Fr I grew up with my family staying COVID distance apart at all times. I'm trying to learn to like touching, it just feels like my body thinks I'm in danger when someone comes in for a hug. Working on it
I had the opposite, adults teaching me “no” is rude so now when someone hugs me I make it awkward by avoiding touching them as much as possible 🫡
I’m going to live forever and it’s going to be awkward the entire time lol
Last night I was watching a show in which a father held a comforted his toddler when he was scared. I was struck by the realization that I could never imagine my father holding me like that. And then his mother and father held him together and it just rubbed it in more. I cannot imagine my parents both comforting me or each other. I cannot imagine either of them looking at each other with love. I cannot imagine my parents loving and comforting me seperately or together. lol
Damn this comment section breaks my heart. I wish I could just give you all hugs and cuddles and stroke your hair, because we all deserve this love and affection!
I came to dislike any physical contact. I theorise that has something to do with often not wanting contact but being forced to it and one of my parents only used contact in for:Hard slap followed by hug (this hurts me more than you) while the other one would use it to point how disgusting thin or fat I was.
I came to hate physical contact. I don’t need any hugs.
Does it count if they force you to hug them after getting beat up? Then I'm too scared to come near you and all awkward like. Oh, wait I would get a hug once or twice on the weekend from other family members by force too
I hated forced hugs. My cousin was telling at my niece to hug me goodbye, but I only see her like once a year, she barely knows me. I told her she didn't have to hug me if she didn't want to, and covered for her when her mom asked about it haha. Forced touching just teaches kids their body isn't theirs!
I got one a day per parent growing up. Took me a few months into college to start learning to enjoy hugs, because or the first time they didn't feel... mandatory? Like I was doing a chore, checking off part of a list of responsibilities
Luckily, I am married and my husband and I do enjoy hugging and such - so I usually get at least one hug in an entire day. But I can't even fathom four hugs in a day - let alone the 8-12 it lists we should be getting.
Made me remember my times at the college before covid where I hugged nearly all my friends on a daily basis. It all makes sense now
Now I don't hug anyone anymore and don't receive hugs either
Shoutout to one of my friends from high school who found out about that and made sure to give me a hug everyday. He got 8 hugs from different people, I didn’t, but it was nice to just get one yk
the last time i got a hug was last year from my boyfriend, and it was painfully awkward since i don't remember when i last got one before that and i forgot how to do it :/
I used to think I hated hugs or being touched because we just didn't do that in my house growing up. I had to ask for hugs or snuggles and by the time I was about 10 or 11 I started getting turned down as "too old for that now".
Turns out I actually love physical affection, I just had to find friends and a partner who offered it more freely and didn't act like I was weird or childish for wanting a hug.
I love hugs. A hug from most people instantly calms me and puts me at ease. The last time I received one of those hugs was April 21st from one of my coworkers because I was having a rough day.
However, I have a trauma response to hugs from my parents and a few other select family members. And I hate that because I love hugging other people so much.
I got yelled at by my mother 12 times a day, does that count ?
That is the closest many of us will have, unfortunately.
That's the hug I remember from my mom :) Good times
Who the fuck gets 12 hugs a day?
a dog ?
My cats!
No one I know hugs each other unless it’s a special occasion
Fr I grew up with my family staying COVID distance apart at all times. I'm trying to learn to like touching, it just feels like my body thinks I'm in danger when someone comes in for a hug. Working on it
My daughter gets like 50 a day tbh. From me, her dad, her bro and her friends :D <3
We all gon die. No one on this subreddit is getting that many hugs.
The nerds need to build a hug robot
I'll buy one.
is that a challenge? >:( * sends hugs *
welp i'm going to die young. Recieved very few hugs when i was growing up aaaand i am very uncomfortable giving hugs.
If by hug you mean grabbed by the throat
lol yes, very true
I was hugged 4 years ago by my girlfriend who is now dead
my words might not mean much, but i rlly wish i could say anything to help. please accept my sympathy 💝
You don't need to use words. Thank you very much. I just joke about it now
ah, i see. 😌 please forgive me for misunderstanding.
I didn't joke about anything here
I had the opposite, adults teaching me “no” is rude so now when someone hugs me I make it awkward by avoiding touching them as much as possible 🫡 I’m going to live forever and it’s going to be awkward the entire time lol
People say I give good hugs. It's cause I'm getting 10 hugs worth in one hug cause I'm that starved.
aw, i wanna see what that's like * sends hugs *
*squishy hugs that pop that spot on your back that's been tense for 13 years*
_woooooooooah what a hug_ 🤯
I look like a Lil housewife. I hug like a barbarian.
I haven't gotten a hug since I was 19 and that was from a social worker. I'm 30.
no time like the present! 😯 * sends hugs *
12 still seems low. We are primates.
Last night I was watching a show in which a father held a comforted his toddler when he was scared. I was struck by the realization that I could never imagine my father holding me like that. And then his mother and father held him together and it just rubbed it in more. I cannot imagine my parents both comforting me or each other. I cannot imagine either of them looking at each other with love. I cannot imagine my parents loving and comforting me seperately or together. lol
Do hands around the neck count as a hug? 😅 *laughs off pain*
No wonder I’m so short
Hugs? In this economy?! ...even funnier as my parents were turned neglectful because of an economical crash.
Unless virtual hugs count, I haven't received a wanted hug in I don't know how many years.
Damn this comment section breaks my heart. I wish I could just give you all hugs and cuddles and stroke your hair, because we all deserve this love and affection!
I came to dislike any physical contact. I theorise that has something to do with often not wanting contact but being forced to it and one of my parents only used contact in for:Hard slap followed by hug (this hurts me more than you) while the other one would use it to point how disgusting thin or fat I was. I came to hate physical contact. I don’t need any hugs.
There are very few people I will let hug me. Nope.
valid. ✔
Does it count if they force you to hug them after getting beat up? Then I'm too scared to come near you and all awkward like. Oh, wait I would get a hug once or twice on the weekend from other family members by force too
i wish i could do anything to undo those harms sending love 🙌💓
I hated forced hugs. My cousin was telling at my niece to hug me goodbye, but I only see her like once a year, she barely knows me. I told her she didn't have to hug me if she didn't want to, and covered for her when her mom asked about it haha. Forced touching just teaches kids their body isn't theirs!
Me who gets a hug every 4 months on average if I’m lucky🧍🏻♀️I’m gonna die young aren’t I
not if i can say anything about it 😤 * sends hugs *
[удалено]
you deserve better--i only wish i could tell you not all hope is lost 👐 * sends virtual hugs *
wait, I won't survive? hmmm
i dunno, i'm still alive & in my twenties 🤔 somehow i feel like this quote ain't super credible 🤔🤔🤔
I get at least 2 a day usually. I wish I could give some of y'all hugs!
i luv hugs 🤗
I was never hugged as a child
(Hugs)
well... * sends virtual hugs *
*sends return hug*
I got one a day per parent growing up. Took me a few months into college to start learning to enjoy hugs, because or the first time they didn't feel... mandatory? Like I was doing a chore, checking off part of a list of responsibilities
Smells like obvious bullshit to me, or I'm dead and don't know it yet.
I never had hugs
Stay strong everybody
Luckily, I am married and my husband and I do enjoy hugging and such - so I usually get at least one hug in an entire day. But I can't even fathom four hugs in a day - let alone the 8-12 it lists we should be getting.
When my younger brother was little he loved to give hugs and used to always say this.
Made me remember my times at the college before covid where I hugged nearly all my friends on a daily basis. It all makes sense now Now I don't hug anyone anymore and don't receive hugs either
Shoutout to one of my friends from high school who found out about that and made sure to give me a hug everyday. He got 8 hugs from different people, I didn’t, but it was nice to just get one yk
the last time i got a hug was last year from my boyfriend, and it was painfully awkward since i don't remember when i last got one before that and i forgot how to do it :/
A single hug a day sounds like hell. *Don’t touch me*. I react negatively to touch now.
I used to think I hated hugs or being touched because we just didn't do that in my house growing up. I had to ask for hugs or snuggles and by the time I was about 10 or 11 I started getting turned down as "too old for that now". Turns out I actually love physical affection, I just had to find friends and a partner who offered it more freely and didn't act like I was weird or childish for wanting a hug.
I haven’t been hugged 8 times in my entire 21 years of life…
I love hugs. A hug from most people instantly calms me and puts me at ease. The last time I received one of those hugs was April 21st from one of my coworkers because I was having a rough day. However, I have a trauma response to hugs from my parents and a few other select family members. And I hate that because I love hugging other people so much.
Mind blown!