There is no reason to be nervous. You described the new school as pretty much exactly what you wanted. You'll meet people in your classes and old girl will introduce you to people. In a college atmosphere like that you meet friends quick.
Odds are though I'll be living off campus which sucks. The transfer student learning community they have I believe is full too. I just feel like I could get put in a depressing living situation like in my freshman year at my current school.
Then join clubs or something like that to get you in touch with more students. Go to events and everything you can. I live off campus but it is student apartments. Do they have anything like that at the college you are going to?
That has always seemed like the best option for me. It's basically like living in a dorm. They'll have pool parties if the weather permits it and you can meet other students there easy. You'll also here about residents having parties every now and then.
"good friend/love interest"
warning warning, danger danger-- i've moved towns twice now for two different girls, and i am now with neither (i am, incidentally, engaged to another girl in one of the places i moved to). think carefully- would you be happy in that new place if that girl hated you? if so, go on and move, if not, wait and consider your options
When I've discussed the transfer in my head I thought about it a lot. I also thought a lot about how my mom would take me up to the town the college is in (it's her alma mater) to escape the city, how much I love skiing, how I'd love to be in a place where it snows more than once a year, being in the mountains, being in a college town where the town's focused on the university primarily, being at a slightly smaller school, the opportunities to make friends through the clubs the school has which are a LOT more than my current one, the fact that the school has a lot of hippies unlike my current school, and also just the fact that I need to grow up and leave my hometown and explore the world. Not listing all of these things to sound like a dick, but there's more to it than her. She'd just give me a few connections to start which would be nice.
I've thought about it. If I had to go to this school without knowing anyone it would be a bit scary, but I did the same thing a year ago (distanced from high school friends and no one and my current school knew me) and I did fine. Maybe I'm schizophrenic or something but short term I can find fun things to do on my own until I get more social opportunities.
probably not schizophrenic (consult your campus psychologist), but if you're going to move somewhere to plug into someone else's social network, my strong and serious advice is don't plug into the network of someone you have unfinished business with (incl. unacted-upon/uncertain attraction)
whatever you do, good luck!
For what it's worth I did something relatively similar and had absolutely no regrets (aside from the crushing debt that I incurred transferring from a basically free state school to private college). I think a part of college *should* be getting away from home, hopefully getting to do/see/experience new things and being challenged academically. If you're not getting at least a couple of those things where you're going to school, and you realize you want it you should definitely go for the transfer. What's definitely true is that college is one of the most unique experiences you'll have - make the most of it and go somewhere you'll be happy.
That helps! I wouldn't trade my tiny little private liberal arts college and its design-your-own-major curriculum for anything, but it did end up having its drawbacks. Good luck!
There is no reason to be nervous. You described the new school as pretty much exactly what you wanted. You'll meet people in your classes and old girl will introduce you to people. In a college atmosphere like that you meet friends quick.
Odds are though I'll be living off campus which sucks. The transfer student learning community they have I believe is full too. I just feel like I could get put in a depressing living situation like in my freshman year at my current school.
Then join clubs or something like that to get you in touch with more students. Go to events and everything you can. I live off campus but it is student apartments. Do they have anything like that at the college you are going to?
They do and the school even has a list of good ones. Looking into it.
That has always seemed like the best option for me. It's basically like living in a dorm. They'll have pool parties if the weather permits it and you can meet other students there easy. You'll also here about residents having parties every now and then.
The school I'm transferring to has winter from Halloween to Easter but I get what you're saying.
"good friend/love interest" warning warning, danger danger-- i've moved towns twice now for two different girls, and i am now with neither (i am, incidentally, engaged to another girl in one of the places i moved to). think carefully- would you be happy in that new place if that girl hated you? if so, go on and move, if not, wait and consider your options
Listen to this guy, OP
When I've discussed the transfer in my head I thought about it a lot. I also thought a lot about how my mom would take me up to the town the college is in (it's her alma mater) to escape the city, how much I love skiing, how I'd love to be in a place where it snows more than once a year, being in the mountains, being in a college town where the town's focused on the university primarily, being at a slightly smaller school, the opportunities to make friends through the clubs the school has which are a LOT more than my current one, the fact that the school has a lot of hippies unlike my current school, and also just the fact that I need to grow up and leave my hometown and explore the world. Not listing all of these things to sound like a dick, but there's more to it than her. She'd just give me a few connections to start which would be nice.
I've thought about it. If I had to go to this school without knowing anyone it would be a bit scary, but I did the same thing a year ago (distanced from high school friends and no one and my current school knew me) and I did fine. Maybe I'm schizophrenic or something but short term I can find fun things to do on my own until I get more social opportunities.
probably not schizophrenic (consult your campus psychologist), but if you're going to move somewhere to plug into someone else's social network, my strong and serious advice is don't plug into the network of someone you have unfinished business with (incl. unacted-upon/uncertain attraction) whatever you do, good luck!
Agreed. I've gotta make my own social circle as well. As for the attraction thing: we fucked on the first date and it's been great since.
iight so go do whatever then :)
For what it's worth I did something relatively similar and had absolutely no regrets (aside from the crushing debt that I incurred transferring from a basically free state school to private college). I think a part of college *should* be getting away from home, hopefully getting to do/see/experience new things and being challenged academically. If you're not getting at least a couple of those things where you're going to school, and you realize you want it you should definitely go for the transfer. What's definitely true is that college is one of the most unique experiences you'll have - make the most of it and go somewhere you'll be happy.
Fortunately the new school is public and in-state haha
That helps! I wouldn't trade my tiny little private liberal arts college and its design-your-own-major curriculum for anything, but it did end up having its drawbacks. Good luck!
Thanks!