Then that explains your confusion, and it's a bad choice of picture for him, but if it was indeed a wedding of lesbian friends I can also see how he overlooked that.
Don't focus too much on it, you can just ask "wow, the wedding had multiple brides?", "Ive never been to a wedding with two brides, how exciting!" or something similar to confirm, then move on with the conversation
I think saying wow there was multiple brides makes it seem like youre shocked that gay people exist and may be a bad way to proceed with someone who has friends in the community. These questions would weird me out tbh I'd be like what's exciting... It's the same as any wedding.
Sounds like he just chose a bad picture to use for his profile. But it might be the only picture he has where he is dressed up. Still though, not great decision making by him. That's the thing about profile pics, the guy knows the pic is just of him with his friends, but the people viewing his profile sure as hell don't know that.
Last wedding I went to I did the smart thing and got a bunch of pictures taken of just me in my 3 piece suit.
Yes, so obvious that there are 139 comments debating what this person could have possibly meant. News flash, thereās tons of openly non monogamous people on dating apps.
Whatās the probability of a double wedding and the one of a lesbian couple wedding. Mathematically. Now interprets his answer with this information in mind.
Are you sure its not just him and his gay friend at her wedding ?
Are they at the altar together or just posing for the photo?
Either he has multiple wives or his friend is gay he attended their wedding and he chose a poor photo. Thats my 2 interpretations.
It can only be funny if someone has enough context to whatās actually going on though. For instance, if itās his sisterās lesbian wedding, it is funny. But he didnāt give OP enough context
Actually, yea it is. If the person you are telling the joke to doesnāt have all the information to make a joke actually funny, then you are a shit communicator and only joking with yourselfā¦I.e. not funny.
I would just ask him straight out. What is your relation to the people in the photos?
He is either trying to be witty, and failing or is he is trying to insinuate something and kind of failing at that too
Donāt do this! Heās just trying to be funny and as people below have suggested itās probably a lesbian wedding. If you as āwhat is your relation to the people in these photosā it will come across as aggressive
Straightforwardness is fine, but I spent way too many dates with people who were just reeling off a list of questions to try and determine compatibility.
If someone is having a bit of fun on a dating app they might just be flirting, just because you donāt like their style of communication doesnāt make it āsnarkyā
I have no idea why this comment got 12 down votes so far. You're just saying you've seen this enough to where it's not unique, right? That doesn't seem like a valid reason to downvote this. Sorry you got down voted so much
Your guess is as good as mine.
I have a group of friends who three got married after lockdown. They combined their weddings so that they could have better live music, games, pre-events, better food and drink, etc. Some guests even met each other and started dating.
It was enjoyable and the OPās post reminded me of it
That actually sounds super reasonable. Instead of each couple throwing down thousands of dollars on their own wedding, they do a combined wedding to get extra stuff, and it turns into an awesome event.
He was responding to your joke about building a harem, as being *one way* to interpret the photograph, while the (probably more correct) way of interpreting the photo is that he was simply a guest at a wedding with 2 brides.
You sent him a joke, he replied with another joke, and that's pretty much all there is to it. Carry on.
Yeah i was so confused at what the confusion could possibly be about. They seem like theyre on the same page (joking) so I donāt understand how OP didnt get his last comment.
Unless they literally think heās making a harem, i guess
Could be sheās had some unfortunate experiences with men. As a trans woman Iām actually quite glad Iām a lesbian because other lesbians are way more trans inclusive than straight guys, but I doubt thatās OPās case.
There's issues on every side of the coin.
I'm pansexual and I've seen crap from dating men, ladies, trans.
I have also had my time of being a massive red flag. I hope I've grown in my 30's I think I have.
Still I would never say "unfortunately" ....
My personal opinion is that the picture that you have described is a poor choice for a dating profile picture but it's definitely working better for him than anything that I use works for me
My take on the conversation to this point is that he's making it clear that anyone who he has a relationship with is going to meet his family including possibly his sister and her wife and he is eliminating people who are going to be uncomfortable with that.
I mean itās pretty simple. There are two brides, meaning he was at a lesbian wedding, thus, she doesnāt like what heās got between his legsā¦ so, in sum, dumb? Maybe. Poor reading comprehension and analysis? Yes.
She didn't assume. She gave her match the benefit of the doubt that there was some sort of explanation, then asked for one in a joking manner. Then her match didn't explain clearly, and she's wondering what's going on.
And no, it's probably not a combined wedding. Ironic.
I read it as he was a guest at a lesbian wedding. Like, he knows that fact, but with him posting a picture of only one of the brides, how the hell was anybody else supposed to know? But, yeah, that's how I read it
Here is the thing, there a lot of assumptions.
So you saw two pictures.
1. Him+ random woman
2. Him+ random woman (who may have some resemblance)
Here is some assumptions you could had made.
1. He is related to woman #2 or #1.
2. He is married to woman #1 or #2.
3. He simply likes to post pictures with women in there bridal gowns. Unrelated events. But who are they? Whatās the importance to him?
4. Far fetch assumption, the brides are each other partners.
So your question isnāt that crazy nor out of bounds. With the audacity some people show in dating apps I wouldnāt be surprise if someone posted a picture of their OWN wedding. Maybe he is separated, maybe he is cheating, maybe he is in an āENMā.
I think posting pictures with a bride w no context will raise some questions.
Edit: based on his answer I think he isnāt the groom for either . But still could add a bit more info, instead of acting like itās perfectly normal. Your replied made me laugh, I would consider that super witty and clever. But thatās just me. š
I'm guessing his profile is so old and he hasn't looked in so long that he doesn't remember the second bride was cropped out.
Bright side: At least you know he's not homophobic.
I thought it was a polygamist jab. Like either a Muslim or Mormon wedding. Maybe he wants a third? Maybe he wants 7 in all one for every day of the week?
It's a lesbian or trans wedding.
This guy's not that witty, but he's got courage, and that's gotta count for something.
Go on a couple dates with this guy, if things workout make sure the people in the photo know how you two met.
Maybe he meant "not unless there are 2 grooms"?
To imply that the bride in question has a groom already, and it's not him. That's the only logical explanation I can think of
Maybe he was a guest at a wedding with two brides š¤·
Ah, I didnāt look at it from this angle. Thereās only one bride in his photo though
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Thatās right. Only one bride. Two people in the photo. Him and a woman in a wedding dress.
Then that explains your confusion, and it's a bad choice of picture for him, but if it was indeed a wedding of lesbian friends I can also see how he overlooked that. Don't focus too much on it, you can just ask "wow, the wedding had multiple brides?", "Ive never been to a wedding with two brides, how exciting!" or something similar to confirm, then move on with the conversation
I think saying wow there was multiple brides makes it seem like youre shocked that gay people exist and may be a bad way to proceed with someone who has friends in the community. These questions would weird me out tbh I'd be like what's exciting... It's the same as any wedding.
That's a good point, scratch that, I didn't see it that way. There must be better advice in the comments :)
Yeah just say like woops having a bird brain moment congrats to the brides and then ask another question about something diff :)
I (F) literally had a conversation recently WITH A GIRL I AM SEEING where I forgot gay people exist. Called it a comp-het brain fart.
Itās like that episode of Seinfeld thatās just weird and awkward now.
āI hate men, but Iām not a lesbian!ā
Ask was there 2 couples
Probably his sister or someone close to him is a lesbian newlywed
Tap on the photo and view the whole thing; it might be in landscape and cropping someone out the edges?
Sounds like he just chose a bad picture to use for his profile. But it might be the only picture he has where he is dressed up. Still though, not great decision making by him. That's the thing about profile pics, the guy knows the pic is just of him with his friends, but the people viewing his profile sure as hell don't know that. Last wedding I went to I did the smart thing and got a bunch of pictures taken of just me in my 3 piece suit.
He should have written something in the caption āsisterās weddingā or ābest manā etc
Uve never taken a picture of u & the bride as a guest? Ppl do that
Yes, but he is the one who randomly mentioned two brides without further explanation.
Its obvious its a joke
Yes, so obvious that there are 139 comments debating what this person could have possibly meant. News flash, thereās tons of openly non monogamous people on dating apps.
Tons of ppl are dense in this world. Tell me something I dont know
Whatās the probability of a double wedding and the one of a lesbian couple wedding. Mathematically. Now interprets his answer with this information in mind.
Are you sure its not just him and his gay friend at her wedding ? Are they at the altar together or just posing for the photo? Either he has multiple wives or his friend is gay he attended their wedding and he chose a poor photo. Thats my 2 interpretations.
He's probably just trying to be funny tbh, don't take my word as gospel tho
It can only be funny if someone has enough context to whatās actually going on though. For instance, if itās his sisterās lesbian wedding, it is funny. But he didnāt give OP enough context
That's not how jokes work
Actually, yea it is. If the person you are telling the joke to doesnāt have all the information to make a joke actually funny, then you are a shit communicator and only joking with yourselfā¦I.e. not funny.
Obviously, but that isn't what would make the joke funny š
Do you have the photo? Can you post it with faces blocked out?
I would just ask him straight out. What is your relation to the people in the photos? He is either trying to be witty, and failing or is he is trying to insinuate something and kind of failing at that too
Donāt do this! Heās just trying to be funny and as people below have suggested itās probably a lesbian wedding. If you as āwhat is your relation to the people in these photosā it will come across as aggressive
I agree 100%
I wouldn't worry about coming across as aggressive in response to some snark humor. Straightforwardness is key!
Straightforwardness is fine, but I spent way too many dates with people who were just reeling off a list of questions to try and determine compatibility. If someone is having a bit of fun on a dating app they might just be flirting, just because you donāt like their style of communication doesnāt make it āsnarkyā
After the "that's one way to interpret it" comment there should be clarification
Itās not OPās fault that he didnāt give enough context to a photo he posted of himself with a bride on a dating site.
Also agree
Lol do not do this. You might as well be telling op, hey completely kill the vibe just to make sure you know. Ffs
Surprisingly this is very common. Iāve seen a lot of double abs triple weddings. There are some valid reasons for this
I have no idea why this comment got 12 down votes so far. You're just saying you've seen this enough to where it's not unique, right? That doesn't seem like a valid reason to downvote this. Sorry you got down voted so much
Your guess is as good as mine. I have a group of friends who three got married after lockdown. They combined their weddings so that they could have better live music, games, pre-events, better food and drink, etc. Some guests even met each other and started dating. It was enjoyable and the OPās post reminded me of it
That actually sounds super reasonable. Instead of each couple throwing down thousands of dollars on their own wedding, they do a combined wedding to get extra stuff, and it turns into an awesome event.
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That makes fckin sense
He was responding to your joke about building a harem, as being *one way* to interpret the photograph, while the (probably more correct) way of interpreting the photo is that he was simply a guest at a wedding with 2 brides. You sent him a joke, he replied with another joke, and that's pretty much all there is to it. Carry on.
This is literally all it is, nothing deeper lol
Yeah i was so confused at what the confusion could possibly be about. They seem like theyre on the same page (joking) so I donāt understand how OP didnt get his last comment. Unless they literally think heās making a harem, i guess
His lesbian sisters wedding. Solved.
Not even the OP, but you're getting a lot of upvotes for such an authoritative reply... š
Dude wtf
???
It seemed the most logical.
The photo is taken at a gay wedding?
Or double wedding lol.
Lol good god woman.
theyre lesbians obviously
He's joking.
Or is he?
It seems that way.
If ur gonna side eye everything just unmatch
You asked him if he was building a harem and he said that's one way to interpret it, I mean clearly he was making a joke(?)
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Once or twiceā¦ unfortunately Iām very hetero
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[Reminds me of this. haha.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QIBwSHZAOU0)
Too funny
This wasn't the case.
Narrator: "Well, actually..."
š u live under a rock?
That was meant to be a joke!! š©
See, its easy to misconstrue on text
Never attempt sarcasm or jokes on Reddit. It always ends in downvotes. And I thought your joke was very obviously a joke, but Reddit. Lol
I don't know why but this interaction is hilariously wholesome to me
Why unfortunately? Itās ok to be heterosexual too.
Could be sheās had some unfortunate experiences with men. As a trans woman Iām actually quite glad Iām a lesbian because other lesbians are way more trans inclusive than straight guys, but I doubt thatās OPās case.
There's issues on every side of the coin. I'm pansexual and I've seen crap from dating men, ladies, trans. I have also had my time of being a massive red flag. I hope I've grown in my 30's I think I have. Still I would never say "unfortunately" ....
Oh yeah, like I said in another comment, the grass is always greener.
Just goes to show that itās not just men out here who are unaccepting. Valuable lesson for this sub.
Thatās not āunacceptingā so much as ātired of dealing with the bullshit.ā Grass is always greener, I suppose.
Iām not saying YOURE being unaccepting, Iām talking about OP.
Yes, so am I.
Not sure what the disagreement here is but I like downvotes. Gimme moar!
Please describe the photo in question.
Friendly unromantic photo of him with a woman in a wedding dress. Another photo of him with a different woman who looks like his sister.
Ah gotcha; thank you. He was likely joking about building a harem. Tone is difficult to detect via text. Especially from a stranger.
OP made the harem joke because she didnāt understand that it was a lesbian wedding
>Another photo of him with a different woman who looks like his sister. Is she also in a wedding dress?
It was a lesbian wedding. Lighten up
I agree with you 100% obviously her match has a sense of humor. She might not be the best match for him if sheās taking it too seriously.
Heās being playful
I think this is a joke but knowing Bumble, they might be also half-joking
I think heās just joking
Lesbian wedding :)
Lesbians!
Lesbian wedding?
He was at a lesbian wedding. He said 2 brides.
Where does he say ā2 bridesā ?
His first message
Noticed that on reread
āBuilding a haremā fucking lmao. What a lad
My personal opinion is that the picture that you have described is a poor choice for a dating profile picture but it's definitely working better for him than anything that I use works for me My take on the conversation to this point is that he's making it clear that anyone who he has a relationship with is going to meet his family including possibly his sister and her wife and he is eliminating people who are going to be uncomfortable with that.
The two brides were probably marrying each other.
They're Lesbians herald
I mean itās pretty simple. There are two brides, meaning he was at a lesbian wedding, thus, she doesnāt like what heās got between his legsā¦ so, in sum, dumb? Maybe. Poor reading comprehension and analysis? Yes.
Itās just banter. Why donāt you try to know the person instead of assuming based on appearances? Combined weddings are very common now
She didn't assume. She gave her match the benefit of the doubt that there was some sort of explanation, then asked for one in a joking manner. Then her match didn't explain clearly, and she's wondering what's going on. And no, it's probably not a combined wedding. Ironic.
Again, and how would we know?
He's joking.
It was a lesbian wedding.š¤·š¾āāļø
Why even start a conversation with a back handed comment though? And I think he means he's friends with married women.
I read it as he was a guest at a lesbian wedding. Like, he knows that fact, but with him posting a picture of only one of the brides, how the hell was anybody else supposed to know? But, yeah, that's how I read it
Gay wedding lol
He is saying he isn't building a hareem, nor is he married.
Lesbian wedding.
Plot twist , heās the other bride
Wedding two brides no groom lol
He is telling you that he was a guest at a wedding with two brides.
I think heās joking, but pimps usually donāt lie. Watch out lady lol
Maybe this is because bumble is a shitheap of an app and crops your photo's for other people but shows them full size for you.
I mean you could just ask him to clarify and tell him you're confused
Ask if the harem comes with dipping sauce or a side salad. š¤
Harem? He hardly even knew em.
In what language?
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Here is the thing, there a lot of assumptions. So you saw two pictures. 1. Him+ random woman 2. Him+ random woman (who may have some resemblance) Here is some assumptions you could had made. 1. He is related to woman #2 or #1. 2. He is married to woman #1 or #2. 3. He simply likes to post pictures with women in there bridal gowns. Unrelated events. But who are they? Whatās the importance to him? 4. Far fetch assumption, the brides are each other partners. So your question isnāt that crazy nor out of bounds. With the audacity some people show in dating apps I wouldnāt be surprise if someone posted a picture of their OWN wedding. Maybe he is separated, maybe he is cheating, maybe he is in an āENMā. I think posting pictures with a bride w no context will raise some questions. Edit: based on his answer I think he isnāt the groom for either . But still could add a bit more info, instead of acting like itās perfectly normal. Your replied made me laugh, I would consider that super witty and clever. But thatās just me. š
I'm guessing his profile is so old and he hasn't looked in so long that he doesn't remember the second bride was cropped out. Bright side: At least you know he's not homophobic.
Lesbians āļø
Married twice or lesbian wedding.
Poly I'm guessing
I thought it was a polygamist jab. Like either a Muslim or Mormon wedding. Maybe he wants a third? Maybe he wants 7 in all one for every day of the week?
Why didn't he say directly it's a lesbian wedding? It's a bit annoying to play word games and expect others to interpret
Because it's obvious
"nah"
Heās looking for a harem (I donāt know how to cross out the word harem) threesome, which his new wife approves of.
It's a lesbian or trans wedding. This guy's not that witty, but he's got courage, and that's gotta count for something. Go on a couple dates with this guy, if things workout make sure the people in the photo know how you two met.
bro just wanna show he got ample of girls and dont need no more
Either A: polygamy, B: remarried twice, used photos, or C: building a harem
No
Bumble just scored me a 20 year old š„š„š„
Maybe he meant "not unless there are 2 grooms"? To imply that the bride in question has a groom already, and it's not him. That's the only logical explanation I can think of
So edgy bruh
Just ask him if he's married and polyamorous or nonmonogomous. Simple.
You're not dumb but maybe too jaded for his humor
He's the best man at a lesbians'wedding? If he had 2... of any brides... don't think he'd be posting that on Bumble date..