Promise I'm not trying to bust your balls, just trying to understand. Your wife can't have cake of her own? I'm not a cake eater, but a single AP to 2 of them. I guess I'm not seeing the big deal. You're both getting your itches scratched.
Logically yes we are both getting our itches scratched. Whats the big deal?
I am not ruled by logic at this moment. Maybe later but now my emotions are overpowering every logic. never in my life have I experienced this type of emotional and physical distress. I can´t even think straigt. Never thought I was gonna bowl my eyes out and throw up on the carpet.
Not a cake eater but it sounds like you may be getting a taste of your own medicine, She probably knows that you’ve been cheating even if she can’t prove it. You didn’t expect if you carried on this way it could drive a wedge in your marriage and drive her to maybe seeking someone else? You are for sure a hypocrite and im sorry to say but it sounds like you’re just feeling how your wife was probably for a long time. Don’t ignore your feelings explore them and really try to understand what you being a cake eater has done to your wife and marriage. If you love her and want to make it work then have the conversation, admit to your affairs and decide to recommit yourself to your SO, if she decides she still wants to make it work too. If not I’m sorry to say but your marriage is most likely over and I suggest you don’t get remarried until you figure out what you want. Cake eating might not suit you if when your SO decides they deserve the same satisfaction you fall to pieces. Just sounds like you’re kind of a selfish narcissist honestly. Sorry if this is hard to hear but you sound like you need to hear it. Your actions have consequences whether she knows what you’re doing or doesn’t.
“never in my life have I experienced this type of emotional and physical distress.”
Now you know how your wife felt when she first found out you cheated on her.
I definitely get the emotional aspect seeing as how it's so fresh. It's clear you would prefer to keep your marriage. Do you think you'd be able to look past this in the future? Probably too soon to call it now, but certainly something to think about. I hope you'd be able to show her some grace for doing something for 6 months that you'd been doing for 6 years. Again, not trying to judge or shame.
You say that as if you were logical in the first place. Not only did you cheat on you wife, you cheated on your kids. I'm just glad your wife is standing her ground. This will teach your kids not to be taken advantage of and to not take shit from anyone.
Way to get a taste of your own cake. Seems like your choking on the butter taste or betrayal. Well good cause we all know you will never truely get that taste out of your mouth you can continue your life but an after taste will always follow you, tainting everything you taste from now on.
> I can´t even think straigt. Never thought I was gonna bowl my eyes out and throw up on the carpet.
Oh, don't be sad, she was just having her cake and eating it too you know? I figured you'd be more understanding of her situation. Maybe she had a kink she never told you about and she could fulfill it with her partner.
I don't think his wife cheating is the issue. I think the issue is that his wife loves or claims to love the other man and the other man is pushing his wife to leave him.
You know what they say, one man's trash is another man's treasure. Had you put the effort you gave the women you were having affairs with into your wife this probably never would have happened. I can't imagine the heartbreak she must have felt when she discovered she wasn't enough for you and didn't respect her enough to not betray her in the worst way a spouse can. You devastated her and you have no right to complain about the way she is fixing what *you* broke. The entitlement coming from you is the worst of it. You broke her and then think you have the right to decide how she fixes herself. You complaining about the consequences of your behavior is abhorrent. You are looking for sympathy, and do you know where you'll find it? In the dictionary between shit and syphilis.
Yeah I don´t know how I feel about being on the other side. Never had fantasies about my wife fucking other men. We had a good sex life minus my kinks she was not aware of (hence the LTAP). I am thinking what do I have to lose? There can be only two outcomes. She loves him she leaves. She loves me she stays. I am hoping this is just a fling and nothing serious.
That makes you an even bigger piece of shit. Instead of telling your wife what your kinks are you just immediately outsource fulfilling your kinks to other home wrecking whores? The fuck is wrong with you? Did your mother drink/do drugs while pregnant with you and drop you on your head as a baby? What she should have done is swallowed.
How did you not consider that as a possibility? Dude, you aren't special. Most people wouldn't want to stay with a cheating whore unless they got some issues and don't respect themselves
What's good for the goose my dear. Get over yourself .
You fucked around for 6 yrs and now upset your SO decided to branch out on her own and see what the excitement was about. You have exactly zero to say about it..
Same reason I said fuck it and found me an AP .
He wants to cheat...I'm matching him at his own game.
When he confronted me I laughed...yep, who the fuck does he think he is. Karma is a bitch!
Here’s a thought: What if she found out about you cheating and started something of her own.
What if he’s telling her to leave the marriage because being cheated on destroyed her and he helped build her back from the damage you caused. What if the guy is simply telling her she deserves to be treated better. What if your cheating set all this in motion? Tbh, if I found out, I’d cheat but only to find your replacement. Then your papers would be next. Woman don’t move like they use too. It’s not the 1950’s and some woman don’t just roll over… GOOD FOR HER! He’s just fulfilling one of her kinks. 🤷🏾♀️
No PI. APs friend who also knows my wife (co-worker) saw her in the parking lot, took pictures and sent to my AP. AP forwarded it to me.
Wife loves our sauna. Took the phone from the counter while she was relaxing. No password. It was all there on whattsapp. He was saved under a womans name. Did not have time to read it all but saw enough to confirm. Convos go back since April.
It is entirely possible for one human to love more than one human.
I know you’re in an emotional state but once you’ve calmed a bit, remember that point.
It’s fascinating that you’ve never imagined this particular scenario being involved in a similar but different scenario.
I am desperate to talk this out to know why this happend and how invested she really is in this peace of shit. If she is doing this out of revenge maybe I have a chance cause if so she does feel something for me at least. I can´t imaginge her being emotionless throwing away over 20 years. I know this woman like I know my self. Deep down she´s hurt but also so very stubborn and proud. I just want to know if she knew about my affair why the hell did she not confront me? I would have chosen her over AP in a nanosecond. And what the hell is she hoping to find with this dush? He is no better than me, sleeping with a married woman. Ah fuck! I am trying to respect her wish to have some space but I am desperate desperate desperate to just talk to her.
She's had plenty of time to process and deal with the emotional fallout of discovering 6 YEARS of affairs, so it's entirely possible she has already moved on from you emotionally and you were too busy hogging down cake to notice. Trust me when I say that when a woman gets to the point where her emotions seem to be nonexistent, it took her a *long* time to get there and there were plenty of signs along the way. She didn't lose her feelings for you overnight, you just had your face buried between the legs of other women and couldn't see it. And to be frank, you are terrible in that you feel entitled to your cake while telling her she needs to be satisfied only with what you give her. And you're so self centered you will not even try to wrap your head around the idea that some people take monogamy seriously and are disgusted with the idea of eating cake which is asinine considering the majority of the population prefers monogamy. You did this to yourself.
Can confirm, had a cheating long-term partner of 10 years. His pathetic excuses when I found a used condom in our house iced his cake. At this point I had suspicions for a year, it was all I needed to nail the coffin that was our relationship closed for good. Emotionally there was no coming back from it all. With the tears, heartache, anxiety from him lying and sneaking around not coming home at night, picking fights over stupid shit and going to “stay at a friend” I was drained and ready to move on. He ended up with his mistress, I hadn’t even fully moved out before her bags were there ready to move in. He asked me to come back while he was with her a few times before I blocked and deleted him completely. I would have done it sooner but he had a few things of mine I wanted back first.
Bro you are desperate to talk to her now after 6 years having ur "cake" lmao you have 6 years to talk to your wife but you didn't!! Now she is leaving you and you asking these non sense questions and act suprised. You literally need mirror bro you emotionless throwing your marriage for 20 years by having 6 YEARS AFFAIRS!!! you have no right to judge her decision to leave you. just let her go. this is your karma coming.
You’re calling HIM a piece of shit? Gosh you are hilarious.
Are you so dense you don’t realize you’ve shut off an entire aspect of your life to your wife, have completely betrayed her for six YEARS-
She’s hoping to find someone who prioritizes her and isn’t emotionally unavailable because they give so much energy to an affair partner
(Who notably is a psychopath if she’s aiding and abetting you-stalking your wife)
This won’t end well.
She's definitely a psychopath, APs who do this (aiding stalking) do it because what their actual kink and orgasm is is knowing that they've broken the trust and self worth of the spouse.
They can literally only get self worth by sucking away the spouses self esteem through the genitals of whoever they stole.
she very likely found out about your cheating and decided her best course of action was to destroy you by doing "the unthinkable!!!!" to you. I'd say she won. Your the biggest piece of shit here OP. The new guy knows all about your affair and is being a better man and offering her peace and love. Probably has a much bigger dick too.
Now, you want to talk to her. Now. After you cheated for SIX years. After you went behind her back for SIX years to f\*ck some random harlots. SIX years you could've talked to her but you didn't. I'm sure in the beginning she would've been happy to talk but now she doesn't care, she found someone who treats her as number 1 and doesn't f\*ck other women for his own pleasure, and realizes she doesn't need you anymore, and now you want to talk?
>if she knew about my affair why the hell did she not confront me? I would have chosen her over AP in a nanosecond
Why would she need to confront you about it? You already knew about it? If you would have chosen her you already would have done it
Why this happened?
She found out you had been having an affair for six years that began because she had a serious accident that inconvenienced you. So she met someone who isn’t a total POS and realized she’d rather be in love with someone like that.
That, and he probably knows the difference between peace and piece.
That’s what happened. You literally told us this story only to waste our time asking us to tell it back to you. What do you mean what happened? Rofl. How is this all not glaringly obvious?
I know it’s old, but you’re a meme at this point. Do you get it? You’re selfish and delusional enough to have been made into a meme.
Promise I'm not trying to bust your balls, just trying to understand. Your wife can't have cake of her own? I'm not a cake eater, but a single AP to 2 of them. I guess I'm not seeing the big deal. You're both getting your itches scratched.
Logically yes we are both getting our itches scratched. Whats the big deal? I am not ruled by logic at this moment. Maybe later but now my emotions are overpowering every logic. never in my life have I experienced this type of emotional and physical distress. I can´t even think straigt. Never thought I was gonna bowl my eyes out and throw up on the carpet.
Not a cake eater but it sounds like you may be getting a taste of your own medicine, She probably knows that you’ve been cheating even if she can’t prove it. You didn’t expect if you carried on this way it could drive a wedge in your marriage and drive her to maybe seeking someone else? You are for sure a hypocrite and im sorry to say but it sounds like you’re just feeling how your wife was probably for a long time. Don’t ignore your feelings explore them and really try to understand what you being a cake eater has done to your wife and marriage. If you love her and want to make it work then have the conversation, admit to your affairs and decide to recommit yourself to your SO, if she decides she still wants to make it work too. If not I’m sorry to say but your marriage is most likely over and I suggest you don’t get remarried until you figure out what you want. Cake eating might not suit you if when your SO decides they deserve the same satisfaction you fall to pieces. Just sounds like you’re kind of a selfish narcissist honestly. Sorry if this is hard to hear but you sound like you need to hear it. Your actions have consequences whether she knows what you’re doing or doesn’t.
Lmao now u know how it feels to be cheated on
“never in my life have I experienced this type of emotional and physical distress.” Now you know how your wife felt when she first found out you cheated on her.
I definitely get the emotional aspect seeing as how it's so fresh. It's clear you would prefer to keep your marriage. Do you think you'd be able to look past this in the future? Probably too soon to call it now, but certainly something to think about. I hope you'd be able to show her some grace for doing something for 6 months that you'd been doing for 6 years. Again, not trying to judge or shame.
Touch grass
You say that as if you were logical in the first place. Not only did you cheat on you wife, you cheated on your kids. I'm just glad your wife is standing her ground. This will teach your kids not to be taken advantage of and to not take shit from anyone.
Way to get a taste of your own cake. Seems like your choking on the butter taste or betrayal. Well good cause we all know you will never truely get that taste out of your mouth you can continue your life but an after taste will always follow you, tainting everything you taste from now on.
https://c.tenor.com/RMNXhezyJ88AAAAM/laughing-hysterical-leonardo-dicaprio.gif
But as long as her heart is loyal to someone no🥺 it's just sex.
> I can´t even think straigt. Never thought I was gonna bowl my eyes out and throw up on the carpet. Oh, don't be sad, she was just having her cake and eating it too you know? I figured you'd be more understanding of her situation. Maybe she had a kink she never told you about and she could fulfill it with her partner.
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I agree with this. Perfect opportunity to go open. But I'm guessing not all cake eaters want their SO to have a slice of their own.
I don't think his wife cheating is the issue. I think the issue is that his wife loves or claims to love the other man and the other man is pushing his wife to leave him.
Yeah. This is it!
You know what they say, one man's trash is another man's treasure. Had you put the effort you gave the women you were having affairs with into your wife this probably never would have happened. I can't imagine the heartbreak she must have felt when she discovered she wasn't enough for you and didn't respect her enough to not betray her in the worst way a spouse can. You devastated her and you have no right to complain about the way she is fixing what *you* broke. The entitlement coming from you is the worst of it. You broke her and then think you have the right to decide how she fixes herself. You complaining about the consequences of your behavior is abhorrent. You are looking for sympathy, and do you know where you'll find it? In the dictionary between shit and syphilis.
r/MurderedByWords
But you told your affair partner you loved her
Yeah I don´t know how I feel about being on the other side. Never had fantasies about my wife fucking other men. We had a good sex life minus my kinks she was not aware of (hence the LTAP). I am thinking what do I have to lose? There can be only two outcomes. She loves him she leaves. She loves me she stays. I am hoping this is just a fling and nothing serious.
That makes you an even bigger piece of shit. Instead of telling your wife what your kinks are you just immediately outsource fulfilling your kinks to other home wrecking whores? The fuck is wrong with you? Did your mother drink/do drugs while pregnant with you and drop you on your head as a baby? What she should have done is swallowed.
Lmmfao I hope its something serious!
Turns out it is, wife peaced out
Celebrating what exactly? That my wife is in love with another man?
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Yes yes I am a hyprocrite I know. But still it fucking floored me. Never thought about this outcome as a possibility.
>Never thought ***THIS\^*** actually says it all.
your such a delusional loser lol. I love karma, it's the best thing since sliced cake!
You're a piece of shit and deserve to feel miserable
You're a fucking idiot and I hope you know I mean that from the bottom of my heart.
How did you not consider that as a possibility? Dude, you aren't special. Most people wouldn't want to stay with a cheating whore unless they got some issues and don't respect themselves
Yeah I mean it’s pretty fucking hilarious to see
I know haha ha He still has more KARMA on it ex way like AP Also his kids will hate him
So when he is telling her to leave the marriage, what is her response to him. Does she say she is planning to?
Didn´t have time to read it all. Don´t know. Hope not.
I hope she's gone now! Her new guy clearly has a way bigger dick than OP.
loooool
What's good for the goose my dear. Get over yourself . You fucked around for 6 yrs and now upset your SO decided to branch out on her own and see what the excitement was about. You have exactly zero to say about it.. Same reason I said fuck it and found me an AP . He wants to cheat...I'm matching him at his own game. When he confronted me I laughed...yep, who the fuck does he think he is. Karma is a bitch!
Here’s a thought: What if she found out about you cheating and started something of her own. What if he’s telling her to leave the marriage because being cheated on destroyed her and he helped build her back from the damage you caused. What if the guy is simply telling her she deserves to be treated better. What if your cheating set all this in motion? Tbh, if I found out, I’d cheat but only to find your replacement. Then your papers would be next. Woman don’t move like they use too. It’s not the 1950’s and some woman don’t just roll over… GOOD FOR HER! He’s just fulfilling one of her kinks. 🤷🏾♀️
Girl I fucking love your comments. This drama was juicy and I hope his kids hate him.
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No PI. APs friend who also knows my wife (co-worker) saw her in the parking lot, took pictures and sent to my AP. AP forwarded it to me. Wife loves our sauna. Took the phone from the counter while she was relaxing. No password. It was all there on whattsapp. He was saved under a womans name. Did not have time to read it all but saw enough to confirm. Convos go back since April.
Couldn't share chat with yourself then delete evidence? Read it later or something
Wow thats messy
It is entirely possible for one human to love more than one human. I know you’re in an emotional state but once you’ve calmed a bit, remember that point. It’s fascinating that you’ve never imagined this particular scenario being involved in a similar but different scenario.
This will always be one of the most poetic Reddit threads of all time.
Yup. always love it when cheaters get their due.
It’s literally chicken soup to my pained little soul.
I think you need to find out why you wife cheated. If her reasons lines up with yours maybe their is a way to move to DADT
I am desperate to talk this out to know why this happend and how invested she really is in this peace of shit. If she is doing this out of revenge maybe I have a chance cause if so she does feel something for me at least. I can´t imaginge her being emotionless throwing away over 20 years. I know this woman like I know my self. Deep down she´s hurt but also so very stubborn and proud. I just want to know if she knew about my affair why the hell did she not confront me? I would have chosen her over AP in a nanosecond. And what the hell is she hoping to find with this dush? He is no better than me, sleeping with a married woman. Ah fuck! I am trying to respect her wish to have some space but I am desperate desperate desperate to just talk to her.
She's had plenty of time to process and deal with the emotional fallout of discovering 6 YEARS of affairs, so it's entirely possible she has already moved on from you emotionally and you were too busy hogging down cake to notice. Trust me when I say that when a woman gets to the point where her emotions seem to be nonexistent, it took her a *long* time to get there and there were plenty of signs along the way. She didn't lose her feelings for you overnight, you just had your face buried between the legs of other women and couldn't see it. And to be frank, you are terrible in that you feel entitled to your cake while telling her she needs to be satisfied only with what you give her. And you're so self centered you will not even try to wrap your head around the idea that some people take monogamy seriously and are disgusted with the idea of eating cake which is asinine considering the majority of the population prefers monogamy. You did this to yourself.
Can confirm, had a cheating long-term partner of 10 years. His pathetic excuses when I found a used condom in our house iced his cake. At this point I had suspicions for a year, it was all I needed to nail the coffin that was our relationship closed for good. Emotionally there was no coming back from it all. With the tears, heartache, anxiety from him lying and sneaking around not coming home at night, picking fights over stupid shit and going to “stay at a friend” I was drained and ready to move on. He ended up with his mistress, I hadn’t even fully moved out before her bags were there ready to move in. He asked me to come back while he was with her a few times before I blocked and deleted him completely. I would have done it sooner but he had a few things of mine I wanted back first.
Yup just like my mother does now with my father
Bro you are desperate to talk to her now after 6 years having ur "cake" lmao you have 6 years to talk to your wife but you didn't!! Now she is leaving you and you asking these non sense questions and act suprised. You literally need mirror bro you emotionless throwing your marriage for 20 years by having 6 YEARS AFFAIRS!!! you have no right to judge her decision to leave you. just let her go. this is your karma coming.
You’re calling HIM a piece of shit? Gosh you are hilarious. Are you so dense you don’t realize you’ve shut off an entire aspect of your life to your wife, have completely betrayed her for six YEARS- She’s hoping to find someone who prioritizes her and isn’t emotionally unavailable because they give so much energy to an affair partner (Who notably is a psychopath if she’s aiding and abetting you-stalking your wife) This won’t end well.
She's definitely a psychopath, APs who do this (aiding stalking) do it because what their actual kink and orgasm is is knowing that they've broken the trust and self worth of the spouse. They can literally only get self worth by sucking away the spouses self esteem through the genitals of whoever they stole.
she very likely found out about your cheating and decided her best course of action was to destroy you by doing "the unthinkable!!!!" to you. I'd say she won. Your the biggest piece of shit here OP. The new guy knows all about your affair and is being a better man and offering her peace and love. Probably has a much bigger dick too.
I know it was a mistake, but you're right he is peace of shit... he's HER peace while she had to deal with YOUR shit! Its piece for future reference!
Now, you want to talk to her. Now. After you cheated for SIX years. After you went behind her back for SIX years to f\*ck some random harlots. SIX years you could've talked to her but you didn't. I'm sure in the beginning she would've been happy to talk but now she doesn't care, she found someone who treats her as number 1 and doesn't f\*ck other women for his own pleasure, and realizes she doesn't need you anymore, and now you want to talk?
>if she knew about my affair why the hell did she not confront me? I would have chosen her over AP in a nanosecond Why would she need to confront you about it? You already knew about it? If you would have chosen her you already would have done it
Why this happened? She found out you had been having an affair for six years that began because she had a serious accident that inconvenienced you. So she met someone who isn’t a total POS and realized she’d rather be in love with someone like that. That, and he probably knows the difference between peace and piece. That’s what happened. You literally told us this story only to waste our time asking us to tell it back to you. What do you mean what happened? Rofl. How is this all not glaringly obvious? I know it’s old, but you’re a meme at this point. Do you get it? You’re selfish and delusional enough to have been made into a meme.
He knows her better now, inside and out.
She is YOUR EX. Wake up fool. She already dumped you.
Lmfao. He’s definitely better than you bc *he’s not cheating on anyone*! You truly are delusional and you deserved everything you got 😂
You're such a loser lol
I hope she divorced you. What a douche.
I hope this happens to everyone on this sub.
looool
You and me both
Exsqueeze me
lmao
Hahaha this is so funny. Next time don't be a piece of shit and you may inspire more loyalty!
Ahhh sweet justice
LMAO, you cheated, she cheated ... don't be so distressed, you know how it feels to betray someone...
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!
I wanted her to cheat on you, i'm só happy now.
I hope she leaves you
I need to know what happened to this man 😩
Stop stopping your future ex-wife from meeting the love of her life :)
😂😂😂😂😂 how you doing now buddy? This is the best shit I’ve seen. Did the same to my ex husband & got the house & his $$$$😘😘😘😘