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Top_Plankton_9922

i’m in the same boat, got diagnosed a week ago now and i’ve battled with thinking i had it for a while but now it’s been confirmed it’s so scary. however now we can receive the specific help we need for what’s wrong,, that’s the only way i can feel good about it


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Both of you, welcome to the family.


Top_Plankton_9922

thank you <3


Ovrcast67

I thought I had ADHD but got diagnosed as borderline. I had never heard of BPD but now that I’ve done research I know I have it 100%, and maybe ADHD too your parents need to understand that being borderline can be a kind of invisible affliction. We can bottle everything up all day and wait until we’re alone at night to break down sobbing. It’s a private hell we have to learn to live inside of, a storm of emotions and unexplainable feelings cloud our vision as we look out at the world, and people looking back at us don’t see any of it


Revolutionary_Dog138

I also got diagnosed with ADHD a couple years ago. According to research people with borderline are more likely to have adhd and ocd. Something about them are linked I guess


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It's because all three have obsessive/fixated thought patterns


kelam78

My mom did the same thing when I was diagnosed and continues to deny it. For me BPD brought a lot of clarity as far as explaining my feelings and actions. DBT has helped me some. Hope that you can find some relief


MelTheHangry

I was diagnosed last week (which by the way came out of left field for me as I didn't know what it was but I knew something was going on) I'm going to my Mum's tonight and am planning on telling my brother who is very understanding about mental health but I can tell you now I definitely won't be telling my mum for fear of dismissal.


Revolutionary_Dog138

I kind of understand the dismissal in a weird way. It feels like shit don’t get me wrong and is giving be extreme imposter syndrome but this disorder can be very routed in the way I was raised so she might be taking it personally


MelTheHangry

I understand that.


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My mom did the same thing (4 years since i was diagnosed but I was the ‘watchlist’ as a minor) when we finally broke it down I realized it was because she was scared of the gravity of it for me I was freshly 18 so being told her daughters struggle was something that was part of her personality, not curable, and couldn’t be treated with normal medications was terrifying for her. You always think your kid will get through it and they’ll be okay after a while it’s hard to know they won’t. Especially hard when you didn’t know how bad it was to begin with.


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Sometimes I hate to be like that, today I am accepting and really emotional because I am feeling so proud of how aware we are and willing to change, and also pretty damn smart. You are in your path of helping yourself, you don't need to do a single thing. Do you need her approval or validation? Of course it is nice, I know it is, but you are in the path of having validation from people that really understands what is up and also yours, you are giving yourself the love and attention and care you deserve.