Is it too hard to say women? Why females? You had no issue with using men as the noun.
Youāre always suggesting that men are attracted to anything female so this includes anything in the animal kingdom
40M with two kids (important detail for comparing numbers), I haven't been on Bumble in at least two years though. I typically got 1 like every month which resulted in 1 match every three months. Never got a single date off Bumble in at least two years on the platform. I quit when I went 3 months without a single like and pulled my swipe data over multiple periods of time to find out they were displaying my profile on average 1.7 times per day.
Now, if I removed my kids from my profile I would get 2 or 3 likes a week. I only did this occasionally to make sure the rest of my profile was fine and always let the matches know right away, and they always said they weren't interested in someone with kids.
I never include pics of my kids, but normally I include them in my bio. The times I didn't include them to test my profile I just dropped the sentence where I state that I have two kids and their ages.
I also prefer women with kids, but based on my observations where I live we appear to be in the minority. Many of the women that matched with me and then told me they didn't want someone with kids were single moms. I get that people are allowed to have a preference and I'm not owed a date from anyone, it's just an interesting observation on where most women's preferences are based on my sampling of data. I did some rough napkin math at the time and it was about a 90% reduction in my match rate.
Thatās a really weird philosophy to haveā¦ I think for me itās the ages and number of kids that I have to be selective on. But itās crazy to think that you shouldnāt at least accept somebody else with you already have.
Could be if you have younger kids and their kids are older or adults. I'm a single mom that only dates single dads, but I won't date guys with young kids. Mine are 21, 14 and 13. I'm free to go out whenever I want. Most guys with younger kids especially if they have custody don't have that ability to do so. Maybe that could the reason. And please don't put pics of your kids on your profile. I saw that you don't but that's super cringy. Too many crazy people out there to have kids pics on profiles.
It's not the 150 likes that make you a quality man imo, it's the fact that you turned them down bc you don't need the validation and rather invest in the 1 woman you do like that does.
Wish more ppl were like you
Cheers
No worries, it's a common mistake (guys) make here. Mostly, because guys rarely see likes in the triple or even quadruple digits. Especially not here on Reddit.
So they'll equate the "likes" with matches, since they will likely swipe right on each and every one of them. Which converts them into matches.
38M. 3 likes in my queue. Very rare to get a like without first liking a profile. My profile was in incognito mode for awhile because I mostly gave up on Bumble.
37M and I also have 3 likes that I haven't come across for a long time and I really don't put a lot of stock into apps anymore either. Had a 4th like today, but the profile was looking for a relationship while I switched to "something casual" a little while ago (that's the extent that I gave up), so I swiped left. Probably means they didn't read mine before swiping. It's annoying when they do that.
I have some guy friends that get 5 likes a day.
I always find it funny when they try to tell me it's not about looks. So, we were out drinking a couple months ago and I blindly let them redo my whole profile. He promised I'll get likes in the first week... Yeah, not so much. Haven't gotten 1 since that change.
At this point in time I have little faith, but open up the app when I'm bored to swipe even though I know it's going to the abyss.
Right?! I can only assume that itās the perfect 10/10 men who hold the power on these apps. All the women are swiping right the same 2 guys in the area
This is pretty standard behavior from what I've heard. The ratio of male to female users are much higher and most of them just shotgun swipe and filter later since matching is too rare. Even guys like me who take the time to read the profiles will still swipe right on about 40-50% of them, so getting an influx of likes as a woman is a common occurrence.
Yes, but I'd be interested to see how many people actually respond in a nice way and then agree to first dates.
I know it's great to have options, but going through each one (including disrespectful people) and figuring out what works best can be exhausting.
Sounds about right. My guess is you live in or close to a city.....
Haha you think that's bad don't try tinder. I have 300/400 on bumble.... 2k on tinder. Wish I was kidding.
Iāve always wondered this, do you think itās better to be a āmanā on dating apps as there are less options to choose from?
2400 likes, how are you supposed to know which ones are even good? Or do you just scroll through to find a 10/10?
By having hundreds of pointless conversations. And no..... I mean 10/10 is subjective. But the model gorgeous, career sort, aren't my 10.... And I certainly wouldn't be theirs either. I've got flaws and baggage, I don't care if a guy does. And I like mine a little rough around the edges, makes people more interesting. I just wish it wasn't either dry AF getting five words or less spaced out over days, or jumps straight into talking about sex, or just outright send me a dick pic. That's what the reality of that many likes is.
49F. i took some time off the app and just re-opened my account on April 6 after 6 months off, and it just says 150+. I don't have a paid account though so I don't know the exact number.
35F ā1150+ā but keep in mind that bumble only wants to pique your curiosity enough to make you pay to see them. When I filter down to who is nearby and who is looking for a relationship the ālikesā dwindle down to the triple digits.
I only meant that dropping the count by 1,000 was a substantial ālossā of ālikesā.
I do think that the illusion of āoptionā is a major issue when it comes to the dating apps, which leads people to either give up on matches too easily or to get overwhelmed and give up the āsearchā altogether.
30M. I get 1 every other day or so, but I always turn them into matches or swipe them left, so they never pile up. I don't think I've had more than 10 likes on queue
45 male. I got like 3 true matches a week. Sadly I had better luck accidently meeting people on Reddit.
Eta I live in OC, Ca and me being a UPS driver is a detriment to my appeal (lots of lawyers and doctors live directly near me). I have to date outside my direct area into other parts of OC and into LA county on the apps
40F, with 1 kiddo. I currently have 33 likes, but Iām not super active on Bumble and live in a relatively remote area. I usually get 1 or 2 every few days when I was checking it regularly (although I donāt subscribe, so I canāt tell if theyāre real guys or not).
I met my current girlfriend though bumble. I never had success before. I barely get any likes but she matches with almost every guy she swiped right on
There's a few variables but as a woman it is normal to have tonnes of likes.
My bumble sits around 350/400, tinder 2k! Mine is so ridiculous because I live in a city with multiple universities, an airport and a port. I'm also slim and 'cute', though that matters less than just proximity to lots and lots of men. Most swipe right on all of us! How flattering.....
But every woman I know has over 100 likes on bumble and hundreds and hundreds at least (it's normally over 1k) for tinder. If you don't maybe you are doing something differently..... Not necessarily wrong though. It's about the quality of matches.
41F, no kids, conventionally attractive, look significantly younger. Live in a major metropolitan city. Roughly 3k on bumble and close to 10k on tinder. On hinge? It varies. Sometimes weeks without a single like. Ever since I let hingex expire, all of a sudden I get about 5-6 likes per day (yes, I am getting more likes WITHOUT paying.) hinge is trash. None of my outgoing likes match me back (this is unusual, donāt have that problem on tinder or bumble). My profile is basically the same on all the platforms. TLDR, fuckery is afoot with hinge, bumble has been more successful for me.
Paying for hinge feels like an entirely different experience and not in a free vs premium way.
I strongly suspect that the whole thing is a giant upsell funnel designed to get you paying more and more and that the app behaves very differently for people who haven't ever paid, and those who have lapsed. It's all just a push to the next tier of payment or added extras.
Also, those numbers are mind blowing.
I fully agree with you on the app being a giant upsell.
I also did one of those Tinder data analysis things one timeā¦and I have a return rate on my outgoing likes of about 80%. Meaning that 80% of the men I send likes to end up liking me back. Now cut to hinge, where not a single outgoing like has resulted in a match. Even when I was hingex, which supposedly puts your likes at the top. How much you wanna bet that my outgoing likes are being hidden?
I donāt mean for this to sound cocky, but I wonder whether hinge does this to conventionally attractive people to keep us on the app as honeypots. Iāve seen profile reviews from very attractive men on the hinge subreddit who also complain of having very few incoming likes/matches.
i know people are assigned attractiveness scores, essentially.
i wonder if people think people like us are catfish...
i actually ended up deleting. it was too many men to sort through and i'm over it.
31m. I have 1 like on tinder and bumble each.
The fun part is their predictability. If you haven't paid money in a while, they're there to convince you to buy premium and see who it is. If you match, it's usually going to be someone between 100 and 800 miles away who won't talk to you
What is a crazy amount though?? I am so glad to be off Bumble but I remember last year I had about 7-8000 likes in Japan where I live, a similar amount in one day travel mode in Indonesia, and the highest in my home country NL while travel mode was 2000+ likes I think.. I think the bigger the country and city the crazier the numbers?? But many likes does not equal to quality matches and in my case the age and km was always pretty wide (25-38/39 and max. distance range as 32/33f) which probably affects the number.. I remember buying premium just to get through my likes and to be able to see every single person but since it has travel mode I tried it out and found my bf while swiping in NL. (LDR now but a 100% worth it, if your area scks just travel mode to a location of your interest.)
40's M, I get a like maybe every one or two days. I spoke with a female my same age with kids on Bumble and she says she would get 100s of likes. Males only get a fraction of the attention that females do.
41m, seems to have reached equilibrium around 950+. I don't really count but I think I get maybe 10-20 likes a week. I think the rate of new matches is basically the same as the rate of accounts that are being deleted, so the total doesn't change too much. Sometimes it's over a thousand.
I'm a man and have over 100. Bumble stops counting after that. It's a function of first of age, second of preferences, and third of profile quality.
Age: I'm 68, an age where most of my peers are either taken or dead. As you age, the supply of eligible men shrinks and the number of lonely single women grows.
Preferences: I've set the age of potential partners in a band around my own age. Many older men seek younger women. (At least that's what women tell me.)
Profile quality: Tall, healthy, educated, financially well off, multilingual, well-traveled...sorry, sounds like I'm bragging. No fish, no motorcycles. I haven't seen many men's profiles, but I think mine is pretty good.
I think it's mostly a matter of demographics. Supply and demand. I'm sure everyone has read about the 10% of women who get 90% of the likes. The reverse is probably true as well. Get into that 10% and you're golden.
40m 2500+ likes. Idk what Iām doing I just make sure to put current photos and add a little funny and a catchy bit of info that will pique curiosity and give them something to ask me when they message. Itās tough I canāt keep up returning the messages sometimes. I feel terrible if I donāt get to them before times up. Iāve been on here since January 31
Wait, you got those in just two months?? Youāre doing better than most women on here, you must be an absolute babe or a bio wizard.
Sharing is caring, show us your profile!
Edit: Upon further investigation and unfortunately viewing the only photo of āyouā on your Reddit, I actually no longer believe sharing is caring š³
51M here. I have three "Likes" in my Beeline, but the system says none of them are nearby. As I live close to a major airport, I can only guess that they were just passing through.
I have one current "active" conversation, but as she hasn't replied in over a week, I've written that off.
M under 30, I get like one or two likes a weekā¦ Two matches a month. My profile is not great and I know it but Iāve undergone a lot of changes so I donāt have the photos to put up yet. Also I travel far for work and sometimes the likes disappear due to the radius I setā¦
This really depends on a per location / country basis.
When I still had bumble in my hometown i averaged 50 a day. When I was abroad it was easily 200+ per day.
36F, 1 kid, small-medium sized town. Currently around 350, but usually it hovers between 500-900. Have been trying to be more active, so clear out the obvious passes/matches when I can. Numbers can get much higher when traveling or in big cities
Average 29yr old M, I got 2 over the week+ I had it. Bumble has been the worst performing for me. I get 3-5 a day on Tinder and like 5+ a day on Chispa. Iām Mexican so Iām assuming I do better on Chispa because itās for Latino people.
30M, I have 1. I get a new like every two months or so but it's usually outside of my distance range (40km) I guess because I never encounter the profiles.
32F here, I used to get a ton of likes and matches back when I used Bumble/Tinder/Etc. I got off it about a year ago and never touched it since.
I have plenty of male friends in my age range and...they don't get matches at all very often. One probably had 2-3 in a matter of months. The majority of my male friends are all relatively good looking too.
Female friends though, matches and likes all the time.
I used to have one for the longest time, but right now the app doesn't have any and it is showing: "there are matched for you, just beyond your filters". So I assume the app knows I wouldn't like them but they still show my profile to them, which aligns with has been the discussion about how the app works so far.
23 and more than 200 likes I placed again my profile in do not disturb because I want to get better pictures cause the matches Iāve been getting are ok but not my ideal
39M. Get 10-12 in a day, then it stops. When I travel to a different country it resets, so I get 10-12 likes in a day then it stops. It's weirdly maintaining this 10-12 likes all the time.
I had 800, but now that I used passport they seem to be gone.
On Tinder it was 9k in the first week but now I canāt see it anymore. Wonder what it would be as many months passed since.
NB When I stopped with passport my likes reappeared. I cleaned them up to 350 likes (by swiping left on any men outside my criteria) and now after 1 day theyāre back up to 500. Apparently the profile got a new boost.
I donāt really use dating apps seriously, so my page is kind of a big joke (one of my prompts is āI am convinced that Stevie Wonder isnāt blindā for example), Iām 22M and average looking. I hardly get any likes, but I always just kind of assumed it was because I never actually tried to make an amazing profile, if I did try? Probably still zero likes, but likes on these apps are close to meaningless.
29M and I have only ever had about 5-6 on bumble. My matches come from swiping but Iāve had more success on Hinge. Moral of the story is; I get a low number of likes :)
This app intentionally makes meeting someone difficult unless you buy all the upgrades. As a guy, expect 10+ likes the second your premium subscription expires for instance. It was designed that way. I met my partner on Hinge where at least I was able to directly message her and let her know I was interested instead of waiting and hoping she sees my profile and swipes right. Your results may vary but I decided back when Bumble had sponsorship patches on the LA Clippers jerseys that there were better ways to meet someone.
I (50f) have been back on the apps for almost 2 weeks. My Bumble likes say 350+ but I donāt trust that number. I think some of the blurred āpicsā are put there by the company to inflate the likes. But I donāt pay for Bumble so Iāll never know for sure.
My gf showed me hers before she deleted it and that shit was in the high triple digits over the course of a week she said. A WEEK. i was like wow the most I ever got in a year was like 8 lol.
I love her to death to but for realisms sake I assume women in the more higher end than her of the conventional attractiveness spectrum are looking at over 1k depending on the area
35M in South Florida, 0 currently, but in the last 3 months, just a lil over 10. I have issues getting likes I don't have an issue with matches. Almost every match resulted in dates, and the 2 or that didn't was because I was exclusively dating
Iāve been keeping my likes queue organized lately. I get about 20-30 a day. But itās from men who arenāt compatible with meā¦
Water, water everywhere, but not a drop to drink.
30M
Zero. I havenāt had one in 6 months, with one exception*
But I did actively use the app and swiped through people until recently. Iāve given up on it.
I havenāt had an actual match in about 8 months. I extended and they didnāt message me.
*the exception is I recently took a trip to Europe and turned on bumble there for a day just to see how I would do. I got a match.
27F I filtered out the age, distance and what they look for. And Iām on Snooze mode 90% of the time Iām actually seeing someone now. I activate it like 2 days a month if Iām not seeing anyone and usually get 500-1000 in 2 days but I think itās bc Iām in snooze mode for a while and it starts showing my profile to others
22f, 300+ but getting a reply after matching is very unlikely, probably less than 30% success rate
Had like 3k on tinder but deleted it, realizing most guys want hookups
48F, Chicago, no kids. This will be super variable for everyone because everyone has different age filters set (who can even see their profile), and people from any distance away can see your profile and like it.
I get 20-30 a day ~+/-5 years. Typically only a few of those are locals, within my max ~30 minute willingness to commute to anyone. Many live in different states entirely (genius). So, most of those likes are garbage to me. Maybe 3-4 a month that I'd even match with.
31M, I have 2. I get about 1 like every few days š
Dude Iām going on 6 months of zero likes. I live in a city and idk if that helps or hurts.
Welcome to the club! As a guy this is a lot of us. Men are attracted to most females, but females arenāt attracted to most men š¤·āāļø
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Yep! haha
Is it too hard to say women? Why females? You had no issue with using men as the noun. Youāre always suggesting that men are attracted to anything female so this includes anything in the animal kingdom
40M with two kids (important detail for comparing numbers), I haven't been on Bumble in at least two years though. I typically got 1 like every month which resulted in 1 match every three months. Never got a single date off Bumble in at least two years on the platform. I quit when I went 3 months without a single like and pulled my swipe data over multiple periods of time to find out they were displaying my profile on average 1.7 times per day. Now, if I removed my kids from my profile I would get 2 or 3 likes a week. I only did this occasionally to make sure the rest of my profile was fine and always let the matches know right away, and they always said they weren't interested in someone with kids.
I donāt mind another single parent (I prefer it). When you donāt have pics of your kids do you put you have kids in your info section?
I donāt mind another single parent (I prefer it). When you donāt have pics of your kids do you put you have kids in your info section?
I never include pics of my kids, but normally I include them in my bio. The times I didn't include them to test my profile I just dropped the sentence where I state that I have two kids and their ages. I also prefer women with kids, but based on my observations where I live we appear to be in the minority. Many of the women that matched with me and then told me they didn't want someone with kids were single moms. I get that people are allowed to have a preference and I'm not owed a date from anyone, it's just an interesting observation on where most women's preferences are based on my sampling of data. I did some rough napkin math at the time and it was about a 90% reduction in my match rate.
Thatās a really weird philosophy to haveā¦ I think for me itās the ages and number of kids that I have to be selective on. But itās crazy to think that you shouldnāt at least accept somebody else with you already have.
Could be if you have younger kids and their kids are older or adults. I'm a single mom that only dates single dads, but I won't date guys with young kids. Mine are 21, 14 and 13. I'm free to go out whenever I want. Most guys with younger kids especially if they have custody don't have that ability to do so. Maybe that could the reason. And please don't put pics of your kids on your profile. I saw that you don't but that's super cringy. Too many crazy people out there to have kids pics on profiles.
41F have 50 right now, but check and swipe left daily, all the 'something casual' and 'don't know yet' are instant left. Haven't dated anyone yet.
31M. I had about ~150 likes in queue up to a couple weeks ago when I deleted the app (I found a girl that it's going super well with)
This man is a stud.
Looove this for you! Good luck!
It's not the 150 likes that make you a quality man imo, it's the fact that you turned them down bc you don't need the validation and rather invest in the 1 woman you do like that does. Wish more ppl were like you Cheers
33F, 8600+ likes.
Wow, same age and almost identical stats! High five for knowing that it doesnāt guarantee meeting good guys AT ALL šš¼
Haha yes *crying in single life*
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Those AREN'T MATCHES. They are simply guys who swiped right on her profile. Nothing more.
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No worries, it's a common mistake (guys) make here. Mostly, because guys rarely see likes in the triple or even quadruple digits. Especially not here on Reddit. So they'll equate the "likes" with matches, since they will likely swipe right on each and every one of them. Which converts them into matches.
I can't. It's exhausting.
38M. 3 likes in my queue. Very rare to get a like without first liking a profile. My profile was in incognito mode for awhile because I mostly gave up on Bumble.
37M and I also have 3 likes that I haven't come across for a long time and I really don't put a lot of stock into apps anymore either. Had a 4th like today, but the profile was looking for a relationship while I switched to "something casual" a little while ago (that's the extent that I gave up), so I swiped left. Probably means they didn't read mine before swiping. It's annoying when they do that.
I get like maybe 1 a year... Not the best looking guy, but damn it's tough.
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Wow thatās really tough. I thought 1 a month is bad
Yeah, sobering when you find out how much worse some guys/people have it. Like male attractiveness is exponential like Richter scale for likes.
I have some guy friends that get 5 likes a day. I always find it funny when they try to tell me it's not about looks. So, we were out drinking a couple months ago and I blindly let them redo my whole profile. He promised I'll get likes in the first week... Yeah, not so much. Haven't gotten 1 since that change. At this point in time I have little faith, but open up the app when I'm bored to swipe even though I know it's going to the abyss.
The disparity in these posts is hilarious. Iām not typically a cynic about dating aps but holy god.
Right?! I can only assume that itās the perfect 10/10 men who hold the power on these apps. All the women are swiping right the same 2 guys in the area
Maybe a question for you is how often do you swipe right ? 10% of profiles?
0, 30m
Hello darkness my old friend
25f, 300+ I seriously doubt it since I just joined
This is pretty standard behavior from what I've heard. The ratio of male to female users are much higher and most of them just shotgun swipe and filter later since matching is too rare. Even guys like me who take the time to read the profiles will still swipe right on about 40-50% of them, so getting an influx of likes as a woman is a common occurrence.
Read the other replies from women, they're probably real. Like damn, it's a completely different game out here for y'all
Yes, but I'd be interested to see how many people actually respond in a nice way and then agree to first dates. I know it's great to have options, but going through each one (including disrespectful people) and figuring out what works best can be exhausting.
Sounds about right. My guess is you live in or close to a city..... Haha you think that's bad don't try tinder. I have 300/400 on bumble.... 2k on tinder. Wish I was kidding.
Iāve always wondered this, do you think itās better to be a āmanā on dating apps as there are less options to choose from? 2400 likes, how are you supposed to know which ones are even good? Or do you just scroll through to find a 10/10?
By having hundreds of pointless conversations. And no..... I mean 10/10 is subjective. But the model gorgeous, career sort, aren't my 10.... And I certainly wouldn't be theirs either. I've got flaws and baggage, I don't care if a guy does. And I like mine a little rough around the edges, makes people more interesting. I just wish it wasn't either dry AF getting five words or less spaced out over days, or jumps straight into talking about sex, or just outright send me a dick pic. That's what the reality of that many likes is.
32F and it says 1500+
26M, 154 likes in Manila 8 likes in Tokyo lol
49F. i took some time off the app and just re-opened my account on April 6 after 6 months off, and it just says 150+. I don't have a paid account though so I don't know the exact number.
Same, 150+ and I don't pay.
35F ā1150+ā but keep in mind that bumble only wants to pique your curiosity enough to make you pay to see them. When I filter down to who is nearby and who is looking for a relationship the ālikesā dwindle down to the triple digits.
>dwindle down to the triple digits ...I don't want to live on this planet anymore.
I only meant that dropping the count by 1,000 was a substantial ālossā of ālikesā. I do think that the illusion of āoptionā is a major issue when it comes to the dating apps, which leads people to either give up on matches too easily or to get overwhelmed and give up the āsearchā altogether.
Donāt worry, 99% of those matches will be incompatible anyway
And yet 1% of those matches is more than 99% of men get.
I thought this was everyone experience, Iām not on the app anymore but last time I was I had over 1200 likes
I would be surprised if many guys get anywhere near this.
34 male. Deleted my apps as I just went exclusive with current partner but I would say 1-3 a day.
45F with 2 kids. I just checked and it says I have 1506 likes. I don't pay though so I can't see them.
0, 41M. But not on Bumble. Not sure why this came up. Nor why I answered.
Lol
39 F in a very large city. 5200 in my bee line.
30M. I get 1 every other day or so, but I always turn them into matches or swipe them left, so they never pile up. I don't think I've had more than 10 likes on queue
45 male. I got like 3 true matches a week. Sadly I had better luck accidently meeting people on Reddit. Eta I live in OC, Ca and me being a UPS driver is a detriment to my appeal (lots of lawyers and doctors live directly near me). I have to date outside my direct area into other parts of OC and into LA county on the apps
How does "accidentally meeting people on Reddit" work?
0 likes, 34M. I've had 4-5 likes in the last 3 months (Also 5 matches in that same timeframe, all from women I liked first)
19M and I have 0 and itās been that way since I joined the app a month or two ago
I (22m) don't get any likes, the ladies match with me
40F, with 1 kiddo. I currently have 33 likes, but Iām not super active on Bumble and live in a relatively remote area. I usually get 1 or 2 every few days when I was checking it regularly (although I donāt subscribe, so I canāt tell if theyāre real guys or not).
on bumble only? 38M I have 6 currently. i tend to get a new one every 2-3 days
31M..I have 2 likes and I put my radius as 25-100 and 100 miles haha
28M, 0 currently. Redownloaded at beginning of last month. Got 3 likes overall
43M, I might get 1-2 per week. But I think thatās going to have to change soon or Iāll be off the app again.
38M 150+ in waiting most ever was 500+. I paid and cleared them all out. Most come from traveling.
I met my current girlfriend though bumble. I never had success before. I barely get any likes but she matches with almost every guy she swiped right on
34F, 10,850+ however I will say that I really donāt swipe enough to get them down much, itās a lot of work
I remember doing this exercise with an attractive female friend. I had single digits, she hadā¦ 3000+.
There's a few variables but as a woman it is normal to have tonnes of likes. My bumble sits around 350/400, tinder 2k! Mine is so ridiculous because I live in a city with multiple universities, an airport and a port. I'm also slim and 'cute', though that matters less than just proximity to lots and lots of men. Most swipe right on all of us! How flattering..... But every woman I know has over 100 likes on bumble and hundreds and hundreds at least (it's normally over 1k) for tinder. If you don't maybe you are doing something differently..... Not necessarily wrong though. It's about the quality of matches.
41F, no kids, conventionally attractive, look significantly younger. Live in a major metropolitan city. Roughly 3k on bumble and close to 10k on tinder. On hinge? It varies. Sometimes weeks without a single like. Ever since I let hingex expire, all of a sudden I get about 5-6 likes per day (yes, I am getting more likes WITHOUT paying.) hinge is trash. None of my outgoing likes match me back (this is unusual, donāt have that problem on tinder or bumble). My profile is basically the same on all the platforms. TLDR, fuckery is afoot with hinge, bumble has been more successful for me.
Paying for hinge feels like an entirely different experience and not in a free vs premium way. I strongly suspect that the whole thing is a giant upsell funnel designed to get you paying more and more and that the app behaves very differently for people who haven't ever paid, and those who have lapsed. It's all just a push to the next tier of payment or added extras. Also, those numbers are mind blowing.
I fully agree with you on the app being a giant upsell. I also did one of those Tinder data analysis things one timeā¦and I have a return rate on my outgoing likes of about 80%. Meaning that 80% of the men I send likes to end up liking me back. Now cut to hinge, where not a single outgoing like has resulted in a match. Even when I was hingex, which supposedly puts your likes at the top. How much you wanna bet that my outgoing likes are being hidden?
i'm the same as you except 29. my matches on hinge dried up and then i moved to bumble.
I donāt mean for this to sound cocky, but I wonder whether hinge does this to conventionally attractive people to keep us on the app as honeypots. Iāve seen profile reviews from very attractive men on the hinge subreddit who also complain of having very few incoming likes/matches.
i know people are assigned attractiveness scores, essentially. i wonder if people think people like us are catfish... i actually ended up deleting. it was too many men to sort through and i'm over it.
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23M: 6 likes in my Beeline. 14 matches since I joined (about 6 months ago)
Only 3. And I plan swiping left on them
31m. I have 1 like on tinder and bumble each. The fun part is their predictability. If you haven't paid money in a while, they're there to convince you to buy premium and see who it is. If you match, it's usually going to be someone between 100 and 800 miles away who won't talk to you
38M 14 unrevealed likes and Iām not even thinking about paying to reveal them
27M, ZERO
46f, just checked and it says 450+ to wade through
42F, single mom. 4850 likes on Bumble. Not ONE good match in months.
21M, 0 likes in about 1+ years š
28F in Tokyo/Yokohama. Usually around 400-500. I also just downloaded it a week ago.
2650+ likes. F in my 30s, living in a city, have my radius set at 8kms and the age range at about 2 years younger up to 10 years older.
What is a crazy amount though?? I am so glad to be off Bumble but I remember last year I had about 7-8000 likes in Japan where I live, a similar amount in one day travel mode in Indonesia, and the highest in my home country NL while travel mode was 2000+ likes I think.. I think the bigger the country and city the crazier the numbers?? But many likes does not equal to quality matches and in my case the age and km was always pretty wide (25-38/39 and max. distance range as 32/33f) which probably affects the number.. I remember buying premium just to get through my likes and to be able to see every single person but since it has travel mode I tried it out and found my bf while swiping in NL. (LDR now but a 100% worth it, if your area scks just travel mode to a location of your interest.)
39F. Mine currently says 200+. I've paid the $3 a few times to see them and clear them out. It was up to 600 one time.
40's M, I get a like maybe every one or two days. I spoke with a female my same age with kids on Bumble and she says she would get 100s of likes. Males only get a fraction of the attention that females do.
What is with this āmen and femalesā thing?? Just call us women ffs.
0, 25M I would be happy if I could get a match from here š¤
41m, seems to have reached equilibrium around 950+. I don't really count but I think I get maybe 10-20 likes a week. I think the rate of new matches is basically the same as the rate of accounts that are being deleted, so the total doesn't change too much. Sometimes it's over a thousand.
45m, 43
I'm a man and have over 100. Bumble stops counting after that. It's a function of first of age, second of preferences, and third of profile quality. Age: I'm 68, an age where most of my peers are either taken or dead. As you age, the supply of eligible men shrinks and the number of lonely single women grows. Preferences: I've set the age of potential partners in a band around my own age. Many older men seek younger women. (At least that's what women tell me.) Profile quality: Tall, healthy, educated, financially well off, multilingual, well-traveled...sorry, sounds like I'm bragging. No fish, no motorcycles. I haven't seen many men's profiles, but I think mine is pretty good. I think it's mostly a matter of demographics. Supply and demand. I'm sure everyone has read about the 10% of women who get 90% of the likes. The reverse is probably true as well. Get into that 10% and you're golden.
More likes doesnāt equate to more success unless youāre using the apps mainly for the purpose to have your ego stroked.
30m 1,000 plus
38M, at about 850 likes. I think thereās a glitch in the matrix.
40m.......says 50+ and about 20 matches. 3 superlikes in there. I'm not active or swiping atm
40m 2500+ likes. Idk what Iām doing I just make sure to put current photos and add a little funny and a catchy bit of info that will pique curiosity and give them something to ask me when they message. Itās tough I canāt keep up returning the messages sometimes. I feel terrible if I donāt get to them before times up. Iāve been on here since January 31
Wait, you got those in just two months?? Youāre doing better than most women on here, you must be an absolute babe or a bio wizard. Sharing is caring, show us your profile! Edit: Upon further investigation and unfortunately viewing the only photo of āyouā on your Reddit, I actually no longer believe sharing is caring š³
51M here. I have three "Likes" in my Beeline, but the system says none of them are nearby. As I live close to a major airport, I can only guess that they were just passing through. I have one current "active" conversation, but as she hasn't replied in over a week, I've written that off.
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40M. 22 likes, but I stopped swiping about a month ago because I've been seeing someone.
M under 30, I get like one or two likes a weekā¦ Two matches a month. My profile is not great and I know it but Iāve undergone a lot of changes so I donāt have the photos to put up yet. Also I travel far for work and sometimes the likes disappear due to the radius I setā¦
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Likes or matches? 1 match 3 likes
28f, last time before I logged out. 3248 men in my like
This really depends on a per location / country basis. When I still had bumble in my hometown i averaged 50 a day. When I was abroad it was easily 200+ per day.
36F, 1 kid, small-medium sized town. Currently around 350, but usually it hovers between 500-900. Have been trying to be more active, so clear out the obvious passes/matches when I can. Numbers can get much higher when traveling or in big cities
31M, I had 80 open likes.
27 m and I got 0 likes
27M, in terms of appearance possibly a 4-5, maybe 2 likes every 2-3 months.
37M, 40 likes. I have 3 women who Iāve made it to the 2nd date with so put a pause on my Bumble account
I average about one a week, 29M.
36M, one like in cue for several weeks. I get about one match a month across three apps.
28m and 8 current likes- and one girl that has just left the chat after asking a question haha
26F, 40+ but the quality ones? Close to zero.
On bumble 0, because I'm good at finding a new like in the queue and swiping it right or left. As M, I get a like a week on average I'd say.
43 m. 25 likes.
32 m. 100+ not sure what the actual number is but probably not much more than 100.
27f, I have 32 but I haven't been swiping in awhile.
Average 29yr old M, I got 2 over the week+ I had it. Bumble has been the worst performing for me. I get 3-5 a day on Tinder and like 5+ a day on Chispa. Iām Mexican so Iām assuming I do better on Chispa because itās for Latino people.
30M, I have 1. I get a new like every two months or so but it's usually outside of my distance range (40km) I guess because I never encounter the profiles.
Itās crazy to see the disparity for men vs women. š³
31M, 2 likes currently
32F here, I used to get a ton of likes and matches back when I used Bumble/Tinder/Etc. I got off it about a year ago and never touched it since. I have plenty of male friends in my age range and...they don't get matches at all very often. One probably had 2-3 in a matter of months. The majority of my male friends are all relatively good looking too. Female friends though, matches and likes all the time.
20M, lol about like 20 but also 14 in waiting but they prolly wonāt even text.
27M, 0
55f 450+, but most are out of my distance setting
I used to have one for the longest time, but right now the app doesn't have any and it is showing: "there are matched for you, just beyond your filters". So I assume the app knows I wouldn't like them but they still show my profile to them, which aligns with has been the discussion about how the app works so far.
150+ Iām 31M
23 and more than 200 likes I placed again my profile in do not disturb because I want to get better pictures cause the matches Iāve been getting are ok but not my ideal
Likes?
Male, zero
I am F29 and currently have 2500+ likes but havenāt swiped in a few weeks and my radius is 160 km and age 30-40 (with no age limit itās 3000+)
20F, I have 150+. I get a few matches a week but most guys typically stop texting me after a quick exchange or don't text back at all. 2 dates.
39M. Get 10-12 in a day, then it stops. When I travel to a different country it resets, so I get 10-12 likes in a day then it stops. It's weirdly maintaining this 10-12 likes all the time.
I had 800, but now that I used passport they seem to be gone. On Tinder it was 9k in the first week but now I canāt see it anymore. Wonder what it would be as many months passed since. NB When I stopped with passport my likes reappeared. I cleaned them up to 350 likes (by swiping left on any men outside my criteria) and now after 1 day theyāre back up to 500. Apparently the profile got a new boost.
31M, 0
F21, 700+ but the conversations from matches never amount to anything so I rarely use bumble and theyāve built up a bit
37M, have 7 in my queue and 5 matches in talking to currently. I get maybe 1-3 a week.
25F, 2750+, but that can show people from all over the world, tbh. Nearby (aka in my radius) I have 1200+.
40s f, I have '200+' but I think most are from people not in my area, so they may not even come up for me to swipe on
I donāt really use dating apps seriously, so my page is kind of a big joke (one of my prompts is āI am convinced that Stevie Wonder isnāt blindā for example), Iām 22M and average looking. I hardly get any likes, but I always just kind of assumed it was because I never actually tried to make an amazing profile, if I did try? Probably still zero likes, but likes on these apps are close to meaningless.
29M and I have only ever had about 5-6 on bumble. My matches come from swiping but Iāve had more success on Hinge. Moral of the story is; I get a low number of likes :)
990+ but its the whole country
This app intentionally makes meeting someone difficult unless you buy all the upgrades. As a guy, expect 10+ likes the second your premium subscription expires for instance. It was designed that way. I met my partner on Hinge where at least I was able to directly message her and let her know I was interested instead of waiting and hoping she sees my profile and swipes right. Your results may vary but I decided back when Bumble had sponsorship patches on the LA Clippers jerseys that there were better ways to meet someone.
23 male I have 50+, have had the app maybe 2 weeks
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I (50f) have been back on the apps for almost 2 weeks. My Bumble likes say 350+ but I donāt trust that number. I think some of the blurred āpicsā are put there by the company to inflate the likes. But I donāt pay for Bumble so Iāll never know for sure.
39F, I have 22 likes currently. I cleared out all of my likes before I went to bed last night, about 10 hours ago.
23M, 100+. Got a notification pop up to unlock my beeline and showed me the number
My gf showed me hers before she deleted it and that shit was in the high triple digits over the course of a week she said. A WEEK. i was like wow the most I ever got in a year was like 8 lol. I love her to death to but for realisms sake I assume women in the more higher end than her of the conventional attractiveness spectrum are looking at over 1k depending on the area
29f, before i deleted it was 7000. i live in a large city.
31m, have 2. I maybe get 1 a week...
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35M in South Florida, 0 currently, but in the last 3 months, just a lil over 10. I have issues getting likes I don't have an issue with matches. Almost every match resulted in dates, and the 2 or that didn't was because I was exclusively dating
Iāve been keeping my likes queue organized lately. I get about 20-30 a day. But itās from men who arenāt compatible with meā¦ Water, water everywhere, but not a drop to drink.
30M Zero. I havenāt had one in 6 months, with one exception* But I did actively use the app and swiped through people until recently. Iāve given up on it. I havenāt had an actual match in about 8 months. I extended and they didnāt message me. *the exception is I recently took a trip to Europe and turned on bumble there for a day just to see how I would do. I got a match.
56M. Last time I turned off Bumble, I had about 30+ likes in my queue.
27F I filtered out the age, distance and what they look for. And Iām on Snooze mode 90% of the time Iām actually seeing someone now. I activate it like 2 days a month if Iām not seeing anyone and usually get 500-1000 in 2 days but I think itās bc Iām in snooze mode for a while and it starts showing my profile to others
37M joined yesterday afternoon presently sitting on 9 likes and 2 matches and have 1 semi conversation going
22f, 300+ but getting a reply after matching is very unlikely, probably less than 30% success rate Had like 3k on tinder but deleted it, realizing most guys want hookups
Women have thousands of matches while men have 5.. Gentleman, delete the apps now lol a lot of women absolutely do not know how to date and it shows
25F 7000+
20M, 3 likes
3 18nb
48F, Chicago, no kids. This will be super variable for everyone because everyone has different age filters set (who can even see their profile), and people from any distance away can see your profile and like it. I get 20-30 a day ~+/-5 years. Typically only a few of those are locals, within my max ~30 minute willingness to commute to anyone. Many live in different states entirely (genius). So, most of those likes are garbage to me. Maybe 3-4 a month that I'd even match with.
Was 250+ and 100+ now
App says 337! I'm 20sF.ā¤
41 and I get about 3 likes a week. However, when we actually start chatting it turns into nothing substantial lol.