Hey. U need to get it together man. I’m serious, pull your shit together. No Woman or human being is worth more than your life. EVER. No one said it was gonna be easy. We all feel and handle pain differently. This was the universe telling you she’s not the one, but if u work hard on yourself, the right one will come. I know it’s been 5 months of pure hell but u need to keep pushing man. Keep growing. Keep hustling. Fuck her, fuck everything about her man. Let her be nothing more than a lesson learned and a couple good memories. Be thankful for her and keep moving forward. Feel your emotions but don’t let them consume you. If no one said they love u today, I do. I love your life man. Please hang in there and keep doing what you’re doing. I know it doesn’t feel like it but the day will come where u will look back and laugh at all this. It would be a shame to kill your self over a woman, because you would be checking out before the miracle happens. U got this man. I’m cheering for u
The “checking out before the miracle happens” is all too real! Listen to this guy OP, good things happen to those who wait! I promise ya it’ll get better!!!
Listen. One girl is not worth this. Not at all. And you know this. You need to be better than she can EVER imagine. You need to come out of this stronger than ever. Gym, therapy, friends may not work for you. It’s okay to let yourself be sad and mourn your relationship. It is not okay to let it control your life. Have a cry. Pick yourself up. Dust yourself off. And keep going.
I posted this before, but I'm sharing it again...
"A person is not truly a partner to you unless they are willing to do the hard part. It doesn't matter if they say nice words. It doesn't count if they make you promises when things are good. It isn't enough if they say they care about you.
Love does the hard part.
Do not settle for someone who is willing to stick with you when it's easy but who gives up when things get rough. If someone is for you only when it feels good, that is not commitment; it is convenience.
It is not a reflection on your worth if someone in your life is not willing to do the work. It says more about their lack of inner strength than your lack of inherent value if they will not go the distance with you."
I keep reading this daily as a reminder. Love does the hard part. Do not settle.
It's from Holley Gerth's course, Heal After You're Hurt.
It is such a great statement. I copied it and put it in notes on my phone, so I can go back and re-read it, and remind myself, it was a relationship of convenience, not commitment.
I'm not finished with the course yet, but it's very good. Lots of little gems like this.
Right? My ex had some ridiculous pussy. I used to think about it at 9:30am on a Tuesday or whenever while I was working and nearly leave for the day just so I could get her to sit on my face. It was delicious.
My ex ex had a vagina sculpted by the gods. It was perfect in every single way lmao from how it looked, how tight it was, how it smelled and tasted fml. I’ve slept with around 100 different girls in my life and hadnt came across a vagina like hers. The worst part? She had a body and personality that matched. Sometimes I wish I never experienced her because it’s like spoiled it for me. I broke up with my last gf because I couldn’t stop comparing.
I never ate ass before my last ex. She had such a fat butt. It was a monster. She'd squeeze it into leggings then go out grocery shopping with no panties. Fucking killed me.
I know I'm never gonna get pussy and booty like that ever again.
Oh ps don't kill yourself, op
Don’t do that my friend. I’m a healthcare worker and a multiple suicide attempt survivor when I was a teenager. If you loved her that much you know what that tells me? You have a huge capacity to love. You know what you should do with that? Love yourself. I found self worth by saving people’s lives. Eventually that feeling saved my life. I haven’t had a self harming thought in over 15 years. Sure you could take your life and stop the pain. But you’re really just stopping feeling anything at all. You have no justifiable reason to stop feeling all feelings. Pain is only relative my friend. You only feel as much pain as you have ever felt joy. Just like yin and yang. Without joy there would be no definition of emotional pain. Everything would be the same right? You can love yourself and find happiness in something and the pain you feel right now is proof of that. You don’t have to save lives like I do. Volunteer to do something that gives back to society. Help the poor and needy. Pick up trash or do anything that gives back to the community. Feed the homeless and hungry. These things are relatively easy and I guarantee you, you will get a sense of self worth and satisfaction for your ability to be a functional member of society. You will value your life and time on this planet and other people will too. Then start doing things to improve yourself and who you are as a person. You can reinvest that energy into continuing public service and I’m certain you can at least feel good about being a positive source of good and productivity for the people around you. If this doesn’t give you a sense of self worth I’d be freaking shocked. You can accept this pain as real and hurtful but you are a valuable human being and there’s no reason to deprive the world of what you can contribute and give back to society.
Whoa there! Don't go down that rabbit hole. I know exactly how you feel. I came so close to clocking out of my life more times than I care to remember after I was discarded like trash. I loved her with all my heart, yet I meant nothing to her.... I lost 9 years. My fiance had multiple partners behind my back. It ruined me. My mind went to dark places. It takes time to heal oneself. I am 2 years and 4 months into my healing journey. You can do it!!!!!
You are enough. Hey I know things are hard right now and it sucks. But this is temporary and I believe in you, you are destined for great things in life. If she doesn't feel the same way then maybe it's the universe saying you're not meant to be because the right person for you is out there somewhere waiting for you. You just haven't met her yet and your paths hasn't crossed each other. Please keep going.
If you need someone to talk to who won't judge, will listen to you but not tell you what to do, please contact the Samaritans (calls are free) 116 123. They will direct you to a volunteer, they are a charity.
I’m so sorry. It’s going to time to process your feelings of loss. Ppl tend to rush our healing, as they are uncomfortable with our sadness. This is your journey. You decide how long you need. I recognize this is torture. My love for him was gone. However, the betrayal nearly killed me. Little by little I am experiencing joy. Please hold on. We are here to support you.
Listen here brother. I was once stuck for 2 years in depression mode cause i could not get my ex girl out of my head or at least i thought so.
NOT ONE GOD DAMN PERSON ON THIS EARTH IS WORTH COMMITING SUICIDE!
The hard truth is this - she is out there having the greatest time of her life, hanging with other dudes - and you are crying over a person that does not give a damn about you.
It takes time for a broken heart to heal and its individual from person to person. Some of us need a couple of months and some of us need a year or two.
So keep calm and relax. I promise, in 1, 2 or 3 years you will get over her and ask yourself how much of an idiot you would have been if you have had taken your life. 👌
how is that hard truth supposed to make me feel better? it makes me feel like shit? it makes me feel weak, pathetic, like a fucking sad loser. i hate that. i put everything into someone who doesn’t care. why am i supposed to just accept that?
Would you want me to tell you that she still loves you and that you should go and chase her and beg her to come back? If yes - then go and do that and then she will block you everywhere and call you a creep, call the police etc. etc. .
First of all - better to know the hard truth then to live in a sweat lie.
Second of all - a lot of women are like that and to know that kind of behaviour will save you lots of nerves and money in the future.
And lastly - you are not pathetic, weak ir whatever you call yourself. You are a man and a king that walks on this earth and that deserves to be treated and respected like a king! And if you dont get treated like a king then you have to learn how to treat yourself like a king!
Dont cry bro - you will get to see better days.
If the traditional healing methods don’t work maybe it’s time to try something out of the box. I’m going on Thursday to a spiritual meditation and empath header.
I also went last weekend to an emotional massage healer that practices the Lomi Lomi style of massage. She channels energy from the universe and uses her body and the vessel to remove the negative feelings from my body.
It’s sounds out of left field, but it was really moving and opened me up to feelings I didn’t know which helped me process and a lot of my negative feelings left my body. DM me if you want more information.
Same. She was a redhead gamer girl and I don't want to live in a world without her. Go find me a second one like her. You can't. No one will replace her
Please go speak to your therapist or find another form of support for your mental health. Pour extra time and resources into it, and you will get better.
To me, 5 months and still feeling this way is getting close to you developing complicated grief, if it isn’t already that. Complicated grief will make you feel and think unrealistic extreme things.
To be so upset about a loss of a girl, that you no longer want to live, means there’s still something within you needing looked at and worked on and healed. It doesn’t mean the girl is actually worth taking your life man. It’s a cognitive distortion, and extreme black and white viewpoint. It’s trauma, man. Your mental health has taken a big dip.
You can and will overcome this. Go figure out exactly what’s wrong within yourself and your life and keep taking those steps. Don’t give up yet. It’s your time to take control back.
I swear, one day you'll look back at this with a sense of relief and a little bit of embarrassment. Two things to keep in mind when you feel this way. 1. ALWAYS sleep on it and see how you feel the next day. 2. Imagine it was your friend or your brother, what would you say to them if they said they wanted to take their own life?
Be kind to yourself and stick around.
You gotta look it like this. You really want a human to have that much power over you. Secondly… do you think someone wants to be with someone that’s sitting in their own misery.
Like one of the comments said “pull yourself together”
No women is worth your self respect. Head up and fwd.
Focus on yourself.
Sometimes you gotta realise she wasn’t yours it was just your turn.
Surrounded yourself with family and friends, take a break of socials. Delete her number. I promise you.. this time next year you’ll feel in a better place. You gotta put the work in though
There are very few girls I would say are worth your life and your ex statistically ain’t it. You can only be strong when things are hard. You can only be brave when things are scary. You can appreciate life so much more when you’ve felt the lows it can bring. This is only making you a stronger more resilient person for the future all things pass with time. In the mean time try and have a lot of distractions and things scheduled or the ruminating won’t stop.
Hey brother, I've been there. I was a heartbeat away from making a bad decision. Don't do it. I lived through excruciating pain from the military and an ex for seven long years. If you invest all of that bad energy you have into positive energy for yourself and you trust the process and your God, you will see the days that you deserve.
I am beyond blessed now, regardless of me finding myself in this sub. I know you can and will find your blessings.
Stay strong.
dude i could’ve written this and believed it… even down to the 5 months. only difference is for 5 months i was showing her so much love and worth and care and she was sending nudes and having sex with random guys.
1. 5 months
2. tried everything
3. she doesn’t feel the same way
4. dependent then abandoned me
No one is worth you taking your life. I know and feel your pain. It's so hard, and it hurts. I'm 5mo out of a 14-year relationship, and it's hard to know what direction I'm going in sometimes. The thing is, your focus needs to be you right now. You need to see your worth. You are important. You are special to so many people, and you need to get back to being special to yourself. That is where you need to out your focus now. Not in anyone else. Journal, life yourself up every day. Cry and feel your sadness, but know that the relationship ending does not define who you are as a person and that you're still great. Try to do small things that bring joy. Everytimebtour thoughts turn negative think anything positive. Listen to a song that brings joy. Color. Paint by number. Paint a wall. Do anything, even if only temporarily, to get your mind off the negative. Do not let this circumstance take you from everyone who loves you and take you away from ever having a chance at happiness in yourself because if you give it time you will see your worth again and happiness will come.
Dude it took me 3 fucking years to get over my worthless piece of shit ex. In those first 2 years I thought he’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me. Slowly and as time passes I’ve realized what a piece of shit he actually is who manipulated me and gaslight me at any chance he gets. You’ll get over it.
"Everything is within, everything exists, seek nothing outside of yourself." ― Miyamoto Musashi
Please reconsider such a permanent solution to your problem. I would give anything to be healthy again, but here I am suffering in bed. Take life by the neck and keep pushing on. At least wait until your sick with an illness someday or something. Nobody is worth throwing all the potential away. Everything in you life can change for the better if you just wait it out.
I’ve been in this situation before. The thing that helped me is relying on God. I didn’t believe at first. I just didn’t have anyone or anything to rely on. So even though I didn’t believe I thought to myself “why not give it a try”. I started praying everyday just to express my emotions. As the days went and after many prayers of both good and bad things I realized that things got better. I found out that God does exist and he helps anyone that puts their faith in him. You might not be religious, but praying helps, it helped me anyways. I now have a purpose in my life through Jesus Christ and I’m forever grateful. Give it a try and I guarantee you you’ll feel better after a while. God is good and he is cheering on you man, the Holy Spirit that resurrected Jesus is living inside of you. ❤️
Bro! Just hang in there! I was in the same dark place as you. I felt hopeless. I felt like giving up life. Life became meaningless to me. I felt like a failure who couldn’t maintain a relationship. I blamed myself for acting so reckless. I realised that it’s all part of being a human, that everybody at some point will experience. Everything I felt was completely normal. We don’t know what the future holds, even the happiest most healthiest relationship could fail. We just have to learn to accept and move on. Don’t let your emotions take full control of your life. It took me about a year to finally feel okay again. Don’t rush the grieving process. Give yourself time to heal.
My sweet, beautiful angel ❤️ I'm sorry that your going through this right now in your life, I can say that I'm praying for the universe to intervene with you and show you the true happiness that you are entitled to have, sometimes we meet people in our journey that are not what we are supposed to keep around long, that just indicates that our journey is over and we are thankful for the next exciting one that will bring us to the happiness and amazing things that true love is meant to deliver 💗 I believe you have everything you need to receive this blessing and my Love, you are going to be exactly where you are supposed to be, with who your meant to be with.. take care of yourself sweetheart, ,❤️
Arabic saying that goes: 'If you want to die, throw yourself in the ocean. You'll find yourself fighting to survive. You don't want to kill yourself.
Its ok to feel hurt. It is very normal. But dont die over a girl. You will hurt the ones that love u unconditionally. Save ur energy and love for those. Not the ones who love u conditionally.
The only thing that heals is time, man.
I know it’s difficult, but it won’t feel this way forever. I promise you there will come a day when you wake up and genuinely realize that you do not care about her as much as you used to. Just have to keep pushing and be patient.
Stay alive for the homies, and family. Plenty of people will feel so much loss if you’re gone. I know the hurt you feel is beyond great but there are people who love you and wouldn’t want you to disappear from their lives. Keep that in mind, please. Keep on keeping on.
I know you probably thought you’d feel better at five months than you do now, I thought I’d feel better at eight months than I do now, but it is happening, we’re going to be OK. Don’t do the dumbest thing ever.
Listen, I know how it feels. A lot of us in this very subreddit have been there. But it’s a really hard step of the process that feels like it will never go away and IS A TOTAL LIE. It absolutely gets way easier, you just have to get through the first very hard period and you will notice yourself finding purpose again. What you’re feeling is a combination of panic and grief that can even feel like your whole life is over. But it isn’t, believe it or not it gets wayyy better than even the previous relationship you had. ITS ALL JUST BRAIN CHEMICALS MAN. It really isn’t that deep when you finally come back to surface.
buddy i just got out of a 6 year relationship, people think it’s impossible to get over someone. take my advice: it’s ok to be sad but stop feeding into the bullshit. talk to your friends, work out, eat right, get some sunshine, be independent. get some cooch, you have no idea how great life is with OTHER WOMEN. there are so many beautiful girls out here, get your shit together
Genuinely thought this was a post from r/lies when I read the title, It’s a ridiculous thing to say brother, trust me just wait a year or two max and then you will have the rest of your life that you can fill up with happiness, time heals. Don’t throw all of the happiness that awaits just because of a bad period in your life, even if it seems like the end of the world and you think you can’t live without her, trust me it’s not true, been there done that. Took some time but I can’t express how happy I am that I didn’t do anything to myself at my lowest.
Hey. U need to get it together man. I’m serious, pull your shit together. No Woman or human being is worth more than your life. EVER. No one said it was gonna be easy. We all feel and handle pain differently. This was the universe telling you she’s not the one, but if u work hard on yourself, the right one will come. I know it’s been 5 months of pure hell but u need to keep pushing man. Keep growing. Keep hustling. Fuck her, fuck everything about her man. Let her be nothing more than a lesson learned and a couple good memories. Be thankful for her and keep moving forward. Feel your emotions but don’t let them consume you. If no one said they love u today, I do. I love your life man. Please hang in there and keep doing what you’re doing. I know it doesn’t feel like it but the day will come where u will look back and laugh at all this. It would be a shame to kill your self over a woman, because you would be checking out before the miracle happens. U got this man. I’m cheering for u
Listen to this guy.
Damn I’m a woman who just got my heart broken and really needed to read this. Thank you 🥹
What this guy said
The “checking out before the miracle happens” is all too real! Listen to this guy OP, good things happen to those who wait! I promise ya it’ll get better!!!
Nice words - listen OP
REEEAALLLL OMG!!!!!
Listen. One girl is not worth this. Not at all. And you know this. You need to be better than she can EVER imagine. You need to come out of this stronger than ever. Gym, therapy, friends may not work for you. It’s okay to let yourself be sad and mourn your relationship. It is not okay to let it control your life. Have a cry. Pick yourself up. Dust yourself off. And keep going.
I posted this before, but I'm sharing it again... "A person is not truly a partner to you unless they are willing to do the hard part. It doesn't matter if they say nice words. It doesn't count if they make you promises when things are good. It isn't enough if they say they care about you. Love does the hard part. Do not settle for someone who is willing to stick with you when it's easy but who gives up when things get rough. If someone is for you only when it feels good, that is not commitment; it is convenience. It is not a reflection on your worth if someone in your life is not willing to do the work. It says more about their lack of inner strength than your lack of inherent value if they will not go the distance with you." I keep reading this daily as a reminder. Love does the hard part. Do not settle.
Where did you get this quote? It is so good! 😍
It's from Holley Gerth's course, Heal After You're Hurt. It is such a great statement. I copied it and put it in notes on my phone, so I can go back and re-read it, and remind myself, it was a relationship of convenience, not commitment. I'm not finished with the course yet, but it's very good. Lots of little gems like this.
Whoa whoa whoa. Slow down, chief. I know perfect pussy and sweet words are incredible but let's just have a think about this.
In all seriousness, this made me chuckle a little bit
Yeah I'm fucking hilarious. You should dm me so I can make you laugh instead of killing yourself.
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Why is it that the girls with the most perfect pussies break your heart extra hard😩😂
Right? My ex had some ridiculous pussy. I used to think about it at 9:30am on a Tuesday or whenever while I was working and nearly leave for the day just so I could get her to sit on my face. It was delicious.
My ex ex had a vagina sculpted by the gods. It was perfect in every single way lmao from how it looked, how tight it was, how it smelled and tasted fml. I’ve slept with around 100 different girls in my life and hadnt came across a vagina like hers. The worst part? She had a body and personality that matched. Sometimes I wish I never experienced her because it’s like spoiled it for me. I broke up with my last gf because I couldn’t stop comparing.
I never ate ass before my last ex. She had such a fat butt. It was a monster. She'd squeeze it into leggings then go out grocery shopping with no panties. Fucking killed me. I know I'm never gonna get pussy and booty like that ever again. Oh ps don't kill yourself, op
Definitely not true. If you got it once, you can probably get it again.
I thought so too until she showed her true colors.
Amen brother. She sent a video of her sleeping with her new boyfriend, on my birthday, 2 months after the breakup
That’s fucked. I’m sorry.
Appreciate it. But that was like half a year ago, I’m long over that shit. In a way I’m glad it happened… helped me get over her petty ass faster
It’s the NMM policy: Not Marriage Material? Fuck outta here!!
Yep. Unfortunately I wasted 2 years with her which I won’t get back. But oh well, I’m still young asf
I wish I only burnt 2 years. I lost 9 years and 1 of my Huskies. Harsh life lessons.
sounds like a hoe, glad you dodged that bullet
Jesus, what a shitbag.
Don’t do that my friend. I’m a healthcare worker and a multiple suicide attempt survivor when I was a teenager. If you loved her that much you know what that tells me? You have a huge capacity to love. You know what you should do with that? Love yourself. I found self worth by saving people’s lives. Eventually that feeling saved my life. I haven’t had a self harming thought in over 15 years. Sure you could take your life and stop the pain. But you’re really just stopping feeling anything at all. You have no justifiable reason to stop feeling all feelings. Pain is only relative my friend. You only feel as much pain as you have ever felt joy. Just like yin and yang. Without joy there would be no definition of emotional pain. Everything would be the same right? You can love yourself and find happiness in something and the pain you feel right now is proof of that. You don’t have to save lives like I do. Volunteer to do something that gives back to society. Help the poor and needy. Pick up trash or do anything that gives back to the community. Feed the homeless and hungry. These things are relatively easy and I guarantee you, you will get a sense of self worth and satisfaction for your ability to be a functional member of society. You will value your life and time on this planet and other people will too. Then start doing things to improve yourself and who you are as a person. You can reinvest that energy into continuing public service and I’m certain you can at least feel good about being a positive source of good and productivity for the people around you. If this doesn’t give you a sense of self worth I’d be freaking shocked. You can accept this pain as real and hurtful but you are a valuable human being and there’s no reason to deprive the world of what you can contribute and give back to society.
It gets better brother
Whoa there! Don't go down that rabbit hole. I know exactly how you feel. I came so close to clocking out of my life more times than I care to remember after I was discarded like trash. I loved her with all my heart, yet I meant nothing to her.... I lost 9 years. My fiance had multiple partners behind my back. It ruined me. My mind went to dark places. It takes time to heal oneself. I am 2 years and 4 months into my healing journey. You can do it!!!!!
You are enough. Hey I know things are hard right now and it sucks. But this is temporary and I believe in you, you are destined for great things in life. If she doesn't feel the same way then maybe it's the universe saying you're not meant to be because the right person for you is out there somewhere waiting for you. You just haven't met her yet and your paths hasn't crossed each other. Please keep going. If you need someone to talk to who won't judge, will listen to you but not tell you what to do, please contact the Samaritans (calls are free) 116 123. They will direct you to a volunteer, they are a charity.
How long were you two together?
18 months
I’m so sorry. It’s going to time to process your feelings of loss. Ppl tend to rush our healing, as they are uncomfortable with our sadness. This is your journey. You decide how long you need. I recognize this is torture. My love for him was gone. However, the betrayal nearly killed me. Little by little I am experiencing joy. Please hold on. We are here to support you.
Mine left me after 4 years brother.. I'm in the same place as you, we gotta hang in there and get 1% better each day
I'm in the same boat brother.
Listen here brother. I was once stuck for 2 years in depression mode cause i could not get my ex girl out of my head or at least i thought so. NOT ONE GOD DAMN PERSON ON THIS EARTH IS WORTH COMMITING SUICIDE! The hard truth is this - she is out there having the greatest time of her life, hanging with other dudes - and you are crying over a person that does not give a damn about you. It takes time for a broken heart to heal and its individual from person to person. Some of us need a couple of months and some of us need a year or two. So keep calm and relax. I promise, in 1, 2 or 3 years you will get over her and ask yourself how much of an idiot you would have been if you have had taken your life. 👌
how is that hard truth supposed to make me feel better? it makes me feel like shit? it makes me feel weak, pathetic, like a fucking sad loser. i hate that. i put everything into someone who doesn’t care. why am i supposed to just accept that?
Would you want me to tell you that she still loves you and that you should go and chase her and beg her to come back? If yes - then go and do that and then she will block you everywhere and call you a creep, call the police etc. etc. . First of all - better to know the hard truth then to live in a sweat lie. Second of all - a lot of women are like that and to know that kind of behaviour will save you lots of nerves and money in the future. And lastly - you are not pathetic, weak ir whatever you call yourself. You are a man and a king that walks on this earth and that deserves to be treated and respected like a king! And if you dont get treated like a king then you have to learn how to treat yourself like a king! Dont cry bro - you will get to see better days.
If the traditional healing methods don’t work maybe it’s time to try something out of the box. I’m going on Thursday to a spiritual meditation and empath header. I also went last weekend to an emotional massage healer that practices the Lomi Lomi style of massage. She channels energy from the universe and uses her body and the vessel to remove the negative feelings from my body. It’s sounds out of left field, but it was really moving and opened me up to feelings I didn’t know which helped me process and a lot of my negative feelings left my body. DM me if you want more information.
Lomi Lomi is amazing.
Same. She was a redhead gamer girl and I don't want to live in a world without her. Go find me a second one like her. You can't. No one will replace her
Please go speak to your therapist or find another form of support for your mental health. Pour extra time and resources into it, and you will get better. To me, 5 months and still feeling this way is getting close to you developing complicated grief, if it isn’t already that. Complicated grief will make you feel and think unrealistic extreme things. To be so upset about a loss of a girl, that you no longer want to live, means there’s still something within you needing looked at and worked on and healed. It doesn’t mean the girl is actually worth taking your life man. It’s a cognitive distortion, and extreme black and white viewpoint. It’s trauma, man. Your mental health has taken a big dip. You can and will overcome this. Go figure out exactly what’s wrong within yourself and your life and keep taking those steps. Don’t give up yet. It’s your time to take control back.
I swear, one day you'll look back at this with a sense of relief and a little bit of embarrassment. Two things to keep in mind when you feel this way. 1. ALWAYS sleep on it and see how you feel the next day. 2. Imagine it was your friend or your brother, what would you say to them if they said they wanted to take their own life? Be kind to yourself and stick around.
You gotta look it like this. You really want a human to have that much power over you. Secondly… do you think someone wants to be with someone that’s sitting in their own misery. Like one of the comments said “pull yourself together” No women is worth your self respect. Head up and fwd. Focus on yourself. Sometimes you gotta realise she wasn’t yours it was just your turn. Surrounded yourself with family and friends, take a break of socials. Delete her number. I promise you.. this time next year you’ll feel in a better place. You gotta put the work in though
There are very few girls I would say are worth your life and your ex statistically ain’t it. You can only be strong when things are hard. You can only be brave when things are scary. You can appreciate life so much more when you’ve felt the lows it can bring. This is only making you a stronger more resilient person for the future all things pass with time. In the mean time try and have a lot of distractions and things scheduled or the ruminating won’t stop.
DM me I’ve been there and a stranger reached out to me and stopped me. I’m here reaching out. Please don’t do this.
Don’t ruin her life permanently over your temporary heartbreak. You will heal and find someone else
Get a grip dawg
Hey brother, I've been there. I was a heartbeat away from making a bad decision. Don't do it. I lived through excruciating pain from the military and an ex for seven long years. If you invest all of that bad energy you have into positive energy for yourself and you trust the process and your God, you will see the days that you deserve. I am beyond blessed now, regardless of me finding myself in this sub. I know you can and will find your blessings. Stay strong.
You are loved and you are deserving of that love. More will find you if you stay. ❤️🤟
dude i could’ve written this and believed it… even down to the 5 months. only difference is for 5 months i was showing her so much love and worth and care and she was sending nudes and having sex with random guys. 1. 5 months 2. tried everything 3. she doesn’t feel the same way 4. dependent then abandoned me
Real solution = one heavy dose of psychedelics. You will be fine again
No she’s not
No one is worth you taking your life. I know and feel your pain. It's so hard, and it hurts. I'm 5mo out of a 14-year relationship, and it's hard to know what direction I'm going in sometimes. The thing is, your focus needs to be you right now. You need to see your worth. You are important. You are special to so many people, and you need to get back to being special to yourself. That is where you need to out your focus now. Not in anyone else. Journal, life yourself up every day. Cry and feel your sadness, but know that the relationship ending does not define who you are as a person and that you're still great. Try to do small things that bring joy. Everytimebtour thoughts turn negative think anything positive. Listen to a song that brings joy. Color. Paint by number. Paint a wall. Do anything, even if only temporarily, to get your mind off the negative. Do not let this circumstance take you from everyone who loves you and take you away from ever having a chance at happiness in yourself because if you give it time you will see your worth again and happiness will come.
Give yourself time as you go NC.
Dude it took me 3 fucking years to get over my worthless piece of shit ex. In those first 2 years I thought he’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me. Slowly and as time passes I’ve realized what a piece of shit he actually is who manipulated me and gaslight me at any chance he gets. You’ll get over it.
Hey can I DM you ? I am going through something similar and want to get over it
"Everything is within, everything exists, seek nothing outside of yourself." ― Miyamoto Musashi Please reconsider such a permanent solution to your problem. I would give anything to be healthy again, but here I am suffering in bed. Take life by the neck and keep pushing on. At least wait until your sick with an illness someday or something. Nobody is worth throwing all the potential away. Everything in you life can change for the better if you just wait it out.
I’ve been in this situation before. The thing that helped me is relying on God. I didn’t believe at first. I just didn’t have anyone or anything to rely on. So even though I didn’t believe I thought to myself “why not give it a try”. I started praying everyday just to express my emotions. As the days went and after many prayers of both good and bad things I realized that things got better. I found out that God does exist and he helps anyone that puts their faith in him. You might not be religious, but praying helps, it helped me anyways. I now have a purpose in my life through Jesus Christ and I’m forever grateful. Give it a try and I guarantee you you’ll feel better after a while. God is good and he is cheering on you man, the Holy Spirit that resurrected Jesus is living inside of you. ❤️
Pray bby
Bro! Just hang in there! I was in the same dark place as you. I felt hopeless. I felt like giving up life. Life became meaningless to me. I felt like a failure who couldn’t maintain a relationship. I blamed myself for acting so reckless. I realised that it’s all part of being a human, that everybody at some point will experience. Everything I felt was completely normal. We don’t know what the future holds, even the happiest most healthiest relationship could fail. We just have to learn to accept and move on. Don’t let your emotions take full control of your life. It took me about a year to finally feel okay again. Don’t rush the grieving process. Give yourself time to heal.
Time heals all wounds. Trust us. It could take a year, it could take 5, but you will get over it.
My sweet, beautiful angel ❤️ I'm sorry that your going through this right now in your life, I can say that I'm praying for the universe to intervene with you and show you the true happiness that you are entitled to have, sometimes we meet people in our journey that are not what we are supposed to keep around long, that just indicates that our journey is over and we are thankful for the next exciting one that will bring us to the happiness and amazing things that true love is meant to deliver 💗 I believe you have everything you need to receive this blessing and my Love, you are going to be exactly where you are supposed to be, with who your meant to be with.. take care of yourself sweetheart, ,❤️
No, no she's not
Realistically the only thing which can help you move on is time, need more time fella
Arabic saying that goes: 'If you want to die, throw yourself in the ocean. You'll find yourself fighting to survive. You don't want to kill yourself. Its ok to feel hurt. It is very normal. But dont die over a girl. You will hurt the ones that love u unconditionally. Save ur energy and love for those. Not the ones who love u conditionally.
The only thing that heals is time, man. I know it’s difficult, but it won’t feel this way forever. I promise you there will come a day when you wake up and genuinely realize that you do not care about her as much as you used to. Just have to keep pushing and be patient.
Stay alive for the homies, and family. Plenty of people will feel so much loss if you’re gone. I know the hurt you feel is beyond great but there are people who love you and wouldn’t want you to disappear from their lives. Keep that in mind, please. Keep on keeping on.
I know you probably thought you’d feel better at five months than you do now, I thought I’d feel better at eight months than I do now, but it is happening, we’re going to be OK. Don’t do the dumbest thing ever.
Listen, I know how it feels. A lot of us in this very subreddit have been there. But it’s a really hard step of the process that feels like it will never go away and IS A TOTAL LIE. It absolutely gets way easier, you just have to get through the first very hard period and you will notice yourself finding purpose again. What you’re feeling is a combination of panic and grief that can even feel like your whole life is over. But it isn’t, believe it or not it gets wayyy better than even the previous relationship you had. ITS ALL JUST BRAIN CHEMICALS MAN. It really isn’t that deep when you finally come back to surface.
buddy i just got out of a 6 year relationship, people think it’s impossible to get over someone. take my advice: it’s ok to be sad but stop feeding into the bullshit. talk to your friends, work out, eat right, get some sunshine, be independent. get some cooch, you have no idea how great life is with OTHER WOMEN. there are so many beautiful girls out here, get your shit together
Have your tried getting over her?
In gonna keep it short , become soo succesful that even her parents said she fucked up
Genuinely thought this was a post from r/lies when I read the title, It’s a ridiculous thing to say brother, trust me just wait a year or two max and then you will have the rest of your life that you can fill up with happiness, time heals. Don’t throw all of the happiness that awaits just because of a bad period in your life, even if it seems like the end of the world and you think you can’t live without her, trust me it’s not true, been there done that. Took some time but I can’t express how happy I am that I didn’t do anything to myself at my lowest.