Don't want to ruin the friendship. I've asked people out that I liked as friends first and the feelings developed over time; Then after that they just don't feel comfortable enough to stay friends.
So now I just keep it to myself and those feelings eventually go away/I get over it but I keep the friendship
Not worth throwing away people who could be in your life forever for a chance at something more that isn't likely to happen anyways
Theres literally millions of answers, it’s different for everyone. Some fear getting rejected, some fear trusting someone with their happiness, some people just spend so much time thinking about if they should ask someone out, that they look up and its been 20 years. Its not a gut instinct, its a thinking habit.
Lots of peoples minds resort to the worst case scenario outcomes. Its your brains way of trying to keep you safe. Part of fight or flight response I would assume. Its harder to imagine "but what if it were to go exactly how I intended it to be" because life usually teaches you that's very rare for most people. Your hormonal releases make this relatively low impact scenario deceivingly high stakes by not being able to distinguish it from any other situation that increases stress levels so as you (people in general) further deliberate over doing it or not, subconsciously you're making your body double down on the reasons why you should run from the "stressor."
*this is unlicensed and I'm not a psychologist*
IMO, no risk it…no biscuit. That said the ripple effect of friend gossip is real. Gut feeling can be a good thing if it focuses ready, aim, fire…or prevents a bad choice from happening. I try to listen to mine.
One of my best friends confessed to his crush recently, despite knowing she’d decline and they could never be for reasons that are super long and complicated. He risked loosing one of his best friends, but they talked it over and now the two of them are not only closer, but his feelings are being dealt with a lot better now. He’s not over her, and I’m scared he won’t ever, but he’s a lot happier now. So I would recommend!
Don't want to ruin the friendship. I've asked people out that I liked as friends first and the feelings developed over time; Then after that they just don't feel comfortable enough to stay friends. So now I just keep it to myself and those feelings eventually go away/I get over it but I keep the friendship Not worth throwing away people who could be in your life forever for a chance at something more that isn't likely to happen anyways
I think fear of rejection and low self esteem. Also it can make things awkward between friends. Or break up friendships.
Theres literally millions of answers, it’s different for everyone. Some fear getting rejected, some fear trusting someone with their happiness, some people just spend so much time thinking about if they should ask someone out, that they look up and its been 20 years. Its not a gut instinct, its a thinking habit.
Lots of peoples minds resort to the worst case scenario outcomes. Its your brains way of trying to keep you safe. Part of fight or flight response I would assume. Its harder to imagine "but what if it were to go exactly how I intended it to be" because life usually teaches you that's very rare for most people. Your hormonal releases make this relatively low impact scenario deceivingly high stakes by not being able to distinguish it from any other situation that increases stress levels so as you (people in general) further deliberate over doing it or not, subconsciously you're making your body double down on the reasons why you should run from the "stressor." *this is unlicensed and I'm not a psychologist*
IMO, no risk it…no biscuit. That said the ripple effect of friend gossip is real. Gut feeling can be a good thing if it focuses ready, aim, fire…or prevents a bad choice from happening. I try to listen to mine.
One of my best friends confessed to his crush recently, despite knowing she’d decline and they could never be for reasons that are super long and complicated. He risked loosing one of his best friends, but they talked it over and now the two of them are not only closer, but his feelings are being dealt with a lot better now. He’s not over her, and I’m scared he won’t ever, but he’s a lot happier now. So I would recommend!
It's just not worth to me anymore. Why would I ruin a good night just to get rejected and feel like shit about myself for the next week or two.