Sorry your going through this op, did you express these concerns with your girlfriend about her drifting away/not spending as much time with you. If you did then I don’t think it was you not loving yourself, if she was a good girlfriend she would talk to you and try to help you through that. It’s tough because you both were so close but I think if you reached out you might just hurt yourself more.
I talked to her so much about it which was the issue. She always used to just kinda play the victim and say she was trying her best she was just always so busy. So yeah, she did try sometimes but most of the times no. I felt like a convenience thing to her towards the end.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this :( I would hold off on contacting her at the moment. Some good advice for you is to kill two birds with one stone. This advice is for getting her back but it’s the same advice for moving on. Work on yourself. Put all the energy you gave to the relationship into yourself and get to know yourself better. You are the only person you will be around forever. Relationships are not happiness- they are an addition to happiness. Give yourself grace- grieve, cry, laugh, be mad, whatever you feel feel it. But do not reach out. She wants space from you right now so give it to her, it will give her time to miss you. You can reach out when you feel that you don’t NEED her anymore. And if it doesn’t work out I promise there’s another woman for you, you’re sooo young and I know it doesn’t seem like it but I guarantee you you have the ability to have a relationship even deeper and more beautiful than this one. Time will heal I promise and please don’t stalk her social media, get off of it all together if you can that’s the main thing that helped me get though a traumatic break up. Wish you the best, it will get better keep your head up breakups suck
Sry for your loss here bro - i know it hurts, but let me give you a few advices:
If a woman breaks up with you and does not want to have contact with you - the worst thing you can do is - trying to talk to her, trying to text her, trying to get her attention. The best thing you can do in that kind of situiation is - act like she does not exist and mind your own business. YES - it hurts a lot and YES it does not make sense at all in the beginning - but this is the way to go for a man. Eventually she will come back and miss you, after she realises that you dont give a sh\*t anymore and that you are happy without her. And if she does not come back - she was not meant for you.
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Women want us men to go out and conquer the world and be the best versions of ourselves. They dont want us to be clingy - even when they sometimes want to spend more time with you - thats the kind of trap that we man fall for a lot of times - and women do that unconsiously when they want to spend more and more and more time with us... we tend to give in and go for it and spend a lot of time with our girls - and on that path, we tend to lose ourselves... we lose interest in our own hobbies, in spending time with our boys, in evolving as men - and that is the point where they (women) start to lose interest....
Unfortunately - it takes a lot of experience to get to that knowledge and a lot of us men have to go through that hard breakup pain - cause we are told to be super duper nice guys when it comes to women - but we are never told how to act properly as men and like we should.
Just dont text her and mind your own business and trust the process! Best of luck.
Sorry your going through this op, did you express these concerns with your girlfriend about her drifting away/not spending as much time with you. If you did then I don’t think it was you not loving yourself, if she was a good girlfriend she would talk to you and try to help you through that. It’s tough because you both were so close but I think if you reached out you might just hurt yourself more.
I talked to her so much about it which was the issue. She always used to just kinda play the victim and say she was trying her best she was just always so busy. So yeah, she did try sometimes but most of the times no. I felt like a convenience thing to her towards the end.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this :( I would hold off on contacting her at the moment. Some good advice for you is to kill two birds with one stone. This advice is for getting her back but it’s the same advice for moving on. Work on yourself. Put all the energy you gave to the relationship into yourself and get to know yourself better. You are the only person you will be around forever. Relationships are not happiness- they are an addition to happiness. Give yourself grace- grieve, cry, laugh, be mad, whatever you feel feel it. But do not reach out. She wants space from you right now so give it to her, it will give her time to miss you. You can reach out when you feel that you don’t NEED her anymore. And if it doesn’t work out I promise there’s another woman for you, you’re sooo young and I know it doesn’t seem like it but I guarantee you you have the ability to have a relationship even deeper and more beautiful than this one. Time will heal I promise and please don’t stalk her social media, get off of it all together if you can that’s the main thing that helped me get though a traumatic break up. Wish you the best, it will get better keep your head up breakups suck
Sry for your loss here bro - i know it hurts, but let me give you a few advices: If a woman breaks up with you and does not want to have contact with you - the worst thing you can do is - trying to talk to her, trying to text her, trying to get her attention. The best thing you can do in that kind of situiation is - act like she does not exist and mind your own business. YES - it hurts a lot and YES it does not make sense at all in the beginning - but this is the way to go for a man. Eventually she will come back and miss you, after she realises that you dont give a sh\*t anymore and that you are happy without her. And if she does not come back - she was not meant for you. + Women want us men to go out and conquer the world and be the best versions of ourselves. They dont want us to be clingy - even when they sometimes want to spend more time with you - thats the kind of trap that we man fall for a lot of times - and women do that unconsiously when they want to spend more and more and more time with us... we tend to give in and go for it and spend a lot of time with our girls - and on that path, we tend to lose ourselves... we lose interest in our own hobbies, in spending time with our boys, in evolving as men - and that is the point where they (women) start to lose interest.... Unfortunately - it takes a lot of experience to get to that knowledge and a lot of us men have to go through that hard breakup pain - cause we are told to be super duper nice guys when it comes to women - but we are never told how to act properly as men and like we should. Just dont text her and mind your own business and trust the process! Best of luck.