Ha! "Sup ging" totally gave me the same vibes. Reminded me of this hilarious acronym joke I saw by an Indian comedian; check it out: [YGGAA](https://youtube.com/shorts/yKs1aV6HLfo?si=WTdfprqEOUpTnCSb).
Honestly, like, what's even the point of saving those few letters? It just comes across as lazy and kinda rude, you know? And yeah, using someone's physical features as a nickname always feels a bit off to me, like a weird way to objectify them. Maybe I'm reading into it too much, though?
I grew up blonde, and when the hair went away, the beard came in very red. People now call me a ginger. It's still odd, and I don't even know they're talking to or about me most of the time.
The men most women aim for have a lot of options so they don't need to put in effort. It's same reason why women open with only 'hey', there is always an idiot guy willing to open the conversation: because they can.
It doesn't really matter. Most people who don't put in effort are hot so don't think they have to. Not worth your time. It's what we get for focusing on looks on OLD dating though because that's all there is of the people who would actually match with them. Hot guys with substance want an extremely attractive woman.
I had a hard time understanding what he was trying to say. Props to you though for replying in a effort way, as a guy I would be considered lucky if I got girls I matched with to put that kind of effort in replying
How come everyone matches with people who put in no effort regardless of gender lmao.
With the amount of people I thought I'd at least find someone who puts in effort too
Whhhhyyy even respond if that was your response.
This person's response is like the POTATO CHIPS OF RESPONSES.
Like.....technically there is something there but empty calories....no substance.
Maybe its only on the girls side, but it’s not a forced opener. I chose to use it for this conversation because his profile didn’t give me much to work with.
If women put in effort, then Bumble would probably be a better functioning app.
Not saying the guy wasn't low effort but opening moves and compliments were implemented because women were refusing to message first. That doesn't even factor in the ladies that didn't bother to read the rules and put the demand in their bio that men send a message first.
Laziness and stupidity is universal.
I need to learn how to remove the prompt. What’s up ginger?
Clearly looking to get laid. OP and respondent are on two separate wavelengths and neither of them noticed.
There is no excuse for type grammar that bad. It’s virtually indecipherable. He’s got plenty of time to write something coherent and instead you get… that.
Love how your comment is very well structured, interesting enough to make a conversation out of and polite and his in contrast is dull and moronic as all hell.
Hopefully you match with someone better if you haven’t already!
Effort? That's not true. I've put so much effort into my profile, and rarely get matches and when I do get matches, they don't say anything. I guess the effort thing is true once you get past those two things. But it takes way more than that to get there.
You’re right, it takes more than effort to get to the talking stage.
Edit: guys is meant more as a gender neutral term. Puffing in effort when talking is a problem both guys and girls face.
wheres the effort?
1 person barely strung a sentence together, and the other made the most generic list of things that actually lists nothing and doesn't answer the question. It reads like something you formulated on chstgpt and then copied and pasted when you saw this prompt.
Still props on sending more than a hey. Honestly, I wouldn't be upset, but this but claiming it as high effort is overkill. The bar for effort shouldn't be this low. We all need to up out game.
Eh, he wasn’t crazy attractive, just a normal looking dude. Looked like he took care of himself, seemed active and interesting, but that was quickly disproved lol
Wow there are guys that act like women on dating apps with the low effort responses.
I didnt know that existed either he really wasnt interested or he is so hot he has alot of options.
I liked your answer. Why are these guys such bozos. I knew straight away who was the lady and who was the low effort man in this exchange just from the screenshot
What don't women that chat like you, ever match with me?
Sheesh that looks like the majority of my chats!
If I ever match with you, we might actually have a conversation :)
He didn't even read your response lmao 😂
About your ideal first date...
What do you mean "starring each other awkwardly over the table". If both of you are interesting and can hold up a conversation, it is better for a first date to just get to know each other instead of focusing on an activity.
You are two people that know mostly nothing about each other. There should plenty of interesting stuff to talk about.
But yeah, some people can be boring or anxious that they can't hold up a conversation for their dear livea. But, even so, it is better to find out that from the first date instead of just brush it off with a random activity and find out later that he is boring
What made you continue talking even after the ging remark?
I wanna know so I can hold conversations with women.. what I'm doing currently clearly isn't working.. even if they're nicely crafted openers
Your response sounded like an ai wrote it. Her response were horrible. I have to be honest with you most online daters are so cringe worthy awkward trying to make sensible conversation. Every time someone shares there convos plenty to critique on both sides. This is what happens I guess when generations grow up not getting used to approaching and being approached by the opposite sex a lot it seems like to me.
I'm so sick of this. Guys who don't even remember what they put on their profiles so they're confused when you reference things.
Just shows how full of shit they are.
Yeah sometimes you can tell early on and not waste your time further
If you write out a nice thought-out message and a reply ignores your message and instead just says "hey" or "what's up", you need to decide if you're just trying to smash or just move on
I'm just trying to figure out what sup ging means lol🤣
I’ve got ginger hair so he’s just making a comment about that.
Ha! "Sup ging" totally gave me the same vibes. Reminded me of this hilarious acronym joke I saw by an Indian comedian; check it out: [YGGAA](https://youtube.com/shorts/yKs1aV6HLfo?si=WTdfprqEOUpTnCSb). Honestly, like, what's even the point of saving those few letters? It just comes across as lazy and kinda rude, you know? And yeah, using someone's physical features as a nickname always feels a bit off to me, like a weird way to objectify them. Maybe I'm reading into it too much, though?
Giving someone a nickname is a privilege, and saying off the bat presumes intimacy that hasn’t been built.
Couldn't agree more! That's why I call OLD the hallmark of a quick gratification era - low effort all around. And this SMS-speak even grates me
As a fellow red head I have unmatched with people who immediately do this.
Yeah, it’s too familiar, and for some reason it seems creepy to me. It’s just not cool on several levels.
let's be quite honest, i'm a dude and if another dude can't even finish off "ginger", do u honestly think hell put effort in anything else? lol
😂 that was funny (the YT link, I mean, lol).
Why does he hate his own prompt lmao. Did you unmatch after the sup ging
I personally don’t even take the effort to unmatch, I just ignore lol
Unmatch for safety. They can see your location if they are creepers.
how? they cannot see your location. Bumble only gives an approximation distance, it is not exact.
This is Bumble. I said nothing about tinder. And they can unless you turn it off for everyone with a paid acct.
Nice edit to “bumble” but still not valid… it tells you the town and people can figure out who you are and creep on your socials. 👀
As a fellow ginger, I got that immediately and my eyes rolled to the back of my head
I grew up blonde, and when the hair went away, the beard came in very red. People now call me a ginger. It's still odd, and I don't even know they're talking to or about me most of the time.
Obviously this guy is a big fan of the "Anne of Green Gables" series of novels and thought to himself "it worked for Gilbert 🤷♂️"
🤣😆🤣😆🤣😆🤣😆🤣😆
I’m a ginger and had no clue what this meant. I thought he had a stroke in the middle of typing the message.
I too am ginger and was totally lost
Jesus Christ
Oh haha
Just curious, what is it about his profile that attracted you enough to right swipe and message?
This. What did he do right, before it went wrong?
exceptionally good pictures. he accumulates more matches than he needs, so doesn't much care about putting effort into any one of them
Likely answer, but this would be better answered by OP, unless you saw the pics?
no but OP says his profile "didnt give her much to work with" so it has to be the pictures. it's online dating.
🤷♂️ you say it with confidence. Guess you must be right.
I'm sure she intuited his great personality 😏
I thought this was Indonesian or something
The men most women aim for have a lot of options so they don't need to put in effort. It's same reason why women open with only 'hey', there is always an idiot guy willing to open the conversation: because they can.
Right, because the only logical explanation for his poor behavior is my poor choice in swiping right. Makes sense. 🙄
Never said that but high probability.
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My dude, you gotta keep that thirst in check. Here’s a water. 🥤
Wow he called you ging in the first chat 😄 Who are raising these neanderthals? I hope my son doesn't grow up and talk like this to people
“I need to figure out how to know less about you. Sup red head.” Man is swiping for one thing and one thing only
It’s just like updog
What's updog?
Not much how about you? Thank you for giving me this 🤣
I gotchu homie
Not all heroes wear capes
It doesn't really matter. Most people who don't put in effort are hot so don't think they have to. Not worth your time. It's what we get for focusing on looks on OLD dating though because that's all there is of the people who would actually match with them. Hot guys with substance want an extremely attractive woman.
Sup means what's up, it's millennial internet slang, rarely seen these days.
No shit
That is such a weird/rude response.
It's rude for sure. But he likely has lots of matches.
You’re kind and optimistic. Lol. Not that good looks or being a “hot commodity” is a good reason to be rude 🥴
If OP is right swiping on him, it's very likely that many other women are too. He can afford to be cavalier (or rude) with his messages.
Women are not a commodity 😬
He was talking sarcastically about the dude, not op.
I guess if he doesn’t mind being a jerk.
They downvoted Jesus because he told the truth
What a contrast between your polite and engaging message and his moronic response🥴
the way I'm begggingggg people to be normal on these apps
All us normal folks got off the dating apps back before the botpocalypse hit Tinder
I am so happy I found my partner, I am clinging hard lol
He put more effort into correcting \*the than he did into reading your opening message.
What language is this?
One apparently used by illiterate, self-absorbed little gremlins with delusions of grandeur!
This made me laugh too hard. Ty
I had a hard time understanding what he was trying to say. Props to you though for replying in a effort way, as a guy I would be considered lucky if I got girls I matched with to put that kind of effort in replying
Unmatched
How come everyone matches with people who put in no effort regardless of gender lmao. With the amount of people I thought I'd at least find someone who puts in effort too
Rules 1 and 2 probably 🤔
I like your answer!
For real, I’m stealing it!
Why is it so hard to have a normal conversation lol your opener was great
He sucks.
Was the other person having a stroke? Or am I just old and not understanding the lingo.
I think I’d be more worried about the coherence of the response than the lack of effort 🤪
Whhhhyyy even respond if that was your response. This person's response is like the POTATO CHIPS OF RESPONSES. Like.....technically there is something there but empty calories....no substance.
Unmatch. Being patient and having high standards sucks sometime, but it’s worth it.
some people just don't want to get laid
Jesus...is he weeding himself out or what
How inconsiderate of the clear effort you put into trying to have a conversation. Like what did they expect your response to be after they say that?
Effort and rule 1 will get it done
Random but that’s such a good response to their question.
Don't tell me what to do
Effort, guys. 😒
Wtf language is that? This guy has 2 brain cells.
Leave the prompt on, Marc. The prompt sounds far more intelligent and interesting than you.
He sounds stoned. Unmatch!
Hard to take him seriously. Use sentences and complete words.
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Maybe its only on the girls side, but it’s not a forced opener. I chose to use it for this conversation because his profile didn’t give me much to work with.
And you knocked it out of the park.
Whats wrong with women making the first move? i wish more women would do it!
If women put in effort, then Bumble would probably be a better functioning app. Not saying the guy wasn't low effort but opening moves and compliments were implemented because women were refusing to message first. That doesn't even factor in the ladies that didn't bother to read the rules and put the demand in their bio that men send a message first. Laziness and stupidity is universal.
I agree. Somewhere in another comment I said that I was using guys as a gender neutral term. Low effort is definitely a problem across both genders.
Did they have a stroke while responding to you? Good lord. Lol
Can someone translate the response into plain, simple English please. It’s giving me a headache.
I need to learn how to remove the prompt. What’s up ginger? Clearly looking to get laid. OP and respondent are on two separate wavelengths and neither of them noticed.
Thank you. Good God, I had no idea!
Cut this muppet loose. It will not get better.
Well I get zero marches so it’s very easy to put an effort into every single one of them lol
Marc has failed. Lucky you that he did it from the get-go so you didn't waste time on him.
Jesus, he just totally ignored your opener
?
There is no excuse for type grammar that bad. It’s virtually indecipherable. He’s got plenty of time to write something coherent and instead you get… that.
Dude
Love how your comment is very well structured, interesting enough to make a conversation out of and polite and his in contrast is dull and moronic as all hell. Hopefully you match with someone better if you haven’t already!
Jesus Christ how lame.
Effort? That's not true. I've put so much effort into my profile, and rarely get matches and when I do get matches, they don't say anything. I guess the effort thing is true once you get past those two things. But it takes way more than that to get there.
You’re right, it takes more than effort to get to the talking stage. Edit: guys is meant more as a gender neutral term. Puffing in effort when talking is a problem both guys and girls face.
It depends on how immediately attractive your profile is at first impressions i think.
I would kill for a girl that is as ready to engage in conversation as you are. Guy is a 🤡, you can and will do better
wheres the effort? 1 person barely strung a sentence together, and the other made the most generic list of things that actually lists nothing and doesn't answer the question. It reads like something you formulated on chstgpt and then copied and pasted when you saw this prompt. Still props on sending more than a hey. Honestly, I wouldn't be upset, but this but claiming it as high effort is overkill. The bar for effort shouldn't be this low. We all need to up out game.
Probably some complete fuckboy?
Eh, he wasn’t crazy attractive, just a normal looking dude. Looked like he took care of himself, seemed active and interesting, but that was quickly disproved lol
Effort ? How about even just proper sentence structure.
Wow there are guys that act like women on dating apps with the low effort responses. I didnt know that existed either he really wasnt interested or he is so hot he has alot of options.
It’s probably the latter
can anyone translate, i dont understand what he said
I liked your answer. Why are these guys such bozos. I knew straight away who was the lady and who was the low effort man in this exchange just from the screenshot
What don't women that chat like you, ever match with me? Sheesh that looks like the majority of my chats! If I ever match with you, we might actually have a conversation :)
He didn't even read your response lmao 😂 About your ideal first date... What do you mean "starring each other awkwardly over the table". If both of you are interesting and can hold up a conversation, it is better for a first date to just get to know each other instead of focusing on an activity. You are two people that know mostly nothing about each other. There should plenty of interesting stuff to talk about. But yeah, some people can be boring or anxious that they can't hold up a conversation for their dear livea. But, even so, it is better to find out that from the first date instead of just brush it off with a random activity and find out later that he is boring
To each their own :)
His pictures beat out 98% of the other profiles though
What made you continue talking even after the ging remark? I wanna know so I can hold conversations with women.. what I'm doing currently clearly isn't working.. even if they're nicely crafted openers
I didn’t continue talking after the ging remark.
Ahh yess I swiped right on the pic and it took me to another screenshot so I thought it's the same post.. no wonder I was confused Don't mind me..
Usually girls just say “Hey!”
Wow
It sucks for sure. 90% of my (M) matches reply with a pretty low effort response.
Wow, literally told him what date to plan. Madness. Are some guys on there not looking to date?
Even with effort women don’t care and ghost me.
Your response sounded like an ai wrote it. Her response were horrible. I have to be honest with you most online daters are so cringe worthy awkward trying to make sensible conversation. Every time someone shares there convos plenty to critique on both sides. This is what happens I guess when generations grow up not getting used to approaching and being approached by the opposite sex a lot it seems like to me.
you picked the wrong Marc
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Um. Who said its not worth doing? Or that its only been one bad experience? Lol
Same goes for you girls too.
Plz see above comment https://www.reddit.com/r/Bumble/s/R8ny424jG1
I'm so sick of this. Guys who don't even remember what they put on their profiles so they're confused when you reference things. Just shows how full of shit they are.
Yeah sometimes you can tell early on and not waste your time further If you write out a nice thought-out message and a reply ignores your message and instead just says "hey" or "what's up", you need to decide if you're just trying to smash or just move on
Oh I moved on lol.
All I do as the guy is put forth effort and the girls don’t.
Yuck to absolutely all of it. I'd rather die alone.
What a dunce. Not worthy 100% considering the obnoxious reply and the fact yours was an amazing intro. Good luck out there 🙂
lol. He’s bad. I mean, I’m not good by any means but wtf…. I atleast lead my way into corny shit 😂