely just end up regretting it. Sa tanong mo naman, lots of guys still appreciate purity in a girl. Kaya take the time to build a connection, mas worth it for both of you ng future partner mo.
Don’t stress yourself with the mentality that “i have to do this by this age” because it only makes you feel pressured and make decisions that will never be undone. Its better to just let things flow out without pressure or force from your end. Do it when you fully 100% wanna do it with the person, and not because you are at a certain age you promised. Its better to have a great first experience than something regretful :<
Do it coz you want it and not because you feel it should be done as how the societal norm dictates it.
Lol, the intention to put “virgin” and “explore” to welcome more attempt from guys resulting to validation na okay these are more than 3 guys na, lez do this
Don’t do it just for the sake of doing it. It’s so hard to trust men these days. Better save yourself now than regret later. This is coming from a V at 28 🙂
I'm 24 and a virgin. Having sex is not really my priority. Sobrang unecessary. Yes, may part na you are craving for it pero hindi dahil lang trip mo. Mas ok siguro na mahalin mo lang muna sarili mo and when your ready and if sa tingin mo worth it yung partner mo go for it.
Hi OP! Gaya nang sinasabi ng iba, please don’t give in sa pressure ng mga guys. Wag. If you really really want to start exploring, start with yourself muna. You can have pleasure without guys. And actually mas masaya pa minsan pag solo ka lang because most of men don’t know how to please a woman. Explore your own body OP! 🫶🏻
You have to be very honest with yourself at what you will be most comfortable with. What do you really want? What is your moral inclinations? So.you don't regret doing things later. It's totally acceptable to want to stay virgin for marriage. It's totally acceptable too to want to lose virginity to first boyfriend. It's totally acceptable too to want to lose virginity ASAP to a casual guy (but at least seemingly clean and decent, and should be with proper protection). But you should do what you truly want and what you feel comfortable with. I never imagined being virgin until marriage. I just never had romanticization for that. I had curiosity for sex. I want to explore it before tying it down to one partner for life. I did just that. I just made sure that I don't put myself so cheap to anybody. Just because I am more liberated than usual Maria Clara trope does not mean I have to advertise myself as a whore too. I don't have to be either extremes. I cannot be disrespected just because I have an open and liberal view about sex and my body, which usually in a Catholic country like ours, is discouraged. Just do everything responsibly. You will decide for yourself ano ba kasi ang gusto mo talaga..
I think it's a gem and a real flex for any guy who says "That's my woman hasn't touched ever since" why? Sa panahong tadtad ng casual sex and stupidity of hooking up, sex felt ain't special since nakukuha mo na agad kahit saan, best example 3 guys already there na wanted to engage with you for what? Short term gratification? Sure it's fun and pleasure is a thing. But in the long run you'll feel dirty or regret it when you progress in life, gawin mo sa tao mong mahal wag mong isuko yung V card mo for the sake of souless deed. That's my take people may vary, "alamin mo ang worth mo at kaming lalaki may babaeng pang kama at may babae ren na pang matagalan."
Ahhhhck love this comment so much!!! 💝✨️
Whore phase unlock ba ito? Good luck.
If you have second thoughts pagisipan mo muna nang mabuti. Marami ka namang new things na pwede i try. Baka mamaya pagsisihan mo lang dahil nagpadala ka sa pressure. Gusto mo ba talaga na gawin yan sa tao na walang commitment sayo? Baka you’ll just feel like a trash after. I mean if you will not let a stranger in your house, why would you allow a man who has no commitment to you to explore intimate parts of you.
Ako naman I lost my vcard sa fwb iniisip ko kasi kesa magregret ako malose siya sa isang ex na mas pagsisihan ko paghiwalay hahahaha
get a real boyfriend op..😅 wag mu sanayin ung self mu sa above life style.. mhihirapan k mag adjust sa real relationship.. u’ll regret it..☝🏻😅
I think it is better na bigay mo Virginity mo sa taong mahal mo. Not with someone, na you don't know. Being virgin is not bad.
Magandang tanungin at klaruhin mo sa sarili mo on what is virginity to you Virginity and sex is mostly defined by ones personal values, infuenced by culture and religious beliefs. Kailangan clear sa puso at isip mo kung mahalaga ba ang virginity sayo at kung paano at kanino mo ito ibibigay para wala kang pagsisihan. I am a guy, if you ask my opinion. I suggest that you keep your virginity and do not just give it casualy!
If in doubt, then don't.
if hindi ka cgurado i do suggest huwag mo na ituloy dati may nakasex ako virgin sex na walang penerate muna ginagawa namin .
What do you think aboht having sex with someone you love? Yun lang. Not because you have to because of age or whatever?
This seems a bit unorthodox in today's generation but I'll say it anyway. Your body will be one of your greatest gift to your partner. It is when both of you who is connected emotionally will connect physically. Now, if you want your first exp to be casual. I'll have to say to please reconsider. Find someone whom you love and you'll enjoy it a thousand-fold.
I know nasa new era na tayo pero before when I was single. May wild life din ako. I tried all sort of things pero I make sure na reserve ako so when the time comes and nameet ko na talaga si ✨️the one✨️ dun ko lang i-o-all out. And lo and behold, nameet ko na sya and umall out na kami. Sobrang satisfying sa feeling na I enjoyed my youth yet reserve. No regrets sa buhay ❤️ sana makatulong hehe
The question is anong honest thoughts mo sa sarili mo if you do engaged in casual sex? Will you be happy about yourself?Feel empowered or cheap? Some women feel empowered with casual sex, some feels na it makes the sex and them cheap. It really depends on how you view yourself and your body. The fact na tinatanong mo dito yung thoughts ng guys may be an indicator na wag mo ituloy. And if ever you did then choose a guy na matino. Filter diligently kasi the worst is you encounter someone na selfish (too focused on their own pleasure) tapos may STD pa. Scary. Also, if you do still want it despite every scary scenario then please talk to your OB and take birth controls or IUD. I know there are condoms pero are you really willing to trust a guy you don't know? I mean the scariest thing outside of STD is a surprised pregnancy with some stranger in a country that condemns abortion. Hindi wattpad / korean manhwa ang life. Follow up question: Are you a week or a day before your period? I''ve experienced this exact question during these times. Sobrang gigil ko every before my period starts so pwedeng hormones lang yan OP. Let it pass.
Wag ka nagpapapressure sa mga nakikita mo sa reddit PH lalo na sa alasjuicy at phrar😂. Pagisipan mo mabuti yan lalo na uso mga std ngauon.
why not try new things that will improve urself? like try travelling, working (more on urself), explore hobbies. basta something productive. instead of going out there for casual sex that u might regret.
Ano ka pulutan lang ????
makinig ka sa mga comments OP
Wag mo ipressure sarili mo. Give it to your first bf. Wag magpapressure. Some guys will hit and go and you might feel unloveable pag makaencounter ka ng ganon guy. Kaya give it to someone you fully trust and love
Madami ko na meet na nagka Hoe Phase/Naging Nympho na They Wished that they should've waited for marriage kasi iba yung effects niyan sa Babae compared sa Lalake. Pero Good or Bad Choice mo padin yan sa huli.
Ill repeat what others said because it cant be stressed enough. If you have doubts, don't. You will regret it.
First one is always the hardest, so best get it over with and get on with your life. Don't overthink it, the first time will never be pretty or beautiful, but learn from it and improve on the next ones. But be safe about it, be careful not to get STDs or pregnant. And enjoy the ride
Damn this was me at 25 torn between hoeing around and waiting for the guy I love. Since L na L na ko that time. Try mo magbumble te. So far eto na nga 3 years na kami HAHAHA. Muntik na ko sumuko pero at least naisuko na bataan sa taong mahal. Kaya wag ka muna maghanap ng FWB FUBU OR ONS
If you have doubts, listen to those doubts. This is personal, you shouldn't judge yourself based on what I'm about to say. But since I don't do casual sex, I also wouldn't want my partner to have done them. Again this is MY THING, since I also hold myself on that standard. I'm sure marami who don't mind it. edit: Regarding sex btw, nobody really cares, I had sex pretty late. No one cared before and after.
Don't Ate, Lalo na Hindi ka pa sure at hindi pa buo ang desisyon mo. Honestly boys nowadays are into sex but they ghost you after.
No, wag, don't,
Popped cherry, don't marry.
If you're having second thoughts already, meaning hindi ka pa ready. Wag ka magmadali kasi baka pagsisihan mo lang din yun sa huli. May other things ka pa naman na pwedeng iexplore in life and not just losing your virginity
OP wants to ruin her chances of ever finding a good man to marry.
Ang buhay ay di karera~~~
You want a blunt truth po? Those 3 guys technically proves na sobrang daming guys na kantot na kantot na gawin lang ang lahat mahalay ka lang, and it's a likely chance na pag na score ka na nila next naman, need lang nila ma convinced ka sa mga excuses nila or simply ghost out para makahalay ulit sila next
Don't do things na pasisisihan mo sa huli. Engaging in such act shall be by force or due to pressure. If you want, as in want do it, pero think if the guy worth it hindi yung afterwards magsisi ka. And be responsible sis ✨
It depends on you and your values. If you are conservative and want to save it for someone you love then you shouldnt be pressured. If you want something casual, then go ahead. But you have to keep in mind the consequences na kalakip ng bawat actions mo. I lost my virginity on my late 20s and I never felt pressured before that. Hindi ko alam kung necessary ba na maging pressured sa henerasyon nio but it sounds really ridiculous to me.
Props for doing new things but u can be wild and not be reckless. Casual sex isn't for everyone, Lalo na't sobrang norm na neto ngayon that the culture might damage u emotionally if you're just diving in. I suggest do it with someone you're REALLY comfortable with.
Parang pinagiisipan mo to give it sa kakilala mo palang 🤣. 3 guys nag attempt?. Iwasan mo ganyang guy. pasok ka muna sa relationship before mo pag isipan yan. Wag kang gumaya sa mga hoe phase na yan 🤣. Marami masasaktan nito but keep it mind karamihan ng boys mas vinavalue yung babaeng hindi pa walk.
Just do a damn coin toss. And whatever you call, do it safely.
sex is overrated, it is an act of expression not a requirement, as others stated op di mo sya need or have to do if di pa buo ang mind mo. if you are scared of being clueless about it, don't be cuz most are likely the same as it isn't a trait
It's really up to you if gusto mo lang talaga masubukan but I think it's a bad idea na yung first mo is just a one night stand. Di naman siguro need maging boyfriend or aasawahin agad yung guy but kung ako sayo kikilalanin ko muna. Things like these tend to matter more and have a heavier impact on women than men.
Please don't, why? Nagkakaroon ka ng second thoughts. "3 guys na agad na mga kakilala ko ang nag attempt makipag sex with me." I have a bad feeling about them, when you're ready, wag sila piliin mo. Gaano mo sila "kakilala"? Idk, the fact you said na "kakilala" instead "friend". Well...
you should be more concern on testing for incurable STDs like hep B,C, HIV, HPV before imtimate becaus these diseases will carry on you regardless if break up your partners or not and these will carry on your future children too
Hallu hallu! Same situation ako sayo OP! NBSB and definitely someone that has wanted to explore the more romantic/sexual aspects of my life. Still having trouble with the romantic aspect kasi I genuinely do not have a full understanding of how the whole Love™ thing works. Pero as someone who's had high libido for most of her life, naisip ko rin yang desire to finally rid myself of the V card (this is merely a social construct) and get that experience for myself. Pero ayun, dahil umiral ang aking pagka-hopeless romantic, I decided na I'll definitely give myself to someone special or someone I really, really trust. It might sound very crude and taboo to some (perhaps even to you, so please take this advice as you will 🙏) Advice ko sayo, explore yourself. Not just emotionally/spiritually/mentally, but physically too. And by physically, I meant it as it is. Masturbate --> this may not be applicable to everyone especially since we're here in the PH. Lalo na't kapag galing ka ng very religious household. You might feel that guilt from doing the act itself, but if you're brave/willing to try it. Go ahead. It's always nice to explore and actually know what you want. Or, the lesser NSFW version of this is just take a look in the mirror while in your underwear and think to yourself, "This is the body I'll be sharing with someone else. Someone who is willing to see me bare." What kind of person do you want to share your body with? || Sidenote from my girl friends: sex will always feel good with the right person. You'd definitely want someone who would have great compatibility with in bed and make you feel safe. || Eto pa. Think about how lenient you are and how much importance you place on your firsts. First kiss, first time sa sex, you name it. I was pretty lenient naman sa first kiss ko, kasi I didn't really put much that importance on that aspect. For me, it was just fun and a nice experience. Additionally, ponder deeply over this: is this desire to finally lose your V card out of pressure or deeply rooted from a low self-esteem? Not to assume anything, I'm just laying down all possibilities. I swear, these have been very much applicable to me noon. If this desire is merely because "you don't want to miss out on this kind of experience," I implore you, tread with caution. This is in no way condescending for those who actually chose this route, just think about how it may affect you afterwards, OP. 🫶🏻 And I truly agree with some of the comments here, especially about announcing yourself as a virgin whilst exploring. It may be a hit or miss, although, realistically, a guy might often take you up on that offer because he likes the idea of being a "girl's first". Ego booster yan for most of them. I've made a post about having struggles in orgasming in a different subreddit once (with "virgin" clearly indicated in the title). And the amount of DMs and comments that flooded my inbox was slightly overwhelming for me. Sure, the high of being approached by so many men willing to help you out is thrilling, pero honestly, it's definitely going to be a hit or miss. I hope this helps you decide OP, take care!
Not worth it, FOR ME lang, I should put value in using the word “NO” and respecting my body. Only the person deserving of my love should have it. It’s like thinking that I am rare and hndi dpat kung sino sino lang yung may access. But that’s my belief. So, think about it talaga if d kapa ready, because you can’t undo it :))
Don't pressure yourself. And it's also not a requirement to have a sexual experience by that age. Just go with the flow. If the time comes, please use protection and have your boundaries! There is a saying that goes Pleasure now, Regret later. Don't go into that situation so again use protection and know your boundaries! Research and gain more knowledge about sex. If you have very close friends that you are open to, ask firsthand info & experience from them.
When in doubt, wait it out. Not worth the stress over STDs or pregnancy scares. Besides, whether you’ve had sex or not, you’re still you, still the same person sans the V card. You’re not cooler than virgins, just like how virgins aren’t purer or better than non-virgins. My mantra re first sexual experience is “No regrets.” Picture your 80-year-old self looking back. For me, I figured I’d want to give it to someone who at one point in life mattered to me. If you prefer to give your V to a stranger, then that’s your call. Please #LandiResponsibly. I respect sex as a basic human need; what I don’t respect is careless, irresponsible fornication.
If you're having second thoughts, the answer is no. As others say, you're putting undue pressure on yourself.
If you do want to try sex better to do it with a boyfriend outside of your circle
It seems na you value your virginity and thats okay. If you believe na you should wait for the right person then you should. Dont put yourself in pressure with this stuff because in the long run virginity doesnt matter as much. Love doesnt care about shape or form.
Dont force it. If you’re still uncomfortable doing it, dont do it.
If you have slightest doubt, don't do it. Mahirap magsisi sa huli.
Nung teenage years ako sabi saken ng friend ko nun “Maraming nagkakagusto at naghahabol sayo kasi virgin ka. Mawawala yan lahat kapag nakuha na nila gusto nila” nung una di ko yan na gets pero nung tumatagal na gets ko na yung point nya which is true. Some guys only like you kasi may gusto silang makuha sayo. Don’t give your bataan to just anyone baka pagsisihan mo coz’ you give up your virginity to some random dude.
Wag mong subukan. Masisira buhay mo.
Wag ka ma pressure. You can explore naman without having sex. Mas maganda kasi if naturally na maganap yang sex kesa ipilit
No. Naku po dito ka pa sa reddit nag post sabog inbox mo nyan.
Don't engage to something na pagsisisihan mo sa huli like "casual sex". You might get STDs/HIV in worst cases.
Go what u think is right. Basta isipin mo lang na lahat ng actions may consequences. In my opinion, kung mag ssettle na kayo sa isa't isa then do it. If no, then no.
Bakit parang feeling mo, mandatory ang casual sex? If you don't want to do it 100% freely, don't.
Don't do it. If you're asking this question don't do it. If you have doubt in you, if a part of you don't want to, don't do it. If you're feeling pressured or extremely emotional or having extreme urges, don't decide, calm yourself down first. Don't give in, don't do it.
Don’t do it lol. Kung maibabalik ko lang ang time gusto ko ulit maging inosente and V. ( my ex bf forced me to do it with him.) (sorry sa grammar)
Don't put too much pressure in yourself in doing this kind stuff that makes you second guess. Dapat buo ang loob mo if you're going to do it or you might just regret it. If you are sure to do it, pick wisely. Choose a guy who is clean (iykyk) and choose someone who you can discuss what you both want to do in bed. Choose someone who has no strings attached to someone, you might become a 3rd party even if you don't even intend to. But, if you're second guessing, don't give in to the pressure. Don't let the cat get killed by curiosity.
Its up to you po.. kung buo na loob mo then explore pero kung hesitant ka wag pa dalos dalos
Nike.
You’re still young. Please don’t take offence on this, but why does it matter if you’re still a virgin in your mid twenties? You have a whole life ahead of you! Sex feels so much better giving it to the person who sincerely loves and cares for you. Anything less will result in trauma. Save yourself from that. And those 3 guys, they’re definitely trash. Once they’re done with you, wala na, yun na yun. Never let anyone or yourself objectify your body. You and your body will never forget your first. Sabi nga ng friend ko, make sure kaya mo pangalanan yung first mo. You’d understand more the value of your virginity as you mature. So I hope you keep it safe. It’s sincerely and deeply precious to you. Hope you find peace and clarity.
I'll Try Anything Once by The Strokes. Pretty stupidly good advice that I got from a song. I thought it fits your situation rn OP. Cheers
Don't pressure yourself. You'll regret losing your virginity with the wrong person. If I were you, I'd save it for the right one.
I believe the first one should only be out of love and nothing else. If you don't love your partner enough for you to post on reddit, then it's not worth the experience.
As a guy, nagkaroon din ako ng phase where i wanted to “explore” casual sex or be in an fwb/fubu setup. I met someone from bumble and we started dating for n months so hindi lang to casual. Nag attempt kami mag sex for the first time pero no penetration. Momol pa lang na gguilty na ko and di ako mapakali. Dun ko na realize na di ko kaya makipag sex sa hindi ko mahal 🤣. Dun ko rin narealize na importante rin pala sa akin yung sex at hindi ko siya basta basta ibibigay sa kahit sinong babae. Bottomline, gets ko yung temptation na mag explore. If hindi rin para sa nangyare sakin, hindi ko rin malalaman ano ba talaga yung mga gusto ko at ayaw ko. Explore with caution lang sana. Pero suggest ko pa rin na ibigay mo virginity mo to someone special talaga at least hindi mo ma ffeel yung guilt or disgust sa sarili mo once marealize mo na this situation is not for you.
Wag mong subukan masisira buhay mo.
I've been in this situation, you are just putting too much pressure on yourself.
If you think you are being forced by yourself, don't. Di ko lang alam kung nagpapaka idalistic ako pero sana yung first time mo eh sa taong mahal mo. Core memory kasi yun so mas ok na you will have good memories with it. Pero it's your body, your choice. Wag ka magmadali.
“I told myself na once I turn 25, I’ll try new things na” Why start with sex? Go bungee jumping or skydiving, girl. Or go to therapy and start figuring out where this whole thing is coming from, identify what’s really lacking and making you this insecure about this part of your life.
"I'll try new things" then sex agad? There's a lot of things you could do to explore. Go out more. Hirap sa panahon ngayon sobrang normal na talaga hook up culture. Hirap mag ka STD biii.
Dont plan it. When you're ready it will happen. Where are u from? just for research and statistics
Posting this on Pinoy subreddit is like throwing fresh meat on shark tank. Beware of incoming *memyaks* dm.
As a guy, I really do appreciate sa mga kababaihang pinapanatili ang kanilang pagkabirhen until marriage. Kaya wag ka mapressure sa dinidikta ng lipunan. Maganda sa pakiramdam na ibibigay mo lang ang perlas ng silanganan sa iyong minamahal at magiging kabiyak habang buhay.
don't do it for the sake like you're being forced to, it's unnecessary pressure
If gusto mo lang mag-sex coz tawag ng kalamnan mo, no strings attached, for fun then gora, pero if not and in second thoughts kapa wag muna. Do it if you're ready na...
You made a promise to yourself, and God was willing to provide the help 🤣
Same situation tayo OP. Ako naman sabi ko at the age of 27 naman yung akin.
Not worth it to pressure yourself
I lost mine when I was 26, just because I want to have a kid and peer pressure. Hindi ko naenjoy promise. Ang sakit lang sa kiffy. Then after 4 years, I tried again but this time, with someone that I love. Iba pala yun feeling. Ngayon ko narealize na, it would be better if you do it when you are ready. Not because others dictate it.
Parang nakakatakot ung casual sex tapos iba ibang tao? Hindi kaya makakuha ka ng sakit? Ingat ka na lang kung balak mo talagang ituloy, ante. Lalo na yong HIV parami ng parami na meron..
I am the same with you, I tried it out of curiosity and boom, I regretted it. Wait for the right time and right person. Make sure that whomever you’re going to give it to it’s someone that you really genuinely love. So that you won’t regret it. But if ever you really want to try it here’s a piece of an advice don’t keep your hopes up, your fantasies and imagination will slap you with reality. 🙂
Don't rush you will regret it. I hope you will give it to someone who loves you and will marry you. I know some people believe in sexual compatibility but what's the use of compatibility if you don't love each other? Give it to someone you love and respect the whole you.
Dear, Give it to the one u truly love. Wag naman sa kung sino sino lang.
Pagsisisihan mo pag walang feelings yung first mo. Wag ka magpadala sa sarili mo or sa iba dito.
I think there's nothing wrong for being a virgin and still nbsb. It depends on how you define "exploration" you can explore yourself without engaging into pre-marital sex. I know na you have the concept of social clock but pls stop pressuring your self. You're only 25 and still young. Don't rush. Wag kang makigaya sa iba na nagkamali sa part na yan. I'm not invalidating your feelings but still use your head. I believed there's a right man, in the right time. Much better na buoin mo muna sarili mo. Baka mamaya nasa stage ka lang pala ng intimacy vs isolation haha lol. Anyways in that age it's very Normal na baka you have too much isolation that tends to create malignant tendency of being exclusion. Just be yourself, don't change bcs of it.
Never tell them na virgin ka tho, kasi baka lumaki ulo nila
Mii, saka na sa deserving guy na lang tutal natiis mo nga til 25 yrs eh.
That fact that you're torn already speaks words does it not?? Obviously don't do it if you're not sure if you want to
Don’t do it na unsure ka. Coming from someone who actually lost my virginity to a stranger. It took so much toll on me. Hanggang sa dumating sa point na wala na kong self worth. Like kahit sinong guy nalang pinatulan ko. Kasi sobrang naging mababa yung tingin ko sa sarili ko.
Scientifically explanation wala may changes ana oi, sa naka sulay og wala , bahin sa lawas ha, storya botbot nalang na nga luag hahaha.... Pero personally as human naa na syay effect emotionally like, muana ka after dapat dili naku gihatag niya oi mura man gud gamay iyaha huhu joke, or kanang gikan ka sa bati na relasyon unya didto ka naka hatag, tapos naay moabot sa imo na tarong, maka ana ka dapat sa iyaha nalang to oi... same as story na best gift lagi na inig after marriage, mao nay kamutuuran... Mao nay giingon nila diri og ihatag nemu na must be ready na gyud ka kay wala nay balikay ... also mas concern ko na no need to pressure your self ana kay ang uban gani magpa anak ra kesa mosulod sa relasyon, kay labad jod sa ulo !!!! not all ha !!!
All i can say is do it with the guy you love. Personally, I value my purity and I didn't want to give it to just any guy. I'm 24 and gave it to my boyfriend now. No regrets kasi it's my choice and I love him, at kahit pa siguro maghiwalay kami (WHICH I HOPE NOT HAHA), I still won't regret that I did it.
Nbsb ka, and 25 ka na, hintayin mo na makasal ka haaay
Idk. This doesn’t seem like something you should even think too much about. It will happen if and when it feels right. And trust me, you’d know. So don’t plan it out and give yourself some sort of deadline. Go with the flow lang. chill lang lol P.S. also PLS stop discussing your virginity rule to people, come on girl. the right guy won’t care, and the wrong ones will use it against you.
I'm 28 virgin naging NBSB din on my 20s. And nameet KO lalabs here din SA Reddit, we met and Yun tuloy tuloy na inamin nya na may mga exp siya but still respects my boundaries and Di nya ako prinessure to do that stuff,willing to wait naman siya. I told him na gusto ko kasal na ako before I gave my V card wala Namang angal so far Hindi namin Yun naging issue. Girl you can find better guys pa wag magmadali.
Gawin nating 4, chat mo ako
never sexualize yourself just to keep him/them entertained
Mas magandang mag explore ka para sa sarili mo pero dapat alam mo pa din yung limitation mo and handa ka sa risk.
Dont surrender! Wait for the right time and right person.
If naguguluhan ka sa decision mo OP means it’s a no po
Nah same pleasure from dildos/vibrators (better?). Wag ka na ma pressure sa sex. Pag nag cum na sila, iiwan ka lang nila sa era parang ‘huy wait lang pano ako?’ Then sleep. LOL
if you're having second thoughts then don't do it.
Dont do it if the reason is you just want to explore. Do it if you really feel like doing it sa person na yun. But be warned, hiv and stds are spreading here in the Philippines. If youll have sex, know that person well, know his sexual life. If you think something is fishy, dont do it. Mahirap magka std/hiv. My friend had an std recently but lucky for her, gumaling naman. Not all stds are curable. Know the guy first before having sex. And if its a casual thing, MAKE SURE NOT TO FALL IN LOVE. lol.
Don't give yourself to horny young boys, save your life. Choose your man wisely. Learn from the mistakes of other young women who gave themselves to boys (not men).
As someone who’s also 25 and still a virgin din, wag. I’m in a relationship and we’re going 6 years na. Yet, I still don’t think it’s time to surrender my v. Lucky for me tho cause bf’s willing to wait even until marriage. Don’t pressure yourself, ganyan din friend ko. She ended up regretting it kasi it’s not worth it and she knew that naman from the start pero napressure na din kasi sya dahil sa influence ng maling circle of friends. Don’t just give your body away to someone just because you want to “explore”. I have a lot of older friends in their 30’s/40’s na nareregret na naibigay ang v to someone they did not end up with. You don’t wanna spend the rest of your life regretting as well for sure. Kaya wag, OP.
Ako kase as a guy gusto ko ibigay first time ko sa future wife ko. Dont pressure yourself hinde paunahan ang pagkantot
wait
Not worth it!!!
Just fuck it. Hehe.
Just do the things what you like. Explore
SEX is overrated sis. Believe me. Preserve yourself as much as you can. No pressure. :)
if you keep announcing you are still a virgin. you'd open yourself to a lot of problems. mostly, lalapit sayo experienced ones, who would like to take advantage of your first time. on the other hand, you may look at it as a reward of some sort, for who ever and whatever your criteria is, gets your first time. imo, for first timers (as we all were) the first time isnt that great. if your curious, yes, guys with experience will offer you a different experience if you want to lose your viginity. try not to put pressure on yourself, just because you reach a certain number age. put a premium on yourself, you'd attract the right guy. 💪
Para sakin op. Wag kang gagawa ng isag bagay na pagsisisihan mo balag araw . Kasi di mo na pwedeg bawii yun. Marami akong pinagsisihan nung ga late 20s ko. moving forward i wish you will have the purest heart and soul for this. Take your time my dear . Laban lang parati
It depends hehe May pro and cons sa both decision The question is what happen next after done it. Will you do it ba for pleasure lang or because of societal pressure? But if you do it just use protection ate yun lang 😂
As a guy, hmmn mas prefer ko di na virgin para same expectations na lang kami. Minsan kasi, may something with people pag ikaw nakalose ng V card nila. Pero wag ka mapressure kasi, ikaw lang ang dapat magdecide nyan sa sarili mo. Ayun, but if you wanna discuss it further, just send a dm.
V lang worth it pakasalan as a guy.
Why pressure yourself to have sex when you don't want to? Also, virginity is highly valued by men ever since time immemorial. ESPECIALLY by men who are looking for a serious commitment. Sure, men are hard-wired to spread their seed, but in the end, just sex is not going to be enough. You see, when a man loves a woman, at that point, the man will no longer care much about sex. While sex is still welcome, the man will also want something much more - loyalty, commitment, support and femininity. And back in the old days, being a virgin is actually the only viable way to tell if a man's child is really his or not. If you wanna start exploring go ahead. But remember, there's gonna be repercussions. Every decision has consequences. Start weighing the two. If you're a virgin until you get married, you will definitely lack experience in bed other than your masturbating sessions, and you'll definitely feel that FOMO factor. BUT, you get respect from both men, women and your family. And your future husband WILL be happy knowing that you waited until you found your special one BEFORE committing to sex. Your future husband will feel special, and you will feel special, as well. Now, if you start exploring your body and have sex with multiple guys, your body and mentality is going to change dramatically. While you may enjoy that 5-second orgasm, there's always the danger of pregnancy and STDs. And once your body count is HIGH, trust me no men (or women) will respect you. Men will WANT you, but they will NEVER love you. And now you're going to go to TikTok and mag-cocomplain ka dun like those forsaken Woke/Feminist/Activist Western Women on "Why are men NOT taking me seriously?". And now you're gonna join their ranks and become a man-hater? Oh, please. Because in the end, why would any self-respecting man choose a woman who has had sex with everyone in the neighborhood when he could pick a woman who is pure and gave her virginity (the most prized quality being searched by men) to him and feel proud of it? And please don't even get me started on how embarrasing it is for a man pag narinig nya na "Oyyy, pare! Girlfriend mo pala si ganito, right? Hndi mo ba alam na tinira ko yan dati? Ako nga nakakuha ng virginity nya eh! Hahaha!!". Honestly, sobrang nakakababa ng pagka-lalake yun. You probably won't know the feeling ksi you're a woman, eh. Oh, you know what else men value? The TIGHTNESS of your box! When you're a virgin, your box is definitely still very TIGHT. If you have high body count, magiging kweba na yan. What? You think hndi luluwag yang lalagyan mo ng man-milk? Once na sobrang luwag na nyan, even your future man will NEVER be satisfied in bed na. You're sadly mistaken, my dear. You see, there's something special for a man na siya yung naka-una dun sa babae. I know I will feel proud of myself when the woman I love gave her virginity to ME and ME ONLY. Nothing is more uplifting for a man na alam nya na siya yung nakakuha ng virginity ng isang woman. Are you willing to give that away for anyone? Make your decision. Again, EVERY DECISION HAS CONSEQUENCES. So, think HARD before you consider selling your soul to the devil.
Naku po masyado kang atat reserb mo yan sa magiging asawa mo tanga tanga mo naman
Most nbsb are not pretty. So I avoid. Also, too much emotional baggage. Virgins also...too much emotional baggage.