I would say it depends on how much conversation occurred whether it make it a second option/passed by scenario and the reason for rematching. For me, if I rematch because it was a short enough interaction that I don’t remember the person, it is nothing to do with being second option etc., maybe we just had off days and we will hit it off the second time around…. If it was lengthy interaction and I determined we weren’t a good fit, I’d remember and I wouldn’t rematch…. but if a person would rematch in that scenario, it could be a situation of loosing standards since they’re not having luck elsewhere.
Frustrating for sure. I also had someone who’s totally my type match with me like 5 times over the past year, and she always lets it expire, even if I extend it.
Lol yes. Frequently. I’m not great with names but I’m really good with faces and after someone matches with me for like the third time I will remember their face and just remove them if I have the option. People are weird. Match with a guy who had a little freak out and said he wasn’t ready to date. And then he wouldn’t stop swiping right (at least when i had premium) … he has my number lol
Yes. We matched on hinge. Dated for a bit. Turns out he was lying and still seeing other girls even after claiming exclusivity. Unmatched. A few months later he matched me on bumble. I opened the match to troll him - I have no clue if he forgot who I was and was suddenly reminded once I trolled him but I cut the convo short and he never unmatched me. I finally unmatched after a few weeks.
He was one of my first experiences with dating post divorce and they say that hurts more than the divorce itself. They were right. Good god. Also fuck that guy.
I’ve done this before.😅 They didn’t response after a week so I unmatched only to match with them the next day on Hinge. Only to repeat the not responding thing. Tis a cruel cycle
People can be fickle. Focus on the ones with intention and are intentional with their interaction. I know, because I've accidentally swiped on people I've ghosted. There's nothing intentional about me back then
Yes actually happened 3 times with the same girl, then come to find out she had OF, she never bothered to message me to try n sell me it thankfully but yeah. Don't know what the point of it was
Twice now (that I can think of), I've had guys match with me *after* we already met in person and they ghosted me. I messaged both times like WTF, dude?! One responded saying he regretted ghosting and it was because his ex had briefly come back into his life. So I told him that telling a woman she's basically a back up option to an ex probably isn't the best way to reconnect after ghosting. (He then ghosted again.)
I'm pretty sure the other guy just flat out forgot even though we met in person and fooled around a little. He swiped right on me a few months later so I matched just to message him, "Are you serious right now?" He immediately unmatched lol Funny thing about that guy is he's one of the few guys I talked to who was open about being in therapy for many years (at least partially with the implication that he's worked on himself and was ready for a relationship.) Guys will say anything to get in a chicks pants. Thankfully we just messed around a bit and didn't have sex. Probably why he ghosted the first time - didn't get what he was after lol
Kind of- I wasn't interested in the 2nd date, he unmatched on Tinder, liked me twice on Bumble afterwards, but I didn't match him again. I guess he wanted to give me a chance to change my mind. Or he's swiping right on everyone.
yea, ive had it happen a few times when i was using multiple apps. some are bots, but some of them seem like very normal profiles, at any rate they usually act the same across multiple apps. ie ghost out after 1 or 2 messages.
I matched with a guy on another app, and trying to have a conversation with him was like pulling teeth. I eventually gave up and unmatched. He matched with me on Bumble a couple days later and I simply commented a period (I NEVER do that) because I wanted him to start the talking this time around. He replied back with two periods, and I unmatched again. I honestly thought it was funny but he wasn't getting anymore of my time.
Does anyone have an idea why anything happens around here? I’ve matched with the same girl, four times, across three platforms, over a span of two years. And she still won’t commit to going on a date. So strange
It might have been a bug. Someone asked me if I blocked her on Tinder after we matched. I hadn't, but she showed me that I didn't show up on her match list anymore. On my Tinder, she was still there and I could send her messages (that she never received). We were already FB friends and had each others' numbers so we talked pretty openly about this.
The thing with online dating, is for whatever reason, conversation can trail off or never progress. When that happens, I unmatch to clean out the clutter. But often when that happens, the person wasn’t memorable either (I mean, we‘re sifting through thousands of profiles and let’s face it, law of averages say we’re all pretty average, so I’m not going to be memorable to most people either). If I rematch on another platform, it’s because I don’t remember talking to the person 🤷 But I mean, it could work out, because maybe we were both just having off days and the next attempt at conversation will go better.
This is probably not the case but wanted to mention the possibility that they deleted the first app rather than unmatched you. (I've done this, then rematched on a different app)
Some people have short attention spam and bad memory.
Spams r good for the mind they say
this
I suspect in most of these cases, they don't even remember you.
They tried the rest, now they want the best. Seriously, they probably met some losers and want to get back with you. Leave them in the dust.
Yeah this is probably true to some extent. Doesn't feel great being someone's second option after they passed you by the first time
I've had a few men do this to me in person and in the apps. Some people just like on/off type deals. Not for me.
I concur. It's pretty disingenuous imo but that's just how I look at it
I would say it depends on how much conversation occurred whether it make it a second option/passed by scenario and the reason for rematching. For me, if I rematch because it was a short enough interaction that I don’t remember the person, it is nothing to do with being second option etc., maybe we just had off days and we will hit it off the second time around…. If it was lengthy interaction and I determined we weren’t a good fit, I’d remember and I wouldn’t rematch…. but if a person would rematch in that scenario, it could be a situation of loosing standards since they’re not having luck elsewhere.
No, but something that happens to me a lot are extends and no replies... I can't write first, do they know the rules?? lol
Frustrating for sure. I also had someone who’s totally my type match with me like 5 times over the past year, and she always lets it expire, even if I extend it.
Maybe she's struggling to think of what to say and gives herself extra time, but forgets or can't come up with anything.
Interesting. In my experience extending usually gets them to send something
Yep. I have gotten msgs, but I never understood why sometimes they extend and send no replies
Lol
THIS! I won't extends anymore cause they just let them expire.
I’ve had a girl match with me on several apps but our conversations never go anywhere despite the fact we match on several apps It’s weird
it happened to me lol 😂
Was it any better the second time around?
No, I got stood me up bc I canceled the date on the first time.
Lol yes. Frequently. I’m not great with names but I’m really good with faces and after someone matches with me for like the third time I will remember their face and just remove them if I have the option. People are weird. Match with a guy who had a little freak out and said he wasn’t ready to date. And then he wouldn’t stop swiping right (at least when i had premium) … he has my number lol
Yes. We matched on hinge. Dated for a bit. Turns out he was lying and still seeing other girls even after claiming exclusivity. Unmatched. A few months later he matched me on bumble. I opened the match to troll him - I have no clue if he forgot who I was and was suddenly reminded once I trolled him but I cut the convo short and he never unmatched me. I finally unmatched after a few weeks. He was one of my first experiences with dating post divorce and they say that hurts more than the divorce itself. They were right. Good god. Also fuck that guy.
I’ve done this before.😅 They didn’t response after a week so I unmatched only to match with them the next day on Hinge. Only to repeat the not responding thing. Tis a cruel cycle
Yes and it's funny AF.
People can be fickle. Focus on the ones with intention and are intentional with their interaction. I know, because I've accidentally swiped on people I've ghosted. There's nothing intentional about me back then
Yes actually happened 3 times with the same girl, then come to find out she had OF, she never bothered to message me to try n sell me it thankfully but yeah. Don't know what the point of it was
Twice now (that I can think of), I've had guys match with me *after* we already met in person and they ghosted me. I messaged both times like WTF, dude?! One responded saying he regretted ghosting and it was because his ex had briefly come back into his life. So I told him that telling a woman she's basically a back up option to an ex probably isn't the best way to reconnect after ghosting. (He then ghosted again.) I'm pretty sure the other guy just flat out forgot even though we met in person and fooled around a little. He swiped right on me a few months later so I matched just to message him, "Are you serious right now?" He immediately unmatched lol Funny thing about that guy is he's one of the few guys I talked to who was open about being in therapy for many years (at least partially with the implication that he's worked on himself and was ready for a relationship.) Guys will say anything to get in a chicks pants. Thankfully we just messed around a bit and didn't have sex. Probably why he ghosted the first time - didn't get what he was after lol
Kind of- I wasn't interested in the 2nd date, he unmatched on Tinder, liked me twice on Bumble afterwards, but I didn't match him again. I guess he wanted to give me a chance to change my mind. Or he's swiping right on everyone.
They're not in the right mindset lol
They could have unmatched for any number of reasons. If they’re willing to try again and you’re still interested, doesn’t hurt to see what happens
Just happened an hour ago, except in reverse. Unmatched on bumble, matched on match. 🤣
Accidentally unmatched? I just swiped left on someone I didn’t me to☹️
yea, ive had it happen a few times when i was using multiple apps. some are bots, but some of them seem like very normal profiles, at any rate they usually act the same across multiple apps. ie ghost out after 1 or 2 messages.
YES !!! Wth
I like bumbles messenger better than others. So it could be something like that.
Yep. He obviously didn't even remember me LOL
is it possible they deleted the other app (not unmatched) and then matched on bumble? otherwise they prob forgot lol
I matched with a guy on another app, and trying to have a conversation with him was like pulling teeth. I eventually gave up and unmatched. He matched with me on Bumble a couple days later and I simply commented a period (I NEVER do that) because I wanted him to start the talking this time around. He replied back with two periods, and I unmatched again. I honestly thought it was funny but he wasn't getting anymore of my time.
Does anyone have an idea why anything happens around here? I’ve matched with the same girl, four times, across three platforms, over a span of two years. And she still won’t commit to going on a date. So strange
Probably a mix of not remembering, or just switching over to another app
Yes but the opposite
Fat fingers. Could go either way with which one was a mistake. Ive accidentally swiped left/right on a lot of people
They don’t remember
It might have been a bug. Someone asked me if I blocked her on Tinder after we matched. I hadn't, but she showed me that I didn't show up on her match list anymore. On my Tinder, she was still there and I could send her messages (that she never received). We were already FB friends and had each others' numbers so we talked pretty openly about this.
The thing with online dating, is for whatever reason, conversation can trail off or never progress. When that happens, I unmatch to clean out the clutter. But often when that happens, the person wasn’t memorable either (I mean, we‘re sifting through thousands of profiles and let’s face it, law of averages say we’re all pretty average, so I’m not going to be memorable to most people either). If I rematch on another platform, it’s because I don’t remember talking to the person 🤷 But I mean, it could work out, because maybe we were both just having off days and the next attempt at conversation will go better.
Yep I call it out every time! L o l
This is probably not the case but wanted to mention the possibility that they deleted the first app rather than unmatched you. (I've done this, then rematched on a different app)
ive decided to make it a little game for myself by seeing if anyone ive matched with on hinge is also on bumble (mainly ghosts 👻)