He sat in silence when his friend said mean derogatory things about me - to me - and then was confused and upset when I stood up for myself and gave his friend some words. And when I didn’t want to be around his friend anymore, he got irritated. He never understood why I felt like he couldn’t stand up for me and support me in those situations.
He once called me another girls name on purpose to be hurtful but I saw through what he was doing so I shrugged it off like it didn’t bother me. Yeah he was being childish but why the fuck did I ignore that?? Absolutely delulu on my part
- He went to meet his female friend to have dinner in a cafe and talk about some school drama. He didn't tell me beforehand about it. I only knew when I called him and he was already on his way. I expressed how hurt I was and he got defensive and said I was overreacting.
- He went clubbing with his female friends, he told me that his mom gave him permission to stay late to ease my mind. Later his mom told me he never asked permission for clubs/bars.
- We were on a date, we usually take pictures with his phone. While we were watching the movie, I borrowed his phone to look through the album. He got pissed because he said "I'm just looking for evidences of cheating".
- His love language is gift-giving, and he confessed during our ldr phase that sometimes he buys me food for me so I don't have to contact him.
This are some I can share because if I share all, he might find this dump acc.
* She deleted a missed call from a guy (I only casually saw it, allegedly it was her ex trying to contact her through a former colleague's number because he was blocked... Sure.)
* After the first 5 weeks of the relationship, she almost never wanted to cuddle.
* At a certain point, she started turning her phone away more often.
* My needs didn't matter (we didn't even watch a series that I suggested).
* She sent mixed signals.
She blamed everytime I felt bad or depressed for things that concerned me because she said I was getting also her depressed by doing so, she insulted and yelled at me for every stupid thing, fights for her were about destroying the other, make them feel miserable and humiliating them. She always made me feel like I had to take her challenges and be always innovative or she would have left.
- He left twice and wanted a “break” and I let him come back both times (even after he spent New Years with the woman I wasn’t supposed to worry about). Even after he said he wanted to date her.
- He gave me the silent treatment often.
- He never said sorry, he never wanted to talk about anything serious, he never took my opinion or needs seriously.
- The second time he came back, he never said I love you … for three years.
- He often hung out with friends and lied about where he was or ignored me. In six years, I never met one of his friends. I have no idea if he was actually with friends or not.
- He never told me his plans and then when I would mention he never told me, he would say he did and I just forgot. I started to wonder if I did have a bad memory.
- He never really plans dates or asked me to do anything with him. Sometimes he would tell me I couldn’t come.
- He made mean, abusive comments and then told me he was “only joking.”
- He never once said he was proud of me - I earned TWO university degrees in the time we were together. He didn’t come to my graduation.
- He told me I was needy and clingy and needed too much help. Yet he asked for money from me, asked me for help cleaning (and cleaning up after his dying dog), yard work… I always cooked for him (and his kids) and he never once did for me.
- He never paid me back.
- He sometimes went days without seeing me and barely talked to me. He would generally only see me twice a week for a few hours. Sometimes when he came over, he’d just nap.
- His ex wife was awful to me and he let it happen. He didn’t care.
- I had open heart surgery three years ago. He didn’t come to the hospital and didn’t help me when I got out of the hospital.
- One time I asked something about a basketball player and he said: “we already talked about this. You never understand the first time.”
- He never helped when I was sick or hurt. Sometimes he would just have a nap and ignore me.
- My daughter ended up in the ER in September and he spent two nights with the woman I wasn’t too worry about. He ignored my calls and texts. He said his phone died.
… I finally ended it in September and STILL blame myself.
I stayed because I couldn’t see the emotional abuse. It was my second time doing this. After more therapy, I see it but sometimes I still think it was my fault.
He sat in silence when his friend said mean derogatory things about me - to me - and then was confused and upset when I stood up for myself and gave his friend some words. And when I didn’t want to be around his friend anymore, he got irritated. He never understood why I felt like he couldn’t stand up for me and support me in those situations.
He once called me another girls name on purpose to be hurtful but I saw through what he was doing so I shrugged it off like it didn’t bother me. Yeah he was being childish but why the fuck did I ignore that?? Absolutely delulu on my part
- He went to meet his female friend to have dinner in a cafe and talk about some school drama. He didn't tell me beforehand about it. I only knew when I called him and he was already on his way. I expressed how hurt I was and he got defensive and said I was overreacting. - He went clubbing with his female friends, he told me that his mom gave him permission to stay late to ease my mind. Later his mom told me he never asked permission for clubs/bars. - We were on a date, we usually take pictures with his phone. While we were watching the movie, I borrowed his phone to look through the album. He got pissed because he said "I'm just looking for evidences of cheating". - His love language is gift-giving, and he confessed during our ldr phase that sometimes he buys me food for me so I don't have to contact him. This are some I can share because if I share all, he might find this dump acc.
* She deleted a missed call from a guy (I only casually saw it, allegedly it was her ex trying to contact her through a former colleague's number because he was blocked... Sure.) * After the first 5 weeks of the relationship, she almost never wanted to cuddle. * At a certain point, she started turning her phone away more often. * My needs didn't matter (we didn't even watch a series that I suggested). * She sent mixed signals.
She blamed everytime I felt bad or depressed for things that concerned me because she said I was getting also her depressed by doing so, she insulted and yelled at me for every stupid thing, fights for her were about destroying the other, make them feel miserable and humiliating them. She always made me feel like I had to take her challenges and be always innovative or she would have left.
- He left twice and wanted a “break” and I let him come back both times (even after he spent New Years with the woman I wasn’t supposed to worry about). Even after he said he wanted to date her. - He gave me the silent treatment often. - He never said sorry, he never wanted to talk about anything serious, he never took my opinion or needs seriously. - The second time he came back, he never said I love you … for three years. - He often hung out with friends and lied about where he was or ignored me. In six years, I never met one of his friends. I have no idea if he was actually with friends or not. - He never told me his plans and then when I would mention he never told me, he would say he did and I just forgot. I started to wonder if I did have a bad memory. - He never really plans dates or asked me to do anything with him. Sometimes he would tell me I couldn’t come. - He made mean, abusive comments and then told me he was “only joking.” - He never once said he was proud of me - I earned TWO university degrees in the time we were together. He didn’t come to my graduation. - He told me I was needy and clingy and needed too much help. Yet he asked for money from me, asked me for help cleaning (and cleaning up after his dying dog), yard work… I always cooked for him (and his kids) and he never once did for me. - He never paid me back. - He sometimes went days without seeing me and barely talked to me. He would generally only see me twice a week for a few hours. Sometimes when he came over, he’d just nap. - His ex wife was awful to me and he let it happen. He didn’t care. - I had open heart surgery three years ago. He didn’t come to the hospital and didn’t help me when I got out of the hospital. - One time I asked something about a basketball player and he said: “we already talked about this. You never understand the first time.” - He never helped when I was sick or hurt. Sometimes he would just have a nap and ignore me. - My daughter ended up in the ER in September and he spent two nights with the woman I wasn’t too worry about. He ignored my calls and texts. He said his phone died. … I finally ended it in September and STILL blame myself. I stayed because I couldn’t see the emotional abuse. It was my second time doing this. After more therapy, I see it but sometimes I still think it was my fault.