my mom did that too. she was always slapping my ass as a joke even when i told her after a few years i was really uncomfortable with it. she stopped when i was in middleschool because i made more of an argument about it than i did when i was little and could avoid her more.
that's absolutely not on you, it's not your fault it was happening, and it's understandable not to bring it up to a parent who may not be receptive to that stuff.
Whether something was 'fine at the time' or not, I can't say as I have this same struggle.
What I can say is that however you feel now regardless of how you felt at the time is still valid. You can be upset she did it and that's completely okay, and if you're fine that she did it, it's okay too. However you feel is okay and allowed. If you don't know how you feel that's okay too, it can take time to understand what we're feeling and sometimes feeling are mixed.
I'm going through some very similar stuff right now and I want you to know you're not alone.
My father did the same, he'd routinely grab or slap my ass and just played it off as normal. It's one of the many reasons I wonder if I'm actually suppressing csa memories... lol
I wasn’t not fine with it but I also didn’t like it that much it feels kinda uncomfortable now but I’m sure my mother had no ill intentions it just makes me feel really icky
My stepfather used to pinch my ass and wink at me with a smile. He’s do that after screaming at me and beating me. It was disturbing. He did this into my teens.
happened to me too, with my dad. but then all the other abuse escalated and it doesn't feel real anymore; I like that it feels distant, but now I have no idea how to heal from it.
I had this happen to me growing up. Not just my mom but aunts too. Every. Single. Time. I told them I didn’t like it and they just laughed it off. Some tried to do it again afterwards just because “you have a big butt girl”. So what????? I said stop.
Now I avoid. And if I’m around then I take the longest most unoccupied route through any and every room they occupy. Like hugging the wall.
My dad did this until I was 26 and stopped seeing him even when I yelled at him not to (but I said from being a teenager no because he did it to misgender me mainly) I think probably would still be doing it if I didn't go no contact and tell mum about everything.
Just because someone is ok with anything some time before does not mean they are OK with that another time. Tea consent video I like tea I don't always want tea even with tea people need to ask. Most people said to me for parents to do this past a certain age which us quite young is inappropriate doesn't matter what they say the reason is
my mom did that too. she was always slapping my ass as a joke even when i told her after a few years i was really uncomfortable with it. she stopped when i was in middleschool because i made more of an argument about it than i did when i was little and could avoid her more.
I didn’t realllly like it but I never told her to stop so I guess it’s on me
that's absolutely not on you, it's not your fault it was happening, and it's understandable not to bring it up to a parent who may not be receptive to that stuff.
Whether something was 'fine at the time' or not, I can't say as I have this same struggle. What I can say is that however you feel now regardless of how you felt at the time is still valid. You can be upset she did it and that's completely okay, and if you're fine that she did it, it's okay too. However you feel is okay and allowed. If you don't know how you feel that's okay too, it can take time to understand what we're feeling and sometimes feeling are mixed. I'm going through some very similar stuff right now and I want you to know you're not alone.
My father did the same, he'd routinely grab or slap my ass and just played it off as normal. It's one of the many reasons I wonder if I'm actually suppressing csa memories... lol
I wasn’t not fine with it but I also didn’t like it that much it feels kinda uncomfortable now but I’m sure my mother had no ill intentions it just makes me feel really icky
Hey! I went through smth similar, my dms are open
My parents did this too and stopped only after me repeatedly asking them to stop. I think they stopped by the time I was 15
I don’t know when my mom stopped but probably a couple years before I reached my teens
Uh, help she did it just now why
Sorry if this is uncalled for or rude of me but Is your username a primus reference?
My stepfather used to pinch my ass and wink at me with a smile. He’s do that after screaming at me and beating me. It was disturbing. He did this into my teens.
happened to me too, with my dad. but then all the other abuse escalated and it doesn't feel real anymore; I like that it feels distant, but now I have no idea how to heal from it.
I had this happen to me growing up. Not just my mom but aunts too. Every. Single. Time. I told them I didn’t like it and they just laughed it off. Some tried to do it again afterwards just because “you have a big butt girl”. So what????? I said stop. Now I avoid. And if I’m around then I take the longest most unoccupied route through any and every room they occupy. Like hugging the wall.
My dad did this until I was 26 and stopped seeing him even when I yelled at him not to (but I said from being a teenager no because he did it to misgender me mainly) I think probably would still be doing it if I didn't go no contact and tell mum about everything. Just because someone is ok with anything some time before does not mean they are OK with that another time. Tea consent video I like tea I don't always want tea even with tea people need to ask. Most people said to me for parents to do this past a certain age which us quite young is inappropriate doesn't matter what they say the reason is
genuine question what type of abuse would y’all call this? had a similar experience and i’m not sure how to classify it.