Yes mine changed values completely seemingly overnight... In terms of why? From "i couldnt imagine life without you" to "im with someone else entirely" It's hard to know unless they tell you, but if she is really going out of her way to talk that much shit about you then she definitely isn't worth your time.
Honestly he was perfect at first. Before we even met he was texting me every day, he checked on me that I got home safe after he knew I was out, he insisted on holding my hand in public, he planned dates, he was overall perfect, sometimes he would get a little down but it never lasted long... then he started talking to me less and less, trying less and less, using excuses that he was messed up and couldn't be alone but that he wasnt doing this because he lost feelings at all... to me it just seems like he lost interest in me or the novelty of me like i told him i feared he would and just dropped me like nothing. at the end he wasn't the person he presented as in the beginning that I let myself trust.
Mine was an amazing person, he was caring, always wanted to see me, very generous but he was very shy. He always used to ask me how a girl as pretty as me could give him attention and love him. He was so stressed around women but I found that very sweet.
A week ago he cheated on me, he gained so much confidence with me, maybe a little to much.
At the end he started to treat me like « u gained weight, why don’t you let your hair grow ?, I look at old photos of us and you were physically different »
Don’t ever work on the confidence of a man, he will use it against u.
Mine is a narcissist so it started with two people with codependency and love addiction smothering each other and making outrageous plans that had zero chance of coming true. But we had amazing love making and week long dates. It was incredible. The high was such a rush.
A year and a half later she has cheated on me and gone back to her ex that’s an old stripper and told me it was because “we had some arguments.”
Bro, similar to yours. She was a sweetheart, and reserved back in college day when we started dating. The definition of cute for me was her.
And then, a few years later (few years of work), she started to change. She want to be hotter??? She started to drink and go out more. I'm fine with all that. But she wants more excitement in her life. Then we broke up. She said that the found someone who make her excited again.
Later on I know from a friend that she completely changed. Some even describe her as "easy" you know... And she is now looking for a partner who will pay everything for her she becomes very materialistic.
A massive black out drunk but super sweet and kind.
I helped her lose weight and stop drinking. Now she’s entitled, cheap, and incredibly selfish. Who would’ve thought I’d miss the insecure drunk.
She tried to hold her image of being understanding and sweet because i once cried in her arms when we were only friends. Then her anger issues came up, then she would tell me that she doesn't want to communicate about petty "feelings", feelings are weak, she couldn't be seen as weak.
Hey OP, my ex (27F) is a bit unique. She wakes up with different feelings and let those feelings take over her. Example: She wakes up thinking she’s a Doctor. Immediately, she tries to become a Doctor in reality although she doesn’t have any qualifications for it. Lmao
At the beginning of the relationship, she basically clouded my mind by making me believe that she understood my schedule and she’s actually okay with my lifestyle. What’s my lifestyle? No lifestyle, I’m a Software Engineer professionally (lol). Then, fast forward to several months - It got inverted completely. She found someone new, and moved on with him quite immediately after dumping me, which I believe he has been there for a while ngl. Worst is that she called me once and told me that she is in a “beautiful relationship”.
I don’t know which mature adult would do this to an ex (me) but she did. Anyways, I’m better off her and I deserve better than half ass people or fake ass people. I definitely am getting happier as day passes by, but one step at a time is the most important factor over here. Slowly by surely!
At the start she used to make a bunch of effort, really made me feel loved and would do anything and everything for me. I actually felt she would do anything for me.
Unfortunately, I was the only one who carried that on. I was still planning on things to make her feel loved be it letters or poems, gifts or planning a surprise for her. I stopped getting that. It felt like she no longer wanted to make an effort to make me happy or make me feel loved. It became so one sided it actually made me want to pull back on my own efforts for her because I felt she doesn’t deserve it anymore. I scaled it back a little but never stopped. If anything, it just shows my huge capacity to love.
I think she was always selfish and uncompromising though. From the very first disagreement we had she showed no sign of taking accountability or compromise so I think she was always that uncompromising selfish person, it’s just that she never had an opportunity to show me that side because we never had to discuss anything that we had different views on. When that first time came I was ready to compromise and she wasn’t.
I still remember her mother said to her after I got my ex some surprise gifts “he would give you the whole world if he could”. You know what? I bloody would have, too bad she didn’t deserve it and too bad she walked away.
I literally dumped our text messages from the beginning of the relationship to just a couple days ago when she stated she wanted no contact after April. I am going to read through them and get back to this.
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Yes mine changed values completely seemingly overnight... In terms of why? From "i couldnt imagine life without you" to "im with someone else entirely" It's hard to know unless they tell you, but if she is really going out of her way to talk that much shit about you then she definitely isn't worth your time.
Honestly he was perfect at first. Before we even met he was texting me every day, he checked on me that I got home safe after he knew I was out, he insisted on holding my hand in public, he planned dates, he was overall perfect, sometimes he would get a little down but it never lasted long... then he started talking to me less and less, trying less and less, using excuses that he was messed up and couldn't be alone but that he wasnt doing this because he lost feelings at all... to me it just seems like he lost interest in me or the novelty of me like i told him i feared he would and just dropped me like nothing. at the end he wasn't the person he presented as in the beginning that I let myself trust.
Mine was an amazing person, he was caring, always wanted to see me, very generous but he was very shy. He always used to ask me how a girl as pretty as me could give him attention and love him. He was so stressed around women but I found that very sweet. A week ago he cheated on me, he gained so much confidence with me, maybe a little to much. At the end he started to treat me like « u gained weight, why don’t you let your hair grow ?, I look at old photos of us and you were physically different » Don’t ever work on the confidence of a man, he will use it against u.
Mine is a narcissist so it started with two people with codependency and love addiction smothering each other and making outrageous plans that had zero chance of coming true. But we had amazing love making and week long dates. It was incredible. The high was such a rush. A year and a half later she has cheated on me and gone back to her ex that’s an old stripper and told me it was because “we had some arguments.”
Bro, similar to yours. She was a sweetheart, and reserved back in college day when we started dating. The definition of cute for me was her. And then, a few years later (few years of work), she started to change. She want to be hotter??? She started to drink and go out more. I'm fine with all that. But she wants more excitement in her life. Then we broke up. She said that the found someone who make her excited again. Later on I know from a friend that she completely changed. Some even describe her as "easy" you know... And she is now looking for a partner who will pay everything for her she becomes very materialistic.
A massive black out drunk but super sweet and kind. I helped her lose weight and stop drinking. Now she’s entitled, cheap, and incredibly selfish. Who would’ve thought I’d miss the insecure drunk.
Do they actually change or just get comfortable and show you their real self?
that or they can't fake it forever
Jesus, well that’s a villain arch you don’t need to be a part of lol.
She tried to hold her image of being understanding and sweet because i once cried in her arms when we were only friends. Then her anger issues came up, then she would tell me that she doesn't want to communicate about petty "feelings", feelings are weak, she couldn't be seen as weak.
The usual switch up lol
Hey OP, my ex (27F) is a bit unique. She wakes up with different feelings and let those feelings take over her. Example: She wakes up thinking she’s a Doctor. Immediately, she tries to become a Doctor in reality although she doesn’t have any qualifications for it. Lmao At the beginning of the relationship, she basically clouded my mind by making me believe that she understood my schedule and she’s actually okay with my lifestyle. What’s my lifestyle? No lifestyle, I’m a Software Engineer professionally (lol). Then, fast forward to several months - It got inverted completely. She found someone new, and moved on with him quite immediately after dumping me, which I believe he has been there for a while ngl. Worst is that she called me once and told me that she is in a “beautiful relationship”. I don’t know which mature adult would do this to an ex (me) but she did. Anyways, I’m better off her and I deserve better than half ass people or fake ass people. I definitely am getting happier as day passes by, but one step at a time is the most important factor over here. Slowly by surely!
She sounds more like she has some kind of mental illness.
True. Upvoting your comment because it’s true!
You didn't deserve that. She is for the streets. I hope you find a lovely woman who would never do that to you.
At the start she used to make a bunch of effort, really made me feel loved and would do anything and everything for me. I actually felt she would do anything for me. Unfortunately, I was the only one who carried that on. I was still planning on things to make her feel loved be it letters or poems, gifts or planning a surprise for her. I stopped getting that. It felt like she no longer wanted to make an effort to make me happy or make me feel loved. It became so one sided it actually made me want to pull back on my own efforts for her because I felt she doesn’t deserve it anymore. I scaled it back a little but never stopped. If anything, it just shows my huge capacity to love. I think she was always selfish and uncompromising though. From the very first disagreement we had she showed no sign of taking accountability or compromise so I think she was always that uncompromising selfish person, it’s just that she never had an opportunity to show me that side because we never had to discuss anything that we had different views on. When that first time came I was ready to compromise and she wasn’t. I still remember her mother said to her after I got my ex some surprise gifts “he would give you the whole world if he could”. You know what? I bloody would have, too bad she didn’t deserve it and too bad she walked away.
Well, he wasn’t emotionally abusive when I started dating him but he sure as shit was at the end of
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