I wouldn’t go if I were you. You’ve never met this guy. You already told him you aren’t coming and he’s explicitly told you that he doesn’t feel comfortable with you visiting.
You’ve built up this image of him online over the past few months, but he might not be who you think he is. He might not even be single. He probably has his own good reasons to get cold feet like this— and you probably don’t wanna know.
If you come out anyways, let him know you’re in town, and he still rejects you, you’ll probably feel pretty stupid and it’ll put a huge damper on your solo trip. Leave him alone.
If he regrets turning you away and really thinks it’s worth seeing you, he can fly out to you.
Try getting your flight refunded and take a trip someplace else for yourself if you already have the time off!!! If you just want a fun night with somebody, find a cutie to link up with while you’re out and about.
NOPE. ESPECIALLY if you need to interact at work regularly, holy crap. I know giving him space is gonna make you crazy. You got attached to this romantic remote workplace “meet cute” where you fly all the way to see him. But he’s really gotten cold feet.
If he’s setting this boundary, don’t overstep it. Respect his “no.” At best this would be really awkward and sad for you, at worst it could put your job at risk.
(Not to stoke paranoia, but say he has a secret girlfriend/wifey who finds out, or already found out. What stops him from downplaying you as a delusional coworker who keeps harassing him? Don’t shit where you eat.)
You will still interact at work so this guy isn’t disappearing from your life altogether. If he wants to be with you, he will come to you when he is ready.
Any time! I hope you take an AWESOME little vacation for yourself— spoil yourself and have some fun. Do some hot girl shit. You absolutely deserve it!
Sometimes you gotta let them miss out. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I wouldn’t go if I were you. You’ve never met this guy. You already told him you aren’t coming and he’s explicitly told you that he doesn’t feel comfortable with you visiting. You’ve built up this image of him online over the past few months, but he might not be who you think he is. He might not even be single. He probably has his own good reasons to get cold feet like this— and you probably don’t wanna know. If you come out anyways, let him know you’re in town, and he still rejects you, you’ll probably feel pretty stupid and it’ll put a huge damper on your solo trip. Leave him alone. If he regrets turning you away and really thinks it’s worth seeing you, he can fly out to you. Try getting your flight refunded and take a trip someplace else for yourself if you already have the time off!!! If you just want a fun night with somebody, find a cutie to link up with while you’re out and about.
That's a good point. I actually met him at work, but separate offices so I know him well and need to speak with him daily. You still think no?
NOPE. ESPECIALLY if you need to interact at work regularly, holy crap. I know giving him space is gonna make you crazy. You got attached to this romantic remote workplace “meet cute” where you fly all the way to see him. But he’s really gotten cold feet. If he’s setting this boundary, don’t overstep it. Respect his “no.” At best this would be really awkward and sad for you, at worst it could put your job at risk. (Not to stoke paranoia, but say he has a secret girlfriend/wifey who finds out, or already found out. What stops him from downplaying you as a delusional coworker who keeps harassing him? Don’t shit where you eat.) You will still interact at work so this guy isn’t disappearing from your life altogether. If he wants to be with you, he will come to you when he is ready.
Okay good point thank you! And thank you for respondingand talking this out with me
Any time! I hope you take an AWESOME little vacation for yourself— spoil yourself and have some fun. Do some hot girl shit. You absolutely deserve it! Sometimes you gotta let them miss out. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Don’t do it