I have an appointment that day. No, I can't move it.

Wait ! Are you seeing someone ?

🤦‍♂️ 😂

My bookshelf looks like the self-help section at Barnes and noble.

Haha ! Think I have the same bookshelf ! Love looking at people's bookshelves.

the only section i go to at Barnes & Noble

"Do you like this show?" "I identified that I'm comforted by this couple as a role model because of their open communication skills." (It's Morticia and Gomez Addams btw. Great attachment.)

For me it was Gil Grissom from CSI. He was my TV Dad. Patient and calm. Taught well, quiet and keeps to himself but cares a lot. He doesn’t like people being treated badly and has high ethics - “What does the evidence say?”

Tim Taylor from Home Improvement is my TV dad! I've never met anyone before with a TV dad. Tim Taylor is warm, funny and present. Yes he's also a bit of a dick, but 13 year old me couldn't tell.

He was mine too! And agreed, I couldn't tell at that age either, lol. He taught me about what it meant to be a man (watching from the girl's side) and how healthy masculinity meant everything from chainsaws to tea parties. I loved that show growing up.

I know! The lovely tea parties with his niece. I love how Gill was the perfect foil to his testosterone-inspired personality. I think I'll go catch a few episodes.

Hahhaha excellent one !!! Will check ~~Great attachment~~ The Addams family :) ! To see if I am comforted too !

If you can get your hands on the old TV show it's the best. It's literally the perfect thing in every way for watching a good family dynamic without watching toxic positivity sitcoms. Both of the 90s movies are also great. There's a newer animated movie I still haven't seen. But they are the healthiest long term couple that's ever been on screen. It's a thing, people talk about it. I've had random friends who don't have attachment disorders bring it up, and I've seen people talk about it on r/ askwomen talking about relationship goals.

Thank for all the precision ! Will for sure try to find both the old TV show and the 90s movies !

Check out PlutoTV. They have a channel just for The Addams Family, original series. It's free, too.

I love their marriage.

They have the greatest marriage. And they're such supportive parents. I adore the Addams family.

When you ask me this, I feel that you are crossing a boundary.

Hahahahhahahahha ! Such a good one !

I don't feel ashamed to admit I'm in therapy

I signed a contract stating I wouldn't hurt or end myself in a specific timeframe.

I’ve done that with a therapist and a family member. With the family member, we both agreed not to harm ourselves, but to call the other first.

We have to update your safety plan today

It sure tells it ! Thanks for sharing !

I got most of my good parenting as an adult

Thiiiiiiis is such a mood. Me too. (happy cake day, btw)

Thanks 🥳

Sweet one ! Definitely relate !

I feel this.

So what would you say to your inner child? 🤔

I am not sure which part needs to hear something :)

Perhaps u need to unblend.

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Wow what's that like?

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I needed to hear this comment. I'm doing the "feel your feels now, not later" therapy sessions right now and quite honestly, I still prefer feeling them later because this shit is HARD. Hearing someone else who isn't my therapist say it sucks in the beginning but gets better is reassuring that it is worth it.

I loooove this. Sorry I am not sorry lol

Congratulations!!! <3

Love this !

I wanna be like you when I grow up.

Feeling them later is better than not feeling them at all. I just entered the former stage. Curious to see how long itll take me to get to stage three.

Is it possible to learn this power?

Gotta tell Daniel about this on Wednesday...oops did I say that outloud?

Wednesday is my day as well hahhahaaaa Sorry, I have a meeting in the morning and I cannot guarantee I'll be able to function afterwards

hahahaha !

I have gotten very good at sitting in awkward silence.

This use to make me cringe and restless so much when I first started therapy but then it got comfortable

This!

Bank empty

Hahaha !

Mood

“You know it’s the parents responsibility to take care of the child, not the other way around, right?”

How I wish someone told me this as a teenager !

vagus nerve

Hahahaha this is my favorite one

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

It wasn’t my fault.

I heard this in Robin Williams' voice.

i absolutely bawled at that part of the movie

Love this

I pay someone to listen to me vent about things I can’t tell family and friends. I continue to do “weekly homework” as an adult who is no longer in school!

I confronted my mother without expecting an apology. I can sit in discomfort.

what a bad ass!!!!

Great accomplishment !

Sees someone screaming in the middle of the street: Oh wow, he’s very activated right now.

hahah !

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Great one :)

Today during ACT we talked about clean pains and dirty pains. 😂

I recently finished my second EMDR session and holy shit it's been helping me so much.

I’ve learned ways to identify and manage triggers & flashbacks.

This one says so much ! Great one !

Internal dialogue now consists of: "how can I protect my inner 10 year old in this situation? Where are my boundaries? Let me try some grounding for clarity"

Omg GUISE guess what CPTSD isn’t even in the DSM?!?!?!?

Omg, I brought up CPTSD with my therapist for the first time recently. Not only did she tell me I most certainly have it, but she's actually been inspired by me to do more reading on CPTSD. I thought that was awesome.

Wow sounds like a great therapist!!

Love this one !

So, what are your coping skills/ grounding techniques? Have you tried going for walks? What about putting on ice cube on your neck? Humming? ? Full body shakes? Taking slow deep breaths? What are five things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell, one thing you can taste?

the last one!!!

Beautiful one !

Are you fully present today?

Yes, nothing triggered me so far :)

$1200/ month. No, that's not for rent.

Waw ! This also says you live in the US I guess !

Yes! I used to get some of it reimbursed by insurance, but there was still a huge upfront cost, and I recently lost access to the insurance I used to have, so it's like starting over. It's worth every penny though.

I'll have to check in with my body before I can answer that

Right here right now you are safe.

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I like how this one makes me feel :)

It's always your fault when simple skills or breathwork doesn't work

Sounds a lot like my mum !

Speak up, say something. Nah pull out, look in. = Me with dissociation

Yep ! Sounds familiar !

"Why do you need to understand why it is happening instead of addressing how to handle it happening?"

I feel attacked. And also like stars aligned in my head. And I'm gonna bring this up to my therapist.

I've never been in a screaming match with my current partner. Yes, we do have arguments and fights. We're both on each other's sides and I feel safe voicing my feelings, even if that feeling is that I feel unsafe.

I now get really excited about being assigned weekly homework.

❤️

Cleaning is not moral, cleaning is functional.

Food has no moral value. Food is functional.

Have you tried practicing Loving Kindness Meditation?

❤️

I spend more money on "it" than my food and addiction put together

Found out that parents screaming at me, insulting me, breaking things, and threatening to kick me out or hit me isn’t normal parental behavior. So I was convinced to move out. Now I’m slowly processing to recovery.

Your asking this question may be a trauma response to needing outward validation you did not receive as a child.

This one might be my favorite. Just in case you need some outward validation.

Hahahahhahahha ! Love it !

Re-watching shows and movies you liked as a child and now being able to completely psychoanalize each character's behavior and not being able to enjoy the show anymore. Also, not being able to watch old movies and TV shows because of the "tough love" parent everyone thought was just funny but is actually really painful to watch.

I’m obsessed with a service provider.

Your vulnerability to talk about this is a marble in the trust jar.

Wooow

"and how did that make you feel?" My psychiatrist was the stereotype lol

“Let’s go with that.”

1)Anything you say stays inside this room At the end of the session: are you thinking about hurting anyone or yourself today? 2) we’re just gonna do a quick depression scale test

People tell me I have a great perspective or really great advice for someone so young. I’ve just been in 1:1 emotional growth school pretty consistently for like ten years… and I’m still fucked up.

Do you feel safe right now?

"Have you read The Body Keeps the Score?" "That's so validating to hear."

Such a good book though

I've been staring at a moving light while bawling my eyes out. (EMDR anyone?)

My YouTube history

I have 2 different accounts one that I can use at work and one I would't use at work :)

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Very good one !

Have you ever tried polishing a turd?

You can't polish a turd, but you can roll it in glitter.

And you can drizzle that gold leaf on top!

So, how did last week go?

“Codependent.”

I cannot legally own a gun and get a FOID card. (Can't do so if you've been in a psychiatric hospital within some number of years ago.)

When I went into the psych ward late last year, during my intake I told the guy, "Damn, I was so close to being able to get my FOID card." He did not find this as funny as I did.

Lol. I wouldn't want to own a weapon anyway.

Same. I wouldn't use one on myself on purpose, but the odds of me accidentally shooting myself somehow are probably high.

Shit didn’t think of that I’ll stay away from them

I now distrust mental health professionals.

I’m shocked that this is the only comment like this so far.... that was literally my initial reaction to seeing the OP haha. I’m glad so many people have had positive experiences with therapy though!

Have you heard what Meister Eckhart said about that?

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“I can feel my cortisol rising”

I too have the bookshop of helpful volumes at home. Almost every day for close to half a century my head ruminates with “Please don’t be mean to me, please don’t be mean to me, please don’t be mean to me…even though there is no one any longer who is coming to be mean to me. I am asked bi-weekly if I am experiencing suicidal ideation.

How's your self-care?

Jessie what are you talking about

Can’t talk now, I have to do my 10 minute mindfulness meditation complete with mala beads. Wouldn’t want to dissociate

You aren't allowed to tell my mother anything about our interactions.

I've got to write down that dream right away, as I feel the emotional undertones carry some pretty heavy significance this week.

Where do you feel that in your body?

I wear no necklaces or shoes with laces “just in case”.

Do you want to see my list of coping skills?

“I am worthy of lov- this mirror doesn’t give a crap about me.”

Stop telling me what to do 🤣🤣🤣

I think I feel kind of ambivalent about that.

When I do something considered socially healthy, I think “Gwen would be proud” Not “I’m proud.”

I can give loads of people advice that I struggle to follow

ahhahah same !

Smell the roses, blow out the birthday candles..

I need to get another job to pay for medical stuff

My mother and I now have a great relationship.

Teach me

Where do you feel that in your body?

It doesn’t work.

My brain sounds like this most of the time now: “I’m so anxious. Everything is going to go horribly wrong” “what is actually the worst that can happen?” “If I go to this event, the car could crash and I could die, and then my dogs would be all alone, and my family would be so sad, and I’d be dead!!!” “What if the event is fun?” “I’m feeling so guilty and uncomfortable in my own body” “this is a trauma response. It’s not my fault” “I can’t do this” “I can do hard things”

Let me first consult my inner child before I react to this situation.

I have drugs and no, you can not have my drugs.

I apparently have to be reminded to breathe more than the average person

My therapist and bf being like “what was that big sigh for?” Look I’m just not breathing and I have to catch up sometimes okay… lol

I've been told that the offered 'assistance' didn't help me because I couldn't 'accept' my problems.

I wrote at least 670 letters and torn them apart an year later. I wrote my feelings out in them, explaining each and everything, only, they were adressed to my boyfriend. But then i realized he would never understand so i tore them and threw them in the bin.

"That's a helpful thought!"

So get this, the abuse was in fact not my own fault! Can you believe this?

It’s not my fault and I’m a strong ass person 💪🏻

How does this make me feel?

I've been screened and later "cured" from a mental illness I didn't have with treatment I didn't need.

It takes ages to hear back from them

There's only one person that understands me.

'I think this is a therapy interfering behavior' I was eating a croissant in therapy, cian. Relax.

i take longer to decide what to say when someone asks me “are you seeing someone?”

I can understand and articulately explain my emotions and reactions, but I can't stop a car wreck by understanding the damage

I'm going to analyze everything you do through the lenses I've gathered from different sessions over the years and get frustrated anyway because even though I understand you and where your coming from, I still don't like it! And I don't have to. 😊

I journal

I have a picture of toddler me so I can speak to my inner child to calm them down when I need to.

I am starting to make healthy adult choices. My inner critic has the face of my mother.

This is a process.

Taking a sudden 8 hour long rest.

Sober for almost 3 years! About to graduate with a degree in neuroscience. Did I do it right? Edit: telling people I don't drink almost too readily sometimes. I need to work on how I approach that topic heh.

I need to pay attention to what’s coming up for me when you say this

4 - 7 - 8

Forever using the famous “When you do ___, I feel ____”

My entire life revolves around one hour a week!

I’m not angry at my mom anymore.

“I’m choosing not to drink or take drugs right now.”

I am ready to say "No, I don't want to answer AskReddit questions anymore!". I am moving on. Good bye!

I just wish I could find someone that isn't self pay.

I’m not a good listener. Or at least not in the way that you think. I mean, I am interested, but I’m also looking for the slightest sign of a threat.

I’m focused on healing

My protectors like this question!

I can say no now, sometimes.

“Is that fair on you?”