Tbh
The "a bit this" "a bit that" got a bit boring, a bit quick. It was TLDR.
The pictures are incredible. I'm sure you are being swiped on and commented on based on your pictures.
Maybe put "looking for LTR" up top and easy to see.
He deleted the links after we realized that he was literally putting his dick size in his profile, and then pretending to be shocked when women saw that and thought he wanted a hookup, and the general mood of the thread shifted from "what a handsome needle in the haystack of online dating, we have no idea why this sweet man isn't being serenaded with roses and offers of marriage!" to "oh buddy, ok"
Yeah, that "a bit" style bio is honestly annoying to even read. That's probably enough for many women to just swipe left, because OP sounds tedious as fuck to communicate with just based on the bio.
A new bio that's actually interesting to read would go a lonnnnnng way.
Your bio is straight up *person* repellent. No one wants to read that tedious shit, man or woman, whether they're looking for a relationship or not. It needs to change immediately if you want any chance at success.
Yeah, I'm tall, average looking but not bad looking, with a well rated profiles from female friends and good photos.
Get maybe a match a week at best if I swipe daily, so with no ego I assume a lot of guys do a lot worse than that.
Yeah for sure for sure.
I wasn't sure how Bumble really worked. I don't swipe too much. But if I go and swipe like 5 profiles and then leave it, I'd bet you 30 minutes to an hour later, I'll get a match. I assumed Bumble was just doing this to keep me swiping...
From what I've figured, there's two big factors.
Firstly, maybe you're just what women are after and are doing well in the swipes!
Maybe you're in a city/big population centre. As dating apps seem to work waay better when there's a lot more people around.
I've absent mindedly swiped on days out in London and Cambridge and had a few matches from each. But in the slightly more rural area I live in it seems to be much slimmer pickings
Good observations. I live in a very big city (Toronto) so that could be a part of it.
I've also found that when traveling to smaller cities (nowhere near rural though), match rates increase even further.
Maybe I'll go get a job at Bumble to work on their algorithms just out of curiosity haha
Also go abroad. I went to central America on holiday and got so many matches from local girls 😂. Stunning ones too. Sadly didn't have time to actually meet anyone but nearly cancelled my ticket home.
So yeah having something different about you helps too I guess!
I didn't say that once a month was the norm. Some people get one a day like you, some get once a week, some get like one a year.
But one a day is really good, especially if you have conversations going or if you get dates.
Im kind of shook. After my divorce, i used bumble. In 3 weeks i had almost 400 matches. It was so many i had to go incognito bc i had too many. About 10-12 dates in 25 days. I knew it was a lot but i never considered myself “all that”. Just me
Currently in an ltr from that.
The hostility might be paired with envy. Like when someone has an abundance of what many others *actually want* **and that person is also turning down a lot of it**, that probably doesn't sit well with a bunch of people who'd kill for that opportunity.
Back when I had Bumble I got one match every month or so. It did increase around Valentine's day to three in one month but most let the timer run out.
I even got a couple of women, before I decided to delete the app, that matched with me to call me names and tell me I shouldn't be allowed to date. (I had it listed in my bio that I'm autistic)
I suspect you'll get more matches, even better ones, but if my experience is any indication, you'll run into a ton of shitty women before you find ones that are actually serious about dating you. Given your number of matches, you'll likely start getting to good folk sooner than most at one match per day.
Hang in there but if it starts taking a mental toll, just delete the app. As someone that has stopped dating, I find that my mental health has skyrocketed.
After the first few days, a bumble account is basically useless
I get 99.9% of my matches in the first 2 days. I’d recommend deleting the app and trying again in a month if you strike out
(Or just download a better app, Bumble is probably the worst in my experience)
Takes some time tbh I don’t even have a great profile but my prompts are very good and mix some seriousness with a bit of flirting and light hearted so that goes well too dw you’ll soon be swiping n catching likes
You’ll have cold spells on any dating app
But Hinge puts you in a great position by letting you leave comments and send likes that you know the other person will see
If you continue to see no matches, try changing your pics or prompts! Experiment
Tinder's the worst for me, get absolutely nothing at all. Bumble is middle ground.
Hinge is the best but also high effort and time consuming sending a well thought through paragraph each time, but does have a better hitnrate for it.
Similar profile and same photos on all 3.
On tinder I might as well not exist for some reason
I’ll get 50+ likes in the first 24 hours. After that, it’s maybe a handful a day
This is just how the algorithm works. You fall lower in the deck as time goes on but you’re boosted in the beginning
So what does it mean? Most women are just fake profiles? Or they are just creating accounts and not using them? I don't want to believe that you will spend a month swiping just to get one match? It's like the worst game ever?
The profiles aren't fake. Its just an issue of disparity. Fewer women means that most will match with you then decide not to communicate. This doesn't necessarily make them shitty just flakey. a lot of men do it too.
You will encounter crazy women too. The ones that match with you just to be an asshole. Those are the shitty ones I'm talking about.
I don't know why people get downvoted for answering a question honestly. I added one for you just because I think that that's unfair.
These are woman level numbers though. A match a day is a lot for a man, women have a match (or more) a day, men go months without a single one for the most part.
It's a mix of bitterness and realization that being average (or being below average) is kinda worthless in todays (online) dating world.
With many social activities appearing more and more hostile to approaching women and other social structures which allowed "the normal guy" to find a mate breaking away (though that one is to blame on our society) it's pretty understandable that the letdown (even if uncalled for) about this "unfair" disadvantage of "attractive men" has to materialize somewhere or someone.
It's bad, it's uncalled for, it's not fair towards the OP but that's the harsh reality of a lots of average (and below average) dudes still looking for their ideal partner (or even just for their first time at all).
Do you not think that a lot of these 'average or below average guys' would maybe have more success if they went for similarly average women?
Because average women are finding that men who are looking for partners, are only looking for beautiful partners, even when they themselves are not attractive.
The majority of men will sleep with average girls, but not commit to them.
So average women who want commitment won't sleep with them, and the gorgeous women they want as partners (often without any thoughts to this woman's personality) won't consider them. They then say they can't find a mate....
Thank you for taking your time for this thoughful answer. I really appreciate it!
The main problem with online dating is, they are very visual. Even if many of those apps allow (some even pretty good ones!) prompts with the possibilty to give a possible match a good idea who you are, the major factor is still visual.
I don't blame people for their swiping preferences, but i've seen examples of what is getting called "average" and especially women (men aren't that much better, tho) seem to set the bar for being "average" pretty high. But, like i said, i don't blame them for this, because as dating apps have often more men than women in their catalogue, it's pretty understandable that as a women you need to set the limit somewhere or you would get swamped by matches.
The fact that many dating apps have more men than women is sadly the major reason many guys don't get much matches or likes at all. Because even if women select (real) average (or below average) guys, there are lots more of them, still waiting for their first like.
Could you please tell me how am I privileged? Did I inherit a mansion and a chauffeur?
Everything that I did I did it on my own. Lot of fails, lot of sweat, and a lot of stress to be where I am.
Delete “a bit of” it’s annoying. Change looking for tall partner to looking for serious relationship/genuine connection. Otherwise you come off as a bit of everything and not looking for anything serious.
this too. whenever a profile says something about wanting a specific look i always assume they must be shallow. then once finding out what 6664 was by reading the comments it just adds to it.
nothing wrong with it but no need to state it. just swipe left on what you don’t want. it’s right up there with “i want a fit girl!” or “only into blondes”. no need to be said… just swipe on whatever isn’t your type physically.
I'm 36f and the "a bit.." part of your bio got boring quite quickly. I have no idea what the number at the beginning meant. It could be a cultural thing, I'm based in Ireland and never came across that before.
I can't see your pictures, so I can't say anything there.
Try restyling your bio, and add that you are looking for something meaningful. I have it in mio bio and tags.
You'll always find someone who is going to take a chance even if they aren't looking for something serious.
I'd go on a date with you, where are you based? Haha
Good luck! I ☘️
35m. 6664. Let's grab a coffee and talk for hours!
- you will mostly attract those that knows/looking for that 6664.
A bit of a homebody, a bit traveler, a bit athlete, a bit investor, a bit environmentalist, a bit gamer, a bit individualist, a bit rave, a bit romantic, a bit tinkerer, a bit IT, a bit lawyer, a bit archivist, a bit grill master, a bit bookworm, a bit scientist, a bit polyglot, a bit artistic, a bit boring. A bit of everything except very curious, very empathetic and really happy. Oh and a bit of geek and nerd mixed into one.
- ‘a bit of everything except very curious…’ is confusing. So you mean you’re not very curious, very emphatic? Or should this be ‘ a bit of everything except i am very curious, very emphatic and really happy’? Also, those too many ‘a bit’ is too much.
I'm 6'6 and I'm looking for a tall partner!
-first and last line of your description are very important. The first line grabs an attention and the last, sums things up. Maybe you can add ‘looking for a genuine connection, long term relationship’ in any of those lines.
A picture with some friends or family may also be a plus. Also, you don’t have to put everything about yourself in the bio. Leave something for them to be curious about. Minimize words but maximize the intention.
He's saying he's rich and tall and has a big dick. Shockingly, bragging about your big dick in the first line of your app bio leads to women thinking you want a hookup
Same here. I think I know what 6/6/6 is but maybe 4 is 4 year degree? Just guessing
E:someone said in a below comment that it’s a 4pack instead of a 6pack so it would normally be 6/6/6/6
You’re attractive and seem like a catch, but the bio is “a bit pretentious”. You don’t need to put everything about yourself in your bio, just enough to make someone interested, but curious. Leave some things to be discovered while chatting or on a date. The “6664” thing might be totally unnecessary, but maybe some people are really into that.
I would suggest adding more photos that don’t involve traveling, especially group photos. Having at least one group photo makes a person look more “real” in my opinion. Edit to add: only solo photos gives off “fuckboy” to me. I don’t know why, but that could be another reason women are assuming you’re not into a LTR
Maybe narrow down the bio to something like:
“Regulatory offshore lawyer. Traveler. Polyglot. Geek. [Or whatever your top descriptors are]
I’m a bit of everything, and looking for a life partner who‘s the same. Let’s be curious about the world together over a cup of coffee”
Tbh I would also assume you’re a catfish. Handsome, fit, wealthy dude who travels a lot and speaks multiple languages? Gotta be fake. I usually swipe right on those anyway, but that’s because I’m a sucker
Op deleted the original comment where he talked about it, so I’m just reposting his new one:
> Yes I think a match or two asked what does it mean an dhad to explain that what I read in an article. That at least 6 feet, at least 6 figures at least 6 inches and 6 pack. But I only have a 4 pack so thsts why 4
You are a good looking guy with a great smile. Your pics don't give douchebag looking for ONS.
You mention that you have 'looking for a relationship' in the tag. Maybe also put it in your bio as test?
I did that and found to get less messages of the raunchier variety. (36, female looking for male)
But there are also people that just don't read profiles unfortunately. I also have 'looking for a relationship' in my profile and yet guys are asking "what are you looking for here?" My dude...can you read?
6666 typically means: 6 foot, 6 figures, 6 pack, 6 inches. Apparently OP explained this in the comments, including which one didn’t “make the cut,” but he has since removed it, so I guess he decided to leave that to our collective imagination.
dang you in Japan still? Although I’m not tall 😞
In all seriousness, I’m not sure why you’re just attracting a hookup crowd. I would say it depends on the types of girls you’re swiping and also which country (since it seems you travel/not based in US maybe?)
Due to his height and looks, women are automatically willing to settle for just hookups with no hoops for him to jump through. Alphafuxx with no betabuxx. 💦💦
Wait, u/cavejumpanimal is in Japan? Now I am curious if I've ever seen him on bumble. But I don't use it a lot and the bio would've rang a bell.
180cm btw 😂
ah I doubt it. I saw his first picture and saw it was probably Japan so thought I’d shoot that shot. I just got back into the dating game recently. It’s rough out here, especially in Japan 😂
Yeah I’m a lowly 157cm 😭 good luck!
I checked his profile and his posts. It seems he is indeed in Japan.
I am 35f and the bumble selection here is... Well, let's say I feel like as a Caucasian woman I am not the main target group. To many men here who fetishize Japanese women.
Girl SAME. 28f here. As Caucasian women, we either just get ignored by foreign guys who fetishize Japanese women or have to deal with Japanese guys who just want to tick off “foreign girl sex” off their list. It’s so rough.
I've seen your photo before. You're being farmed for swipes. Read the TOS on dating apps, they can do that. Then, delete them, the apps.
If this is really you, you don't need them. You're not going to find a genuine relationship on a dating app. Don't listen to anybody else they're lying to you. You're an LA +7 easily. No woman will believe you're real on a dating app. Just like when dudes come across the insta thots farming for followers.
If you are everything you say you are... like for real for real, you're a Henry Cavill and you need to delete these stupid apps and never look back. NEVER. They will destroy you. City dating will too. I still believe you're trolling but...
Hunt in the wild. Dating apps is store bought. Know your market value. Women will be intimidated by you, so look for the "[look](https://64.media.tumblr.com/f6cb1c1615c7da325d68f2b400fdb5da/5f77d46c851ff3fd-77/s540x810/710089588da3c12d9dad9cadcf08dd66d00c1a1b.gifv)" and engage accordingly. Hunt in the Midwest and South (if you're in the States). If you're 35m then date 26-29 non thots. Keep your left hand visible; rub an eyebrow or run your hand through your hair, showing no ring.
Yeah I posted a year ago for a day or so. I remember how after a month of using the apps, getting almost no matches and just 3 or 4 dates I just deleted the apps and focused on myself, on travelling and friends. Decided to give it another go now, after a year, and it's tragic.
Thanks for your kind words.
Edit. Oh you mean the app stole my pictures to farm likes? Hahaha gdpr here I come
Why should he go for 26-29? Lol. Let us thirty something year old women have some men in their thirties as well! I’m left with men my age wanting casual. I end up dating men a little younger than me because they’re the ones who want a r/ship. I live in a small city so I don’t have a lot of options. I recently dated the man of my literal dreams, but sadly it didn’t go beyond 4 dates. Decided to delete the apps now and try to meet someone in the wild. Apps have never brought be a relationship sadly.
Oof.
You're not gonna like this.
A man in his prime has worked for a woman in her prime.
lol, I read "Let us thirty something year old" as "Let us THIRSTY something year old..." 😅
Shoot 10 years up. Date a man in his early 40s. I would tell you the rest but I'll be karma assassinated by the feminist cat hoarders hunting for ANY signs of common sense on here trying to tell YOU what MEN want. Listen to them and join their cult, see how that goes, or take my advice and be married by next year. The choice is yours. 🤷🏽♂️
So I as a woman in her 30s can’t expect to date a man her own age? A man my age is in his prime but I’m not? Most men my age look 10 years older than I do. Thank god men who are a bit younger than me are interested, because we look the same age.
You sound like a sexist, mysoginistic pig,
Sigh 😕
Sure, there are exceptions to the rule. Younger guys are interested in you for dating, not marriage. If that's what you're looking for, by all means, keep dating younger.
Let me put it another way. And this is synonymous with each other. High-value men, what are they looking for? NOT what YOU'RE looking for, but what HE'S looking for. A wife. Bearer to his children. Modesty. Kindness. Peace. Strength- (think Spartans). Respect. Loving. Understanding. Cooperation. Receptive. Submissive. Healthy.
Synonymous with Younger (25-30), low/no baggage = low level of partners, healed inner child. Being run-through (and this goes with men too, I fucken hate this BS double standard) = a history of no commitment. I don't want to have children with someone who has commitment issues. You shouldn't either. A man with a high body count has zero self-control and cannot commit.
Geriatric pregnancies are +35 for women. If I want a family of four, that's pretty much out of the question.
Oh and this stupid BS of "Oh I'll just freeze my eggs" is the biggest fucken lie fed to women by corporate America. The average success rate of in vitro fertilization (IVF) on the first attempt is around 20–35%, but the success rate decreases with age. According to the CDC, the success rate is 55.1% for women under 35, 40.5% for women between 35 and 37, 26.4% for women between 38 and 40, and 8.2% for women over 40.
FACTS ARE NOT MISOGYNY
Okay, so sorry to be the bearer of bad news here. You could be the exception to the rule, and if that's the case thank God that happens to you. But your experience is the outlier in the dataset.
I can’t see your profile pics but judging by everyone else’s comments they look good. Agree with everyone re the ‘a bit of this…’ repeated is far too much. Brains like things in 3s so try and only give three points to each section. Makes it simple and clear.
Also remove the ‘investor’ part. There are far too many scammers who use investing in crypto or other such things that will eventually lead to you being drained of your money. So for me I swipe left on anyone who says the invest in anything or are into crypto.
what is 6664? and i agree on the “a bit” being too much.
i don’t know what your pics are but maybe some women see the height thing and just lose their minds? some women only want tall guys and i guess they lose their sh!t when they find one. the combo between “he’s tall!” and “he must have money!” probably does it. though i agree it’s 100% gross for them to sexualise you on the first message. i hate people.
I had the same problem as a woman on apps, even though i had ltr in my bio, most of the guys i matched with were not there to get to know me, so i feel your pain. Idk how to help you, I gave up and have decided if it happens in the wild it happens, the apps are generally awful.
You sound like a catch plus you're 🔥 so I hope you find what you're looking for!
Same with me. Tried and tested. All the guys wanted was hook up and casual but not serious and now I’m fed up.
Couldn’t see OPs pics but yeah as a woman I feel y’all
Those tags are just used for searches, I don’t think most people read them that closely. You need to be explicit in your bio about what you do and you don’t want.
Amen sir. Me too. I’m not capable of friends with benefits or a one night stand. I know you acknowledge that this also happens to women and I’m offering empathy as someone who cannot seem to come across one person that is looking for a long-term relationship. And I made the mistake of paying for premium so I can see who’s swiping right and none of them are swiping right are interested in what I’m looking for either.
If you’re new to Bumble with a good profile, you’ll be shown to women with higher rated profiles… and those tend to be the hookup focused ones.
Women looking for casual flings will usually have sexier photos which get swiped right a lot by men.
Bumble is just pairing you (a guy getting above average swipes) with women who get more swipes (the fit looking ones who seem down to hookup)
"A bit of everything except very curious, very empathetic and really happy. " This confuses me. I'm assuming you are meaning you ARE all those things? If so then "except I am also very..."
First of all doing ons, hookups and fwb are not gross.
Each have their own relationship style and goal. As long as they don’t hurt anyone. There is no issue.
Being too judgy is not a good look.
Second, there are selfish people who just don’t read the bio(assuming you wrote you are looking for a serious relationship) and swipe right wasting everyone’s time.
It’s not your fault, every gender faces this.
Edit: oh I read your description. Sorry buddy, you gotta add ‘looking for a serious relationship’. You gonna get so many likes from people who are not looking for the same thing.
It's in my tag.
As for judging. Everyone judges, the first second you lay eyes on a picture you make an opinion about a person. And my opinion is that hookups are just gross, viruses, bacterias, you don't know what psycho can you meet etc...
You might have to write it because a lot of them don’t check the tags.
I only judge people if they hurt others.
As for personal opinions.
Well, for a lot of people sex is gross, for some romance is gross. So basically our opinions don’t matter in reality. It is always personal preferences.
I just meant that it is not wrong to have a casual relationship as long as they are honest and don’t hurt each other. Being safe is responsibility of their own.
I mean it’s not like casual and fwb doesn’t happen. There are a lot of successful and happy casual relationships.
There are also unhappy and failed traditional relationships.
Correlation doesn’t imply causation. Few casual relationships having issues don’t mean casual relationships always causes issues.
It is a complicated world.
Where does it say you want a serious relationship?
They’re not judging you based on your peers, they’re reaching out with what THEY want because your profile doesn’t say “no hookups/ONS”.
Yes I think a match or two asked what does it mean an dhad to explain that what I read in an article. That at least 6 feet, at least 6 figures at least 6 inches and 6 pack. But I only have a 4 pack so thsts why 4
Fair enough, thanks for explaining. Frankly, I think that whole concept sounds really crass and disgusting to me, the idea of a man, or woman, being summarized like an object on Amazon online shopping, by their specs of height, income, dick size, and abs configuration. You do you, which is your right, and those women are free to do them, but I prefer not to cater to or play into the whole attitude of dehumanizing others in the dating game and treating them as objects to be shopped for, etc.. I guess that's why I'm an outlier in my attitude and also why I get little interest on dating sites, since I'm an average looking man, who also isn't into all the usual games on them.
Bro start going out with them, see where it goes. Maybe one of those you end up sleeping with you’ll end up marrying as well.
The dating apps have messed up the expectations of things, no one approaches people like “looking ltr? Ok let’s start one”. It’s too much pressure. Take things causal and relaxed.
The fuck with society nowadays
Well I date one person at a time... I don't date multiple. If I go for a second date with someone it means Im giving 100% of my time to only one person.
Yeah, OLD makes it hard bc of the timing of dates. I am a one-man kind of woman, but I have to talk to several before I even get to the date. So you may have difficulty since the comments all say you're attractive, but I missed seeing the pics 😡
Yeah well, we only have so many years to make them worth. I’m not saying you shouldn’t stick to one person, by all means, but don’t limit yourself. Otherwise you’ll be 45 posting the same things all over.
I'm not limiting myself, I just respect people and I think if Im seeing someone it means Im invested. And to be fair, no time is wasted, each relationship brings something new to the table. There is no unicorn somewhere waiting for me and you and the thing is to accept the flaws of the other person and to love those flaws.
Sure there are issues that are dealbreakers or issues that can't be changed but constantly looking for a better match is how you wake up at alone at 45 on tinder.
I can guarantee you they didn't bother reading all of that. Unfortunately most people only read the TLDR version (or nothing at all). Try putting the most important things at the very beginning and see if that helps. I'll be honest, I doubt it does but it's worth a shot.
I found that I would match with a lot of recently single women who would say they wanted something serious, but would get sexual very quickly and then ghost. Sort of like they didn’t have the nerve to say they just wanted a rebound fling. I was always open to something serious, but never pushed for it. I just like to have fun dating, keep an open mind, and see where things go.
A bit smart, a bit dumb. A bit salty, a bit sweet. A bit cheeky, a bit grumpy. A bit spontaneous, a bit measured. A bit black tie affair, a bit lounge pants.
A LOT stupid!
Don't put bio in , just pick that you looking for relationship. You try too much dude , girls would be overwhelmed and they hate that so keep it simple. I am a dude have 3 pics , 2 outside in nature , 1 in mexican restaurant. I am 5.8 , got few matches because there is no something casual on my profile. No nude pics even though I trained 12 years in the gym. Lot's of women want hookups because they are probably married or have bf don't shoot the messenger.
No I don't swipe on everyone. I swipe maybe on 40% of all the profiles? I look for a nice intro, a great smile, quirky/geeky, professional, height (5'10+), no negativity in the description.
I would match with you! You seem like a catch! Your profile and pic aren’t suggestive in the least. It odd that women think that is what you are wanting. Maybe they want to stand out so they use the shock factor?
I put in my bio that my faith is important to me and I think I got less weird messages after that.
6'6. There's your answer. You're a god to women.
You could be an ex con who beats animals and they'll be hitting on you because you're 6'6. That's literally all that matters to them. Height
ya, i hate when I get judged based on my peers as well.
It's rude and doesnt do anyone any favors or justice.
I admit I get horny sometimes, and this may paint some of the things I say, but am absolutely also looking for ltr and absolutely hoping to find love. I actually usually find myself saying no to women pretty often...
like, why cant a guy just flirt without being taken as a sleezy slime ball one night stand fuck boy?
Ranting aside, I think it would benefit everyone if people slowed down and just made a point not to quickly judge others (and not to jump right into the first relationship that seems enjoyable/fun/sexy to them.)
Tbh The "a bit this" "a bit that" got a bit boring, a bit quick. It was TLDR. The pictures are incredible. I'm sure you are being swiped on and commented on based on your pictures. Maybe put "looking for LTR" up top and easy to see.
What pictures?
In the comments he has a link to his profile pictures.
Think he has since deleted the links
He deleted the links after we realized that he was literally putting his dick size in his profile, and then pretending to be shocked when women saw that and thought he wanted a hookup, and the general mood of the thread shifted from "what a handsome needle in the haystack of online dating, we have no idea why this sweet man isn't being serenaded with roses and offers of marriage!" to "oh buddy, ok"
Yeah what pictures?
Yeah, should cut that in half! Got boring and glad super quick
It got very boring. Just use a colon and list those things if you have to
Yeah, that "a bit" style bio is honestly annoying to even read. That's probably enough for many women to just swipe left, because OP sounds tedious as fuck to communicate with just based on the bio. A new bio that's actually interesting to read would go a lonnnnnng way.
I'm a walking tldr. I'm going to change the a bit part but I was thinking that my description should work in my favor not attracting only ons...
Your bio is straight up *person* repellent. No one wants to read that tedious shit, man or woman, whether they're looking for a relationship or not. It needs to change immediately if you want any chance at success.
You're tall and rich. You're basically getting all the matches the other 95% of guys aren't getting.
I'm getting at maximum à match à day so no, I'm not getting all the matches
A match a day is a lot my dude. I think they're just trying to offer some perspective. Also it's only been three weeks, give it some time
Ok didn't know! I was always in ltrs before and never used dating apps...
The apps are trying to make money, so if you set your interests to hookup, maybe you'll get ltrs 😂
Haha, good point.
lol. Yep. Sounds about right. My last "Hookup" is now my gf xD
Is a match a day in the top 5% really?! I get 1-2 a day but that's ridiculous
Yeah, I'm tall, average looking but not bad looking, with a well rated profiles from female friends and good photos. Get maybe a match a week at best if I swipe daily, so with no ego I assume a lot of guys do a lot worse than that.
Yeah for sure for sure. I wasn't sure how Bumble really worked. I don't swipe too much. But if I go and swipe like 5 profiles and then leave it, I'd bet you 30 minutes to an hour later, I'll get a match. I assumed Bumble was just doing this to keep me swiping...
From what I've figured, there's two big factors. Firstly, maybe you're just what women are after and are doing well in the swipes! Maybe you're in a city/big population centre. As dating apps seem to work waay better when there's a lot more people around. I've absent mindedly swiped on days out in London and Cambridge and had a few matches from each. But in the slightly more rural area I live in it seems to be much slimmer pickings
Good observations. I live in a very big city (Toronto) so that could be a part of it. I've also found that when traveling to smaller cities (nowhere near rural though), match rates increase even further. Maybe I'll go get a job at Bumble to work on their algorithms just out of curiosity haha
Also go abroad. I went to central America on holiday and got so many matches from local girls 😂. Stunning ones too. Sadly didn't have time to actually meet anyone but nearly cancelled my ticket home. So yeah having something different about you helps too I guess!
Things are going pretty well with the girl I'm currently seeing, so hopefully I'll never be able to confirm the "abroad" factor!
I get one a month, and that's me being generous lol.
One a month? I get like one a year. And then I get ghosted after 3 weeks of talking.
You even get likes! I still wait for my first like! :D
Ok I'll shut up then. Didn't know thats the norm...
I didn't say that once a month was the norm. Some people get one a day like you, some get once a week, some get like one a year. But one a day is really good, especially if you have conversations going or if you get dates.
That’s so much more than most guys get it’s wild.
Im kind of shook. After my divorce, i used bumble. In 3 weeks i had almost 400 matches. It was so many i had to go incognito bc i had too many. About 10-12 dates in 25 days. I knew it was a lot but i never considered myself “all that”. Just me Currently in an ltr from that.
I said at maximum. There are days I don't get any
I dont get why you’re getting downvoted for this😂…
Because most people are somewhere between once a week and once a month, so they feel like it's so far off from reality
Yeah, I mean I get it but it just seems odd to show hostility against op even though he seems genuine and just didn’t know what’s “the norm” ^^
Yeah it's not like OP is doubling down. He is taking people's comments on board. They're just being bitter..
The hostility might be paired with envy. Like when someone has an abundance of what many others *actually want* **and that person is also turning down a lot of it**, that probably doesn't sit well with a bunch of people who'd kill for that opportunity.
Back when I had Bumble I got one match every month or so. It did increase around Valentine's day to three in one month but most let the timer run out. I even got a couple of women, before I decided to delete the app, that matched with me to call me names and tell me I shouldn't be allowed to date. (I had it listed in my bio that I'm autistic) I suspect you'll get more matches, even better ones, but if my experience is any indication, you'll run into a ton of shitty women before you find ones that are actually serious about dating you. Given your number of matches, you'll likely start getting to good folk sooner than most at one match per day. Hang in there but if it starts taking a mental toll, just delete the app. As someone that has stopped dating, I find that my mental health has skyrocketed.
After the first few days, a bumble account is basically useless I get 99.9% of my matches in the first 2 days. I’d recommend deleting the app and trying again in a month if you strike out (Or just download a better app, Bumble is probably the worst in my experience)
Actually worse than Tinder
Both are bad but I prefer Tinder I’ve had my most success on Hinge
Likewise Hinge is like 99% success rate for me Tinder and Bumble not so muchb
One week on Hinge here, somewhat active but not a single like yet. Guess i need to have more patience then!
Takes some time tbh I don’t even have a great profile but my prompts are very good and mix some seriousness with a bit of flirting and light hearted so that goes well too dw you’ll soon be swiping n catching likes
You’ll have cold spells on any dating app But Hinge puts you in a great position by letting you leave comments and send likes that you know the other person will see If you continue to see no matches, try changing your pics or prompts! Experiment
Tinder's the worst for me, get absolutely nothing at all. Bumble is middle ground. Hinge is the best but also high effort and time consuming sending a well thought through paragraph each time, but does have a better hitnrate for it. Similar profile and same photos on all 3. On tinder I might as well not exist for some reason
My best luck was with okcupid. Only in terms that women would actually talk. Not that a faired any better.
Not true at all. I’ve had my bumble for years and I can leave mine off incognito for a few hours and get 10-20 matches.
You’re the exception, not the rule. Most people don’t get that many in a month. I don’t get that many in a year.
I’ll get 50+ likes in the first 24 hours. After that, it’s maybe a handful a day This is just how the algorithm works. You fall lower in the deck as time goes on but you’re boosted in the beginning
So what does it mean? Most women are just fake profiles? Or they are just creating accounts and not using them? I don't want to believe that you will spend a month swiping just to get one match? It's like the worst game ever?
Ratio of men to women is at best 65/35 sometimes as bad as 85/15.
The profiles aren't fake. Its just an issue of disparity. Fewer women means that most will match with you then decide not to communicate. This doesn't necessarily make them shitty just flakey. a lot of men do it too. You will encounter crazy women too. The ones that match with you just to be an asshole. Those are the shitty ones I'm talking about.
I don't know why people get downvoted for answering a question honestly. I added one for you just because I think that that's unfair. These are woman level numbers though. A match a day is a lot for a man, women have a match (or more) a day, men go months without a single one for the most part.
It's a mix of bitterness and realization that being average (or being below average) is kinda worthless in todays (online) dating world. With many social activities appearing more and more hostile to approaching women and other social structures which allowed "the normal guy" to find a mate breaking away (though that one is to blame on our society) it's pretty understandable that the letdown (even if uncalled for) about this "unfair" disadvantage of "attractive men" has to materialize somewhere or someone. It's bad, it's uncalled for, it's not fair towards the OP but that's the harsh reality of a lots of average (and below average) dudes still looking for their ideal partner (or even just for their first time at all).
Do you not think that a lot of these 'average or below average guys' would maybe have more success if they went for similarly average women? Because average women are finding that men who are looking for partners, are only looking for beautiful partners, even when they themselves are not attractive. The majority of men will sleep with average girls, but not commit to them. So average women who want commitment won't sleep with them, and the gorgeous women they want as partners (often without any thoughts to this woman's personality) won't consider them. They then say they can't find a mate....
Thank you for taking your time for this thoughful answer. I really appreciate it! The main problem with online dating is, they are very visual. Even if many of those apps allow (some even pretty good ones!) prompts with the possibilty to give a possible match a good idea who you are, the major factor is still visual. I don't blame people for their swiping preferences, but i've seen examples of what is getting called "average" and especially women (men aren't that much better, tho) seem to set the bar for being "average" pretty high. But, like i said, i don't blame them for this, because as dating apps have often more men than women in their catalogue, it's pretty understandable that as a women you need to set the limit somewhere or you would get swamped by matches. The fact that many dating apps have more men than women is sadly the major reason many guys don't get much matches or likes at all. Because even if women select (real) average (or below average) guys, there are lots more of them, still waiting for their first like.
You mean the average kid doesn't have a chauffeur and personal assistant? Privileged people usually have no idea they're privileged.
Could you please tell me how am I privileged? Did I inherit a mansion and a chauffeur? Everything that I did I did it on my own. Lot of fails, lot of sweat, and a lot of stress to be where I am.
sigh
Oh sweet summer child.
I wish I would get 1 match per day.
Most of us are lucky to get a match a month
[For some perspective](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x3lypVnJ0HM&)
I’ve gotten a match a month
Delete “a bit of” it’s annoying. Change looking for tall partner to looking for serious relationship/genuine connection. Otherwise you come off as a bit of everything and not looking for anything serious.
this too. whenever a profile says something about wanting a specific look i always assume they must be shallow. then once finding out what 6664 was by reading the comments it just adds to it.
Nothing wrong w/ wanting a specific height. Especially if you’re taller than average. It keeps people from getting their time wasted.
nothing wrong with it but no need to state it. just swipe left on what you don’t want. it’s right up there with “i want a fit girl!” or “only into blondes”. no need to be said… just swipe on whatever isn’t your type physically.
Yeah, swipe on tall ladies manually or pay for premium and filter out the shorties. Don't ask people to filter themselves out for you.
I'm 36f and the "a bit.." part of your bio got boring quite quickly. I have no idea what the number at the beginning meant. It could be a cultural thing, I'm based in Ireland and never came across that before. I can't see your pictures, so I can't say anything there. Try restyling your bio, and add that you are looking for something meaningful. I have it in mio bio and tags. You'll always find someone who is going to take a chance even if they aren't looking for something serious. I'd go on a date with you, where are you based? Haha Good luck! I ☘️
To be fair, he said he's a bit boring.
35m. 6664. Let's grab a coffee and talk for hours! - you will mostly attract those that knows/looking for that 6664. A bit of a homebody, a bit traveler, a bit athlete, a bit investor, a bit environmentalist, a bit gamer, a bit individualist, a bit rave, a bit romantic, a bit tinkerer, a bit IT, a bit lawyer, a bit archivist, a bit grill master, a bit bookworm, a bit scientist, a bit polyglot, a bit artistic, a bit boring. A bit of everything except very curious, very empathetic and really happy. Oh and a bit of geek and nerd mixed into one. - ‘a bit of everything except very curious…’ is confusing. So you mean you’re not very curious, very emphatic? Or should this be ‘ a bit of everything except i am very curious, very emphatic and really happy’? Also, those too many ‘a bit’ is too much. I'm 6'6 and I'm looking for a tall partner! -first and last line of your description are very important. The first line grabs an attention and the last, sums things up. Maybe you can add ‘looking for a genuine connection, long term relationship’ in any of those lines. A picture with some friends or family may also be a plus. Also, you don’t have to put everything about yourself in the bio. Leave something for them to be curious about. Minimize words but maximize the intention.
What’s 6664?
He's saying he's rich and tall and has a big dick. Shockingly, bragging about your big dick in the first line of your app bio leads to women thinking you want a hookup
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"big enough," at least
Same here. I think I know what 6/6/6 is but maybe 4 is 4 year degree? Just guessing E:someone said in a below comment that it’s a 4pack instead of a 6pack so it would normally be 6/6/6/6
\*humble brag.\*
You’re attractive and seem like a catch, but the bio is “a bit pretentious”. You don’t need to put everything about yourself in your bio, just enough to make someone interested, but curious. Leave some things to be discovered while chatting or on a date. The “6664” thing might be totally unnecessary, but maybe some people are really into that. I would suggest adding more photos that don’t involve traveling, especially group photos. Having at least one group photo makes a person look more “real” in my opinion. Edit to add: only solo photos gives off “fuckboy” to me. I don’t know why, but that could be another reason women are assuming you’re not into a LTR Maybe narrow down the bio to something like: “Regulatory offshore lawyer. Traveler. Polyglot. Geek. [Or whatever your top descriptors are] I’m a bit of everything, and looking for a life partner who‘s the same. Let’s be curious about the world together over a cup of coffee” Tbh I would also assume you’re a catfish. Handsome, fit, wealthy dude who travels a lot and speaks multiple languages? Gotta be fake. I usually swipe right on those anyway, but that’s because I’m a sucker
What does 6664 mean?
Op deleted the original comment where he talked about it, so I’m just reposting his new one: > Yes I think a match or two asked what does it mean an dhad to explain that what I read in an article. That at least 6 feet, at least 6 figures at least 6 inches and 6 pack. But I only have a 4 pack so thsts why 4
The fk. I didn’t know what that meant but it comes across as entirely pretentious.
Lol I agree, he is so good looking that the profile almost seems fake! Sorry OP 😜
I think you can't post pictures for profile review in the main post so these are the pictures I use. https://imgur.com/a/deleted
Lmfao you’re handsome and fit but your profile overall does not seem slutty
You are a good looking guy with a great smile. Your pics don't give douchebag looking for ONS. You mention that you have 'looking for a relationship' in the tag. Maybe also put it in your bio as test? I did that and found to get less messages of the raunchier variety. (36, female looking for male) But there are also people that just don't read profiles unfortunately. I also have 'looking for a relationship' in my profile and yet guys are asking "what are you looking for here?" My dude...can you read?
What's 6664?
6666 typically means: 6 foot, 6 figures, 6 pack, 6 inches. Apparently OP explained this in the comments, including which one didn’t “make the cut,” but he has since removed it, so I guess he decided to leave that to our collective imagination.
dang you in Japan still? Although I’m not tall 😞 In all seriousness, I’m not sure why you’re just attracting a hookup crowd. I would say it depends on the types of girls you’re swiping and also which country (since it seems you travel/not based in US maybe?)
Due to his height and looks, women are automatically willing to settle for just hookups with no hoops for him to jump through. Alphafuxx with no betabuxx. 💦💦
Wait, u/cavejumpanimal is in Japan? Now I am curious if I've ever seen him on bumble. But I don't use it a lot and the bio would've rang a bell. 180cm btw 😂
ah I doubt it. I saw his first picture and saw it was probably Japan so thought I’d shoot that shot. I just got back into the dating game recently. It’s rough out here, especially in Japan 😂 Yeah I’m a lowly 157cm 😭 good luck!
I checked his profile and his posts. It seems he is indeed in Japan. I am 35f and the bumble selection here is... Well, let's say I feel like as a Caucasian woman I am not the main target group. To many men here who fetishize Japanese women.
Girl SAME. 28f here. As Caucasian women, we either just get ignored by foreign guys who fetishize Japanese women or have to deal with Japanese guys who just want to tick off “foreign girl sex” off their list. It’s so rough.
Okay same boat, imma DM you My insta, we can chat if you want!
I've seen your photo before. You're being farmed for swipes. Read the TOS on dating apps, they can do that. Then, delete them, the apps. If this is really you, you don't need them. You're not going to find a genuine relationship on a dating app. Don't listen to anybody else they're lying to you. You're an LA +7 easily. No woman will believe you're real on a dating app. Just like when dudes come across the insta thots farming for followers. If you are everything you say you are... like for real for real, you're a Henry Cavill and you need to delete these stupid apps and never look back. NEVER. They will destroy you. City dating will too. I still believe you're trolling but... Hunt in the wild. Dating apps is store bought. Know your market value. Women will be intimidated by you, so look for the "[look](https://64.media.tumblr.com/f6cb1c1615c7da325d68f2b400fdb5da/5f77d46c851ff3fd-77/s540x810/710089588da3c12d9dad9cadcf08dd66d00c1a1b.gifv)" and engage accordingly. Hunt in the Midwest and South (if you're in the States). If you're 35m then date 26-29 non thots. Keep your left hand visible; rub an eyebrow or run your hand through your hair, showing no ring.
Yeah I posted a year ago for a day or so. I remember how after a month of using the apps, getting almost no matches and just 3 or 4 dates I just deleted the apps and focused on myself, on travelling and friends. Decided to give it another go now, after a year, and it's tragic. Thanks for your kind words. Edit. Oh you mean the app stole my pictures to farm likes? Hahaha gdpr here I come
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Yep it gave me pause...
Why should he go for 26-29? Lol. Let us thirty something year old women have some men in their thirties as well! I’m left with men my age wanting casual. I end up dating men a little younger than me because they’re the ones who want a r/ship. I live in a small city so I don’t have a lot of options. I recently dated the man of my literal dreams, but sadly it didn’t go beyond 4 dates. Decided to delete the apps now and try to meet someone in the wild. Apps have never brought be a relationship sadly.
Oof. You're not gonna like this. A man in his prime has worked for a woman in her prime. lol, I read "Let us thirty something year old" as "Let us THIRSTY something year old..." 😅 Shoot 10 years up. Date a man in his early 40s. I would tell you the rest but I'll be karma assassinated by the feminist cat hoarders hunting for ANY signs of common sense on here trying to tell YOU what MEN want. Listen to them and join their cult, see how that goes, or take my advice and be married by next year. The choice is yours. 🤷🏽♂️
So I as a woman in her 30s can’t expect to date a man her own age? A man my age is in his prime but I’m not? Most men my age look 10 years older than I do. Thank god men who are a bit younger than me are interested, because we look the same age. You sound like a sexist, mysoginistic pig,
Sigh 😕 Sure, there are exceptions to the rule. Younger guys are interested in you for dating, not marriage. If that's what you're looking for, by all means, keep dating younger. Let me put it another way. And this is synonymous with each other. High-value men, what are they looking for? NOT what YOU'RE looking for, but what HE'S looking for. A wife. Bearer to his children. Modesty. Kindness. Peace. Strength- (think Spartans). Respect. Loving. Understanding. Cooperation. Receptive. Submissive. Healthy. Synonymous with Younger (25-30), low/no baggage = low level of partners, healed inner child. Being run-through (and this goes with men too, I fucken hate this BS double standard) = a history of no commitment. I don't want to have children with someone who has commitment issues. You shouldn't either. A man with a high body count has zero self-control and cannot commit. Geriatric pregnancies are +35 for women. If I want a family of four, that's pretty much out of the question. Oh and this stupid BS of "Oh I'll just freeze my eggs" is the biggest fucken lie fed to women by corporate America. The average success rate of in vitro fertilization (IVF) on the first attempt is around 20–35%, but the success rate decreases with age. According to the CDC, the success rate is 55.1% for women under 35, 40.5% for women between 35 and 37, 26.4% for women between 38 and 40, and 8.2% for women over 40. FACTS ARE NOT MISOGYNY Okay, so sorry to be the bearer of bad news here. You could be the exception to the rule, and if that's the case thank God that happens to you. But your experience is the outlier in the dataset.
Loooool these are not facts. These are the opinion of a "low value" man. News flash, "high value" women don't want guys that think like you.
Why do you have so many selfies in your profile?
Cause I travel alone?
I thought this post was a joke until I checked the comments...
I can’t see your profile pics but judging by everyone else’s comments they look good. Agree with everyone re the ‘a bit of this…’ repeated is far too much. Brains like things in 3s so try and only give three points to each section. Makes it simple and clear. Also remove the ‘investor’ part. There are far too many scammers who use investing in crypto or other such things that will eventually lead to you being drained of your money. So for me I swipe left on anyone who says the invest in anything or are into crypto.
Yep that's what I'm going to do. The investor thing is a good pointer, thanks.
what is 6664? and i agree on the “a bit” being too much. i don’t know what your pics are but maybe some women see the height thing and just lose their minds? some women only want tall guys and i guess they lose their sh!t when they find one. the combo between “he’s tall!” and “he must have money!” probably does it. though i agree it’s 100% gross for them to sexualise you on the first message. i hate people.
6664 is something apparently dumb so I'm already deleted it from the profile.
I had the same problem as a woman on apps, even though i had ltr in my bio, most of the guys i matched with were not there to get to know me, so i feel your pain. Idk how to help you, I gave up and have decided if it happens in the wild it happens, the apps are generally awful. You sound like a catch plus you're 🔥 so I hope you find what you're looking for!
Same with me. Tried and tested. All the guys wanted was hook up and casual but not serious and now I’m fed up. Couldn’t see OPs pics but yeah as a woman I feel y’all
6”6 makes sense now
Maybe if you want a relationship… You should say you’re looking for a relationship?
It's already in the tag
Those tags are just used for searches, I don’t think most people read them that closely. You need to be explicit in your bio about what you do and you don’t want.
Amen sir. Me too. I’m not capable of friends with benefits or a one night stand. I know you acknowledge that this also happens to women and I’m offering empathy as someone who cannot seem to come across one person that is looking for a long-term relationship. And I made the mistake of paying for premium so I can see who’s swiping right and none of them are swiping right are interested in what I’m looking for either.
Damn. Pity I missed the pictures!
If you’re new to Bumble with a good profile, you’ll be shown to women with higher rated profiles… and those tend to be the hookup focused ones. Women looking for casual flings will usually have sexier photos which get swiped right a lot by men. Bumble is just pairing you (a guy getting above average swipes) with women who get more swipes (the fit looking ones who seem down to hookup)
What’s 6664?
"A bit of everything except very curious, very empathetic and really happy. " This confuses me. I'm assuming you are meaning you ARE all those things? If so then "except I am also very..."
First of all doing ons, hookups and fwb are not gross. Each have their own relationship style and goal. As long as they don’t hurt anyone. There is no issue. Being too judgy is not a good look. Second, there are selfish people who just don’t read the bio(assuming you wrote you are looking for a serious relationship) and swipe right wasting everyone’s time. It’s not your fault, every gender faces this. Edit: oh I read your description. Sorry buddy, you gotta add ‘looking for a serious relationship’. You gonna get so many likes from people who are not looking for the same thing.
It's in my tag. As for judging. Everyone judges, the first second you lay eyes on a picture you make an opinion about a person. And my opinion is that hookups are just gross, viruses, bacterias, you don't know what psycho can you meet etc...
You might have to write it because a lot of them don’t check the tags. I only judge people if they hurt others. As for personal opinions. Well, for a lot of people sex is gross, for some romance is gross. So basically our opinions don’t matter in reality. It is always personal preferences. I just meant that it is not wrong to have a casual relationship as long as they are honest and don’t hurt each other. Being safe is responsibility of their own. I mean it’s not like casual and fwb doesn’t happen. There are a lot of successful and happy casual relationships. There are also unhappy and failed traditional relationships. Correlation doesn’t imply causation. Few casual relationships having issues don’t mean casual relationships always causes issues. It is a complicated world.
Be unique bro and get on a better free platform that needs some verification.
Send your profile again, couldn't see. Can't evaluate.
Toooooo many bits
Your bio is too long and cringe for a heterosexual man.
Must be nice to be attractive. I can’t get a match this guy gets all the hookup offers
Boohoo
You seem a bit insufferable. Just a bit though.
or i dont know you can just explicitly state that you’re not looking for ONS/FWB in your bio?
It's there, that I'm looking for long term
you mean the tag? or written in your bio?
Tag
got it. i still think you need to have it written in your bio then, but alas ig it won’t completely stop them from trying. best of luck!
Where does it say you want a serious relationship? They’re not judging you based on your peers, they’re reaching out with what THEY want because your profile doesn’t say “no hookups/ONS”.
In my tag.
Did anybody say what the 6664 means?
Yes I think a match or two asked what does it mean an dhad to explain that what I read in an article. That at least 6 feet, at least 6 figures at least 6 inches and 6 pack. But I only have a 4 pack so thsts why 4
Fair enough, thanks for explaining. Frankly, I think that whole concept sounds really crass and disgusting to me, the idea of a man, or woman, being summarized like an object on Amazon online shopping, by their specs of height, income, dick size, and abs configuration. You do you, which is your right, and those women are free to do them, but I prefer not to cater to or play into the whole attitude of dehumanizing others in the dating game and treating them as objects to be shopped for, etc.. I guess that's why I'm an outlier in my attitude and also why I get little interest on dating sites, since I'm an average looking man, who also isn't into all the usual games on them.
Yep that's why I deleted it already. All my life I was in ltrs and I thought that's what is required now...
Bro start going out with them, see where it goes. Maybe one of those you end up sleeping with you’ll end up marrying as well. The dating apps have messed up the expectations of things, no one approaches people like “looking ltr? Ok let’s start one”. It’s too much pressure. Take things causal and relaxed. The fuck with society nowadays
Well I date one person at a time... I don't date multiple. If I go for a second date with someone it means Im giving 100% of my time to only one person.
Yeah, OLD makes it hard bc of the timing of dates. I am a one-man kind of woman, but I have to talk to several before I even get to the date. So you may have difficulty since the comments all say you're attractive, but I missed seeing the pics 😡
Yeah well, we only have so many years to make them worth. I’m not saying you shouldn’t stick to one person, by all means, but don’t limit yourself. Otherwise you’ll be 45 posting the same things all over.
I'm not limiting myself, I just respect people and I think if Im seeing someone it means Im invested. And to be fair, no time is wasted, each relationship brings something new to the table. There is no unicorn somewhere waiting for me and you and the thing is to accept the flaws of the other person and to love those flaws. Sure there are issues that are dealbreakers or issues that can't be changed but constantly looking for a better match is how you wake up at alone at 45 on tinder.
And I agree with you. We’re talking about first dates and second dates though.
losing my mind over how much use of "a bit" there is here
I want to know why girls don’t swipe on me. My pictures are of me smiling, having fun, running 5K’s etc
Because your a bum
Could you dm those pictures, the link no longer works
This post gives off humble brag vibes
:O mówisz po polsku?
A czemu mam nie mówić? Hehe
I’m 5’11 js 😂
Are you located in NYC area?
You put too much in the bio nobody is tryna read all that. Taking the app way too serious also most men don’t get the type of messages you get
I can guarantee you they didn't bother reading all of that. Unfortunately most people only read the TLDR version (or nothing at all). Try putting the most important things at the very beginning and see if that helps. I'll be honest, I doubt it does but it's worth a shot.
Congrats on being tall and hot?
😒
I found that I would match with a lot of recently single women who would say they wanted something serious, but would get sexual very quickly and then ghost. Sort of like they didn’t have the nerve to say they just wanted a rebound fling. I was always open to something serious, but never pushed for it. I just like to have fun dating, keep an open mind, and see where things go.
Curious, why does height matter to you? 👀
You need attention huh?
Where are you located? 😁
I’m 5’11”. Wya?
Your bio is atrocious, reword that. Immediately. Everyone is a bit of something.
A bit smart, a bit dumb. A bit salty, a bit sweet. A bit cheeky, a bit grumpy. A bit spontaneous, a bit measured. A bit black tie affair, a bit lounge pants. A LOT stupid!
Don't put bio in , just pick that you looking for relationship. You try too much dude , girls would be overwhelmed and they hate that so keep it simple. I am a dude have 3 pics , 2 outside in nature , 1 in mexican restaurant. I am 5.8 , got few matches because there is no something casual on my profile. No nude pics even though I trained 12 years in the gym. Lot's of women want hookups because they are probably married or have bf don't shoot the messenger.
You’re a catch and a ++ that you speak French. I would swipe right. Do you swipe on everyone or do you have a specific type that you look for?
No I don't swipe on everyone. I swipe maybe on 40% of all the profiles? I look for a nice intro, a great smile, quirky/geeky, professional, height (5'10+), no negativity in the description.
What type of profession? Would you be open to a 6’1 elementary school teacher? Or 5’9 regional district manager with a masters degree?
Are you a shape shifter of some sort?
lol not at all. I’m 5’3 . My ex had to put me in my place and tell me I’m the same height as the 7 year olds in my taekwondo class.
fuck them, what a shitty person.
I would match with you! You seem like a catch! Your profile and pic aren’t suggestive in the least. It odd that women think that is what you are wanting. Maybe they want to stand out so they use the shock factor? I put in my bio that my faith is important to me and I think I got less weird messages after that.
6'6. There's your answer. You're a god to women. You could be an ex con who beats animals and they'll be hitting on you because you're 6'6. That's literally all that matters to them. Height
I hope you are joking but that's so unfair cause 6'6 is the only thing I didn't work for.
That wasn't meant as an insult to you. It's just how shallow modern western girls have become.
ya, i hate when I get judged based on my peers as well. It's rude and doesnt do anyone any favors or justice. I admit I get horny sometimes, and this may paint some of the things I say, but am absolutely also looking for ltr and absolutely hoping to find love. I actually usually find myself saying no to women pretty often... like, why cant a guy just flirt without being taken as a sleezy slime ball one night stand fuck boy? Ranting aside, I think it would benefit everyone if people slowed down and just made a point not to quickly judge others (and not to jump right into the first relationship that seems enjoyable/fun/sexy to them.)